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January 30, 2019
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  • - SO I GET THIS CALL ON MY CELL PHONE.
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  • HEY, IS THIS MARLO ECHOLS? AND I WAS LIKE, YES.
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  • I DIDN'T RECOGNIZE THE NUMBER.
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  • WELL, THIS IS SO-AND-SO, AND WE HAVE A BABY THAT
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  • NEEDS PLACEMENT.
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  • WOULD YOU WILLING TO TAKE HER?
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  • WE DIDN'T HAVE DIAPERS.
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  • WE DIDN'T HAVE CRIBS.
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  • I ACTUALLY TOOK HER TO MY PARENTS AS SOON AS I GOT
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  • HER AND I WAS LIKE LOOK WHAT WE HAVE NOW.
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  • AND SO THEY WERE LIKE, OH, WOW!
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  • OKAY.
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  • - LIKE BY THE AGE OF 8, CPS WAS CALLED ON ME
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  • LIKE TEN TIMES.
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  • - WE FELL IN LOVE WITH HER, AND SHE HAD A PRETTY
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  • UNIQUE SET OF CIRCUMSTANCES WITH THE
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  • STATE AND THEY HAD MADE THE DETERMINATION TO
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  • TERMINATE HER RIGHTS.
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  • NOW, THAT'S -- - HER PARENT'S RIGHTS.
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  • - HER PARENT'S RIGHTS, ABSOLUTELY, SO SHE COULD
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  • BE FREE FOR ADOPTION.
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  • - SO I CALL AND THE LADY SHE'S JUST TELLING ME
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  • TO CALM DOWN.
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  • SHE ASKED ME TO PULL OVER AND STOP DRIVING.
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  • BUT I DIDN'T, SO I JUST KEEP VIOLENTLY CRYING
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  • WHILE I'M DRIVING, AND I JUST KEPT SAYING
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  • I CANNOT PARENT.
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  • I CAN'T PARENT.
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  • - KELLY WRIGHT: ADOPTION.
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  • IT WORKS.
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  • IT INCREASES THE EMOTIONAL, PHYSICAL, AND
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  • COGNITIVE CAPACITIES OF THE CHILDREN WHO ARE ADOPTED.
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  • IT IMPROVES THE LIFE CHANCES OF THE
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  • BIOLOGICAL MOTHER.
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  • IT SAVES VAST AMOUNTS OF MONEY FOR THE PUBLIC.
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  • IT BRINGS MUCH HAPPINESS BOTH TO THE ADOPTING
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  • PARENTS AND TO THE ADOPTED CHILD.
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  • IT'S GOOD FOR ALL INVOLVED.
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  • ALMOST 25% OF AMERICAN HOUSEHOLDS HAVE ADOPTED,
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  • AND IS 135.000 CHILDREN ARE ADOPTED EACH YEAR.
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  • BUT DESPITE THESE IMPRESSIVE NUMBERS,
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  • THERE'S STILL A PRESSING NEED FOR
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  • GREATER AWARENESS.
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  • IN FOSTER CARE ALONE, THERE ARE NEARLY HALF A
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  • MILLION CHILDREN ELIGIBLE FOR ADOPTION WAITING
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  • FOR A HOME.
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  • AND FOR THE 2.8 MILLION WOMEN EACH YEAR WHO HAVE
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  • AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY, OFFERING THEIR CHILD FOR
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  • ADOPTION COULD BE A LIFE GIVING GIFT.
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  • I'M KELLY WRIGHT, AND THIS IS TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS.
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS ...
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS ...
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - MELISSA CAMPBELL: SHORTLY AFTER I TURNED 18 AND FINISHED
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  • HIGH SCHOOL, I FOUND MYSELF PREGNANT.
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  • THE NURSE CAME BACK AND SHE SAID THE POSITIVE
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  • SHOWED UP IMMEDIATELY, SO I WAS AT LEAST SEVEN WEEKS
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  • PREGNANT AT THIS POINT.
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  • AND I JUST STARTED VIOLENTLY CRYING.
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  • LIKE I COULDN'T BREATHE.
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  • I WAS SO SCARED, AND SO SHE GAVE ME TWO PHONE NUMBERS.
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  • ONE NUMBER WAS JUST A SEVEN DIGIT NUMBER AND
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  • THEN THE NEXT ONE WAS JUST THE THREE DIGITS,
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  • AND THE LAST FOUR NUMBERS WERE PRAY.
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  • SO WHEN I LEFT I CALLED THE ONE THAT SAID PRAY
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  • THINKING THAT THEY WERE GOING TO OFFER ME
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  • AN ABORTION.
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  • AND SO I CALL, AND THE LADY SHE'S JUST TELLING
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  • ME TO CALM DOWN.
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  • SHE ASKS ME TO PULL OVER AND STOP DRIVING.
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  • I DIDN'T, SO I JUST KEEP VIOLENTLY CRYING WHILE
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  • I'M DRIVING, AND I JUST KEPT SAYING,
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  • I CANNOT PARENT,
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  • I CAN'T PARENT
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  • STILL HOPING THAT SHE WAS GOING TO OFFER AN
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  • ABORTION TO ME.
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  • AND SHE NEVER DID, BUT SHE OFFERED TO PRAY WITH
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  • ME, AND THEN SHE ASKED ME NOT TO MAKE ANY DECISIONS
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  • BEFORE I COULD SLEEP ON IT AND GIVE ALL OF MY
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  • OPTIONS, YOU KNOW, THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF TIME THAT
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  • IT NEEDED TO THINK ABOUT.
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  • BUT ADOPTION WAS SO FOREIGN TO ME.
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  • I HAD NO IDEA HOW TO GO ABOUT THAT PROCESS.
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  • SO SHE TOLD ME THAT THERE WAS A MATERNITY HOME IN
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  • MY HOME STATE, AND SHE HAD CALLED TO SEE IF
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  • THERE WAS ANY AVAILABILITY IF I COULD
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  • GO AND STAY THERE.
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  • - JOAN SMITH: LIFEHOUSE MATERNITY HOME WAS WHAT I
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  • CALL A MODERN DAY MATERNITY HOME, AND IT'S REALLY AN
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  • ACCUMULATION OF MY EXPERIENCES OVER THE
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  • YEARS AND WATCHING THE YOUNG WOMEN AND REALLY
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  • TRYING TO SAY WHAT DOES THIS WOMAN NEED WHEN
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  • SHE'S IN A CRISIS PREGNANCY IN ORDER TO
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  • REACH HER FULL POTENTIAL.
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  • - JULIE ERWIN: 19 YEARS AGO I STARTED ADOPTION ASSISTANCE
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  • TO HELP FAMILIES ADOPT CHILDREN, TO HELP
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  • CHILDREN FIND FOREVER FAMILIES.
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  • SO FOR THE LAST 19 YEARS, WE HAVE REALLY HELPED
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  • PEOPLE WHO COME IN AND SAY WE WANT TO ADOPT HIM.
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  • NO IDEA HOW TO START.
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  • SO WE JUST KIND OF TAKE THEM THROUGH THAT
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  • WHOLE PROCESS.
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  • AT THE SAME TIME, WE HELP BIRTH MOTHERS WHO COME TO
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  • US SAYING I AM NOT IN A POSITION TO PARENT.
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  • CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME FIND A FAMILY THAT'S
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  • PREPARED TO PARENT A CHILD?
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  • A LOT OF TIMES THAT BIRTH MOTHERS WILL FIND
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  • US THROUGH THE INTERNET.
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  • BIRTH MOTHERS KIND OF HAVE THEIR OWN NETWORK,
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  • SO SOMETIMES WE MIGHT HAVE HELPED THEIR FRIEND.
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  • SOMETIMES THE BIRTH PARENTS' PARENTS CALL US AND SAY
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  • MY DAUGHTER IS IN CRISIS.
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  • CAN YOU HELP US?
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  • - THEY COME FROM DIFFERENT STATES.
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  • THEY JUST ARE NOT LOCAL.
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  • SO THEY HEAR ABOUT US.
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  • THEY'RE DESPERATE OUT THERE.
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  • THEY NEED HELP, AND THEY CALL US.
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  • NOW, WHAT IS REALLY SAD TO ME IS THAT FOR EVERY
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  • 40 TO 41 WOMEN THAT WE GET A CALL FROM, ONLY ONE
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  • WILL ENTER INTO OUR PROGRAM BECAUSE THEY
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  • DON'T WANT THE HELP WE HAVE TO OFFER.
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  • I BELIEVE THAT, FIRST OF ALL, I THINK THESE
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  • YOUNG WOMEN HAVE LIVED A LIFESTYLE THAT THEY'RE
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  • ACTUALLY AFRAID OF LEAVING.
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  • YOU KNOW, YOU DEVELOP YOUR OWN COMFORT ZONE.
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  • AND THE RELATIONSHIPS THEY'RE IN WITH FATHERS
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  • OF THESE BABIES, THEY'RE FEARFUL OF LEAVING THAT.
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  • THEY'RE FEARFUL OF STEPPING OUT.
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  • I THINK THEY'RE SO AFRAID OF FAILURE THEY BELIEVE
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  • THEY CAN'T DO IT.
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  • WHEN THE WOMAN COMES INTO OUR PROGRAM, WE WANT HER
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  • TO KNOW THAT WE'RE FOCUSED ON HER AND HER
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  • HEALTH AND HER PSYCHOLOGICAL AS WELL AS
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  • EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH.
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  • AND THAT WE WILL PROVIDE HER WITH ALL THE
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  • INFORMATION THAT SHE NEEDS IN ORDER TO MAKE
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  • THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR SHE AND HER CHILD, BE THIS
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  • PARENTING OR ADOPTION.
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  • IF THEY'RE STARTING TO SAY I REALLY THINK I WANT
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  • TO LOOK AT ADOPTION, THEN WE START OPENING THAT
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  • DOOR A LITTLE BIT MORE SAYING, WOULD YOU REALLY
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  • LIKE TO TALK TO MAYBE SOME FAMILIES THAT
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  • HAVE ADOPTED?
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  • OR WOULD YOU LIKE TO TALK TO AN ADULT WHO WAS
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  • ADOPTED THEMSELVES?
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  • HOW MUCH INFORMATION DO YOU WANT ABOUT ADOPTION?
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  • AND THEN WE WILL ULTIMATELY SAY WELL,
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  • WOULD YOU LIKE TO MEET A COUPLE THAT WANTS TO
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  • ADOPT, AND THEN AT THAT TIME WE WILL INTRODUCE
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  • THEM TO HOWEVER MANY FAMILIES THEY WANT TO
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  • LOOK AT THEIR PORTFOLIOS, AND THEN SAY YOU KNOW,
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  • MAYBE I REALLY WOULD LIKE TO TALK TO ONE OF THEM.
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  • - THERE ARE SO MANY FAMILIES OUT THERE THAT
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  • THE BIRTH MOTHER CAN REALLY DEVELOP WHAT KIND
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  • OF CRITERIA SHE'D LIKE FOR A FAMILY.
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  • SO IF SHE WANTS A FAMILY THAT HAS TWO PARENTS OR A
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  • FAMILY WHERE THE MOTHER IS AT HOME OR THE MOTHER
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  • WORKS, OR A FAMILY WITH A DOG WE CAN HELP HER FIND
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  • THE PERFECT FAMILY THAT SHE WOULD BE ABLE
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  • TO ENTRUST HER CHILD WITH.
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  • - SO I MET WITH ONE OF THE FAMILIES FROM
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  • THE PORTFOLIO.
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  • I READ THROUGH IT, AND I WAS REALLY EXCITED ABOUT THEM.
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  • SO I MET THEM.
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  • WE WENT TO EAT, AND JUST TALKED A LOT ABOUT WHY
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  • THEY WERE WANTING TO ADOPT, WHAT THEY'D NAME
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  • THE BABY, THE SUPPORT THEY'D HAVE.
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  • A LOT OF THINGS LIKE THAT, JUST IN GENERAL WHICH
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  • YOU WOULD WANT TO KNOW ABOUT WHOSE GOING TO BE
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  • WITH YOUR KID THE REST OF THEIR LIVES.
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  • SO WE TALKED FOR A COUPLE OF HOURS.
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  • I LEFT, AND AGAIN, A COUPLE WEEKS LATER WE MET
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  • AND THEY DECIDED THEY WANTED TO ADOPT MY BABY,
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  • AND I DECIDED I WANTED THEM TO ADOPT HER.
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  • - MARLO ECHOLS: WE HAD TO GO THROUGH A 12 WEEK
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  • TRAINING COURSE.
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  • THE CLASSES WERE 3 HOURS IN LENGTH, AND WE WERE
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  • TAKING THEM IN THE EVENINGS, SO WE WOULD
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  • SITTING IN THIS CLASSROOM WITH OTHER PEOPLE THAT
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  • WANTED TO BE FOSTER PARENTS, AND FOR THREE
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  • HOURS WE LEARNED EVERY NOOK AND CRANNY OF THE
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  • FOSTER CARE PROGRAM AND GOING THROUGH AN
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  • EXTENSIVE BACKGROUND, INTERVIEW.
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  • THEY LOOK AT EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR HISTORY.
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  • SO THEY WANT TO MAKE SURE THEY HAVE THE RIGHT
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  • PEOPLE WHO ARE COMING INTO IT FOR THE
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  • RIGHT REASONS.
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  • AND THEN AFTER THAT, WE HAVE TO GO THROUGH A HOME
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  • STUDY WITH YOUR CASEWORKER,
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  • AND SO THEY'RE IN YOUR HOME, AND THEY'RE
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  • LOOKING AT EVERYTHING TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU HAVE
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  • SPACE FOR THE NUMBER OF CHILDREN YOU'RE
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  • WILLING TO FOSTER.
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  • THEN MAKING SURE THERE'S SAFETY GUIDELINES AND ALL
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  • OF THE CHEMICALS ARE PUT AWAY, AND YOU HAVE FIRST
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  • AID KITS AND EVERYTHING. IT WAS VERY EXTENSIVE.
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  • - I THOUGHT WOW, WE'VE GOT TO DO THREE HOURS OF
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  • CLASSES AFTER WORK.
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  • THAT'S GONNA BE, THAT WAS MY WHOLE THING, AND I
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  • THOUGHT THAT WOULD BE THE EXTENT OF IT AND I
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  • THOUGHT THAT WAS A LOT.
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  • BUT THEN WHEN YOU GO THROUGH, AS MARLO SAID,
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  • WITH THE BACKGROUND CHECKS, THE FINANCIAL
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  • MAKING SURE YOU'RE FINANCIALLY STABLE, MAKING
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  • SURE YOUR UTILITIES, YOU HAVE TO BRING THEM
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  • LETTERS TO SHOW YOU'RE UP-TO-DATE ON YOUR UTILITIES.
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  • - WE TRAIN OUR FOSTER PARENTS IN SPECIFIC
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  • INTERVENTIONS TO USE WITH KIDS WHO HAVE SOME PRETTY
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  • EXTREME EMOTIONAL BEHAVIORAL CHALLENGES.
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  • SO WE'RE KNOWN AS A THERAPEUTIC FOSTER CARE
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  • PROGRAM. ALL OF OUR FOSTER PARENTS ARE TRAINED AS
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  • THERAPEUTIC FOSTER PARENTS.
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  • KIDS WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED TRAUMA NEED A
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  • SAFE STABLE ENVIRONMENT TO BE ABLE TO START TO
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  • HEAL FROM THAT TRAUMA BEFORE THEY'RE READY TO
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  • STEP DOWN AND ATTACH TO ANOTHER FAMILY.
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  • SO WHEN THEY COME TO RESIDENTIAL, WE FEEL LIKE
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  • OUR GOAL IS TO HELP THEM START THE HEALING PROCESS.
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  • BECAUSE OF THE ABUSE AND NEGLECT THAT THEY'VE
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  • SUFFERED AT THE HANDS OF ADULTS, WE WANT THEM TO
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  • START TO LEARN TO TRUST ADULTS AGAIN AND TO
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  • SEE WHAT HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE,
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  • TO HAVE THEIR NEEDS MET IN A REALLY CONSISTENT
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  • AND SUPPORTIVE WAY, AND THEN AS THEY PROGRESS
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  • THROUGH TREATMENT, GET THEM READY TO ATTACH TO
  • 00:10:12.050 --> 00:10:14.170
  • WHAT HOPEFULLY WILL BE THEIR FOREVER FAMILY
  • 00:10:14.190 --> 00:10:16.150
  • WHEN THEY LEAVE US.
  • 00:10:16.170 --> 00:10:18.120
  • THE CHALLENGE IS TO PREPARE FOSTER PARENTS
  • 00:10:18.140 --> 00:10:20.220
  • FOR BOTH SITUATIONS.
  • 00:10:20.240 --> 00:10:23.150
  • A CHILD RETURNING HOME TO THEIR BIOLOGICAL FAMILY
  • 00:10:23.170 --> 00:10:26.130
  • OR THE CHILD STAYING WITH THEM AND IT
  • 00:10:26.150 --> 00:10:28.150
  • ENDING UP IN ADOPTION.
  • 00:10:28.170 --> 00:10:32.060
  • - FINANCES IS A PART OF ADOPTION, AND IT'S A VERY
  • 00:10:32.080 --> 00:10:35.260
  • UNFORTUNATE PART BUT BECAUSE IT'S A LEGAL
  • 00:10:35.280 --> 00:10:38.000
  • PROCESS, AND BECAUSE THERE ARE STEPS THAT HAVE
  • 00:10:38.020 --> 00:10:41.070
  • TO BE TAKEN, THERE HAS TO BE A FEE FOR SERVICES.
  • 00:10:41.090 --> 00:10:44.050
  • NOW, WITH THAT SAID, I ALWAYS SAY THAT FAMILIES
  • 00:10:44.070 --> 00:10:46.160
  • RARELY HAVE THE MONEY JUST SITTING IN
  • 00:10:46.180 --> 00:10:47.280
  • THE BANK TO ADOPT.
  • 00:10:48.000 --> 00:10:49.100
  • MOST PEOPLE DON'T PLAN THEIR LIFE OUT SAYING
  • 00:10:49.120 --> 00:10:51.160
  • WE'RE GOING TO START PUTTING ASIDE MONEY
  • 00:10:51.180 --> 00:10:53.090
  • TO DO AN ADOPTION.
  • 00:10:53.110 --> 00:10:54.220
  • USUALLY ADOPTION IS LAID ON THEIR HEART, AT SOME
  • 00:10:54.240 --> 00:10:56.290
  • TIME THEY'RE IN THE PROCESS AND THEY HAVE TO
  • 00:10:57.010 --> 00:10:59.050
  • FIGURE OUT HOW ARE WE GOING TO BE ABLE TO PUT
  • 00:10:59.070 --> 00:11:00.260
  • TOGETHER THE FINANCES.
  • 00:11:00.280 --> 00:11:02.180
  • I ALWAYS SAY THERE ARE CERTAINLY GRANTS AND
  • 00:11:02.200 --> 00:11:05.020
  • LOANS OUT THERE THAT PROBABLY 80 PERCENT OF
  • 00:11:05.040 --> 00:11:07.150
  • OUR FAMILIES APPLY FOR AND THEY'RE DEFINITELY
  • 00:11:07.170 --> 00:11:09.080
  • BASED ON NEED.
  • 00:11:09.100 --> 00:11:11.000
  • - ADOPTION IS A MULTI-FACETED
  • 00:11:11.020 --> 00:11:15.160
  • CONGLOMERATE REALLY.
  • 00:11:15.180 --> 00:11:18.230
  • FOR SOME IT'S A BUSINESS.
  • 00:11:18.250 --> 00:11:21.190
  • FOR THE ONES THAT MAKE MONEY OFF OF ADOPTION,
  • 00:11:21.210 --> 00:11:24.150
  • THAT IS A BUSINESS BECAUSE YOU HAVE
  • 00:11:24.170 --> 00:11:27.020
  • ATTORNEYS THAT DO NOTHING BUT ADOPTION WORK, AND
  • 00:11:27.040 --> 00:11:31.060
  • THEIR FULL INCOME COMES OFF OF THE COST OF ADOPTION.
  • 00:11:31.080 --> 00:11:36.000
  • AND THEY ACTUALLY GO OUT AND SOLICIT
  • 00:11:36.020 --> 00:11:37.210
  • WOMEN FOR ADOPTION.
  • 00:11:37.230 --> 00:11:40.280
  • YOU KNOW, YOU HAVE YOUNG WOMEN WHO WALK INTO A
  • 00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:45.060
  • HOSPITAL AND HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEY'RE GOING TO DO,
  • 00:11:45.080 --> 00:11:47.290
  • HAVE A BABY, AND THE BABY LITERALLY IS LEFT ON THE
  • 00:11:48.010 --> 00:11:49.280
  • STEPS OF THE HOSPITAL.
  • 00:11:50.000 --> 00:11:52.030
  • GENERALLY THOSE CHILDREN GO INTO FOSTER CARE, AND
  • 00:11:52.050 --> 00:11:55.070
  • THEN AFTER A LONG PROCESS CAN BE ADOPTED
  • 00:11:55.090 --> 00:11:57.230
  • OUT OF FOSTER CARE.
  • 00:11:57.250 --> 00:12:00.290
  • WE'VE TRIED TO SIMPLIFY AND TAKE THE MONETARY
  • 00:12:01.010 --> 00:12:05.120
  • COMPONENT OUT OF ADOPTION.
  • 00:12:05.140 --> 00:12:09.280
  • - MARLO: SO WE HAD EVERYTHING ALL OF OUR PROFILE
  • 00:12:10.000 --> 00:12:12.060
  • SET UP ABOUT CERTAIN CHARACTERISTICS WHAT
  • 00:12:12.080 --> 00:12:14.210
  • WE WERE LOOKING FOR AGE-WISE, BOY OR GIRL IT
  • 00:12:14.230 --> 00:12:17.070
  • DIDN'T MATTER TO US.
  • 00:12:17.090 --> 00:12:18.190
  • WE WERE WILLING TO TAKE ANYBODY THAT NEEDED A HOME.
  • 00:12:18.210 --> 00:12:20.220
  • SO I GET THIS CALL ON MY CELL PHONE.
  • 00:12:20.240 --> 00:12:23.040
  • HEY, IS THIS MARLO ECHOLS? I WAS LIKE YES.
  • 00:12:23.060 --> 00:12:26.180
  • I DIDN'T RECOGNIZE THE NUMBER.
  • 00:12:26.200 --> 00:12:28.110
  • WELL THIS IS SO-AND-SO, AND WE HAVE A BABY THAT
  • 00:12:28.130 --> 00:12:31.060
  • NEEDS PLACEMENT. WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO TAKE HER?
  • 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:33.250
  • I WAS LIKE UH, I NEED TO TALK TO MY HUSBAND FIRST,
  • 00:12:33.270 --> 00:12:36.260
  • BUT GIVE ME THE INFORMATION AND DETAILS
  • 00:12:36.280 --> 00:12:38.170
  • AND CAN I CALL YOU RIGHT BACK IN FIVE, TEN
  • 00:12:38.190 --> 00:12:41.150
  • MINUTES. NO PROBLEM.
  • 00:12:41.170 --> 00:12:42.270
  • THEY WERE REALLY CASUAL ABOUT IT.
  • 00:12:42.290 --> 00:12:45.130
  • SO GET ALL THE INFORMATION AND SO
  • 00:12:45.150 --> 00:12:47.150
  • I'M LIKE IN MY OFFICE OH, MY GOODNESS,
  • 00:12:47.170 --> 00:12:49.080
  • THEY ACTUALLY CALLED US.
  • 00:12:49.100 --> 00:12:50.240
  • WE HAD A BASSINET FROM OUR SON WHEN HE WAS A
  • 00:12:50.260 --> 00:12:52.220
  • BABY, BUT AS FAR AS EVERYTHING ELSE, WE
  • 00:12:52.240 --> 00:12:56.030
  • DIDN'T HAVE DIAPERS, WE DIDN'T HAVE CRIBS.
  • 00:12:56.050 --> 00:12:59.230
  • THERE WAS A BACKPACK OF HER CLOTHES AND
  • 00:12:59.250 --> 00:13:03.090
  • A COUPLE OF BOTTLES HERE AND THERE.
  • 00:13:03.110 --> 00:13:05.080
  • SO ONCE WE GOT HER, I ACTUALLY TOOK HER TO MY
  • 00:13:05.100 --> 00:13:08.090
  • PARENTS AS SOON AS I GOT HER AND I WAS LIKE
  • 00:13:08.110 --> 00:13:10.070
  • LOOK WHAT WE HAVE NOW.
  • 00:13:10.090 --> 00:13:11.200
  • THEY WERE LIKE OH, WOW, OKAY.
  • 00:13:11.220 --> 00:13:14.190
  • SO THEN HE PICKED OUR SON UP FROM DAY CARE, BROUGHT
  • 00:13:14.210 --> 00:13:17.070
  • HIM OVER, AND HE WAS JUST LOOKING AT HER LIKE
  • 00:13:17.090 --> 00:13:20.130
  • SHE'S OURS TO TAKE CARE OF RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:13:20.150 --> 00:13:23.290
  • - TODAY IN AMERICA, WE ARE IN THE MIDST OF A
  • 00:13:24.010 --> 00:13:26.090
  • FOSTER CARE CRISIS.
  • 00:13:26.110 --> 00:13:28.160
  • THE OPIOID EPIDEMIC HAS LEFT AN UNPRECEDENTED
  • 00:13:28.180 --> 00:13:31.060
  • NUMBER OF CHILDREN WITHOUT PARENTS AND
  • 00:13:31.080 --> 00:13:33.170
  • IN DESPERATE NEED OF A LOVING HOME.
  • 00:13:33.190 --> 00:13:36.030
  • FOR THOSE HOPING TO ADD TO THEIR FAMILY OR HAVE A
  • 00:13:36.050 --> 00:13:39.120
  • DESIRE TO REACH OUT AND CHANGE THE LIFE OF A
  • 00:13:39.140 --> 00:13:41.280
  • CHILD, ADOPTING A CHILD FROM THE FOSTER CARE
  • 00:13:42.000 --> 00:13:45.000
  • SYSTEM IS AN INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY.
  • 00:13:45.020 --> 00:13:48.070
  • AND WHILE THERE CAN BE CHALLENGES,
  • 00:13:48.090 --> 00:13:50.200
  • THERE ARE ALSO BLESSINGS.
  • 00:13:50.220 --> 00:13:52.280
  • - BRAD: WE HAD THREE CHILDREN.
  • 00:13:56.080 --> 00:13:57.220
  • ONE WAS TWELVE, AND WE HAD A SET OF TWINS
  • 00:13:57.240 --> 00:13:59.210
  • THAT WERE ELEVEN, AND WE WERE BUSY.
  • 00:13:59.230 --> 00:14:01.290
  • THERE WAS A LOT GOING ON. IT WAS BUSY.
  • 00:14:02.010 --> 00:14:04.270
  • WE FELT STRETCHED AS PARENTS, AND WE WERE
  • 00:14:04.290 --> 00:14:08.100
  • REALLY THRILLED WITH WHAT WE THOUGHT WAS
  • 00:14:08.120 --> 00:14:10.060
  • A BIG FAMILY AT THE TIME.
  • 00:14:10.080 --> 00:14:11.270
  • THINGS WERE GREAT. THINGS WERE FUN.
  • 00:14:11.290 --> 00:14:13.060
  • IT'S NOT LIKE WE LONGED FOR MORE.
  • 00:14:13.080 --> 00:14:14.270
  • WE DIDN'T SIT AND PINE AWAY FOR MORE CHILDREN.
  • 00:14:14.290 --> 00:14:17.210
  • WE JUST THOUGHT LIFE WAS GOOD UNTIL OUR WORLD WAS
  • 00:14:17.230 --> 00:14:21.280
  • ROCKED ONE SUNDAY MORNING AT CHURCH WHEN WE MET A
  • 00:14:22.000 --> 00:14:26.110
  • FOSTER CHILD OF A WOMAN WHO WAS A NEW ACQUAINTANCE.
  • 00:14:26.130 --> 00:14:30.170
  • - JENNIFER DEVRIES: SHE DESCRIBED THE FOSTER CHILD
  • 00:14:30.190 --> 00:14:32.030
  • SHE HAD IN HER HOME.
  • 00:14:32.050 --> 00:14:33.260
  • SHE DESCRIBED HIM ALL IN ONE SENTENCE AS SHE SAID
  • 00:14:33.280 --> 00:14:38.060
  • YOU KNOW A BLACK CHILD IS HARD TO PLACE, AND THIS
  • 00:14:38.080 --> 00:14:42.190
  • LITTLE GUY HAS ASTHMA, CHRONIC ASTHMA, SO HE'S
  • 00:14:42.210 --> 00:14:46.090
  • ALSO ON A MEDICALLY FRAGILE LIST.
  • 00:14:46.110 --> 00:14:48.230
  • - THE MORE WE GOT TO KNOW THIS LITTLE GUY,
  • 00:14:48.250 --> 00:14:50.110
  • WE FELL IN LOVE WITH THE FOSTER MOM.
  • 00:14:50.130 --> 00:14:52.280
  • SHE WAS SINGLE AT THE TIME, AND WE FELT LIKE
  • 00:14:53.000 --> 00:14:56.110
  • SHE NEEDED A LITTLE BIT OF HELP, AND WE KEPT
  • 00:14:56.130 --> 00:14:58.080
  • GETTING TO KNOW THIS LITTLE GUY AND SPENDING
  • 00:14:58.100 --> 00:14:59.220
  • MORE TIME WITH HIM, AND EVERY DAY THAT WE SAW
  • 00:14:59.240 --> 00:15:01.250
  • HIM, WE FELL MORE IN LOVE WITH HIM.
  • 00:15:01.270 --> 00:15:03.190
  • AND HE ENDED UP COMING INTO OUR HOME
  • 00:15:03.210 --> 00:15:05.050
  • MONTHS AFTER THAT.
  • 00:15:05.070 --> 00:15:07.040
  • SO WE GET THIS ONE LITTLE GUY, HE'S TWO YEARS OLD.
  • 00:15:07.060 --> 00:15:09.090
  • WE'VE GOT THESE BIG KIDS THAT ARE 11 AND 12.
  • 00:15:09.110 --> 00:15:11.270
  • WE'VE GOT THIS LITTLE GUY THAT BROUGHT A
  • 00:15:11.290 --> 00:15:14.100
  • LITTLE BIT OF BEAUTIFUL COLOR INTO OUR HOME, AND
  • 00:15:14.120 --> 00:15:16.110
  • WE THOUGHT WE DON'T WANT HIM TO BE ALONE.
  • 00:15:16.130 --> 00:15:19.150
  • IN OUR LITTLE MINDS WE THOUGHT WOULDN'T IT BE
  • 00:15:19.170 --> 00:15:22.000
  • GREAT TO HAVE ONE MORE.
  • 00:15:22.020 --> 00:15:23.230
  • GOD ORCHESTRATED THIS JUST BIZARRE SET OF
  • 00:15:23.250 --> 00:15:26.060
  • CIRCUMSTANCES, AND WE ENDED UP MEETING ANOTHER
  • 00:15:26.080 --> 00:15:29.120
  • TWO YEAR OLD AND A ONE YEAR OLD THAT WERE
  • 00:15:29.140 --> 00:15:31.100
  • CURRENTLY BEING FOSTERED AND THAT FOSTER FAMILY
  • 00:15:31.120 --> 00:15:33.150
  • COULDN'T KEEP THEM.
  • 00:15:33.170 --> 00:15:34.270
  • AND WE KNEW THE MINUTE THEY WALKED OUT OF THE
  • 00:15:34.290 --> 00:15:37.050
  • VAN AND CAME UP OUR SIDEWALK THAT THEY WERE
  • 00:15:37.070 --> 00:15:41.140
  • GOING TO BE OUR CHILDREN, AND SURE ENOUGH,
  • 00:15:41.160 --> 00:15:43.280
  • CURTIS AND CYNTHIA COME WANDERING UP AND THEY
  • 00:15:44.000 --> 00:15:47.030
  • CAME SHORTLY THEREAFTER AND THEY NEVER LEFT.
  • 00:15:47.050 --> 00:15:50.090
  • AND MEANWHILE THAT FIRST FOSTER MOTHER, IF YOU CAN
  • 00:15:50.110 --> 00:15:53.020
  • FOLLOW ALL THIS, THE DAY THAT BRYSON OUR TWO YEAR
  • 00:15:53.040 --> 00:15:56.090
  • OLD CAME INTO OUR HOME, THAT DAY THE STATE
  • 00:15:56.110 --> 00:15:58.290
  • BROUGHT A TEN YEAR OLD, A NINE YEAR OLD AT THE TIME
  • 00:15:59.010 --> 00:16:01.200
  • TO HER WHO NEEDED A FOSTER HOME, AND BECAUSE
  • 00:16:01.220 --> 00:16:05.210
  • WE'D STRUCK UP A FRIENDSHIP WITH THIS
  • 00:16:05.230 --> 00:16:07.160
  • FOSTER PARENT, THE FOSTER MOM, WE KEPT THAT
  • 00:16:07.180 --> 00:16:11.160
  • FRIENDSHIP GOING AND OVER TIME FELL IN LOVE WITH
  • 00:16:11.180 --> 00:16:14.070
  • THAT NINE YEAR OLD TOO. SHE WAS JUST TURNING TEN.
  • 00:16:14.090 --> 00:16:16.250
  • - THE NEED IS HIGHER FOR OLDER TEENS, OLDER KIDS,
  • 00:16:16.270 --> 00:16:22.060
  • ALSO SIBLING GROUPS, AND OBVIOUSLY KIDS
  • 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:26.140
  • WITH EMOTIONAL BEHAVIORAL ISSUES. AND THEN ALSO
  • 00:16:26.160 --> 00:16:30.160
  • FOR KIDS WHO HAVE MEDICAL COMPLEXITIES.
  • 00:16:30.180 --> 00:16:34.130
  • SO MEDICAL CONDITIONS THAT REQUIRE EXTRA CARE.
  • 00:16:34.150 --> 00:16:38.200
  • - ANGELA DEVRIES: SO BOTH MY PARENTS, MY BIOLOGICAL FAMILY,
  • 00:16:38.220 --> 00:16:42.050
  • BOTH MY PARENTS HAD SCHIZOPHRENIA.
  • 00:16:42.070 --> 00:16:45.200
  • AS YOU CAN IMAGINE THAT THEY COULDN'T TAKE CARE
  • 00:16:45.220 --> 00:16:48.080
  • OF ME WHEN I WAS YOUNGER.
  • 00:16:48.100 --> 00:16:50.130
  • MY BIOLOGICAL DAD, HE WAS REALLY ABUSIVE.
  • 00:16:50.150 --> 00:16:52.290
  • WHENEVER I WOULD TAKE BATHS, HE WOULD LIKE--
  • 00:16:53.010 --> 00:16:56.170
  • I WOULD SEE HIM WATCHING ME, OR HE WOULD HAVE MY
  • 00:16:56.190 --> 00:16:59.030
  • MOTHER AND I SIT AT THE TABLE, THE DINING
  • 00:16:59.050 --> 00:17:01.070
  • ROOM TABLE NAKED.
  • 00:17:01.090 --> 00:17:03.260
  • I MEAN AND THEN YOU'RE NOT LIKE REALLY THINKING.
  • 00:17:03.280 --> 00:17:06.000
  • LIKE WHENEVER I WAS YOUNGER, I DIDN'T THINK
  • 00:17:06.020 --> 00:17:07.120
  • ANYTHING OF IT, BUT BEING AN ADULT LIKE THAT'S JUST
  • 00:17:07.140 --> 00:17:10.090
  • VERY, THAT'S NOT RIGHT.
  • 00:17:10.110 --> 00:17:12.100
  • - CPS HAD BEEN CALLED ON HER ELEVEN TIMES, FROM
  • 00:17:12.120 --> 00:17:15.080
  • THE TIME SHE WAS SIX TO EIGHT WEEKS OLD UNTIL SHE
  • 00:17:15.100 --> 00:17:19.060
  • WAS KIDNAPPED AT EIGHT YEARS OLD BY HER FATHER
  • 00:17:19.080 --> 00:17:23.150
  • AND TAKEN OUT OF TOWN.
  • 00:17:23.170 --> 00:17:24.290
  • AT THE TIME HE WAS DELUSIONAL AND WAS
  • 00:17:25.010 --> 00:17:27.270
  • TALKING ABOUT MEETING UP WITH THE QUEEN OF ENGLAND.
  • 00:17:27.290 --> 00:17:31.140
  • IN TEXAS ULTIMATELY THE FBI FOUND THEM ON A PARK
  • 00:17:31.160 --> 00:17:35.090
  • BENCH AND SHE WAS IMMEDIATELY TAKEN FROM HIM.
  • 00:17:35.110 --> 00:17:39.080
  • I THINK HE WAS LOOKING AT SOME LEVEL TO SELL HER.
  • 00:17:39.100 --> 00:17:45.090
  • I DON'T KNOW THAT FOR SURE, BUT THAT'S WHAT
  • 00:17:45.110 --> 00:17:47.050
  • WE'VE ALWAYS SURMISED.
  • 00:17:47.070 --> 00:17:49.000
  • - SO I JUST REMEMBER I WAS IN A FOSTER HOME FOR
  • 00:17:49.020 --> 00:17:51.160
  • A WEEK IN TEXAS, AND THEN I MET MY SOCIAL WORKER
  • 00:17:51.180 --> 00:17:55.020
  • GALA, AND SHE CAME TO TEXAS, AND THEN I
  • 00:17:55.040 --> 00:17:58.270
  • REMEMBER BAWLING MY EYES OUT WHENEVER I HAD TO
  • 00:17:58.290 --> 00:18:01.160
  • LEAVE THE FOSTER HOME.
  • 00:18:01.180 --> 00:18:03.130
  • SO IT WAS JUST LIKE CONSTANTLY HAVING PEOPLE
  • 00:18:03.150 --> 00:18:06.010
  • IN MY LIFE LIKE BE THERE, BUT NOT BE THERE, AND BE
  • 00:18:06.030 --> 00:18:09.060
  • THERE, AND NOT BE THERE.
  • 00:18:09.080 --> 00:18:11.060
  • - A LOT OF TIMES, IF THE FOSTER PARENT'S NOT
  • 00:18:11.080 --> 00:18:13.030
  • ADEQUATELY PREPARED, CAN'T MANAGE A CERTAIN
  • 00:18:13.050 --> 00:18:15.130
  • TYPE OF BEHAVIOR, OR THEIR MEDICAL CONDITION
  • 00:18:15.150 --> 00:18:17.150
  • IS TOO SERIOUS, THEN THE CHILD MOVES, AND EVERY
  • 00:18:17.170 --> 00:18:21.150
  • MOVE IS ANOTHER TRAUMA.
  • 00:18:21.170 --> 00:18:25.150
  • EVEN IF IT'S NOT AN ABUSIVE ENVIRONMENT, THE
  • 00:18:25.170 --> 00:18:28.160
  • TRAUMA JUST ADDS, IT ADDS UP WITH EACH MOVE BECAUSE
  • 00:18:28.180 --> 00:18:34.180
  • IT'S ANOTHER INSTABILITY, ANOTHER CHANGE IN
  • 00:18:34.200 --> 00:18:37.080
  • CAREGIVER, ANOTHER CHANGE IN SCHOOL.
  • 00:18:37.100 --> 00:18:40.010
  • - AND THAT PARTICULAR HOME DIDN'T LAST.
  • 00:18:40.030 --> 00:18:43.260
  • APPARENTLY, ANGELA MUST HAVE FRIGHTENED THE YOUNG
  • 00:18:43.280 --> 00:18:48.020
  • MOM BY HER BEHAVIOR, AND I DON'T KNOW SPECIFICALLY
  • 00:18:48.040 --> 00:18:52.030
  • WHAT IT WAS.
  • 00:18:52.050 --> 00:18:54.020
  • I JUST KNOW THAT OFTEN TIMES CHILDREN WHO HAVE
  • 00:18:54.040 --> 00:18:56.230
  • BEEN ABUSED DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT'S RIGHT OR
  • 00:18:56.250 --> 00:18:58.150
  • WRONG BEHAVIOR.
  • 00:18:58.170 --> 00:19:00.220
  • AND SO SHE WAS EXCUSED FROM THAT HOME, WHICH IS
  • 00:19:00.240 --> 00:19:03.150
  • WHAT LANDED HER IN THE FOSTER MOM THAT WE KNOW.
  • 00:19:03.170 --> 00:19:06.280
  • HER NAME IS VICKIE.
  • 00:19:07.000 --> 00:19:08.240
  • AND SO WHEN VICKIE TOOK ANGELA, WE WENT AND
  • 00:19:08.260 --> 00:19:10.260
  • LITERALLY MET HER THAT DAY, AND SHE
  • 00:19:10.280 --> 00:19:13.030
  • WAS BEAUTIFUL.
  • 00:19:13.050 --> 00:19:16.210
  • WE DECIDED THAT AT TEN YEARS OLD, WHAT DO TEN
  • 00:19:16.230 --> 00:19:20.130
  • YEAR-OLD GIRLS LIKE?
  • 00:19:20.150 --> 00:19:22.140
  • WELL, IT'S ALL ABOUT THE BARBIES.
  • 00:19:22.160 --> 00:19:23.280
  • IT'S ALL ABOUT BARBIES.
  • 00:19:24.000 --> 00:19:25.140
  • SO OUR FAMILY THREW THE BIGGEST --
  • 00:19:25.160 --> 00:19:26.220
  • - SHE'D NEVER HAD A BIRTHDAY PARTY.
  • 00:19:26.240 --> 00:19:28.100
  • - SHE'D NEVER HAD A BIRTHDAY PARTY, AND SO IT
  • 00:19:28.120 --> 00:19:30.120
  • WAS PROBABLY A LITTLE SILLY, BUT WE TOOK HER TO
  • 00:19:30.140 --> 00:19:32.190
  • MY DAD'S HOUSE. SHE DIDN'T KNOW MY DAD.
  • 00:19:32.210 --> 00:19:34.170
  • SHE HAD NEVER MET ANY OF MY SISTERS NOR MY
  • 00:19:34.190 --> 00:19:36.130
  • BROTHER.
  • 00:19:36.150 --> 00:19:38.050
  • I HAVE LOTS OF THEM.
  • 00:19:38.070 --> 00:19:39.290
  • AND THEY ALL SHOWED UP, AND THAT CHILD WAS
  • 00:19:40.010 --> 00:19:42.020
  • SHOWERED WITH CRAZY BARBIE JUNK IS ALL I CAN
  • 00:19:42.040 --> 00:19:46.120
  • SAY. SHE WAS BARBIE'D OUT. IT WAS SO FUNNY.
  • 00:19:46.140 --> 00:19:49.050
  • WITHIN SIX MONTHS, SHE WAS DONE WITH BARBIES.
  • 00:19:49.070 --> 00:19:51.020
  • - THEN WE DID A BIRTHDAY PARTY FOR ME AT TEN, AND
  • 00:19:51.040 --> 00:19:55.080
  • THEN IT WAS LIKE THE BIGGEST BIRTHDAY PARTY I
  • 00:19:55.100 --> 00:19:57.290
  • EVER HAD BECAUSE LIKE, I DIDN'T REALLY GET MY
  • 00:19:58.010 --> 00:20:00.010
  • BIRTHDAY CELEBRATED GROWING UP.
  • 00:20:00.030 --> 00:20:01.290
  • IT WAS A BARBIE BIRTHDAY, AND I JUST THOUGHT IT WAS
  • 00:20:02.010 --> 00:20:04.230
  • THE COOLEST THING.
  • 00:20:04.250 --> 00:20:06.210
  • AND SHORTLY AFTER THAT, ONCE WE WERE ABLE TO
  • 00:20:06.230 --> 00:20:10.100
  • FIGURE OUT WITH THE FOSTER MOM WHEN I COULD
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  • START MOVING IN WITH THE DEVRIESES.
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  • - SO THAT SORT OF BEGAN THE PROCESS OF CHILD
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  • NUMBER FOUR.
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  • AND BACK IN THE DAY, SIXTEEN YEARS AGO, YOU COULD
  • 00:20:21.210 --> 00:20:24.290
  • ONLY HAVE SIX CHILDREN TOTAL, SO SHE WOULD HAVE
  • 00:20:25.010 --> 00:20:27.120
  • MADE SEVEN. WE HAD THREE BIOLOGICAL.
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  • THEN WE HAD THREE THAT WERE COMING INTO US NOT
  • 00:20:30.240 --> 00:20:33.180
  • YET ADOPTED, BUT STILL IN OUR HOME.
  • 00:20:33.200 --> 00:20:35.100
  • AND THEN ANGELA, SO WE HAD TO GO TO THE STATE
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  • AND PETITION FOR HER, AND THEY ALLOWED US TO HAVE
  • 00:20:38.090 --> 00:20:40.250
  • HER IN OUR HOME.
  • 00:20:40.270 --> 00:20:42.170
  • AND IT WAS WITHIN A TWO MONTH TIME, ALL FOUR
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  • CHILDREN WERE ADOPTED.
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  • - ANNOUNCER: LOVING PARENTS PROVIDE AN IMPORTANT FOUNDATION
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  • OF SUPPORT AND LOVE TO THEIR CHILDREN.
  • 00:20:56.200 --> 00:20:58.130
  • UNFORTUNATELY, NOT ALL CHILDREN EXPERIENCE THAT
  • 00:20:58.150 --> 00:21:01.030
  • BLESSING, AND THROUGH NO FAULT OF THEIR HONE, LIVE
  • 00:21:01.050 --> 00:21:03.230
  • IN FOSTER CARE HOMES WITH DEDICATED CARE GIVES.
  • 00:21:03.250 --> 00:21:06.250
  • IN MANY CASES, THESE YOUNG PEOPLE HAVE BEEN
  • 00:21:06.270 --> 00:21:09.060
  • ABUSED, NEGLECTED, OR ABANDONED, AND ARE NOT
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  • ABLE TO CONTINUE LIVING SAFELY WITH
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  • THEIR BIRTH FAMILIES.
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  • THERE ARE CURRENTLY MORE THAN 400.000 CHILDREN
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  • WAITING TO BE ADOPTED IN THE UNITED STATES.
  • 00:21:18.000 --> 00:21:19.280
  • THEY RANGE IN AGE FROM INFANTS TO 21 YEARS OLD.
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  • YOU DON'T NEED TO OWN YOUR OWN HOME OR HAVE A
  • 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:24.210
  • LOT OF MONEY TO QUALIFY AS AN ADOPTED FAMILY;
  • 00:21:24.230 --> 00:21:27.150
  • JUST A PASSION AND A DESIRE TO BE A POSITIVE
  • 00:21:27.170 --> 00:21:29.250
  • FORCE IN THE LIFE OF A CHILD WHO DESERVES TO BE
  • 00:21:29.270 --> 00:21:32.040
  • MENTORED, LOVED AND CHERISHED.
  • 00:21:32.060 --> 00:21:34.150
  • IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ADOPTION
  • 00:21:34.170 --> 00:21:36.150
  • OPTIONS AND TO ENSURE THAT A CHILD OR TEEN
  • 00:21:36.170 --> 00:21:38.180
  • IN FOSTER CARE GETS A SAFE, LOVING AND
  • 00:21:38.200 --> 00:21:40.290
  • PERMANENT FAMILY, PLEASE CONTACT:
  • 00:21:41.010 --> 00:21:43.030
  • - BECAUSE LIFE OFFERS SO MANY MEMORABLE
  • 00:21:55.140 --> 00:21:57.160
  • MOMENTS, SOMETIMES, IT'S HARD TO REALIZE JUST HOW
  • 00:21:57.180 --> 00:22:01.060
  • SPECIAL THEY ARE WITHOUT A CHILD THERE TO REMIND US.
  • 00:22:01.080 --> 00:22:06.140
  • THE JOY A FATHER SEES IN HIS SON'S EYES WHEN HE
  • 00:22:06.160 --> 00:22:09.110
  • ATTENDS HIS FIRST BASEBALL GAME, OR THE
  • 00:22:09.130 --> 00:22:11.180
  • EXCITEMENT A MOM FEELS WHEN HER DAUGHTER SAYS
  • 00:22:11.200 --> 00:22:14.160
  • "MOMMY" FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME.
  • 00:22:14.180 --> 00:22:18.010
  • THESE ARE MOMENTS MADE SPECIAL BECAUSE OF THE
  • 00:22:18.030 --> 00:22:20.110
  • PRESENCE OF A CHILD.
  • 00:22:20.130 --> 00:22:22.210
  • ADOPTION, IT'S A BEAUTIFUL PATH TO
  • 00:22:22.230 --> 00:22:25.120
  • BUILDING A FAMILY, A GIFT TO BOTH THE PARENT AND
  • 00:22:25.140 --> 00:22:28.060
  • THE CHILD, AND A DECISION THAT COULD BECOME A
  • 00:22:28.080 --> 00:22:30.270
  • BLESSING FOR GENERATIONS TO COME.
  • 00:22:30.290 --> 00:22:34.170
  • - SO IT'S BEEN ALMOST TEN YEARS, AND SHE'S
  • 00:22:34.190 --> 00:22:37.280
  • DOING GREAT. I STILL GET UPDATES.
  • 00:22:38.000 --> 00:22:40.110
  • I STILL GET PICTURES OF HER, AND I HOPE TO ONE
  • 00:22:40.130 --> 00:22:42.090
  • DAY BE ABLE TO MEET HER.
  • 00:22:42.110 --> 00:22:44.100
  • I WANT TO BE ABLE TO EXPLAIN MY DECISION.
  • 00:22:44.120 --> 00:22:47.010
  • AND SHE ACTUALLY RECENTLY ASKED FOR PICTURES OF ME.
  • 00:22:47.030 --> 00:22:51.020
  • SO I SENT THOSE TO HER, AND AS SHE GETS OLDER,
  • 00:22:51.040 --> 00:22:54.070
  • SHE HAS A LOT OF QUESTIONS, HER PARENTS
  • 00:22:54.090 --> 00:22:56.140
  • HAVE SAID, AND SHE WANTS TO KNOW HER BACKGROUND.
  • 00:22:56.160 --> 00:22:59.210
  • SHE WANTS TO KNOW HER PARENTS, HER
  • 00:22:59.230 --> 00:23:01.290
  • BIOLOGICAL PARENTS, AND I THINK ABOUT IT, THAT WHAT
  • 00:23:02.010 --> 00:23:06.200
  • I CAN'T PROVIDE HER, THEY'RE PROVIDING FOR HER.
  • 00:23:06.220 --> 00:23:09.210
  • SHE IS SUCH A DADDY'S GIRL. SHE LOVES HER DAD.
  • 00:23:09.230 --> 00:23:12.140
  • IN ANY PICTURE THAT ONE OF THE PARENTS IS IN,
  • 00:23:12.160 --> 00:23:16.230
  • SHE'S ALL OVER HIM, SITTING IN HIS LAP,
  • 00:23:16.250 --> 00:23:18.260
  • BEING HELD BY HIM.
  • 00:23:18.280 --> 00:23:20.160
  • AND I THINK THAT'S THE ONE THING THAT I KNOW I
  • 00:23:20.180 --> 00:23:23.260
  • COULDN'T PROVIDE FOR HER, JUST FOR MYSELF,
  • 00:23:23.280 --> 00:23:25.270
  • WAS A FATHER.
  • 00:23:25.290 --> 00:23:27.190
  • SO I ALREADY KNOW THAT THAT WAS THE BEST
  • 00:23:27.210 --> 00:23:30.050
  • DECISION AND THE BEST FAMILY TO PLACE HER WITH.
  • 00:23:30.070 --> 00:23:33.200
  • THE THOUGHT AND THE LOVE THAT I PUT INTO THAT
  • 00:23:33.220 --> 00:23:36.010
  • DECISION TO PLACE HER WITH HER FAMILY, THEY'RE
  • 00:23:36.030 --> 00:23:38.160
  • A GOOD FAMILY, AND I DON'T THINK THAT SHE'S
  • 00:23:38.180 --> 00:23:41.040
  • GOING TO HAVE THOSE CONCERNS OF WHY DIDN'T
  • 00:23:41.060 --> 00:23:43.130
  • YOU WANT ME? BECAUSE SHE KNOWS SHE'S LOVED.
  • 00:23:43.150 --> 00:23:45.240
  • THE FAMILY SHE'S WITH LOVES HER ENDLESSLY, AND
  • 00:23:45.260 --> 00:23:49.040
  • I KNOW THAT THEY TAKE CARE OF HER TO THE BEST
  • 00:23:49.060 --> 00:23:52.110
  • OF THEIR ABILITY BETTER THAN I EVER COULD HAVE.
  • 00:23:52.130 --> 00:23:55.050
  • - I WOULD SAY THAT FOR ME PERSONALLY, BEING
  • 00:23:55.070 --> 00:23:58.160
  • ADOPTED, IT'S LITERALLY LIKE ONE OF THE BEST
  • 00:23:58.180 --> 00:24:02.080
  • THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME IN MY
  • 00:24:02.100 --> 00:24:04.130
  • LIFE, AND I COULDN'T HAVE ACCOMPLISHED THINGS THAT
  • 00:24:04.150 --> 00:24:09.090
  • I'VE ACCOMPLISHED OR BEEN WHERE I AM TODAY
  • 00:24:09.110 --> 00:24:12.110
  • WITHOUT BEING ADOPTED.
  • 00:24:12.130 --> 00:24:16.090
  • - ABSOLUTELY, IT'S BEEN ONE OF THE BEST DECISIONS
  • 00:24:16.110 --> 00:24:20.070
  • OF OUR LIVES; A TOUGH ONE BECAUSE YOU KNOW THAT
  • 00:24:20.090 --> 00:24:25.200
  • THIS CHILD IS IN YOUR CARE.
  • 00:24:25.220 --> 00:24:27.130
  • IT'S JUST LIKE THE BIOLOGICAL CHILD, JUST
  • 00:24:27.150 --> 00:24:29.180
  • LIKE WITH OUR SON.
  • 00:24:29.200 --> 00:24:31.090
  • ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS THAT -- WHEN HE WAS BORN,
  • 00:24:31.110 --> 00:24:34.280
  • ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS THAT CROSSED MY MIND WAS
  • 00:24:35.000 --> 00:24:37.080
  • OKAY, YOU'RE RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS CHILD NOW, AND
  • 00:24:37.100 --> 00:24:40.170
  • IT'S THE SAME WITH HER.
  • 00:24:40.190 --> 00:24:42.010
  • I LOOK AT HER, AND I KNOW THAT I'M RESPONSIBLE FOR
  • 00:24:42.030 --> 00:24:45.060
  • HER, BUT THESE ARE PEOPLE THAT ARE DEPENDING ON
  • 00:24:45.080 --> 00:24:47.240
  • ME, AND I WOULD SAY ADOPTION IS WONDERFUL
  • 00:24:47.260 --> 00:24:53.160
  • BECAUSE THERE ARE SO MANY CHILDREN THAT THEY WOULD
  • 00:24:53.180 --> 00:24:57.090
  • LIKE TO HAVE A STABLE AND SECURE HOME AND DESERVE THAT.
  • 00:24:57.110 --> 00:25:02.130
  • - I THINK MY PERSONAL MISSION IS TO REALLY
  • 00:25:02.150 --> 00:25:05.200
  • CHANGE THE WAY OUR WORLD THINKS.
  • 00:25:05.220 --> 00:25:09.070
  • IF WE CAN GET TO A POINT WHERE WE LOOK AT THIS AS
  • 00:25:09.090 --> 00:25:11.230
  • WE'RE ALL IN ONE WORLD, AND IF WE CAN ALL HELP
  • 00:25:11.250 --> 00:25:15.020
  • EACH OTHER SURVIVE IN THIS ONE WORLD, I THINK
  • 00:25:15.040 --> 00:25:17.180
  • WE'LL BE IN A BETTER POSITION.
  • 00:25:17.200 --> 00:25:19.240
  • THERE ARE CHILDREN THAT NEED FAMILIES.
  • 00:25:19.260 --> 00:25:21.280
  • THERE ARE BIRTH PARENTS THAT NEED HELP.
  • 00:25:22.000 --> 00:25:24.040
  • THERE ARE FAMILIES WILLING TO ADOPT CHILDREN.
  • 00:25:24.060 --> 00:25:26.200
  • IF WE COULD JUST GET TO THE POINT WHERE WE CAN
  • 00:25:26.220 --> 00:25:29.000
  • ALL WORK TOGETHER TO SAY WE'RE IN ONE WORLD, LET'S
  • 00:25:29.020 --> 00:25:32.140
  • EMPOWER EACH OTHER TO PROVIDE CHILDREN THE MOST
  • 00:25:32.160 --> 00:25:36.200
  • BEAUTIFUL LIFE POSSIBLE, THE WORLD'S GOING TO
  • 00:25:36.220 --> 00:25:40.050
  • BE A BETTER PLACE.
  • 00:25:40.070 --> 00:25:41.250
  • - SO IF SOMEBODY OUT THERE IS STRUGGLING WITH
  • 00:25:41.270 --> 00:25:44.190
  • THEIR DECISION OF WHETHER TO PARENT OR TO ABORT OR
  • 00:25:44.210 --> 00:25:47.210
  • TO PLACE FOR ADOPTION, PARENTING AND ADOPTION,
  • 00:25:47.230 --> 00:25:51.120
  • THEY COME WITH NOTHING BUT REWARDS.
  • 00:25:51.140 --> 00:25:53.180
  • YOU MIGHT HURT, AND WITH PARENTING,
  • 00:25:53.200 --> 00:25:56.050
  • I HURT ALL THE TIME.
  • 00:25:56.070 --> 00:25:57.270
  • I HAVE TO TELL MY KIDS NO, AND THAT HURTS.
  • 00:25:57.290 --> 00:26:00.220
  • I DON'T WANT THEM TO HEAR THE WORD NO.
  • 00:26:00.240 --> 00:26:02.240
  • I WANT THEM TO BE HAPPY AND HAVE EVERYTHING THEY
  • 00:26:02.260 --> 00:26:04.200
  • WANT IN LIFE.
  • 00:26:04.220 --> 00:26:06.130
  • BUT WITH ABORTION, YOU CAN'T GO BACK.
  • 00:26:06.150 --> 00:26:09.180
  • THERE IS NO "I MADE A MISTAKE, LET ME
  • 00:26:09.200 --> 00:26:12.190
  • BACKTRACK." AND WITH ADOPTION, YOU HAVE TO
  • 00:26:12.210 --> 00:26:16.010
  • OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE UP FOR LOST TIME, IF IT
  • 00:26:16.030 --> 00:26:18.140
  • COMES TO THAT.
  • 00:26:18.160 --> 00:26:20.220
  • AND IF NOT, THEN IT'S A GOOD FEELING KNOWING THAT
  • 00:26:20.240 --> 00:26:23.100
  • I GAVE ME DAUGHTER SOMETHING BETTER.
  • 00:26:23.120 --> 00:26:26.080
  • AND IF YOU CAN GIVE YOUR KID BETTER,
  • 00:26:26.100 --> 00:26:28.050
  • THEN ABSOLUTELY IT'S A GOOD CHOICE.
  • 00:26:28.070 --> 00:26:30.070
  • IT'S A GOOD DECISION.
  • 00:26:30.090 --> 00:26:32.110
  • - I'M KELLY WRIGHT.
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  • HOPE YOU ENJOYED THIS EDITION OF TAKING
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  • CARE OF BUSINESS.
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS...
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