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August 6, 2019
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  • - Casey Treat: Hi, I'm
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  • Casey Treat.
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  • Thirty-five years ago, I was an
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  • addict with no hope and no
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  • future.
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  • It was then that I realized a
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  • simple truth that changed my
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  • life forever.
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  • The truth is, you can change.
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  • Whatever the circumstance, you
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  • can make choices that change
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  • your life forever.
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  • Join me on this journey of
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  • change as we examine living in
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  • our world and finding out what
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  • - Casey: Hey, guys, great to
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  • have you with us today for
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  • another exciting broadcast.
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  • I have my main partner with me.
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  • - Wendy Treat: That's right.
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  • - Casey: Wendy Treat.
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  • - Wendy: That's right.
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  • - Casey: Good to have you.
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  • And this month we're talking
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  • about relationships.
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  • - Wendy: I know, and it's so
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  • important to understand the God
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  • principle of relationship.
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  • When you get an understanding of
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  • God's way, it's like, "Oh,
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  • that's what I do?
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  • That will bring about the win?"
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  • And that's what we're teachin'
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  • about, the win, God's way in
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  • relationships.
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  • - Casey: You know, so many
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  • people don't know why they
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  • believe what they believe.
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  • Why do Christians believe in
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  • marriage?
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  • Why do we believe in lasting
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  • marriage, right?
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  • And so we'll answer those
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  • questions.
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  • We'll make it practical.
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  • We'll give you some ways you can
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  • overcome the problems because,
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  • though we look perfect, we don't
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  • have the perfect marriage.
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  • - Wendy: Yeah, but a good one.
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  • - Casey: It's good.
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  • - Wendy: Because, I mean, like,
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  • we've been married for over 40
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  • years, and it's because we
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  • really have dived in to, "God,
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  • how do we have relationship?"
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  • Not just in marriage, but in
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  • relationships with people, and
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  • people that you work with,
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  • people that you're building
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  • friendship with, your mom, your
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  • dad, your brothers, your
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  • sisters.
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  • How do you have winning
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  • relationships?
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  • That's what we're talkin' about,
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  • and it's gonna be great.
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  • - Casey: Yeah, you're gonna
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  • love it.
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  • Make sure you go to
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  • CaseyTreat.com.
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  • You can check out all the
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  • lessons on relationship as well
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  • as other things there on the
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  • website.
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  • We're always there for you at
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  • CaseyTreat.com.
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  • And now, here is "Relationship
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  • - male announcer: From
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  • friendships to marriage, we are
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  • always in relationships with the
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  • people around us.
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  • However, not all of these
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  • relationships are healthy.
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  • Receive "Relationships Goals."
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  • This is a profound series on how
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  • life.
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  • As you allow your heart to be
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  • healed and made whole, you will
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  • break the negative cycles, such
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  • as short-term relationships,
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  • debt, marriage, and family
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  • problems.
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  • Make a decision today to have a
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  • Also, don't forget to visit
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  • www.CaseyTreat.com for more
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  • - Casey: Well, our series is
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  • entitled "Relationship Goals,"
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  • and we're talking about the
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  • value of relationships in our
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  • life.
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  • Some of you love that.
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  • You lean in to that.
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  • You're like, "Yes, I love to
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  • talk.
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  • I love friendship.
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  • I love to hang out.
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  • I love goin' to dinner, having
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  • people over."
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  • And then some of us are like,
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  • "Ehh, I don't have time for
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  • that.
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  • Sounds like a lot of drama to
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  • me.
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  • I'm not too interested."
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  • The fact is, God said you were
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  • created for relationship.
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  • God didn't need humanity, but he
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  • wanted relationship.
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  • And so he created us to be like
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  • him so we can relate to him and
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  • he can relate to us.
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  • He actually took upon himself
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  • flesh and blood to know, to
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  • feel, to be a part of everything
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  • that humanity is because he
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  • doesn't want religion.
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  • He wants relationship.
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  • God didn't create you to follow
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  • the ten steps, to know the
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  • venial sins and the mortal sins,
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  • to know what to do and what not
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  • to do.
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  • That's not the purposes of God.
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  • Humanity is much more religious
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  • than God is, which is kinda
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  • funny if you think about it.
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  • No, he's not interested.
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  • He wants relationships.
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  • And they asked Jesus, "What's
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  • the most important thing in the
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  • Bible, all of Scripture?"
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  • Of course, at that time, it
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  • would have been Genesis to
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  • Malachi.
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  • For us, Genesis to Revelation.
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  • What's the priority?
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  • What's number one, most
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  • important?
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  • And, of course, you know the
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  • answer: "'Love the Lord your God
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  • with all your heart and soul and
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  • mind,' that's the first and
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  • great commandment.
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  • And the second is like it."
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  • Interesting, he said, "I can't
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  • just give you the first without
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  • giving you the second because
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  • the second is like it.
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  • They go together.
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  • They function together.
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  • The second is like it, 'Love
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  • your neighbor as yourself.'"
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  • And look at the last phrase: "On
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  • these two commandments hang all
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  • the Law and the Prophets."
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  • So that means all the Bible is
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  • fulfilled in those two
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  • commandments.
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  • Have you ever had someone say,
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  • "Well, do you even know the Ten
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  • Commandments?"
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  • Maybe you've heard that or seen
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  • that somewhere.
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  • And here's your response: "I
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  • don't need to because I know the
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  • two commandments."
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  • If you do the two, you'll
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  • fulfill the ten.
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  • There are actually 600-and-some
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  • laws that the Jews attempt to
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  • follow if you're an Orthodox or
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  • a traditional Jewish person.
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  • There are about 600 different
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  • hand-washing, dressing ritual
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  • laws that they attempt to
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  • follow, which, I mean, whoo,
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  • who's gonna follow 600 different
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  • laws?
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  • But they try.
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  • In fact, Jesus said, "You only
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  • need two: 'Love God, love your
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  • neighbor as you love yourself.'"
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  • Over the last week or so, I've
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  • been emphasizing to you this
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  • loving people because you cannot
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  • say you love God and not love
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  • people.
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  • Look at with me in the Bible, 1
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  • John chapter 4, verse 20: "'If
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  • anyone says, "I love God," but
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  • doesn't love his brother, he's
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  • lying to himself.'"
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  • Right?
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  • Look at it.
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  • "If someone says, 'I love God,'
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  • but hate his brother, or doesn't
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  • love his brother, he's a liar.
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  • He who does not love his
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  • brother, whom he hath seen, how
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  • can he love God, whom he's not
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  • seen?"
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  • You and I are made in the
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  • likeness and image of God.
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  • If we can't love one another,
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  • can we really love the Creator?
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  • If you don't love someone's art,
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  • it's probably because you don't
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  • really like what he's thinking,
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  • what he's feeling, what he's
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  • presenting.
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  • You're like, the artist, the
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  • creator presents an image, and
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  • if you love it, you say, "I love
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  • that artist."
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  • "Have you met him?"
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  • "No, but I love that artist."
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  • "Why?"
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  • "'Cause I love his art.
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  • I love what he created.
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  • I love his music.
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  • I love that guy."
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  • "Really?
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  • Why do you love that guy?
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  • You've never met him."
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  • "Oh, I've seen his creation.
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  • His creation is awesome.
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  • His creation sounds wonderful.
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  • His creation moves me."
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  • If you don't love God's
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  • creation, do you really love
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  • God?
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  • 'Cause you're made in the
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  • likeness and image of God.
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  • So we say we love the Lord, and
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  • you can see it in how we love
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  • people.
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  • Sometimes we make it hard, and
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  • sometimes it is hard 'cause
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  • people are a pain.
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  • We'd rather just talk to our
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  • puppy than talk to people.
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  • In fact, in our culture today,
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  • we have a crisis in
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  • relationship, less people being
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  • married, less people having
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  • children, and less people
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  • connecting in relationship
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  • because it is difficult, and you
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  • do have to be mature, and you do
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  • have to handle problems.
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  • But to avoid 'em is worse.
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  • Proverbs says in chapter 18, and
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  • verse 1: "He who isolates
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  • himself seeks his own desire,"
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  • in other words, you become
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  • selfish, "and you rage against
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  • all wise judgment."
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  • So if you don't build
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  • relationship, you're raging
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  • against wisdom.
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  • Let me show you a headline from
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  • "The Seattle Times," right?
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  • We all love "The Seattle Times."
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  • Everything they print is true.
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  • Look at it, right here.
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  • "The Seattle Times" wrote an
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  • article, "The Seattle Freeze":
  • 00:08:51.230 --> 00:08:54.230
  • "Forget making friends.
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  • Half of Washington residents
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  • It's a real article in "The
  • 00:09:02.070 --> 00:09:04.170
  • Times" last week.
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  • It's a real thing.
  • 00:09:06.050 --> 00:09:07.260
  • Washington is known as the least
  • 00:09:07.260 --> 00:09:10.190
  • friendly state in America.
  • 00:09:10.290 --> 00:09:13.290
  • And throughout the article, they
  • 00:09:13.290 --> 00:09:15.090
  • cite different studies and
  • 00:09:15.090 --> 00:09:16.110
  • different reasons why.
  • 00:09:16.110 --> 00:09:17.220
  • Bottom line: "I really don't
  • 00:09:17.220 --> 00:09:19.070
  • wanna talk to you."
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  • Over half Washington residents.
  • 00:09:21.220 --> 00:09:24.220
  • At the same time, I read another
  • 00:09:24.220 --> 00:09:26.040
  • article that said Washington was
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  • in the top ten secular cities of
  • 00:09:28.050 --> 00:09:30.190
  • America, less people believing
  • 00:09:30.190 --> 00:09:32.240
  • in God, less people believing
  • 00:09:32.240 --> 00:09:34.060
  • the Bible, less people wanting
  • 00:09:34.060 --> 00:09:35.240
  • any relationship with God in
  • 00:09:35.240 --> 00:09:38.010
  • Washington than in 90% of
  • 00:09:38.020 --> 00:09:41.020
  • America.
  • 00:09:41.020 --> 00:09:42.110
  • So, they go hand in hand.
  • 00:09:42.110 --> 00:09:44.130
  • "I don't like God, and I don't
  • 00:09:44.130 --> 00:09:45.180
  • like people."
  • 00:09:45.180 --> 00:09:46.270
  • "I don't value relationship
  • 00:09:46.270 --> 00:09:49.070
  • because I don't value the Lord."
  • 00:09:49.240 --> 00:09:52.240
  • So, Jesus said, "This is the big
  • 00:09:52.240 --> 00:09:54.230
  • thing."
  • 00:09:54.230 --> 00:09:56.020
  • Sometimes we focus on the wrong
  • 00:09:56.020 --> 00:09:58.000
  • thing.
  • 00:09:58.000 --> 00:09:59.020
  • As Christians, we wanna debate
  • 00:09:59.020 --> 00:10:00.290
  • eschatology.
  • 00:10:00.290 --> 00:10:02.020
  • We wanna debate Israel.
  • 00:10:02.020 --> 00:10:03.260
  • "What do you think about the
  • 00:10:03.260 --> 00:10:05.090
  • Godhead?"
  • 00:10:05.090 --> 00:10:06.050
  • "Where are you at with the Holy
  • 00:10:06.050 --> 00:10:07.250
  • Spirit and the baptism?"
  • 00:10:07.250 --> 00:10:09.180
  • And, "Do you believe this?"
  • 00:10:09.180 --> 00:10:10.290
  • And, "Do you believe that?"
  • 00:10:10.290 --> 00:10:12.210
  • Most of that talk is irrelevant.
  • 00:10:12.210 --> 00:10:15.140
  • Jesus said, "What really
  • 00:10:15.140 --> 00:10:16.250
  • matters, do you love God?
  • 00:10:16.250 --> 00:10:19.180
  • Do you love people?
  • 00:10:19.180 --> 00:10:21.210
  • Do you love yourself?"
  • 00:10:22.270 --> 00:10:25.270
  • Maybe a lot of our people
  • 00:10:25.270 --> 00:10:27.170
  • struggles come because of
  • 00:10:27.170 --> 00:10:29.190
  • self-esteem struggles, our own
  • 00:10:29.190 --> 00:10:32.170
  • anxieties and guilts and
  • 00:10:32.170 --> 00:10:34.040
  • struggles with ourself.
  • 00:10:34.040 --> 00:10:36.250
  • I think there was a time when I
  • 00:10:36.250 --> 00:10:38.270
  • hated myself, was embarrassed of
  • 00:10:38.270 --> 00:10:41.050
  • myself, didn't even wanna be
  • 00:10:41.050 --> 00:10:44.010
  • around myself.
  • 00:10:44.010 --> 00:10:45.020
  • If I could get away from myself,
  • 00:10:45.020 --> 00:10:46.280
  • I would have been glad.
  • 00:10:46.280 --> 00:10:49.000
  • But I had to get healed because
  • 00:10:49.000 --> 00:10:51.130
  • you love your neighbor as you
  • 00:10:51.130 --> 00:10:53.220
  • love yourself.
  • 00:10:53.220 --> 00:10:55.250
  • I was reminded this week of a
  • 00:10:55.250 --> 00:10:57.080
  • story that happened on my
  • 00:10:57.080 --> 00:10:58.250
  • wedding.
  • 00:10:58.250 --> 00:11:00.210
  • Which, how many know was more
  • 00:11:00.210 --> 00:11:02.040
  • than a couple weeks ago?
  • 00:11:02.040 --> 00:11:03.060
  • I'm talkin' about my first
  • 00:11:03.060 --> 00:11:06.050
  • wedding.
  • 00:11:06.050 --> 00:11:08.200
  • So, wedding day came, March 11,
  • 00:11:09.000 --> 00:11:12.000
  • 1978.
  • 00:11:12.000 --> 00:11:14.070
  • I'm getting ready in the
  • 00:11:14.070 --> 00:11:15.010
  • morning.
  • 00:11:15.010 --> 00:11:15.220
  • I'm nervous, right?
  • 00:11:15.220 --> 00:11:16.120
  • I'm going through all of the
  • 00:11:16.120 --> 00:11:18.120
  • stuff that you go through on
  • 00:11:18.120 --> 00:11:19.200
  • your wedding day.
  • 00:11:19.200 --> 00:11:21.040
  • And I get a phone call.
  • 00:11:21.040 --> 00:11:22.270
  • I don't have a cell phone.
  • 00:11:22.270 --> 00:11:23.220
  • My apartment phone rings, and I
  • 00:11:23.220 --> 00:11:26.210
  • hear a voice on the other end,
  • 00:11:26.210 --> 00:11:28.250
  • and he said, "What time is the
  • 00:11:28.250 --> 00:11:30.120
  • funeral?"
  • 00:11:31.200 --> 00:11:34.200
  • And I said, "What?"
  • 00:11:34.230 --> 00:11:37.230
  • "What time is the funeral?"
  • 00:11:37.250 --> 00:11:40.250
  • "Who is this?"
  • 00:11:40.250 --> 00:11:42.150
  • "It's George."
  • 00:11:42.150 --> 00:11:43.270
  • Well, George was a guy that I'd
  • 00:11:43.270 --> 00:11:45.260
  • met at Washington Drug Center,
  • 00:11:45.260 --> 00:11:48.020
  • not as a resident, he was a
  • 00:11:48.020 --> 00:11:49.200
  • visitor.
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  • He would come every Saturday
  • 00:11:50.170 --> 00:11:52.020
  • night to what we called "Open
  • 00:11:52.020 --> 00:11:53.110
  • House."
  • 00:11:53.110 --> 00:11:54.260
  • We would have an open house just
  • 00:11:54.260 --> 00:11:56.060
  • to meet the community.
  • 00:11:56.060 --> 00:11:57.020
  • We would provide free food and
  • 00:11:57.020 --> 00:11:59.040
  • beverage.
  • 00:11:59.040 --> 00:11:59.270
  • And it gave a chance for
  • 00:11:59.270 --> 00:12:01.140
  • residents to make new friends in
  • 00:12:01.140 --> 00:12:03.080
  • the community.
  • 00:12:03.080 --> 00:12:04.070
  • Well, Open House, George was a
  • 00:12:04.070 --> 00:12:05.150
  • homeless guy, and he found out
  • 00:12:05.150 --> 00:12:07.210
  • we had free cake, and so he
  • 00:12:07.210 --> 00:12:10.000
  • never missed an Open House.
  • 00:12:10.000 --> 00:12:12.210
  • So, strange guy, you know?
  • 00:12:12.210 --> 00:12:13.290
  • We kinda felt like he was
  • 00:12:13.290 --> 00:12:15.160
  • probably a little bit struggling
  • 00:12:15.230 --> 00:12:18.230
  • mentally.
  • 00:12:18.230 --> 00:12:20.010
  • But he was a loving guy, and he
  • 00:12:20.010 --> 00:12:21.270
  • would always come with his
  • 00:12:21.270 --> 00:12:23.250
  • camera.
  • 00:12:23.250 --> 00:12:25.150
  • His camera was one of those
  • 00:12:25.150 --> 00:12:26.210
  • old-school--remember, we didn't
  • 00:12:26.210 --> 00:12:27.200
  • have phones and cool cameras.
  • 00:12:27.200 --> 00:12:29.250
  • He had a little Brownie camera.
  • 00:12:29.250 --> 00:12:31.070
  • How many remember the little
  • 00:12:31.070 --> 00:12:32.030
  • Brownie?
  • 00:12:32.030 --> 00:12:32.230
  • And the top was a big circle,
  • 00:12:32.230 --> 00:12:34.010
  • big chrome flash, and he would
  • 00:12:34.170 --> 00:12:37.170
  • lick the bulb and put it in, and
  • 00:12:38.000 --> 00:12:41.000
  • take flash.
  • 00:12:41.000 --> 00:12:43.010
  • But we never saw a picture.
  • 00:12:43.050 --> 00:12:46.050
  • So we assumed there was never
  • 00:12:46.050 --> 00:12:47.190
  • film in the camera.
  • 00:12:47.190 --> 00:12:49.210
  • And he would stuff cake in his
  • 00:12:49.210 --> 00:12:51.010
  • pockets, you know?
  • 00:12:51.010 --> 00:12:51.290
  • Before he left, he would take a
  • 00:12:51.290 --> 00:12:53.070
  • few extra pieces of cake.
  • 00:12:53.070 --> 00:12:55.260
  • And so, Open House George.
  • 00:12:55.260 --> 00:12:57.050
  • We just called him, "Open House
  • 00:12:57.050 --> 00:12:58.090
  • George."
  • 00:12:58.090 --> 00:12:59.200
  • So, now it's my wedding day, and
  • 00:12:59.200 --> 00:13:02.030
  • George is on the phone.
  • 00:13:02.030 --> 00:13:04.200
  • "What time is the funeral?"
  • 00:13:04.200 --> 00:13:06.010
  • And I said, "Well, it's at 2
  • 00:13:06.010 --> 00:13:08.190
  • o'clock, George.
  • 00:13:08.190 --> 00:13:09.090
  • Are you gonna be there?"
  • 00:13:09.090 --> 00:13:09.290
  • And he goes, "I will if you pick
  • 00:13:09.290 --> 00:13:11.280
  • me up."
  • 00:13:12.150 --> 00:13:15.150
  • Okay, so now I'm in Bible
  • 00:13:15.150 --> 00:13:18.030
  • school.
  • 00:13:18.030 --> 00:13:18.230
  • I'm getting married to Wendy.
  • 00:13:18.230 --> 00:13:19.260
  • You know, Wendy is a real
  • 00:13:19.260 --> 00:13:21.190
  • servant, a ministry-minded girl.
  • 00:13:21.190 --> 00:13:23.280
  • So I'm thinking, "Oh, man, I
  • 00:13:23.280 --> 00:13:25.190
  • should love George."
  • 00:13:25.190 --> 00:13:27.260
  • "I mean, all right, George, but
  • 00:13:27.260 --> 00:13:30.250
  • you gotta be there early 'cause
  • 00:13:30.250 --> 00:13:31.290
  • I gotta do pictures."
  • 00:13:31.290 --> 00:13:34.040
  • "Okay, I'll be ready."
  • 00:13:34.040 --> 00:13:34.290
  • So I go down to Seattle,
  • 00:13:34.290 --> 00:13:36.070
  • downtown.
  • 00:13:36.070 --> 00:13:37.130
  • You know, he lived down there
  • 00:13:37.130 --> 00:13:39.060
  • somewhere.
  • 00:13:39.060 --> 00:13:40.020
  • I never knew where.
  • 00:13:40.020 --> 00:13:40.290
  • But I picked him up.
  • 00:13:41.130 --> 00:13:44.130
  • We went out, did the pictures,
  • 00:13:44.130 --> 00:13:45.180
  • did the wedding.
  • 00:13:45.180 --> 00:13:46.160
  • And the whole time at the
  • 00:13:46.160 --> 00:13:47.290
  • wedding, he's taking pictures
  • 00:13:47.290 --> 00:13:49.140
  • with his little Brownie camera.
  • 00:13:49.140 --> 00:13:50.170
  • Lick the bulb, put it in, flash.
  • 00:13:50.170 --> 00:13:53.170
  • I'm assuming there's no film.
  • 00:13:53.170 --> 00:13:56.170
  • So, two weeks go by after the
  • 00:13:56.170 --> 00:13:59.090
  • wedding.
  • 00:13:59.090 --> 00:13:59.290
  • We're back at Open House.
  • 00:13:59.290 --> 00:14:01.120
  • Open House George is there
  • 00:14:01.120 --> 00:14:03.010
  • stealing cake again.
  • 00:14:03.010 --> 00:14:04.200
  • And he hands us a pile, big pile
  • 00:14:06.130 --> 00:14:09.130
  • of 5-by-7 colored photographs.
  • 00:14:09.220 --> 00:14:12.220
  • And we'd had a photographer at
  • 00:14:12.220 --> 00:14:15.120
  • our wedding, but we only spent
  • 00:14:15.120 --> 00:14:17.050
  • $500 on everything, food,
  • 00:14:17.050 --> 00:14:19.100
  • church, everything, so you can
  • 00:14:19.100 --> 00:14:21.050
  • imagine how much we paid for the
  • 00:14:21.050 --> 00:14:22.200
  • photographer.
  • 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:24.140
  • Not a lot.
  • 00:14:24.140 --> 00:14:25.060
  • And so Wendy was a little bit
  • 00:14:25.060 --> 00:14:27.010
  • disappointed.
  • 00:14:27.010 --> 00:14:27.220
  • The pictures weren't very cool.
  • 00:14:27.220 --> 00:14:29.190
  • But Open House George took the
  • 00:14:29.190 --> 00:14:31.140
  • greatest pictures that we could
  • 00:14:31.240 --> 00:14:34.240
  • ever have asked for.
  • 00:14:35.130 --> 00:14:38.130
  • And Wendy still has those
  • 00:14:38.130 --> 00:14:40.220
  • pictures today.
  • 00:14:40.220 --> 00:14:41.120
  • She was going through 'em the
  • 00:14:41.120 --> 00:14:42.100
  • other day, and she said,
  • 00:14:42.100 --> 00:14:43.210
  • "'Remember, this is one of Open
  • 00:14:43.210 --> 00:14:44.270
  • House George's picture?"
  • 00:14:44.270 --> 00:14:47.190
  • I would never have Open House
  • 00:14:47.190 --> 00:14:50.040
  • George's picture, I would never
  • 00:14:50.040 --> 00:14:52.200
  • even know he had film in his
  • 00:14:52.200 --> 00:14:54.000
  • camera, if I hadn't have said,
  • 00:14:55.180 --> 00:14:58.180
  • "Just gonna love this guy.
  • 00:14:58.180 --> 00:15:00.060
  • I'm gonna pick him up so he can
  • 00:15:00.060 --> 00:15:02.230
  • be at my wedding."
  • 00:15:02.230 --> 00:15:04.280
  • Not a very big deal.
  • 00:15:04.280 --> 00:15:06.130
  • Didn't cost me much, little bit
  • 00:15:06.130 --> 00:15:08.190
  • of effort.
  • 00:15:08.190 --> 00:15:10.040
  • What if you just pick someone up
  • 00:15:10.040 --> 00:15:11.170
  • and bring 'em to church?
  • 00:15:11.170 --> 00:15:13.110
  • What if you just go the extra
  • 00:15:13.110 --> 00:15:14.190
  • mile to reach out?
  • 00:15:14.190 --> 00:15:16.190
  • What if you just be nice to the
  • 00:15:16.190 --> 00:15:18.200
  • one who--?
  • 00:15:18.200 --> 00:15:21.130
  • You know, not everybody is easy
  • 00:15:21.130 --> 00:15:23.160
  • to love, but God said, "Love
  • 00:15:24.110 --> 00:15:27.110
  • your neighbor as you love
  • 00:15:27.180 --> 00:15:30.180
  • yourself."
  • 00:15:30.180 --> 00:15:31.080
  • Did you know the Bible also
  • 00:15:31.080 --> 00:15:32.120
  • said, "We entertain angels
  • 00:15:32.120 --> 00:15:34.200
  • unawares"?
  • 00:15:34.200 --> 00:15:36.180
  • In other words, you may have
  • 00:15:36.180 --> 00:15:38.070
  • talked to an angel in your
  • 00:15:38.070 --> 00:15:39.180
  • lifetime and you never knew it.
  • 00:15:39.180 --> 00:15:42.080
  • Angels look like men.
  • 00:15:42.080 --> 00:15:44.080
  • So, angel puts on contemporary
  • 00:15:44.080 --> 00:15:46.230
  • clothing, you wouldn't know it.
  • 00:15:46.230 --> 00:15:48.280
  • You entertain angels unawares.
  • 00:15:50.050 --> 00:15:53.050
  • What if Open House George was an
  • 00:15:53.050 --> 00:15:54.250
  • angel who loved cake?
  • 00:15:57.260 --> 00:16:00.280
  • You never know.
  • 00:16:00.280 --> 00:16:02.130
  • I'll find out when I get to
  • 00:16:02.130 --> 00:16:04.150
  • heaven.
  • 00:16:04.150 --> 00:16:06.000
  • So, let's value, let's
  • 00:16:06.100 --> 00:16:09.100
  • recognize, more important than
  • 00:16:09.130 --> 00:16:12.130
  • our image, our position, our
  • 00:16:12.130 --> 00:16:14.020
  • job, our money, our stuff, our
  • 00:16:14.020 --> 00:16:16.250
  • relationships.
  • 00:16:16.250 --> 00:16:18.230
  • Your stuff doesn't define you,
  • 00:16:18.230 --> 00:16:20.280
  • but your relationships do.
  • 00:16:20.280 --> 00:16:23.230
  • Let me give you one more story
  • 00:16:23.230 --> 00:16:24.290
  • before we move along, Matthew
  • 00:16:24.290 --> 00:16:27.000
  • chapter 18, and verse 21.
  • 00:16:27.000 --> 00:16:29.200
  • Peter comes to Jesus and he
  • 00:16:29.210 --> 00:16:32.210
  • said, "Lord, how often shall my
  • 00:16:32.210 --> 00:16:35.010
  • brother sin against me and I
  • 00:16:35.010 --> 00:16:37.160
  • forgive him?
  • 00:16:37.160 --> 00:16:39.160
  • Up to seven times?"
  • 00:16:39.160 --> 00:16:41.130
  • I think Peter was tryin' to
  • 00:16:41.130 --> 00:16:42.250
  • stretch the number, right?
  • 00:16:42.250 --> 00:16:44.100
  • He probably wanted to say, "Two
  • 00:16:44.100 --> 00:16:46.090
  • or three times?"
  • 00:16:46.090 --> 00:16:48.040
  • But he knew Jesus was always
  • 00:16:48.040 --> 00:16:49.150
  • over the top, so he's like, "How
  • 00:16:49.150 --> 00:16:51.010
  • 'bout seven?
  • 00:16:51.010 --> 00:16:51.210
  • I'm goin' seven.
  • 00:16:51.210 --> 00:16:52.150
  • I'm goin' big time."
  • 00:16:52.150 --> 00:16:54.130
  • "Shall I forgive him seven
  • 00:16:54.130 --> 00:16:55.240
  • times?"
  • 00:16:55.240 --> 00:16:56.140
  • You know, Peter was pretty proud
  • 00:16:56.140 --> 00:16:58.130
  • of himself.
  • 00:16:58.130 --> 00:16:59.060
  • He probably felt like, "I'm
  • 00:16:59.060 --> 00:17:00.190
  • killin' it here.
  • 00:17:00.190 --> 00:17:01.140
  • I am killin' it."
  • 00:17:01.140 --> 00:17:03.260
  • Jesus said, "No, Pete, not
  • 00:17:03.260 --> 00:17:05.250
  • seven, seventy times seven.
  • 00:17:06.280 --> 00:17:09.280
  • That's more than you can count."
  • 00:17:09.280 --> 00:17:11.280
  • "Seventy times seven, what is
  • 00:17:11.280 --> 00:17:13.140
  • that?
  • 00:17:13.140 --> 00:17:14.050
  • Four hundred and some times I
  • 00:17:14.050 --> 00:17:15.280
  • gotta forgive this guy?
  • 00:17:15.280 --> 00:17:17.040
  • Are you serious?"
  • 00:17:17.040 --> 00:17:18.250
  • That's what Jesus said.
  • 00:17:18.270 --> 00:17:21.270
  • In other words, don't count.
  • 00:17:21.270 --> 00:17:24.090
  • Just decide, "I'm gonna love
  • 00:17:24.090 --> 00:17:26.190
  • people," and that means there's
  • 00:17:26.190 --> 00:17:28.220
  • gonna be stuff to forgive.
  • 00:17:28.220 --> 00:17:30.220
  • They're late, they forgot, they
  • 00:17:30.220 --> 00:17:32.250
  • didn't do what they said.
  • 00:17:32.250 --> 00:17:34.130
  • They didn't show up when they're
  • 00:17:34.130 --> 00:17:35.240
  • supposed to show up.
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  • Okay, people are people.
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  • Stuff happens, get over it.
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  • Don't be bitter.
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  • Don't hang on to it.
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  • Don't remember every issue.
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  • Let it go.
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  • Let it go.
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  • You know why you cannot give a
  • 00:17:49.070 --> 00:17:50.160
  • helium-filled balloon to Elsa?
  • 00:17:54.220 --> 00:17:57.220
  • You know Elsa in the movie
  • 00:17:57.220 --> 00:17:58.280
  • "Frozen."
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  • You can't give her a helium
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  • balloon because she will, "Let
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  • it go, let it go.
  • 00:18:03.260 --> 00:18:06.260
  • Can't hold back anymore."
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  • Good song for some of you.
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  • You're angry at a family member.
  • 00:18:12.160 --> 00:18:14.030
  • You're angry at a neighbor.
  • 00:18:14.030 --> 00:18:15.070
  • You're frustrated with people.
  • 00:18:15.070 --> 00:18:17.060
  • You keep reminding yourself of
  • 00:18:17.060 --> 00:18:18.250
  • what they did to hurt your
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  • feelings.
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  • Now, I don't mean you should be
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  • abused.
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  • I don't mean you should be hurt
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  • and forgive in the sense of
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  • staying in a hurtful
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  • relationship.
  • 00:18:29.180 --> 00:18:30.210
  • But we do need to let things go
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  • and love people because
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  • everybody has issues.
  • 00:18:36.040 --> 00:18:38.100
  • If you're expecting perfection
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  • from the people around you, what
  • 00:18:40.160 --> 00:18:42.110
  • do you do when you look at
  • 00:18:42.110 --> 00:18:43.120
  • yourself?
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  • One of the brothers was
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  • complaining to me the other day
  • 00:18:49.240 --> 00:18:51.050
  • 'cause his wife had gained some
  • 00:18:51.050 --> 00:18:53.060
  • weight, and he was kinda goin',
  • 00:18:53.060 --> 00:18:54.170
  • he said, "I love her, but, you
  • 00:18:54.170 --> 00:18:55.250
  • know, she's not like she used to
  • 00:18:55.250 --> 00:18:57.100
  • be.
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  • And she--" He was goin' on.
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  • And I'm like, "Bro, have you
  • 00:18:59.100 --> 00:19:00.260
  • looked at yourself lately?
  • 00:19:03.060 --> 00:19:06.060
  • You be thanking God for that
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  • wife.
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  • Your wife is a lot better
  • 00:19:09.020 --> 00:19:10.190
  • looking than you.
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  • Go home today and say, 'I love
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  • you, baby.
  • 00:19:14.240 --> 00:19:15.140
  • Thank you for keeping me.'"
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  • What makes us think we can be
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  • unforgiving?
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  • Who do we think we are?
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  • Well, Jesus said, "Seventy times
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  • seven," and then he told a
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  • story.
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  • "There was a king who wanted to
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  • settle accounts with his
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  • servant," verse 24, Matthew 18.
  • 00:19:39.090 --> 00:19:42.090
  • "When he had begun to settle
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  • accounts, one was brought to him
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  • who owed him ten thousand
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  • talents."
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  • Okay, let's call it a million
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  • dollars.
  • 00:19:50.080 --> 00:19:52.000
  • "He was not able to pay, his
  • 00:19:52.000 --> 00:19:53.200
  • master commanded that he be
  • 00:19:53.200 --> 00:19:55.030
  • sold, with his wife and his
  • 00:19:55.030 --> 00:19:57.230
  • children, all that he had, and
  • 00:19:57.230 --> 00:19:59.210
  • that payment be made."
  • 00:19:59.210 --> 00:20:02.100
  • In other words, this is worth
  • 00:20:02.100 --> 00:20:03.220
  • everything to him, wife, kids,
  • 00:20:03.220 --> 00:20:06.160
  • everything that he has.
  • 00:20:06.160 --> 00:20:08.060
  • Relationships are worth
  • 00:20:08.060 --> 00:20:10.000
  • everything.
  • 00:20:10.000 --> 00:20:12.140
  • "The servant therefore fell down
  • 00:20:12.140 --> 00:20:13.240
  • before him, saying, 'Master,
  • 00:20:13.240 --> 00:20:14.280
  • have patience with me, and I
  • 00:20:14.280 --> 00:20:16.250
  • will pay you all.'
  • 00:20:16.250 --> 00:20:18.170
  • Then the master
  • 00:20:18.170 --> 00:20:19.220
  • of that servant was moved
  • 00:20:19.220 --> 00:20:20.170
  • with compassion, released him,
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  • and forgave him the debt."
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  • Wow, you would think a
  • 00:20:24.270 --> 00:20:26.040
  • life-changing moment.
  • 00:20:26.220 --> 00:20:29.220
  • "But that servant went out and
  • 00:20:29.220 --> 00:20:31.120
  • found one of his fellow
  • 00:20:31.120 --> 00:20:32.230
  • servants," a friend, "who owed
  • 00:20:32.230 --> 00:20:35.180
  • him a hundred denarii," that's
  • 00:20:35.180 --> 00:20:37.280
  • like $10, "and he laid hands on
  • 00:20:38.200 --> 00:20:41.200
  • him and took him by the throat,
  • 00:20:41.200 --> 00:20:43.140
  • and he said, 'Pay me what
  • 00:20:43.140 --> 00:20:44.180
  • you owe!'
  • 00:20:44.180 --> 00:20:46.130
  • His fellow servant," his friend,
  • 00:20:46.130 --> 00:20:48.180
  • "fell down at his feet
  • 00:20:48.180 --> 00:20:50.050
  • and begged him, saying, 'Have
  • 00:20:50.050 --> 00:20:51.160
  • patience with me, I will pay
  • 00:20:51.160 --> 00:20:53.150
  • you all.'"
  • 00:20:53.150 --> 00:20:54.290
  • Have we heard that before?
  • 00:20:55.000 --> 00:20:58.000
  • "But he would not.
  • 00:20:58.000 --> 00:20:59.250
  • He went and threw him into
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  • prison till he would pay the
  • 00:21:01.130 --> 00:21:02.250
  • debt.
  • 00:21:02.250 --> 00:21:03.260
  • And when his fellow servants saw
  • 00:21:03.260 --> 00:21:05.210
  • what had been done, they were
  • 00:21:05.210 --> 00:21:06.260
  • very grieved, and they came and
  • 00:21:06.260 --> 00:21:09.160
  • told their master all that had
  • 00:21:09.160 --> 00:21:11.120
  • been done.
  • 00:21:11.120 --> 00:21:12.020
  • And then his master, after he
  • 00:21:12.020 --> 00:21:14.090
  • had called him, said, 'You
  • 00:21:14.090 --> 00:21:15.270
  • wicked servant!
  • 00:21:15.270 --> 00:21:17.180
  • I forgave you all that debt
  • 00:21:17.180 --> 00:21:19.030
  • because you begged me.
  • 00:21:19.030 --> 00:21:21.130
  • Should you not also have had
  • 00:21:21.130 --> 00:21:22.230
  • compassion on your friend,
  • 00:21:22.230 --> 00:21:25.120
  • just as I had pity on you?'
  • 00:21:25.120 --> 00:21:28.000
  • And the master
  • 00:21:28.000 --> 00:21:28.270
  • was angry, and delivered
  • 00:21:28.270 --> 00:21:30.170
  • him to the torturers until he
  • 00:21:30.170 --> 00:21:33.140
  • should pay all that was due him.
  • 00:21:33.140 --> 00:21:36.010
  • So my heavenly Father also will
  • 00:21:36.010 --> 00:21:37.280
  • do to each of you, if, from his
  • 00:21:38.120 --> 00:21:41.120
  • heart, he does not forgive his
  • 00:21:41.120 --> 00:21:43.180
  • brother his trespasses."
  • 00:21:43.290 --> 00:21:46.290
  • You know, that's one of the
  • 00:21:46.290 --> 00:21:47.240
  • scariest things that we see in
  • 00:21:47.240 --> 00:21:49.180
  • life, the anger, the bitterness,
  • 00:21:49.180 --> 00:21:52.070
  • the unforgiveness, it's all
  • 00:21:52.070 --> 00:21:53.240
  • coming back on us.
  • 00:21:53.240 --> 00:21:55.280
  • And so, let's be quick to
  • 00:21:55.280 --> 00:21:57.060
  • forgive so that we might reap
  • 00:21:58.030 --> 00:22:01.050
  • what we sow.
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  • You stay mad with your family,
  • 00:22:02.240 --> 00:22:04.070
  • you stay upset with that
  • 00:22:04.070 --> 00:22:05.140
  • neighbor, you stay hurt about
  • 00:22:05.140 --> 00:22:07.110
  • something that, "You don't know
  • 00:22:07.110 --> 00:22:08.170
  • what they did to me."
  • 00:22:08.170 --> 00:22:09.230
  • I get it.
  • 00:22:09.230 --> 00:22:10.210
  • I'm with you.
  • 00:22:10.210 --> 00:22:11.270
  • But what's worse is if you hang
  • 00:22:11.270 --> 00:22:14.260
  • on to it.
  • 00:22:14.260 --> 00:22:16.130
  • So, we forgive because God
  • 00:22:16.170 --> 00:22:19.170
  • forgives when we forgive.
  • 00:22:19.250 --> 00:22:22.250
  • God releases when we release.
  • 00:22:23.020 --> 00:22:26.020
  • If we retain those sins, John
  • 00:22:26.020 --> 00:22:28.210
  • chapter 20, with unforgiveness,
  • 00:22:28.210 --> 00:22:31.120
  • those sins can become a part of
  • 00:22:31.120 --> 00:22:33.240
  • our lives.
  • 00:22:33.240 --> 00:22:35.040
  • So, we let it go.
  • 00:22:35.040 --> 00:22:37.110
  • "And don't be deceived; God is
  • 00:22:37.110 --> 00:22:39.290
  • not mocked.
  • 00:22:39.290 --> 00:22:41.040
  • Whatever a man sows, that shall
  • 00:22:41.040 --> 00:22:43.210
  • he reap."
  • 00:22:43.210 --> 00:22:44.230
  • So, I'm gonna sow grace and sow
  • 00:22:45.250 --> 00:22:48.250
  • mercy and sow love.
  • 00:22:48.250 --> 00:22:51.200
  • One time I had a ministry
  • 00:22:51.200 --> 00:22:52.230
  • friend, and he was struggling.
  • 00:22:52.230 --> 00:22:55.210
  • He'd opened the door to some
  • 00:22:55.210 --> 00:22:57.170
  • compromise in his life.
  • 00:22:57.170 --> 00:22:59.160
  • I wasn't sure how far it had
  • 00:22:59.160 --> 00:23:01.040
  • gone, but I went to him and I
  • 00:23:01.040 --> 00:23:03.000
  • said, "Bro, I'm with you.
  • 00:23:03.000 --> 00:23:05.170
  • We gotta work this out.
  • 00:23:05.170 --> 00:23:06.170
  • We gotta overcome.
  • 00:23:06.170 --> 00:23:07.160
  • We gotta find a way."
  • 00:23:07.160 --> 00:23:09.130
  • People were canceling his
  • 00:23:09.130 --> 00:23:10.240
  • invitations.
  • 00:23:10.240 --> 00:23:11.220
  • People were tellin' me, "You
  • 00:23:11.220 --> 00:23:12.290
  • shouldn't be associated with
  • 00:23:12.290 --> 00:23:14.160
  • that guy.
  • 00:23:14.160 --> 00:23:15.060
  • You don't wanna be friends with
  • 00:23:15.060 --> 00:23:16.220
  • him because they'll treat you
  • 00:23:16.220 --> 00:23:18.220
  • the same way they treat him."
  • 00:23:18.220 --> 00:23:21.070
  • And I said, "Well, I'm gonna
  • 00:23:21.070 --> 00:23:22.140
  • stand with my friend.
  • 00:23:22.140 --> 00:23:24.060
  • If I lose an invitation, if I
  • 00:23:24.060 --> 00:23:26.010
  • get, you know, disbanned from
  • 00:23:26.200 --> 00:23:29.200
  • something, so be it, but I'm not
  • 00:23:29.200 --> 00:23:32.140
  • gonna give up on a friend."
  • 00:23:32.140 --> 00:23:34.140
  • Why?
  • 00:23:34.140 --> 00:23:35.260
  • Remember where I started.
  • 00:23:35.260 --> 00:23:38.110
  • I'm the kid that moms told other
  • 00:23:38.110 --> 00:23:40.240
  • kids not to be around.
  • 00:23:40.290 --> 00:23:43.290
  • I'm in the rehab center at 19
  • 00:23:43.290 --> 00:23:46.070
  • years old.
  • 00:23:46.070 --> 00:23:47.260
  • I'm just tryin' not to go to
  • 00:23:47.260 --> 00:23:49.170
  • prison as a young person.
  • 00:23:50.000 --> 00:23:53.000
  • So how am I now gonna get all
  • 00:23:53.000 --> 00:23:55.010
  • uppity and judgmental and look
  • 00:23:55.010 --> 00:23:57.010
  • down my nose at somebody?
  • 00:23:57.010 --> 00:23:59.160
  • I just said, "Bro, we're with
  • 00:23:59.160 --> 00:24:01.070
  • you.
  • 00:24:01.070 --> 00:24:01.270
  • We wanna support you.
  • 00:24:01.270 --> 00:24:03.020
  • How can we help?"
  • 00:24:03.020 --> 00:24:04.080
  • And you know what?
  • 00:24:04.080 --> 00:24:06.100
  • He says in his story that we
  • 00:24:06.180 --> 00:24:09.180
  • stood with him and changed his
  • 00:24:09.180 --> 00:24:12.180
  • marriage, changed his future.
  • 00:24:12.180 --> 00:24:15.080
  • He went to a little marriage
  • 00:24:15.080 --> 00:24:16.190
  • seminar.
  • 00:24:16.190 --> 00:24:17.230
  • Him and his wife started praying
  • 00:24:17.230 --> 00:24:19.110
  • together.
  • 00:24:19.110 --> 00:24:20.260
  • They began to work things out.
  • 00:24:20.260 --> 00:24:22.290
  • And today, 20 years later, goin'
  • 00:24:22.290 --> 00:24:25.240
  • strong, serving God, a great
  • 00:24:25.240 --> 00:24:28.090
  • story, and a great testimony.
  • 00:24:30.060 --> 00:24:33.060
  • Sometimes I guess all of us
  • 00:24:35.120 --> 00:24:38.120
  • sometime need a friend, somebody
  • 00:24:38.280 --> 00:24:41.280
  • to stand with us, somebody to
  • 00:24:41.280 --> 00:24:43.060
  • say, "Come on, you're gonna make
  • 00:24:43.060 --> 00:24:45.050
  • it."
  • 00:24:45.050 --> 00:24:46.060
  • The other day, I called a guy,
  • 00:24:46.060 --> 00:24:48.190
  • said, "Bro, how you doin'?
  • 00:24:48.190 --> 00:24:50.150
  • Prayin' for you."
  • 00:24:50.150 --> 00:24:52.050
  • He said, "Thanks for callin' me.
  • 00:24:52.050 --> 00:24:54.030
  • You're the only one that calls."
  • 00:24:54.030 --> 00:24:55.220
  • He's been through a tragedy.
  • 00:24:55.220 --> 00:24:57.290
  • He's had a problem in his life.
  • 00:24:57.290 --> 00:25:00.140
  • He said to me, "You're the only
  • 00:25:00.140 --> 00:25:02.150
  • one that calls."
  • 00:25:02.150 --> 00:25:04.130
  • And so I said to him, "I'm all
  • 00:25:04.130 --> 00:25:06.140
  • you need, bro.
  • 00:25:06.140 --> 00:25:07.140
  • Me and God got you.
  • 00:25:07.140 --> 00:25:09.250
  • I'm all you need.
  • 00:25:09.250 --> 00:25:10.210
  • With the Lord, we got you."
  • 00:25:12.010 --> 00:25:15.010
  • You could be that guy for
  • 00:25:15.010 --> 00:25:16.070
  • somebody.
  • 00:25:16.070 --> 00:25:16.270
  • You could be that person for
  • 00:25:16.270 --> 00:25:18.120
  • somebody that says, "I'm there.
  • 00:25:18.120 --> 00:25:20.240
  • What can I do?
  • 00:25:20.240 --> 00:25:21.160
  • If all I can do is pray, I'm
  • 00:25:21.160 --> 00:25:23.050
  • there, and I'm
  • 00:25:23.050 --> 00:25:25.130
  • - Casey: Well, we're praying
  • 00:25:28.160 --> 00:25:29.120
  • that these Scriptures, these
  • 00:25:29.120 --> 00:25:30.240
  • truths, this message on
  • 00:25:30.240 --> 00:25:33.000
  • relationships gonna help you,
  • 00:25:33.000 --> 00:25:34.170
  • right?
  • 00:25:34.170 --> 00:25:35.140
  • That's why we do what we do.
  • 00:25:35.140 --> 00:25:36.290
  • We wanna help people, make a
  • 00:25:36.290 --> 00:25:38.150
  • difference in your life, make
  • 00:25:38.150 --> 00:25:39.220
  • your marriage better, make your
  • 00:25:39.220 --> 00:25:41.010
  • life better.
  • 00:25:41.010 --> 00:25:41.280
  • It's possible when you follow
  • 00:25:41.280 --> 00:25:44.080
  • God's ways.
  • 00:25:44.080 --> 00:25:44.290
  • - Wendy: Yeah, and, you know,
  • 00:25:44.290 --> 00:25:45.280
  • we get it, that relationships
  • 00:25:45.280 --> 00:25:47.190
  • have a lot of different, like,
  • 00:25:47.190 --> 00:25:49.190
  • hard spots and challenges, and
  • 00:25:49.190 --> 00:25:52.080
  • sometimes you kinda feel like,
  • 00:25:52.080 --> 00:25:53.110
  • "Man, I'm tryin' to do this
  • 00:25:53.110 --> 00:25:54.100
  • alone, and I'm frustrated."
  • 00:25:54.100 --> 00:25:56.140
  • Or, "I got my feelings hurt."
  • 00:25:56.140 --> 00:25:57.230
  • Or, "I feel abandoned."
  • 00:25:57.230 --> 00:25:59.080
  • But God does have a pathway of
  • 00:25:59.080 --> 00:26:01.210
  • relationships, and if you learn
  • 00:26:01.210 --> 00:26:04.040
  • God's pathway, which we were
  • 00:26:04.040 --> 00:26:05.100
  • just talkin' about, it's like
  • 00:26:05.100 --> 00:26:06.200
  • you begin to feel the win in
  • 00:26:06.200 --> 00:26:08.110
  • your life, and not be a victim,
  • 00:26:08.110 --> 00:26:09.250
  • but be a person that lives in
  • 00:26:09.250 --> 00:26:11.130
  • victory of having these great
  • 00:26:11.130 --> 00:26:13.150
  • God relationships in your life.
  • 00:26:13.150 --> 00:26:14.240
  • We're so glad that you've joined
  • 00:26:14.240 --> 00:26:16.100
  • in with us.
  • 00:26:16.100 --> 00:26:17.110
  • - Casey: Yeah, choose not to be
  • 00:26:17.110 --> 00:26:18.220
  • a victim.
  • 00:26:18.220 --> 00:26:19.200
  • Choose to overcome and get
  • 00:26:19.200 --> 00:26:22.050
  • better and get to what God
  • 00:26:22.050 --> 00:26:23.160
  • really wants for you, which is
  • 00:26:23.160 --> 00:26:25.240
  • abundant life, right?
  • 00:26:25.240 --> 00:26:27.020
  • That's his will for your
  • 00:26:27.020 --> 00:26:28.030
  • marriage, for every part of your
  • 00:26:28.030 --> 00:26:30.070
  • life, abundant life.
  • 00:26:30.070 --> 00:26:32.060
  • He has that planned for you.
  • 00:26:32.060 --> 00:26:35.010
  • Always go to CaseyTreat.com, and
  • 00:26:35.010 --> 00:26:37.140
  • you'll see the whole series
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