Dr. Robert Jeffress

Robert Jeffress - Dads, Front and Center (Part 2)

March 25, 2025 | S25:E144

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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Dads, Front and Center (Part 2) | March 25, 2025

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[announcer] from the pulpit of the first baptist church
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Of dallas, texas, this is "pathway to victory"
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With dr. robert jeffress.
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Hi, i'm robert jeffress,
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And welcome again to "pathway to victory".
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As parents, our goal is to raise children
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Who love the lord and follow him,
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But how do we inspire our sons and daughters
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To have a heart for god?
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Well, the apostle paul has given some practical advice,
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And today we're going to learn
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Why raising godly children requires less "do as i say"
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And "more do as i do."
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My message is titled "dads front and center"
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On today's edition of "pathway to victory".
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I want you to notice two things
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About this command to children.
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The command to obey your parents.
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I want you to write these down.
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First of all, it is a command made to children, not adults.
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It is a command made to children, not adults.
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When he addresses children, he's talking about children
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Who are still living in the home,
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Children who are financially dependent upon their parents.
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You know, god's plan for children is they grow up
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And they begin homes of their own.
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In genesis 2:24, god said,
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"a man shall leave his father and mother
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"and shall cleave to his wife,
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"and the two shall become one flesh."
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God's plan for your children is that they grow up,
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Leave home and start a home on their own.
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Do i hear an amen to that?
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That's god's plan.
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Now, as long as your child is living in your home,
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Or even if your child is away at college
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But is still deriving their primary financial support
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From you, they are under your authority.
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And this is something that is addressed to children.
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Now, hopefully they will grow up,
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Mature, and start their own homes.
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And when that happens, whether the home they begin
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Is as a single adult or a married adult,
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They are no longer obligated to obey you in all things,
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But they are obligated to follow ephesians 6:2,
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"honor your father and your mother
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"that your days may be long upon the earth."
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It doesn't matter how old children become,
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We always have the obligation to honor our parents.
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What does it mean to honor your parents?
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It certainly means to respect them.
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It means to seek their counsel.
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I mean, after all,
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Even if you're an adult with your own home
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And you're facing a difficult decision,
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Why wouldn't you want to consult your parents?
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They know you better than anyone.
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They love you more than anyone.
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Certainly you'd want to consult their guidance
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Even if you choose not to follow it.
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To honor your parents means that you care for them as well.
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Many of you have elderly parents.
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And if you have elderly parents,
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Let me say this as clearly as i know how,
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You are the one who is responsible
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For the wellbeing of your parents.
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The church is not responsible for your parents.
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1 timothy 5 says, "let not the church be burdened
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"if a elderly person has children living."
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It is the child's responsibility
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To take care of their parents.
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It is not the government's responsibility
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To take care of you.
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It is your child's responsibility to take care of you.
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And we who have living parents,
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It is our job to take care of the physical,
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Emotional wellbeing of our parents.
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You know, i hear people today whining,
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"i have my young children i'm trying to take care of.
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"my teenagers, my college students,
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"and on the other hand, i've got these elderly parents.
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"woe is me.
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"what am i going to do?"
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I say to that boohoo, crime me a river.
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(congregation laughs)
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So what? that's what families do for one another.
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They take care of one another.
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And that's what we're to do for our parents as well.
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Even though we don't obey our parents when we become adults,
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Even though the relationship changes,
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We still have the responsibility
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To honor our father and mother.
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Secondly, notice that this command must be qualified.
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It must be qualified.
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Paul says, "children obey your parents in everything,"
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Or "in all things."
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He says that to say your obedience to your parents
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Is not to be arbitrary.
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You're not to say, "okay, i'll obey my parents
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"when they tell me to do something i agree with.
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"i'll obey those things that are easy to do."
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No, he says, "it's not selective obedience.
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"we are to obey our parents in all things."
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Think about jesus christ.
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He's a perfect model of obeying his heavenly father.
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What if jesus had said,
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"father, i'll do anything you tell me to do
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"except go to the cross.
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"that's the one thing i'm not going to obey you in."
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Where would that have left you and me?
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No, he was obedient to the father in all things.
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And so children are to obey their parents in all things.
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Now, that phrase in all things, again,
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Has to be qualified, just like submission.
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If there is ever a time,
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Children, teenagers listening to this message,
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If there is ever a time
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Your parent asked you to do something
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Or not do something that clearly violates god's rules,
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God's law, you're to obey god, not your parents.
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You can refuse to obey in a respectful way,
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But you're still to refuse
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To obey any unscriptural ungodly command
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That you receive from your parents.
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Jesus made that very clear in luke 14:26.
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He says, "if anyone comes to me
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"and does not hate his own father and mother and wife
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"and children and brothers and sisters,
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"yes, even his own life, he cannot be my disciple."
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Those are pretty strong words, aren't they?
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Jesus said, "to follow me, you have to be willing
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"to hate your family members."
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Now, what does he mean by that?
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When he talks about hate,
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He's not talking about emotional ill will
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Toward another person.
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The word hate in the bible is often used to mean choose.
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Remember in romans 9:13 in talking about jacob and esau,
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God says, "jacob have i loved, esau have i," what?
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Hated.
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Now did god hate esau?
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Did he have all this anger toward esau?
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No, no.
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It was about god's choice.
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He said, "i have chosen jacob to be the recipient
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"of my blessing.
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"i have not chosen esau."
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And so when jesus says we are to be willing
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To hate our father, mother, wife, and sisters and so forth,
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He's saying, if it ever comes down to a choice
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Between obeying god and obeying a family member,
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We're to obey god and to follow god.
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So this qualification is very important to understand,
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And that is we only obey those things
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That are according to the will of god.
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Now, a wife's test of christ's likeness is her submission
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To her husband.
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A husband's test of his christ's likeness
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Is his sacrificial love for his mate.
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The test of whether you as a child or teenager
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Are becoming like jesus christ is your willingness
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To obey your parents in all things.
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And now he has a word for parents.
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Look at verse 21.
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"fathers," and by the way, by fathers,
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He's talking to fathers and mothers.
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Fathers were the leaders of their home,
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But this is a word that refers to fathers and mothers.
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"parents do not exasperate your children
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"so that they will not lose heart."
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This word exasperate is a word that means to irritate,
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To frustrate.
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This is my children's favorite verse in all the bible.
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(congregation laughs)
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Don't frustrate/exasperate your children.
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Ephesians 6:4 says it this way.
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"do not provoke your children to anger."
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What paul is saying is, don't so frustrate your children
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That they become bitter against you
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And they give up on life in general.
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How do we do that as parents?
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Let me share with you three ways that are guaranteed
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To make your children hate you.
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Here are three things you can do
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That will guarantee your children grow up
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To absolutely hate you.
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Write 'em down.
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Number one, continual nagging.
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Continual nagging.
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Why is your room always a mess?
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Why do you always do this, this, and this?
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Always finding one thing to harp on
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And just keep needling them about it.
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Continual nagging.
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My girls will tell you, they're grown now,
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But they'll tell you when i used to go up
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And kiss each of them goodnight and pray with 'em,
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The last thing i would say to 'em was,
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"have you brushed your teeth?"
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And they just absolutely hate that,
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And they'll tell you to this day,
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The first thing i'll ask 'em when i see 'em now,
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"are you brushing your teeth?"
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You know, i shouldn't do that.
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I zero in on one thing.
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It becomes an annoyance to them.
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The bible says, "don't do that.
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"don't be continually nagging your children."
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Here's another way to make them hate you,
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And that is by unfavorable comparison.
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Why can't you be more like so-and-so?
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It may be another brother or sister,
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It may be another child.
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Why can't you be more like them?
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Parents, remember, your child's self-esteem is very fragile.
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James dobson said, "it is a wise adult who understands
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"that self-esteem is the most fragile characteristic
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"in human nature,
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"and once broken, its reconstruction is more difficult
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"than repairing humpty dumpty."
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A third way to make your children hate you,
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To frustrate and bitter them
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Is through inconsistent discipline.
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We used to go out to eat with a couple,
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They had a six-year-old son,
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And sometimes at dinner the son would misbehave,
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And the parents would egg him on.
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They'd say,
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"oh, isn't that cute what little johnny's doing?"
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And they just thought it was so cute.
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They'd egg him on, take pictures of it,
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You know, and all of this.
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Then another time would be out with them,
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Little johnny was doing the same thing
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And the father would yank him by the arm,
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Take him to the bathroom,
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And just wallop the daylights out of him.
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How did that make johnny feel?
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I mean, he didn't know what to do.
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It's kind of like inconsistent discipline.
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The bible says, "don't embitter your children,"
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But it adds a positive word in ephesians 6:4,
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"fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,
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"but bring them up in the discipline
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"and the instruction of the lord."
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Parents, here is the test
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Of whether or not you're becoming like jesus christ.
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Is your number one priority with your children encouraging
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And nurturing their relationship with god?
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That's the test of whether you're a heavenly minded parent.
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Is nurturing, encouraging your child's relationship
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With god your top priority?
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You say, well, now how did jesus illustrate that?
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He didn't have any biological children?
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That's true, but he had some spiritual children,
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12 of them to be exact.
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Men that he spent three years with
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Trying to instill in them the godly values
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That would make them a success in life.
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And the bible says, in the same way,
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We as parents ought to recognize how short our time is
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With our children and to make sure that encouraging
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And developing their relationship with god is the priority
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In our parenting life.
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How do you do that?
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Let me share with you three ways
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To ensure your children's spiritual success.
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How many of you would like to have children
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Who are spiritually successful?
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Raise your hand.
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Okay, write this down.
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And this would be good for grandparents too
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Because you can play an important part in this as well.
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Number one, to ensure your child's spiritual success,
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Parents should dedicate their children to god.
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Parents are to dedicate their children to god.
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Now, what do i mean by dedicate?
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I'm not talking about where parents dress up their children
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In the cutest outfit they can find
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So that everybody in the church sees them and goos and ah
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And ooh, isn't that a cute baby and everything.
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That's not what we're talking about
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When we're talking about dedicating.
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But it is a symbol of something hopefully those parents
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Have done in their own hearts,
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And that is to surrender their child to god's will.
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When we dedicate our children to god,
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We express it through a ceremony like we're about to do,
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What you're saying as a parent
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Is you realize your child is not your own.
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He or she is a gift from god,
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And you are giving your child back to god,
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Making god's will the priority for your child's life.
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That is saying, god, i'm giving up my dreams,
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My aspirations, and i want your will to be done
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In my child's life.
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Parents are to dedicate their children to god
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Just as hannah dedicated her son samuel to eli, the priest.
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She delivered him over to eli
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As if she were delivering him over to god himself.
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Secondly, to ensure your children's spiritual success,
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Parents should encourage their children
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To become christians.
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We should encourage our children to become christians.
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Now, obviously,
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The child must ultimately make that decision himself,
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But we can do a lot to influence that decision.
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Fathers, mothers, grandparents,
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We don't have any greater responsibility
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Than ensuring that our children trust in christ.
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We should encourage our children to become christians,
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But our responsibility doesn't stop there.
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Thirdly, parents should impart spiritual values
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To their children.
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If you're a heavenly minded christian,
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You are to be ministry focused rather than self-focused.
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We are to realize the only reason god has left us here
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Is to fulfill the great commission of making disciples,
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Followers of christ.
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Have you ever thought about it?
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Fact is the greatest discipleship project we have
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Is our own children.
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It's not the only project we have,
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But it's certainly the greatest and the most important.
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To make a disciple means not only to lead them to faith
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In christ, but to help them order their lives
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Around the teachings of christ.
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That means imparting spiritual values to them.
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Hold your place here and turn over to deuteronomy 6.
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Deuteronomy 6, listen to moses' command.
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He said in verse four, "hear, israel.
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"the lord is our god.
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"the lord is one.
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"and you shall love the lord your god
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"with all of your heart, with all of your soul,
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"and with all of your might.
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"these words, which i'm commanding you today,
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"shall be on your heart."
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Now listen to this, fathers and mothers,
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You cannot give away to your children
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Something you don't possess in your own heart.
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Notice how moses begins.
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He says, "fathers, mothers, your responsibility
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"is to love god with all of your heart, your mind,
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"your soul, and your strength."
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As your children look at you, do they see that in you?
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Is pleasing god the priority of your life?
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Don't even think about trying
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To train your children spiritually
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Until that is true of you.
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You cannot give away what you don't possess.
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But then he says verse seven,
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"you shall teach them, that is the words of god,
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"diligently to your sons,
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"and you shall talk of them when you sit in your house
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"and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down,
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"and when you rise up."
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I notice two things about moses' command here.
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First of all, making spiritual truth,
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Imparting spiritual truth to our children
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Is to be the priority in our home.
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He says we are to do this at early dawn.
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That's what the word diligently means.
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Imparting spiritual values to your children
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Is to take precedence over little league, gymnastics,
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Scholastic pursuits.
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It is the most important thing you do.
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Is that true in your family?
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Secondly, i notice about this command,
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It is to take place in the natural course of life.
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If we're going to teach spiritual values to our children,
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It doesn't mean just once a week on sundays
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At 11 o'clock we haul our kids down to church.
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That's important, that's critical,
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But that's not the only way we impart spiritual truth.
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He says we do it when we lie down at night,
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When we put them to bed, when we wake up in the morning
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And they're seated around the breakfast table,
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When we're driving in the car,
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When we're seated around the television set
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Watching a program.
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There are great opportunities
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Just in the natural course of life
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To teach your children great eternal spiritual truths.
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And if you're a heavenly minded parent,
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You'll be on the alert for those opportunities.
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You know, some of those opportunities occur
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Just in the natural course of life.
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When your child is hurt, disappointed by another person,
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That's a great time to teach them about forgiveness.
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When a loved one dies,
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It's a great time to teach them about the reality of heaven
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And what the reality of hell as well.
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When you see somebody reap the consequences
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Of disobedient living, it's a good time to remind your child
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Of this is what happens to someone who disobeys god.
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If you're really a heavenly minded parent,
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You will make teaching spiritual truth
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To your children the priority of your life.
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Annas duff once wrote,
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"successful family living strikes me
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"as being in many ways rather like playing chamber music.
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"each member of the ensemble has his own skills,
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"but the grace and strength and sweetness of the performance
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"comes from everyone's willingness
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"to subordinate individual virtuosity and personal ambition
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"to the requirements of balance and blend."
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What kind of music is emanating from your home right now?
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Is it beautiful melodious music or is the sound dissonant?
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And how are you doing?
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How are you really doing at playing that part
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That god has assigned you in the home?
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Wives, are you voluntarily submitting yourself
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To your husband's authority even though you disagree?
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Husbands, are you placing your wife's needs above your own?
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Children, are you obeying your parents
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Even when it doesn't make sense?
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Parents, are you making your children's relationship
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With god the priority in your life?
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Your answer to those questions
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Will tell you perhaps better than any other question
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Whether or not you are truly becoming like jesus christ.
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God longs to see our families reflect his relationship
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With us, and i hope today's message has given you hope.
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Positive change is possible
00:23:06.007 --> 00:23:08.610
When we submit ourselves to god's authority.
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Well, in closing,
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I want to read an encouraging note i received from dale.
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Dale wrote, "even though i grew up in church,
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"from the time i was a baby
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"and all the way through my private christian years,
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"i found that i never fully accepted jesus
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"as my personal savior.
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"but as i got older, i finally understood
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"and accepted the lord into my life.
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"thank you for this important ministry
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"and all that you do to reach people like me."
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Isn't that encouraging?
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Thank you so much, dale, for writing to us.
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To his or her employer.
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Does god really expect us
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The fact is it's difficult being an employee
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Robert Jeffress - Dads, Front and Center (Part 2)

March 25, 2025 | S25:E144

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