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June 7, 2019
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  • Jurgen Matthesius: Before Jesus preached to her,
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  • "Go and sin no more," he spoke for her.
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  • I believe we have no right to preach to a community
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  • we don't pray for.
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  • I said I don't believe we have a right to preach to a community
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  • that we don't pray for.
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  • We have no right to have somebody who wants to speak to,
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  • who wants to correct, who wants to say, "Go and sin more,"
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  • who has never spoken for, who has never prayed.
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  • Leanne Matthesius: Hey, welcome to Jurgen and Leanne TV.
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  • I have a great message for you today called "More Than Words."
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  • The greatest message you will ever preach is the life
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  • that you live.
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  • James tells us, our faith without works is dead.
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  • And Jesus said in Matthew chapter number 5,
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  • "You are the light of the world, and it's our good deeds
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  • that bring glory to our Father in heaven."
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  • Your life speaks, and I know you're going to be challenged
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  • and inspired in this message.
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  • So hang in there.
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  • Get ready for this Word, "More Than Words."
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  • Leanne: So we're going to start reading from the Book of James.
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  • In chapter number 2, it says this.
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  • "What good is it, dear brothers and sisters, if you say you have
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  • faith but don't show it by your actions?
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  • Can that find a--kind of faith save anyone?
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  • Suppose you see a brother or a sister who has no food or
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  • clothing and then you say, 'Goodbye.
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  • Have a good day.
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  • Stay warm and eat well but then you don't give that person
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  • any food or clothing, what good does that do?
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  • So you see, faith by itself isn't enough.'"
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  • It may sounds a little bit sacrilegious, doesn't it?
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  • But here, this is the words of James that he's speaking to the
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  • early church. This isn't even Old Testament.
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  • This is new.
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  • Faith by itself isn't enough unless it produces good deeds.
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  • And if it doesn't, it's dead and it's useless.
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  • "Now someone may argue, 'Some people have faith and other
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  • people have good deeds But I say, 'How can you show me your
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  • faith if you don't have good deeds?
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  • I will show you my faith by my good deeds" Glory.
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  • Hallelujah.
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  • Many of us are familiar with that Scripture: "Faith without
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  • works are dead."
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  • So in other words, if you've got Jesus in your heart, we're going
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  • to start to see manifest in your life, and we are ever so
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  • imperfectly, the Bible says, being slowly sometimes
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  • transformed or conformed into the image of Jesus, into the
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  • image of God son.
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  • So you'll find that when you get saved, your heart goes through a
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  • transformation but sometimes it takes a little bit of time for
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  • your actions to catch up with what happened in your heart.
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  • But we're actually called to be transformed and eventually
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  • people see--should see the light of Jesus shining out of your
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  • life.
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  • So in this message today, I want to talk about four areas where
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  • your life speaks, where your life speaks.
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  • Now, I want you to buckle up because it's one of those spicy
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  • messages that I'm kind of a little bit famous for, and
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  • because I've been a pastor for 27 years, I love you too much to
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  • lie to you.
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  • And I might be prophet and I'll declare that God is doing a new
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  • thing, but I want to tell you the behavior shifts you may need
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  • to consider or the mind renewal you may need to grab ahold of in
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  • order to walk into the new thing that God has for you.
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  • I've been a pastor too long to lie to you.
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  • I want you to live your best life, and sometimes it's simply
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  • because we're unaware.
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  • So today, we're going to come into a place of enlightenment
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  • and awareness and we're going to look at four areas where your
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  • life speaks so much louder than your words.
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  • Can somebody say amen today?
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  • The first place that I want to talk about today where your life
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  • speaks is as it relates to your relationships, specifically your
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  • spouse.
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  • Point number one is your spouse speaks.
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  • If your spouse was a walking message, what would it say about
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  • your ability to steward the one that God has given you?
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  • Let me talk to the men for a second.
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  • So God makes Adam--so the Bible says God is playing around in
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  • the dust and all of a sudden a man pops out.
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  • He gets in there.
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  • He's in the dust and the dirt and fashions a man and then he
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  • looks down and he's like, "You know what, fellas?
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  • It's no good for man to be alone.
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  • I need to make a helper comparable to him."
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  • So God comes down and he puts Adam into a deep sleep.
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  • He's like, "Adam, in order for this to be just so, so, I'm
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  • going to have to put you out for a couple of hours.
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  • I don't need your involvement.
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  • I'm going to do this myself."
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  • And so the Lord puts Adam to sleep, and then the Bible says
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  • he removes a rib from the man and he hand-makes and fashions a
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  • woman.
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  • So here's the problem that I see in relation to some marriages.
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  • Men don't understand that their wife is actually the missing
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  • piece that they need to function in wholeness, and they're
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  • walking around life like this.
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  • Maybe not literally but spiritually, and all the angels
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  • are looking down going, "What is wrong with that dude?
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  • You know what?
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  • He doesn't realize that his wife was the missing piece.
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  • He thinks he can do it his way." You know what?
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  • And the Bible is very clear that we are equal partners.
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  • In other words, she has strengths that brings strength
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  • to your areas of weakness.
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  • So the Lord said, "I'm going to give Adam a helpmate."
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  • And some men only see her as mate.
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  • Oh, good for mating.
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  • She's got all the parts required for that.
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  • That sounds like a fabulous job description for her, but
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  • because--no, no, no, don't forget the first part of the
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  • title: help, help, help, help.
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  • Now, why did God give Adam a helpmate?
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  • Because he needed help.
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  • And men, you will be smart if you understand that woman that
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  • lies next to you every night is not just there for mating but
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  • also for helping.
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  • "Or she can dawn my socks.
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  • She can make my favorite meal."
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  • No, she's been sent to help, which means you're going to have
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  • to put your pride down in some areas and have a conversation
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  • with this woman that has been sent to you as a gift.
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  • And I got to tell you, when I see women that are shut down and
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  • insecure and lack confidence and can't string a sentence together
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  • and don't know what they think or believe, I kind of have to
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  • think to myself, "What kind of environment has her husband
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  • created for her at home?
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  • Why does she lack confidence?
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  • Where's her sparkle?"
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  • And contrary to popular belief, I don't believe that God made
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  • any human without sparkle.
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  • None of us are boring.
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  • And in your--if your wife is a little bit dull, don't criticize
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  • her and sing, "I wish that I had Jessie's girl.
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  • Doo, doo, doo, doo."
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  • Hey, if God gave you Jessie's girl, would she end up dull too
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  • if you were taking care of her?
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  • Oh, you got to get that rag out called honor and encouragement
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  • and sparkle--and let that diamond come to life with
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  • sparkling and wash away her fears and wash away her
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  • insecurities and wash away her inhibitions and give her the
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  • space like the Proverbs 31 man did in order to become a woman
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  • who was not just savvy in the home front but also well
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  • respected in the community.
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  • I mean, this woman was a boss.
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  • And many men would say, "Oh, I want a Proverbs 31 woman.
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  • I put it on my Pinterest board and I wrote it on my vision card
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  • at the beginning of the year.
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  • 'Lord, give me a Proverbs 31 woman with the body of Pamela
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  • Anderson and the face of, you know, like the greatest
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  • supermodel of all time and the voice of--actually, Lord, I'd
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  • prefer she be mute.
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  • Voice is optional" But--I know it hurt so good, but that's not
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  • how it's meant to be.
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  • Here's what Peter said to the church.
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  • If you think I'm making this up, somebody said it before I did.
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  • 1 Peter 3, verse 7, "In the same way, you husbands, you must give
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  • honor to your wives.
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  • Treat your wife with understanding as you live
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  • together." Why did Peter to say that?
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  • Because sometimes women are going to be hard to understand.
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  • I'm just going to put it out there, right?
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  • And many men will say this.
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  • "I want an adventure.
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  • I want to climb Kilimanjaro.
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  • I want to swim with sharks.
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  • I want to hunt lions."
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  • But I want to tell you guys, you've married the greatest
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  • adventure you will ever embark upon.
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  • Don't be a wuss in the home and be brave in the jungle.
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  • Come on, you've been given a gift and what that gift looks
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  • like depends on how you steward it.
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  • Stop trying to make her like you.
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  • She's not like you. She's like her.
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  • You're better together and that's why it works.
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  • Now, I think one of the greatest things that a man or a woman can
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  • do for their spouses: allow their other half to think and
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  • feel and have an opinion on their own.
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  • To listen.
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  • Listen to them.
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  • Validate them.
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  • I'm telling you a whole lot of things are resolved when there's
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  • communication and conversation.
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  • But if it has to be, "My way or the highway 'cause I'm the man
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  • and the woman must submit at all costs."
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  • Well, here's what the Bible says.
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  • Again, Peter speaking.
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  • He says this.
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  • "She may be weaker than you are--" in some areas, not
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  • intellectually but certainly in some cases physically; although
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  • I do know some very buff women that could beat a whole lot of
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  • y'all in an arm wrestle.
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  • "She may be weaker than you, but she is your equal in God's gift
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  • of new life.
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  • I want you to treat that woman as you should so your prayers
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  • will not be hindered." Isn't that amazing?
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  • God's saying, "You know, that's my daughter you got in your
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  • household there and like any good father, I'm going to be
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  • watching how you treat her."
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  • And if you're wondering why God isn't answering your prayers,
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  • maybe took a let--a look at the way that you stewarding and
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  • loving and honoring that wife that's in your house.
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  • And if I can add to this equation, the Bible there says,
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  • you know, love her even in her areas of weakness and
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  • vulnerability.
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  • You know what I think the definition of a bully is?
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  • Somebody who uses someone else's area of vulnerability and
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  • weakness as an opportunity to manipulate them, control them,
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  • and dominate them.
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  • Don't be like that.
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  • Your wife is a gift, and the way she looks will determine--and
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  • the way she acts in life and the joy that you even experienced
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  • out of her will come down to the way that you steward what God
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  • has put in your home.
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  • Somebody say amen.
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  • Now that hurt, didn't it?
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  • But don't worry, man.
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  • I am not sexist.
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  • So I've got a page completely devoted to the women.
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  • Proverbs 12:4 says this: "A wife of a noble character is her
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  • husband's crown."
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  • Somebody say, "Amen." Yeah.
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  • "But a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones."
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  • Some version say, "Cancer in his bones."
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  • Okay, girls, look at me for a second.
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  • Look at me.
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  • Every wife has the potential to be a kingmaker.
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  • "A wife of noble character is her husband's crown."
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  • Girls, we can make him or we can break him.
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  • And you know how we do this most predominantly?
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  • With our words, with our words.
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  • You know what?
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  • Sometimes it's not just what we say, and it is important what we
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  • say, but it's what we don't say.
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  • I'm telling you, there are some sticky words out there that
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  • linger long after the argument or the insult has passed and
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  • those words stick on people's spirits.
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  • And when I think about a man, I think about the fact that God
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  • gave him an ego for a reason.
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  • They were meant to take ground.
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  • They were meant to suck cities.
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  • They were meant to go get the Promised Land and take over
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  • Jericho.
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  • But I'm telling you, it's amazing what happens when you
  • 00:13:03.130 --> 00:13:05.270
  • send out, not a word of encouragement but a word of
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  • discouragement.
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  • "You'll never--you're always making mistakes.
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  • You're so reckless.
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  • I can't trust you.
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  • You're always messing up.
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  • I don't believe you're going to do that."
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  • Man--ladies, God has entrusted us with this very special
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  • possession called the ego of a man.
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  • And while it looks very big, it is also very fragile.
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  • It's also very fragile, and you'll either build your house
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  • or tear it down depending on what you do with that great gift
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  • that has been entrusted to you.
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  • I love it.
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  • The Bible says in 1 Peter chapter 3, "Be good wives to
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  • your husbands.
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  • Be responsive to their needs."
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  • And I'll let you think on that, all right?
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  • You think on that.
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  • There are husbands who may be indifferent as they are to any
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  • words about God, and Peter is saying here, "Women, you may be
  • 00:14:01.160 --> 00:14:04.270
  • married to someone who isn't a Christian, who doesn't share
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  • your faith."
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  • And now--does it say in this Scripture that those women are
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  • meant to stand in front of those men praying in tongues and
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  • binding the devil or does it say that he wants them to be
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  • captivated by your life of holy beauty?
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  • So if some of them are unbelieving, they would become
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  • to know--they would come to know God through the character of
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  • your life.
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  • Man, by all means pray for that man who doesn't believe in the
  • 00:14:32.100 --> 00:14:35.180
  • Lord; but more than anything else, your life is the greatest
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  • message you'll ever preach.
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  • Maybe cook him his favorite meal.
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  • Make love to him more than once a month.
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  • You'll find that man will be chasing you to church.
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  • You will be a living connect card.
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  • Glory. Hallelujah.
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  • The Lord is real and the Lord is good.
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  • Come on.
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  • Okay, man, you can send your offerings to--no, I'm just
  • 00:15:03.040 --> 00:15:05.170
  • kidding.
  • 00:15:05.180 --> 00:15:09.150
  • But many of us say, "Oh, I want a Joshua.
  • 00:15:10.060 --> 00:15:12.210
  • Oh, give me a Joshua.
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  • Someone who knows to take--knows how to take ground, who knows
  • 00:15:15.050 --> 00:15:17.180
  • how to sack a city, who knows how to get me into my Promised
  • 00:15:17.190 --> 00:15:19.250
  • Land."
  • 00:15:19.260 --> 00:15:21.030
  • But you know what God had to do over and over and over again to
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  • create a Joshua?
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  • Be strong and courageous.
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  • Be strong and very courageous.
  • 00:15:27.150 --> 00:15:29.150
  • "I am with you wherever you go."
  • 00:15:29.160 --> 00:15:31.150
  • Does your man know that you're with him, that you're on his
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  • side?
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  • I remember having a conversation with my husband once and we were
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  • in a stalemate in our relationship, and I want to
  • 00:15:39.020 --> 00:15:41.050
  • encourage you today.
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  • You will always go through more famine seasons.
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  • Every single one of us will go through a famine season in our
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  • relationships, but they need not be the end of a marriage.
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  • Push through and learn to do what's right.
  • 00:15:51.200 --> 00:15:53.210
  • And I remember kind of exasperatedly saying to my
  • 00:15:53.220 --> 00:15:56.190
  • husband, "What is it that you want from me?"
  • 00:15:56.200 --> 00:16:01.110
  • And in vulnerability he said really quietly, "Leanne,
  • 00:16:01.120 --> 00:16:05.130
  • I just want a cheerleader."
  • 00:16:05.140 --> 00:16:09.200
  • And I said, "It's the short skirts, isn't it?"
  • 00:16:09.210 --> 00:16:13.090
  • And he said, "Yes, yes it is.
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  • And also, I want someone who will cheer for me, whether I'm
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  • winning or I'm losing."
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  • Girls, you're a kingmaker.
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  • We can make him or we can break him.
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  • Here's the thing that I'm noticing, and maybe you have
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  • too; that right now it's extremely en vogue to be all,
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  • "Girl power. Wonder Woman.
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  • Women are the saviors of the entire world.
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  • Look at us, we're noble.
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  • We're honorable.
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  • We're strong.
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  • We're moral.
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  • We're virtuous.
  • 00:16:54.030 --> 00:16:55.220
  • We are the saviors of the day, but not the men.
  • 00:16:55.230 --> 00:16:58.170
  • The men are the criminals and they're villains and they're
  • 00:16:58.180 --> 00:17:04.250
  • selfish and they're stupid.
  • 00:17:04.260 --> 00:17:07.040
  • Look at him back there."
  • 00:17:07.050 --> 00:17:08.120
  • I mean, half the ads we see, the men, it's like he's sharing half
  • 00:17:08.130 --> 00:17:13.060
  • a brain with the rest of the male race.
  • 00:17:13.070 --> 00:17:16.000
  • This is what they're trying to perpetuate out there and we
  • 00:17:16.010 --> 00:17:18.210
  • wonder why the men don't look like we want them to look like.
  • 00:17:18.220 --> 00:17:21.280
  • "I am a woman.
  • 00:17:21.290 --> 00:17:23.060
  • Hear me roar in number is too big to ignore, and we've come
  • 00:17:23.070 --> 00:17:26.180
  • too far to go back and pretend."
  • 00:17:26.190 --> 00:17:28.080
  • Okay, that woman is single, that woman is single.
  • 00:17:28.090 --> 00:17:34.010
  • How about we prefer one another over ourselves?
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  • That's how the Bible says.
  • 00:17:39.020 --> 00:17:41.030
  • We build a marriage.
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  • "Oh, girl power."
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  • Hey, how about you esteem that man that God's put in your
  • 00:17:43.270 --> 00:17:46.160
  • household instead of piping off about how your love tank
  • 00:17:46.170 --> 00:17:49.040
  • isn't filled? Oh, yeah.
  • 00:17:49.050 --> 00:17:51.280
  • I know that hurt somebody.
  • 00:17:51.290 --> 00:17:58.070
  • If we want a different harvest, we have to sow different seed.
  • 00:17:58.080 --> 00:18:01.290
  • In 1 Peter 3:6, it says this.
  • 00:18:02.000 --> 00:18:05.010
  • "Just as Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord--"
  • 00:18:05.020 --> 00:18:10.130
  • Wow, all right.
  • 00:18:10.140 --> 00:18:11.290
  • Let's just--yeah, that stinks.
  • 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:16.230
  • "Just as Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord, you are her
  • 00:18:16.240 --> 00:18:20.010
  • children if you do what's right and refuse to quiver in fear."
  • 00:18:20.020 --> 00:18:24.060
  • What's Peter talking about?
  • 00:18:24.070 --> 00:18:25.270
  • The power of honor.
  • 00:18:25.280 --> 00:18:27.210
  • He will either live up or down to your words.
  • 00:18:27.220 --> 00:18:30.020
  • Now, I'm not saying we need to reach into the dark ages
  • 00:18:30.030 --> 00:18:32.080
  • and start calling our husbands lord again, okay?
  • 00:18:32.090 --> 00:18:34.230
  • And I'm telling you, they'll probably love it, wouldn't they?
  • 00:18:34.240 --> 00:18:37.020
  • But I'm talking about encouragement, encouragement.
  • 00:18:37.030 --> 00:18:42.110
  • I feel like definitely in this day and age, we've become very
  • 00:18:42.120 --> 00:18:48.190
  • aware, keenly aware of the feelings of women and their
  • 00:18:48.200 --> 00:18:52.090
  • needs and their wants and their love language and we've
  • 00:18:52.100 --> 00:18:54.140
  • disregarded what our men need.
  • 00:18:54.150 --> 00:18:57.080
  • And men are the anchor of a home, girls.
  • 00:18:57.090 --> 00:18:59.210
  • So goes the man, so goes the family.
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  • Come on, your spouse speaks more than words, more than words.
  • 00:19:02.080 --> 00:19:07.040
  • Somebody better stay--say, "Amen."
  • 00:19:07.050 --> 00:19:09.190
  • Say, "Amen."
  • 00:19:09.200 --> 00:19:11.270
  • Point number two--just settle back in your chairs for a second
  • 00:19:11.280 --> 00:19:16.270
  • and say, "Yes, Jesus loves me."
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  • When you give your word, keep it.
  • 00:19:21.270 --> 00:19:29.000
  • You know, our word is one of the only things we have
  • 00:19:29.010 --> 00:19:33.230
  • to simultaneously give but also keep.
  • 00:19:33.240 --> 00:19:36.280
  • You know, the Bible says that God watches over his Word to
  • 00:19:38.070 --> 00:19:42.130
  • perform it.
  • 00:19:42.140 --> 00:19:44.100
  • In other words, God is a man of his word and we are not ever
  • 00:19:44.110 --> 00:19:48.000
  • more like God than when we're keeping our word.
  • 00:19:48.010 --> 00:19:50.130
  • Here is what the Bible says in 1 John 2: "Whoever keeps his word,
  • 00:19:50.140 --> 00:19:54.060
  • in him truly the love of God is perfected.
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  • By this, we may know that we are in him."
  • 00:19:58.070 --> 00:20:00.220
  • What?
  • 00:20:00.230 --> 00:20:02.160
  • We can know that we're in him by keeping our word?
  • 00:20:02.170 --> 00:20:06.010
  • That's in--that's one of those ouchy Scriptures,
  • 00:20:06.020 --> 00:20:07.240
  • one of those kale Scriptures.
  • 00:20:07.250 --> 00:20:09.290
  • That isn't a Skittle's word, that's a kale word.
  • 00:20:10.000 --> 00:20:13.190
  • And not Baby Kale, the spiky kale that tastes like cardboard
  • 00:20:13.200 --> 00:20:19.230
  • that isn't good to you, but certainly is good for you.
  • 00:20:19.240 --> 00:20:22.270
  • That's one of those words right there.
  • 00:20:22.280 --> 00:20:25.010
  • And I suspected that this generation is one of the
  • 00:20:25.020 --> 00:20:28.070
  • flakiness generations of all time, and I did some research
  • 00:20:28.080 --> 00:20:32.060
  • and I found out that this generation is one of the
  • 00:20:32.070 --> 00:20:34.190
  • flakiest generations of all time.
  • 00:20:34.200 --> 00:20:36.100
  • So the statistics are that 45% of this current generation have
  • 00:20:36.110 --> 00:20:41.270
  • no problem with RSVPing yes to an event and then not
  • 00:20:41.280 --> 00:20:45.170
  • showing up.
  • 00:20:45.180 --> 00:20:46.120
  • They don't see it as bad manners.
  • 00:20:46.130 --> 00:20:49.050
  • They don't see it as an inconvenience to the host.
  • 00:20:49.060 --> 00:20:51.120
  • They just think it's no big deal.
  • 00:20:51.130 --> 00:20:54.250
  • "Hey, I click yes. I didn't turn up.
  • 00:20:54.260 --> 00:20:56.210
  • So what?"
  • 00:20:56.220 --> 00:20:57.290
  • Well, the Bible tells us to let our yes to be yes and our no be
  • 00:20:58.000 --> 00:21:02.210
  • no.
  • 00:21:02.220 --> 00:21:03.270
  • Nobody's making you say yes.
  • 00:21:03.280 --> 00:21:05.150
  • Nobody's holding a gun to your head.
  • 00:21:05.160 --> 00:21:07.150
  • But if you say yes, you have now sent out your word ahead of you,
  • 00:21:07.160 --> 00:21:10.240
  • and just like God, we need to be watching over our words to
  • 00:21:10.250 --> 00:21:14.030
  • perform them.
  • 00:21:14.040 --> 00:21:15.290
  • Do you know what the greatest reasons cited for flaking on a
  • 00:21:16.000 --> 00:21:20.200
  • commitment is? Tiredness.
  • 00:21:20.210 --> 00:21:24.290
  • What in the--what is--when did we become snowflakes?
  • 00:21:25.000 --> 00:21:30.100
  • What happened to us where now being tired was a reason not to
  • 00:21:30.110 --> 00:21:35.060
  • go somewhere and be somewhere you said you were going to be?
  • 00:21:35.070 --> 00:21:38.130
  • I mean, think about it for a second.
  • 00:21:38.140 --> 00:21:41.120
  • If you constantly flake on events because of tiredness, I
  • 00:21:41.130 --> 00:21:44.080
  • want you to find a mother of a newborn who has several other
  • 00:21:44.090 --> 00:21:49.260
  • children, who she has to get to school on time regardless of
  • 00:21:49.270 --> 00:21:53.250
  • what happened the night before, who also has a part-time job
  • 00:21:53.260 --> 00:21:58.220
  • with deadlines and a very needy husband and then please tell her
  • 00:21:58.230 --> 00:22:03.210
  • more about how tired you are and how you couldn't commit to your
  • 00:22:03.220 --> 00:22:06.150
  • commitments because you've worked 13 hours this week and
  • 00:22:06.160 --> 00:22:09.210
  • you're still hurting from the tattoo you got on your forearm.
  • 00:22:09.220 --> 00:22:13.090
  • I'd really love to hear more about that.
  • 00:22:13.100 --> 00:22:21.170
  • What about this little Christian duty that we've all had?
  • 00:22:21.180 --> 00:22:23.270
  • "Oh, I was there in spirit. I was there in spirit, brother."
  • 00:22:23.280 --> 00:22:28.240
  • Okay, let's have a science lesson.
  • 00:22:28.250 --> 00:22:32.230
  • Your spirit is in your body
  • 00:22:32.240 --> 00:22:35.230
  • until you go home to be with Jesus.
  • 00:22:35.240 --> 00:22:39.080
  • So your spirit wasn't at the party, the church event, the
  • 00:22:39.090 --> 00:22:43.040
  • church service that you promised you were going to be at.
  • 00:22:43.050 --> 00:22:46.220
  • It's at home with you with your lazy butt sitting on the couch,
  • 00:22:46.230 --> 00:22:50.100
  • not doing what you said you were going to do.
  • 00:22:50.110 --> 00:22:53.180
  • The spirit's in here.
  • 00:22:53.190 --> 00:22:55.290
  • It's not there, it's here.
  • 00:22:56.000 --> 00:23:02.110
  • Are you on time?
  • 00:23:02.120 --> 00:23:07.000
  • Punctuality is a virtue of princes.
  • 00:23:07.010 --> 00:23:09.240
  • You want to be elevated?
  • 00:23:09.250 --> 00:23:11.010
  • Man, it doesn't even matter if you're less gifted than
  • 00:23:11.020 --> 00:23:14.040
  • the person next to you.
  • 00:23:14.050 --> 00:23:15.110
  • If you're on time, you've become the most promotable person in
  • 00:23:15.120 --> 00:23:18.120
  • the group.
  • 00:23:18.130 --> 00:23:19.180
  • You think about how much lateness and inability to keep
  • 00:23:19.190 --> 00:23:25.250
  • time throws your life into chaos.
  • 00:23:25.260 --> 00:23:30.000
  • Absolutely. Kids can't enjoy sports teams.
  • 00:23:30.010 --> 00:23:32.180
  • They're always embarrassed at school because they got more
  • 00:23:32.190 --> 00:23:35.270
  • tardies than ever--every other kid in the history of time has
  • 00:23:35.280 --> 00:23:38.200
  • ever had.
  • 00:23:38.210 --> 00:23:40.100
  • Yeah, it throws our life into chaos, but more than that when
  • 00:23:40.110 --> 00:23:43.210
  • you're constantly late, tells everybody else around you,
  • 00:23:43.220 --> 00:23:47.020
  • "I am more important than you."
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  • Leanne: Hey, thanks so much for watching.
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  • I hope you enjoyed this message, "More Than Words."
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  • One final breathe this lungs could breathe,
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  • I shout your praise.
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  • I shout your victory.
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  • I lift your name.
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  • I lift the power of the cross.
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  • The battle is over
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  • Jesus Christ has won it all.
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  • Jesus Christ is Lord of all.
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  • Every battle has been won.
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  • There's freedom in his blood.
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  • No matter where I run, I can't escape his love.
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  • The battle's over and Jesus Christ has won it all.
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  • The battle's over and Jesus Christ has won it all.
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  • Jesus Christ is Lord of all.
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  • Jesus Christ.
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  • I shout your praise.
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  • I shout your victory.
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  • I lift your name, I lift the power of the cross.
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  • The battle's over and Jesus Christ has won it all.
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  • Jesus Christ.
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  • I shout your praise.
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  • I shout your victory.
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  • I lift your name, I lift the power of the cross.
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  • The battle's over and Jesus Christ has won it all.
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  • And Jesus Christ is Lord of all.
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  • The battle's over and Jesus Christ has won it all.
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  • And Jesus Christ is Lord of all.
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  • male: C'mon, lift up praise.
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