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Tim Timberlake | Tim Timberlake - The Truth About Love, Lust, and Commitment | April 7, 2025
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- Hey, family.
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- We've been on this incredible journey
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- About the greatest commandment
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- And the greatest commandment being love.
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- And then culture and society.
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- Today, there's some definitions and some narratives
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- That just aren't biblically accurate.
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- Today, as we go through
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- The word of god, i want us to unpack the truth
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- About love, lust, and commitment.
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- Let's go into the word of god as it has already begun.
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- And mark begins in chapter ten, verse
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- One by telling us, and he left there,
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- And he went to the region of judea and beyond the jordan.
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- And crowds gathered to him again
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- And again, as was his custom.
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- He taught them in matthew.
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- This passage and this particular story
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- Isn't unpacked by matthew, and it says that
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- The crowds follow jesus.
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- And they marveled at jesus because they had never heard
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- Teaching like this.
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- And so the pharisees in chapter in verse number two says,
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- Came up to him in order to test him and asked,
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- Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife
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- And they're trying to challenge jesus in front of people
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- Because they are jealous of the response
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- Jesus is getting from what he is teaching them.
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- I have to believe that these pharisees
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- Have been teaching this same group of people things,
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- And have not seen the response that jesus is seeing
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- From these people.
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- The reason being is because the pharisees taught
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- Religion and jesus taught relationship.
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- And so if we were to, categorize this in 2025,
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- The reason groups are following jesus is because they
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- Are tired of false doctrine.
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- They are
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- Tired of sugarcoated messages.
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- They are tired of a half truth
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- That you're tired of, of pastors teaching them
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- From a perspective of valuing entertainment over purpose.
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- And so these crowds of following jesus, because jesus
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- Is keeping it 100 with them and telling them, in order
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- For you to enter into the kingdom of heaven,
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- You have to approach the father through me.
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- And they had never heard
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- Teaching like this, because jesus had not come
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- To stay the same and to allow people to stay the same.
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- He came to revolutionize and rectify
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- What needed to be changed.
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- So as these pharisees are questioning
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- Jesus and trying to pigeonhole jesus and trying to trap him,
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- They're trying to do this because in this particular day
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- And age, the context of this was that jesus
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- Was not the only famous rabbi.
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- Rabbis had reputations.
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- And at this particular day and age,
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- Rabbis were like the celebrities of their time.
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- And there were two other rabbis that were well known
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- In this particular region.
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- And the first rabbi, his name was rabbi schmid,
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- And his view on divorce was that it was only allowed
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- Because of sexual immorality
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- Or a serious infraction on either
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- The male or the female,
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- But the female had no rights to divorce,
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- So the male was the one
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- Who had to give the certificate of divorce to the female.
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- The other rabbi his name was hallel.
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- His view and perspective on divorce was a man
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- Could divorce a woman anytime he wanted to for any reason.
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- So you have a conservative view on divorce
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- And you have a liberal view on divorce.
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- And these pharisees are trying to get jesus to pick a side
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- Between being conservative and being liberal.
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- And it's giving 2025 today.
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- And jesus response
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- Was not to pick a side,
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- Because jesus mentality
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- And mindset was, i'm not here to take sides.
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- I'm here to take over.
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- And the pharisees begin to ask jesus,
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- Which perspective do you have?
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- Verse four says jesus response
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- Was moses
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- Allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce
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- And to send her on her way is what
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- The pharisees responded to jesus.
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- And he answered them in verse three,
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- What did moses command you?
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- And that was their response.
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- Verse number five says,
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- And jesus said to them, because of your hardness of heart,
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- He wrote you this commandment.
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- Then look at what jesus says.
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- But from the beginning of creation
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- God made them male and female.
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- So he's quoting scripture genesis chapter
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- One, verse 26, back to the pharisees.
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- They're trying to trap him, to choose a side.
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- Are you with this rabbi, or are you with this rabbi?
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- And jesus says, instead of talking about divorce,
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- I want to teach
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- You about marriage.
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- From the beginning of creation,
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- God everyone say, god
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- Made them male
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- And female. not them,
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- Not they,
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- Not it,
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- Not shim.
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- Male and female.
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- And when people ask me my opinion on this,
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- I have no opinion.
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- But i have the word of god.
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- And when you read the word of god,
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- The word of god does not care about
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- Your feelings to define its truth.
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- It tells you the truth regardless
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- Of how you feel and when you applied the truth.
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- The truth shall set you.
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- Y'all don't want to talk to me this morning.
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- So from the beginning of creation,
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- Genesis chapter one, verse 26, from the beginning of creation,
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- It was always god's intent for there to be
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- Two sexes, male and female.
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- There was no non-binary language in the word of god.
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- There was male and female.
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- And where we've gotten it wrong
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- Is that we've allowed our preference
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- To take precedence over purpose.
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- And if we're not careful, we'll frame our theology
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- Around our emotions.
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- When we frame our theology around our emotions,
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- We limit god to our perspective.
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- Jesus continued,
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- Therefore a man shall leave his father
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- And mother and hold fast to his wife.
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- The reason jesus is explaining this
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- Is because the pharisees
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- Are quoting to jesus what moses did
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- In deuteronomy chapter 24, verse one through four.
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- This is the context that the pharisees speak to jesus from.
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- When a man takes a wife and marries her,
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- If then she finds no favor in his eyes
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- Because he has found some indecency in her,
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- And he writes her a certificate of divorce
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- And puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house.
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- And she departs out of this house.
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- And if she goes and becomes another man's wife,
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- And the latter man hates her and writes her
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- A certificate of divorce,
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- And puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house,
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- Or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife,
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- Then her former husband who sent her away,
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- May not take her again to be his wife
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- After she has been defiled, for that is an abomination
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- Before the lord.
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- And people often read this out of context,
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- And they say that god does not permit divorce.
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- Let me give you context.
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- Verse one says,
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- When a man takes a wife and he marries her,
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- If then she finds no favor in his eyes.
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- I want you to underline that.
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- I want you to highlight that.
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- I want you to
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- Write that down in your notes, because that's important.
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- Because in this particular time period
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- In history, men were finding any excuse
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- To divorce their wives because women did not have rights.
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- So a man could wake up one day,
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- Look at his wife and say, you know what?
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- I saw another woman who look better than you.
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- Today i write you a certificate of divorce.
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- You got to leave the house.
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- Can you imagine that, ladies?
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- Can you imagine?
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- Your husband wakes up
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- And says, hey, girl,
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- We had a good run.
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- I mean, it was good.
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- A strong, strong 12 years.
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- But today
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- I'm trading you to another team.
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- Here's your papers.
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- You got to leave the house.
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- Y'all try to kill that man.
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- But that's the context of this scripture.
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- Men were divorcing their wives because they saw another woman
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- That was more attractive than their wife that they had.
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- So they were right. certificates of divorce.
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- Because women had no rights.
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- And so the pharisees are questioning
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- Jesus on what is your perspective of divorce?
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- And jesus reminds them
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- Of his mandate for marriage.
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- Because when you
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- Get an understanding of the mandate for marriage
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- And you were in a relationship, that may be hard.
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- Divorce is moved off the table.
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- It's real quiet up in here now,
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- Let me talk to the couples right now
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- That are contemplating divorce.
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- Marriage is hard,
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- But because your marriage is hard does not give you a license
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- To divorce your spouse.
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- I can hear a little mouse
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- Poop in the back.
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- We've been so accustomed
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- To walking away from what makes us uncomfortable
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- That we forget we make promises at the altar
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- To each other.
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- There is no marriage that is easy.
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- And what you get out of that marriage is as a result
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- Of what you invest into that marriage.
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- God never promised that marriage would be easy.
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- God never promised that
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- You would like your spouse every single day.
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- But what god says is,
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- If you bring me into that relationship
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- Two become one.
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- Two becoming one is difficult.
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- Work.
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- Shoot.
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- Going on a road trip with your spouse
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- And they think they know the directions is difficult.
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- Work.
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- Because the enemy hates
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- Marriage and he works overtime
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- To keep you at odds with each other.
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- And he does so by twisting the narrative of what you hear
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- So that you react a certain way to your to your spouse.
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- Jen can say something to me and the devil will ask me.
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- You hear how she talk to you?
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- Did you hear how she called your name?
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- She need to put some respect on your name, bro.
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- Does she not know
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- Who she is talking to?
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- Does she not know who you are?
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- And i'm thinking to myself, you right man
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- That's kind of rough, wasn't it?
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- It was kind of rough.
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- And then
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- The holy spirit on this side.
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- Said judge her by the spirit,
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- Not by what you think.
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- And so instead of reacting.
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- When i spend time with the lord, when she spends
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- Time with the lord, we respond.
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- The reason so many marriages end in divorce
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- Is because married folks stop investing in each other,
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- Because it has become
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- Popular and commercialized.
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- The just press the eject button when you feel uncomfortable.
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- We don't know what commitment is anymore.
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- We know what
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- Convenience is.
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- But we don't know what commitment is.
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- And if jesus says, and ephesian husbands, treat your wives
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- Like i treat the church, that means men.
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- We have to die daily to elevate, promote.
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- Lift up our wives so that they can understand
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- A reflection of jesus christ in the house
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- That they can't find anywhere else.
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- My promise to my wife
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- Is that no one will love her the way i will.
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- Nobody.
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- I don't care who it is.
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- I don't care how handsome it is.
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- I don't care what he look like, i don't care.
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- He chiseled.
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- He can't out love her.
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- That's.
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- That's mine right there.
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- But when you desire to grow deeper
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- In your love with your spouse, the enemy desires
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- To pull you apart further and further and further.
- 00:14:46.835 --> 00:14:50.372
- And so jesus gives us response to the pharisees.
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- Let me teach you about marriage.
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- A man shall leave his father.
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- Single people listen to me, because this is important.
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- How did you know that
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- The person you were talking to is ready to be married to you?
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- They are ready to leave their mother and their father.
- 00:15:07.523 --> 00:15:12.094
- You hear them pitter patters?
- 00:15:12.728 --> 00:15:14.797
- Oh, i'm going to tick a lot of single folk off day.
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- I can already feel it.
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- You know i can feel it.
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- I can, i can feel it. i can feel it.
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- How are they going to take care of you?
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- And they ain't got no job.
- 00:15:26.875 --> 00:15:31.447
- I mean single folk all the time.
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- Pastor, i think i found the one, i found my boaz.
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- He. ooh.
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- Pastor
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- Does he have a job?
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- No, but he got ambition.
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- Ambition.
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- Don't pay the bills, baby.
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- Pastor, i think i found the one, hey pastor. she,
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- Everything that i was praying for in the looks department.
- 00:15:52.601 --> 00:15:56.472
- Is she saved?
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- No, but.
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- But i think i can get her saved.
- 00:16:02.244 --> 00:16:08.417
- And before you know it,
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- You compromise in your relationship
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- With jesus, lowering your standards
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- Because you're listening to your flesh
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- Over the spirit of god on the inside of you.
- 00:16:20.863 --> 00:16:24.900
- And so when jesus is talking to us in this text, he's
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- Given us a couple of things.
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- He's talking to us about marriage.
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- He's pointing out the significance of divorce.
- 00:16:30.939 --> 00:16:33.308
- But we have to be mindful of who's
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- Listening to who's listening in this text is the disciples
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- Of the only disciple married in this text is peter.
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- So 11 disciples are single,
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- Single
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- Life that's lived whit jesus is a fulfilling life.
- 00:16:45.287 --> 00:16:48.123
- So let me give you these notes.
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- Point number one is this.
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- Marriage isn't a contract
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- You cancel,
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- It's a covenant
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- You keep.
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- Marriage is a covenant.
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- It is a bond.
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- It is a promise that you make to each other.
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- And when you make this bond, you tell each other
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- I am with you until death do us part.
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- And the reality is, some of you are wishing
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- Death on your spouse.
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- Lord.
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- How long?
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- God, please just.
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- Oh my god, i can't stand him.
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- I can't stand her.
- 00:17:37.072 --> 00:17:40.109
- It's because we view marriage
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- As a consumer relationship
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- Instead of a kingdom covenant.
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- When you make promises to each other,
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- Keep those promises.
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- A wedding is an event.
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- But marriage is an altar
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- Of what you build there determines what you burn.
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- There.
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- If marriage is an
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- Altar, what you build there is what you burn there.
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- Every day in marriage, a part of you
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- Has just has to die and be sacrificed
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- So that your spouse can know that they are the priority.
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- If you're not ready to do that, you're not ready to be married.
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- Young man, ask me right before service. pt,
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- How do i know when i'm in love?
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- I don't know, i want to know when i'm in love.
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- I said, you got a girl.
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- He's like, no, but.
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- I just want to know how do i know?
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- Like when i'm in love i want to know.
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- Is there a feeling?
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- I said, you know when you're in love,
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- When you do anything
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- To sacrifice for her.
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- You know when you love, when you get angry
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- At the thought of somebody else being with the,
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- You know, when you love,
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- When you put her desires over your own.
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- It█s so quiet up in here.
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- Single people listen to me.
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- Hear me loud and clear.
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- If they try to take you to the bedroom.
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- Before they take you to the altar,
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- That is not your person.
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- If they try to take your clothes off
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- Before they clothe the unrighteousness,
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- That is not your person.
- 00:19:35.624 --> 00:19:39.595
- See the single people
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- Who are who at the beginning of service?
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- Yeah.
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- When we start talking about listen, don't
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- Have sex before marriage, i get real quiet.
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- That's why i was cheering so loud.
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- Y'all having more sex in the married folk?
- 00:19:54.176 --> 00:19:57.412
- See, the enemy would have you believe that sex is better
- 00:19:58.513 --> 00:20:01.383
- When you are not married than it is when you get married.
- 00:20:01.383 --> 00:20:04.686
- And i'm just telling you,
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- If you don't keep yourself until you get married,
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- You missed an opportunity
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- To give your spouse the most precious gift
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- You could ever give.
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- Let's move on to point number two.
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- Divorce was permitted
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- Because of hard hearts,
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- Not because of hard marriages.
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- Divorce was permitted
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- Because of hard hearts, not because of hard marriages.
- 00:20:40.522 --> 00:20:44.993
- How many married folk will be honest and say
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- That marriage is hard work?
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- If you don't have your hands up,
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- You are lying.
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- Whenever two people try to become one and
- 00:21:00.442 --> 00:21:03.679
- All of life tries to pull you apart, it is hard work.
- 00:21:03.679 --> 00:21:07.516
- Do you know why it's hard work?
- 00:21:08.150 --> 00:21:09.351
- Because the devil hates marriage.
- 00:21:09.351 --> 00:21:11.687
- Why does the devil hate marriage?
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- Because it's the greatest reflection
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- Of the triune nature of god in the earth.
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- And so he will fight tooth and nail
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- To make sure you never step into your full purpose
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- And potential in the sanctity of marriage.
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- He will always try to have you at odds in with your wife,
- 00:21:25.734 --> 00:21:28.603
- Fighting with each other, with your husband
- 00:21:28.603 --> 00:21:30.539
- And i'm telling you, if you start
- 00:21:30.539 --> 00:21:31.907
- Fighting for your spouse instead of against your spouse,
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- You will see your life begin to merge and blend
- 00:21:35.077 --> 00:21:38.080
- Faster than you could ever think of or imagine.
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- So divorce
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- Was permitted because of hard hearts,
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- Not because of hard marriages.
- 00:21:46.688 --> 00:21:51.026
- So if the enemy can't kill your faith, hear me?
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- He will try to kill your marriage.
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- He would try to kill
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- The relationships in your family.
- 00:22:01.370 --> 00:22:04.606
- The enemy can't touch you.
- 00:22:04.606 --> 00:22:06.308
- He would try to touch the people that you love.
- 00:22:06.308 --> 00:22:08.410
- And you just have to be smarter than the tactics of the enemy.
- 00:22:08.410 --> 00:22:14.516
- So this truth that i'm about to give you, it's hard to hear.
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- But it's the truth because it's the gospel.
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- God does not divorce his bride
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- Even when she runs.
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- So why are we so quick to divorce
- 00:22:27.696 --> 00:22:30.565
- One and to every marriages end in divorce
- 00:22:30.565 --> 00:22:34.302
- Because we have not done our due diligence.
- 00:22:35.170 --> 00:22:37.739
- Number one, on who we're marrying.
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- Number two, on the commitment and the sacrifice
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- It actually takes to be successful in marriage.
- 00:22:42.444 --> 00:22:46.581
- You have to have your mind made up.
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- We in it to the end,
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- And we're going to last regardless of what
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- The enemy plans.
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- We're going to work through what we need to work through.
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- We're going to navigate what we need to navigate.
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- Amen.
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- Number three.
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- Society may change its laws,
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- But god never changes his word.
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- I'll say it again.
- 00:23:12.574 --> 00:23:13.809
- Society may change its laws, but god never changes his word.
- 00:23:13.809 --> 00:23:17.345
- What does god say?
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- Marriage is marriage is between a man and a woman.
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- I can't change that.
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- That is the word of god.
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- Culture tries to redefine marriage,
- 00:23:26.521 --> 00:23:28.457
- But jesus never asked us for our opinion.
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- Everything that god does
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- Is perfect in all of its ways.
- 00:23:34.830 --> 00:23:37.999
- One of the things i've learned about god
- 00:23:38.834 --> 00:23:40.836
- Is truth does not need a majority of a vote to be true.
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- It just is true.
- 00:23:44.439 --> 00:23:46.842
- In mark chapter ten, verses six through nine,
- 00:23:47.776 --> 00:23:50.045
- Jesus rejects both cultural views of divorce and points
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- To god's original design.
- 00:23:53.448 --> 00:23:56.518
- And as culture continues to shift based on trends.
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- The kingdom is anchored in this truth.
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- Marriage is god's idea, and only
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- He gets the say in how we define it.
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- Point number four.
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- Singleness
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- Isn't a season to survive.
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- It's a season to steward.
- 00:24:20.108 --> 00:24:23.578
- Singleness isn't a problem to fix.
- 00:24:24.346 --> 00:24:26.715
- It's a purpose to fulfill.
- 00:24:26.715 --> 00:24:30.051
- Like, don't look at your single life as you're just waiting.
- 00:24:30.051 --> 00:24:33.989
- And this is wasting time.
- 00:24:33.989 --> 00:24:35.557
- No, this is purposeful.
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- And it's preparation time.
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- God is preparing you for your spouse,
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- And he's preparing your spouse for you.
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- If you so desire to get married.
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- Amen.
- 00:24:46.468 --> 00:24:48.937
- But your mentality has to be.
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- I would rather be single than settle.
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- Com█on single folk, talk to me.
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- Desperation will make a 3 look like a 10, won█t it.
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- You█ll just pick anything.
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- Well, family, i'm so
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- Honored that you're able to go on this journey with us today.
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- The journey of understanding
- 00:25:16.498 --> 00:25:17.933
- With love, lust, and commitment is.
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- The unfortunate news is
- 00:25:20.502 --> 00:25:21.770
- That we're out of time for our broadcast.
- 00:25:21.770 --> 00:25:23.572
- But the good news is we'll be right back here.
- 00:25:23.572 --> 00:25:25.707
- Same time, same place next week.
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- So i encourage you to join us as we continue on this journey
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- Of going through the word of god.
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- At the bottom of the screen.
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- Our team is going to throw some information
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- As to how you can prayerfully partner with us.
- 00:25:36.918 --> 00:25:39.955
- I want you to understand my heart in this because oftentimes
- 00:25:39.955 --> 00:25:43.792
- We view things and we consume things,
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- But we don't really partner with things.
- 00:25:45.961 --> 00:25:48.129
- And it's because of our partners that we're able to continue
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- To spread the message
- 00:25:51.366 --> 00:25:52.367
- And the gospel of jesus christ far and wide.
- 00:25:52.367 --> 00:25:54.803
- So i want you to know that there is no contribution
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- To large, no contribution to small.
- 00:25:57.138 --> 00:25:59.608
- Every contribution matters in the grand scheme of things.
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- I also want you to know
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- That at the bottom of the screen right now,
- 00:26:04.346 --> 00:26:05.914
- Our team is going to throw some information
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- As to how we can set
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- Ourselves in agreement with you and be in prayer,
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- Whether you mail it in, email it in or call us
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- Our team is waiting to pray with you before we get off
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- This broadcast.
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- Today, i'm going to set myself in agreement with you
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- For what you may be believing god for. and so dear heavenly
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- Father, i thank you for my brothers
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- And my sisters that are watching and leaning into this moment.
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- God, i thank you that you know the desires of our heart.
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- You've heard our requests.
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- You've heard our petitions.
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- And god, not only have
- 00:26:33.842 --> 00:26:35.110
- You heard those things, but you have a desire, your desire.
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- God is good.
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- It's the word of god says in jeremiah,
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- Those plans are good and not evil.
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- And so right now, in the name of jesus,
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- We ask that you would work the plan
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- That you have for our lives.
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- In jesus name we pray. amen.
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- Family and to.
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- Next time i want you to know god loves you.
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- I love you.
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- If you're ever
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- In the jacksonville area, stop by, visit us on a sunday 9 a.m.
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- From 11 a.m. until the next time.
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- I'll see you right back here soon.
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