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Frequently Asked Questions: Do People Who Commit Suicide Go To Hell?

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November 8, 2016
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Bil Cornelius

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Frequently Asked Questions: Do People Who Commit Suicide Go To Hell?

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  • - Bil Cornelius: You may be
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  • really going through
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  • a miserable season.
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  • But if you take your life,
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  • it's no longer just a season.
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  • Now you've extended it
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  • far beyond the season.
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  • So what I'm trying to do
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  • kinda lovingly, but not
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  • so gently, is kinda slap you
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  • across the face, and say,
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  • "What are you thinking?
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  • This is not gonna last forever.
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  • There is hope for you.
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  • Christ has a purpose for you.
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  • There is goodness in your life.
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  • There is so much to do.
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  • [music]
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  • - Bil: You are the church and
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  • - Bil: Welcome.
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  • Great to have you here today.
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  • Thanks for joining us.
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  • We're starting
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  • a brand new series today called
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  • "Frequently Asked Questions."
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  • I get stopped all the time,
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  • whether I'm in the store,
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  • Wal-Mart, the mall, wherever I'm
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  • at, or even just here at church,
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  • and I'm asked
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  • the same basic questions
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  • again and again.
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  • So I thought, "You know, let's
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  • just put all that together,
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  • and let's just answer
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  • those questions,
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  • since everyone's
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  • kind of asking them.
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  • And so, these are
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  • just a compilation,
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  • over the next few weeks,
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  • of the questions I'm asked
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  • all the time.
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  • I'm asked about marijuana.
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  • The people who ask me that are
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  • always very calm, by the way.
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  • I don't know what's up
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  • with that.
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  • I'm also asked
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  • about homosexuality a lot.
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  • I'm asked about gender issues.
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  • We're gonna deal with both
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  • of those together.
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  • We're also gonna talk
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  • about why do good people suffer?
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  • That's a very common question
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  • people have: why is life
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  • so unfair, you know?
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  • I get asked that question a lot.
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  • And another one I get asked,
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  • that I wanna tackle today,
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  • is probably our toughest issue
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  • we're gonna deal with there
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  • in the whole series.
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  • It's if someone commits suicide,
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  • do they go to hell?
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  • I get asked that question a lot,
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  • believe it or not.
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  • And so, I just--I wanna talk
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  • about that a little bit today,
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  • as well.
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  • Maybe you're a concerned mother
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  • for your child, maybe you've
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  • already lost someone and you're
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  • worried about whether they're
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  • in heaven or not, maybe you're
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  • contemplating suicide yourself,
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  • I don't know, but I wanna talk
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  • about this today.
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  • Talk about, you know,
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  • the question is: do people
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  • So let's talk about this.
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  • Let's, first of all,
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  • unpack what suicide is
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  • a little bit here.
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  • Exodus chapter 20, verse 13.
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  • It says, "You must not murder."
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  • That's a real simple verse
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  • there, "Thou shalt not murder."
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  • It's one of the all conference
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  • big 10 verses, right?
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  • It's in the Ten Commandments
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  • that we should not murder.
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  • But maybe you never thought
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  • about it this way, but suicide
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  • actually is murder.
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  • You're just murdering yourself.
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  • And so--but it actually is
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  • murder, and God is opposed
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  • to murder.
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  • And so, because he values life,
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  • he gave your life, it' s not
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  • your job to snuff out that life.
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  • Genesis chapter 9, verse 6,
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  • says, "If anyone takes
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  • a human life, that person's life
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  • will also be taken
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  • by human hands.
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  • For God made human beings
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  • in his own image."
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  • See, this means, number one,
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  • please write this down, murder
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  • is forbidden in Scripture,
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  • including oneself, because you
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  • are of great value.
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  • You have incredible value,
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  • because you're made in the image
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  • of God.
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  • And so, it is not your right
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  • to take your own life,
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  • because, actually, your life
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  • is not your own life.
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  • It's the life God gave you,
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  • So look at this, "But Abraham
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  • said to him, 'Son, remember
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  • that during your lifetime you
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  • had everything you wanted,
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  • and Lazarus had nothing.
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  • So now he is here being
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  • comforted, and you are
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  • in anguish.'"
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  • So he's talking to someone
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  • who's already dead,
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  • but now they're--but they're
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  • still alive, right?
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  • So their life is over
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  • on this earth, but he's
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  • still talking to him.
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  • In other words, if you were
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  • to commit suicide, now you're
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  • still living with the memory
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  • that you committed suicide.
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  • Does that sound better,
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  • or worse?
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  • See, I think that's
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  • actually worse.
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  • It didn't end anything.
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  • It ended this side of eternity,
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  • but now you're on the other side
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  • of eternity, and, by the way,
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  • God's not happy with you
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  • that you did that.
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  • And so, this is not making it
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  • better.
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  • This is making it worse.
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  • Hebrews 9:27 says,
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  • "And just as each person is
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  • destined to die once
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  • and after that comes judgment."
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  • This is important
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  • to keep in mind.
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  • Number two: if you commit
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  • suicide, you're not
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  • actually ending it all.
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  • You still exist, but now
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  • with the regret
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  • of killing yourself.
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  • That doesn't sound better
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  • to me, guys.
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  • That sounds worse.
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  • So this really is not
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  • the answer.
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  • It is a long-term answer
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  • to a short-term problem.
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  • Now, I'm not trying
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  • to get on you and berate you.
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  • I'm not trying to make you feel
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  • even worse.
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  • You're like, "Wow, I feel bad
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  • I wanna kill myself,
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  • and now you're making me
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  • feel worse, Pastor.
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  • What are you doing?"
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  • No, I'm not trying to do that
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  • at all.
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  • But what I'm trying to tell you
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  • is that people coddling you
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  • hasn't worked, or you'd
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  • already feel better.
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  • So what I'm trying to do
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  • kinda lovingly, but
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  • not so gently, is kinda slap you
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  • across the face, and say,
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  • "What are you thinking?
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  • You've got a great life.
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  • There is so much more to do.
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  • You can get through this.
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  • This is not gonna last forever.
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  • There is hope for you.
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  • Christ has a purpose for you.
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  • There is goodness in your life.
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  • There is so much to do.
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  • God has great things
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  • still for you.
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  • Look at the Scripture.
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  • Revelation chapter 20, it says,
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  • "I saw the dead, both great
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  • and small, standing
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  • before God's throne.
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  • And the books were opened,
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  • including the Book of Life."
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  • If your name is
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  • in the Book of Life,
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  • you go to heaven.
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  • If it's not, you go to hell.
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  • That's how this works.
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  • "And the dead were judged
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  • according to what they had done,
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  • as recorded in the books.
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  • The sea gave up its dead,
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  • and the death and the grave
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  • gave up their dead.
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  • And all were judged
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  • according to their deeds.
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  • Then death and the grave were
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  • thrown into the lake of fire.
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  • This lake of fire is
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  • the second death."
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  • So, it's important to understand
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  • there's multiple books.
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  • There is--the one Book of Life
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  • is the heaven or hell book,
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  • okay?
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  • Then the other books are
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  • the deed books.
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  • Like, whether you were good
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  • or bad, and we're judged
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  • upon the things we've done,
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  • okay?
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  • Now, the good news, if you've
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  • accepted Christ, your name is
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  • in the Book of Life,
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  • and all the bad stuff
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  • in the other books he erased.
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  • That's kinda nice, right?
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  • That's how that works, okay?
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  • And we'll talk about that
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  • in a few moments, as well.
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  • But this is really important.
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  • Look what happens next.
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  • 1 Corinthians 3:13,
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  • "But on the judgment day, fire
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  • will reveal what kind of work
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  • each builder has done.
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  • The fire will show
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  • if a person's work has
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  • any value.
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  • If the work survives,
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  • that builder will receive
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  • a reward.
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  • But if the work is burned up,
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  • the builder will suffer
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  • great loss."
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  • I looked up
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  • the original language there
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  • of great loss, and what it means
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  • is "to forfeit something."
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  • It goes on to say,
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  • "The builder will be saved,
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  • but like someone barely escaping
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  • through a wall of flames."
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  • You know, if you take your life,
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  • there is great loss
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  • not only in the fact
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  • that you died, but there's
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  • also great loss in the fact
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  • that you have forfeited
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  • the opportunity to gain
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  • reward in heaven
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  • for a lot of the good things
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  • you've done.
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  • Did you know that this forfeits
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  • a lot of it?
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  • Yeah, because the moment you
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  • kill yourself, can you do
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  • anything good on this earth
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  • the next day?
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  • No, you're not here.
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  • That's all forfeited.
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  • Does that make sense?
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  • All that potential good that you
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  • could have done is gone,
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  • that you forfeit that.
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  • It goes on to say
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  • in 2 John verse 8,
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  • "Watch out that you do not lose
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  • what you have worked so hard
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  • to achieve.
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  • Be diligent so that you receive
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  • your full reward."
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  • So, apparently, when you take
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  • your own life,
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  • as well as other things, it's
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  • just not this particular sin,
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  • but other sins too,
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  • you can actually forfeit
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  • some of the good you've done.
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  • You realize that?
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  • And so, that's
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  • a pretty big deal.
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  • So you can forfeit good when it
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  • comes to what you've done
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  • for God.
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  • 2 Corinthians 5:10 says,
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  • "For we must all stand
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  • before Christ to be judged.
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  • We will each receive whatever we
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  • deserve for the good or evil we
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  • Number three, please write this
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  • down: you will answer to God
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  • for what you did,
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  • including suicide,
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  • and for wasting your opportunity
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  • to serve God and others.
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  • You're forfeiting what you were
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  • meant to do.
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  • You're throwing that out.
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  • We're gonna stand before God
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  • for the things we've done.
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  • And I think God one day is gonna
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  • say, "So I gave you this life.
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  • What did you do with it, right?"
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  • We're first gonna be asked if we
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  • received Christ.
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  • Then what did you do
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  • for Christ, right?
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  • But if you say,
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  • "Well, I received Christ."
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  • Well, congratulations.
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  • That's good.
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  • "But then I took my life."
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  • Well, God's gonna look at you
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  • at that point, you know,
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  • I don't know exactly what he's
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  • gonna say.
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  • I'm not in the mind of God.
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  • But I do know based
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  • upon his Word, he's gonna say,
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  • "Well, I had such a purpose
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  • for your life.
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  • You weren't here to do it.
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  • I had all this good stuff
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  • I wanted you to do,
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  • and you just pooh-poohed
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  • the whole thing.
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  • You just shot it down.
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  • You just decided on your own
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  • that somehow you are now
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  • It's just not the way God
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  • wants it to be.
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  • Now, I do have
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  • some good news today.
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  • It says
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  • in Revelation 20, verse 15,
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  • "And anyone whose name
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  • was not found recorded
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  • in the Book of Life was thrown
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  • into the lake of fire."
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  • The opposite of that is
  • 00:08:01.240 --> 00:08:02.170
  • also true.
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  • Anyone's name that was found
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  • in the Book of Life gets to go
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  • to heaven.
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  • And the way you get your name
  • 00:08:05.220 --> 00:08:06.180
  • in the Book of Life is based
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  • upon asking Jesus Christ to be
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  • your Lord and Savior.
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  • So here's the good news,
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  • number four, is that
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  • your eternal destination is not
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  • based upon whether you commit
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  • suicide, but whether you
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  • received Christ.
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  • So if you have a friend
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  • or a family member
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  • that was a Christian,
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  • that then took their life,
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  • I've got some good news
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  • for you.
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  • They will be in heaven, okay?
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  • That's good news, isn't it?
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  • So it's not based
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  • upon whether they committed
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  • suicide.
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  • They will be in heaven, okay?
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  • Now, the opposite is
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  • also true though.
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  • The bad news
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  • of that same coin turned over
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  • is this: if someone has not
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  • accepted Christ and they commit
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  • suicide, they will be in hell.
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  • But not because they committed
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  • suicide, but because they
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  • just happened to have died,
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  • no matter their demise,
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  • no matter how they died.
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  • Anyone who dies without Jesus
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  • does not go to heaven.
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  • Now you know why our mission is
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  • to do what?
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  • To take as many people to heaven
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  • as we can before we die, period.
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  • Why?
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  • Because we know anyone
  • 00:09:00.120 --> 00:09:02.030
  • who doesn't have Jesus doesn't
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  • get to go.
  • 00:09:02.250 --> 00:09:04.260
  • And so, this is why suicide is
  • 00:09:04.260 --> 00:09:05.190
  • such a serious matter.
  • 00:09:05.190 --> 00:09:07.020
  • It's not just life and death
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  • on this side of eternity.
  • 00:09:07.290 --> 00:09:09.040
  • It's life and death
  • 00:09:09.040 --> 00:09:09.270
  • for eternity.
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  • Does that make sense?
  • 00:09:12.040 --> 00:09:13.130
  • But understand this, suicide,
  • 00:09:13.130 --> 00:09:15.240
  • the price to pay for suicide
  • 00:09:15.240 --> 00:09:18.090
  • is not hell.
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  • It's standing before God
  • 00:09:20.090 --> 00:09:21.040
  • on judgment, though, when he
  • 00:09:21.040 --> 00:09:22.070
  • says, "Why did you do this?
  • 00:09:22.070 --> 00:09:23.260
  • I am not happy with this
  • 00:09:23.260 --> 00:09:24.210
  • at all."
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  • And, again, you still have
  • 00:09:25.240 --> 00:09:27.060
  • the grace of Jesus to cover you,
  • 00:09:27.060 --> 00:09:28.290
  • so you can still go to heaven
  • 00:09:28.290 --> 00:09:30.130
  • if you've received Christ.
  • 00:09:30.130 --> 00:09:31.230
  • But God's not happy with that,
  • 00:09:31.230 --> 00:09:32.260
  • either.
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  • Now, I wanna shift gears
  • 00:09:34.050 --> 00:09:36.100
  • and talk about the issue,
  • 00:09:36.100 --> 00:09:38.040
  • if we can--we've been talking
  • 00:09:38.040 --> 00:09:39.240
  • about it from sort of, like,
  • 00:09:39.240 --> 00:09:40.280
  • a theological perspective,
  • 00:09:40.280 --> 00:09:42.000
  • what the Bible says about it.
  • 00:09:42.000 --> 00:09:42.240
  • But now let's get personal,
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  • because the reason this comes up
  • 00:09:43.270 --> 00:09:44.230
  • is because there are many of you
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  • who have, at some point
  • 00:09:45.260 --> 00:09:47.130
  • in your life, contemplated this,
  • 00:09:47.130 --> 00:09:50.030
  • and maybe today you're
  • 00:09:50.030 --> 00:09:51.050
  • one of those people
  • 00:09:51.050 --> 00:09:51.210
  • contemplating it right now.
  • 00:09:51.210 --> 00:09:52.180
  • You know, just on a whim,
  • 00:09:52.180 --> 00:09:54.140
  • I just kinda felt led by God
  • 00:09:54.140 --> 00:09:55.110
  • to text a pastor friend of mine
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  • that's very, very busy,
  • 00:09:57.200 --> 00:09:58.250
  • and--but I just felt led.
  • 00:09:58.250 --> 00:10:00.260
  • I thought, "Maybe he would send
  • 00:10:00.260 --> 00:10:03.020
  • us a video,
  • 00:10:03.020 --> 00:10:03.270
  • just an encouraging word
  • 00:10:03.270 --> 00:10:05.160
  • for those who are
  • 00:10:05.160 --> 00:10:06.110
  • contemplating suicide,
  • 00:10:06.110 --> 00:10:07.080
  • or dealing with suicide,
  • 00:10:07.080 --> 00:10:08.120
  • or the consequences of it,
  • 00:10:08.120 --> 00:10:09.170
  • maybe through a family member
  • 00:10:09.170 --> 00:10:10.160
  • or something."
  • 00:10:10.160 --> 00:10:11.060
  • Because this pastor has had
  • 00:10:11.060 --> 00:10:12.110
  • a very personal experience
  • 00:10:12.110 --> 00:10:13.180
  • with suicide.
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  • He's a very famous guy,
  • 00:10:14.120 --> 00:10:15.180
  • and so I didn't know if he had
  • 00:10:15.180 --> 00:10:17.220
  • the time or not.
  • 00:10:17.220 --> 00:10:18.070
  • I was pleasantly surprised
  • 00:10:18.070 --> 00:10:19.080
  • to get a text back.
  • 00:10:19.080 --> 00:10:20.060
  • He said, "Pastor Bil, I would be
  • 00:10:20.060 --> 00:10:21.030
  • honored to share a video
  • 00:10:21.030 --> 00:10:22.150
  • with your church."
  • 00:10:22.150 --> 00:10:23.130
  • It's a phenomenal video
  • 00:10:23.130 --> 00:10:25.120
  • just that encourages you
  • 00:10:25.120 --> 00:10:26.090
  • and helps you understand
  • 00:10:26.090 --> 00:10:27.100
  • his personal heart
  • 00:10:27.100 --> 00:10:28.270
  • towards suicide,
  • 00:10:28.270 --> 00:10:29.280
  • and what the Bible says
  • 00:10:29.280 --> 00:10:30.210
  • about it.
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  • So please watch this video
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  • - Rick Warren: Hi, I'm
  • 00:10:37.040 --> 00:10:37.190
  • Pastor Rick, the author
  • 00:10:37.190 --> 00:10:39.070
  • of "The Purpose Driven Life."
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  • And if you've ever felt
  • 00:10:40.250 --> 00:10:41.240
  • like giving up on life,
  • 00:10:41.240 --> 00:10:43.160
  • I'd like to talk to you
  • 00:10:43.160 --> 00:10:44.100
  • for just a minute.
  • 00:10:44.100 --> 00:10:45.190
  • You know, a lot of studies
  • 00:10:45.190 --> 00:10:46.140
  • have shown that almost everybody
  • 00:10:46.140 --> 00:10:47.220
  • has felt suicidal
  • 00:10:47.220 --> 00:10:48.200
  • at some low point in their life.
  • 00:10:48.200 --> 00:10:50.240
  • You may be feeling that way
  • 00:10:50.240 --> 00:10:53.050
  • right now, or you may know
  • 00:10:53.050 --> 00:10:54.190
  • a friend, or a family member,
  • 00:10:54.190 --> 00:10:56.020
  • or a co-worker who feels
  • 00:10:56.020 --> 00:10:57.250
  • that way, and you don't know
  • 00:10:57.250 --> 00:10:59.000
  • what to do about it.
  • 00:10:59.000 --> 00:11:01.220
  • Just over 2 years ago,
  • 00:11:01.220 --> 00:11:02.250
  • my youngest son Matthew,
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  • who struggled
  • 00:11:03.230 --> 00:11:05.020
  • with mental illness
  • 00:11:05.020 --> 00:11:05.180
  • his entire life since birth,
  • 00:11:05.180 --> 00:11:07.010
  • took his own life.
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  • It was the worst day of my life,
  • 00:11:09.090 --> 00:11:12.090
  • and I still grieve every day
  • 00:11:12.090 --> 00:11:13.210
  • about the permanency
  • 00:11:13.210 --> 00:11:14.290
  • of his decision to take
  • 00:11:14.290 --> 00:11:16.260
  • his life.
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  • Now, let me talk, first,
  • 00:11:18.140 --> 00:11:19.200
  • to those of you who may be
  • 00:11:19.200 --> 00:11:20.230
  • considering suicide.
  • 00:11:20.230 --> 00:11:22.250
  • Here are some things
  • 00:11:22.250 --> 00:11:23.240
  • that you really need
  • 00:11:23.240 --> 00:11:24.210
  • to consider.
  • 00:11:24.210 --> 00:11:26.030
  • First, suicide is a permanent,
  • 00:11:26.030 --> 00:11:29.030
  • irreversible attempt to solve
  • 00:11:29.030 --> 00:11:31.210
  • a temporary problem.
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  • It is not a wise solution.
  • 00:11:34.020 --> 00:11:36.210
  • You know, the truth is
  • 00:11:36.210 --> 00:11:37.140
  • most people don't really want
  • 00:11:37.140 --> 00:11:38.270
  • to end their lives,
  • 00:11:38.270 --> 00:11:40.100
  • they just want to end the pain,
  • 00:11:40.100 --> 00:11:43.040
  • and there's a big difference
  • 00:11:43.040 --> 00:11:44.110
  • between those two.
  • 00:11:44.110 --> 00:11:46.010
  • You don't have to die to end
  • 00:11:46.010 --> 00:11:48.170
  • your pain.
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  • Now, I understand it when you
  • 00:11:50.120 --> 00:11:51.260
  • feel totally overwhelmed
  • 00:11:51.260 --> 00:11:53.250
  • by your pain and your problems,
  • 00:11:53.250 --> 00:11:55.110
  • or by situations that you can't
  • 00:11:55.110 --> 00:11:57.010
  • see any way out of, that ending
  • 00:11:57.010 --> 00:11:59.240
  • your life might appear to be
  • 00:11:59.240 --> 00:12:01.210
  • the best solution.
  • 00:12:01.220 --> 00:12:04.220
  • But it is not.
  • 00:12:04.220 --> 00:12:07.190
  • It's like using a nuclear bomb
  • 00:12:07.190 --> 00:12:09.040
  • to wipe out a nest
  • 00:12:09.040 --> 00:12:09.260
  • of mosquitoes.
  • 00:12:09.260 --> 00:12:12.060
  • It's irreversible,
  • 00:12:12.060 --> 00:12:13.160
  • and it will do far more damage
  • 00:12:13.160 --> 00:12:14.290
  • than you possibly realize,
  • 00:12:14.290 --> 00:12:16.150
  • and will affect
  • 00:12:16.150 --> 00:12:17.100
  • many, many other people
  • 00:12:17.100 --> 00:12:18.260
  • besides yourself.
  • 00:12:18.260 --> 00:12:20.150
  • There are a lot better ways
  • 00:12:20.150 --> 00:12:21.250
  • to make the pain stop.
  • 00:12:22.050 --> 00:12:25.050
  • Now, let me give you
  • 00:12:25.050 --> 00:12:26.030
  • some simple first steps
  • 00:12:26.030 --> 00:12:27.230
  • if you're being tempted to take
  • 00:12:27.230 --> 00:12:29.110
  • your life.
  • 00:12:29.110 --> 00:12:31.060
  • First, I want you to write down
  • 00:12:31.060 --> 00:12:32.270
  • this phone number:
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  • 1-800-273-TALK.
  • 00:12:35.150 --> 00:12:38.150
  • That's 1-800-273-TALK.
  • 00:12:40.180 --> 00:12:43.180
  • That's the national number,
  • 00:12:43.180 --> 00:12:45.210
  • the lifeline,
  • 00:12:45.210 --> 00:12:47.080
  • for suicide prevention.
  • 00:12:47.080 --> 00:12:48.280
  • It's the national lifeline
  • 00:12:48.280 --> 00:12:50.190
  • for suicide prevention.
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  • Let me give it to you again:
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  • 1-800-273-TALK.
  • 00:12:53.100 --> 00:12:56.100
  • Now, it's open 24/7, and there
  • 00:12:56.100 --> 00:12:58.190
  • are people there who understand
  • 00:12:58.190 --> 00:12:59.270
  • what you're feeling.
  • 00:12:59.270 --> 00:13:01.210
  • They can help you walk
  • 00:13:01.210 --> 00:13:02.190
  • through this deep valley
  • 00:13:02.190 --> 00:13:03.210
  • that you're going through
  • 00:13:03.210 --> 00:13:04.170
  • right now.
  • 00:13:04.170 --> 00:13:05.250
  • And if you're feeling suicidal,
  • 00:13:05.250 --> 00:13:07.120
  • I want you to call this number
  • 00:13:07.120 --> 00:13:08.200
  • as soon as you finish watching
  • 00:13:08.200 --> 00:13:10.220
  • this video: 1-800-273-TALK.
  • 00:13:13.170 --> 00:13:16.170
  • Second thing: you need
  • 00:13:16.170 --> 00:13:18.170
  • to realize that no emotion,
  • 00:13:18.170 --> 00:13:21.130
  • whether good or bad,
  • 00:13:21.130 --> 00:13:22.180
  • high or low, happy or sad,
  • 00:13:22.180 --> 00:13:24.140
  • no emotion can last forever.
  • 00:13:24.140 --> 00:13:27.140
  • Emotions are like waves.
  • 00:13:27.140 --> 00:13:29.150
  • They come in our lives and they
  • 00:13:29.150 --> 00:13:31.020
  • crash, but then they dissipate,
  • 00:13:31.020 --> 00:13:32.260
  • and they go away.
  • 00:13:32.260 --> 00:13:33.190
  • No emotion lasts forever.
  • 00:13:33.190 --> 00:13:35.160
  • No matter what you're feeling
  • 00:13:35.160 --> 00:13:36.270
  • right now, you're not gonna
  • 00:13:36.270 --> 00:13:38.080
  • feel it in an hour.
  • 00:13:38.080 --> 00:13:40.170
  • And while the depression
  • 00:13:40.170 --> 00:13:41.160
  • that you're feeling right now
  • 00:13:41.160 --> 00:13:42.200
  • is intense, it cannot, I repeat,
  • 00:13:42.200 --> 00:13:44.250
  • it cannot last forever.
  • 00:13:46.060 --> 00:13:49.060
  • It's a wave that will go away,
  • 00:13:49.060 --> 00:13:50.280
  • because no emotion lasts.
  • 00:13:50.280 --> 00:13:53.180
  • So you don't wanna make
  • 00:13:53.180 --> 00:13:54.250
  • a permanent choice based
  • 00:13:54.250 --> 00:13:57.090
  • on a temporary feeling.
  • 00:13:57.090 --> 00:13:59.170
  • Never make a major decision
  • 00:13:59.170 --> 00:14:01.240
  • when you're depressed.
  • 00:14:01.240 --> 00:14:03.140
  • Instead, share what you're
  • 00:14:03.140 --> 00:14:05.030
  • feeling with another person,
  • 00:14:05.030 --> 00:14:07.080
  • so they can bear that pain
  • 00:14:07.080 --> 00:14:08.230
  • with you.
  • 00:14:08.230 --> 00:14:09.140
  • The Bible talks about this.
  • 00:14:09.140 --> 00:14:10.220
  • In fact, the Bible commands us
  • 00:14:10.220 --> 00:14:11.230
  • to bear one another's burdens.
  • 00:14:11.230 --> 00:14:14.090
  • I'm supposed to help you,
  • 00:14:14.090 --> 00:14:15.160
  • and you're supposed to help me
  • 00:14:15.160 --> 00:14:16.150
  • when we're down.
  • 00:14:16.150 --> 00:14:17.250
  • And there are people who would
  • 00:14:17.250 --> 00:14:18.150
  • gladly do this, if you'll
  • 00:14:18.150 --> 00:14:20.220
  • just be open and honest
  • 00:14:20.220 --> 00:14:21.220
  • and share how you're feeling.
  • 00:14:21.220 --> 00:14:24.070
  • Don't carry it alone.
  • 00:14:24.070 --> 00:14:25.160
  • Number three: when you're
  • 00:14:25.160 --> 00:14:27.070
  • feeling depressed, you need
  • 00:14:27.070 --> 00:14:28.270
  • to realize you're not
  • 00:14:28.270 --> 00:14:30.010
  • thinking straight.
  • 00:14:30.010 --> 00:14:31.210
  • You can't think logically
  • 00:14:31.210 --> 00:14:33.130
  • when you're depressed.
  • 00:14:33.130 --> 00:14:34.210
  • Your mind gets confused.
  • 00:14:34.210 --> 00:14:37.030
  • For instance, right now you
  • 00:14:37.030 --> 00:14:38.190
  • might feel that the world,
  • 00:14:38.190 --> 00:14:41.050
  • or your family, or your work
  • 00:14:41.050 --> 00:14:43.200
  • would be far better off
  • 00:14:43.200 --> 00:14:44.260
  • without you.
  • 00:14:44.260 --> 00:14:45.180
  • "Oh, they'd just be better off
  • 00:14:45.180 --> 00:14:46.120
  • without me."
  • 00:14:46.120 --> 00:14:47.010
  • Well, I'm here to tell you
  • 00:14:47.010 --> 00:14:48.260
  • you're dead wrong.
  • 00:14:48.260 --> 00:14:49.250
  • It's just plain wrong.
  • 00:14:50.000 --> 00:14:53.000
  • You are loved by God,
  • 00:14:53.000 --> 00:14:55.000
  • and you are needed
  • 00:14:55.000 --> 00:14:55.280
  • in this world, and he created
  • 00:14:55.280 --> 00:14:57.110
  • you and made you
  • 00:14:57.110 --> 00:14:58.110
  • for a purpose.
  • 00:14:58.110 --> 00:15:00.040
  • And that leads me
  • 00:15:00.040 --> 00:15:00.270
  • to the fourth thing: God
  • 00:15:00.270 --> 00:15:02.070
  • never meant for you to handle
  • 00:15:02.070 --> 00:15:03.240
  • all the problems
  • 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:05.020
  • and all the pain of your life
  • 00:15:05.020 --> 00:15:06.230
  • on your own.
  • 00:15:06.230 --> 00:15:08.080
  • We are wired for relationships.
  • 00:15:08.080 --> 00:15:11.080
  • We are better together.
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  • The very first thing God said
  • 00:15:13.140 --> 00:15:14.140
  • in the Bible, "It's not good
  • 00:15:14.140 --> 00:15:15.190
  • for man to be alone."
  • 00:15:15.190 --> 00:15:16.290
  • We're meant to help each other
  • 00:15:16.290 --> 00:15:17.290
  • out, and share our emotions
  • 00:15:17.290 --> 00:15:19.070
  • with each other.
  • 00:15:19.070 --> 00:15:21.080
  • You know, when you share a joy,
  • 00:15:21.080 --> 00:15:23.030
  • that joy is doubled.
  • 00:15:23.030 --> 00:15:25.060
  • And when you share a hurt
  • 00:15:25.060 --> 00:15:27.010
  • or a pain, that pain is cut
  • 00:15:27.010 --> 00:15:28.120
  • in half.
  • 00:15:28.120 --> 00:15:30.040
  • You need to find one person
  • 00:15:30.040 --> 00:15:32.110
  • that you can trust,
  • 00:15:32.110 --> 00:15:34.100
  • and you need to tell them
  • 00:15:34.100 --> 00:15:35.110
  • exactly how you're feeling.
  • 00:15:35.110 --> 00:15:38.070
  • As I mentioned earlier,
  • 00:15:38.070 --> 00:15:39.100
  • depression often comes in waves.
  • 00:15:39.100 --> 00:15:40.280
  • And while this wave will
  • 00:15:40.280 --> 00:15:42.020
  • eventually subside, you're not
  • 00:15:42.020 --> 00:15:43.210
  • gonna feel the way you're
  • 00:15:43.210 --> 00:15:44.210
  • feeling right now.
  • 00:15:44.210 --> 00:15:46.130
  • It is likely
  • 00:15:46.130 --> 00:15:47.000
  • that another one will come
  • 00:15:47.000 --> 00:15:48.090
  • again.
  • 00:15:48.090 --> 00:15:48.280
  • Waves come in again, and that's
  • 00:15:48.280 --> 00:15:50.270
  • why you need a safety net
  • 00:15:50.270 --> 00:15:52.230
  • when the waves come.
  • 00:15:52.230 --> 00:15:53.290
  • We call that a small group,
  • 00:15:53.290 --> 00:15:55.180
  • or somebody that you can
  • 00:15:55.180 --> 00:15:57.080
  • call on and talk to.
  • 00:15:57.080 --> 00:15:58.200
  • Never try to face
  • 00:15:58.200 --> 00:16:00.030
  • suicidal feelings by yourself.
  • 00:16:00.030 --> 00:16:02.150
  • You're not meant to handle them
  • 00:16:02.150 --> 00:16:04.120
  • alone.
  • 00:16:04.120 --> 00:16:05.250
  • Again, the feelings will
  • 00:16:05.250 --> 00:16:07.020
  • subside, but it's very important
  • 00:16:07.020 --> 00:16:09.260
  • that you first remove anything
  • 00:16:10.040 --> 00:16:13.040
  • around you that would make it
  • 00:16:13.040 --> 00:16:14.120
  • easy for you to take your life
  • 00:16:14.120 --> 00:16:15.240
  • impulsively, because people make
  • 00:16:15.240 --> 00:16:18.110
  • decisions impulsively that have
  • 00:16:18.110 --> 00:16:20.050
  • eternal consequences.
  • 00:16:20.050 --> 00:16:22.060
  • Remove anything that would
  • 00:16:22.060 --> 00:16:23.120
  • make it easy for you to take
  • 00:16:23.120 --> 00:16:24.170
  • your life.
  • 00:16:24.170 --> 00:16:25.180
  • Now, let me say a word
  • 00:16:25.180 --> 00:16:26.150
  • to those of you who may have
  • 00:16:26.150 --> 00:16:28.100
  • a friend, or a co-worker,
  • 00:16:28.100 --> 00:16:30.080
  • or a family member,
  • 00:16:30.080 --> 00:16:31.110
  • or a loved one, who's struggling
  • 00:16:31.110 --> 00:16:32.280
  • with suicidal thoughts.
  • 00:16:32.280 --> 00:16:35.030
  • Let me give you
  • 00:16:35.030 --> 00:16:35.220
  • some suggestions.
  • 00:16:35.220 --> 00:16:37.110
  • First, if somebody around you
  • 00:16:37.110 --> 00:16:40.070
  • talks about wanting to die,
  • 00:16:40.070 --> 00:16:42.240
  • or, more specifically,
  • 00:16:42.240 --> 00:16:43.240
  • wanting to take their own life,
  • 00:16:43.240 --> 00:16:45.190
  • take this very seriously.
  • 00:16:46.090 --> 00:16:49.090
  • Do not treat it as a joke.
  • 00:16:49.090 --> 00:16:51.110
  • Do not brush it off
  • 00:16:51.110 --> 00:16:52.130
  • as an exaggeration,
  • 00:16:52.130 --> 00:16:54.090
  • or as a bid for attention,
  • 00:16:54.090 --> 00:16:56.140
  • or call them a drama queen.
  • 00:16:56.140 --> 00:16:57.270
  • Better safe than sorry.
  • 00:16:57.270 --> 00:16:59.270
  • Take it always seriously.
  • 00:16:59.270 --> 00:17:02.290
  • Second, if you notice changes
  • 00:17:02.290 --> 00:17:05.040
  • in the behavior of somebody
  • 00:17:05.040 --> 00:17:07.010
  • that you care about,
  • 00:17:07.010 --> 00:17:08.060
  • maybe they're just a little more
  • 00:17:08.060 --> 00:17:10.030
  • moody than usual,
  • 00:17:10.030 --> 00:17:12.160
  • or they don't laugh
  • 00:17:12.160 --> 00:17:13.170
  • as much as they used to,
  • 00:17:13.170 --> 00:17:14.210
  • or they're more subdued
  • 00:17:14.210 --> 00:17:15.180
  • and more serious,
  • 00:17:15.180 --> 00:17:16.180
  • or you just think
  • 00:17:16.180 --> 00:17:17.240
  • something's not right,
  • 00:17:17.280 --> 00:17:20.280
  • you're probably right.
  • 00:17:20.280 --> 00:17:22.190
  • Something probably isn't right.
  • 00:17:22.190 --> 00:17:24.030
  • You need to take the initiative
  • 00:17:24.030 --> 00:17:25.270
  • to ask them--care enough, love
  • 00:17:25.270 --> 00:17:27.270
  • them enough, to ask them what's
  • 00:17:27.270 --> 00:17:29.090
  • going on.
  • 00:17:29.090 --> 00:17:30.020
  • Don't be afraid to approach them
  • 00:17:30.020 --> 00:17:32.000
  • and ask them if you can help
  • 00:17:32.000 --> 00:17:33.200
  • them with the way they're
  • 00:17:33.200 --> 00:17:35.220
  • feeling.
  • 00:17:35.220 --> 00:17:37.030
  • In this epidemic, we've gotta
  • 00:17:37.030 --> 00:17:38.270
  • remove the stigma of depression
  • 00:17:38.270 --> 00:17:41.050
  • and other mental health issues.
  • 00:17:41.050 --> 00:17:42.190
  • It's not a sin to be sick.
  • 00:17:42.190 --> 00:17:45.070
  • Your illness is not
  • 00:17:45.070 --> 00:17:46.070
  • your identity.
  • 00:17:46.070 --> 00:17:47.110
  • And, by the way,
  • 00:17:47.110 --> 00:17:48.040
  • the Bible says there's
  • 00:17:48.040 --> 00:17:49.020
  • only one unforgivable sin,
  • 00:17:49.020 --> 00:17:50.130
  • and it isn't suicide.
  • 00:17:50.130 --> 00:17:52.130
  • It's rejecting the grace
  • 00:17:52.130 --> 00:17:54.030
  • that God has given to us
  • 00:17:54.030 --> 00:17:55.080
  • through Jesus Christ.
  • 00:17:55.080 --> 00:17:56.020
  • That is
  • 00:17:56.020 --> 00:17:56.230
  • the only unforgivable sin.
  • 00:17:56.230 --> 00:17:58.270
  • - Bil: Wow.
  • 00:18:01.210 --> 00:18:02.260
  • Great, ain't it?
  • 00:18:04.070 --> 00:18:07.070
  • You know, a church this size,
  • 00:18:07.070 --> 00:18:08.080
  • we know we have people
  • 00:18:08.080 --> 00:18:09.030
  • who struggle with mental health.
  • 00:18:09.030 --> 00:18:10.020
  • In fact,
  • 00:18:10.020 --> 00:18:10.170
  • actually, the percentages are
  • 00:18:10.170 --> 00:18:11.140
  • very high in all congregations,
  • 00:18:11.140 --> 00:18:13.280
  • and just because in all people
  • 00:18:13.280 --> 00:18:15.240
  • it's a very common issue.
  • 00:18:15.240 --> 00:18:17.100
  • And so, I wanna,
  • 00:18:17.100 --> 00:18:17.270
  • sort of, take away the stigma
  • 00:18:17.270 --> 00:18:19.270
  • you may feel if you have
  • 00:18:19.270 --> 00:18:21.100
  • some mental health issues.
  • 00:18:21.100 --> 00:18:22.170
  • There's nothing wrong with you.
  • 00:18:22.170 --> 00:18:24.270
  • Every one of us have issues.
  • 00:18:24.270 --> 00:18:26.230
  • We are all human.
  • 00:18:26.230 --> 00:18:27.280
  • So, real quickly let me give you
  • 00:18:27.280 --> 00:18:29.060
  • four--what to do if you have
  • 00:18:29.060 --> 00:18:31.150
  • thoughts of killing yourself.
  • 00:18:31.150 --> 00:18:32.220
  • Four simple principles,
  • 00:18:32.220 --> 00:18:34.030
  • then we're gonna wrap it up
  • 00:18:34.030 --> 00:18:34.230
  • real quick.
  • 00:18:34.230 --> 00:18:35.090
  • The first thing is this.
  • 00:18:35.090 --> 00:18:36.050
  • We're talking about Elijah now.
  • 00:18:36.050 --> 00:18:37.220
  • Elijah, by the way, is
  • 00:18:37.220 --> 00:18:38.220
  • a prophet of God that loved
  • 00:18:38.220 --> 00:18:40.140
  • the Lord.
  • 00:18:40.140 --> 00:18:40.290
  • God used him powerfully,
  • 00:18:40.290 --> 00:18:41.250
  • but yet, he also had
  • 00:18:41.250 --> 00:18:42.140
  • suicidal thoughts.
  • 00:18:42.140 --> 00:18:43.150
  • So, apparently, you can be
  • 00:18:43.150 --> 00:18:44.120
  • a strong Christian
  • 00:18:44.120 --> 00:18:45.170
  • and still have thoughts
  • 00:18:45.170 --> 00:18:46.200
  • of suicide.
  • 00:18:46.200 --> 00:18:47.140
  • So please don't think,
  • 00:18:47.140 --> 00:18:47.290
  • like, "Oh, this is
  • 00:18:47.290 --> 00:18:48.170
  • for the weak-minded and those
  • 00:18:48.170 --> 00:18:49.200
  • who are just horrible."
  • 00:18:49.200 --> 00:18:50.180
  • That's just not true.
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:52.020
  • And so, Elijah was
  • 00:18:52.020 --> 00:18:52.280
  • a great man of God,
  • 00:18:52.280 --> 00:18:53.210
  • yet, he became suicidal.
  • 00:18:53.210 --> 00:18:55.070
  • So the first thing I want you
  • 00:18:55.070 --> 00:18:56.050
  • to write down is this,
  • 00:18:56.050 --> 00:18:56.270
  • number one: do not be alone,
  • 00:18:56.270 --> 00:18:58.270
  • but rather immediately get help.
  • 00:18:58.270 --> 00:19:01.100
  • Do not be alone.
  • 00:19:01.100 --> 00:19:02.120
  • Don't try to do this alone.
  • 00:19:02.120 --> 00:19:03.210
  • God doesn't want it that way
  • 00:19:03.210 --> 00:19:04.260
  • for you.
  • 00:19:04.260 --> 00:19:05.110
  • 1 Kings 19, verse 4, says,
  • 00:19:05.110 --> 00:19:06.270
  • "Then he went on alone
  • 00:19:06.270 --> 00:19:08.150
  • into the wilderness,
  • 00:19:08.150 --> 00:19:09.090
  • traveling all day.
  • 00:19:09.090 --> 00:19:10.130
  • He sat down
  • 00:19:10.130 --> 00:19:11.090
  • under a solitary broom tree
  • 00:19:11.090 --> 00:19:12.160
  • and prayed that he might die.
  • 00:19:12.160 --> 00:19:14.080
  • 'I have had enough, Lord,'
  • 00:19:14.080 --> 00:19:15.240
  • he said."
  • 00:19:15.240 --> 00:19:16.200
  • And so, he literally prayed,
  • 00:19:16.200 --> 00:19:18.130
  • "God, I just wanna die.
  • 00:19:18.130 --> 00:19:20.140
  • Just take my life, God," right?
  • 00:19:20.140 --> 00:19:22.090
  • And so, also, notice that he
  • 00:19:22.090 --> 00:19:23.150
  • was alone.
  • 00:19:23.150 --> 00:19:24.090
  • One of the biggest dangers
  • 00:19:24.090 --> 00:19:25.120
  • is for you to suffer silently
  • 00:19:25.120 --> 00:19:27.220
  • and not tell anybody.
  • 00:19:27.220 --> 00:19:28.210
  • So it's important.
  • 00:19:28.210 --> 00:19:29.060
  • In fact, let me give you
  • 00:19:29.060 --> 00:19:29.280
  • the 800 number again, too.
  • 00:19:29.280 --> 00:19:31.080
  • Write this down somewhere,
  • 00:19:31.080 --> 00:19:32.170
  • because this is important
  • 00:19:32.170 --> 00:19:33.200
  • that you have it.
  • 00:19:33.200 --> 00:19:34.120
  • In fact, I wanna encourage you
  • 00:19:34.120 --> 00:19:35.010
  • to write it down
  • 00:19:35.010 --> 00:19:35.210
  • on your sheet of paper there
  • 00:19:35.210 --> 00:19:36.180
  • that you have, then get out
  • 00:19:36.180 --> 00:19:37.140
  • your camera and take
  • 00:19:37.140 --> 00:19:38.090
  • a picture of it.
  • 00:19:38.090 --> 00:19:39.010
  • That way you'll always have
  • 00:19:39.010 --> 00:19:40.000
  • the number on you in case you
  • 00:19:40.000 --> 00:19:41.060
  • ever need it, or someone else
  • 00:19:41.060 --> 00:19:42.220
  • you love, or just someone you
  • 00:19:42.220 --> 00:19:44.130
  • meet is struggling.
  • 00:19:44.130 --> 00:19:45.120
  • You can pull your phone out,
  • 00:19:45.120 --> 00:19:46.060
  • and say, "Let me give you
  • 00:19:46.060 --> 00:19:47.020
  • an 800 number right now
  • 00:19:47.020 --> 00:19:48.160
  • to call, okay?"
  • 00:19:48.160 --> 00:19:49.130
  • Here it is.
  • 00:19:49.130 --> 00:19:49.280
  • It's 1-800-273-TALK,
  • 00:19:50.130 --> 00:19:53.130
  • 1-800-273-TALK.
  • 00:19:53.130 --> 00:19:55.240
  • This is
  • 00:19:55.240 --> 00:19:56.090
  • the suicide crisis lifeline.
  • 00:19:57.110 --> 00:20:00.110
  • It's a national hotline.
  • 00:20:00.110 --> 00:20:01.290
  • Also, they're experts
  • 00:20:01.290 --> 00:20:03.180
  • in military personnel that's
  • 00:20:03.180 --> 00:20:05.250
  • dealing with PTSD.
  • 00:20:05.250 --> 00:20:07.040
  • That's very, very real.
  • 00:20:07.040 --> 00:20:08.130
  • They're also--it's
  • 00:20:08.130 --> 00:20:09.170
  • the same phone number.
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  • It can deal with both issues,
  • 00:20:10.200 --> 00:20:11.160
  • okay?
  • 00:20:11.160 --> 00:20:12.010
  • So if you're in the military
  • 00:20:12.010 --> 00:20:12.210
  • and you're dealing with PTSD,
  • 00:20:12.210 --> 00:20:13.190
  • it's very, very real.
  • 00:20:13.190 --> 00:20:14.260
  • It's very normal to need
  • 00:20:14.260 --> 00:20:15.260
  • some help, and it doesn't mean
  • 00:20:15.260 --> 00:20:17.020
  • there's anything wrong with you.
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  • You're not broken.
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  • You just need some help, okay?
  • 00:20:19.190 --> 00:20:21.190
  • It's okay to reach out and get
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  • some help.
  • 00:20:23.050 --> 00:20:23.240
  • Again, their number is
  • 00:20:23.240 --> 00:20:24.140
  • 1-800-273-TALK.
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  • Do not be alone,
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  • but rather immediately get help.
  • 00:20:28.140 --> 00:20:30.070
  • Look what Elijah does next.
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  • He says, "Take my life, for I am
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  • no better than my ancestors
  • 00:20:32.160 --> 00:20:34.100
  • who have already died."
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  • This is very important.
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  • This is a big mistake
  • 00:20:36.240 --> 00:20:37.120
  • people make.
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  • Number two: quit comparing
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  • your life to others.
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  • This is the root
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  • of almost all unhappiness.
  • 00:20:42.090 --> 00:20:44.190
  • Now, whether you are suicidal
  • 00:20:44.190 --> 00:20:46.030
  • or not, this is a good point,
  • 00:20:46.030 --> 00:20:47.070
  • isn't it?
  • 00:20:47.070 --> 00:20:48.180
  • That when you compare
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  • yourself to others,
  • 00:20:49.180 --> 00:20:50.170
  • it just messes you up.
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  • Can I tell you something?
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  • They're not doing as good
  • 00:20:53.240 --> 00:20:55.020
  • as you think they are,
  • 00:20:55.020 --> 00:20:56.140
  • and you're not doing as bad
  • 00:20:56.140 --> 00:20:57.170
  • as you think you are.
  • 00:20:57.170 --> 00:20:59.040
  • Did you catch that?
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  • They're not doing as good
  • 00:21:00.120 --> 00:21:01.160
  • as you think they are,
  • 00:21:01.160 --> 00:21:03.120
  • and you're not doing as bad
  • 00:21:03.120 --> 00:21:04.220
  • as you think you are, okay?
  • 00:21:04.220 --> 00:21:06.230
  • That's a big deal,
  • 00:21:06.230 --> 00:21:07.260
  • because if you live
  • 00:21:07.260 --> 00:21:08.250
  • in a Facebook world,
  • 00:21:08.250 --> 00:21:10.120
  • an Instagram world,
  • 00:21:10.120 --> 00:21:11.200
  • a Twitter world,
  • 00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:12.070
  • and start--and just start
  • 00:21:12.070 --> 00:21:13.070
  • thinking that's normal,
  • 00:21:13.070 --> 00:21:14.020
  • that's the reality,
  • 00:21:14.020 --> 00:21:14.170
  • it's just not the reality.
  • 00:21:14.170 --> 00:21:15.050
  • It took 750 photos to get
  • 00:21:15.050 --> 00:21:16.290
  • that 1 shot, and they post it
  • 00:21:16.290 --> 00:21:18.260
  • with the caption,
  • 00:21:18.260 --> 00:21:19.250
  • "Just took a quick shot."
  • 00:21:19.260 --> 00:21:22.260
  • It's not real.
  • 00:21:22.260 --> 00:21:24.220
  • No one's life is that good,
  • 00:21:24.220 --> 00:21:26.080
  • okay?
  • 00:21:26.080 --> 00:21:26.230
  • So keep that in mind, right?
  • 00:21:26.230 --> 00:21:28.240
  • 1 Kings 19, verse 5, says,
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  • "Then he lay down and slept
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  • under the broom tree.
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  • But as he was sleeping, an angel
  • 00:21:32.190 --> 00:21:34.060
  • touched him and told him,"
  • 00:21:34.060 --> 00:21:36.020
  • what did the angel tell him
  • 00:21:36.020 --> 00:21:36.280
  • that's so spiritual, that's
  • 00:21:36.280 --> 00:21:37.260
  • so phenomenal,
  • 00:21:37.260 --> 00:21:38.230
  • this great Word from God?
  • 00:21:38.230 --> 00:21:41.010
  • I love that, because we have
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  • a hard time connecting
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  • our physical body
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  • to our spiritual
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  • and emotional wellbeing.
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  • If you're working 60, 70,
  • 00:21:50.220 --> 00:21:52.080
  • and 80 hours a week,
  • 00:21:52.080 --> 00:21:53.200
  • if you come home
  • 00:21:53.200 --> 00:21:54.120
  • from a 40-hour week even,
  • 00:21:54.120 --> 00:21:55.260
  • and then you put in
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  • another 5 to 10 hours
  • 00:21:56.110 --> 00:21:57.220
  • of working at home
  • 00:21:57.220 --> 00:21:58.150
  • the whole time,
  • 00:21:58.150 --> 00:21:59.060
  • and you're nonstop turned on,
  • 00:21:59.060 --> 00:22:00.210
  • you know, as a mom, as a dad,
  • 00:22:00.210 --> 00:22:03.120
  • as an employee,
  • 00:22:03.120 --> 00:22:04.070
  • as whatever you--always on
  • 00:22:04.070 --> 00:22:06.150
  • and you never turn off,
  • 00:22:06.150 --> 00:22:08.110
  • guess what?
  • 00:22:08.110 --> 00:22:09.170
  • You're gonna burn out.
  • 00:22:09.170 --> 00:22:11.050
  • You're gonna be stressed.
  • 00:22:11.050 --> 00:22:12.020
  • You're gonna be depressed,
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  • and just like, "Man, there's
  • 00:22:13.120 --> 00:22:14.120
  • gotta be more to life."
  • 00:22:14.120 --> 00:22:15.010
  • Well, there is, but you've
  • 00:22:15.010 --> 00:22:16.080
  • never stopped to enjoy it.
  • 00:22:16.080 --> 00:22:18.210
  • Does that make sense?
  • 00:22:18.210 --> 00:22:20.220
  • And so, if you're going
  • 00:22:20.220 --> 00:22:21.220
  • and going and going, this is
  • 00:22:21.220 --> 00:22:22.120
  • a problem.
  • 00:22:22.120 --> 00:22:22.280
  • He said--the angel says what?
  • 00:22:22.280 --> 00:22:24.020
  • "Get up and eat."
  • 00:22:24.020 --> 00:22:24.270
  • Then what happens?
  • 00:22:24.270 --> 00:22:25.280
  • "He looked around and there
  • 00:22:25.280 --> 00:22:26.210
  • beside his head was
  • 00:22:26.210 --> 00:22:27.120
  • some baked bread on hot stones
  • 00:22:27.120 --> 00:22:29.120
  • and a jar of water," right?
  • 00:22:29.120 --> 00:22:31.170
  • And so, you know, God brought
  • 00:22:31.170 --> 00:22:33.170
  • him some hot rolls, right?
  • 00:22:33.170 --> 00:22:35.110
  • "Eat.
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  • Have something to eat."
  • 00:22:37.030 --> 00:22:37.190
  • Then it says, "So he ate
  • 00:22:37.190 --> 00:22:39.020
  • and drank and," what did he do?
  • 00:22:39.020 --> 00:22:40.090
  • "Then he lay down again."
  • 00:22:40.090 --> 00:22:41.050
  • You know, tell me
  • 00:22:41.050 --> 00:22:41.220
  • about your sleep.
  • 00:22:41.220 --> 00:22:42.230
  • Is your sleep regulated?
  • 00:22:42.230 --> 00:22:44.030
  • Are you up half the night?
  • 00:22:44.030 --> 00:22:46.060
  • Because if you're up
  • 00:22:46.060 --> 00:22:46.210
  • half the night, you're gonna get
  • 00:22:46.210 --> 00:22:47.160
  • depressed, you know?
  • 00:22:47.160 --> 00:22:49.100
  • You say, "Well, I ain't
  • 00:22:49.100 --> 00:22:49.270
  • depressed, that's why I'm up
  • 00:22:49.270 --> 00:22:50.200
  • half the night."
  • 00:22:50.200 --> 00:22:51.110
  • Well, I would actually say
  • 00:22:51.110 --> 00:22:51.280
  • you're up half the night, that's
  • 00:22:51.280 --> 00:22:52.210
  • why you're depressed.
  • 00:22:52.210 --> 00:22:55.010
  • So I think they go together.
  • 00:22:55.010 --> 00:22:55.250
  • It becomes a vicious cycle,
  • 00:22:55.250 --> 00:22:56.180
  • doesn't it?
  • 00:22:56.180 --> 00:22:57.030
  • This is why
  • 00:22:57.030 --> 00:22:57.250
  • one of the best things you
  • 00:22:57.250 --> 00:22:58.160
  • can do, by the way--and this
  • 00:22:58.160 --> 00:22:59.110
  • isn't the only answer.
  • 00:22:59.110 --> 00:23:00.220
  • I've done entire messages
  • 00:23:00.220 --> 00:23:01.240
  • on depression, so this is
  • 00:23:01.240 --> 00:23:02.290
  • not the day for that.
  • 00:23:02.290 --> 00:23:03.250
  • But this is why I encourage
  • 00:23:03.250 --> 00:23:04.240
  • people to go for a walk,
  • 00:23:04.240 --> 00:23:06.050
  • you know?
  • 00:23:06.050 --> 00:23:06.230
  • Get your body some exercise.
  • 00:23:06.230 --> 00:23:08.020
  • It's just as good for it.
  • 00:23:08.020 --> 00:23:08.290
  • The sun's good for you.
  • 00:23:08.290 --> 00:23:09.230
  • Now, that's not the answer
  • 00:23:09.230 --> 00:23:10.100
  • for suicide, okay?
  • 00:23:10.100 --> 00:23:11.090
  • But I'm saying if you're
  • 00:23:11.090 --> 00:23:12.150
  • depressed, watch
  • 00:23:12.150 --> 00:23:13.130
  • your sleeping patterns.
  • 00:23:13.130 --> 00:23:14.030
  • Those things matter, okay?
  • 00:23:14.030 --> 00:23:14.280
  • So he says--he says what?
  • 00:23:14.280 --> 00:23:16.240
  • He says take care of your body.
  • 00:23:16.240 --> 00:23:18.010
  • Number three: heal your body
  • 00:23:18.010 --> 00:23:19.120
  • and mind through rest,
  • 00:23:19.120 --> 00:23:20.240
  • proper diet--and this is implied
  • 00:23:20.240 --> 00:23:22.280
  • here in the Scripture,
  • 00:23:22.280 --> 00:23:23.210
  • too--and medicine, if necessary.
  • 00:23:23.210 --> 00:23:26.060
  • In other words, take care
  • 00:23:26.060 --> 00:23:27.010
  • of your body.
  • 00:23:27.010 --> 00:23:27.220
  • Guys, listen.
  • 00:23:27.220 --> 00:23:28.140
  • If you've already been diagnosed
  • 00:23:28.140 --> 00:23:30.090
  • with mental illness, why are you
  • 00:23:30.090 --> 00:23:32.070
  • not taking your medicine?
  • 00:23:32.070 --> 00:23:34.100
  • And do not tell me, "Well, I'm
  • 00:23:34.100 --> 00:23:36.140
  • not taking it because I'm
  • 00:23:36.140 --> 00:23:37.080
  • a Christian, and I don't need
  • 00:23:37.080 --> 00:23:38.040
  • that stuff.
  • 00:23:38.040 --> 00:23:38.190
  • I just have to rely upon God."
  • 00:23:38.190 --> 00:23:39.190
  • This is your pastor telling you,
  • 00:23:39.190 --> 00:23:41.160
  • take your meds.
  • 00:23:41.160 --> 00:23:43.160
  • Do you understand me?
  • 00:23:43.160 --> 00:23:45.170
  • Come to church, worship
  • 00:23:45.170 --> 00:23:46.240
  • the Lord, and take your meds.
  • 00:23:46.240 --> 00:23:49.120
  • I'm serious right now, guys,
  • 00:23:49.120 --> 00:23:50.220
  • because I have known people
  • 00:23:50.220 --> 00:23:51.270
  • who got off their meds, thinking
  • 00:23:51.270 --> 00:23:53.110
  • that was what God wanted,
  • 00:23:53.110 --> 00:23:54.140
  • and ended up taking their life.
  • 00:23:54.170 --> 00:23:57.170
  • Take your meds, guys.
  • 00:23:57.170 --> 00:23:58.210
  • If you're not balanced--I'm
  • 00:23:58.210 --> 00:24:00.290
  • telling you, I have
  • 00:24:00.290 --> 00:24:02.060
  • very close friends that are
  • 00:24:02.060 --> 00:24:03.040
  • doctors that would tell you
  • 00:24:03.040 --> 00:24:04.250
  • they love the Lord
  • 00:24:04.250 --> 00:24:06.050
  • with all their heart, soul,
  • 00:24:06.050 --> 00:24:06.260
  • mind, but you still should take
  • 00:24:06.260 --> 00:24:08.080
  • some medicine.
  • 00:24:08.080 --> 00:24:09.040
  • The Bible talks about this.
  • 00:24:09.040 --> 00:24:09.260
  • When someone was sick,
  • 00:24:09.260 --> 00:24:10.210
  • the elders put what?
  • 00:24:10.210 --> 00:24:11.160
  • Oil on you, and lay hands
  • 00:24:11.160 --> 00:24:13.040
  • on you, and prayed.
  • 00:24:13.040 --> 00:24:14.050
  • The oil, we just think of that
  • 00:24:14.050 --> 00:24:15.060
  • as just spiritual.
  • 00:24:15.060 --> 00:24:16.000
  • No, oil was medicine.
  • 00:24:16.000 --> 00:24:17.180
  • It's saying pray, and take
  • 00:24:17.180 --> 00:24:18.280
  • Tylenol.
  • 00:24:18.280 --> 00:24:20.240
  • There's nothing wrong with that.
  • 00:24:20.240 --> 00:24:22.180
  • It's not that you're
  • 00:24:22.180 --> 00:24:23.170
  • not trusting God, but don't you
  • 00:24:23.170 --> 00:24:24.240
  • trust that God also allowed man
  • 00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:26.270
  • You can be trusting God
  • 00:24:29.180 --> 00:24:30.080
  • with that, too.
  • 00:24:30.080 --> 00:24:30.230
  • So take your meds.
  • 00:24:30.230 --> 00:24:32.000
  • It's okay.
  • 00:24:32.000 --> 00:24:32.270
  • And if you feel like something
  • 00:24:32.270 --> 00:24:34.040
  • is not right and you're not
  • 00:24:34.040 --> 00:24:35.020
  • overcoming it fast enough--I'm
  • 00:24:35.020 --> 00:24:36.230
  • not talking about a week or two.
  • 00:24:36.230 --> 00:24:37.230
  • I'm talking about you're like,
  • 00:24:37.230 --> 00:24:38.110
  • "Man, I just get
  • 00:24:38.110 --> 00:24:39.030
  • in these seasons,
  • 00:24:39.030 --> 00:24:40.000
  • and I just can't pull out.
  • 00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:40.180
  • It just seems like there's
  • 00:24:40.180 --> 00:24:41.060
  • nothing I can do."
  • 00:24:41.060 --> 00:24:41.230
  • Then that means you need to go
  • 00:24:41.230 --> 00:24:42.180
  • see a doctor.
  • 00:24:42.180 --> 00:24:44.030
  • That's important.
  • 00:24:44.030 --> 00:24:44.180
  • Maybe the best thing you can do
  • 00:24:44.180 --> 00:24:46.050
  • is just say, "You know what?
  • 00:24:46.050 --> 00:24:47.030
  • I promise you, Pastor,
  • 00:24:47.030 --> 00:24:48.030
  • that Monday morning I'm gonna
  • 00:24:48.030 --> 00:24:49.000
  • call a doctor, set
  • 00:24:49.000 --> 00:24:50.020
  • an appointment, and go in
  • 00:24:50.020 --> 00:24:50.270
  • and see--get some help."
  • 00:24:50.270 --> 00:24:52.200
  • Praise God.
  • 00:24:52.200 --> 00:24:53.210
  • It's a great idea.
  • 00:24:53.210 --> 00:24:55.020
  • I highly recommend that.
  • 00:24:55.020 --> 00:24:56.030
  • It's good for you.
  • 00:24:56.030 --> 00:24:57.010
  • Heal your body, your mind,
  • 00:24:57.010 --> 00:24:57.240
  • and your mind through rest,
  • 00:24:57.240 --> 00:24:59.210
  • proper diet, and medicine,
  • 00:24:59.210 --> 00:25:00.200
  • if necessary.
  • 00:25:00.200 --> 00:25:01.250
  • And the last part,
  • 00:25:01.250 --> 00:25:02.140
  • 1 Kings 19, verse 7,
  • 00:25:02.140 --> 00:25:03.280
  • "Then the angel of the Lord came
  • 00:25:03.280 --> 00:25:04.290
  • again and touched him and said,
  • 00:25:04.290 --> 00:25:06.000
  • 'Get up and eat some more,
  • 00:25:06.000 --> 00:25:07.070
  • or the journey ahead will be
  • 00:25:07.070 --> 00:25:08.150
  • too much for you.'
  • 00:25:08.150 --> 00:25:09.120
  • So he got up and ate and drank,
  • 00:25:09.120 --> 00:25:10.200
  • and the food gave him
  • 00:25:10.200 --> 00:25:11.130
  • enough strength to travel
  • 00:25:11.130 --> 00:25:12.170
  • forty days and forty nights
  • 00:25:12.170 --> 00:25:13.230
  • to Mount Sinai, the mountain
  • 00:25:13.230 --> 00:25:15.170
  • of God."
  • 00:25:15.170 --> 00:25:16.020
  • Number four: find strength
  • 00:25:16.020 --> 00:25:17.080
  • in God and his purpose
  • 00:25:17.080 --> 00:25:19.270
  • for your life.
  • 00:25:19.270 --> 00:25:20.290
  • I think it's interesting that,
  • 00:25:20.290 --> 00:25:21.190
  • you know, my last point is
  • 00:25:21.190 --> 00:25:22.220
  • on finding your purpose,
  • 00:25:22.220 --> 00:25:24.000
  • and we just watched a video
  • 00:25:24.000 --> 00:25:25.010
  • from the guy who wrote
  • 00:25:25.010 --> 00:25:26.060
  • "The Purpose Driven Life."
  • 00:25:26.060 --> 00:25:28.270
  • God is trying to tell you
  • 00:25:28.270 --> 00:25:29.130
  • something today loud and clear.
  • 00:25:29.130 --> 00:25:30.220
  • He's trying to say to you loud
  • 00:25:30.220 --> 00:25:31.100
  • and clear, "You have
  • 00:25:31.100 --> 00:25:32.120
  • too much purpose in your life.
  • 00:25:32.120 --> 00:25:33.190
  • Your life is worth living."
  • 00:25:34.180 --> 00:25:37.180
  • - Bil: Hey, thanks so much for
  • 00:25:46.260 --> 00:25:47.180
  • watching the program today.
  • 00:25:47.180 --> 00:25:49.020
  • I've got a question for you.
  • 00:25:49.020 --> 00:25:50.140
  • Have you asked Jesus Christ
  • 00:25:50.140 --> 00:25:51.240
  • to be your Lord and Savior?
  • 00:25:51.240 --> 00:25:53.090
  • Have you prayed a simple prayer
  • 00:25:53.090 --> 00:25:55.030
  • that guarantees that you will
  • 00:25:55.030 --> 00:25:57.000
  • go to heaven because
  • 00:25:57.000 --> 00:25:58.000
  • you know Jesus?
  • 00:25:58.000 --> 00:25:59.210
  • Would you pray this prayer with
  • 00:25:59.210 --> 00:26:00.180
  • me right now?
  • 00:26:00.180 --> 00:26:01.180
  • You can just say this out loud.
  • 00:26:01.180 --> 00:26:02.150
  • You can say, "Dear Jesus,
  • 00:26:02.150 --> 00:26:03.200
  • I realize I need you.
  • 00:26:03.200 --> 00:26:06.040
  • I believe you died on the cross
  • 00:26:06.040 --> 00:26:07.130
  • for me to pay the price for
  • 00:26:07.130 --> 00:26:08.260
  • my sins and I believe
  • 00:26:08.260 --> 00:26:10.140
  • you rose again.
  • 00:26:10.140 --> 00:26:11.130
  • Please come into my heart,
  • 00:26:11.130 --> 00:26:12.240
  • be my Lord and be my Savior.
  • 00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:15.180
  • Thank you, Jesus, for saving me.
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  • - female announcer: Have you
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  • ever wondered what God says
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  • about today's most
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  • controversial subjects?
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  • - Bil: God has too many great
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  • plans for your life for you to
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  • be addicted to any substance.
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  • for your gift of any amount
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  • "Frequently Asked Questions."
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  • - Bil: This is not gonna last
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  • forever.
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  • There is hope for you.
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  • Christ has a purpose for you.
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  • There is goodness in your life.
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  • There's so much to do.
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  • - announcer: In this
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  • enlightening four-DVD message
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  • series Pastor Bil takes a look
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  • at today's hardest questions
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  • and provides
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  • biblical answers to your most
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  • frequently asked questions.
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  • - Bil: Well, we're still
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  • gonna seek Jesus, love him,
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  • and love people.
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