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The Differece: Dr. Kevin Leman | The Power of Parenting

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  • MUSIC
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  • MATT HAGEE: HAVE YOU EVER
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  • WONDERED HOW SIBLINGS CAN BE
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  • SO DIFFERENT?
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  • WHY ONE CHILD MIGHT BE
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  • A DAILY CHALLENGE,
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  • AND ANOTHER ONE HARDLY EVER IS?
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  • TODAY, WE'RE GOING TO DISCOVER
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  • HOW BIRTH ORDER
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  • HAS AN EFFECT ON WHY WE ARE
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  • THE WAY WE ARE.
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: JOINING US TODAY
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  • IS NEW YORK TIME'S BEST-SELLING
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  • AUTHOR, DR. KEVIN LEMAN.
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  • HE'S WITTY.
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  • HE'S ENTERTAINING.
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  • AND HE'S GOING TO BRING US
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  • COMMONSENSE PSYCHOLOGY TO HELP
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  • US UNDERSTAND OUR CHILDREN
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  • AND OUR SPOUSES,
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  • BASED ON BIRTH ORDER.
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  • MATT HAGEE: TODAY'S SHOW IS
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  • GOING TO MAKE A REAL DIFFERENCE
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  • IN YOUR LIFE.
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  • MUSIC
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: WELCOME TO
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  • "THE DIFFERENCE."
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  • JOINING US NOW
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  • IS INTERNATIONALLY-KNOWN
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  • PSYCHOLOGIST AND HOST OF
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  • "HAVE A NEW KID BY FRIDAY"
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  • PODCAST, DR. KEVIN LEMAN.
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  • MATT HAGEE: KEVIN, THANK YOU
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  • FOR JOINING US TODAY.
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  • WE'RE SO HONORED TO HAVE YOU.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: THANK YOU.
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  • MATT HAGEE: YOU KNOW
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  • YOUR CONTENT HAS CREATED
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  • QUITE A CONVERSATION
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  • AROUND OUR DINNER TABLE.
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  • AND A LOT OF IT IS CENTERED
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  • AROUND JUST YOUR KIND OF VERY
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  • MATTER-OF-FACT AND PRACTICAL
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  • APPROACH TO THE DIFFERENT TYPES
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  • OF CHILDREN THAT CAN EXIST
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  • IN ONE FAMILY.
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  • AND YOU KNOW WE HAVE FOUR
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  • CHILDREN AND WHAT WE ARE AWARE
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  • OF IS THE FACT THAT THEY ALL
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  • CAME FROM A VERY, YOU KNOW,
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  • COMMON SOURCE,
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  • BUT HAVE VERY UNCOMMON TRAITS
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  • BETWEEN THE TWO OF THEM.
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  • HOW DOES ONE FAMILY HAVE
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  • SO MANY DIFFERENT KIDS?
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: ISN'T THAT
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  • AMAZING HOW THREE OR FOUR
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  • LITTLE CUBS COULD COME OUT OF
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  • THE SAME DEN AND BE SO UNIQUE
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  • AND SO DIFFERENT?
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  • WELL --
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  • MATT HAGEE: ONE'S
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  • A CUDDLING BEAR
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  • AND ONE'S A GRIZZLY BEAR.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YEAH.
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  • YOU KNOW WHAT?
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  • THAT FIRSTBORN COMES OUT
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  • IN LIFE.
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  • THEY LOOK UP AND WHAT DO
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  • THEY SEE?
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  • THEY SEE ADULTS.
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  • SO THE LITTLE FIRSTBORNS,
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  • THEY BECOME THE RULE MAKERS.
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  • THEY TEND TO BE
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  • PERFECTIONISTIC.
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  • THERE'S A RIGHT WAY TO DO
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  • THINGS.
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  • OUR FIRSTBORN WE CALLED
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  • JUDGE JUDY FOR SEVERAL YEARS.
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  • (LAUGHTER)
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  • SHE COULD RUN OUR THREE LIVES
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  • SIMULTANEOUSLY
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  • AND DO A PRETTY GOOD JOB.
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  • AND AS YOU GO THROUGH
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  • THE BIRTH ORDER,
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  • THAT SECOND BORN CHILD IS
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  • USUALLY NIGHT AND DAY DIFFERENT
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  • FROM THAT FIRSTBORN.
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  • OKAY.
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  • AND AS YOU GO DOWN THROUGH,
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  • THE FIRSTBORNS TEND TO BE THE
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  • RELIABLE CONSCIENTIOUS ONES.
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  • OKAY.
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  • PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES,
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  • FIRSTBORN CHILDREN
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  • IN HUGE NUMBERS.
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  • ASTRONAUTS IN OUTER SPACE,
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  • THE FIRST 23,
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  • 21 FIRSTBORNS,
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  • TWO ONLY'S.
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: WOW.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: SO IF YOUR
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  • YOUNGEST DAUGHTER OR YOUNGEST
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  • SON IS SAYING, "MOMMY,
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  • I WANT TO BE AN ASTRONAUT,"
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  • THIS WOULD BE A REAL
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  • GOOD TIME TO TAKE THEM DOWN
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  • TO WHATABURGER AND SHOW THEM
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  • WHAT THE FRY COOK DOES.
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  • MATT HAGEE: MAYBE FOR HALLOWEEN
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  • OR SOMETHING.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YEAH, EXACTLY.
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  • AND SO BABIES OF THE FAMILY,
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  • THEY TEND TO BE THE
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  • AFFECTIONATE, OUTGOING --
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  • MATT HAGEE: SOCIAL CHARACTERS.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: OH, YEAH.
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  • THEY NEVER MET A STRANGER.
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  • AND IF YOU NAME A COMEDIAN --
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  • I MEAN BILLY CRYSTAL,
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  • JIMMY FALLON, JIMMY KIMMEL,
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  • WHOOPI, ELLEN,
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  • STEVE MARTIN, CHEVY CHASE;
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  • THEY'RE ALL BABIES
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  • OF THE FAMILY.
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  • WELL HOW COME YOUNGEST CHILDREN
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  • TEND TO BE THOSE LITTLE
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  • AFFECTIONATE, OUTGOING,
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  • GET PEOPLE TO LAUGH AT THEM?
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  • BECAUSE THEY COULDN'T COMPETE
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  • WITH WHAT'S ABOVE THEM
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  • IN THE FAMILY.
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  • SO ISN'T THAT AMAZING?
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  • GOD MADE US ALL -- WHAT?
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: DIFFERENT THAN
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  • ME.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: SO AS PARENTS,
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  • WHAT DO WE DO?
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  • WE SAY, "ALL RIGHT.
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  • EVERYBODY LISTEN UP.
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  • I WANT EVERYBODY IN BED NOW."
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: AND ONLY ONE
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  • OR TWO MOVE, AND THE OTHER --
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  • IT'S LIKE AN --
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: WELL,
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  • WE KNOW THAT BECAUSE --
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  • MATT HAGEE: IN OUR HOUSE,
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  • I CAN TELL YOU WHAT HAPPENS.
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  • THE FIRSTBORN PUTS HER LIGHTS
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  • OUT AND SHE GOES RIGHT TO BED.
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: ORGANIZES
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  • EVERYTHING BEFORE SHE GOES
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  • TO BED.
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  • MATT HAGEE: THE BABY,
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  • SHE WANTS TO HAVE A DRAMATIC
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  • WALK FROM THE LIVING ROOM
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  • TO THE BEDROOM,
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  • IN WHICH EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW
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  • THAT SHE IS ON HER WAY TO BED.
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: A PARADE.
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  • MATT HAGEE: AND THEN
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  • THE TWO MIDDLE BOYS,
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  • THEY'RE LOOK FOR WAYS TO HIDE.
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  • I REMEMBERED THAT I NEEDED
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  • TO BRUSH MY TEETH.
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  • OH, THAT PAIR OF SOCKS
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  • THAT I NEEDED TO FIND;
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  • YOU KNOW?
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: MATT,
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  • WE HAVE SEEN THE ENEMY
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  • AND THEY ARE SMALL.
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  • (LAUGHTER)
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: AND THEY'RE
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  • UNIONIZED.
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  • MATT HAGEE: AND WE'RE OUT
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  • NUMBERED.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: AND THEY HAVE
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  • A GAME PLAN.
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  • AND THAT IS SO CHARACTERISTIC.
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  • THE LITTLE RULE MAKER GOES
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  • TO BED RIGHT.
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  • AND THE LITTLE SNOOKI'S DOING
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  • THE -- HER ENTREE --.
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  • MATT HAGEE: EXACTLY.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: -- OR
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  • HER EXIT.
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  • MATT HAGEE: I'M ON MY WAY TO
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  • THE BEDROOM.
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YOU KNOW
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  • THERE'S SO MUCH HUMOR IN THIS.
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  • HERE'S ONE FOR YOU, TWINS.
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  • IDENTICAL TWINS
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  • HAVE THE SAME DNA.
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  • THEY'RE GENETICALLY THE SAME
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  • PERSON.
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  • I WAS TELLING MY FRIEND, JOHN,
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  • EARLIER TODAY;
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  • I SAID, "ISN'T THAT AMAZING
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  • THAT GOD DECIDED TO GIVE TWINS
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  • DIFFERENT FINGERPRINTS?
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  • AND I REMEMBER LAUGHING
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  • AND CRYING WHEN I HEARD THAT.
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  • ISN'T IT JUST LIKE GOD TO SAY
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  • WHY?
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  • WHY DO THEY DO THAT?
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  • TO HELP THE FBI?
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  • OR IS THIS GOD'S WAY OF SAYING,
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  • "YOU ARE MY SON,"
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  • "YOU ARE MY DAUGHTER,"
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  • "YOU ARE --" WHAT?
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  • "-- DIFFERENT THAN EVERYONE
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  • ELSE."
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  • SO AS PARENTS,
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  • DO WE TREAT OUR KIDS
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  • DIFFERENTLY?
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  • I THINK WE SHOULD.
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  • DOES GOD TREAT US DIFFERENTLY?
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  • HE GAVE US ALL DIFFERENT GIFTS.
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  • WE DON'T ALL HAVE
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  • THE SAME GIFTS.
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  • WE HAVE DIFFERENT TALENTS
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  • AND DIFFERENT GIFTS.
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  • MATT HAGEE: WELL, YOU KNOW,
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  • IN THE BIBLE,
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  • THERE'S IN THE NEW TESTAMENT,
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  • A STATEMENT,
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  • "DWELL WITH EACH OTHER IN
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  • UNDERSTANDING -- ACCORDING TO
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  • UNDERSTANDING."
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  • AND WHILE THAT'S APPLIED
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  • TO HUSBANDS AND WIVES --
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: THAT SOUNDS
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  • LIKE 1 PETER.
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  • MATT HAGEE: INDEED IT IS.
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  • BUT AT THE SAME TIME,
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  • IT'S SOMETHING THAT I THINK
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  • PARENTS SHOULD CONSIDER WHEN
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  • IT COMES TO THEIR CHILDREN,
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  • BECAUSE UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND
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  • THE DISPOSITION OF THAT CHILD,
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  • YOU WON'T KNOW HOW TO
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  • COMMUNICATE WITH THEM;
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  • YOU KNOW?
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  • I MEAN MY SON, FOR EXAMPLE;
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  • I CAN LOOK AT HIM AND SAY,
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  • "LISTEN TO ME."
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  • AND HE'LL LOCK EYES WITH ME,
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  • AND HE KNOWS HE HAS
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  • TO LISTEN TO ME.
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  • MY OLDEST DAUGHTER,
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  • IF I WANT TO REALLY OPEN UP HER
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  • MIND TO RECEIVE SOMETHING,
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  • I HAVE TO APPROACH HER THROUGH
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  • QUESTIONS AND CONVERSATION,
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  • AND GET HER ENGAGED
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  • AT THAT LEVEL.
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  • IF I LOOK AT HER,
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  • AND SAY, "LISTEN TO ME,"
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  • SHE'S NOT GOING TO.
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  • SHE'LL HEAR AND DO WHAT I SAY,
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  • BUT SHE WON'T UNDERSTAND IT.
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  • SHE'LL JUST SAY,
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  • THIS IS WHAT DAD WANTS.
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  • WE JUST HAVE TO DO IT AS
  • 00:05:45.140 --> 00:05:46.060
  • QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE,
  • 00:05:46.060 --> 00:05:47.020
  • AND SHE WON'T EVEN FIGURE OUT
  • 00:05:47.020 --> 00:05:48.000
  • WHY; YOU KNOW?
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  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YOU'VE GOT
  • 00:05:49.190 --> 00:05:50.110
  • THEM FIGURED OUT PRETTY GOOD,
  • 00:05:50.110 --> 00:05:51.010
  • MATT.
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  • MATT HAGEE: I'VE GOT TO STAY
  • 00:05:51.260 --> 00:05:52.180
  • INVOLVED.
  • 00:05:52.180 --> 00:05:53.070
  • IF I DON'T, I'M GOING TO,
  • 00:05:53.070 --> 00:05:55.000
  • YOU KNOW,
  • 00:05:55.000 --> 00:05:55.210
  • MY HAIR WILL TURN GRAY
  • 00:05:55.210 --> 00:05:56.130
  • TOO QUICK.
  • 00:05:56.130 --> 00:05:57.080
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: I HOPE
  • 00:05:57.080 --> 00:05:58.030
  • YOU'RE NOT OFFENDED BY THIS,
  • 00:05:58.030 --> 00:05:58.240
  • BUT YOU'RE SMARTER THAN
  • 00:05:58.240 --> 00:05:59.140
  • THE AVERAGE MAN.
  • 00:05:59.140 --> 00:06:00.080
  • MATT HAGEE: I TRY TO BE.
  • 00:06:00.080 --> 00:06:01.040
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YOU REALLY
  • 00:06:01.040 --> 00:06:01.250
  • ARE.
  • 00:06:01.250 --> 00:06:02.110
  • BECAUSE MOST OF US, AS MEN,
  • 00:06:02.110 --> 00:06:03.010
  • DON'T GET THAT RELATIONAL
  • 00:06:03.010 --> 00:06:04.020
  • STUFF.
  • 00:06:04.020 --> 00:06:04.290
  • OKAY.
  • 00:06:04.290 --> 00:06:05.150
  • KENDAL HAGEE: NOW IN YOUR BOOK,
  • 00:06:05.150 --> 00:06:06.060
  • YOU TALK ABOUT,
  • 00:06:06.060 --> 00:06:06.250
  • LIKE YOU COULD BE A FUNCTIONAL.
  • 00:06:06.250 --> 00:06:07.140
  • NOW MATT'S FOUR OUT
  • 00:06:07.140 --> 00:06:08.020
  • OF THE FIFTH CHILD.
  • 00:06:08.020 --> 00:06:09.100
  • SO -- BUT HE'S A FUNCTIONAL
  • 00:06:09.100 --> 00:06:10.210
  • PROBABLY FIRSTBORN,
  • 00:06:10.210 --> 00:06:11.280
  • IS WHAT I WOULD SAY.
  • 00:06:11.280 --> 00:06:12.240
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: AND WHAT
  • 00:06:12.240 --> 00:06:13.180
  • HAPPENS IS THAT THERE'S A FIVE
  • 00:06:13.180 --> 00:06:14.140
  • OR SIX-YEAR GAP BETWEEN
  • 00:06:14.140 --> 00:06:16.070
  • YOURSELF AND THE NEXT CHILD
  • 00:06:16.070 --> 00:06:17.190
  • OF THE SAME SEX.
  • 00:06:17.190 --> 00:06:19.080
  • YOU SORT OF DRAW A LINE
  • 00:06:19.080 --> 00:06:20.060
  • AND START ANOTHER FAMILY,
  • 00:06:20.060 --> 00:06:21.130
  • SO TO SPEAK.
  • 00:06:21.130 --> 00:06:22.000
  • I HAVE FIVE KIDS.
  • 00:06:22.000 --> 00:06:23.180
  • OKAY.
  • 00:06:23.180 --> 00:06:24.160
  • WE HAVE TWO DAUGHTERS 18 MONTHS
  • 00:06:24.160 --> 00:06:26.150
  • APART, AND MY SON,
  • 00:06:26.150 --> 00:06:28.070
  • AND THEN TWO MORE DAUGHTERS.
  • 00:06:28.070 --> 00:06:29.170
  • WELL QUESTION: IS MY SON
  • 00:06:29.170 --> 00:06:31.060
  • A MIDDLE CHILD?
  • 00:06:31.060 --> 00:06:31.270
  • NO.
  • 00:06:31.270 --> 00:06:33.010
  • HE'S A FUNCTIONAL FIRSTBORN.
  • 00:06:33.010 --> 00:06:34.150
  • AND BY THE WAY,
  • 00:06:34.150 --> 00:06:35.030
  • WE HAD A SURPRISE AT AGE 42.
  • 00:06:35.030 --> 00:06:37.270
  • ANYBODY EVER HAVE A SURPRISE?
  • 00:06:37.270 --> 00:06:40.060
  • AND THEN WE HAD THE SHOCKER.
  • 00:06:40.060 --> 00:06:42.260
  • MATT HAGEE: THE KID'S TYPICALLY
  • 00:06:42.260 --> 00:06:43.190
  • NAMED CHANCE, THEIR SURPRISE.
  • 00:06:43.190 --> 00:06:44.230
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YEAH.
  • 00:06:44.230 --> 00:06:45.110
  • AND THEN WE HAD THE SHOCKER
  • 00:06:45.110 --> 00:06:46.220
  • AT AGE 48.
  • 00:06:46.230 --> 00:06:49.230
  • SO WE HAD ONE AT 42.
  • 00:06:49.230 --> 00:06:51.040
  • MATT HAGEE: SO YOU WENT
  • 00:06:51.040 --> 00:06:51.290
  • FROM A SURPRISE TO A SHOCK.
  • 00:06:51.290 --> 00:06:52.240
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: TO THE
  • 00:06:52.240 --> 00:06:53.140
  • SHOCKER.
  • 00:06:53.140 --> 00:06:53.270
  • MATT HAGEE: YEAH.
  • 00:06:53.270 --> 00:06:54.140
  • AND ANY HEART ATTACKS IN THERE?
  • 00:06:54.140 --> 00:06:55.280
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: I ALWAYS SAY
  • 00:06:55.280 --> 00:06:56.210
  • GOD HAD A -- THE GREATEST
  • 00:06:56.210 --> 00:06:57.210
  • HUMANIST EVER WAS ALMIGHTY GOD,
  • 00:06:57.210 --> 00:06:59.130
  • BECAUSE WHEN WE HAD THE
  • 00:06:59.130 --> 00:07:00.250
  • SHOCKER, WE WERE EXCITED.
  • 00:07:01.080 --> 00:07:04.080
  • WHEN THAT LAST ONE CAME ALONG,
  • 00:07:04.080 --> 00:07:06.160
  • I'M TELLING YOU,
  • 00:07:06.160 --> 00:07:07.030
  • WE WERE LOOKING AT EACH OTHER
  • 00:07:07.030 --> 00:07:08.030
  • AND WONDERING.
  • 00:07:08.030 --> 00:07:09.220
  • MATT HAGEE: WELL SEE MY DEAL
  • 00:07:09.220 --> 00:07:10.090
  • WITH KENDAL,
  • 00:07:10.090 --> 00:07:10.220
  • I SAID, "LISTEN."
  • 00:07:10.220 --> 00:07:11.070
  • I SAID, "WE CAN HAVE
  • 00:07:11.070 --> 00:07:11.290
  • AS MANY KIDS AS YOU'D LIKE
  • 00:07:11.290 --> 00:07:12.200
  • TO HAVE."
  • 00:07:12.200 --> 00:07:13.240
  • I LOVE CHILDREN.
  • 00:07:13.240 --> 00:07:15.020
  • I SAID,
  • 00:07:15.020 --> 00:07:15.140
  • "BUT WHAT I DON'T WANT IS,"
  • 00:07:15.140 --> 00:07:17.020
  • I SAID,
  • 00:07:17.020 --> 00:07:17.160
  • "AS LONG AS I'M CHANGING
  • 00:07:17.160 --> 00:07:18.120
  • DIAPERS,"
  • 00:07:18.120 --> 00:07:18.290
  • I SAID,
  • 00:07:18.290 --> 00:07:19.170
  • "DON'T ASK ME TO STOP."
  • 00:07:19.170 --> 00:07:20.060
  • I SAID,
  • 00:07:20.060 --> 00:07:20.210
  • "IF WE GET ALL OF THEM
  • 00:07:20.210 --> 00:07:21.140
  • POTTY TRAINED,
  • 00:07:21.140 --> 00:07:22.060
  • WE'RE DONE."
  • 00:07:22.060 --> 00:07:23.040
  • AND I SAID,
  • 00:07:23.040 --> 00:07:23.200
  • "I DON'T EVER WANT TO GO BACK
  • 00:07:23.200 --> 00:07:24.130
  • TO CHANGING DIAPERS."
  • 00:07:24.130 --> 00:07:25.140
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: A PRAGMATIC
  • 00:07:25.140 --> 00:07:26.040
  • MAN.
  • 00:07:26.040 --> 00:07:26.260
  • BUT I'LL TELL YOU,
  • 00:07:26.260 --> 00:07:27.150
  • FOR THE LADIES,
  • 00:07:27.150 --> 00:07:28.030
  • WOULD YOU HAVE A BABY AT 48?
  • 00:07:28.030 --> 00:07:29.100
  • THERE'S NO LABOR WHATSOEVER.
  • 00:07:29.100 --> 00:07:31.110
  • (SNEEZES)
  • 00:07:31.110 --> 00:07:32.170
  • ONE SNEEZE AND YOU'RE RIGHT
  • 00:07:32.170 --> 00:07:34.000
  • THERE.
  • 00:07:34.000 --> 00:07:34.220
  • WHAT A BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER.
  • 00:07:34.220 --> 00:07:35.240
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:07:35.240 --> 00:07:37.120
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: SO YOU KNOW
  • 00:07:37.120 --> 00:07:38.010
  • IT'S AMAZING.
  • 00:07:38.010 --> 00:07:39.020
  • AGAIN,
  • 00:07:39.020 --> 00:07:39.170
  • I THINK THE CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY
  • 00:07:39.170 --> 00:07:40.270
  • NEEDS TO BE AWARE OF THE FACT
  • 00:07:40.270 --> 00:07:42.230
  • THAT WE'RE NOT THE SAME;
  • 00:07:42.230 --> 00:07:44.180
  • WE'RE DIFFERENT.
  • 00:07:44.180 --> 00:07:45.090
  • VIVA LA DIFFERENCE.
  • 00:07:45.090 --> 00:07:46.180
  • MEN AND WOMEN,
  • 00:07:46.180 --> 00:07:47.150
  • COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.
  • 00:07:47.150 --> 00:07:49.140
  • WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT APPROACHING
  • 00:07:49.140 --> 00:07:50.220
  • KIDS, YOU'RE SO SMART.
  • 00:07:50.220 --> 00:07:53.210
  • I'VE SAID FOR YEARS, "PARENTS,
  • 00:07:53.210 --> 00:07:55.190
  • DON'T ASK YOUR KIDS QUESTIONS."
  • 00:07:55.190 --> 00:07:57.280
  • KIDS AND HUSBANDS HAVE A LOT
  • 00:07:57.280 --> 00:07:59.250
  • IN COMMON.
  • 00:07:59.250 --> 00:08:01.010
  • HUSBANDS HATE THEIR WIVES'S
  • 00:08:01.040 --> 00:08:04.040
  • QUESTIONS.
  • 00:08:04.040 --> 00:08:05.010
  • MATT HAGEE: TELL ME WHAT YOU
  • 00:08:05.010 --> 00:08:05.250
  • WANT ME TO DO AND I'LL DO IT.
  • 00:08:05.250 --> 00:08:07.170
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YOU'VE GOT IT.
  • 00:08:07.170 --> 00:08:08.190
  • MATT HAGEE: IT'S LIKE AN
  • 00:08:08.190 --> 00:08:09.090
  • ENGAGEMENT WITH LAW
  • 00:08:09.090 --> 00:08:09.270
  • ENFORCEMENT.
  • 00:08:09.270 --> 00:08:10.160
  • YOU WANT MY HANDS IN THE AIR?
  • 00:08:10.160 --> 00:08:11.060
  • I'LL PUT THEM IN THE AIR.
  • 00:08:11.060 --> 00:08:11.250
  • YOU WANT THEM ON THE HOOD
  • 00:08:11.250 --> 00:08:12.190
  • OF THE CAR?
  • 00:08:12.190 --> 00:08:13.050
  • I'LL PUT THEM ON THE HOOD
  • 00:08:13.050 --> 00:08:13.230
  • OF THE CAR.
  • 00:08:13.230 --> 00:08:14.100
  • JUST TELL ME.
  • 00:08:14.100 --> 00:08:15.080
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YOU,
  • 00:08:15.080 --> 00:08:15.250
  • YOUNG LADY,
  • 00:08:15.250 --> 00:08:16.240
  • HAVE MARRIED A GENIUS.
  • 00:08:16.240 --> 00:08:18.110
  • I'M NOT SMOKING HIM.
  • 00:08:18.110 --> 00:08:19.250
  • THERE'S NOT MANY MEN THAT HAVE
  • 00:08:19.250 --> 00:08:21.020
  • THAT INSIGHT INTO THAT.
  • 00:08:21.020 --> 00:08:23.020
  • I HAVE SAID FOR YEARS;
  • 00:08:23.020 --> 00:08:23.270
  • I'M QUOTING MYSELF,
  • 00:08:23.270 --> 00:08:24.220
  • "HEY, HONEY,
  • 00:08:24.220 --> 00:08:25.100
  • JUST TELL ME WHO YOU WANT ME TO
  • 00:08:25.100 --> 00:08:26.190
  • DO AND I'LL DO IT."
  • 00:08:26.190 --> 00:08:27.120
  • I MEAN I'M LIKE A TRAINED SEAL.
  • 00:08:27.120 --> 00:08:29.230
  • BUT I'VE LEARNED THAT KIDS
  • 00:08:29.230 --> 00:08:31.140
  • DON'T LIKE QUESTIONS.
  • 00:08:31.140 --> 00:08:33.000
  • YOU WANT A KID TO TALK?
  • 00:08:33.000 --> 00:08:34.070
  • ASK FOR THEIR OPINION.
  • 00:08:34.070 --> 00:08:35.210
  • YOU WANT YOUR HUSBAND TO TALK
  • 00:08:35.210 --> 00:08:36.280
  • TO YOU, LADIES?
  • 00:08:36.280 --> 00:08:37.210
  • SAY, "HEY, MATT,
  • 00:08:37.210 --> 00:08:38.220
  • CAN I HAVE YOUR OPINION
  • 00:08:38.220 --> 00:08:39.110
  • ABOUT THIS?"
  • 00:08:39.110 --> 00:08:40.020
  • HE'LL TALK YOUR EAR OFF.
  • 00:08:40.020 --> 00:08:41.040
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YES, HE DOES.
  • 00:08:41.040 --> 00:08:41.210
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: BUT IF YOU ASK
  • 00:08:41.210 --> 00:08:42.160
  • HIM A QUESTION, IT'S, UH-OH,
  • 00:08:42.160 --> 00:08:44.070
  • WHAT'S THIS ABOUT?
  • 00:08:44.070 --> 00:08:45.030
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YES.
  • 00:08:45.030 --> 00:08:45.260
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: AM I IN
  • 00:08:45.260 --> 00:08:46.180
  • TROUBLE?
  • 00:08:46.180 --> 00:08:47.030
  • YOU KNOW WE'RE CAUTIOUS ABOUT
  • 00:08:47.030 --> 00:08:48.020
  • ALL THOSE THINGS.
  • 00:08:48.020 --> 00:08:48.220
  • MATT HAGEE: AM I GETTING READY
  • 00:08:48.220 --> 00:08:49.120
  • TO INCRIMINATE MYSELF
  • 00:08:49.120 --> 00:08:50.010
  • OR WILL THIS COME BACK LATER ON
  • 00:08:50.010 --> 00:08:51.110
  • TO HAUNT ME?
  • 00:08:51.110 --> 00:08:52.210
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YEAH.
  • 00:08:52.210 --> 00:08:54.000
  • MATT HAGEE: WE ARE JUST
  • 00:08:54.000 --> 00:08:54.170
  • BEGINNING WITH
  • 00:08:54.170 --> 00:08:55.050
  • A GREAT CONVERSATION
  • 00:08:55.050 --> 00:08:56.030
  • WITH DR. KEVIN LEMAN.
  • 00:08:56.030 --> 00:08:57.060
  • I DON'T WANT YOU TO MISS ANY
  • 00:08:57.060 --> 00:08:58.140
  • OF WHAT HE HAS TO SAY ABOUT
  • 00:08:58.140 --> 00:08:59.270
  • RELATIONSHIPS IN MARRIAGE
  • 00:08:59.270 --> 00:09:01.000
  • AND FAMILY.
  • 00:09:01.000 --> 00:09:01.250
  • WE'LL BE RIGHT BACK AFTER THIS.
  • 00:09:01.250 --> 00:09:03.140
  • MUSIC
  • 00:09:06.050 --> 00:09:09.050
  • EVERY YEAR,
  • 00:09:09.050 --> 00:09:09.280
  • MILLIONS VISIT THE WESTERN WALL
  • 00:09:09.280 --> 00:09:11.220
  • TO WORSHIP AND FEEL
  • 00:09:11.220 --> 00:09:13.030
  • THE PRESENCE OF GOD.
  • 00:09:13.030 --> 00:09:15.070
  • PASTOR MATT HAGEE: THE
  • 00:09:15.070 --> 00:09:15.290
  • PRAYER SHAWL IS A POWERFUL
  • 00:09:15.290 --> 00:09:16.260
  • REMINDER OF WHAT HAPPENS
  • 00:09:16.260 --> 00:09:18.040
  • WHEN YOU ENGAGE IN PRAYER.
  • 00:09:18.040 --> 00:09:20.240
  • MUSIC
  • 00:09:20.240 --> 00:09:22.070
  • THROUGH PRAYER,
  • 00:09:22.070 --> 00:09:23.100
  • YOU, TOO, CAN RECEIVE
  • 00:09:23.100 --> 00:09:24.180
  • GOD'S SUPERNATURAL BLESSINGS
  • 00:09:24.180 --> 00:09:26.080
  • AND BE MADE WHOLE.
  • 00:09:26.080 --> 00:09:27.280
  • FOR YOUR GENEROUS GIFT
  • 00:09:27.280 --> 00:09:29.010
  • OF ANY AMOUNT
  • 00:09:29.010 --> 00:09:29.260
  • TO HAGEE MINISTRIES,
  • 00:09:29.260 --> 00:09:31.040
  • YOU'LL RECEIVE
  • 00:09:31.040 --> 00:09:31.230
  • AN EXODUS PENDANT.
  • 00:09:31.230 --> 00:09:33.060
  • FOR YOUR GIFT OF $200 OR MORE,
  • 00:09:33.060 --> 00:09:35.170
  • YOU'LL RECEIVE
  • 00:09:35.170 --> 00:09:36.150
  • THE EXODUS PENDANT;
  • 00:09:36.150 --> 00:09:37.260
  • MEGEMERIA CANDLE HOLDERS,
  • 00:09:37.260 --> 00:09:39.270
  • HAND-CRAFTED BY JEWELERS
  • 00:09:39.270 --> 00:09:41.050
  • IN JERUSALEM;
  • 00:09:41.050 --> 00:09:42.150
  • AND A PRAYER SHAWL
  • 00:09:42.150 --> 00:09:43.170
  • MADE IN ISRAEL.
  • 00:09:43.170 --> 00:09:44.260
  • PASTOR MATT HAGEE: WELCOME
  • 00:09:44.260 --> 00:09:45.190
  • THESE GIFTS INTO YOUR HOME
  • 00:09:45.190 --> 00:09:46.210
  • TODAY,
  • 00:09:46.210 --> 00:09:47.160
  • AND RELEASE THE POWER OF GOD
  • 00:09:47.160 --> 00:09:49.060
  • THROUGH PRAYER.
  • 00:09:49.060 --> 00:09:50.050
  • I URGE YOU TO REQUEST
  • 00:09:50.050 --> 00:09:51.260
  • THESE RESOURCES NOW.
  • 00:09:51.260 --> 00:09:53.280
  • SEND YOUR TAX-DEDUCTIBLE GIFT
  • 00:09:53.280 --> 00:09:55.110
  • TODAY.
  • 00:09:55.110 --> 00:09:56.050
  • CALL THE NUMBER ON YOUR SCREEN
  • 00:09:56.050 --> 00:09:57.180
  • OR VISIT JHM.ORG/JEHOVAH.
  • 00:09:58.110 --> 00:10:01.110
  • MUSIC
  • 00:10:02.120 --> 00:10:05.120
  • MUSIC
  • 00:10:05.120 --> 00:10:05.230
  • GO.
  • 00:10:05.230 --> 00:10:06.180
  • GO AND TELL THE WORLD
  • 00:10:06.180 --> 00:10:07.200
  • THAT JESUS CAME, DIED
  • 00:10:07.200 --> 00:10:09.070
  • AND ROSE AGAIN
  • 00:10:09.070 --> 00:10:10.090
  • FOR THE FORGIVENESS
  • 00:10:10.090 --> 00:10:10.270
  • OF YOUR SINS.
  • 00:10:10.270 --> 00:10:12.020
  • GO AND SHARE THE GOOD NEWS
  • 00:10:12.020 --> 00:10:13.010
  • OF YOUR SALVATION.
  • 00:10:13.010 --> 00:10:14.140
  • TAKE IT INTO THE FURTHERMOST
  • 00:10:14.140 --> 00:10:15.230
  • CORNERS OF THE WORLD.
  • 00:10:15.230 --> 00:10:16.240
  • THIS CHARGE IS FOR EVERY
  • 00:10:16.240 --> 00:10:18.000
  • CHRISTIAN.
  • 00:10:18.000 --> 00:10:18.170
  • BUT NOT EVERY CHRISTIAN KNOWS
  • 00:10:18.170 --> 00:10:19.250
  • HOW TO PREACH AMONGST
  • 00:10:19.250 --> 00:10:20.240
  • THE DAY-TO-DAY RHYTHMS OF LIFE.
  • 00:10:20.240 --> 00:10:22.190
  • WE DO AND WE CAN DO THIS
  • 00:10:22.190 --> 00:10:24.020
  • TOGETHER.
  • 00:10:24.020 --> 00:10:25.000
  • CONNECT YOUR PASSION WITH OURS.
  • 00:10:25.000 --> 00:10:26.290
  • BECOME A LEGACY PARTNER TODAY.
  • 00:10:26.290 --> 00:10:28.190
  • CALL THE NUMBER ON YOUR SCREEN
  • 00:10:28.190 --> 00:10:29.280
  • OR GO TO JHM.ORG/LEGACY.
  • 00:10:30.160 --> 00:10:33.160
  • MUSIC HAGEE: WELCOME O
  • 00:10:34.140 --> 00:10:37.140
  • "THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:10:37.140 --> 00:10:38.040
  • KENDAL AND I ARE VISITING
  • 00:10:38.040 --> 00:10:38.220
  • WITH DR. KEVIN LEMAN.
  • 00:10:38.220 --> 00:10:40.010
  • AND WE'VE JUST FINISHED TALKING
  • 00:10:40.010 --> 00:10:40.290
  • ABOUT HIS BIRTH ORDER BOOK.
  • 00:10:40.290 --> 00:10:42.160
  • BUT THERE'S A NUMBER OF TOPICS
  • 00:10:42.160 --> 00:10:44.010
  • THAT HE HAS ADDRESSED
  • 00:10:44.010 --> 00:10:46.000
  • IN HIS CAREER,
  • 00:10:46.000 --> 00:10:46.290
  • NOT ONLY AS AN AUTHOR
  • 00:10:46.290 --> 00:10:47.280
  • AND AS A PSYCHOLOGIST,
  • 00:10:47.280 --> 00:10:49.140
  • BUT ALSO IN HIS PODCAST.
  • 00:10:49.140 --> 00:10:51.050
  • NOW ONE OF THE THINGS THAT
  • 00:10:51.050 --> 00:10:52.220
  • YOU'VE TALKED ABOUT
  • 00:10:52.220 --> 00:10:53.170
  • IS BLENDED FAMILIES.
  • 00:10:53.170 --> 00:10:54.200
  • AND I THINK THAT'S AN IMPORTANT
  • 00:10:54.200 --> 00:10:55.150
  • TOPIC TO COVER HERE
  • 00:10:55.150 --> 00:10:56.100
  • ON THIS PROGRAM, BECAUSE,
  • 00:10:56.100 --> 00:10:57.280
  • YOU KNOW --
  • 00:10:57.280 --> 00:10:58.210
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: A TON OF THEM.
  • 00:10:58.210 --> 00:10:59.140
  • MATT HAGEE: -- MORE THAN HALF
  • 00:10:59.140 --> 00:11:00.110
  • OF THE RELATIONSHIPS THAT EXIST
  • 00:11:00.110 --> 00:11:01.120
  • IN MARRIAGE TODAY ARE IN
  • 00:11:01.120 --> 00:11:03.070
  • SOME FORM OF A BLENDED FAMILY.
  • 00:11:03.070 --> 00:11:04.210
  • HOW DOES FAMILY DYNAMICS SHIFT
  • 00:11:04.210 --> 00:11:07.060
  • IN A BLENDED FAMILY?
  • 00:11:07.060 --> 00:11:09.090
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: WELL,
  • 00:11:09.090 --> 00:11:10.180
  • YOU KNOW THE ORIGINAL TITLE
  • 00:11:10.180 --> 00:11:11.200
  • ON THE BIRTH ORDER BOOK WHEN
  • 00:11:11.200 --> 00:11:13.240
  • I SENT IT INTO THE PUBLISHER
  • 00:11:13.240 --> 00:11:16.110
  • WAS "ABEL HAD IT COMING."
  • 00:11:16.110 --> 00:11:18.110
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:11:18.110 --> 00:11:19.270
  • AND THE PUBLISHER SAID,
  • 00:11:19.270 --> 00:11:21.000
  • "LEMAN, YOU CAN'T HAVE A TITLE
  • 00:11:21.000 --> 00:11:22.270
  • LIKE THAT,
  • 00:11:22.270 --> 00:11:23.290
  • 'ABEL HAD IT COMING.'"
  • 00:11:23.290 --> 00:11:24.260
  • AND I SAID,
  • 00:11:24.260 --> 00:11:25.120
  • "WELL I THINK IT'S GOT A LOT OF
  • 00:11:25.120 --> 00:11:26.170
  • FAMILY FLAVOR TO IT," YOU KNOW?
  • 00:11:26.170 --> 00:11:28.150
  • BUT IT REMINDED ME OF THAT,
  • 00:11:28.150 --> 00:11:29.180
  • WHEN YOU ASKED ABOUT BLENDED
  • 00:11:29.180 --> 00:11:30.170
  • FAMILIES.
  • 00:11:30.170 --> 00:11:32.080
  • I'M QUOTING MYSELF,
  • 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:33.140
  • "THE BLENDED FAMILY,
  • 00:11:33.140 --> 00:11:34.270
  • THE FOUNDATION,
  • 00:11:34.270 --> 00:11:36.040
  • IS CEMENTED BY THE MORTAR
  • 00:11:36.040 --> 00:11:38.040
  • OF ANGER, BITTERNESS,
  • 00:11:38.040 --> 00:11:40.090
  • JEALOUSY, HURT, AND ANGER."
  • 00:11:40.090 --> 00:11:42.200
  • IF YOU NOTICE SOMETHING ABOUT
  • 00:11:42.200 --> 00:11:43.150
  • THAT SENTENCE --
  • 00:11:43.150 --> 00:11:44.140
  • MATT HAGEE: ANGER IS TWICE.
  • 00:11:44.140 --> 00:11:45.110
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: -- I USED
  • 00:11:45.110 --> 00:11:46.030
  • "ANGER" TWICE.
  • 00:11:46.030 --> 00:11:46.230
  • MATT HAGEE: CORRECT.
  • 00:11:46.230 --> 00:11:47.130
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: WHY?
  • 00:11:47.130 --> 00:11:48.020
  • BECAUSE EVERYBODY'S GOT
  • 00:11:48.020 --> 00:11:48.260
  • AN EMOTIONAL CHIP ON
  • 00:11:48.260 --> 00:11:49.240
  • THEIR SHOULDERS WHEN YOU BLEND.
  • 00:11:49.240 --> 00:11:52.140
  • NOW, LET'S SAY THE HUSBAND
  • 00:11:52.140 --> 00:11:54.100
  • HAS A 17 YEAR OLD
  • 00:11:54.100 --> 00:11:55.180
  • AND A 16 YEAR OLD,
  • 00:11:55.180 --> 00:11:57.030
  • AND THE NEW BRIDE HAS A THREE
  • 00:11:57.030 --> 00:11:58.200
  • YEAR OLD AND A FOUR YEAR OLD.
  • 00:11:58.200 --> 00:11:59.280
  • THAT BLEND IS EASIER, OKAY,
  • 00:11:59.280 --> 00:12:02.290
  • THAN WE BOTH HAVE THREE
  • 00:12:02.290 --> 00:12:04.230
  • AND FOUR YEAR OLDS.
  • 00:12:04.230 --> 00:12:05.180
  • MATT HAGEE: THERE'S SO MUCH
  • 00:12:05.180 --> 00:12:06.070
  • NOT IN COMMON.
  • 00:12:06.070 --> 00:12:06.230
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: RIGHT.
  • 00:12:06.230 --> 00:12:07.080
  • BECAUSE THERE'S GOING TO BE
  • 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:08.000
  • MANY AN ARMAGEDDON EVENING
  • 00:12:08.000 --> 00:12:09.100
  • FOR THOSE PARENTS
  • 00:12:09.100 --> 00:12:10.010
  • IN A BLENDED FAMILY.
  • 00:12:10.010 --> 00:12:11.040
  • IT'S TOUGH ENOUGH TO BE
  • 00:12:11.040 --> 00:12:12.150
  • MARRIED,
  • 00:12:12.150 --> 00:12:13.030
  • BECAUSE WOMEN ARE WEIRD.
  • 00:12:13.030 --> 00:12:15.060
  • THEY HUG ANYTHING THAT MOVES.
  • 00:12:15.060 --> 00:12:17.000
  • THEY GO POTTY IN GROUPS OF 8,
  • 00:12:17.000 --> 00:12:18.060
  • 10, AND 12.
  • 00:12:18.060 --> 00:12:19.090
  • I'M GOING POTTY.
  • 00:12:19.090 --> 00:12:20.070
  • ANYONE WANT TO COME ALONG?
  • 00:12:20.070 --> 00:12:21.220
  • IT'S A SOCIAL EVENT.
  • 00:12:21.220 --> 00:12:22.160
  • HEY MATT, COME ON;
  • 00:12:22.160 --> 00:12:23.290
  • YOU WANT TO GO TO THE JOHN
  • 00:12:23.290 --> 00:12:24.200
  • WITH ME?
  • 00:12:24.200 --> 00:12:25.060
  • COME ON, YOU AND ME.
  • 00:12:25.060 --> 00:12:25.280
  • IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.
  • 00:12:25.280 --> 00:12:27.000
  • MATT HAGEE: IF WE GO IN,
  • 00:12:27.000 --> 00:12:27.260
  • ONLY ONE'S COMING OUT.
  • 00:12:27.260 --> 00:12:29.140
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YEAH, RIGHT.
  • 00:12:29.140 --> 00:12:30.070
  • IF THERE'S THREE PEOPLE
  • 00:12:30.070 --> 00:12:30.240
  • IN THERE, WE HOLD IT.
  • 00:12:30.240 --> 00:12:31.270
  • WE DRIVE HOME NINE MILES;
  • 00:12:31.270 --> 00:12:33.130
  • YOU KNOW?
  • 00:12:33.130 --> 00:12:34.070
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:12:34.070 --> 00:12:34.250
  • SO I MEAN I THINK GOD IS,
  • 00:12:34.250 --> 00:12:36.050
  • AGAIN, THE ORIGINAL HUMORIST
  • 00:12:36.050 --> 00:12:37.060
  • WHEN HE MADE US THE WAY
  • 00:12:37.060 --> 00:12:38.060
  • WE ARE.
  • 00:12:38.060 --> 00:12:38.220
  • BUT WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT
  • 00:12:38.220 --> 00:12:39.130
  • BLENDED FAMILIES, UH,
  • 00:12:39.240 --> 00:12:42.240
  • THEY DON'T BLEND.
  • 00:12:42.240 --> 00:12:43.160
  • IT'S A MISNOMER.
  • 00:12:43.160 --> 00:12:44.110
  • THEY CLASH, IF BEST.
  • 00:12:44.110 --> 00:12:46.070
  • AND YOU HAVE TO BE
  • 00:12:46.070 --> 00:12:48.030
  • SHOULDER-TO-SHOULDER,
  • 00:12:48.030 --> 00:12:49.100
  • AS A COUPLE OR THE ENEMY
  • 00:12:49.100 --> 00:12:51.170
  • WILL BURY YOU.
  • 00:12:51.170 --> 00:12:52.150
  • MATT HAGEE: CORRECT.
  • 00:12:52.150 --> 00:12:53.050
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: AND I'M NOT
  • 00:12:53.050 --> 00:12:53.250
  • TALKING ABOUT SATAN.
  • 00:12:53.250 --> 00:12:55.020
  • I'M TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:12:55.020 --> 00:12:55.190
  • YOUR CHILDREN,
  • 00:12:55.190 --> 00:12:56.200
  • BECAUSE THEY'VE ALREADY BEEN
  • 00:12:56.200 --> 00:12:57.100
  • HURT BY LIFE.
  • 00:12:57.100 --> 00:12:58.220
  • AND THEY'RE GOING TO TEST YOU.
  • 00:12:58.220 --> 00:12:59.160
  • THEY'RE GOING TO TRY TO DRIVE
  • 00:12:59.160 --> 00:13:00.220
  • A WEDGE BETWEEN YOU AND SEE,
  • 00:13:00.220 --> 00:13:03.050
  • ARE YOU REAL OR NOT.
  • 00:13:03.050 --> 00:13:04.100
  • MATT HAGEE: AND I THINK THAT
  • 00:13:04.100 --> 00:13:05.010
  • THE BRIDGE TO THAT, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:13:05.010 --> 00:13:06.040
  • THE ENEMY IS DIVISION.
  • 00:13:06.040 --> 00:13:08.180
  • AND THE BIBLE SAYS,
  • 00:13:08.180 --> 00:13:09.050
  • "GIVE NO PLACE TO THE DEVIL."
  • 00:13:09.050 --> 00:13:10.130
  • SO WHEN HE SEES DIVISION,
  • 00:13:10.130 --> 00:13:12.170
  • HE'LL GO IN THERE AND PLANT
  • 00:13:12.170 --> 00:13:13.240
  • A SEED.
  • 00:13:13.240 --> 00:13:14.130
  • HE'LL GO IN THERE AND CREATE
  • 00:13:14.130 --> 00:13:16.150
  • A PLACE THAT HE CAN CONTINUE
  • 00:13:16.150 --> 00:13:18.080
  • TO CREATE DYSFUNCTION
  • 00:13:18.080 --> 00:13:19.150
  • IN THAT FAMILY FOR YEARS.
  • 00:13:19.150 --> 00:13:21.160
  • BECAUSE I GET TO DEAL WITH
  • 00:13:21.160 --> 00:13:22.230
  • FAMILIES ON A REGULAR BASIS
  • 00:13:22.230 --> 00:13:24.260
  • THAT THEIR, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:13:24.260 --> 00:13:26.230
  • THEIR PARENTS ARE GONE.
  • 00:13:26.230 --> 00:13:28.080
  • AND NOW YOU'VE GOT ADULT
  • 00:13:28.080 --> 00:13:29.150
  • CHILDREN IN THE SAME FAMILY.
  • 00:13:29.150 --> 00:13:30.240
  • THEY'RE IN THEIR 40'S.
  • 00:13:30.240 --> 00:13:31.200
  • THEY'RE IN THEIR 50'S.
  • 00:13:31.200 --> 00:13:32.150
  • THEY'RE RAISING THEIR OWN KIDS.
  • 00:13:32.150 --> 00:13:34.080
  • AND WHEN YOU ASK THEM
  • 00:13:34.080 --> 00:13:35.120
  • A QUESTION,
  • 00:13:35.120 --> 00:13:36.030
  • WHY DON'T Y'ALL GET ALONG?
  • 00:13:36.030 --> 00:13:37.210
  • AND THEY GO,
  • 00:13:37.210 --> 00:13:38.080
  • "IT GOES BACK TO
  • 00:13:38.080 --> 00:13:39.010
  • OUR CHILDHOOD."
  • 00:13:39.010 --> 00:13:40.090
  • AND YOU SIT THERE
  • 00:13:40.090 --> 00:13:41.100
  • AND SAY, WELL,
  • 00:13:41.100 --> 00:13:41.290
  • HOW LONG HAS THIS BEEN BREWING;
  • 00:13:41.290 --> 00:13:43.070
  • THAT NOW 30 YEARS LATER,
  • 00:13:43.070 --> 00:13:45.030
  • AND ALL OF THESE LIFE
  • 00:13:45.030 --> 00:13:46.070
  • EXPERIENCES LATER,
  • 00:13:46.070 --> 00:13:47.000
  • YOU'RE STILL HARBORING THIS
  • 00:13:47.000 --> 00:13:48.010
  • GRUDGE?
  • 00:13:48.010 --> 00:13:48.170
  • AND YOU REALLY WANT TO GET THE
  • 00:13:48.170 --> 00:13:50.090
  • DETAILS OF WHAT THE PROBLEM IS.
  • 00:13:50.090 --> 00:13:51.130
  • THEY CAN'T FULLY TELL YOU.
  • 00:13:51.130 --> 00:13:53.040
  • THEY'RE NOT REALLY STILL AWARE
  • 00:13:53.040 --> 00:13:54.080
  • OF IT.
  • 00:13:54.080 --> 00:13:55.010
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: SO,
  • 00:13:55.010 --> 00:13:55.220
  • AS A COUPLE, KENDAL,
  • 00:13:55.220 --> 00:13:56.110
  • YOU HAVE TO REALIZE YOU
  • 00:13:56.110 --> 00:13:57.150
  • REPRESENT ALL OF WOMANHOOD
  • 00:13:57.150 --> 00:13:59.020
  • TO GUESS WHO?
  • 00:13:59.020 --> 00:14:00.070
  • YOUR SONS.
  • 00:14:00.070 --> 00:14:01.190
  • AND TO YOUR DAUGHTERS,
  • 00:14:01.190 --> 00:14:02.150
  • YOU REPRESENT ALL OF
  • 00:14:02.150 --> 00:14:03.150
  • WHAT IS A MAN ALL ABOUT.
  • 00:14:03.150 --> 00:14:05.000
  • IN FACT,
  • 00:14:05.000 --> 00:14:05.240
  • YOU REPRESENT WHO ALMIGHTY GOD
  • 00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:07.190
  • IS.
  • 00:14:07.190 --> 00:14:08.110
  • MATT HAGEE: ABSOLUTELY.
  • 00:14:08.110 --> 00:14:09.030
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: OKAY.
  • 00:14:09.030 --> 00:14:09.270
  • AND SO IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT
  • 00:14:09.270 --> 00:14:10.230
  • FOR PARENTS TO SEE THAT THERE'S
  • 00:14:10.230 --> 00:14:12.160
  • AN INDELIBLE IMPRINT THAT WE
  • 00:14:12.160 --> 00:14:14.240
  • LEAVE UPON OUR CHILDREN THAT'S
  • 00:14:14.240 --> 00:14:16.230
  • EITHER GOING TO BE A GOOD
  • 00:14:16.230 --> 00:14:17.210
  • INDELIBLE IMPRINT OR A BAD ONE.
  • 00:14:17.210 --> 00:14:19.180
  • BUT THERE IS GOING TO BE
  • 00:14:19.180 --> 00:14:20.090
  • THAT IMPRINT.
  • 00:14:20.090 --> 00:14:21.170
  • AND IT MANIFESTS ITSELF,
  • 00:14:21.170 --> 00:14:22.260
  • LIKE YOU SAY,
  • 00:14:22.260 --> 00:14:23.220
  • THROUGH MARRYING
  • 00:14:23.220 --> 00:14:25.030
  • THE WRONG PERSON.
  • 00:14:25.030 --> 00:14:26.240
  • IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU'RE
  • 00:14:26.240 --> 00:14:27.120
  • REALLY LOVED,
  • 00:14:27.120 --> 00:14:28.020
  • YOU'RE GOING TO GO OUT AND
  • 00:14:28.020 --> 00:14:28.250
  • YOU'RE GOING TO REJECT SOMEBODY
  • 00:14:28.250 --> 00:14:29.280
  • THAT'S GOOD FOR YOU,
  • 00:14:29.280 --> 00:14:30.290
  • AND YOU'RE GOING TO BRING HOME
  • 00:14:30.290 --> 00:14:31.190
  • SOMEONE TO MARRY THAT'S GOING
  • 00:14:31.190 --> 00:14:33.030
  • TO REINFORCE YOUR ALREADY
  • 00:14:33.030 --> 00:14:34.050
  • NEGATIVE SELF-IMAGE
  • 00:14:34.050 --> 00:14:35.020
  • OF YOURSELF.
  • 00:14:35.020 --> 00:14:36.090
  • AND I'VE WRITTEN BOOKS LIKE
  • 00:14:36.090 --> 00:14:37.110
  • THE BOOK "SHEET MUSIC."
  • 00:14:37.110 --> 00:14:39.020
  • IT'S ACTUALLY A --
  • 00:14:39.020 --> 00:14:40.220
  • IT'S A SEX BOOK IS WHAT IT IS.
  • 00:14:40.220 --> 00:14:42.170
  • KENDAL HAGEE: WELL, I KNOW.
  • 00:14:42.170 --> 00:14:43.110
  • I THINK WE HAVE IT RIGHT HERE.
  • 00:14:43.110 --> 00:14:44.110
  • MATT HAGEE: IT ALMOST BURNED
  • 00:14:44.110 --> 00:14:45.180
  • A HOLE THROUGH THE TOP
  • 00:14:45.180 --> 00:14:46.150
  • OF THE TABLE; IT'S THAT HOT.
  • 00:14:46.150 --> 00:14:47.260
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: THAT IS A --
  • 00:14:47.260 --> 00:14:49.080
  • MATT HAGEE: "UNCOVERING THE
  • 00:14:49.080 --> 00:14:49.290
  • SECRETS OF SEXUAL INTIMACY
  • 00:14:49.290 --> 00:14:51.040
  • IN MARRIAGE."
  • 00:14:51.040 --> 00:14:52.100
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: I'M TRYING
  • 00:14:52.100 --> 00:14:53.030
  • TO GET MY WIFE TO READ IT.
  • 00:14:53.030 --> 00:14:54.060
  • AND I SAID, "HONEY,
  • 00:14:54.060 --> 00:14:55.060
  • YOU'VE REALLY GOT TO READ
  • 00:14:55.060 --> 00:14:55.270
  • THAT BOOK."
  • 00:14:55.270 --> 00:14:56.210
  • AND SHE SAYS,
  • 00:14:56.210 --> 00:14:57.090
  • "I AM NOT READING THAT BOOK."
  • 00:14:57.090 --> 00:15:00.040
  • I SAID, "YOU OUGHT TO READ IT.
  • 00:15:00.040 --> 00:15:00.260
  • YOU'RE THE STAR IN SEVERAL
  • 00:15:00.260 --> 00:15:01.180
  • PAGES,
  • 00:15:01.180 --> 00:15:02.070
  • IF I RECALL."
  • 00:15:02.070 --> 00:15:03.040
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:15:03.040 --> 00:15:04.040
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: BUT YOU KNOW
  • 00:15:04.040 --> 00:15:04.260
  • COUPLES TODAY;
  • 00:15:04.260 --> 00:15:06.060
  • WE NEED TO BECOME ONE.
  • 00:15:06.060 --> 00:15:08.020
  • WELL, DO YOU PRAY TOGETHER
  • 00:15:08.020 --> 00:15:10.130
  • AUDIBLY?
  • 00:15:10.130 --> 00:15:11.210
  • THAT'S A GREAT WAY
  • 00:15:11.210 --> 00:15:12.070
  • TO BECOME ONE.
  • 00:15:12.070 --> 00:15:13.160
  • YOU WANT TO HEAR WHAT'S GOING
  • 00:15:13.160 --> 00:15:14.060
  • ON IN YOUR HUSBAND'S MIND?
  • 00:15:14.060 --> 00:15:15.140
  • LISTEN TO WHAT HE SAYS
  • 00:15:15.140 --> 00:15:16.080
  • TO ALMIGHTY GOD AS HE PRAYS
  • 00:15:16.080 --> 00:15:17.140
  • AUDIBLY.
  • 00:15:17.140 --> 00:15:18.070
  • WELL, DR. LEMAN,
  • 00:15:18.070 --> 00:15:18.240
  • I THINK PRAYERS ARE VERY...
  • 00:15:18.240 --> 00:15:20.230
  • YOU KNOW I'VE HEARD IT ALL.
  • 00:15:20.230 --> 00:15:21.220
  • I'M JUST SAYING,
  • 00:15:21.220 --> 00:15:22.100
  • HEY, YOU WANT INTIMACY?
  • 00:15:22.100 --> 00:15:23.290
  • PRAY TOGETHER.
  • 00:15:23.290 --> 00:15:25.020
  • TALK WITH EACH OTHER.
  • 00:15:25.020 --> 00:15:26.110
  • BUT GOD HAS DESIGNED US.
  • 00:15:26.110 --> 00:15:27.220
  • NOTICE THAT THE MALE
  • 00:15:27.220 --> 00:15:28.140
  • AND FEMALES CUSTOM FIT.
  • 00:15:28.140 --> 00:15:30.220
  • WE FIT.
  • 00:15:30.220 --> 00:15:31.070
  • IT OUGHT TO WORK.
  • 00:15:31.070 --> 00:15:32.120
  • BUT PEOPLE STRUGGLE IN THIS.
  • 00:15:32.120 --> 00:15:34.040
  • WHY?
  • 00:15:34.040 --> 00:15:35.000
  • BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY CAME OUT
  • 00:15:35.000 --> 00:15:35.280
  • OF IN THEIR FAMILY.
  • 00:15:35.280 --> 00:15:36.240
  • I REMEMBER MY WIFE WALKING DOWN
  • 00:15:36.240 --> 00:15:38.080
  • THAT AISLE.
  • 00:15:38.080 --> 00:15:38.290
  • MY WIFE'S A VERY PRETTY WOMAN,
  • 00:15:38.290 --> 00:15:40.250
  • GORGEOUS TO PUT IT BLUNTLY.
  • 00:15:40.250 --> 00:15:42.130
  • AND SHE -- WE SPENT $29
  • 00:15:42.130 --> 00:15:44.190
  • ON FLOWERS FOR OUR WEDDING.
  • 00:15:44.190 --> 00:15:45.240
  • IT WAS A HUGE AFFAIR.
  • 00:15:45.240 --> 00:15:47.200
  • AND HAM SANDWICHES
  • 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:48.130
  • AT OUR AUNT'S HOUSE FOR
  • 00:15:48.130 --> 00:15:50.160
  • THE BIG CELEBRATION AFTERWARD.
  • 00:15:50.160 --> 00:15:52.080
  • BUT I REMEMBER HER WALKING DOWN
  • 00:15:52.080 --> 00:15:53.080
  • THAT AISLE.
  • 00:15:53.080 --> 00:15:54.260
  • AND SHE HAD THESE LITTLE,
  • 00:15:54.260 --> 00:15:56.060
  • LITTLE BOUQUET OF FLOWERS.
  • 00:15:56.060 --> 00:15:58.110
  • AND I DIDN'T REALIZE THAT
  • 00:15:58.110 --> 00:15:59.080
  • UNDERNEATH THAT BOUQUET
  • 00:15:59.080 --> 00:16:02.070
  • WAS A RULE BOOK.
  • 00:16:02.070 --> 00:16:03.270
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:16:03.270 --> 00:16:04.250
  • AND SHE'S THE FIRSTBORN.
  • 00:16:04.250 --> 00:16:06.020
  • OKAY.
  • 00:16:06.020 --> 00:16:06.230
  • SO SHE KNOWS EXACTLY HOW LIFE
  • 00:16:06.230 --> 00:16:08.040
  • OUGHT TO BE.
  • 00:16:08.040 --> 00:16:09.040
  • I'M THE YOUNGEST IN THE FAMILY.
  • 00:16:09.040 --> 00:16:10.160
  • I'M HERE TO TELL YOU
  • 00:16:10.160 --> 00:16:11.290
  • ON TELEVISION,
  • 00:16:11.290 --> 00:16:12.280
  • THE WOMAN NEEDS ME.
  • 00:16:12.280 --> 00:16:14.090
  • THE WOMAN NEEDS ME
  • 00:16:14.090 --> 00:16:14.270
  • TO LIGHTEN HER UP.
  • 00:16:14.270 --> 00:16:16.050
  • MATT HAGEE: YEAH, OTHERWISE,
  • 00:16:16.050 --> 00:16:16.260
  • SHE'S JUST WAY TOO TENSE.
  • 00:16:16.260 --> 00:16:18.020
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: AND I NEED HER
  • 00:16:18.020 --> 00:16:18.230
  • TO -- WHAT?
  • 00:16:18.230 --> 00:16:19.160
  • STRAIGHTEN ME UP.
  • 00:16:19.160 --> 00:16:20.250
  • AND SO IF EVIL,
  • 00:16:20.250 --> 00:16:22.000
  • THE DIFFERENCE IS.
  • 00:16:22.000 --> 00:16:22.240
  • AND SO THE FIRSTBORN AND
  • 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:24.050
  • THE BABY OR THE FIRSTBORN IN
  • 00:16:24.050 --> 00:16:26.000
  • THE MIDDLE IS A GREAT MATCH.
  • 00:16:26.000 --> 00:16:28.100
  • A FIRSTBORN AND A FIRSTBORN,
  • 00:16:28.100 --> 00:16:29.220
  • THAT'S TOUGH.
  • 00:16:29.220 --> 00:16:30.290
  • MATT HAGEE: THAT'S
  • 00:16:30.290 --> 00:16:31.160
  • A DECLARATION OF WAR.
  • 00:16:31.160 --> 00:16:32.100
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: RIGHT.
  • 00:16:32.100 --> 00:16:33.000
  • THE BABY AND THE BABY,
  • 00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:33.270
  • THEY'LL HAVE FUN,
  • 00:16:33.270 --> 00:16:34.140
  • BUT WHO'S PAYING
  • 00:16:34.140 --> 00:16:35.040
  • THE ELECTRIC BILL?
  • 00:16:35.040 --> 00:16:35.220
  • WHO KNOWS?
  • 00:16:35.220 --> 00:16:36.190
  • MATT HAGEE: YEAH,
  • 00:16:36.190 --> 00:16:37.070
  • THOSE ARE THE ONES THAT ARE --
  • 00:16:37.070 --> 00:16:38.150
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: AND MIDDLE
  • 00:16:38.150 --> 00:16:39.110
  • CHILDREN,
  • 00:16:39.110 --> 00:16:40.070
  • THEY GO WITH ABOUT EVERYTHING.
  • 00:16:40.070 --> 00:16:41.080
  • THEY'RE LIKE GOING TO
  • 00:16:41.080 --> 00:16:42.150
  • A UNIVERSAL BLOOD BANK
  • 00:16:42.150 --> 00:16:45.080
  • AND GETTING A UNIVERSAL DONOR
  • 00:16:45.080 --> 00:16:46.120
  • KIND OF THING.
  • 00:16:46.120 --> 00:16:47.000
  • MATT HAGEE: O NEGATIVE.
  • 00:16:47.000 --> 00:16:47.210
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: YEAH.
  • 00:16:47.210 --> 00:16:48.080
  • THEY GO WITH EVERYBODY.
  • 00:16:48.080 --> 00:16:49.110
  • AND SO ISN'T IT MARVELOUS
  • 00:16:49.110 --> 00:16:50.260
  • HOW GOD MADE US ALL DIFFERENT?
  • 00:16:50.260 --> 00:16:52.190
  • HE GIVES US DIFFERENT GIFTS;
  • 00:16:52.250 --> 00:16:55.250
  • AND YET,
  • 00:16:55.250 --> 00:16:56.130
  • WE TURN AROUND AND SAY,
  • 00:16:56.130 --> 00:16:57.000
  • "WHY AREN'T YOU JUST LIKE
  • 00:16:57.000 --> 00:16:57.260
  • YOUR SISTER?"
  • 00:16:57.260 --> 00:16:58.140
  • OR "WHY AREN'T YOU JUST LIKE
  • 00:16:58.140 --> 00:16:59.010
  • YOUR BROTHER?"
  • 00:16:59.010 --> 00:16:59.170
  • WHAT A DISRESPECTFUL THING
  • 00:16:59.170 --> 00:17:00.170
  • TO SAY TO A KID.
  • 00:17:00.170 --> 00:17:01.210
  • PARENTS,
  • 00:17:01.210 --> 00:17:02.110
  • IF YOU'VE GOT THAT LITTLE
  • 00:17:02.110 --> 00:17:02.290
  • BLUE BIRD,
  • 00:17:02.290 --> 00:17:03.230
  • THAT LITTLE MISS GOODY TWO
  • 00:17:03.230 --> 00:17:05.200
  • SHOES,
  • 00:17:05.200 --> 00:17:06.230
  • THEN YOU'VE GOT THAT SECOND
  • 00:17:06.230 --> 00:17:07.160
  • CHILD WHO DOESN'T SEEM TO DO
  • 00:17:07.160 --> 00:17:09.040
  • THINGS THE WAY IT SHOULD BE,
  • 00:17:09.040 --> 00:17:10.210
  • MY ADVICE,
  • 00:17:10.210 --> 00:17:11.160
  • PULL THAT SECOND CHILD ASIDE.
  • 00:17:11.160 --> 00:17:12.260
  • AND SAY,
  • 00:17:12.260 --> 00:17:13.170
  • "HONEY, COULD I ASK
  • 00:17:13.170 --> 00:17:14.050
  • YOUR OPINION ABOUT SOMETHING?"
  • 00:17:14.050 --> 00:17:16.060
  • SURE, WHAT?
  • 00:17:16.060 --> 00:17:17.240
  • "IT'S ABOUT YOUR SISTER.
  • 00:17:17.240 --> 00:17:19.140
  • IS SHE A LITTLE OVER THE TOP
  • 00:17:19.140 --> 00:17:20.230
  • OR IS IT ME?"
  • 00:17:20.230 --> 00:17:22.260
  • AND YOU WILL SEE WHAT I CALL
  • 00:17:22.260 --> 00:17:23.290
  • THE RECOGNITION REFLEX IN
  • 00:17:23.290 --> 00:17:25.130
  • THAT KID'S EYES.
  • 00:17:25.130 --> 00:17:26.290
  • AND SHE'LL SAY, "THANK YOU,
  • 00:17:26.290 --> 00:17:28.230
  • JESUS;
  • 00:17:28.230 --> 00:17:29.180
  • SOMEBODY UNDERSTANDS WHAT I'M
  • 00:17:29.180 --> 00:17:30.270
  • UP AGAINST."
  • 00:17:30.270 --> 00:17:32.040
  • SO IF YOU WANT TO GET INTO
  • 00:17:32.040 --> 00:17:33.110
  • THAT KID'S HEAD, PARENT,
  • 00:17:33.110 --> 00:17:34.230
  • YOU NEED TO GET BEHIND THAT
  • 00:17:34.230 --> 00:17:35.220
  • KID'S EYES AND SEE HOW
  • 00:17:35.220 --> 00:17:37.110
  • THAT KID SEES LIFE,
  • 00:17:37.110 --> 00:17:38.240
  • BECAUSE THEY SEE IT DIFFERENTLY
  • 00:17:38.240 --> 00:17:39.210
  • THAN THEIR SISTER OR BROTHER.
  • 00:17:39.210 --> 00:17:41.060
  • MATT HAGEE: WELL,
  • 00:17:41.060 --> 00:17:41.240
  • THE WISDOM THAT DR. LEMAN
  • 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:42.190
  • SHARES IS NOT ONLY FOUND
  • 00:17:42.190 --> 00:17:43.250
  • IN HIS BOOKS, BUT AGAIN,
  • 00:17:43.250 --> 00:17:44.260
  • IT'S ON HIS PODCAST.
  • 00:17:44.260 --> 00:17:45.230
  • WHEN WE COME BACK TO
  • 00:17:45.230 --> 00:17:46.180
  • "THE DIFFERENCE,"
  • 00:17:46.180 --> 00:17:47.100
  • WE'RE GOING TO HAVE
  • 00:17:47.100 --> 00:17:48.000
  • THE OPPORTUNITY TO HAVE
  • 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:48.270
  • SOME MORE CONVERSATION
  • 00:17:48.270 --> 00:17:49.210
  • WITH DR. LEMAN.
  • 00:17:49.210 --> 00:17:50.110
  • BUT FIRST,
  • 00:17:50.110 --> 00:17:51.130
  • LET'S SEE WHAT'S HAPPENING
  • 00:17:51.130 --> 00:17:52.030
  • IN THE KITCHEN WITH STACY LYN.
  • 00:17:52.030 --> 00:17:54.030
  • MUSIC
  • 00:17:54.030 --> 00:17:56.180
  • MUS
  • 00:17:56.180 --> 00:17:57.060
  • CORNERSTONE CHURCH IS HOSTING
  • 00:17:57.060 --> 00:17:59.040
  • FEAST '19,
  • 00:17:59.040 --> 00:18:00.210
  • OCTOBER 25TH THROUGH THE 27TH.
  • 00:18:00.210 --> 00:18:03.060
  • THIS ANNUAL EVENT IS A TIME
  • 00:18:03.060 --> 00:18:04.240
  • TO CELEBRATE THE JOY,
  • 00:18:04.240 --> 00:18:06.170
  • GOODNESS,
  • 00:18:06.170 --> 00:18:07.030
  • AND MANY BLESSINGS OF GOD;
  • 00:18:07.030 --> 00:18:09.000
  • REMINDING US WHAT THE FEAST
  • 00:18:09.000 --> 00:18:10.130
  • MEANS.
  • 00:18:10.130 --> 00:18:11.120
  • FEAST '19 INCLUDES
  • 00:18:11.120 --> 00:18:13.040
  • DAILY MIDWAY GAMES,
  • 00:18:13.040 --> 00:18:14.170
  • FOOD,
  • 00:18:14.170 --> 00:18:15.090
  • FREE RIDES,
  • 00:18:15.090 --> 00:18:16.070
  • AND SPECTACULAR FIREWORKS.
  • 00:18:16.070 --> 00:18:19.060
  • EACH EVENING OFFERS
  • 00:18:19.060 --> 00:18:20.080
  • INSPIRATIONAL SPEAKERS,
  • 00:18:20.080 --> 00:18:21.260
  • SPECIAL GUEST, TONY EVANS;
  • 00:18:21.260 --> 00:18:23.210
  • MUSIC
  • 00:18:23.210 --> 00:18:25.250
  • AND WORSHIP WITH CECE WINANS,
  • 00:18:25.250 --> 00:18:27.210
  • MUSIC
  • 00:18:27.210 --> 00:18:30.030
  • INCLUDING PASTOR MATT HAGEE.
  • 00:18:30.030 --> 00:18:32.060
  • MUSIC
  • 00:18:32.060 --> 00:18:33.260
  • AND SUNDAY EVENING
  • 00:18:33.260 --> 00:18:34.290
  • WE'LL CONCLUDE
  • 00:18:34.290 --> 00:18:35.230
  • WITH A NIGHT TO HONOR ISRAEL,
  • 00:18:35.230 --> 00:18:37.110
  • FEATURING PASTOR JOHN HAGEE.
  • 00:18:37.110 --> 00:18:39.070
  • MUSIC
  • 00:18:40.090 --> 00:18:43.090
  • FRIDAY, OCTOBER 25TH
  • 00:18:43.090 --> 00:18:44.180
  • THROUGH SUNDAY, OCTOBER 27TH
  • 00:18:44.180 --> 00:18:46.060
  • AT CORNERSTONE CHURCH.
  • 00:18:46.060 --> 00:18:48.050
  • FOR MORE INFORMATION,
  • 00:18:48.050 --> 00:18:48.240
  • CALL THE NUMBER ON THE SCREEN
  • 00:18:48.240 --> 00:18:50.000
  • OR VISIT
  • 00:18:50.000 --> 00:18:50.160
  • SACORNERSTONE.ORG/FEAST.
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:53.180
  • MUSIC
  • 00:18:53.180 --> 00:18:54.170
  • MUSIC
  • 00:18:54.170 --> 00:18:55.080
  • PASTOR MATT HAGEE: MILLIONS
  • 00:18:55.080 --> 00:18:56.050
  • VISIT THE WESTERN WALL
  • 00:18:56.050 --> 00:18:57.010
  • IN ISRAEL TO WORSHIP
  • 00:18:57.010 --> 00:18:58.110
  • AND FEEL THE PRESENCE OF GOD.
  • 00:18:58.110 --> 00:19:00.060
  • THE PRAYER SHAWL HAS BECOME
  • 00:19:00.060 --> 00:19:01.090
  • A POWERFUL REMINDER
  • 00:19:01.090 --> 00:19:02.160
  • OF WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU ENGAGE
  • 00:19:02.160 --> 00:19:04.280
  • IN PRAYER.
  • 00:19:04.280 --> 00:19:05.220
  • THIS MONTH,
  • 00:19:05.220 --> 00:19:06.110
  • FOR YOUR GENEROUS GIFT
  • 00:19:06.110 --> 00:19:07.100
  • TO HAGEE MINISTRIES,
  • 00:19:07.100 --> 00:19:08.140
  • YOU'LL RECEIVE
  • 00:19:08.140 --> 00:19:09.020
  • VALUABLE RESOURCES THAT WILL
  • 00:19:09.020 --> 00:19:10.120
  • UNLEASH GOD'S FAVOR
  • 00:19:10.120 --> 00:19:11.220
  • IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:19:11.220 --> 00:19:12.210
  • PASTOR JOHN HAGEE: WELCOME
  • 00:19:12.210 --> 00:19:13.130
  • THESE GIFTS INTO YOUR HOME
  • 00:19:13.130 --> 00:19:14.090
  • TODAY.
  • 00:19:14.090 --> 00:19:15.000
  • I KNOW THEY WILL BLESS
  • 00:19:15.000 --> 00:19:16.080
  • YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:19:16.080 --> 00:19:17.050
  • SEND YOUR GIFT TODAY.
  • 00:19:17.050 --> 00:19:18.110
  • CALL THE NUMBER ON YOUR SCREEN
  • 00:19:18.110 --> 00:19:19.210
  • OR VISIT JHM.ORG/JEHOVAH.
  • 00:19:19.280 --> 00:19:22.280
  • MUSIC
  • 00:19:22.280 --> 00:19:23.210
  • MUSIC MUSIC MUSIC MUSIC
  • 00:19:23.270 --> 00:19:26.270
  • MATT HAGEE: WELCOME TO
  • 00:19:26.270 --> 00:19:27.210
  • "THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:19:27.210 --> 00:19:28.060
  • KENDAL AND I ARE HERE
  • 00:19:28.060 --> 00:19:29.000
  • IN THE KITCHEN,
  • 00:19:29.000 --> 00:19:29.240
  • AND WE ARE JOINED
  • 00:19:29.240 --> 00:19:30.230
  • BY STACY LYN HARRIS TO MAKE
  • 00:19:30.230 --> 00:19:32.110
  • SOMEBODY'S FAVORITE FOOD,
  • 00:19:32.110 --> 00:19:34.100
  • BISCUITS.
  • 00:19:34.100 --> 00:19:35.010
  • STACY LYN,
  • 00:19:35.010 --> 00:19:35.190
  • YOU KNOW A LOT OF PEOPLE THINK,
  • 00:19:35.190 --> 00:19:36.240
  • WELL I JUST GO TO THE STORE,
  • 00:19:36.240 --> 00:19:37.210
  • I BUY A ROLL,
  • 00:19:37.210 --> 00:19:38.150
  • I HIT IT ON THE COUNTER,
  • 00:19:38.150 --> 00:19:39.210
  • AND POP,
  • 00:19:39.210 --> 00:19:40.240
  • THEY'RE WHOMP BISCUITS.
  • 00:19:40.240 --> 00:19:41.230
  • THEY WHOMP RIGHT OUT OF THE
  • 00:19:41.230 --> 00:19:42.190
  • CAN.
  • 00:19:42.190 --> 00:19:43.030
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: THEY DO,
  • 00:19:43.030 --> 00:19:43.250
  • YEAH.
  • 00:19:43.250 --> 00:19:44.100
  • MATT HAGEE: WHAT DO WE GOT IN
  • 00:19:44.100 --> 00:19:44.290
  • FRONT OF US THAT MAKES THIS
  • 00:19:44.290 --> 00:19:45.190
  • DIFFERENT?
  • 00:19:45.190 --> 00:19:46.040
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: WELL,
  • 00:19:46.040 --> 00:19:46.210
  • THESE ARE HOMEMADE BISCUITS.
  • 00:19:46.210 --> 00:19:47.110
  • AND YOU COULD DO ANYTHING YOU
  • 00:19:47.110 --> 00:19:48.110
  • WANT TO WITH THEM.
  • 00:19:48.110 --> 00:19:49.130
  • I'M GOING TO SHOW YOU HOW TO DO
  • 00:19:49.130 --> 00:19:50.230
  • THIS.
  • 00:19:50.230 --> 00:19:51.120
  • WE'VE GOT, UM, OUR FLOUR,
  • 00:19:51.120 --> 00:19:54.000
  • BAKING SODA, BAKING POWDER,
  • 00:19:54.000 --> 00:19:55.220
  • A LITTLE BIT OF SALT.
  • 00:19:55.220 --> 00:19:56.140
  • WE'VE ALREADY GOT IT MIXED UP
  • 00:19:56.140 --> 00:19:57.120
  • IN HERE.
  • 00:19:57.120 --> 00:19:58.000
  • MATT HAGEE: SO THE DRY
  • 00:19:58.000 --> 00:19:58.170
  • INGREDIENTS ARE MIXED.
  • 00:19:58.170 --> 00:19:59.010
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: THEY'RE
  • 00:19:59.010 --> 00:19:59.170
  • READY.
  • 00:19:59.170 --> 00:19:59.260
  • AND SO NOW,
  • 00:19:59.260 --> 00:20:00.190
  • I'M JUST GOING TO ADD MY FAT,
  • 00:20:00.190 --> 00:20:01.280
  • WHICH IS COLD BUTTER.
  • 00:20:01.280 --> 00:20:03.060
  • AND IT'S GOOD TO WORK WITH
  • 00:20:03.060 --> 00:20:04.050
  • COLD.
  • 00:20:04.050 --> 00:20:05.170
  • THERE WE GO.
  • 00:20:05.170 --> 00:20:06.020
  • THAT'S ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:20:06.020 --> 00:20:06.170
  • I'LL JUST GET MY HANDS IN HERE.
  • 00:20:06.170 --> 00:20:07.140
  • MATT HAGEE: THAT'S ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:20:07.140 --> 00:20:08.050
  • GET YOUR FINGERNAILS DIRTY.
  • 00:20:08.050 --> 00:20:10.100
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: YES.
  • 00:20:10.100 --> 00:20:10.290
  • ANYWAY,
  • 00:20:10.290 --> 00:20:11.140
  • COLD BUTTER IS THE TRICK,
  • 00:20:11.140 --> 00:20:12.140
  • AND COLD SHORTENING.
  • 00:20:12.140 --> 00:20:14.000
  • AND THERE'S THREE TEASPOONS
  • 00:20:14.000 --> 00:20:15.050
  • OR TABLESPOONS OF SHORTENING.
  • 00:20:15.050 --> 00:20:16.150
  • NOW YOU WANT TO WORK THIS?
  • 00:20:16.150 --> 00:20:17.200
  • MATT HAGEE: I'M READY.
  • 00:20:17.200 --> 00:20:18.070
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:20:18.070 --> 00:20:19.000
  • YOU'VE GOT THE MUSCLES IN HERE,
  • 00:20:19.000 --> 00:20:19.210
  • SO WE'RE GOING TO GET THIS TO
  • 00:20:19.210 --> 00:20:21.000
  • WHERE IT LOOKS LIKE OATMEAL,
  • 00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:22.170
  • ALMOST LIKE OATMEAL,
  • 00:20:22.170 --> 00:20:23.190
  • REAL DRY OATMEAL.
  • 00:20:23.190 --> 00:20:25.010
  • MATT HAGEE: SO OTHER THAN THIS,
  • 00:20:25.010 --> 00:20:25.250
  • THERE'S NOT ANY WATER,
  • 00:20:25.250 --> 00:20:27.260
  • OR YOU KNOW JUST --
  • 00:20:27.260 --> 00:20:29.010
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: UH, NOT RIGHT
  • 00:20:29.010 --> 00:20:29.250
  • NOW, NO.
  • 00:20:29.250 --> 00:20:30.180
  • MATT HAGEE: SO IT'S GOING TO
  • 00:20:30.180 --> 00:20:31.160
  • GET THERE THOUGH?
  • 00:20:31.160 --> 00:20:32.060
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: YES,
  • 00:20:32.060 --> 00:20:32.240
  • BECAUSE THIS IS THE FAT
  • 00:20:32.240 --> 00:20:33.110
  • CONTENT.
  • 00:20:33.110 --> 00:20:33.280
  • THAT'S REALLY ALL YOU NEED.
  • 00:20:33.280 --> 00:20:35.180
  • MATT HAGEE: NOW IF YOU WERE
  • 00:20:35.180 --> 00:20:36.080
  • GOING TO DO LIKE A FAMILY DAY
  • 00:20:36.080 --> 00:20:37.010
  • IN THE KITCHEN,
  • 00:20:37.010 --> 00:20:37.160
  • THIS IS ONE OF THOSE RECIPES
  • 00:20:37.160 --> 00:20:38.130
  • WHERE EVERYBODY CAN KIND OF GET
  • 00:20:38.130 --> 00:20:39.080
  • INVOLVED; RIGHT?
  • 00:20:39.080 --> 00:20:39.290
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: THAT'S
  • 00:20:39.290 --> 00:20:40.190
  • EXACTLY RIGHT.
  • 00:20:40.190 --> 00:20:41.010
  • MATT HAGEE: YOU'VE GOT YOUR
  • 00:20:41.010 --> 00:20:41.180
  • KIDS, THEY CAN, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:20:41.180 --> 00:20:42.160
  • HAVE ONE OF THEM DO THIS WHILE
  • 00:20:42.160 --> 00:20:43.160
  • SOMEBODY ELSE IS DOING ANOTHER
  • 00:20:43.160 --> 00:20:44.060
  • DEAL.
  • 00:20:44.060 --> 00:20:44.200
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: NOW THESE ARE
  • 00:20:44.200 --> 00:20:45.090
  • BUTTERMILK BISCUITS,
  • 00:20:45.090 --> 00:20:45.270
  • SO YOU WILL ADD SOME
  • 00:20:45.270 --> 00:20:46.210
  • BUTTERMILK, YOU KNOW, TO THIS.
  • 00:20:46.210 --> 00:20:48.160
  • AND YOU KNOW YOU'LL MIX THAT
  • 00:20:48.160 --> 00:20:49.280
  • ALL UP.
  • 00:20:49.280 --> 00:20:50.230
  • AND SO SINCE WE ARE DOING A
  • 00:20:50.230 --> 00:20:53.130
  • SHORTER SEGMENT,
  • 00:20:53.130 --> 00:20:54.220
  • AND I DON'T WANT YOU TO GET
  • 00:20:54.220 --> 00:20:55.210
  • ANYMORE OF THIS FLOUR ON YOU,
  • 00:20:55.210 --> 00:20:57.210
  • WE'RE GOING TO GO AHEAD AND
  • 00:20:57.210 --> 00:20:58.210
  • START WORKING WITH THE DOUGH.
  • 00:20:58.210 --> 00:21:01.040
  • SO IT'LL TURN INTO KIND OF LIKE
  • 00:21:01.040 --> 00:21:03.030
  • A SHAGGY MESS.
  • 00:21:03.030 --> 00:21:04.090
  • AND I DON'T WANT YOU TO WORRY
  • 00:21:04.090 --> 00:21:05.060
  • ABOUT THAT.
  • 00:21:05.060 --> 00:21:05.280
  • SO YOU WOULD POUR
  • 00:21:05.280 --> 00:21:06.220
  • THE BUTTERMILK IN HERE.
  • 00:21:06.220 --> 00:21:08.050
  • AND THEN ONCE YOU GET IT ALL
  • 00:21:08.050 --> 00:21:09.220
  • DONE,
  • 00:21:09.220 --> 00:21:10.080
  • YOU WOULD POUR IT OUT ONTO THE,
  • 00:21:10.080 --> 00:21:11.230
  • UM, ONTO YOUR --
  • 00:21:11.230 --> 00:21:13.260
  • MATT HAGEE: CUTTING BOARD.
  • 00:21:13.260 --> 00:21:14.170
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: YEP.
  • 00:21:14.170 --> 00:21:15.090
  • AND SO YOU WOULD JUST POUR IT
  • 00:21:15.090 --> 00:21:16.090
  • OUT.
  • 00:21:16.090 --> 00:21:16.230
  • AND IT WITHOUT JUST BE A BUNCH
  • 00:21:16.230 --> 00:21:17.170
  • OF CHUNKS.
  • 00:21:17.170 --> 00:21:18.080
  • SO DON'T THINK YOU'VE DONE
  • 00:21:18.080 --> 00:21:18.280
  • SOMETHING WRONG IF IT COMES OUT
  • 00:21:18.280 --> 00:21:20.290
  • AND YOU'RE LIKE,
  • 00:21:20.290 --> 00:21:21.150
  • THIS LOOKS LIKE NOTHING.
  • 00:21:21.150 --> 00:21:23.080
  • NOW IF IT'S REAL, REAL DRY,
  • 00:21:23.080 --> 00:21:24.240
  • YOU WANT TO ADD A LITTLE BIT
  • 00:21:24.240 --> 00:21:25.230
  • MORE BUTTERMILK TO IT.
  • 00:21:25.230 --> 00:21:27.080
  • MATT HAGEE: THERE SHOULD KIND
  • 00:21:27.080 --> 00:21:28.010
  • OF BE A CONSISTENCY TO IT.
  • 00:21:28.010 --> 00:21:28.200
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: YEAH, YEAH.
  • 00:21:28.200 --> 00:21:29.110
  • BUT IT WON'T LOOK LIKE THIS;
  • 00:21:29.110 --> 00:21:30.050
  • I'M GOING TO TELL YOU.
  • 00:21:30.050 --> 00:21:30.190
  • WHEN IT COMES OUT,
  • 00:21:30.190 --> 00:21:31.050
  • IT'S GOING TO BE A MESS.
  • 00:21:31.050 --> 00:21:32.090
  • OKAY.
  • 00:21:32.090 --> 00:21:32.230
  • SO WHAT YOU'LL DO -- I'M GOING
  • 00:21:32.230 --> 00:21:34.100
  • TO PUT A LITTLE BIT OF FLOUR
  • 00:21:34.100 --> 00:21:36.030
  • UNDERNEATH THIS.
  • 00:21:36.030 --> 00:21:37.000
  • MATT HAGEE: THAT'S TO KEEP IT
  • 00:21:37.000 --> 00:21:37.180
  • FROM STICKING; RIGHT?
  • 00:21:37.180 --> 00:21:38.100
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: THAT'S
  • 00:21:38.100 --> 00:21:39.000
  • RIGHT.
  • 00:21:39.000 --> 00:21:39.170
  • THAT'S ALL WE'RE DOING THIS
  • 00:21:39.170 --> 00:21:40.040
  • FOR.
  • 00:21:40.040 --> 00:21:40.230
  • AND I'M GOING TO SHOW YOU A
  • 00:21:40.230 --> 00:21:41.150
  • TRICK SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO
  • 00:21:41.150 --> 00:21:42.060
  • BUY ANY KIND OF COOKIE CUTTERS
  • 00:21:42.060 --> 00:21:43.170
  • OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT,
  • 00:21:43.170 --> 00:21:44.220
  • SO JUST A MASON JAR.
  • 00:21:44.220 --> 00:21:46.230
  • THEN YOU KNOW THE HUGE ONES?
  • 00:21:46.230 --> 00:21:48.010
  • YOU CAN MAKE BIG OLE FACE
  • 00:21:48.010 --> 00:21:49.200
  • BISCUITS.
  • 00:21:49.200 --> 00:21:50.200
  • I DON'T KNOW IF THAT'S WHAT
  • 00:21:50.200 --> 00:21:51.080
  • THEY'RE CALLED.
  • 00:21:51.080 --> 00:21:51.210
  • IS THAT WHAT THEY'RE CALLED?
  • 00:21:51.210 --> 00:21:52.090
  • MATT HAGEE: LIKE YOU CAN GET
  • 00:21:52.090 --> 00:21:53.050
  • YOUR WHOLE FACE IN THEM?
  • 00:21:53.050 --> 00:21:53.230
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: YEAH, YEAH.
  • 00:21:53.230 --> 00:21:54.130
  • MATT HAGEE: THEY ARE NOW FACE
  • 00:21:54.130 --> 00:21:55.120
  • BISCUITS.
  • 00:21:55.120 --> 00:21:56.000
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:21:56.000 --> 00:21:56.190
  • THAT'S MY NEW TERM.
  • 00:21:56.190 --> 00:21:57.060
  • THAT'S GOING TO BE IN THE
  • 00:21:57.060 --> 00:21:57.270
  • DICTIONARY SOON.
  • 00:21:57.270 --> 00:21:59.190
  • AND SO YOU CAN CUT,
  • 00:21:59.190 --> 00:22:01.190
  • CUT THIS BY JUST PUTTING IT
  • 00:22:01.190 --> 00:22:03.020
  • RIGHT IN HERE LIKE THAT,
  • 00:22:03.020 --> 00:22:04.190
  • GO RIGHT DOWN.
  • 00:22:04.190 --> 00:22:05.160
  • MATT HAGEE: AND THIS IS ABOUT
  • 00:22:05.160 --> 00:22:06.120
  • THE SIZE OF THE DOUGH THAT
  • 00:22:06.120 --> 00:22:07.140
  • YOU'RE LOOK FOR?
  • 00:22:07.140 --> 00:22:08.040
  • IT DOESN'T NEED TO BE LIKE A
  • 00:22:08.040 --> 00:22:08.260
  • WHOLE BIG THING?
  • 00:22:08.260 --> 00:22:09.230
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: NAH.
  • 00:22:09.230 --> 00:22:10.120
  • NO.
  • 00:22:10.120 --> 00:22:10.240
  • NO.
  • 00:22:10.240 --> 00:22:11.110
  • KENDAL HAGEE: WHOMP IT.
  • 00:22:11.110 --> 00:22:12.090
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: OH BOY,
  • 00:22:12.090 --> 00:22:12.250
  • HERE WE GO.
  • 00:22:12.250 --> 00:22:13.130
  • OKAY.
  • 00:22:13.130 --> 00:22:14.030
  • I DIDN'T GET ENOUGH FLOUR IN
  • 00:22:14.030 --> 00:22:15.040
  • HERE.
  • 00:22:15.040 --> 00:22:15.210
  • YEAH, THAT'S BAD NEWS.
  • 00:22:15.210 --> 00:22:16.210
  • IT'S OKAY; LOOK.
  • 00:22:16.210 --> 00:22:18.020
  • WE CAN RECOVER.
  • 00:22:18.020 --> 00:22:19.200
  • NOW, THERE YOU GO.
  • 00:22:19.200 --> 00:22:20.140
  • NOW YOU DO IT THIS TIME.
  • 00:22:20.140 --> 00:22:22.010
  • AND I WANT TO SEE HOW GOOD
  • 00:22:22.010 --> 00:22:23.160
  • YOU'RE DOING.
  • 00:22:23.160 --> 00:22:24.040
  • THEN PUT IT ON THE COOKIE
  • 00:22:24.040 --> 00:22:24.240
  • SHEET.
  • 00:22:24.240 --> 00:22:25.140
  • NOW ONE THING I LIKE TO DO IS,
  • 00:22:25.140 --> 00:22:27.150
  • IF YOU HAVE A CAST IRON
  • 00:22:27.150 --> 00:22:28.190
  • SKILLET,
  • 00:22:28.190 --> 00:22:29.170
  • TO PUT THE SKILLET IN THE OVEN
  • 00:22:29.170 --> 00:22:31.120
  • AND GET IT REALLY HOT, NO OIL,
  • 00:22:31.120 --> 00:22:32.210
  • NO BUTTER, NOTHING LIKE THAT.
  • 00:22:32.210 --> 00:22:34.050
  • YOU DON'T NEED IT.
  • 00:22:34.050 --> 00:22:35.010
  • AND THEN JUST PUT IT STRAIGHT
  • 00:22:35.010 --> 00:22:36.050
  • DOWN IN THE CAST IRON,
  • 00:22:36.050 --> 00:22:37.020
  • AND YOU GET THIS NICE, CRISPY,
  • 00:22:37.020 --> 00:22:38.160
  • CRUNCHY BOTTOM.
  • 00:22:38.160 --> 00:22:40.030
  • NOW WE WERE TALKING IN THE LAST
  • 00:22:40.030 --> 00:22:41.070
  • SEGMENT ABOUT SWEET POTATOES.
  • 00:22:41.070 --> 00:22:43.100
  • MIXING A LITTLE BIT OF SWEET
  • 00:22:43.100 --> 00:22:44.200
  • POTATOES IN THERE IS REALLY
  • 00:22:44.200 --> 00:22:45.270
  • GREAT.
  • 00:22:45.270 --> 00:22:46.130
  • NOW YOU WANT IT LIGHT AND AIRY.
  • 00:22:46.130 --> 00:22:48.160
  • KENDAL HAGEE: SO YOU'RE GOING
  • 00:22:48.160 --> 00:22:49.070
  • TO SMASH IT AND CALL IT SMASH
  • 00:22:49.070 --> 00:22:50.050
  • BISCUIT.
  • 00:22:50.050 --> 00:22:51.060
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:22:51.060 --> 00:22:52.000
  • AND SO --
  • 00:22:52.000 --> 00:22:52.260
  • MATT HAGEE: WELL I'LL TELL YOU
  • 00:22:52.260 --> 00:22:53.190
  • WHAT, MISS BISCUIT CRITIC,
  • 00:22:53.190 --> 00:22:54.060
  • GET IN THERE AND PUMP ONE OUT
  • 00:22:54.060 --> 00:22:55.100
  • YOURSELF.
  • 00:22:55.100 --> 00:22:56.150
  • KENDAL HAGEE: OH, I WILL.
  • 00:22:56.150 --> 00:22:57.260
  • MATT HAGEE: YEAH,
  • 00:22:57.260 --> 00:22:58.110
  • LET ME SEE IT.
  • 00:22:58.110 --> 00:22:59.030
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: THERE WE GO.
  • 00:22:59.030 --> 00:22:59.290
  • YOU GOT IT GOING ON.
  • 00:22:59.290 --> 00:23:00.250
  • MATT HAGEE: GO GIRL.
  • 00:23:00.250 --> 00:23:01.100
  • COME ON, LIGHT AND AIRY.
  • 00:23:01.100 --> 00:23:03.030
  • LIGHT AND AIRY, COME ON.
  • 00:23:03.030 --> 00:23:04.030
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: SCOTT,
  • 00:23:04.030 --> 00:23:04.260
  • MY HUSBAND, IS THE BISCUIT
  • 00:23:04.260 --> 00:23:05.240
  • MAKER.
  • 00:23:05.240 --> 00:23:06.290
  • AND HE TELLS ME NOT TO TURN IT.
  • 00:23:06.290 --> 00:23:08.230
  • I DO IT ANYWAY BECAUSE HE TELLS
  • 00:23:08.230 --> 00:23:10.000
  • ME NOT TO TURN IT.
  • 00:23:10.000 --> 00:23:11.050
  • MATT HAGEE: CAST IT OUT.
  • 00:23:11.050 --> 00:23:12.040
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:23:12.040 --> 00:23:13.150
  • KENDAL HAGEE: THAT IS LIGHT AND
  • 00:23:13.150 --> 00:23:14.080
  • AIRY.
  • 00:23:14.080 --> 00:23:14.260
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: IT IS LIGHT
  • 00:23:14.260 --> 00:23:15.140
  • AND AIRY.
  • 00:23:15.140 --> 00:23:16.030
  • IT IS LIGHT AND AIRY.
  • 00:23:16.030 --> 00:23:17.010
  • MATT HAGEE: SEE, PERFECT.
  • 00:23:17.010 --> 00:23:18.060
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: NOW IF YOU
  • 00:23:18.060 --> 00:23:18.240
  • USE THIS,
  • 00:23:18.240 --> 00:23:19.110
  • YOU MIGHT NOT WANT TO TWIST IT,
  • 00:23:19.110 --> 00:23:20.270
  • ALTHOUGH I DO,
  • 00:23:20.270 --> 00:23:21.240
  • BECAUSE SOMETIMES, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:23:21.240 --> 00:23:22.280
  • YOU JUST HAVE TO DO IT.
  • 00:23:22.280 --> 00:23:24.000
  • MATT HAGEE: IT JUST FEELS
  • 00:23:24.000 --> 00:23:24.160
  • BETTER.
  • 00:23:24.160 --> 00:23:25.030
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: AND YOU KNOW
  • 00:23:25.030 --> 00:23:26.100
  • -- YEAH, LOOK AT THAT.
  • 00:23:26.100 --> 00:23:27.000
  • MATT HAGEE: SO ONCE YOU GET
  • 00:23:27.000 --> 00:23:27.240
  • DOWN TO KIND OF LIKE THIS,
  • 00:23:27.240 --> 00:23:28.150
  • YOU CAN JUST REWORK IT AND MAKE
  • 00:23:28.150 --> 00:23:29.070
  • IT HAPPEN ALL OVER AGAIN?
  • 00:23:29.070 --> 00:23:30.010
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: YES.
  • 00:23:30.010 --> 00:23:30.190
  • AND SO THIS WILL HELP.
  • 00:23:30.190 --> 00:23:31.280
  • JUST DO THAT.
  • 00:23:31.280 --> 00:23:32.150
  • OKAY.
  • 00:23:32.150 --> 00:23:33.000
  • SO WE WON'T HAVE ANY PROBLEM
  • 00:23:33.000 --> 00:23:33.210
  • ANYMORE.
  • 00:23:33.210 --> 00:23:34.120
  • KENDAL HAGEE: PERFECT.
  • 00:23:34.120 --> 00:23:35.030
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: YES.
  • 00:23:35.030 --> 00:23:35.240
  • BECAUSE IF YOU TWIST IT,
  • 00:23:35.240 --> 00:23:36.130
  • IT'LL MAKE THESE FLAKES.
  • 00:23:36.130 --> 00:23:38.030
  • YOU'LL GET A BISCUIT THAT LOOKS
  • 00:23:38.030 --> 00:23:39.260
  • LIKE THAT,
  • 00:23:39.260 --> 00:23:40.160
  • WHICH IS GREAT EATING,
  • 00:23:40.160 --> 00:23:41.230
  • NO PROBLEM, NO PROBLEM.
  • 00:23:41.230 --> 00:23:43.060
  • BUT IT'LL DO.
  • 00:23:43.060 --> 00:23:44.130
  • KENDAL HAGEE: ALL DIFFERENT
  • 00:23:44.130 --> 00:23:45.030
  • SIZES.
  • 00:23:45.030 --> 00:23:45.220
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: SO YOU'LL PUT
  • 00:23:45.220 --> 00:23:46.120
  • THAT IN A 425-DEGREE OVEN
  • 00:23:46.120 --> 00:23:47.170
  • FOR ABOUT 12 MINUTES.
  • 00:23:47.170 --> 00:23:48.280
  • THEN DURING IT,
  • 00:23:48.280 --> 00:23:50.210
  • DURING LIKE THE LAST FIVE
  • 00:23:50.210 --> 00:23:51.180
  • MINUTES,
  • 00:23:51.180 --> 00:23:52.020
  • YOU'RE GOING TO BRUSH IT WITH
  • 00:23:52.020 --> 00:23:53.040
  • A LITTLE BIT OF BUTTER.
  • 00:23:53.040 --> 00:23:54.210
  • AND I BRUSH THEM BEFORE THEY GO
  • 00:23:54.210 --> 00:23:56.290
  • IN THE OVEN.
  • 00:23:56.290 --> 00:23:57.150
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YEAH, ME TOO.
  • 00:23:57.150 --> 00:23:58.030
  • STACY LYN HARRIS: YOU CAN BRUSH
  • 00:23:58.030 --> 00:23:58.250
  • THEM IF YOU WANT TO BEFORE THEY
  • 00:23:58.250 --> 00:23:59.210
  • GO IN THE OVEN.
  • 00:23:59.210 --> 00:24:00.080
  • AND THEN I LIKE TO PUT ON SOME
  • 00:24:00.080 --> 00:24:01.120
  • OF THEM,
  • 00:24:01.120 --> 00:24:01.280
  • SALT AND PEPPER ON THE TOP.
  • 00:24:01.280 --> 00:24:03.100
  • I THINK THAT'S LIKE FABULOUS.
  • 00:24:03.100 --> 00:24:05.070
  • THERE YOU GO.
  • 00:24:05.070 --> 00:24:05.240
  • LOOK AT HOW PRETTY THAT IS.
  • 00:24:05.240 --> 00:24:07.110
  • YOU ARE DOING SO GOOD.
  • 00:24:07.110 --> 00:24:08.210
  • MATT HAGEE: IF YOU'RE LOOKING
  • 00:24:08.210 --> 00:24:09.100
  • FOR WAYS THAT YOU CAN GET YOUR
  • 00:24:09.100 --> 00:24:10.070
  • WHOLE FAMILY IN THE KITCHEN,
  • 00:24:10.070 --> 00:24:11.120
  • SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER,
  • 00:24:11.120 --> 00:24:13.000
  • AND ENJOY LIFE,
  • 00:24:13.000 --> 00:24:14.180
  • AND MAKE MEMORIES,
  • 00:24:14.180 --> 00:24:15.190
  • YOU'RE GOING TO WANT TO GET
  • 00:24:15.190 --> 00:24:16.060
  • STACY LYN'S BOOK.
  • 00:24:16.060 --> 00:24:17.060
  • I ENCOURAGE YOU TO CHECK HER
  • 00:24:17.060 --> 00:24:17.290
  • OUT ON FACEBOOK;
  • 00:24:17.290 --> 00:24:19.070
  • ALSO HER WEBSITE,
  • 00:24:19.070 --> 00:24:20.050
  • STACY LYN HARRIS.COM.
  • 00:24:20.050 --> 00:24:21.260
  • WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU
  • 00:24:21.260 --> 00:24:22.200
  • AGAIN VERY SOON
  • 00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:23.100
  • ON "THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:24:23.100 --> 00:24:24.040
  • MUSIC
  • 00:24:34.270 --> 00:24:37.270
  • MATT HAGEE: WELCOME BACK TO
  • 00:24:37.270 --> 00:24:38.150
  • "THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:24:38.150 --> 00:24:39.030
  • DR. LEMAN, THANK YOU FOR
  • 00:24:39.030 --> 00:24:40.000
  • JOINING US FOR THIS ENJOYABLE
  • 00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:41.070
  • CONVERSATION.
  • 00:24:41.070 --> 00:24:42.020
  • THERE IS LITERALLY SO MANY
  • 00:24:42.020 --> 00:24:44.260
  • TOPICS WITHIN THE DYNAMICS
  • 00:24:44.260 --> 00:24:46.060
  • OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY.
  • 00:24:46.060 --> 00:24:48.060
  • YOU'VE COVERED MANY OF THEM
  • 00:24:48.060 --> 00:24:49.050
  • IN YOUR BOOKS.
  • 00:24:49.050 --> 00:24:49.260
  • BUT YOU ARE CURRENTLY ENGAGING
  • 00:24:49.260 --> 00:24:51.220
  • WITH AN AUDIENCE ON A PLATFORM
  • 00:24:51.220 --> 00:24:53.000
  • OF PODCASTING.
  • 00:24:53.000 --> 00:24:54.150
  • YOU KNOW,
  • 00:24:54.150 --> 00:24:55.070
  • WHERE IS IT THAT PEOPLE NEED
  • 00:24:55.070 --> 00:24:56.060
  • TO GO TO GET INVOLVED IN THAT
  • 00:24:56.060 --> 00:24:57.120
  • CONVERSATION AND WHAT DO THEY
  • 00:24:57.120 --> 00:24:58.190
  • EXPECT TO HEAR WHEN THEY GET
  • 00:24:58.190 --> 00:24:59.140
  • THERE?
  • 00:24:59.140 --> 00:25:00.020
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: WELL,
  • 00:25:00.020 --> 00:25:00.240
  • THEY GO TO
  • 00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:01.140
  • "BIRTH ORDER GUY.COM/PODCAST."
  • 00:25:03.260 --> 00:25:06.260
  • MATT HAGEE: ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:25:06.260 --> 00:25:07.130
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: I MEMORIZED
  • 00:25:07.130 --> 00:25:08.040
  • THAT.
  • 00:25:08.040 --> 00:25:08.180
  • I THINK THAT'S CORRECT.
  • 00:25:08.180 --> 00:25:09.200
  • AND THEY'RE FREE.
  • 00:25:09.200 --> 00:25:10.290
  • THEY'RE ABOUT 20-MINUTES LONG.
  • 00:25:10.290 --> 00:25:12.210
  • AND THEY'RE FUN.
  • 00:25:12.210 --> 00:25:13.240
  • WE MAKE SURE THEY'RE FUN.
  • 00:25:13.240 --> 00:25:15.100
  • I DON'T DO ANYTHING UNLESS
  • 00:25:15.100 --> 00:25:16.040
  • IT'S FUN.
  • 00:25:16.040 --> 00:25:16.240
  • MATT HAGEE: I WAS GOING TO SAY.
  • 00:25:16.240 --> 00:25:17.220
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: WHEN I SPEAK
  • 00:25:17.220 --> 00:25:18.160
  • SUNDAY MORNING IN A CHURCH,
  • 00:25:18.160 --> 00:25:19.080
  • IT'S GOING TO BE FUN.
  • 00:25:19.080 --> 00:25:21.040
  • MATT HAGEE: AND IN THAT
  • 00:25:21.040 --> 00:25:21.250
  • PODCAST,
  • 00:25:21.250 --> 00:25:22.150
  • YOU'RE COVERING A LOT OF THE
  • 00:25:22.150 --> 00:25:23.140
  • TOPICS THAT YOU TALK ABOUT HERE
  • 00:25:23.140 --> 00:25:24.240
  • IN "BIRTH ORDER" AND THEN
  • 00:25:24.240 --> 00:25:27.010
  • "HOW TO ENGAGE IN THE MIND
  • 00:25:27.010 --> 00:25:28.040
  • OF A CHILD,"
  • 00:25:28.040 --> 00:25:28.260
  • "HAVE A NEW KID BY FRIDAY,"
  • 00:25:28.260 --> 00:25:31.000
  • YOU KNOW.
  • 00:25:31.000 --> 00:25:31.140
  • AND YOU'VE GOTTEN MANY
  • 00:25:31.140 --> 00:25:32.130
  • OF THESE SUBJECTS IN BOOKS,
  • 00:25:32.130 --> 00:25:33.290
  • BUT YOU COVER A LOT OF THAT
  • 00:25:33.290 --> 00:25:34.250
  • CONVERSATION ON THE PODCAST.
  • 00:25:34.250 --> 00:25:36.040
  • IT'S A GREAT WAY FOR PEOPLE TO
  • 00:25:36.040 --> 00:25:37.000
  • GET INTRODUCED TO YOUR CONTENT.
  • 00:25:37.000 --> 00:25:38.070
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: IT IS.
  • 00:25:38.070 --> 00:25:39.000
  • AND IT'S INTERACTIVE.
  • 00:25:39.000 --> 00:25:39.270
  • WE HAVE AN INTERACTIVE WEBSITE.
  • 00:25:39.270 --> 00:25:41.020
  • I ACTUALLY CORRESPOND
  • 00:25:41.020 --> 00:25:42.150
  • WITH PEOPLE.
  • 00:25:42.150 --> 00:25:43.190
  • BUT THE "MAKING CHILDREN MINE
  • 00:25:43.190 --> 00:25:45.000
  • WITHOUT LOSING YOURS" BOOK,
  • 00:25:45.000 --> 00:25:46.110
  • AND "HAVE A NEW KID
  • 00:25:46.110 --> 00:25:47.030
  • BY FRIDAY."
  • 00:25:47.030 --> 00:25:47.290
  • LET ME GIVE PEOPLE THINGS
  • 00:25:47.290 --> 00:25:49.020
  • TO THINK ABOUT.
  • 00:25:49.020 --> 00:25:49.250
  • PRAISE IS DESTRUCTIVE
  • 00:25:49.250 --> 00:25:52.030
  • WITH CHILDREN.
  • 00:25:52.030 --> 00:25:53.210
  • NOW, PEOPLE SAY,
  • 00:25:53.210 --> 00:25:54.180
  • "WHAT DID HE JUST SAY?"
  • 00:25:54.180 --> 00:25:55.290
  • PRAISE IS DESTRUCTIVE
  • 00:25:55.290 --> 00:25:56.250
  • WITH CHILDREN.
  • 00:25:56.250 --> 00:25:57.100
  • YOU WANT TO PRAISE GOD?
  • 00:25:57.100 --> 00:25:58.040
  • GOD'S WORTHY OF YOUR PRAISE.
  • 00:25:58.040 --> 00:25:59.200
  • ENCOURAGEMENT,
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  • "VITAMIN E" IS WHAT I CALL IT
  • 00:26:00.140 --> 00:26:01.230
  • IN MY BOOK.
  • 00:26:01.230 --> 00:26:02.140
  • YOUR KIDS NEED ENCOURAGEMENT.
  • 00:26:02.140 --> 00:26:04.010
  • QUICK EXAMPLE: FIVE A'S COME
  • 00:26:04.010 --> 00:26:05.190
  • HOME ON A REPORT CARD.
  • 00:26:05.190 --> 00:26:07.050
  • TRADITIONAL PARENT,
  • 00:26:07.050 --> 00:26:08.190
  • FULL OF PRAISE,
  • 00:26:08.190 --> 00:26:09.100
  • SAYS, "OH, FIVE A'S.
  • 00:26:09.100 --> 00:26:11.020
  • I'M SO EXCITED;
  • 00:26:11.020 --> 00:26:11.260
  • I'M CALLING AUNT MARTHA
  • 00:26:11.260 --> 00:26:12.220
  • AND GRANDMOTHER RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:26:12.220 --> 00:26:13.230
  • OH."
  • 00:26:13.230 --> 00:26:14.210
  • (KISSES)
  • 00:26:14.210 --> 00:26:15.060
  • "YOU'RE THE BEST KID
  • 00:26:15.060 --> 00:26:15.230
  • IN THE WORLD.
  • 00:26:15.230 --> 00:26:16.130
  • HERE'S 20 BUCKS."
  • 00:26:16.130 --> 00:26:16.290
  • THAT'S REWARD AND PRAISE
  • 00:26:16.290 --> 00:26:19.020
  • TOGETHER.
  • 00:26:19.020 --> 00:26:20.140
  • USING VITAMIN E,
  • 00:26:20.140 --> 00:26:21.170
  • ENCOURAGEMENT:
  • 00:26:21.170 --> 00:26:22.110
  • "WOW, FIVE A'S. HONEY,
  • 00:26:22.110 --> 00:26:23.270
  • LOOKS LIKE ALL THAT HARD WORK
  • 00:26:23.270 --> 00:26:25.060
  • YOU PUT IN THERE
  • 00:26:25.060 --> 00:26:26.090
  • REALLY PAID OFF.
  • 00:26:26.090 --> 00:26:26.290
  • CONGRATULATIONS."
  • 00:26:26.290 --> 00:26:28.030
  • FIRST BUMP,
  • 00:26:28.030 --> 00:26:29.050
  • AND YOU JUST SAVED YOURSELF
  • 00:26:29.050 --> 00:26:31.020
  • $20.
  • 00:26:31.020 --> 00:26:32.070
  • MATT HAGEE: WELL,
  • 00:26:32.070 --> 00:26:32.280
  • NOT ONLY DID YOU SAVE YOURSELF
  • 00:26:32.280 --> 00:26:33.180
  • $20, YOU, IN MY OPINION,
  • 00:26:33.180 --> 00:26:36.010
  • YOU CREATED A MILESTONE FOR THE
  • 00:26:36.010 --> 00:26:37.170
  • CHILD TO CONTINUE TO WORK PAST.
  • 00:26:37.170 --> 00:26:39.130
  • DR. KEVIN LEMAN: SURE.
  • 00:26:39.130 --> 00:26:40.000
  • THE KID SEES THAT PARENTS
  • 00:26:40.000 --> 00:26:41.200
  • RECOGNIZE -- WHAT?
  • 00:26:41.200 --> 00:26:43.020
  • THE HARD WORK I DID.
  • 00:26:43.020 --> 00:26:45.000
  • TODAY'S PARENTS,
  • 00:26:45.000 --> 00:26:46.070
  • I MEAN TO PUT IT BLUNTLY,
  • 00:26:46.070 --> 00:26:47.040
  • THEY'RE CLUELESS.
  • 00:26:47.040 --> 00:26:48.100
  • THEY REALLY ARE.
  • 00:26:48.100 --> 00:26:49.110
  • AND THEY'RE KNOCKING THEMSELVES
  • 00:26:49.110 --> 00:26:50.160
  • OUT TRYING TO BE THEIR CHILD'S
  • 00:26:50.160 --> 00:26:51.200
  • BEST FRIEND.
  • 00:26:51.200 --> 00:26:53.050
  • AND TO QUOTE MYSELF FROM
  • 00:26:53.050 --> 00:26:54.160
  • THE BOOK "HAVE A NEW KID
  • 00:26:54.160 --> 00:26:55.280
  • BY FRIDAY,"
  • 00:26:55.280 --> 00:26:57.100
  • "AN UNHAPPY CHILD
  • 00:26:57.100 --> 00:26:58.250
  • IS A HEALTHY CHILD."
  • 00:26:58.250 --> 00:27:00.160
  • AND THERE'S TIMES, PARENTS,
  • 00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:01.230
  • YOUR SON OUR DAUGHTER HAS TO BE
  • 00:27:01.230 --> 00:27:03.020
  • UNHAPPY.
  • 00:27:03.020 --> 00:27:03.230
  • MATT HAGEE: WELL,
  • 00:27:03.230 --> 00:27:04.110
  • THERE'S A LOT OF YOU,
  • 00:27:04.110 --> 00:27:04.280
  • WHO ARE HEARING THESE THOUGHTS,
  • 00:27:04.280 --> 00:27:05.270
  • AND YOU'RE THINKING THAT
  • 00:27:05.270 --> 00:27:06.160
  • THEY'RE A BIT REVELATION.
  • 00:27:06.160 --> 00:27:08.020
  • I ASSURE YOU,
  • 00:27:08.020 --> 00:27:09.010
  • YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE A LOT
  • 00:27:09.010 --> 00:27:10.100
  • REVEALED TO YOU WHEN YOU ENGAGE
  • 00:27:10.100 --> 00:27:11.140
  • WITH DR. KEVIN LEMAN.
  • 00:27:11.140 --> 00:27:12.250
  • KENDAL AND I WANT TO THANK HIM
  • 00:27:12.250 --> 00:27:13.290
  • FOR BEING HERE WITH US.
  • 00:27:13.290 --> 00:27:14.280
  • AND WE WANT TO THANK YOU
  • 00:27:14.280 --> 00:27:15.190
  • FOR WATCHING TODAY.
  • 00:27:15.190 --> 00:27:16.130
  • WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU
  • 00:27:16.130 --> 00:27:17.110
  • AGAIN VERY SOON RIGHT HERE ON
  • 00:27:17.110 --> 00:27:19.000
  • "THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:27:19.000 --> 00:27:20.080