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June 20, 2019
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Matt & Laurie Crouch host Les & Leslie Parrott

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Praise | Les & Leslie Parrott | June 20, 2019

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  • - MALE ANNOUNCER: COMING UP--
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  • - MATT CROUCH: WE ARE GOING TO
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  • BE TALKING ABOUT--
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  • - LES PARROTT: THAT BIG WORD,
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  • "RELATIONSHIPS."
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  • - MATT: OH, GOD IN HEAVEN.
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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: WHEN YOU
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  • YELLED AT ME IN FRONT OF
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  • EVERYBODY.
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  • - MATT: WHEN?
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  • WHAT'RE YOU TALKIN' ABOUT?
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - LESLIE PARROTT: HE DOESN'T
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  • EVEN APPRECIATE IT.
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  • WHY AM I BACK HERE DOING THIS?
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  • I'M EXHAUSTED.
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  • - LES: WHAT HAPPENED BACK
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  • THERE?
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  • - MATT: I REMEMBERED THE
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  • EMOTION OF BEING MISUNDERSTOOD.
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  • - LESLIE: HOPING FOR MORE
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  • AFFIRMATION, AND THIS IS WHAT HE
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  • GAVE ME.
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  • - LES: THAT'S-- THAT'S NOT WHAT
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  • I DID.
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  • I DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO CLAP IN
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  • A SARCASTIC WAY.
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  • THE ELBOWS HAVE TO GO OUT A
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  • LITTLE BIT.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - MATT: OKAY, WHAT HAPPENED?
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  • 'CAUSE I DON'T REMEMBER.
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  • - LESLIE: YOU DO.
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  • YOU KNOW EXACTLY.
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  • - MATT: I CAN'T REMEMBER WHAT
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  • YOU'RE TALKIN' ABOUT.
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  • - LES: YOUR RELATIONSHIPS CAN
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  • ONLY BE AS HEALTHY AS YOU ARE.
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  • - MATT: NOW WE'RE GETTIN'
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  • SOMEWHERE.
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  • - ANNOUNCER: AN ALL NEW
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  • "PRAISE" STARTS RIGHT NOW.
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  • - MATT: YOU'RE STILL BEIN' A
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  • JERK.
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  • - LAURIE: OKAY, SO NOW I'M
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  • BEING THE JERK.
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  • - ANNOUNCER: TONIGHT ON
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  • "PRAISE,"
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  • FROM LOS ANGELES, PSYCHOLOGY
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  • PROFESSOR AND BEST-SELLING
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  • AUTHORS, STATEWIDE MARRIAGE
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  • AMBASSADORS,
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  • - ANNOUNCER: AND NOW MATT AND
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  • LAURIE CROUCH.
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  • [CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]
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  • - MATT: "PRAISE" COMES TO SEE
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  • YOU FROM RIGHT HERE IN
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  • SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA.
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  • TONIGHT, WE HAVE LOTS OF DOCTORS
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  • IN THE HOUSE:
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  • DR. LES AND LESLIE.
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  • - LAURIE: EXCLUDING US.
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  • - MATT: WE ARE WANTING TO TALK
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  • ABOUT LOT OF STUFF, BUT WHAT'S
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  • THE MAIN SUBJECT WE'RE TAKIN' ON
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  • TONIGHT?
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  • - LES: WE CAN SUM IT UP IN THAT
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  • BIG WORD, "RELATIONSHIPS," AND
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  • WE ALL HAVE 'EM, RIGHT?
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  • IT'S THE HUB OF THE WHEEL.
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  • IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU DO IN
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  • LIFE.
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  • IT'S THE NUMBER ONE SOURCE OF
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  • HAPPINESS AND FULFILLMENT, AND
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  • IF YOU GET RELATIONSHIPS RIGHT,
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  • LIFE DOESN'T GET MUCH SWEETER.
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  • - LESLIE: THAT'S RIGHT, AND
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  • THAT'S EVERY RELATIONSHIP.
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  • IT'S MARRIAGE FOR SURE, BUT IT'S
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  • WITH YOUR KIDS, IT'S WITH YOUR
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  • PARENTS, IT'S WITH YOUR
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  • TEACHERS, YOUR FRIENDSHIP
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  • CIRCLES.
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  • WHATEVER YOU'RE DOING IN LIFE,
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  • RELATIONSHIPS REALLY ARE THE
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  • DEEPEST FULFILLMENT.
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  • - LES: YEAH, SO WHAT WE WANNA
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  • TALK ABOUT-- IN FACT, WE TEACH A
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  • CLASS ON RELATIONSHIPS WHERE
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  • IT'S JUST BEEN A PHENOMENAL
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  • THING.
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  • STUDENTS ARE STARVING FOR
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  • INFORMATION ON HEALTHY
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  • RELATIONSHIPS, AND I DON'T JUST
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  • THINK IT'S COLLEGE STUDENTS.
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  • I THINK IT'S ALL OF US, AND, YET
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  • WE'RE NOT GETTING THE
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  • INFORMATION TO THE PEOPLE THAT
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  • CAN PUT IT INTO PRACTICE.
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  • THAT'S WHAT WE'RE GONNA DO IN
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  • THE SHOW TONIGHT IS GIVE
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  • PRACTICAL HOW-TOS, TAKE AWAY
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  • THINGS THAT PEOPLE CAN DO,
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  • STARTING TODAY, THAT MAKE A
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  • POSITIVE DIFFERENCE IN THEIR
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  • RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • - LESLIE: THAT'S RIGHT, AS WELL
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  • AS BIBLICAL INSIGHT.
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  • - LES: YEAH.
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  • [APPLAUSE]
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  • - MATT: OKAY--
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  • - LAURIE: I'M SO EXCITED ABOUT
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  • THIS SHOW.
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  • - MATT: OKAY, ARE YOU DOING ANY
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  • KIND OF DOCTOR MOJO ON US RIGHT
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  • NOW?
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  • - LAURIE: YES, THEY HAVE BEEN
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  • ALL DAY.
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  • I CAN FEEL IT.
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  • - LES: WELL, SHE'S ASKED ME TO
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  • WORK ON YOU AFTER THE SHOW.
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  • WE'LL TAKE CARE OF THAT LATER.
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  • - MATT: OKAY.
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  • - LAURIE: YOU THINK I'M
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  • KIDDING?
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  • - MATT: SO, FIRST OF ALL, I
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  • WANT TO TALK ABOUT ASSESSMENT
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  • TESTS, OKAY?
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  • I HAVE HEARD ABOUT, YOU KNOW,
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  • THESE KIND OF THINGS WHERE YOU
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  • GO AND YOU FILL OUT ALL THE
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  • STUFF.
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  • WE DID YOURS.
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  • LAURIE AND I DID YOURS, AND
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  • WE'VE DONE ONE OR TWO OVER THE
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  • YEARS, AND I WANNA SAY ONE
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  • THING, THAT I DIDN'T KNOW THAT
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  • THEY WERE REALLY THAT HELPFUL.
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  • I DIDN'T-- I JUST-- LOOK, I
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  • DIDN'T KNOW--
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  • - LAURIE: YOU DIDN'T KNOW, OR
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  • YOU DIDN'T THINK?
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  • - MATT: I DIDN'T THINK THEY
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  • WERE, BUT THEY REALLY ARE, SO
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  • WHY DON'T WE START THERE AND
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  • TALK ABOUT WHY DO THEY WORK?
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  • WHAT ARE THEY, FIRST OF ALL?
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  • I MEAN, YOU'RE A DOCTOR, SO
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  • EXPLAIN IT TO US WHY-- AND THEN
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  • WE'LL TALK ABOUT IT, AND, LOOK,
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  • BOTTOM LINE, WE WANT YOU TO DO
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  • LAURIE AND I DID IT.
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  • IT'S CALLED "BETTER LOVE," AND
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  • THAT ONE IS FOR COUPLES, BUT YOU
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  • HAVE THEM FOR SINGLE PEOPLE, YOU
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  • HAVE THEM FOR PROFESSIONALS, YOU
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  • HAVE THEM FOR COUNSELORS, AND
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  • ALL THAT KIND OF STUFF, AND SO
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  • WE'RE GONNA GET INTO ALL THAT,
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  • BUT WHAT ARE THEY, AND WHAT'S
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  • YOUR EXPERIENCE?
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  • I'VE HEARD THAT YOU KIND OF
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  • WORKED ON ONE THAT PEOPLE KNOW
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  • ABOUT A LITTLE BIT, KIND OF,
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  • CALLED "EHARMONY," SO, I MEAN,
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  • BUT WHAT ARE THEY REALLY?
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  • - LES: WELL, HERE'S WHAT WE
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  • KNOW AFTER YEARS OF FOCUSING ON
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  • RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • YOUR RELATIONSHIPS CAN ONLY BE
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  • LET ME SAY THAT ONE MORE TIME.
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  • THIS IS SO KEY.
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  • YOUR RELATIONSHIPS CAN ONLY BE
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  • AS HEALTHY AS YOU ARE,
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  • THEREFORE, ONE OF THE MOST
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  • IMPORTANT THINGS YOU'LL EVER DO
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  • FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIPS IS WORK
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  • ON WHO YOU ARE IN THE CONTEXT OF
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  • AND ONE OF THE BEST WAYS-- IN
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  • FACT, I THINK IT'S THE VERY BEST
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  • WAY TO DO THAT IS TO--
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  • WELL, IT COMES DOWN TO
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  • TWO THINGS:
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  • SELF-AWARENESS-- THINK ABOUT
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  • THAT FOR A SECOND:
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  • SELF-AWARENESS.
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  • IF YOU BECOME MORE AWARE OF YOU
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  • AND YOUR EMOTIONAL LANDSCAPE AND
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  • YOUR ISSUES AND SO FORTH, THEN
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  • YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT THAT,
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  • RIGHT?
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  • - LESLIE: RIGHT, AWARENESS IS
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  • CURATIVE.
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  • IT REALLY IS BECAUSE IT OPENS
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  • YOUR EYES.
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  • YOU KNOW, THAT'S WHY INSIGHT IS
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  • SO POWERFUL, THAT "AH-HAH"
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  • MOMENT.
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  • - LES: AND THAT'S WHAT AN
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  • ASSESSMENT DOES.
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  • IT'S LIKE LOOKING IN A MIRROR
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  • FOR THE FIRST TIME AND GO, "OH,
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  • OKAY, I DIDN'T SEE IT THAT WAY
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  • BEFORE."
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  • SO THAT'S THE FIRST STEP FOR
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  • AN ASSESSMENT LIKE BETTER LOVE,
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  • AND THEN THE SECOND BIG
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  • ONE IS EMPATHY.
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  • AND EMPATHY, AS WE ALL KNOW,
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  • IS-- I THINK, IT'S THE MOST
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  • IMPORTANT SKILL SET WE EVER WORK
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  • ON AS HUMAN BEINGS, THE CAPACITY
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  • TO PUT OURSELVES IN SOMEBODY
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  • ELSE'S SHOES, SEE THE WORLD FROM
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  • THEIR PERSPECTIVE, IMAGINE WHAT
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  • LIFE MUST BE LIKE TO BE LIVED IN
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  • THEIR SKIN.
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  • I WISH WE COULD PACKAGE IT UP.
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  • WOULDN'T IT BE INCREDIBLE TO
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  • HAVE, LIKE, A BOTTLE OF EMPATHY
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  • THAT WE COULD GIVE TO A PERSON?
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  • I'D LIKE IT TO BE A SPRAY
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  • BOTTLE, YOU KNOW?
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  • AND YOU JUST COME HOME--
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  • EXACTLY, RIGHT?
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • "WE'RE HAVIN' A CONVERSATION
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  • RIGHT NOW.
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  • YOU REALLY NEED TO SEE MY
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  • PERSPECTIVE--"
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  • [SQUIRTING SOUND]
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  • RIGHT IN THE FACE.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • AND, OF COURSE, WE CAN'T DO
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  • THAT, BUT WHAT WE CAN DO IS BOTH
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  • TAKE AN ASSESSMENT, AND IT WORKS
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  • IMPROVING YOUR SELF-AWARENESS
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  • AND INCREASING YOUR CAPACITY FOR
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  • EMPATHY, AND THAT'S A PRETTY BIG
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  • PROMISE.
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  • YOU DO THAT, AND LIFE GETS
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  • PRETTY SWEET BECAUSE, ALL OF A
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  • SUDDEN, YOU'RE GETTING HEALTHIER
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  • IN THE CONTEXT OF YOUR
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  • RELATIONSHIPS, THUS YOUR
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  • RELATIONSHIPS ARE TOO.
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  • - LESLIE: SO POWERFUL.
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  • IT'S LIKE AN X-RAY, REALLY, THAT
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  • WE SO OFTEN FEEL LIKE IT'S A
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  • MYSTERY, WHAT'S GOING ON IN ME,
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  • WHAT'S GOING ON BETWEEN US, AND
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  • IT JUST BRINGS IT OUT INTO THE
  • 00:06:18.220 --> 00:06:20.150
  • LIGHT, AND THAT AWARENESS IS
  • 00:06:20.150 --> 00:06:22.130
  • SUCH A GIFT.
  • 00:06:22.130 --> 00:06:23.150
  • - LES: AND SOMETIMES GIVING US
  • 00:06:23.150 --> 00:06:24.070
  • SUCH AN INSIGHT THAT WE REALLY--
  • 00:06:24.070 --> 00:06:26.230
  • "OH, MAN, I WAS TOTALLY BLIND TO
  • 00:06:26.230 --> 00:06:27.150
  • THAT.
  • 00:06:27.150 --> 00:06:27.240
  • I DIDN'T-- NO WONDER THAT'S
  • 00:06:27.240 --> 00:06:29.000
  • HAPPENING IN MY RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:06:29.000 --> 00:06:31.200
  • I JUST DIDN'T SEE THAT BEFORE."
  • 00:06:31.200 --> 00:06:32.120
  • AND THAT'S THE POWER OF AN
  • 00:06:32.120 --> 00:06:33.030
  • ASSESSMENT.
  • 00:06:33.030 --> 00:06:34.010
  • - LAURIE: SO THERE ARE PEOPLE
  • 00:06:34.060 --> 00:06:37.060
  • THAT DON'T HAVE EMPATHY OR THAT
  • 00:06:37.060 --> 00:06:39.140
  • THEY'RE NOT SUPER GOOD AT IT.
  • 00:06:39.160 --> 00:06:42.160
  • MAYBE THEY'RE LOW ON
  • 00:06:42.160 --> 00:06:43.020
  • THE SCALE WITH EMPATHY.
  • 00:06:43.020 --> 00:06:45.130
  • CAN YOU MAKE YOURSELF--
  • 00:06:45.130 --> 00:06:46.270
  • - LES: ARE YOU ASKING FOR HIM?
  • 00:06:46.270 --> 00:06:48.130
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:06:48.130 --> 00:06:48.280
  • - LAURIE: MAYBE, MAYBE.
  • 00:06:50.030 --> 00:06:53.030
  • - LESLIE: IS THIS A PERSONAL
  • 00:06:53.030 --> 00:06:53.240
  • QUESTION?
  • 00:06:53.240 --> 00:06:54.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:06:54.050 --> 00:06:55.100
  • - LAURIE: LET'S JUST SAY I HAVE
  • 00:06:55.100 --> 00:06:56.020
  • MORE THAN HE DOES.
  • 00:06:56.020 --> 00:06:57.240
  • - LES: WE TALKED A LITTLE OVER
  • 00:06:57.240 --> 00:06:58.160
  • LUNCH ABOUT THAT.
  • 00:06:58.160 --> 00:06:59.070
  • BUT, YEAH, HERE'S WHAT WE KNOW
  • 00:06:59.070 --> 00:07:01.230
  • ABOUT EMPATHY: MOST OF US THINK
  • 00:07:01.230 --> 00:07:02.270
  • WE'RE BETTER AT IT THAN WE
  • 00:07:02.270 --> 00:07:04.030
  • REALLY ARE.
  • 00:07:04.030 --> 00:07:05.000
  • WE KNOW THAT FROM RESEARCH--
  • 00:07:05.000 --> 00:07:05.260
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, WE'RE PRETTY
  • 00:07:05.260 --> 00:07:06.170
  • CONFIDENT, "I-- YEAH, I'VE GOT
  • 00:07:06.170 --> 00:07:07.180
  • THIS."
  • 00:07:07.180 --> 00:07:08.040
  • - LES: -- RIGHT?
  • 00:07:08.040 --> 00:07:08.190
  • AND, SECONDLY, WE CONFUSE
  • 00:07:08.190 --> 00:07:10.040
  • "SYMPATHY" WITH "EMPATHY."
  • 00:07:10.040 --> 00:07:11.080
  • AS I TELL MY COUNSELING
  • 00:07:11.080 --> 00:07:12.220
  • STUDENTS,
  • 00:07:12.220 --> 00:07:13.130
  • "SYMPATHY" IS STANDING ON THE
  • 00:07:13.130 --> 00:07:14.250
  • SHORE AND THROWING OUT A LIFE
  • 00:07:14.250 --> 00:07:16.080
  • RING TO SOMEBODY THAT'S
  • 00:07:16.080 --> 00:07:17.280
  • STRUGGLING IN THE WATER,"
  • 00:07:17.280 --> 00:07:18.270
  • AND EVERYBODY IN THE
  • 00:07:18.270 --> 00:07:19.140
  • STUDIO AUDIENCE AND EVERYBODY
  • 00:07:19.140 --> 00:07:20.140
  • THAT'S LISTENING TO US RIGHT
  • 00:07:20.140 --> 00:07:21.080
  • NOW WOULD DO THAT 'CAUSE WE'RE
  • 00:07:21.080 --> 00:07:22.110
  • DECENT HUMAN BEINGS.
  • 00:07:22.110 --> 00:07:23.030
  • "EMPATHY," MUCH MORE RISKY.
  • 00:07:23.030 --> 00:07:25.010
  • "EMPATHY" IS ACTUALLY DIVING
  • 00:07:25.010 --> 00:07:27.240
  • INTO THE WATER, RISKING YOUR OWN
  • 00:07:27.240 --> 00:07:29.210
  • WELL-BEING, TO BRING THAT PERSON
  • 00:07:29.210 --> 00:07:30.240
  • BACK TO SHORE, AND NOT EVERYBODY
  • 00:07:30.240 --> 00:07:32.010
  • DOES THAT.
  • 00:07:32.010 --> 00:07:32.250
  • IN FACT, THAT'S SO RARE, WHAT DO
  • 00:07:32.250 --> 00:07:34.000
  • WE CALL THOSE PEOPLE?
  • 00:07:34.000 --> 00:07:35.080
  • THEY'RE HEROES, RIGHT?
  • 00:07:35.080 --> 00:07:36.050
  • - MATT: FIRST RESPONDERS, YEAH.
  • 00:07:36.050 --> 00:07:37.070
  • - LES: YEAH, AND IT'S JUST AS
  • 00:07:37.070 --> 00:07:38.020
  • HEROIC, YEAH.
  • 00:07:38.020 --> 00:07:39.120
  • IT'S JUST AS HEROIC WHEN WE DO
  • 00:07:39.120 --> 00:07:41.200
  • THAT IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS,
  • 00:07:41.200 --> 00:07:43.060
  • WHETHER IT'S WITH FRIENDSHIPS OR
  • 00:07:43.060 --> 00:07:44.170
  • MARRIAGE OR WORK RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:07:44.170 --> 00:07:45.190
  • WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME THAT YOU
  • 00:07:45.190 --> 00:07:48.010
  • CONSCIOUSLY THOUGHT ABOUT WHAT
  • 00:07:48.010 --> 00:07:50.200
  • THE WORLD LOOKS LIKE FROM YOUR
  • 00:07:50.200 --> 00:07:51.170
  • PARTNER'S PERSPECTIVE, RIGHT?
  • 00:07:51.170 --> 00:07:54.020
  • WE DON'T GO AROUND ALL DAY
  • 00:07:54.020 --> 00:07:55.040
  • THINKIN' ABOUT THAT ALL THE
  • 00:07:55.040 --> 00:07:55.240
  • TIME.
  • 00:07:55.240 --> 00:07:56.180
  • WE PROJECT OUR OWN FEELINGS AND
  • 00:07:56.180 --> 00:07:57.290
  • STUFF ONTO THEM, RIGHT?
  • 00:07:57.290 --> 00:07:59.070
  • WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU DID
  • 00:07:59.070 --> 00:08:00.150
  • THAT FOR ME?
  • 00:08:00.150 --> 00:08:01.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:08:01.020 --> 00:08:03.280
  • - LAURIE: NOW WE'RE GETTIN'
  • 00:08:03.280 --> 00:08:04.180
  • SOMEWHERE.
  • 00:08:04.180 --> 00:08:04.290
  • - LESLIE: THIS MORNING WHEN I
  • 00:08:04.290 --> 00:08:05.200
  • ROLLED OUT OF BED.
  • 00:08:05.200 --> 00:08:06.160
  • - LES: OH, REALLY, ALL DAY
  • 00:08:06.160 --> 00:08:07.240
  • LONG, YEAH, RIGHT.
  • 00:08:07.240 --> 00:08:09.190
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:08:09.190 --> 00:08:10.000
  • - LES: DOES THAT MAKE SENSE?
  • 00:08:10.000 --> 00:08:10.210
  • ON EMPATHY, I COULD TALK ALL
  • 00:08:10.210 --> 00:08:12.080
  • NIGHT ABOUT IT BECAUSE IT'S SUCH
  • 00:08:12.080 --> 00:08:13.050
  • AN IMPORTANT SUBJECT, AND I WISH
  • 00:08:13.050 --> 00:08:14.150
  • WE COULD PRESS A MAGIC BUTTON.
  • 00:08:14.150 --> 00:08:16.060
  • I WISH WE COULD GIVE IT AS A
  • 00:08:16.060 --> 00:08:17.050
  • WEDDING GIFT TO PEOPLE.
  • 00:08:17.050 --> 00:08:17.240
  • IT'S SO POWERFUL.
  • 00:08:17.240 --> 00:08:19.210
  • - LESLIE: PART OF EMPATHY IS
  • 00:08:19.210 --> 00:08:20.290
  • ACTUALLY SELF-AWARENESS 'CAUSE
  • 00:08:20.290 --> 00:08:22.030
  • YOU KIND OF HAVE TO BE REALLY IN
  • 00:08:22.030 --> 00:08:23.180
  • TOUCH WITH YOUR OWN SELF TO KNOW
  • 00:08:23.180 --> 00:08:24.100
  • HOW YOU FEEL IN A MOMENT, AND
  • 00:08:24.100 --> 00:08:25.240
  • THEN YOU KIND OF HAVE THE
  • 00:08:25.240 --> 00:08:27.290
  • MATURITY TO SET THAT ASIDE AND
  • 00:08:27.290 --> 00:08:29.080
  • REALLY ENTER IN: "NOW, WHAT'S MY
  • 00:08:29.080 --> 00:08:31.030
  • SPOUSE FEELING?"
  • 00:08:31.030 --> 00:08:33.250
  • AND YOU DO THAT WHOLEHEARTEDLY,
  • 00:08:33.250 --> 00:08:35.070
  • AND BOTH OF THOSE PIECES ARE SO
  • 00:08:35.070 --> 00:08:36.110
  • POWERFUL BECAUSE IT REALLY DOES
  • 00:08:36.110 --> 00:08:38.020
  • CHANGE YOU ONCE YOU SEE IT FROM
  • 00:08:38.020 --> 00:08:40.080
  • THEIR SIDE.
  • 00:08:40.080 --> 00:08:41.160
  • - LES: THAT'S THE POINT.
  • 00:08:41.160 --> 00:08:42.050
  • IT WILL CHANGE YOU.
  • 00:08:42.050 --> 00:08:42.210
  • YOU CAN'T LOOK AT LIFE FROM
  • 00:08:42.210 --> 00:08:44.050
  • SOMEBODY ELSE'S PERSPECTIVE
  • 00:08:44.050 --> 00:08:45.120
  • WITHOUT, ALL OF A SUDDEN, HAVIN'
  • 00:08:45.120 --> 00:08:46.200
  • A NEW INSIGHT, "OH, NO WONDER
  • 00:08:46.200 --> 00:08:47.210
  • THEY DO THAT.
  • 00:08:47.210 --> 00:08:49.040
  • THAT'S WHY THEY DRIVE ME NUTS
  • 00:08:49.040 --> 00:08:50.070
  • BECAUSE NOW I SEE WHY THEY WOULD
  • 00:08:50.070 --> 00:08:51.010
  • DO THAT," RIGHT?
  • 00:08:51.010 --> 00:08:52.200
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, IT WAS THEIR
  • 00:08:52.200 --> 00:08:53.230
  • ANXIETY, IT WAS THEIR FEAR,
  • 00:08:53.230 --> 00:08:54.170
  • WHATEVER IT WAS.
  • 00:08:54.170 --> 00:08:55.070
  • - LES: IT WAS THE HOME THEY
  • 00:08:55.070 --> 00:08:56.070
  • GREW UP IN, WHATEVER IT MIGHT
  • 00:08:56.070 --> 00:08:56.280
  • BE, AND WHEN YOU HAVE THAT GOING
  • 00:08:56.280 --> 00:08:58.140
  • BACK AND FORTH BETWEEN TWO
  • 00:08:58.140 --> 00:08:59.280
  • PEOPLE, THE RESEARCH SHOWS US
  • 00:08:59.280 --> 00:09:01.040
  • THOSE ARE THE HAPPIEST PEOPLE ON
  • 00:09:01.040 --> 00:09:02.280
  • THE PLANET.
  • 00:09:02.280 --> 00:09:04.140
  • MUTUAL EMPATHY, IT'S AN
  • 00:09:04.140 --> 00:09:06.040
  • INCREDIBLE BLESSING.
  • 00:09:06.040 --> 00:09:06.250
  • - MATT: OKAY, YOU SEEM TO KNOW
  • 00:09:06.250 --> 00:09:07.170
  • WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT SO
  • 00:09:07.170 --> 00:09:09.040
  • FAR.
  • 00:09:09.040 --> 00:09:10.140
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:10.140 --> 00:09:11.010
  • YOU KNOW, I MEAN, YOU SOUND LIKE
  • 00:09:11.010 --> 00:09:11.230
  • DOCTORS.
  • 00:09:11.230 --> 00:09:13.160
  • - LES: I DIDN'T KNOW THIS WAS A
  • 00:09:13.160 --> 00:09:14.140
  • TEST, OKAY.
  • 00:09:14.140 --> 00:09:15.030
  • - MATT: YEAH, YEAH.
  • 00:09:15.030 --> 00:09:15.210
  • - LESLIE: IT'S AN ASSESSMENT.
  • 00:09:15.210 --> 00:09:16.120
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:16.230
  • - LAURIE: JUST TESTING YOU.
  • 00:09:16.230 --> 00:09:18.060
  • - MATT: YOU'RE DOIN' A SCREEN
  • 00:09:18.060 --> 00:09:19.070
  • TEST RIGHT NOW, AND YOU JUST
  • 00:09:19.070 --> 00:09:19.280
  • DON'T KNOW IT.
  • 00:09:19.280 --> 00:09:20.130
  • BUT, BASICALLY, YOU KNOW WHAT
  • 00:09:20.130 --> 00:09:21.120
  • YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT.
  • 00:09:22.240 --> 00:09:25.240
  • YOU WERE A PART OF THE EHARMONY
  • 00:09:25.240 --> 00:09:28.230
  • THING THAT TENS OF MILLIONS OF
  • 00:09:28.230 --> 00:09:31.090
  • PEOPLE DID THAT WERE TRYING TO
  • 00:09:31.090 --> 00:09:33.040
  • MATCH PEOPLE, RIGHT?
  • 00:09:33.040 --> 00:09:34.260
  • - MATT: SO WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:09:37.020 --> 00:09:38.050
  • ISSUES WHERE THE BETTER LOVE
  • 00:09:38.050 --> 00:09:39.220
  • ASSESSMENT THAT LAURIE AND I DID
  • 00:09:40.010 --> 00:09:43.010
  • RECENTLY, WE SEEM TO ANSWER A
  • 00:09:43.100 --> 00:09:46.100
  • BUNCH OF QUESTIONS THAT HAD TO
  • 00:09:46.100 --> 00:09:48.050
  • DO WITH LOTS OF DIFFERENT
  • 00:09:48.050 --> 00:09:50.020
  • SUBJECTS, AND YOU READ THESE
  • 00:09:50.110 --> 00:09:53.110
  • STATEMENTS, AND YOU KIND OF PICK
  • 00:09:53.110 --> 00:09:54.240
  • THE ONE THAT YOU SEEM IS THE
  • 00:09:54.240 --> 00:09:56.170
  • MOST LIKE YOU, OR SOMETHING LIKE
  • 00:09:56.170 --> 00:09:57.150
  • THAT, AND THEN IT ALL GETS KIND
  • 00:09:57.150 --> 00:09:58.070
  • OF FORMULATED.
  • 00:09:58.070 --> 00:10:00.050
  • WE'RE GONNA, KIND OF, PICK ONE
  • 00:10:00.050 --> 00:10:00.260
  • UP HERE IN A MINUTE AND GET INTO
  • 00:10:00.260 --> 00:10:02.080
  • AND WE'RE GONNA UN-PERSONALIZE
  • 00:10:06.030 --> 00:10:06.240
  • IT AT THAT MOMENT--
  • 00:10:06.240 --> 00:10:09.040
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:10:09.040 --> 00:10:10.040
  • -- BUT WE WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU
  • 00:10:10.040 --> 00:10:10.260
  • KNOW DR. LES AND LESLIE ARE
  • 00:10:10.260 --> 00:10:13.060
  • GONNA BE WITH US ALL NIGHT.
  • 00:10:13.060 --> 00:10:15.050
  • WE'RE GONNA BE TALKING ABOUT ALL
  • 00:10:15.050 --> 00:10:15.270
  • SORTS OF STUFF, INCLUDING "LOVE
  • 00:10:15.270 --> 00:10:17.000
  • LIKE THAT," DRS. PARROTT'S NEW
  • 00:10:17.000 --> 00:10:17.280
  • BOOK, HAPPENS TO BE A "NEW YORK
  • 00:10:17.280 --> 00:10:19.180
  • TIMES" NUMBER ONE BEST-SELLING
  • 00:10:19.180 --> 00:10:21.140
  • AUTHOR, ALSO PART OF ALL THESE
  • 00:10:21.140 --> 00:10:22.150
  • ASSESSMENT TESTS WE'RE GONNA
  • 00:10:22.150 --> 00:10:23.270
  • TALK ABOUT.
  • 00:10:23.270 --> 00:10:26.130
  • WE DID A LITTLE BIO PIECE.
  • 00:10:26.130 --> 00:10:27.020
  • ALL NIGHT WITH US,
  • 00:10:27.020 --> 00:10:28.060
  • DRS. LES AND LESLIE.
  • 00:10:28.060 --> 00:10:29.260
  • WATCH THIS.
  • 00:10:29.260 --> 00:10:31.180
  • - ANNOUNCER: LES AND LESLIE
  • 00:10:31.180 --> 00:10:32.080
  • PARROTT, A DYNAMIC DUO WHO SHARE
  • 00:10:32.080 --> 00:10:34.270
  • A PASSION FOR BUILDING HEALTHY
  • 00:10:34.270 --> 00:10:36.110
  • RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:10:36.190 --> 00:10:39.190
  • LES IS A PROFESSOR OF PSYCHOLOGY
  • 00:10:39.190 --> 00:10:40.170
  • AT NORTHWEST UNIVERSITY, AND
  • 00:10:40.170 --> 00:10:42.260
  • BOTH ARE FOUNDERS OF THE CENTER
  • 00:10:42.260 --> 00:10:43.230
  • FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AT
  • 00:10:43.230 --> 00:10:45.050
  • OLIVET UNIVERSITY IN
  • 00:10:45.050 --> 00:10:46.220
  • KANKAKEE, ILLINOIS.
  • 00:10:46.220 --> 00:10:49.080
  • - LESLIE: WHEN YOU'RE TAKING
  • 00:10:49.080 --> 00:10:49.290
  • OWNERSHIP OF IT INSTEAD OF
  • 00:10:49.290 --> 00:10:51.020
  • PLACING BLAME, THAT'S WHEN YOU
  • 00:10:51.020 --> 00:10:52.200
  • START WORKING TOWARD RESOLVE.
  • 00:10:52.200 --> 00:10:54.100
  • - ANNOUNCER: LESLIE, A MARRIAGE
  • 00:10:54.100 --> 00:10:56.050
  • AND FAMILY THERAPIST, AND LES, A
  • 00:10:56.050 --> 00:10:58.200
  • CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST, ARE KNOWN
  • 00:10:58.200 --> 00:11:01.130
  • FOR BRINGING REAL-LIFE EXAMPLES
  • 00:11:01.130 --> 00:11:02.240
  • TO THEIR PRESENTATIONS AND
  • 00:11:02.240 --> 00:11:04.030
  • DELIVERING CUTTING EDGE
  • 00:11:04.030 --> 00:11:05.290
  • INSIGHTFUL MESSAGES.
  • 00:11:05.290 --> 00:11:07.270
  • EVERY YEAR, THE PARROTTS SPEAK
  • 00:11:07.270 --> 00:11:09.270
  • IN MORE THAN 40 CITIES,
  • 00:11:09.270 --> 00:11:12.030
  • ADDRESSING AN ARRAY OF AUDIENCES
  • 00:11:12.030 --> 00:11:13.070
  • FROM CHURCHES TO FORTUNE 500
  • 00:11:13.070 --> 00:11:15.220
  • COMPANIES.
  • 00:11:15.220 --> 00:11:16.280
  • THE GOVERNOR OF OKLAHOMA
  • 00:11:16.280 --> 00:11:19.260
  • APPOINTED THEM AS THE FIRST-EVER
  • 00:11:19.260 --> 00:11:20.180
  • STATEWIDE MARRIAGE AMBASSADORS.
  • 00:11:20.180 --> 00:11:23.080
  • - LES: I CAN SAY TO LESLIE,
  • 00:11:23.080 --> 00:11:24.110
  • "WOW, IT SEEMS LIKE YOU'RE
  • 00:11:24.110 --> 00:11:25.050
  • REALLY FEELING UPSET ABOUT
  • 00:11:25.050 --> 00:11:26.080
  • THAT."
  • 00:11:26.080 --> 00:11:28.140
  • - LESLIE: I DON'T KNOW IF I'M
  • 00:11:28.140 --> 00:11:29.050
  • UPSET.
  • 00:11:29.050 --> 00:11:29.160
  • I THINK I'M REALLY ANGRY ABOUT
  • 00:11:29.160 --> 00:11:31.050
  • IT.
  • 00:11:31.050 --> 00:11:32.110
  • - LES: YEAH, THAT'S WHAT I WAS
  • 00:11:32.110 --> 00:11:33.030
  • GONNA SAY, "ANGRY ABOUT THAT,"
  • 00:11:33.030 --> 00:11:33.240
  • YEAH, RIGHT.
  • 00:11:33.240 --> 00:11:34.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:11:34.060 --> 00:11:35.100
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:11:35.100 --> 00:11:37.010
  • - ANNOUNCER: AUTHORITIES HAVE
  • 00:11:37.010 --> 00:11:37.220
  • ALSO CALLED UPON LES AND LESLIE
  • 00:11:37.220 --> 00:11:38.140
  • TO PROVIDE SUPPORT IN THE
  • 00:11:38.140 --> 00:11:40.080
  • AFTERMATH OF WORLDWIDE
  • 00:11:40.080 --> 00:11:42.000
  • DISASTERS, INCLUDING GROUND ZERO
  • 00:11:43.260 --> 00:11:46.260
  • AND CHERNOBYL.
  • 00:11:46.260 --> 00:11:48.040
  • AS NUMBER ONE "NEW YORK TIMES"
  • 00:11:48.040 --> 00:11:48.250
  • BEST-SELLING AUTHORS, THEIR
  • 00:11:48.250 --> 00:11:50.040
  • BOOKS HAVE SOLD OVER TWO MILLION
  • 00:11:50.040 --> 00:11:52.020
  • COPIES IN MORE THAN TWO DOZEN
  • 00:11:52.020 --> 00:11:53.080
  • LANGUAGES.
  • 00:11:53.080 --> 00:11:56.020
  • THE PARROTT'S HAVE ALSO BEEN
  • 00:11:56.020 --> 00:11:57.140
  • FEATURED IN SEVERAL MEDIA
  • 00:11:57.140 --> 00:11:58.120
  • OUTLETS.
  • 00:11:58.120 --> 00:11:59.000
  • PART OF THEIR VISION IS TO EQUIP
  • 00:11:59.000 --> 00:12:00.190
  • MORE THAN A MILLION MARRIAGE
  • 00:12:00.190 --> 00:12:02.060
  • MENTORS TO HELP OTHERS BUILD
  • 00:12:02.060 --> 00:12:03.280
  • STRONGER LIFELONG MARRIAGES.
  • 00:12:03.280 --> 00:12:06.060
  • HERE ON "PRAISE,"
  • 00:12:06.060 --> 00:12:09.020
  • LES AND LESLIE PARROTT.
  • 00:12:09.020 --> 00:12:10.270
  • [CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]
  • 00:12:11.030 --> 00:12:14.030
  • - MATT: I LIKE IT.
  • 00:12:14.030 --> 00:12:14.190
  • "PRAISE" IS ABOUT BETTER LOVE,
  • 00:12:14.230 --> 00:12:17.230
  • RIGHT HERE, ALL NIGHT.
  • 00:12:17.230 --> 00:12:19.190
  • WE WANNA TALK ABOUT THAT, BUT I
  • 00:12:19.190 --> 00:12:21.060
  • HAVE--
  • 00:12:21.060 --> 00:12:22.160
  • - LES: I JUST GOTTA SAY-- I
  • 00:12:22.160 --> 00:12:23.060
  • GOTTA INTERRUPT YOU FOR A
  • 00:12:23.060 --> 00:12:23.250
  • SECOND.
  • 00:12:23.250 --> 00:12:24.060
  • THAT PACKAGE THAT YOU JUST
  • 00:12:24.060 --> 00:12:25.010
  • ROLLED, NEXT TIME I'M FEELIN'
  • 00:12:25.010 --> 00:12:26.120
  • BAD ABOUT MYSELF, I'M GONNA
  • 00:12:26.120 --> 00:12:27.110
  • WATCH THAT.
  • 00:12:27.110 --> 00:12:28.210
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:12:28.210 --> 00:12:29.070
  • YOU GUYS MADE US LOOK PRETTY
  • 00:12:29.070 --> 00:12:29.270
  • GOOD.
  • 00:12:29.270 --> 00:12:30.060
  • - MATT: YOU CAN GET OUR APP.
  • 00:12:30.060 --> 00:12:31.080
  • YOU CAN RE-WATCH IT ANYTIME YOU
  • 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:32.040
  • WANT.
  • 00:12:32.040 --> 00:12:32.230
  • IT'S PERFECT.
  • 00:12:32.230 --> 00:12:33.180
  • OKAY, BETTER LOVE IS SOMETHING
  • 00:12:34.210 --> 00:12:37.210
  • I'M INTERESTED IN.
  • 00:12:37.210 --> 00:12:39.160
  • I'M INTERESTED IN BETTER
  • 00:12:39.160 --> 00:12:41.170
  • RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:12:41.170 --> 00:12:42.110
  • I'M INTERESTED IN THIS SUBJECT
  • 00:12:42.110 --> 00:12:44.210
  • BECAUSE THE ONE OR TWO THAT
  • 00:12:44.270 --> 00:12:47.270
  • LAURIE AND I HAVE DONE OVER THE
  • 00:12:47.270 --> 00:12:49.020
  • YEARS ACTUALLY TAUGHT ME
  • 00:12:49.020 --> 00:12:50.240
  • SOMETHING ABOUT THE WAY SHE
  • 00:12:50.240 --> 00:12:53.100
  • MIGHT ACT OR DO SOMETHING, AND
  • 00:12:53.100 --> 00:12:55.170
  • SOMETHING THAT I JUST DIDN'T
  • 00:12:55.170 --> 00:12:57.160
  • UNDERSTAND, I COMPLETELY
  • 00:12:57.160 --> 00:13:00.140
  • UNDERSTAND IT, AND MAYBE I'LL
  • 00:13:00.140 --> 00:13:02.100
  • LEARN MORE TONIGHT DURING THIS
  • 00:13:02.100 --> 00:13:03.070
  • BROADCAST.
  • 00:13:03.080 --> 00:13:06.080
  • OKAY, BUT--
  • 00:13:06.080 --> 00:13:07.070
  • - LAURIE: THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:13:07.070 --> 00:13:08.060
  • - MATT: WHAT?
  • 00:13:08.060 --> 00:13:08.240
  • - LAURIE: THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:13:08.240 --> 00:13:09.120
  • - MATT: I'M DOING GOOD SO FAR?
  • 00:13:09.120 --> 00:13:10.040
  • - LAURIE: YEAH, YOU'RE DOING
  • 00:13:10.040 --> 00:13:10.250
  • GREAT, BABY.
  • 00:13:10.250 --> 00:13:11.080
  • - MATT: OKAY, THANK YOU, BABY.
  • 00:13:11.080 --> 00:13:14.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:13:14.050 --> 00:13:14.230
  • AFTER 33 YEARS, WE'RE LEARNING.
  • 00:13:14.230 --> 00:13:15.150
  • SO, QUESTION THOUGH, WHAT IF YOU
  • 00:13:19.110 --> 00:13:22.110
  • ARE IN A MARRIAGE, AND YOU
  • 00:13:22.110 --> 00:13:23.060
  • JUST DON'T CARE?
  • 00:13:23.060 --> 00:13:25.260
  • HOW DO YOU GET SOMEONE TO START
  • 00:13:25.260 --> 00:13:26.180
  • CARING?
  • 00:13:26.180 --> 00:13:29.000
  • YOU GUYS WERE SITTING THERE JUST
  • 00:13:29.000 --> 00:13:29.220
  • A MINUTE AGO, TALKING LIKE, YOU
  • 00:13:29.220 --> 00:13:31.000
  • KNOW, YOU START LEARNING THINGS,
  • 00:13:31.210 --> 00:13:34.210
  • AND YOU START DOIN' THAT.
  • 00:13:34.210 --> 00:13:36.140
  • WHAT IF SOMEBODY JUST DOESN'T
  • 00:13:36.140 --> 00:13:37.090
  • CARE ENOUGH TO EVEN ASK THE
  • 00:13:37.090 --> 00:13:37.290
  • QUESTION?
  • 00:13:37.290 --> 00:13:40.250
  • HOW DO WE START THIS PROCESS IF
  • 00:13:40.250 --> 00:13:41.170
  • SOMEONE'S SITTIN' WITH THEIR
  • 00:13:41.170 --> 00:13:44.010
  • SPOUSE AND DON'T CARE?
  • 00:13:47.040 --> 00:13:50.040
  • - LES: YEAH, I LOVE THAT
  • 00:13:50.040 --> 00:13:50.230
  • QUESTION.
  • 00:13:50.230 --> 00:13:51.040
  • FIRST OF ALL, TO MAKE SURE
  • 00:13:51.040 --> 00:13:52.200
  • WHEN YOU TAKE THE BETTER LOVE
  • 00:13:55.080 --> 00:13:56.040
  • ASSESSMENT, YOU GO ONLINE, YOU
  • 00:13:56.040 --> 00:13:57.020
  • ANSWER A SERIES OF QUESTIONS.
  • 00:13:57.020 --> 00:13:58.110
  • TAKES ABOUT 10, 15 MINUTES.
  • 00:13:58.110 --> 00:13:59.150
  • HOW LONG DID IT TAKE YOU GUYS?
  • 00:13:59.150 --> 00:14:00.100
  • ABOUT THAT?
  • 00:14:00.100 --> 00:14:01.040
  • - MATT: IT TOOK ME ABOUT AN
  • 00:14:01.040 --> 00:14:01.240
  • HOUR.
  • 00:14:01.240 --> 00:14:03.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:14:03.170 --> 00:14:05.040
  • YEAH, IT'S 15, 20 MINUTES.
  • 00:14:05.040 --> 00:14:06.180
  • - LES: YEAH, WELL, THAT SAYS
  • 00:14:06.180 --> 00:14:07.090
  • SOMETHIN' ABOUT YOUR
  • 00:14:07.090 --> 00:14:08.020
  • PERSONALITY.
  • 00:14:08.020 --> 00:14:08.150
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:14:08.150 --> 00:14:10.100
  • - MATT: I WAS DISTRACTED.
  • 00:14:10.100 --> 00:14:11.060
  • - LES: WE DON'T EVEN NEED THE
  • 00:14:11.060 --> 00:14:12.070
  • BUT, NO, SO YOU ANSWER.
  • 00:14:14.170 --> 00:14:17.040
  • IT TAKES A FEW, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:14:17.040 --> 00:14:17.230
  • MINUTES TO DO THAT.
  • 00:14:17.230 --> 00:14:18.140
  • YOU EACH DO IT SEPARATELY,
  • 00:14:18.140 --> 00:14:19.190
  • IDEALLY WITHOUT TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:14:19.190 --> 00:14:21.060
  • IT, AND THEN THAT INSTANTLY
  • 00:14:21.060 --> 00:14:23.030
  • GENERATES THIS TEN-PAGE LITTLE
  • 00:14:23.030 --> 00:14:25.260
  • REPORT, AND I KNOW AS SOON AS I
  • 00:14:25.260 --> 00:14:26.260
  • SAY, "A REPORT," LIKE, SOME OF
  • 00:14:26.260 --> 00:14:28.120
  • OUR VIEWERS ARE GOING LIKE,
  • 00:14:28.120 --> 00:14:29.100
  • "THAT'S THE LAST THING I WANT IS
  • 00:14:29.100 --> 00:14:30.290
  • A REPORT ON MY RELATIONSHIP."
  • 00:14:30.290 --> 00:14:33.260
  • IT'S NOT THAT KIND OF A REPORT.
  • 00:14:33.260 --> 00:14:34.180
  • IT'S A CUSTOMIZED ROAD MAP FOR
  • 00:14:34.180 --> 00:14:35.240
  • LIFELONG LOVE.
  • 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:38.080
  • THAT'S REALLY WHAT IT IS, AGAIN,
  • 00:14:38.080 --> 00:14:39.000
  • EVEN IF YOU'RE DATING OR MARRIED
  • 00:14:39.000 --> 00:14:40.050
  • FOR DECADES.
  • 00:14:40.050 --> 00:14:41.140
  • AND SO THAT LITTLE REPORT IS
  • 00:14:41.140 --> 00:14:43.200
  • THE PARAGRAPHS ON YOUR REPORT
  • 00:14:48.040 --> 00:14:48.250
  • WON'T BE ON ANYBODY ELSE'S
  • 00:14:48.250 --> 00:14:50.030
  • REPORT BECAUSE THERE'S 40.000
  • 00:14:50.030 --> 00:14:52.140
  • VARIABLES THAT GO INTO THESE
  • 00:14:52.140 --> 00:14:53.140
  • LITTLE PARAGRAPHS, SO THERE'S
  • 00:14:53.140 --> 00:14:55.010
  • LOTS OF LEVERS BEING PULLED THE
  • 00:14:55.010 --> 00:14:56.070
  • SCENES TO GENERATE WHAT'S ON
  • 00:14:56.070 --> 00:14:58.080
  • THIS THING, SO, VERY CUSTOMIZED,
  • 00:14:58.080 --> 00:14:59.220
  • AND SO TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION,
  • 00:15:00.220 --> 00:15:03.220
  • THERE'S NEVER BEEN A MARRIAGE
  • 00:15:03.220 --> 00:15:05.220
  • AND THERE NEVER WILL BE AGAIN
  • 00:15:09.140 --> 00:15:10.200
  • BECAUSE YOU HAVE THIS GOD-GIVEN
  • 00:15:10.200 --> 00:15:11.290
  • PERSONALITY THAT HAS ALL THIS
  • 00:15:11.290 --> 00:15:13.050
  • MULTIFACETED STUFF GOIN' ON IN
  • 00:15:13.050 --> 00:15:15.140
  • THE DNA OF WHO YOU ARE, AND SAME
  • 00:15:15.140 --> 00:15:17.060
  • WITH YOU, AND YOU BRING THAT
  • 00:15:17.060 --> 00:15:18.180
  • TOGETHER, AND YOU CREATE A
  • 00:15:18.180 --> 00:15:19.200
  • CHEMISTRY THAT HAS NEVER EXISTED
  • 00:15:19.200 --> 00:15:22.060
  • BEFORE, AND IT'S THE SAME FOR
  • 00:15:22.060 --> 00:15:24.270
  • EVERY COUPLE ON THE PLANET.
  • 00:15:24.270 --> 00:15:26.110
  • WE'RE ALL DIFFERENT.
  • 00:15:26.110 --> 00:15:27.070
  • THERE'S NEVER BEEN A
  • 00:15:27.070 --> 00:15:28.120
  • RELATIONSHIP LIKE YOURS BEFORE.
  • 00:15:28.120 --> 00:15:30.020
  • THAT'S WHY THIS IS HIGHLY
  • 00:15:30.020 --> 00:15:31.040
  • CUSTOMIZED.
  • 00:15:31.040 --> 00:15:31.220
  • SO IF YOU ARE NOW DOWN THE ROAD
  • 00:15:31.270 --> 00:15:34.270
  • IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, AND
  • 00:15:34.270 --> 00:15:36.110
  • SUDDENLY IT'S LIKE, "I DON'T
  • 00:15:36.110 --> 00:15:37.230
  • KNOW WHAT I SAW IN THIS PERSON,"
  • 00:15:37.230 --> 00:15:39.030
  • THE QUESTION YOU'RE ASKING IS
  • 00:15:39.030 --> 00:15:41.060
  • "CAN AN ASSESSMENT TOOL STILL BE
  • 00:15:41.060 --> 00:15:42.210
  • HELPFUL TO A COUPLE LIKE THAT?"
  • 00:15:42.210 --> 00:15:44.150
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:15:44.150 --> 00:15:46.040
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, IT'S ACTUALLY
  • 00:15:46.040 --> 00:15:46.250
  • PRETTY EPIC BECAUSE, WHEN
  • 00:15:47.010 --> 00:15:50.010
  • SOMEONE IS DISTANT FROM THE
  • 00:15:50.010 --> 00:15:51.080
  • RELATIONSHIP, DOESN'T HAVE A LOT
  • 00:15:51.080 --> 00:15:52.040
  • OF ENERGY, DOESN'T FEEL ENGAGED,
  • 00:15:52.040 --> 00:15:53.250
  • USUALLY THEY HAVE A SENSE OF
  • 00:15:53.250 --> 00:15:54.210
  • BOREDOM.
  • 00:15:54.210 --> 00:15:55.250
  • YOU KNOW, THEY'RE OUT OF TOUCH
  • 00:15:55.250 --> 00:15:57.160
  • WITH EACH OTHER.
  • 00:15:57.160 --> 00:15:58.080
  • THEY DON'T FEEL THAT CONNECTION,
  • 00:15:58.080 --> 00:16:00.080
  • OR MAYBE THEY'RE NUMB BECAUSE
  • 00:16:00.080 --> 00:16:02.100
  • THEY'VE BEEN HURT, AND THEY'RE
  • 00:16:02.100 --> 00:16:03.150
  • TRYING TO PROTECT THEMSELF, AND
  • 00:16:03.150 --> 00:16:04.130
  • SO THIS IS A WINDOW IN.
  • 00:16:04.240 --> 00:16:07.240
  • THIS IS A PLACE WHERE YOU CAN
  • 00:16:08.050 --> 00:16:11.050
  • FIND YOUR CONNECTIONS AGAIN,
  • 00:16:11.050 --> 00:16:11.250
  • WHERE YOU CAN BE REMINDED OF
  • 00:16:11.250 --> 00:16:14.030
  • THOSE AND TAKE THEM FURTHER, AND
  • 00:16:14.030 --> 00:16:16.050
  • AND YOU JUST COME AS YOUR
  • 00:16:18.250 --> 00:16:20.000
  • AUTHENTIC SELF.
  • 00:16:20.000 --> 00:16:21.070
  • YOU DON'T PRETEND.
  • 00:16:21.070 --> 00:16:22.290
  • YOU DON'T ANSWER THE QUESTIONS
  • 00:16:22.290 --> 00:16:23.200
  • IN ANY WAY THAT ISN'T JUST
  • 00:16:23.200 --> 00:16:24.280
  • TOTALLY AUTHENTIC.
  • 00:16:24.280 --> 00:16:26.170
  • AND LIKE YOU SAID, IT'S NOT A
  • 00:16:26.170 --> 00:16:27.290
  • "REPORT."
  • 00:16:27.290 --> 00:16:29.150
  • IT'S NOT SOMETHING USED AGAINST
  • 00:16:29.150 --> 00:16:30.190
  • YOU TO GRADE THE RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:16:30.190 --> 00:16:32.050
  • THIS IS A GENTLE GUIDE THAT GETS
  • 00:16:32.050 --> 00:16:34.230
  • YOU MOVING IN THE DIRECTION THAT
  • 00:16:34.230 --> 00:16:36.160
  • YOU NEED TO GO.
  • 00:16:36.160 --> 00:16:38.170
  • WE ALL KNOW WE'RE SUPPOSED TO
  • 00:16:38.170 --> 00:16:39.150
  • WORK ON OUR RELATIONSHIPS, BUT
  • 00:16:39.150 --> 00:16:41.030
  • WE DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS.
  • 00:16:41.030 --> 00:16:42.220
  • LIKE, "OH, YOU KNOW, IF I'M
  • 00:16:42.220 --> 00:16:44.010
  • FEELING HURT, I DON'T WANNA WORK
  • 00:16:44.010 --> 00:16:45.100
  • ON THIS."
  • 00:16:45.100 --> 00:16:47.080
  • BUT THIS TAKES THAT TO A GENTLE
  • 00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:49.290
  • PLACE WHERE YOU NOW KNOW
  • 00:16:49.290 --> 00:16:51.100
  • - LES: YEAH, IN FACT, IT COMES
  • 00:16:55.200 --> 00:16:56.120
  • WITH A LITTLE GUIDE, AN ACTION
  • 00:16:56.120 --> 00:16:57.030
  • PLAN, SO YOU CAN PUT IT INTO
  • 00:16:57.030 --> 00:16:58.180
  • PRACTICE OVER TWO OR THREE DATE
  • 00:16:58.180 --> 00:16:59.200
  • NIGHTS TOGETHER IF YOU WANT TO
  • 00:16:59.200 --> 00:17:01.130
  • DO THAT.
  • 00:17:01.130 --> 00:17:03.220
  • SO IT'S FUN, IT'S UPBEAT, NO
  • 00:17:03.220 --> 00:17:04.250
  • GUILT, NO SHAME, NO
  • 00:17:04.250 --> 00:17:05.110
  • FINGER-POINTING, AND NO GRADING.
  • 00:17:05.110 --> 00:17:06.190
  • YOU CAN'T PASS OR FAIL ON THIS
  • 00:17:06.190 --> 00:17:09.010
  • THING.
  • 00:17:09.010 --> 00:17:10.000
  • IT'S JUST INFORMATION.
  • 00:17:10.000 --> 00:17:11.180
  • IT'S LIKE LOOKIN' IN A MIRROR
  • 00:17:11.180 --> 00:17:12.120
  • AND GOIN', "OH, DID YOU SEE THAT
  • 00:17:12.120 --> 00:17:14.210
  • ABOUT US?
  • 00:17:14.210 --> 00:17:15.140
  • WE SHOULD DO SOMETHIN' ABOUT
  • 00:17:15.140 --> 00:17:16.050
  • THAT," OR "ISN'T THIS COOL?
  • 00:17:16.050 --> 00:17:16.250
  • HIGH FIVE.
  • 00:17:16.250 --> 00:17:17.060
  • WE'RE DOIN' THIS--"
  • 00:17:17.060 --> 00:17:17.230
  • - MATT: OKAY, WHAT IF THERE'S A
  • 00:17:17.230 --> 00:17:18.270
  • JIM AND A MADGE, SITTING ON THE
  • 00:17:18.270 --> 00:17:21.200
  • COUCH RIGHT NOW--
  • 00:17:21.200 --> 00:17:23.090
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:17:23.090 --> 00:17:23.230
  • - LES: OKAY.
  • 00:17:23.230 --> 00:17:24.220
  • - MATT: JIM AND MADGE.
  • 00:17:24.220 --> 00:17:25.100
  • WHAT IF THERE REALLY IS A JIM
  • 00:17:25.100 --> 00:17:26.010
  • AND A MADGE?
  • 00:17:26.010 --> 00:17:26.130
  • - LESLIE: THERE PROBABLY IS.
  • 00:17:26.130 --> 00:17:27.040
  • - LAURIE: HI, JIM AND MADGE.
  • 00:17:27.040 --> 00:17:28.060
  • - MATT: AND THEY'RE GOIN', "OH,
  • 00:17:28.060 --> 00:17:29.010
  • MY GOD."
  • 00:17:29.010 --> 00:17:29.260
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:17:29.260 --> 00:17:30.140
  • SO JIM AND MADGE ARE SITTIN'
  • 00:17:30.140 --> 00:17:32.200
  • THERE, AND THEY DON'T CARE
  • 00:17:32.200 --> 00:17:35.040
  • ENOUGH TO DO THIS.
  • 00:17:35.040 --> 00:17:37.210
  • WHAT DO YOU SAY TO THEM, DOCTOR?
  • 00:17:37.210 --> 00:17:38.190
  • - LES: WELL, IF THEY DON'T CARE
  • 00:17:38.190 --> 00:17:39.280
  • ENOUGH TO DO THAT, THEY'RE ON A
  • 00:17:39.280 --> 00:17:41.130
  • PATH THAT'S GONNA MEAN THAT THE
  • 00:17:41.130 --> 00:17:42.240
  • RELATIONSHIP'S GONNA FALTER,
  • 00:17:42.240 --> 00:17:45.050
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:17:45.050 --> 00:17:45.210
  • I MEAN, IF YOU DON'T CARE-- WE
  • 00:17:45.210 --> 00:17:47.250
  • ALWAYS SAY THINGS LIKE, "TAKE
  • 00:17:47.250 --> 00:17:49.030
  • CARE," RIGHT?
  • 00:17:49.030 --> 00:17:50.220
  • WE'RE KIND OF FLIPPANT WITH
  • 00:17:50.220 --> 00:17:51.120
  • THAT.
  • 00:17:51.120 --> 00:17:52.010
  • "CARE" IS THE BEDROCK OF A
  • 00:17:52.010 --> 00:17:53.090
  • RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:17:53.090 --> 00:17:55.180
  • IF YOU DON'T CARE ANYMORE, THE
  • 00:17:55.180 --> 00:17:56.090
  • RELATIONSHIP IS ATROPHYING.
  • 00:17:56.090 --> 00:17:56.290
  • IT'S DYING.
  • 00:17:56.290 --> 00:17:59.250
  • SO THAT'S WHEN YOU GOTTA GO,
  • 00:17:59.250 --> 00:18:00.170
  • "OH, WHOA, WE ARE ON A-- WE'RE
  • 00:18:00.170 --> 00:18:02.060
  • PLAYIN' WITH FIRE."
  • 00:18:02.060 --> 00:18:03.070
  • - LAURIE: NOW YOU NEED THIS
  • 00:18:03.070 --> 00:18:04.170
  • BOOK.
  • 00:18:04.170 --> 00:18:04.290
  • - MATT: WELL, CAN YOU
  • 00:18:04.290 --> 00:18:05.280
  • ACTUALLY-- I DON'T KNOW WHAT
  • 00:18:05.280 --> 00:18:07.140
  • THAT WOULD BE LIKE.
  • 00:18:07.140 --> 00:18:08.220
  • I DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT WOULD
  • 00:18:08.220 --> 00:18:09.140
  • FEEL LIKE.
  • 00:18:09.140 --> 00:18:09.290
  • I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THAT WOULD
  • 00:18:09.290 --> 00:18:11.070
  • FEEL LIKE, BUT IF SOMEBODY'S
  • 00:18:11.070 --> 00:18:12.210
  • FEELING LIKE THAT, CAN IT GET
  • 00:18:12.210 --> 00:18:13.210
  • FIXED?
  • 00:18:13.210 --> 00:18:15.230
  • HAVE YOU SEEN THAT IN YOUR
  • 00:18:15.230 --> 00:18:17.210
  • CLINICAL PRACTICE?
  • 00:18:17.210 --> 00:18:18.240
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, I LOVE THIS
  • 00:18:18.240 --> 00:18:19.170
  • QUESTION.
  • 00:18:19.170 --> 00:18:20.290
  • - MATT: CAN COMPLETE PEOPLE
  • 00:18:20.290 --> 00:18:22.230
  • THAT JUST DON'T LIKE EACH OTHER
  • 00:18:22.230 --> 00:18:23.220
  • OR DON'T CARE, CAN THEY GET OVER
  • 00:18:23.220 --> 00:18:24.280
  • IT AND GET MOVIN' AGAIN?
  • 00:18:24.280 --> 00:18:27.020
  • - LESLIE: HERE'S THE POWERFUL
  • 00:18:27.020 --> 00:18:28.150
  • THING.
  • 00:18:28.150 --> 00:18:30.040
  • YOU KNOW, IF YOU'RE SITTING IN A
  • 00:18:30.040 --> 00:18:30.260
  • ROOM AND YOU'RE WONDERING--
  • 00:18:30.260 --> 00:18:31.180
  • FIRST OF ALL, WHEN YOU DON'T
  • 00:18:31.180 --> 00:18:32.180
  • CARE, IT'S GENERALLY A
  • 00:18:32.180 --> 00:18:33.210
  • YOU'VE LOST HOPE IS WHAT THAT'S
  • 00:18:36.170 --> 00:18:37.180
  • SAYING.
  • 00:18:37.180 --> 00:18:38.070
  • SO THIS DOES REQUIRE A STEP OF
  • 00:18:38.070 --> 00:18:40.230
  • HOPE, BUT IT ONLY TAKES ONE
  • 00:18:40.230 --> 00:18:42.140
  • PERSON.
  • 00:18:42.140 --> 00:18:43.280
  • THE AMAZING THING ABOUT HOW GOD
  • 00:18:43.280 --> 00:18:45.050
  • HAS CREATED RELATIONSHIPS IS
  • 00:18:45.050 --> 00:18:46.120
  • WHEN ONE PERSON MAKES ONE BRAVE
  • 00:18:49.100 --> 00:18:50.020
  • CHOICE, IT IS SYNERGISTIC FOR
  • 00:18:50.230 --> 00:18:53.230
  • THE WHOLE COUPLE AND CONTAGIOUS
  • 00:18:53.230 --> 00:18:54.230
  • BECAUSE GOD HAS GIVEN US THIS
  • 00:18:54.230 --> 00:18:55.260
  • AMAZING THING.
  • 00:18:56.210 --> 00:18:59.210
  • WE HAVE WHAT'S CALLED "MIRROR
  • 00:18:59.210 --> 00:19:00.140
  • NEURONS" IN OUR BRAINS, AND WHEN
  • 00:19:00.140 --> 00:19:01.220
  • OUR SPOUSE STARTS TO TAKE
  • 00:19:02.030 --> 00:19:05.030
  • OWNERSHIP, WHEN THEY START TO
  • 00:19:05.030 --> 00:19:06.070
  • INVEST, WHEN THEY START TO CARE,
  • 00:19:06.070 --> 00:19:07.270
  • WHEN THEY START TO SHOW US
  • 00:19:07.270 --> 00:19:09.170
  • EMPATHY OR GIVE US ENERGY AND
  • 00:19:09.170 --> 00:19:11.190
  • ATTENTION, WE CAN'T EVEN RESIST
  • 00:19:11.190 --> 00:19:14.020
  • IT.
  • 00:19:14.020 --> 00:19:15.260
  • WE'RE DRAWN TO MATCH THEIR LEVEL
  • 00:19:15.260 --> 00:19:17.210
  • OF INVESTMENT IN US.
  • 00:19:17.210 --> 00:19:19.260
  • IT'S JUST THIS BEAUTIFUL GIFT
  • 00:19:19.260 --> 00:19:21.250
  • GOD'S GIVEN US.
  • 00:19:21.250 --> 00:19:23.010
  • IT'S GRACE, AND SO ONE PERSON
  • 00:19:23.010 --> 00:19:25.040
  • MAKES A CHOICE, SAYING, "I'M
  • 00:19:25.040 --> 00:19:27.180
  • GONNA GO FOR THIS," AND IT MAY
  • 00:19:27.180 --> 00:19:28.280
  • NOT HAPPEN INSTANTLY, BUT THE
  • 00:19:28.280 --> 00:19:30.230
  • OTHER SPOUSE WILL BE WOOED BY
  • 00:19:30.230 --> 00:19:33.230
  • THAT INTO THIS GROWTH PLACE.
  • 00:19:33.230 --> 00:19:35.020
  • IT'S AMAZING.
  • 00:19:35.020 --> 00:19:36.240
  • - LES: THAT'S WHY, WHENEVER WE
  • 00:19:36.240 --> 00:19:37.160
  • HAVE A CHANCE TO TALK TO FOLKS
  • 00:19:37.160 --> 00:19:39.070
  • ABOUT CONFLICT, WHEN WE
  • 00:19:39.070 --> 00:19:40.040
  • SOMETIMES DO THIS THING CALLED
  • 00:19:40.040 --> 00:19:41.070
  • "FIGHT NIGHT," WE'LL SAY, "HEY,
  • 00:19:41.070 --> 00:19:42.140
  • HAVE YOU EVER HAD A PRIDE
  • 00:19:42.140 --> 00:19:43.190
  • FIGHT?"
  • 00:19:43.190 --> 00:19:44.230
  • WELL, YEAH, THEY'RE ALL PRIDE
  • 00:19:44.230 --> 00:19:45.140
  • FIGHTS, RIGHT?
  • 00:19:45.140 --> 00:19:46.290
  • AND THAT'S WHAT'S KEEPING YOU
  • 00:19:46.290 --> 00:19:48.110
  • FROM ENTERING INTO A WORLD OF
  • 00:19:48.110 --> 00:19:49.280
  • HUMILITY SO THAT YOU CAN CARE
  • 00:19:49.280 --> 00:19:51.140
  • FOR THE OTHER PERSON, SETTING
  • 00:19:51.140 --> 00:19:53.260
  • THAT PRIDE ASIDE IN ORDER TO
  • 00:19:53.260 --> 00:19:56.100
  • SAY, "I SEE YOU, AND ACTUALLY I
  • 00:19:56.100 --> 00:19:57.270
  • DO CARE ABOUT THIS RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:19:57.270 --> 00:19:59.150
  • AND THIS LOVE THAT WE HAD AT ONE
  • 00:19:59.150 --> 00:20:01.280
  • DAY, EVEN IF IT'S JUST FALTERING
  • 00:20:01.280 --> 00:20:04.010
  • AT THE MOMENT."
  • 00:20:04.010 --> 00:20:04.270
  • - LAURIE: WOW.
  • 00:20:04.270 --> 00:20:05.140
  • - MATT: SO-- I LOVE THAT, BY
  • 00:20:05.140 --> 00:20:07.170
  • THE WAY.
  • 00:20:07.170 --> 00:20:08.050
  • I DIDN'T KNOW THAT.
  • 00:20:08.050 --> 00:20:08.210
  • SO ONE PERSON CAN START THIS?
  • 00:20:08.210 --> 00:20:10.020
  • - LES: YEAH, THINK OF IT LIKE A
  • 00:20:10.020 --> 00:20:11.070
  • MOBILE THAT HANGS FROM THE
  • 00:20:11.070 --> 00:20:12.140
  • CEILING.
  • 00:20:12.140 --> 00:20:13.180
  • YOU MOVE ONE LITTLE PIECE OF THE
  • 00:20:13.180 --> 00:20:15.210
  • MOBILE, AND THE WHOLE THING KIND
  • 00:20:15.210 --> 00:20:16.220
  • OF SWINGS WILDLY OUT OF CONTROL
  • 00:20:16.220 --> 00:20:18.060
  • FOR A FEW MINUTES UNTIL IT FINDS
  • 00:20:18.060 --> 00:20:19.100
  • A NEW, KIND OF, RESTING PLACE,
  • 00:20:19.100 --> 00:20:21.120
  • AND THE SAME THING HAPPENS IN A
  • 00:20:24.020 --> 00:20:25.080
  • RELATIONSHIP WHERE ONE PERSON
  • 00:20:25.080 --> 00:20:26.200
  • CHANGES SOMETHING, SOME KIND
  • 00:20:26.200 --> 00:20:27.260
  • OF-- SOMETHING IN THE DANCE OF
  • 00:20:27.260 --> 00:20:29.020
  • THE MARRIAGE OR THE
  • 00:20:29.020 --> 00:20:31.040
  • RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:20:31.040 --> 00:20:31.200
  • THEY CHANGE THEIR DANCE STEP,
  • 00:20:31.200 --> 00:20:32.110
  • AND THE OTHER PERSON GOES, "OH,
  • 00:20:32.110 --> 00:20:33.060
  • THAT'S NEW.
  • 00:20:33.060 --> 00:20:34.090
  • I DIDN'T SEE THAT COMIN'.
  • 00:20:34.090 --> 00:20:35.210
  • OKAY, I GUESS I SHOULD KIND OF
  • 00:20:35.210 --> 00:20:36.150
  • SHIFT OVER HERE NOW."
  • 00:20:36.180 --> 00:20:39.180
  • WE'RE CONSTANTLY DOING THAT IN
  • 00:20:40.250 --> 00:20:41.170
  • THE DANCE OF MARRIAGE, AND
  • 00:20:41.170 --> 00:20:42.080
  • THAT'S WHY ONE PERSON CAN MAKE A
  • 00:20:42.080 --> 00:20:43.210
  • WORLD OF DIFFERENCE IN HELPING A
  • 00:20:43.210 --> 00:20:45.090
  • RELATIONSHIP GROW.
  • 00:20:45.090 --> 00:20:47.060
  • - MATT: WOW, WE'RE TALKING
  • 00:20:47.060 --> 00:20:47.290
  • ABOUT THE BETTER LOVE
  • 00:20:47.290 --> 00:20:48.270
  • ASSESSMENT.
  • 00:20:48.270 --> 00:20:50.200
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:20:50.200 --> 00:20:51.170
  • WE GOT A LITTLE PROMO.
  • 00:20:51.170 --> 00:20:52.050
  • WATCH THIS.
  • 00:20:52.050 --> 00:20:54.150
  • - ANNOUNCER: DO YOU WANT THE
  • 00:20:54.150 --> 00:20:55.090
  • VERY BEST FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
  • 00:20:55.090 --> 00:20:56.180
  • DO YOU WANNA GO BENEATH THE
  • 00:20:56.180 --> 00:20:57.160
  • THEN JOIN
  • 00:21:01.000 --> 00:21:01.120
  • DRS. LES AND LESLIE PARROTT,
  • 00:21:01.120 --> 00:21:02.190
  • RENOWNED PSYCHOLOGIST,
  • 00:21:02.190 --> 00:21:04.030
  • MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPIST,
  • 00:21:04.030 --> 00:21:05.130
  • AND NUMBER ONE "NEW YORK TIMES"
  • 00:21:05.130 --> 00:21:06.050
  • BEST-SELLING AUTHORS
  • 00:21:06.050 --> 00:21:07.210
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:21:11.260 --> 00:21:12.220
  • IT ALL BEGINS WHEN YOU ANSWER
  • 00:21:12.220 --> 00:21:13.210
  • JUST A FEW QUESTIONS WITH THE
  • 00:21:13.210 --> 00:21:14.160
  • BETTER LOVE ASSESSMENT.
  • 00:21:14.160 --> 00:21:16.180
  • IT'S EASIER THAN YOU THINK, AND
  • 00:21:16.180 --> 00:21:17.150
  • DID WE MENTION IT'S FUN?
  • 00:21:17.150 --> 00:21:18.290
  • WE'LL GIVE YOU A PERSONALIZED
  • 00:21:19.000 --> 00:21:22.000
  • ACTION PLAN CUSTOMIZED FOR THE
  • 00:21:22.000 --> 00:21:23.180
  • TWO OF YOU.
  • 00:21:23.180 --> 00:21:24.060
  • YOU'VE NEVER EXPERIENCED
  • 00:21:24.060 --> 00:21:25.140
  • ANYTHING QUITE LIKE THIS BEFORE.
  • 00:21:25.140 --> 00:21:26.290
  • ENJOY BETTER CONVERSATIONS,
  • 00:21:26.290 --> 00:21:28.210
  • BETTER INTIMACY, AND BETTER
  • 00:21:28.210 --> 00:21:30.210
  • PASSION, STARTING TODAY.
  • 00:21:30.210 --> 00:21:32.200
  • IT ALL BEGINS WHEN YOU TAKE THE
  • 00:21:32.200 --> 00:21:34.010
  • BETTER LOVE ASSESSMENT.
  • 00:21:34.010 --> 00:21:35.010
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:21:35.010 --> 00:21:36.110
  • WITH YOU BY MY SIDE,
  • 00:21:36.110 --> 00:21:38.040
  • THERE'S NO PLACE THAT WE
  • 00:21:38.040 --> 00:21:39.130
  • CAN'T GO
  • 00:21:39.130 --> 00:21:41.200
  • THIS IS THE START OF SOMETHIG
  • 00:21:41.200 --> 00:21:44.050
  • - MATT: BETTER LOVE.
  • 00:21:55.010 --> 00:21:57.060
  • THE ASSESSMENT WE'RE GONNA--
  • 00:21:57.060 --> 00:21:58.130
  • LAURIE AND I DID IT.
  • 00:21:58.130 --> 00:22:00.070
  • WE'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT THAT HERE
  • 00:22:00.070 --> 00:22:01.210
  • IN A SECOND.
  • 00:22:01.210 --> 00:22:02.230
  • - LES: I HAVE YOUR RESULTS
  • 00:22:02.230 --> 00:22:03.130
  • RIGHT HERE.
  • 00:22:03.130 --> 00:22:03.250
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:22:03.250 --> 00:22:06.120
  • - MATT: CAREFUL.
  • 00:22:06.120 --> 00:22:06.270
  • - LESLIE: YES, GOING TO THE
  • 00:22:06.270 --> 00:22:07.170
  • HIGHEST BIDDER.
  • 00:22:07.170 --> 00:22:09.110
  • - LES: I COULD MAKE A LOT OF
  • 00:22:09.110 --> 00:22:10.020
  • MONEY IF WE HAD--
  • 00:22:10.020 --> 00:22:10.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:22:10.170 --> 00:22:11.050
  • - MATT: CAREFUL WITH THAT.
  • 00:22:11.050 --> 00:22:12.120
  • HOW LONG AGO WAS EHARMONY A
  • 00:22:12.120 --> 00:22:13.130
  • BRAND-NEW THOUGHT?
  • 00:22:13.140 --> 00:22:16.140
  • WHEN DID THAT START?
  • 00:22:16.140 --> 00:22:17.110
  • 'CAUSE IT FEELS LIKE IT'S BEEN
  • 00:22:17.110 --> 00:22:18.230
  • AROUND FOREVER.
  • 00:22:18.230 --> 00:22:19.250
  • - LES: IT REALLY DOES.
  • 00:22:19.250 --> 00:22:20.130
  • TWENTY YEARS AGO, OR MORE, A
  • 00:22:20.160 --> 00:22:23.160
  • LITTLE BIT MORE THAN THAT, I
  • 00:22:23.160 --> 00:22:25.020
  • GUESS, NEIL CLARK WARREN IS THE
  • 00:22:25.020 --> 00:22:26.140
  • FOUNDER OF EHARMONY--
  • 00:22:26.140 --> 00:22:28.280
  • INCREDIBLE.
  • 00:22:28.280 --> 00:22:29.120
  • ONE NIGHT,
  • 00:22:31.150 --> 00:22:31.260
  • WE WERE HAVING DINNER AT THEIR
  • 00:22:31.260 --> 00:22:32.170
  • HOME WITH HIS WIFE.
  • 00:22:32.170 --> 00:22:33.160
  • MARYLYN, AND HE SAID, "YOU KNOW
  • 00:22:33.160 --> 00:22:34.140
  • THIS NEW THING CALLED THE
  • 00:22:34.140 --> 00:22:35.030
  • INTERNET?
  • 00:22:35.030 --> 00:22:35.220
  • I WONDER IF WE COULD USE THAT IN
  • 00:22:35.230 --> 00:22:38.230
  • ANY WAY TO HELP COUPLES MATCH
  • 00:22:38.230 --> 00:22:39.260
  • FOR LIFELONG LOVE?"
  • 00:22:39.260 --> 00:22:40.190
  • AND THAT TURNED INTO A LONG
  • 00:22:40.190 --> 00:22:42.000
  • CONVERSATION, AND THE COMPANY
  • 00:22:42.000 --> 00:22:44.140
  • WAS EVENTUALLY BORN, BUT IT WAS
  • 00:22:44.140 --> 00:22:46.090
  • HIS GENIUS THAT MADE THAT HAPPEN
  • 00:22:46.090 --> 00:22:48.280
  • ON MATCHING PEOPLE ON CERTAIN
  • 00:22:50.270 --> 00:22:53.270
  • DIMENSIONS.
  • 00:22:53.270 --> 00:22:54.130
  • - MATT: DO YOU REMEMBER HOW
  • 00:22:54.130 --> 00:22:55.040
  • MANY PEOPLE ACTUALLY JOINED AT
  • 00:22:55.040 --> 00:22:55.260
  • ONE POINT, I MEAN, OVER THE
  • 00:22:55.260 --> 00:22:56.160
  • WHOLE COURSE OF THE--
  • 00:22:56.160 --> 00:22:57.030
  • - LES: WAIT-- THIS IS A QUIZ,
  • 00:22:57.030 --> 00:22:57.240
  • OKAY.
  • 00:22:57.240 --> 00:22:58.030
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:22:58.030 --> 00:22:59.210
  • I DON'T KNOW, BUT I JUST KNOW
  • 00:22:59.210 --> 00:23:00.140
  • THAT IT WAS SO STARTLING, THE
  • 00:23:00.140 --> 00:23:01.260
  • NUMBERS, 'CAUSE IT WAS THE FIRST
  • 00:23:01.260 --> 00:23:04.180
  • WE HAVE SO MANY OTHER THINGS
  • 00:23:06.270 --> 00:23:08.050
  • THAT HAVE, KIND OF, TRIED TO
  • 00:23:08.050 --> 00:23:08.250
  • COMPETE WITH IT THESE DAYS, BUT
  • 00:23:08.250 --> 00:23:11.170
  • IT WAS SO PHENOMENAL.
  • 00:23:11.170 --> 00:23:12.040
  • THE GROWTH JUST TOOK OFF LIKE A
  • 00:23:12.040 --> 00:23:13.200
  • HOCKEY STICK, AND WE HAD AS MANY
  • 00:23:13.200 --> 00:23:14.120
  • AS OVER 500 WEDDINGS PER DAY ON
  • 00:23:14.160 --> 00:23:17.160
  • AVERAGE AS A RESULT OF MATCHES,
  • 00:23:17.160 --> 00:23:18.210
  • AND I THINK IT WAS SOMETHING
  • 00:23:18.210 --> 00:23:19.110
  • LIKE 5% OF ALL WEDDINGS IN
  • 00:23:19.110 --> 00:23:22.000
  • NORTH AMERICA WERE THE RESULT OF
  • 00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:22.260
  • - MATT: OH, MY GOODNESS.
  • 00:23:26.230 --> 00:23:27.120
  • OKAY, WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:23:27.120 --> 00:23:28.010
  • BETTER LOVE, BUT WHAT'S
  • 00:23:28.010 --> 00:23:28.190
  • INTERESTING ABOUT WHAT THE
  • 00:23:28.190 --> 00:23:30.060
  • PARROTTS HAVE DONE IS THEY HAVE
  • 00:23:30.060 --> 00:23:32.030
  • AN ASSESSMENT CALLED YADA, WHICH
  • 00:23:32.130 --> 00:23:35.130
  • MEANS--
  • 00:23:35.130 --> 00:23:36.210
  • - LES: "YADA" IS A HEBREW WORD.
  • 00:23:36.210 --> 00:23:38.150
  • IT'S USED OVER A THOUSAND TIMES
  • 00:23:38.150 --> 00:23:39.270
  • IN SCRIPTURE, AND IT MEANS "TO
  • 00:23:39.270 --> 00:23:41.060
  • KNOW," AND IN THAT SENSE, IT
  • 00:23:41.060 --> 00:23:43.260
  • MEANS TO KNOW WITH YOUR HEAD AS
  • 00:23:43.260 --> 00:23:44.210
  • WELL AS YOUR HEART, TO KNOW GOD
  • 00:23:44.210 --> 00:23:46.000
  • AT THAT KIND OF LEVEL, AND SO
  • 00:23:46.000 --> 00:23:47.240
  • THE YADA ASSESSMENT IS FOR
  • 00:23:47.240 --> 00:23:49.150
  • SINGLE ADULTS, AND THEY CAN
  • 00:23:49.150 --> 00:23:51.020
  • FIND-- LIKE, COLLEGE STUDENTS,
  • 00:23:51.020 --> 00:23:52.290
  • EVEN LATE HIGH SCHOOL YEARS,
  • 00:23:52.290 --> 00:23:54.100
  • ONWARD, IT'S TO KNOW THEMSELVES
  • 00:23:54.100 --> 00:23:55.220
  • AND TO KNOW OTHERS AND BE KNOWN
  • 00:23:55.250 --> 00:23:58.250
  • BY OTHERS.
  • 00:23:58.250 --> 00:24:00.130
  • AND YOU'VE HEARD THE PHRASE,
  • 00:24:00.130 --> 00:24:01.180
  • "YADA, YADA, YADA"?
  • 00:24:01.180 --> 00:24:02.080
  • - MATT: YEAH.
  • 00:24:02.080 --> 00:24:02.210
  • - LES: RIGHT, THAT'S WHERE THAT
  • 00:24:02.210 --> 00:24:04.110
  • YIDDISH PHRASE IS COMING FROM:
  • 00:24:04.110 --> 00:24:05.090
  • "YOU KNOW, YOU KNOW, YOU KNOW."
  • 00:24:05.090 --> 00:24:06.090
  • - MATT: OKAY, SO, BASICALLY,
  • 00:24:06.090 --> 00:24:07.230
  • RELATIONSHIPS START EITHER DOING
  • 00:24:07.230 --> 00:24:09.050
  • THE BETTER LOVE ASSESSMENT OR
  • 00:24:09.160 --> 00:24:12.160
  • DOING THE YADA ASSESSMENT,
  • 00:24:12.160 --> 00:24:14.200
  • KNOWING YOURSELF?
  • 00:24:14.200 --> 00:24:15.130
  • - LES: RIGHT.
  • 00:24:15.130 --> 00:24:17.080
  • - MATT: AND KNOWING ABOUT THE
  • 00:24:17.080 --> 00:24:17.290
  • OTHER PERSON GIVES YOU
  • 00:24:17.290 --> 00:24:19.060
  • INFORMATION.
  • 00:24:19.060 --> 00:24:21.150
  • OKAY, THE SYMBIS, "SAVE YOUR
  • 00:24:21.150 --> 00:24:23.070
  • MARRIAGE BEFORE IT STARTS,"
  • 00:24:23.070 --> 00:24:23.270
  • THAT'S ANOTHER ASSESSMENT, AND
  • 00:24:23.270 --> 00:24:24.180
  • THAT'S REALLY FOR, KIND OF,
  • 00:24:24.180 --> 00:24:26.060
  • PROFESSIONALS OR LEADERSHIP
  • 00:24:26.060 --> 00:24:27.040
  • TYPES?
  • 00:24:27.040 --> 00:24:28.190
  • - LES: YEAH, I APPRECIATE YOU
  • 00:24:28.190 --> 00:24:29.180
  • ASKING US ABOUT THIS.
  • 00:24:29.180 --> 00:24:30.120
  • THE SYMBIS ASSESSMENT, YEARS
  • 00:24:30.120 --> 00:24:32.050
  • AGO, LESLIE AND I WROTE A BOOK
  • 00:24:32.050 --> 00:24:33.110
  • CALLED "SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:24:33.110 --> 00:24:34.280
  • BEFORE IT STARTS," AND WHEN THAT
  • 00:24:34.280 --> 00:24:35.230
  • REACHED AN IMPORTANT MILESTONE--
  • 00:24:36.240 --> 00:24:39.240
  • I THINK IT WAS TWO MILLION
  • 00:24:39.240 --> 00:24:41.230
  • COPIES-- OUR PUBLISHER SAID,
  • 00:24:41.230 --> 00:24:42.190
  • "HEY, LET'S UPDATE THIS AND
  • 00:24:42.190 --> 00:24:43.090
  • REVISE IT," WHICH, AS YOU MIGHT
  • 00:24:43.090 --> 00:24:44.010
  • KNOW, IS SOMETIMES
  • 00:24:44.010 --> 00:24:45.010
  • PUBLISHER-SPEAK FOR "LET'S PUT A
  • 00:24:45.010 --> 00:24:46.190
  • NEW COVER ON IT," YOU KNOW?
  • 00:24:46.190 --> 00:24:47.270
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:24:47.270 --> 00:24:48.110
  • AND SO WE SAID, "NO, LET'S DO IT
  • 00:24:48.110 --> 00:24:50.020
  • RIGHT," AND WE DID A MASSIVE
  • 00:24:50.020 --> 00:24:51.200
  • RESEARCH PROJECT AROUND
  • 00:24:52.050 --> 00:24:55.050
  • NORTH AMERICA AND BEYOND.
  • 00:24:55.050 --> 00:24:56.010
  • TO FIND OUT, BASICALLY,
  • 00:24:56.010 --> 00:24:57.070
  • WHAT ARE CHURCHES IN
  • 00:24:57.070 --> 00:24:58.120
  • PARTICULAR DOING,
  • 00:24:58.120 --> 00:24:59.160
  • COUNSELORS DOING, WHEN IT COMES
  • 00:24:59.160 --> 00:25:00.230
  • TO PREPARING COUPLES FOR
  • 00:25:00.230 --> 00:25:01.290
  • LIFELONG LOVE, AND THAT'S WHEN
  • 00:25:01.290 --> 00:25:03.070
  • WE SAW THIS HUGE NEED, RIGHT?
  • 00:25:03.070 --> 00:25:05.080
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, THE CHURCH WAS
  • 00:25:05.080 --> 00:25:06.130
  • ASKING TO BE EQUIPPED TO TAKE
  • 00:25:06.130 --> 00:25:07.200
  • BUT TO MEET THEM AT THE PLACE
  • 00:25:10.100 --> 00:25:11.210
  • THAT, SORT OF, IT LOOKED THE WAY
  • 00:25:11.210 --> 00:25:12.230
  • THEY WANTED IT TO AND FELT
  • 00:25:12.230 --> 00:25:14.060
  • COMFORTABLE FOR THEM, WHERE IT
  • 00:25:14.060 --> 00:25:15.260
  • WOULD BE WINSOME AND DRAW THEM
  • 00:25:15.260 --> 00:25:17.070
  • IN.
  • 00:25:17.070 --> 00:25:17.270
  • - LES: AND SO WHAT WE WANNA DO
  • 00:25:17.270 --> 00:25:19.080
  • IS BUILD A WORLD-CLASS TOOL FOR
  • 00:25:19.080 --> 00:25:20.170
  • THE CHURCH AND FOR COUNSELORS
  • 00:25:20.170 --> 00:25:21.270
  • AND COACHES AND MENTORS, TO GET
  • 00:25:24.090 --> 00:25:25.100
  • TRAINED AND CERTIFIED.
  • 00:25:25.100 --> 00:25:27.070
  • TAKES THREE HOURS ONLINE.
  • 00:25:27.070 --> 00:25:29.050
  • YOU GET TRAINED AND CERTIFIED IN
  • 00:25:29.050 --> 00:25:31.100
  • HOW TO USE THE TOOL, THE SYMBIS
  • 00:25:31.100 --> 00:25:32.040
  • ASSESSMENT, AND THEN YOU CAN
  • 00:25:32.040 --> 00:25:33.280
  • INVITE COUPLES TO THIS REALLY
  • 00:25:33.280 --> 00:25:35.090
  • FULL-FEATURED DASHBOARD-- IT'S
  • 00:25:35.090 --> 00:25:36.180
  • AWESOME-- AND MANAGE THE COUPLES
  • 00:25:36.180 --> 00:25:38.160
  • IN YOUR CARE, INVITE THEM TO
  • 00:25:38.160 --> 00:25:39.260
  • TAKE THE ASSESSMENT, AND THEN
  • 00:25:39.260 --> 00:25:40.230
  • UNPACK THE RESULTS WITH THEM.
  • 00:25:40.230 --> 00:25:42.020
  • - MATT: OKAY, LOVE THIS.
  • 00:25:42.020 --> 00:25:43.180
  • OKAY, ALL THIS STUFF IS
  • 00:25:43.180 --> 00:25:44.060
  • FANTASTIC FOR RELATIONSHIPS, BUT
  • 00:25:44.060 --> 00:25:46.140
  • BEFORE WE START TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:25:46.140 --> 00:25:49.060
  • US, I WANNA ASK YOU GUYS SOME
  • 00:25:49.060 --> 00:25:50.160
  • QUESTIONS.
  • 00:25:50.160 --> 00:25:52.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:25:52.050 --> 00:25:52.210
  • YOU'RE BOTH DOCTORS, RIGHT?
  • 00:25:52.210 --> 00:25:53.110
  • - LES: YEAH, I THINK YOU'VE
  • 00:25:53.110 --> 00:25:54.010
  • MENTIONED THAT A FEW TIMES,
  • 00:25:54.010 --> 00:25:54.210
  • YEAH.
  • 00:25:54.210 --> 00:25:55.170
  • - MATT: WRITE BOOKS ABOUT LOVE,
  • 00:25:55.170 --> 00:25:56.090
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:25:56.090 --> 00:25:56.180
  • - LES: YEAH.
  • 00:25:56.180 --> 00:25:57.010
  • - MATT: SO YOU GUYS ARE STUCK.
  • 00:25:57.010 --> 00:25:57.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:25:57.230 --> 00:25:58.040
  • YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I MEAN?
  • 00:25:58.040 --> 00:26:00.020
  • - LESLIE: WE'RE NOT GOIN'
  • 00:26:00.020 --> 00:26:00.240
  • ANYWHERE.
  • 00:26:00.240 --> 00:26:01.080
  • - MATT: YEAH, RIGHT, WELL,
  • 00:26:01.080 --> 00:26:01.280
  • YOU'RE STUCK, OKAY?
  • 00:26:01.280 --> 00:26:02.240
  • SO WHAT DO YOU DO TO SOLVE
  • 00:26:02.240 --> 00:26:05.000
  • CONFLICT IN YOUR MARRIAGE?
  • 00:26:07.010 --> 00:26:10.010
  • BECAUSE YOU'RE BOTH DOCTORS, SO
  • 00:26:10.010 --> 00:26:10.230
  • YOU'RE THINKIN' AHEAD OF EACH
  • 00:26:10.230 --> 00:26:11.260
  • OTHER, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:26:11.260 --> 00:26:13.080
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:13.080 --> 00:26:13.210
  • AND YOU'RE ONE STEP AHEAD.
  • 00:26:13.210 --> 00:26:14.220
  • - LAURIE: WAR OF THE MINDS.
  • 00:26:14.220 --> 00:26:15.290
  • - LESLIE: WOULD YOU LOVE TO BE
  • 00:26:15.290 --> 00:26:17.110
  • MARRIED TO A THERAPIST?
  • 00:26:17.110 --> 00:26:18.050
  • - MATT: OH, WOW, NO, YEAH.
  • 00:26:18.050 --> 00:26:19.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:19.060 --> 00:26:20.200
  • WHAT DOES HE DO THAT BUGS YOU?
  • 00:26:21.210 --> 00:26:24.210
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:24.210 --> 00:26:25.080
  • - LES: OH, I LOVE THIS
  • 00:26:25.080 --> 00:26:26.130
  • QUESTION.
  • 00:26:26.130 --> 00:26:27.040
  • - LESLIE: OH, YEAH, I LOVE IT.
  • 00:26:27.040 --> 00:26:27.260
  • - LES: LET'S HEAR THIS, YEAH.
  • 00:26:27.260 --> 00:26:29.010
  • - LESLIE: WELL, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:26:29.010 --> 00:26:29.220
  • HERE'S WHERE I THOUGHT YOU WERE
  • 00:26:29.220 --> 00:26:30.210
  • HEADED BECAUSE IT IS KIND OF
  • 00:26:30.210 --> 00:26:32.060
  • FUNNY WHEN YOU'RE BOTH
  • 00:26:32.060 --> 00:26:32.250
  • THERAPISTS BECAUSE, WHEN WE HAVE
  • 00:26:32.250 --> 00:26:34.100
  • A TOTAL MELTDOWN THAT COMES JUST
  • 00:26:34.100 --> 00:26:36.130
  • OUT OF THE BLUE, LIKE, YOU
  • 00:26:36.130 --> 00:26:37.160
  • KNOW--
  • 00:26:37.160 --> 00:26:38.240
  • - MATT: LIKE, WHEN WAS THE LAST
  • 00:26:38.240 --> 00:26:39.160
  • ONE?
  • 00:26:39.160 --> 00:26:39.240
  • - LESLIE: IT HAPPENS.
  • 00:26:39.240 --> 00:26:42.120
  • - LES: OH, LET'S SEE HERE.
  • 00:26:42.120 --> 00:26:43.020
  • IT WOULD'VE BEEN--
  • 00:26:43.020 --> 00:26:43.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:43.170 --> 00:26:43.280
  • - LESLIE: THERE WAS THE
  • 00:26:43.280 --> 00:26:44.160
  • HUMIDIFIER INCIDENT AFTER A LONG
  • 00:26:44.160 --> 00:26:45.220
  • TRIP.
  • 00:26:45.220 --> 00:26:47.090
  • - LES: YOU'RE GONNA BRING THAT
  • 00:26:47.090 --> 00:26:48.010
  • UP?
  • 00:26:48.010 --> 00:26:48.090
  • OKAY, ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:26:48.090 --> 00:26:48.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:48.230 --> 00:26:50.180
  • - LESLIE: I MEAN, WHO WOULD
  • 00:26:50.180 --> 00:26:51.080
  • THINK A HUMIDIFIER COULD TURN
  • 00:26:51.080 --> 00:26:51.290
  • INTO A MARRIAGE MELTDOWN?
  • 00:26:51.290 --> 00:26:52.210
  • BUT IT DID.
  • 00:26:52.210 --> 00:26:54.060
  • BUT HERE'S THE FUNNY THING.
  • 00:26:54.060 --> 00:26:56.010
  • - LES: ARE YOU GONNA TELL THE
  • 00:26:56.010 --> 00:26:56.220
  • STORY?
  • 00:26:56.220 --> 00:26:57.050
  • - MATT: YEAH, YES, SHE IS.
  • 00:26:57.050 --> 00:26:57.270
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:57.270 --> 00:26:58.100
  • GO AHEAD.
  • 00:26:58.100 --> 00:26:59.270
  • - LESLIE: HERE'S THE THING.
  • 00:26:59.270 --> 00:27:00.190
  • - MATT: YES.
  • 00:27:00.190 --> 00:27:01.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:27:01.020 --> 00:27:02.030
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:27:02.030 --> 00:27:03.150
  • - MATT: PROCEED, MA'AM.
  • 00:27:03.150 --> 00:27:04.150
  • - LESLIE: IT'S NOT EVEN A
  • 00:27:04.150 --> 00:27:05.050
  • STORY, BUT HE WAS GONE, AND HE'S
  • 00:27:05.050 --> 00:27:07.200
  • THE ONE THAT SETS UP THE
  • 00:27:07.200 --> 00:27:08.260
  • HUMIDIFIER AT NIGHT--
  • 00:27:08.260 --> 00:27:10.170
  • - LES: RIGHT.
  • 00:27:10.170 --> 00:27:13.100
  • - LESLIE: -- AND SO I REALLY
  • 00:27:13.100 --> 00:27:14.010
  • MISSED IT.
  • 00:27:14.010 --> 00:27:14.120
  • - LES: IN THE BEDROOM,
  • 00:27:14.120 --> 00:27:15.000
  • IN SEATTLE.
  • 00:27:15.000 --> 00:27:15.120
  • YES, JUST IN THE WINTER
  • 00:27:15.120 --> 00:27:17.120
  • MONTHS--
  • 00:27:17.120 --> 00:27:19.090
  • - LESLIE: YOU NEED IT-- YES.
  • 00:27:19.090 --> 00:27:20.020
  • - LAURIE: OH, OKAY, ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:27:20.020 --> 00:27:21.080
  • - LES: -- WHEN THE HEAT'S ON
  • 00:27:21.080 --> 00:27:22.210
  • AND-- YEAH.
  • 00:27:22.210 --> 00:27:24.100
  • - LESLIE: AND I HAD MISSED IT,
  • 00:27:24.100 --> 00:27:25.020
  • AND SO HE CAME HOME TIRED AND
  • 00:27:25.020 --> 00:27:25.250
  • LATE AND PERCEIVED MY REQUESTING
  • 00:27:25.250 --> 00:27:27.000
  • THAT HE SET IT UP-- 'CAUSE I'D
  • 00:27:27.000 --> 00:27:28.110
  • MISSED IT SO MUCH-- AS SORT OF A
  • 00:27:28.110 --> 00:27:29.160
  • NAG, LIKE, THAT YOU WEREN'T
  • 00:27:29.160 --> 00:27:31.140
  • TAKING CARE OF ME.
  • 00:27:31.140 --> 00:27:33.120
  • - LES: IT DIDN'T COME OFF IN A
  • 00:27:33.120 --> 00:27:34.050
  • GOOD SPIRIT.
  • 00:27:34.050 --> 00:27:34.210
  • - LESLIE: DIDN'T COME OFF IN
  • 00:27:34.210 --> 00:27:35.260
  • A-- IT WAS MY TONE.
  • 00:27:35.260 --> 00:27:37.100
  • - LES: IT WAS MEAN.
  • 00:27:37.100 --> 00:27:38.210
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:27:38.210 --> 00:27:39.090
  • - LESLIE: I THOUGHT I WAS
  • 00:27:39.090 --> 00:27:40.080
  • TELLING HIM--
  • 00:27:40.080 --> 00:27:40.220
  • - MATT: OKAY, NOW WE'RE GETTIN'
  • 00:27:40.220 --> 00:27:41.150
  • SOMEWHERE, OKAY.
  • 00:27:41.150 --> 00:27:41.290
  • - LESLIE: I THOUGHT I WAS
  • 00:27:41.290 --> 00:27:42.270
  • TELLING HIM HOW MUCH I'D LOVED
  • 00:27:42.270 --> 00:27:45.090
  • THIS LITTLE ACT OF SERVICE HE
  • 00:27:45.090 --> 00:27:46.120
  • DOES FOR ME EVERY DAY AND, JUST,
  • 00:27:46.120 --> 00:27:48.000
  • I MISSED IT, BUT HE THOUGHT I
  • 00:27:48.000 --> 00:27:49.110
  • WAS SAYING--
  • 00:27:49.110 --> 00:27:50.220
  • - LES: YEAH, THAT I HAD LET YOU
  • 00:27:50.220 --> 00:27:52.150
  • DOWN IN SOME--
  • 00:27:52.150 --> 00:27:53.000
  • - LESLIE: "YOU ABANDONED ME IN
  • 00:27:53.000 --> 00:27:53.220
  • NOT DOING YOUR JOB."
  • 00:27:53.220 --> 00:27:54.080
  • - LES: RIGHT.
  • 00:27:54.080 --> 00:27:54.230
  • - LESLIE: SO WE HAD A FIGHT
  • 00:27:54.230 --> 00:27:55.130
  • BUT--
  • 00:27:55.130 --> 00:27:56.070
  • - LES: YOU KNOW, THE--
  • 00:27:56.070 --> 00:27:57.090
  • - MATT: I LIKE THAT PART.
  • 00:27:57.090 --> 00:27:58.030
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:27:58.030 --> 00:27:58.160
  • KEEP GOIN'.
  • 00:27:58.160 --> 00:27:59.020
  • - LES: I'LL TELL YOU ANOTHER
  • 00:27:59.020 --> 00:28:00.180
  • ONE THAT HAPPENED RECENTLY
  • 00:28:00.180 --> 00:28:01.130
  • BECAUSE--
  • 00:28:01.130 --> 00:28:02.060
  • - MATT: YEAH, PLEASE.
  • 00:28:02.060 --> 00:28:02.270
  • - LES: -- THIS IS-- SOMETIMES
  • 00:28:02.270 --> 00:28:03.290
  • CONFLICT CREEPS UP WITH A-- EVEN
  • 00:28:03.290 --> 00:28:05.250
  • WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO HAVE A
  • 00:28:05.250 --> 00:28:07.120
  • NICE MOMENT TOGETHER, AND I WAS
  • 00:28:07.120 --> 00:28:09.180
  • JUST THINKIN' ABOUT THIS 'CAUSE
  • 00:28:09.180 --> 00:28:10.250
  • YOU SAID THAT I CAME HOME-- WE
  • 00:28:10.250 --> 00:28:12.010
  • BOTH CAME HOME FROM A TRIP NOT
  • 00:28:12.010 --> 00:28:13.140
  • TOO LONG AGO--
  • 00:28:13.140 --> 00:28:15.100
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, THOSE ARE PRIME
  • 00:28:15.100 --> 00:28:16.020
  • MOMENTS WHEN YOU'RE ROAD WARY.
  • 00:28:16.020 --> 00:28:17.070
  • - LES: YEAH, AND LESLIE, OUT OF
  • 00:28:17.070 --> 00:28:18.180
  • THE BLUE-- WE WERE BOTH
  • 00:28:18.180 --> 00:28:19.180
  • EXHAUSTED AND, YOU KNOW, YOU GOT
  • 00:28:19.180 --> 00:28:21.030
  • ALL THE DIRTY CLOTHES IN THE
  • 00:28:21.030 --> 00:28:22.110
  • SUITCASES AND STUFF, AND
  • 00:28:22.110 --> 00:28:23.190
  • SOMEHOW--
  • 00:28:23.190 --> 00:28:24.230
  • - LESLIE: TIRED AND HUNGRY.
  • 00:28:24.230 --> 00:28:26.080
  • AND I JUST PERCEIVED HE REALLY
  • 00:28:26.080 --> 00:28:27.220
  • NEEDED SOME TLC, AND I GOT
  • 00:28:27.220 --> 00:28:29.220
  • EXCITED ABOUT JUST-- ALL I DID
  • 00:28:29.220 --> 00:28:30.280
  • WAS MAKE HIM A SIMPLE,
  • 00:28:30.280 --> 00:28:32.100
  • NOURISHING, HEALTHY-- 'CAUSE
  • 00:28:32.100 --> 00:28:34.090
  • WHEN YOU'RE ON THE ROAD, THAT
  • 00:28:34.090 --> 00:28:35.000
  • CAN BE HARD-- BREAKFAST.
  • 00:28:35.000 --> 00:28:36.050
  • - LES: A BOWL OF OATMEAL AND
  • 00:28:36.050 --> 00:28:36.290
  • FRUIT, AND IT'S JUST DISPLAYED
  • 00:28:36.290 --> 00:28:37.260
  • ALL NICELY.
  • 00:28:37.260 --> 00:28:38.160
  • IT'S LIKE, "WHOA, WHERE DID YOU
  • 00:28:38.160 --> 00:28:39.200
  • GET THE ENERGY TO DO THIS?"
  • 00:28:39.200 --> 00:28:41.010
  • AND SO I WAS GUSHING WITH
  • 00:28:41.010 --> 00:28:43.040
  • APPRECIATION TOWARD HER, AND HER
  • 00:28:43.040 --> 00:28:45.060
  • LOVE LANGUAGE IS WORDS OF
  • 00:28:45.060 --> 00:28:46.100
  • AFFIRMATION--
  • 00:28:46.100 --> 00:28:46.250
  • - LESLIE: YES, IT IS.
  • 00:28:46.250 --> 00:28:47.260
  • - LES: -- AND SO THAT'S HOW I
  • 00:28:47.260 --> 00:28:48.220
  • MANIPULATE HER.
  • 00:28:48.220 --> 00:28:49.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:28:49.230 --> 00:28:50.110
  • - LESLIE: SO TRUE.
  • 00:28:50.110 --> 00:28:50.270
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:28:52.090 --> 00:28:55.090
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:28:55.090 --> 00:28:56.230
  • - MATT: WE'LL TALK LATER.
  • 00:28:56.230 --> 00:28:57.120
  • - LESLIE: SO TRUE.
  • 00:28:57.120 --> 00:28:59.050
  • - LES: THANKS TO GARY CHAPMAN.
  • 00:28:59.050 --> 00:29:01.110
  • - MATT: YEAH, LOVE GARY.
  • 00:29:01.110 --> 00:29:02.050
  • THANK YOU.
  • 00:29:02.050 --> 00:29:02.270
  • - LES: BUT I WASN'T.
  • 00:29:02.270 --> 00:29:03.140
  • IT WAS GENUINE.
  • 00:29:03.140 --> 00:29:03.280
  • I WAS, JUST, LIKE--
  • 00:29:03.280 --> 00:29:04.140
  • - LESLIE: YEAH.
  • 00:29:04.140 --> 00:29:04.290
  • - LES: AND SO THAT ENERGIZED
  • 00:29:04.290 --> 00:29:05.270
  • HER, AND SHE SAID, "WELL, I'M
  • 00:29:05.270 --> 00:29:06.180
  • GONNA GO GET YOUR LAUNDRY DONE."
  • 00:29:06.180 --> 00:29:07.140
  • LIKE, SHE'S THINKIN', "MAN, IF
  • 00:29:07.140 --> 00:29:08.170
  • THIS IS SO--"
  • 00:29:08.170 --> 00:29:09.090
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, SO I MADE THIS
  • 00:29:09.090 --> 00:29:10.290
  • ANNOUNCEMENT BECAUSE I WAS SO
  • 00:29:10.290 --> 00:29:12.250
  • ENERGIZED BY HIS EARLIER
  • 00:29:12.250 --> 00:29:15.060
  • AFFIRMATION ON THE BREAKFAST,
  • 00:29:15.060 --> 00:29:16.120
  • AND I WAITED FOR HIS REACTION.
  • 00:29:16.120 --> 00:29:17.270
  • AS I'M HEADED TO THE LAUNDRY
  • 00:29:17.270 --> 00:29:19.030
  • ROOM, JUST HOPING FOR MORE
  • 00:29:19.030 --> 00:29:20.180
  • AFFIRMATION, THIS IS WHAT HE
  • 00:29:20.180 --> 00:29:22.210
  • GAVE ME--
  • 00:29:22.210 --> 00:29:23.090
  • [SLOW CLAPPING]
  • 00:29:23.090 --> 00:29:24.110
  • - LES: THAT'S NOT WHAT I DID--
  • 00:29:24.110 --> 00:29:25.030
  • - LESLIE: -- AS I'M WALKING--
  • 00:29:25.030 --> 00:29:25.240
  • - LES: -- BUT THAT'S WHAT SHE
  • 00:29:25.240 --> 00:29:26.150
  • THINKS I DID.
  • 00:29:26.150 --> 00:29:26.280
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:29:26.280 --> 00:29:27.280
  • BUT SHE'S ROUNDING THE CORNER.
  • 00:29:27.280 --> 00:29:28.250
  • SHE'S HEADED BACK TO THE LAUNDRY
  • 00:29:28.250 --> 00:29:29.270
  • ROOM, AND I'M-- YOU KNOW, I GOT
  • 00:29:29.270 --> 00:29:32.110
  • MY MOUTH FULL OF OATMEAL AND
  • 00:29:32.110 --> 00:29:33.240
  • STUFF, AND SO I-- ANYWAY, SHE
  • 00:29:33.240 --> 00:29:35.150
  • CAME BACK AND YOU ACTUALLY
  • 00:29:35.150 --> 00:29:37.180
  • TEARED UP BACK IN THE LAUNDRY
  • 00:29:37.180 --> 00:29:38.130
  • ROOM, RIGHT?
  • 00:29:38.130 --> 00:29:38.290
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, BECAUSE I GOT
  • 00:29:38.290 --> 00:29:39.260
  • BACK THERE AND THOUGHT, "HE
  • 00:29:39.260 --> 00:29:40.230
  • DOESN'T EVEN APPRECIATE IT.
  • 00:29:40.230 --> 00:29:41.240
  • WHY AM I BACK HERE DOING THIS?
  • 00:29:41.240 --> 00:29:43.010
  • I'M EXHAUSTED.
  • 00:29:43.010 --> 00:29:43.250
  • HE SHOULD BE BACK HERE DOIN'
  • 00:29:43.250 --> 00:29:45.160
  • SOMETHIN' FOR ME."
  • 00:29:45.160 --> 00:29:46.010
  • - LES: AND SO SHE CAME OUT, AND
  • 00:29:46.010 --> 00:29:47.070
  • I COULD TELL SHE'S BEEN CRYING,
  • 00:29:47.070 --> 00:29:48.030
  • AND I SAID-- LIKE, YOU CAN
  • 00:29:48.030 --> 00:29:49.250
  • ALWAYS TELL WHEN YOUR WIFE'S
  • 00:29:49.250 --> 00:29:50.150
  • BEEN CRYING, RIGHT?
  • 00:29:50.150 --> 00:29:53.110
  • AND I SAID--
  • 00:29:53.110 --> 00:29:53.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:29:53.230 --> 00:29:54.040
  • - LAURIE: NO.
  • 00:29:54.040 --> 00:29:54.270
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:29:54.270 --> 00:29:55.090
  • - LES: SO I SAID, "WHAT'S
  • 00:29:55.090 --> 00:29:56.030
  • WRONG?"
  • 00:29:56.030 --> 00:29:56.220
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:29:56.220 --> 00:29:57.050
  • NO, NOT ALL-- NOT HIM-- NO
  • 00:29:57.050 --> 00:29:57.240
  • EMPATHY ON HIS PART?
  • 00:29:57.240 --> 00:29:58.290
  • I FORGOT, YEAH.
  • 00:29:58.290 --> 00:29:59.200
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:29:59.200 --> 00:30:01.100
  • - MATT: WE'RE NOT TALKIN' ABOUT
  • 00:30:01.100 --> 00:30:02.020
  • US RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:30:02.020 --> 00:30:02.150
  • WE'RE TALKIN' ABOUT YOU.
  • 00:30:02.150 --> 00:30:04.230
  • YOU'RE THE GUEST.
  • 00:30:04.230 --> 00:30:05.100
  • I'M THE HOST.
  • 00:30:05.100 --> 00:30:05.290
  • OKAY.
  • 00:30:05.290 --> 00:30:07.000
  • - LES: MAN, I ALMOST HAD THAT
  • 00:30:07.000 --> 00:30:09.070
  • ONE.
  • 00:30:09.070 --> 00:30:11.080
  • - MATT: YEAH.
  • 00:30:11.080 --> 00:30:12.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:30:12.050 --> 00:30:13.000
  • - LES: BUT I SAID, "WHAT'S
  • 00:30:13.000 --> 00:30:13.200
  • WRONG?
  • 00:30:13.200 --> 00:30:14.230
  • AND SHE SAID, "NOTHING."
  • 00:30:14.230 --> 00:30:15.110
  • AND I SAID,
  • 00:30:15.110 --> 00:30:17.010
  • "WELL, IT LOOKS LIKE
  • 00:30:17.010 --> 00:30:17.170
  • YOU'VE BEEN CRYING."
  • 00:30:17.170 --> 00:30:18.030
  • SHE SAID,
  • 00:30:18.030 --> 00:30:19.150
  • "WELL, I HAVE A LITTLE BIT."
  • 00:30:19.150 --> 00:30:20.050
  • I SAID,
  • 00:30:20.050 --> 00:30:20.150
  • "WHAT HAPPENED BACK THERE?"
  • 00:30:20.150 --> 00:30:21.050
  • YOU KNOW, BACK IN THE LAUNDRY
  • 00:30:21.050 --> 00:30:21.260
  • ROOM.
  • 00:30:21.260 --> 00:30:22.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:30:22.050 --> 00:30:22.160
  • AND SHE SAID, "IT'S NOT WHAT
  • 00:30:22.160 --> 00:30:25.060
  • HAPPENED BACK THERE.
  • 00:30:25.060 --> 00:30:26.000
  • IT'S WHAT HAPPENED OUT HERE."
  • 00:30:26.000 --> 00:30:27.030
  • AND I SAID, "WHAT DO YOU MEAN?"
  • 00:30:27.030 --> 00:30:28.070
  • SHE SAID, "WELL, I TOLD YOU I
  • 00:30:28.070 --> 00:30:29.140
  • WAS GONNA DO YOUR LAUNDRY, AND
  • 00:30:29.140 --> 00:30:30.120
  • YOU GAVE ME THAT SARCASTIC
  • 00:30:30.120 --> 00:30:31.060
  • CLAP."
  • 00:30:31.060 --> 00:30:33.000
  • I SAID, "I DIDN'T CLAP.
  • 00:30:33.000 --> 00:30:34.080
  • I DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO CLAP IN
  • 00:30:34.080 --> 00:30:35.200
  • A SARCASTIC WAY," YOU KNOW?
  • 00:30:35.200 --> 00:30:37.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:30:37.050 --> 00:30:37.200
  • - MATT: I DON'T EITHER, BY THE
  • 00:30:37.200 --> 00:30:40.090
  • WAY.
  • 00:30:40.090 --> 00:30:40.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:30:40.230 --> 00:30:41.180
  • - LES: I SAID, "MY MOUTH WAS
  • 00:30:41.180 --> 00:30:42.170
  • FULL OF OATMEAL.
  • 00:30:42.170 --> 00:30:44.040
  • YOU WERE MOVIN' SO QUICKLY.
  • 00:30:44.040 --> 00:30:45.120
  • I WAS TRYIN' TO PUT MY SPOON
  • 00:30:45.120 --> 00:30:46.250
  • DOWN AND, LIKE, SAY, "THANK
  • 00:30:46.250 --> 00:30:47.250
  • YOU," AND ALL I COULD DO WAS
  • 00:30:47.250 --> 00:30:48.230
  • APPLAUD YOU AS YOU WERE LEAVING
  • 00:30:48.230 --> 00:30:49.290
  • THE ROOM"--
  • 00:30:49.290 --> 00:30:51.240
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:30:51.240 --> 00:30:53.080
  • -- AND SHE SAID, "WELL, IT CAME
  • 00:30:53.080 --> 00:30:54.100
  • OFF REALLY SARCASTIC."
  • 00:30:54.110 --> 00:30:57.110
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:30:57.110 --> 00:30:58.090
  • - MATT: OH, MY GOD.
  • 00:30:58.090 --> 00:31:00.160
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:31:00.160 --> 00:31:01.030
  • - LAURIE: I LOVE YOU.
  • 00:31:01.030 --> 00:31:02.120
  • - LESLIE: THANK YOU.
  • 00:31:02.120 --> 00:31:03.080
  • SEE, THAT'S WHAT I NEEDED.
  • 00:31:03.080 --> 00:31:05.110
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:31:05.110 --> 00:31:05.290
  • - LAURIE: I GET IT.
  • 00:31:05.290 --> 00:31:07.010
  • I'M HERE FOR YA, BABY.
  • 00:31:07.010 --> 00:31:08.040
  • - LES: SO THEN WE PROCEED TO
  • 00:31:08.040 --> 00:31:09.120
  • HAVE ONE OF THOSE LOVELY
  • 00:31:09.120 --> 00:31:10.280
  • CONVERSATIONS FOR 20 MINUTES
  • 00:31:10.280 --> 00:31:12.120
  • ABOUT HOW, APPARENTLY, I DON'T
  • 00:31:12.120 --> 00:31:13.160
  • CLAP THE RIGHT WAY, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:31:13.160 --> 00:31:14.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:31:14.230 --> 00:31:15.060
  • - LESLIE: WE DO ACTUALLY
  • 00:31:15.270 --> 00:31:18.270
  • SOMETIMES SAY TO EACH OTHER,
  • 00:31:18.270 --> 00:31:20.040
  • "OKAY, LET'S TAKE A BREAK," AND
  • 00:31:20.040 --> 00:31:21.110
  • THEN WE HAVE WHAT WE'VE STARTED
  • 00:31:21.110 --> 00:31:23.020
  • TO TERM "A CONVERSATIONAL
  • 00:31:23.020 --> 00:31:25.250
  • AUTOPSY," 'CAUSE IT'S LIKE,
  • 00:31:25.250 --> 00:31:27.000
  • "WHAT?"
  • 00:31:27.000 --> 00:31:28.100
  • - LES: LIKE, "WHAT JUST
  • 00:31:28.100 --> 00:31:28.280
  • HAPPENED?
  • 00:31:28.280 --> 00:31:29.090
  • HOW DID THIS DIE?"
  • 00:31:29.090 --> 00:31:30.170
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, "SOMETHING
  • 00:31:30.170 --> 00:31:31.200
  • DIED, AND LET'S FIGURE IT OUT"
  • 00:31:31.200 --> 00:31:33.000
  • BECAUSE--
  • 00:31:33.000 --> 00:31:33.120
  • - LES: AND IN THAT SITUATION,
  • 00:31:33.120 --> 00:31:34.030
  • HERE WE WERE, BOTH TRYING TO
  • 00:31:34.030 --> 00:31:34.290
  • BLESS EACH OTHER, RIGHT?
  • 00:31:34.290 --> 00:31:35.170
  • I WANTED HER TO KNOW HOW MUCH I
  • 00:31:35.170 --> 00:31:36.090
  • APPRECIATE.
  • 00:31:36.090 --> 00:31:36.210
  • YOU WERE OBVIOUSLY BLESSING ME,
  • 00:31:36.210 --> 00:31:37.130
  • AND, YET WE HAVE A CONFLICT IN
  • 00:31:37.130 --> 00:31:38.110
  • THE MIDST OF THAT, RIGHT?
  • 00:31:38.110 --> 00:31:39.240
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, RIGHT.
  • 00:31:39.240 --> 00:31:40.150
  • - MATT: SO IT HAPPENS TO YOU
  • 00:31:40.150 --> 00:31:41.120
  • TOO?
  • 00:31:41.120 --> 00:31:42.050
  • - LES: YES, IT DOES HAPPEN.
  • 00:31:42.050 --> 00:31:43.060
  • - LESLIE: YES.
  • 00:31:43.060 --> 00:31:43.210
  • - MATT: IT HAPPENS TO--
  • 00:31:43.210 --> 00:31:46.000
  • - LES: BUT ONLY ONCE OR TWICE A
  • 00:31:46.000 --> 00:31:46.220
  • DAY SO--
  • 00:31:46.220 --> 00:31:47.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:31:47.020 --> 00:31:48.170
  • OH, WHAT'S GOIN' ON HERE?
  • 00:31:48.170 --> 00:31:49.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:31:49.150 --> 00:31:52.150
  • NOW, THIS IS WHAT WE CALL A
  • 00:31:52.150 --> 00:31:54.160
  • "THERAPEUTIC MOMENT."
  • 00:31:54.160 --> 00:31:56.110
  • WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE?
  • 00:31:56.110 --> 00:31:57.040
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:31:57.040 --> 00:31:57.210
  • - LAURIE: RIGHT.
  • 00:31:57.210 --> 00:31:58.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:31:58.060 --> 00:31:59.060
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:31:59.060 --> 00:32:01.060
  • - MATT: BY THE WAY, THAT WAS
  • 00:32:01.060 --> 00:32:01.270
  • KIND OF SCARY, THAT LOOK SHE
  • 00:32:01.270 --> 00:32:03.100
  • JUST GAVE ME, HOLY SMOKES.
  • 00:32:03.100 --> 00:32:04.250
  • - LAURIE: WHAT'D YOU CALL IT?
  • 00:32:04.250 --> 00:32:05.160
  • "THERAPEUTIC--" WHAT?
  • 00:32:05.160 --> 00:32:06.260
  • - LES: "MOMENT."
  • 00:32:06.260 --> 00:32:07.290
  • - MATT: YEAH.
  • 00:32:07.290 --> 00:32:08.140
  • - LES: YEAH, THERE WAS, LIKE, A
  • 00:32:08.140 --> 00:32:09.150
  • LOT OF COMMUNICATION WITHOUT
  • 00:32:09.150 --> 00:32:10.050
  • ANY--
  • 00:32:10.050 --> 00:32:10.210
  • - LAURIE: NO, YOU SAID, "AN
  • 00:32:10.210 --> 00:32:11.110
  • AUTOPSY."
  • 00:32:11.110 --> 00:32:12.030
  • - LESLIE: OH, A "CONVERSATIONAL
  • 00:32:12.030 --> 00:32:12.250
  • AUTOPSY."
  • 00:32:12.250 --> 00:32:13.060
  • - LAURIE: WE NEED A
  • 00:32:13.060 --> 00:32:14.030
  • CONVERSATIONAL AUTOPSY.
  • 00:32:14.030 --> 00:32:14.210
  • HOW DO YOU DO THAT CALMLY?
  • 00:32:14.210 --> 00:32:16.200
  • - MATT: WELL, WHEN YOU WERE
  • 00:32:16.200 --> 00:32:18.070
  • TALKING JUST NOW, IT MADE ME
  • 00:32:18.070 --> 00:32:19.230
  • THINK OF SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED
  • 00:32:19.230 --> 00:32:21.060
  • THE OTHER DAY AT HOME, BUT I
  • 00:32:21.080 --> 00:32:24.080
  • DON'T REMEMBER WHAT HAPPENED,
  • 00:32:24.080 --> 00:32:25.150
  • BUT SOMETHING LIKE THAT.
  • 00:32:25.150 --> 00:32:27.220
  • - LAURIE: I DO.
  • 00:32:27.220 --> 00:32:28.060
  • - LESLIE: YOU DO.
  • 00:32:28.060 --> 00:32:28.210
  • YOU KNOW EXACTLY.
  • 00:32:28.210 --> 00:32:29.060
  • - MATT: OKAY, WHAT HAPPENED?
  • 00:32:29.060 --> 00:32:29.270
  • 'CAUSE I DON'T REMEMBER.
  • 00:32:29.270 --> 00:32:30.150
  • - LAURIE: ARE YOU TALKIN' ABOUT
  • 00:32:30.150 --> 00:32:31.070
  • IN COLORADO, THE OTHER DAY, IN
  • 00:32:31.070 --> 00:32:33.020
  • FRONT OF EVERYBODY?
  • 00:32:33.020 --> 00:32:33.210
  • - LES: WELL, YES, THAT'S WHAT
  • 00:32:33.210 --> 00:32:35.200
  • WE'RE TALKING ABOUT.
  • 00:32:35.200 --> 00:32:36.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:32:36.060 --> 00:32:36.200
  • - MATT: CRAP, I CAN'T REMEMBER
  • 00:32:36.200 --> 00:32:38.250
  • WHAT SHE'S TALKIN' ABOUT.
  • 00:32:38.250 --> 00:32:39.250
  • WHAT?
  • 00:32:39.250 --> 00:32:40.090
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:32:40.090 --> 00:32:42.180
  • OKAY, WHAT'RE YOU TALKIN' ABOUT?
  • 00:32:42.180 --> 00:32:43.100
  • - LES: THE ONE IN COLORADO.
  • 00:32:43.100 --> 00:32:44.210
  • - LAURIE: WHEN YOU YELLED AT ME
  • 00:32:44.210 --> 00:32:45.210
  • IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY.
  • 00:32:45.210 --> 00:32:47.190
  • - MATT: OKAY, WHEN?
  • 00:32:47.190 --> 00:32:48.230
  • WHAT'RE YOU TALKIN' ABOUT?
  • 00:32:48.230 --> 00:32:49.120
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:32:49.120 --> 00:32:51.110
  • - LAURIE: I HAVE WITNESSES.
  • 00:32:51.110 --> 00:32:52.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:32:52.020 --> 00:32:54.000
  • - MATT: OKAY, OKAY, FIRST OF
  • 00:32:54.000 --> 00:32:54.210
  • ALL, WHERE WERE WE?
  • 00:32:54.210 --> 00:32:55.200
  • WHAT'RE YOU TALKIN'--
  • 00:32:55.200 --> 00:32:56.070
  • - LAURIE: OKAY, SO WE WERE IN
  • 00:32:56.070 --> 00:32:57.060
  • COLORADO, STANDIN' THERE WITH
  • 00:32:57.060 --> 00:32:58.080
  • ALL OF OUR BUNCH OF STAFF THERE
  • 00:32:58.280 --> 00:33:02.000
  • IN COLORADO, AND I WAS LOOKING
  • 00:33:02.000 --> 00:33:04.090
  • AT MY SON BECAUSE HE WAS COPPING
  • 00:33:04.090 --> 00:33:05.220
  • AN ATTITUDE, AND SO I'M LOOKING
  • 00:33:05.220 --> 00:33:06.270
  • BACK.
  • 00:33:06.270 --> 00:33:08.170
  • MATT'S TALKING, SO HERE COMES MY
  • 00:33:08.170 --> 00:33:09.270
  • POOR LITTLE SON.
  • 00:33:09.270 --> 00:33:12.030
  • HE GETS INVOLVED, AND I'M LIKE,
  • 00:33:12.030 --> 00:33:13.040
  • GOIN'-- AND I KEEP LOOKIN' AT
  • 00:33:13.040 --> 00:33:15.160
  • CODY, AND MATT YELLS AT ME.
  • 00:33:15.160 --> 00:33:17.240
  • - MATT: OH, I REMEMBER.
  • 00:33:17.240 --> 00:33:18.260
  • - LAURIE: HE GOES, "WHY DO YOU
  • 00:33:18.260 --> 00:33:20.240
  • KEEP LOOKIN' AT HIM?"
  • 00:33:20.240 --> 00:33:21.190
  • AND SO I'M THINKIN' CODY'S GONNA
  • 00:33:21.190 --> 00:33:22.140
  • GET IN TROUBLE, AND ALL OF A
  • 00:33:22.140 --> 00:33:23.250
  • SUDDEN, I GET YELLED AT.
  • 00:33:23.250 --> 00:33:24.250
  • - LESLIE: YOU'RE MAMA BEAR.
  • 00:33:24.250 --> 00:33:25.240
  • - LAURIE: SO, BOY, JUST-- AND
  • 00:33:25.240 --> 00:33:27.020
  • EVERYONE, JUST, QUIET, REAL
  • 00:33:27.020 --> 00:33:28.190
  • QUIET.
  • 00:33:28.230 --> 00:33:31.230
  • EVERYONE GOES SILENT, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:33:31.230 --> 00:33:33.060
  • THEN, OF COURSE, I HAVE TO BE
  • 00:33:33.060 --> 00:33:35.160
  • NICE TO EVERYBODY AND LOVE ON
  • 00:33:35.160 --> 00:33:36.170
  • EVERYBODY, AND THEN THE DAY
  • 00:33:36.170 --> 00:33:39.150
  • GOES.
  • 00:33:39.150 --> 00:33:41.080
  • WE GET HOME, BACK TO CALIFORNIA
  • 00:33:41.080 --> 00:33:42.000
  • AND SO--
  • 00:33:42.000 --> 00:33:44.290
  • - MATT: YOU'RE STILL BEIN' A
  • 00:33:44.290 --> 00:33:45.200
  • JERK.
  • 00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:46.100
  • - LAURIE: -- I'M STILL-- OKAY,
  • 00:33:46.100 --> 00:33:47.080
  • SO NOW I'M BEING THE JERK 'CAUSE
  • 00:33:47.080 --> 00:33:48.000
  • I'M BEING QUIET, AND I SAID,
  • 00:33:48.000 --> 00:33:49.140
  • "YOU YELLED AT ME IN FRONT OF--"
  • 00:33:49.140 --> 00:33:50.230
  • HE GOES, "I DID NOT."
  • 00:33:50.230 --> 00:33:52.140
  • - MATT: YEAH.
  • 00:33:52.140 --> 00:33:54.260
  • - LAURIE: AND I SAID, "YES, YOU
  • 00:33:54.260 --> 00:33:55.200
  • DID."
  • 00:33:55.200 --> 00:33:56.220
  • EXCUSE ME, DID HE YELL AT
  • 00:33:56.220 --> 00:33:57.260
  • ME IN FRONT-- JUST GIVE ME A
  • 00:33:57.260 --> 00:33:58.170
  • BIG, "HEY."
  • 00:33:58.170 --> 00:33:59.060
  • - MALE: HEY.
  • 00:33:59.060 --> 00:34:00.260
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:01.030 --> 00:34:04.030
  • - LAURIE: I HAVE FOUR GOOD
  • 00:34:04.030 --> 00:34:04.260
  • WITNESSES.
  • 00:34:04.260 --> 00:34:07.220
  • - LES: THAT WASN'T MUCH OF A
  • 00:34:07.220 --> 00:34:08.130
  • WITNESS.
  • 00:34:08.130 --> 00:34:09.290
  • - MATT: YEAH, THAT WAS NOT MUCH
  • 00:34:09.290 --> 00:34:10.210
  • OF--
  • 00:34:10.210 --> 00:34:11.080
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:11.080 --> 00:34:11.210
  • - LAURIE: CAYLAN, DID HE YELL
  • 00:34:11.210 --> 00:34:12.130
  • AT ME?
  • 00:34:12.130 --> 00:34:12.220
  • MIRANDA?
  • 00:34:12.220 --> 00:34:13.110
  • - LESLIE: IT'S MY TURN TO HUG
  • 00:34:13.110 --> 00:34:14.030
  • YOU.
  • 00:34:14.030 --> 00:34:14.110
  • - LAURIE: OKAY, THANK YOU.
  • 00:34:14.110 --> 00:34:15.010
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:34:15.010 --> 00:34:15.120
  • I NEEDED IT.
  • 00:34:15.120 --> 00:34:15.240
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:15.240 --> 00:34:16.050
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:34:17.140 --> 00:34:20.140
  • [MATT FAKE CRYING]
  • 00:34:21.190 --> 00:34:24.190
  • - MATT: OH, GOD IN HEAVEN.
  • 00:34:24.190 --> 00:34:26.120
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:26.120 --> 00:34:27.280
  • - LAURIE: IS THAT WHAT YOU WERE
  • 00:34:27.280 --> 00:34:28.220
  • TALKIN' ABOUT?
  • 00:34:28.220 --> 00:34:29.060
  • - MATT: I DON'T KNOW.
  • 00:34:29.060 --> 00:34:29.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:29.230 --> 00:34:30.040
  • - LAURIE: THEY NEVER THINK
  • 00:34:30.040 --> 00:34:31.050
  • ANYTHING'S WRONG.
  • 00:34:31.050 --> 00:34:31.200
  • - LES: WHAT IS THIS INTERVIEW
  • 00:34:31.200 --> 00:34:33.260
  • ABOUT?
  • 00:34:33.260 --> 00:34:34.080
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:35.130 --> 00:34:38.130
  • - MATT: I DON'T KNOW-- GOD.
  • 00:34:38.130 --> 00:34:40.060
  • SO WHAT'S INTERESTING ABOUT WHEN
  • 00:34:40.060 --> 00:34:40.290
  • YOU GUYS WERE TELLING THAT
  • 00:34:40.290 --> 00:34:41.180
  • STORY, FOR REAL, IT MADE ME
  • 00:34:41.180 --> 00:34:42.080
  • REMEMBER AN EMOTION.
  • 00:34:42.080 --> 00:34:45.030
  • - LAURIE & LESLIE: MM.
  • 00:34:45.030 --> 00:34:46.120
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:46.120 --> 00:34:46.270
  • - MATT: I COULDN'T REMEMBER
  • 00:34:46.270 --> 00:34:47.170
  • WHAT IT WAS, BUT I REMEMBER THE
  • 00:34:47.170 --> 00:34:48.090
  • EMOTION OF BEING MISUNDERSTOOD.
  • 00:34:50.140 --> 00:34:53.140
  • - LES & LESLIE: RIGHT.
  • 00:34:53.140 --> 00:34:54.040
  • - MATT: AND THAT'S WHAT
  • 00:34:54.040 --> 00:34:54.220
  • HAPPENS, ISN'T IT?
  • 00:34:54.220 --> 00:34:55.130
  • - LESLIE: YES.
  • 00:34:55.130 --> 00:34:56.230
  • - MATT: YOU KNOW, YOUR
  • 00:34:56.230 --> 00:34:57.110
  • SARCASTIC CLAP, APPARENTLY,
  • 00:34:57.110 --> 00:34:58.060
  • WHICH I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT
  • 00:34:58.060 --> 00:34:59.240
  • THAT IS--
  • 00:34:59.240 --> 00:35:00.120
  • - LES: RIGHT, WELL, YOUR ELBOWS
  • 00:35:00.120 --> 00:35:01.180
  • HAVE TO GO OUT A LITTLE BIT.
  • 00:35:01.180 --> 00:35:03.100
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:35:03.100 --> 00:35:05.240
  • - LESLIE: OH, GOODNESS.
  • 00:35:05.240 --> 00:35:07.190
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:35:07.190 --> 00:35:10.090
  • - LAURIE: IT'S ABOUT THAT
  • 00:35:10.090 --> 00:35:10.280
  • AUTOPSY.
  • 00:35:10.280 --> 00:35:11.210
  • - LES: OR THERE'S THIS ONE.
  • 00:35:11.210 --> 00:35:12.110
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:35:12.110 --> 00:35:13.280
  • I THINK WE'VE SEEN THAT IN
  • 00:35:13.280 --> 00:35:15.140
  • CONGRESS, MAYBE.
  • 00:35:15.140 --> 00:35:17.150
  • - MATT: I JUST REMEMBERED THE
  • 00:35:18.000 --> 00:35:21.000
  • EMOTION OF IT THAT THERE WAS
  • 00:35:21.000 --> 00:35:23.060
  • SOME MISCUE--
  • 00:35:23.060 --> 00:35:24.180
  • - LAURIE: MM-HMM, YOUR MOUTH.
  • 00:35:24.180 --> 00:35:26.040
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:35:26.040 --> 00:35:27.050
  • - MATT: -- THAT YOU GET INTO A
  • 00:35:27.050 --> 00:35:27.270
  • MISCUE WHEN YOU DON'T MEAN IT
  • 00:35:27.270 --> 00:35:28.290
  • THAT WAY.
  • 00:35:28.290 --> 00:35:29.250
  • - LESLIE: RIGHT.
  • 00:35:29.250 --> 00:35:30.100
  • - MATT: IT'S USUALLY THAT THERE
  • 00:35:30.100 --> 00:35:31.150
  • IS JUST A MISUNDERSTANDING.
  • 00:35:31.150 --> 00:35:32.250
  • - LAURIE: YOU JUST NEED TO
  • 00:35:32.250 --> 00:35:33.150
  • LOWER YOUR TONE.
  • 00:35:33.150 --> 00:35:34.060
  • - MATT: SO WHAT HAPPENED?
  • 00:35:34.060 --> 00:35:35.150
  • WHAT DO WE DO TO FIX THAT?
  • 00:35:35.150 --> 00:35:37.040
  • - LES: YEAH, I LOVE THAT
  • 00:35:37.040 --> 00:35:38.240
  • BECAUSE THAT'S EXACT-- IT'S LIKE
  • 00:35:38.240 --> 00:35:40.210
  • A COMPUTER, RIGHT?
  • 00:35:40.210 --> 00:35:41.080
  • YOU GET IMPRINTED WITH
  • 00:35:41.080 --> 00:35:42.060
  • SOMETHING.
  • 00:35:42.060 --> 00:35:42.210
  • EVEN THOUGH YOU DON'T REMEMBER
  • 00:35:42.210 --> 00:35:44.260
  • I REMEMBER THE FEELING I HAD
  • 00:35:47.120 --> 00:35:48.020
  • TOWARD THAT PERSON, EVEN THOUGH
  • 00:35:48.020 --> 00:35:48.240
  • I CAN'T REALLY REMEMBER HIS NAME
  • 00:35:48.240 --> 00:35:49.160
  • OR ANYTHING ELSE.
  • 00:35:49.160 --> 00:35:50.010
  • - LAURIE: YEAH, NOBODY LIKES
  • 00:35:50.010 --> 00:35:50.220
  • THE FEELING.
  • 00:35:50.220 --> 00:35:51.040
  • - LES: RIGHT.
  • 00:35:51.040 --> 00:35:51.170
  • AND THOSE FEELINGS HAVE A WAY OF
  • 00:35:52.140 --> 00:35:53.060
  • COMING BACK AND CATCHING US OFF
  • 00:35:53.060 --> 00:35:53.280
  • GUARD.
  • 00:35:53.280 --> 00:35:54.070
  • - LES: RIGHT, AS WE LIKE TO
  • 00:35:54.070 --> 00:35:54.270
  • SAY, "NEGATIVE FEELINGS HAVE A
  • 00:35:54.270 --> 00:35:55.210
  • HIGH RATE OF RESURRECTION,"
  • 00:35:55.210 --> 00:35:56.110
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:35:56.110 --> 00:35:58.260
  • - LAURIE: LIKE ON THIS SHOW.
  • 00:35:58.260 --> 00:35:59.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:00.230 --> 00:36:03.230
  • OH, WE MADE UP SO IT'S OKAY.
  • 00:36:03.230 --> 00:36:04.180
  • - LES: HE'S NOT KISSIN'.
  • 00:36:04.180 --> 00:36:05.100
  • - LAURIE: I NOTICED THAT.
  • 00:36:05.100 --> 00:36:08.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:08.020 --> 00:36:08.150
  • - MATT: SHE DOESN'T WANT HER
  • 00:36:08.150 --> 00:36:09.060
  • LIPSTICK--
  • 00:36:09.060 --> 00:36:09.240
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:09.240 --> 00:36:10.160
  • - LES: THAT'S IT, YOU GOT IT.
  • 00:36:10.160 --> 00:36:11.070
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:11.070 --> 00:36:11.180
  • - MATT: OH, MY GOD.
  • 00:36:11.180 --> 00:36:14.170
  • OKAY, WOULD YOU JUST PICK UP THE
  • 00:36:14.170 --> 00:36:15.090
  • STUPID ASSESSMENT AND FIX US?
  • 00:36:15.090 --> 00:36:16.000
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:16.000 --> 00:36:17.210
  • YEAH, OKAY, I'M READY TO BE
  • 00:36:17.210 --> 00:36:18.240
  • FIXED.
  • 00:36:18.240 --> 00:36:19.070
  • - LES: LET'S DO IT.
  • 00:36:19.070 --> 00:36:19.230
  • RIGHT HERE.
  • 00:36:19.230 --> 00:36:20.080
  • I WILL TELL YOU, THOSE FEELINGS,
  • 00:36:20.080 --> 00:36:21.250
  • THEY--
  • 00:36:21.250 --> 00:36:23.220
  • - MATT: I'M EMOTIONALLY SPENT.
  • 00:36:23.220 --> 00:36:24.240
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:24.240 --> 00:36:26.240
  • - LES: WE MIGHT HAVE TO CHARGE
  • 00:36:26.240 --> 00:36:27.160
  • YOU GUYS FOR THIS SESSION.
  • 00:36:27.160 --> 00:36:28.050
  • - MATT: SERIOUSLY.
  • 00:36:28.050 --> 00:36:28.280
  • HAH, WHATEVER IT IS,
  • 00:36:28.280 --> 00:36:30.090
  • WE'LL PAY IT.
  • 00:36:30.090 --> 00:36:31.100
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:31.100 --> 00:36:33.090
  • I'D RATHER JUST WRITE YOU A
  • 00:36:33.090 --> 00:36:34.120
  • CHECK.
  • 00:36:34.120 --> 00:36:35.040
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:36:35.040 --> 00:36:36.250
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:36.250 --> 00:36:38.080
  • - LAURIE: CAN YOU BUY EMPATHY?
  • 00:36:38.080 --> 00:36:39.160
  • - MATT: OH, MY GOD.
  • 00:36:39.160 --> 00:36:41.150
  • - LES: SO I DO HOLD IN MY HANDS
  • 00:36:41.150 --> 00:36:44.090
  • THE BETTER LOVE REPORT THAT YOU
  • 00:36:44.090 --> 00:36:45.230
  • GUYS HAD, AND, AGAIN, IT'S
  • 00:36:45.230 --> 00:36:47.200
  • REALLY A ROAD MAP, BUT LET'S
  • 00:36:47.200 --> 00:36:48.280
  • HIGHLIGHT SOMETHING HERE IF YOU
  • 00:36:48.280 --> 00:36:50.090
  • GUYS ARE WILLING TO SHARE IT
  • 00:36:50.090 --> 00:36:51.280
  • 'CAUSE IT'S NONTHREATENING.
  • 00:36:51.280 --> 00:36:53.110
  • IT STARTS WITH PERSONALITY,
  • 00:36:53.110 --> 00:36:54.100
  • BASICALLY, HOW GOD DESIGNED THE
  • 00:36:54.100 --> 00:36:56.020
  • TWO OF YOU, AND WE REVEAL IT
  • 00:36:56.020 --> 00:36:58.230
  • HERE IN THIS LITTLE PINWHEEL OF
  • 00:36:58.230 --> 00:37:00.050
  • PERSONALITY.
  • 00:37:00.050 --> 00:37:01.250
  • THERE'S EIGHT DIFFERENT TYPES:
  • 00:37:01.250 --> 00:37:02.230
  • YOU CAN BE A "PIONEERING
  • 00:37:02.230 --> 00:37:04.030
  • SPOUSE"-- THAT'S WHAT I AM; AN
  • 00:37:05.060 --> 00:37:08.060
  • "AFFIRMING SPOUSE," AN
  • 00:37:08.060 --> 00:37:08.240
  • "ENERGIZING SPOUSE," AND YOU'RE
  • 00:37:08.240 --> 00:37:09.160
  • AN "AFFIRMING SPOUSE."
  • 00:37:09.160 --> 00:37:10.230
  • - MATT: OKAY.
  • 00:37:10.230 --> 00:37:11.120
  • - LES: YOU ARE AN "UNWAVERING
  • 00:37:11.120 --> 00:37:12.060
  • SPOUSE."
  • 00:37:12.060 --> 00:37:13.110
  • - MATT: WAIT, WAIT, WHO'S WHO?
  • 00:37:13.110 --> 00:37:15.170
  • WHICH ONE IS WHO?
  • 00:37:15.170 --> 00:37:17.060
  • - LAURIE: WHO'S AFFIRMING?
  • 00:37:17.060 --> 00:37:17.260
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:17.260 --> 00:37:19.250
  • - LES: LET ME MAKE SURE I'M
  • 00:37:19.250 --> 00:37:20.270
  • READIN' IT RIGHT HERE.
  • 00:37:20.270 --> 00:37:21.150
  • YOU ARE UNWAVERING.
  • 00:37:21.150 --> 00:37:23.010
  • SO THIS MEANS THAT YOU ARE,
  • 00:37:23.010 --> 00:37:23.240
  • RELATIVE TO HIM--
  • 00:37:23.240 --> 00:37:25.290
  • - LAURIE: ME?
  • 00:37:25.290 --> 00:37:26.120
  • - LES: YES.
  • 00:37:26.120 --> 00:37:26.260
  • - LAURIE: I'M UNWAVERING?
  • 00:37:26.260 --> 00:37:27.290
  • - LES: YES, YOU'RE VERY LOYAL.
  • 00:37:27.290 --> 00:37:28.210
  • - LAURIE: YES, I AM.
  • 00:37:28.210 --> 00:37:29.130
  • - LES: YOU'RE VERY COMMITTED.
  • 00:37:29.130 --> 00:37:30.170
  • YOU HAVE PREDICTABLE-- LIKE,
  • 00:37:30.170 --> 00:37:31.240
  • WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU
  • 00:37:31.240 --> 00:37:33.060
  • CHANGED THE FURNITURE IN YOUR
  • 00:37:33.060 --> 00:37:33.270
  • HOUSE?
  • 00:37:33.270 --> 00:37:34.170
  • DO YOU CHANGE IT?
  • 00:37:34.170 --> 00:37:35.200
  • - LAURIE: NO.
  • 00:37:35.200 --> 00:37:36.230
  • - LES: NOT VERY OFTEN?
  • 00:37:36.230 --> 00:37:37.120
  • - LAURIE: MM-MM.
  • 00:37:37.120 --> 00:37:37.270
  • - LES: RIGHT, YOU LIKE IT HOW
  • 00:37:37.270 --> 00:37:38.180
  • IT IS, RIGHT?
  • 00:37:38.180 --> 00:37:39.150
  • - MATT: WOW.
  • 00:37:39.150 --> 00:37:39.290
  • - LES: HOW ABOUT WHEN YOU GO
  • 00:37:39.290 --> 00:37:40.200
  • HOME TONIGHT?
  • 00:37:40.200 --> 00:37:41.030
  • YOU SWITCH THE SIDES OF THE BED
  • 00:37:41.030 --> 00:37:41.250
  • WITH EACH OTHER?
  • 00:37:41.250 --> 00:37:42.130
  • ARE YOU OPEN TO THAT?
  • 00:37:42.130 --> 00:37:43.030
  • - MATT: OH, GOD, NO.
  • 00:37:43.030 --> 00:37:44.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:44.060 --> 00:37:45.250
  • - LAURIE: BUT, IN HOTEL ROOMS,
  • 00:37:45.250 --> 00:37:47.120
  • IT DOESN'T MATTER IN HOTEL
  • 00:37:47.120 --> 00:37:49.070
  • ROOMS.
  • 00:37:49.070 --> 00:37:50.030
  • - LES: WE DON'T WANNA KNOW WHAT
  • 00:37:50.030 --> 00:37:50.250
  • GOES ON.
  • 00:37:50.250 --> 00:37:51.130
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:53.250 --> 00:37:56.250
  • - MATT: IT DOESN'T SAY ON
  • 00:37:56.250 --> 00:37:57.140
  • THERE, DOES IT?
  • 00:37:57.140 --> 00:37:57.280
  • - LES: NO, THAT'S A COMPLETELY
  • 00:37:57.280 --> 00:37:58.200
  • DIFFERENT--
  • 00:37:58.200 --> 00:37:59.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:59.020 --> 00:37:59.200
  • YOU KEEP THAT TO YOURSELF.
  • 00:37:59.200 --> 00:38:01.160
  • - LAURIE: BUT IT'S NOT LIKE
  • 00:38:01.160 --> 00:38:04.030
  • EVERY NIGHT IN A HOTEL ROOM WE
  • 00:38:04.030 --> 00:38:05.140
  • HAVE TO SLEEP ON THE SAME SIDE.
  • 00:38:05.140 --> 00:38:06.290
  • - LES: RIGHT.
  • 00:38:06.290 --> 00:38:07.150
  • - LAURIE: WE CAN ALWAYS BE
  • 00:38:07.150 --> 00:38:08.070
  • DIFFERENT IN A-- BUT AT HOME--
  • 00:38:08.070 --> 00:38:09.260
  • - LESLIE: IT'S NOT LIKE YOU'RE
  • 00:38:09.260 --> 00:38:10.180
  • RIGID.
  • 00:38:10.180 --> 00:38:11.050
  • IT'S JUST THAT YOU HAVE YOUR
  • 00:38:11.050 --> 00:38:11.250
  • GROOVE.
  • 00:38:11.250 --> 00:38:12.200
  • - LES: THE POINT IS THAT YOU
  • 00:38:12.200 --> 00:38:13.250
  • TEND TO-- ACCORDING TO THE WAY
  • 00:38:13.250 --> 00:38:16.130
  • YOU ANSWERED THIS, YOU TEND TO
  • 00:38:16.130 --> 00:38:17.210
  • BE MORE SLOW-PACED.
  • 00:38:17.210 --> 00:38:18.270
  • HE'S A LITTLE BIT MORE
  • 00:38:18.270 --> 00:38:20.040
  • FAST-PACED.
  • 00:38:20.040 --> 00:38:21.190
  • HE'S URGENT WITH THINGS THAT ARE
  • 00:38:21.190 --> 00:38:23.000
  • HAPPENING IN HIS LIFE, RIGHT?
  • 00:38:23.000 --> 00:38:24.070
  • HE WANTS TO GET THINGS DONE.
  • 00:38:24.070 --> 00:38:25.240
  • "IF YOU COME HOME FROM THE
  • 00:38:25.240 --> 00:38:26.250
  • GROCERY STORE AND YOU HAVE SIX
  • 00:38:26.250 --> 00:38:28.020
  • BAGS OF GROCERIES, HOW MANY
  • 00:38:28.020 --> 00:38:29.060
  • TRIPS SHOULD IT TAKE TO GET SIX
  • 00:38:29.060 --> 00:38:30.170
  • BAGS OF GROCERIES IN THE HOUSE?"
  • 00:38:30.170 --> 00:38:31.210
  • - MATT: ONE.
  • 00:38:31.210 --> 00:38:32.180
  • - LES: YEAH, EXACTLY, RIGHT?
  • 00:38:32.180 --> 00:38:33.090
  • YOU'RE GONNA PUT 'EM ON EVERY
  • 00:38:33.090 --> 00:38:34.110
  • FINGER.
  • 00:38:34.110 --> 00:38:35.050
  • "OPEN THE DOORS," RIGHT?
  • 00:38:35.050 --> 00:38:35.260
  • A PERSON THAT'S SLOW PACED,
  • 00:38:35.260 --> 00:38:37.060
  • "WE'LL JUST TAKE-- WE CAN TAKE
  • 00:38:37.060 --> 00:38:39.100
  • OUR TIME.
  • 00:38:39.100 --> 00:38:39.280
  • I'LL COME BACK AND GET THOSE IN
  • 00:38:39.280 --> 00:38:40.200
  • A MINUTE," RIGHT?
  • 00:38:40.200 --> 00:38:41.050
  • SO THAT'S ONE ASPECT OF IT.
  • 00:38:41.050 --> 00:38:42.050
  • - MATT: AND, BY THE WAY, THAT
  • 00:38:42.050 --> 00:38:43.130
  • WOULD BOTHER ME.
  • 00:38:43.130 --> 00:38:45.150
  • - LESLIE: THAT SHE'S WILLING TO
  • 00:38:45.150 --> 00:38:46.290
  • JUST TAKE HER TIME?
  • 00:38:46.290 --> 00:38:48.030
  • - MATT: YEAH, TAKE HER TIME.
  • 00:38:48.030 --> 00:38:48.240
  • - LES: 'CAUSE IT'S NOT
  • 00:38:48.240 --> 00:38:49.120
  • EFFICIENT.
  • 00:38:49.120 --> 00:38:50.240
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, AND ANOTHER
  • 00:38:50.240 --> 00:38:51.270
  • DYNAMIC HAS MORE TO DO WITH ARE
  • 00:38:51.270 --> 00:38:53.110
  • YOU FOCUSED MORE ON PEOPLE-- AND
  • 00:38:53.110 --> 00:38:55.000
  • THAT'S WHERE YOU GET YOUR ENERGY
  • 00:38:55.000 --> 00:38:56.130
  • AND GIVE YOUR ENERGY-- OR ARE
  • 00:38:56.130 --> 00:38:58.050
  • YOU ALL ABOUT "LET'S GET A TASK
  • 00:38:58.050 --> 00:38:59.200
  • ACCOMPLISHED"?
  • 00:38:59.200 --> 00:39:01.030
  • "LET'S REALLY DO SOMETHING."
  • 00:39:01.030 --> 00:39:02.150
  • AND YOU FEEL GREAT ABOUT YOUR
  • 00:39:02.150 --> 00:39:04.000
  • TO-DO LIST AND GETTING THOSE
  • 00:39:04.000 --> 00:39:05.100
  • THINGS CROSSED OFF.
  • 00:39:05.100 --> 00:39:06.150
  • - LES: AND YOU'RE
  • 00:39:06.150 --> 00:39:07.020
  • PEOPLE-ORIENTED.
  • 00:39:07.020 --> 00:39:07.290
  • YOU GET YOUR ENERGY THERE.
  • 00:39:07.290 --> 00:39:08.180
  • - LESLIE: YEAH.
  • 00:39:08.180 --> 00:39:09.130
  • - LES: I TEND TO BE MORE
  • 00:39:09.130 --> 00:39:10.020
  • TASK-ORIENTED.
  • 00:39:10.020 --> 00:39:11.080
  • - LESLIE: TEND TO BE?
  • 00:39:11.080 --> 00:39:11.250
  • - LES: YEAH.
  • 00:39:11.250 --> 00:39:12.110
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:39:12.110 --> 00:39:13.010
  • WELL, WELL, WELL.
  • 00:39:13.010 --> 00:39:15.190
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:39:15.190 --> 00:39:17.180
  • [CLAPPING]
  • 00:39:18.090 --> 00:39:21.090
  • WE'RE GONNA START A WHOLE NEW
  • 00:39:21.090 --> 00:39:22.000
  • TREND.
  • 00:39:22.000 --> 00:39:22.180
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:39:22.180 --> 00:39:23.070
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:39:23.070 --> 00:39:26.010
  • - MATT: THAT'S GONNA BE A GIF.
  • 00:39:26.010 --> 00:39:26.270
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:39:26.270 --> 00:39:29.180
  • - LES: THE PARROTTS.
  • 00:39:29.180 --> 00:39:30.110
  • BUT, YEAH, EVERY DAY STARTS AT
  • 00:39:30.110 --> 00:39:33.080
  • ZERO FOR ME.
  • 00:39:33.080 --> 00:39:33.230
  • I WANNA GET THINGS DONE DURING
  • 00:39:33.230 --> 00:39:34.220
  • MY DAY.
  • 00:39:34.220 --> 00:39:35.180
  • I LOVE A TO-DO LIST.
  • 00:39:35.180 --> 00:39:37.070
  • ARE YOU LIKE ME?
  • 00:39:37.070 --> 00:39:38.190
  • LIKE, THE VERY FIRST THING ON MY
  • 00:39:38.190 --> 00:39:39.110
  • TO-DO LIST SAYS, "MAKE TO-DO
  • 00:39:39.110 --> 00:39:40.090
  • LIST."
  • 00:39:40.090 --> 00:39:41.060
  • LIKE, LET'S GET THIS
  • 00:39:41.060 --> 00:39:42.020
  • GOIN', YOU KNOW?
  • 00:39:42.020 --> 00:39:43.050
  • AND EVEN IF I'D ACCOMPLISHED
  • 00:39:43.050 --> 00:39:44.110
  • SOMETHING DURING THE DAY THAT
  • 00:39:44.110 --> 00:39:45.050
  • WASN'T ON MY LIST-- ANYBODY DO
  • 00:39:45.050 --> 00:39:46.050
  • THIS?
  • 00:39:46.050 --> 00:39:47.080
  • YOU PUT IT ON YOUR LIST AND
  • 00:39:47.080 --> 00:39:48.120
  • SCRATCH IT RIGHT OFF?
  • 00:39:48.120 --> 00:39:49.150
  • YEAH.
  • 00:39:49.150 --> 00:39:50.010
  • - LESLIE: THAT IS SUCH A WASTE.
  • 00:39:50.010 --> 00:39:52.100
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:39:52.100 --> 00:39:53.270
  • - LES: WELL, THAT'S HOW GOD
  • 00:39:53.270 --> 00:39:55.010
  • MADE ME SO--
  • 00:39:55.010 --> 00:39:55.280
  • - LESLIE: I KNOW.
  • 00:39:55.280 --> 00:39:56.190
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:39:56.190 --> 00:39:58.280
  • BUT, SO, ANYWAY, TASK-ORIENTED
  • 00:39:58.280 --> 00:40:00.000
  • OR PEOPLE-ORIENTED, FAST-PACED,
  • 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.010
  • SLOW-PACE.
  • 00:40:01.010 --> 00:40:01.200
  • - LESLIE: AND THAT COMBINATION,
  • 00:40:01.200 --> 00:40:03.120
  • THAT SYNERGY, IS KIND OF WHAT
  • 00:40:03.120 --> 00:40:05.100
  • CREATES THIS PERSONALITY.
  • 00:40:05.100 --> 00:40:06.270
  • - LES: YEAH.
  • 00:40:06.270 --> 00:40:07.130
  • - MATT: WHAT ELSE DID WE LEARN
  • 00:40:07.130 --> 00:40:08.100
  • ABOUT US?
  • 00:40:08.100 --> 00:40:08.270
  • WHAT ELSE?
  • 00:40:08.270 --> 00:40:10.080
  • - LES: YEAH, SO ON THE FIRST
  • 00:40:10.080 --> 00:40:10.290
  • PAGE, IT LOOKS AT THAT
  • 00:40:10.290 --> 00:40:11.220
  • COMBINATION.
  • 00:40:11.220 --> 00:40:12.070
  • - MATT: GOT IT.
  • 00:40:12.070 --> 00:40:12.260
  • - LES: THERE'S EIGHT DIFFERENT
  • 00:40:12.260 --> 00:40:13.180
  • TYPES, AND YOU CAN READ, AND
  • 00:40:13.180 --> 00:40:14.170
  • THIS IS WHERE I SAID EARLIER:
  • 00:40:14.170 --> 00:40:16.000
  • THESE PARAGRAPHS-- YOU'RE
  • 00:40:16.000 --> 00:40:16.190
  • STARTIN' TO LAUGH ABOUT, JUST
  • 00:40:16.190 --> 00:40:17.260
  • LOOKIN' AT ME.
  • 00:40:17.260 --> 00:40:19.000
  • WHAT'S GOIN' ON?
  • 00:40:19.000 --> 00:40:19.180
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:40:19.180 --> 00:40:21.170
  • FORTY THOUSAND VARIABLES THAT GO
  • 00:40:21.170 --> 00:40:22.140
  • INTO THOSE PARAGRAPHS, SO IT'S
  • 00:40:22.140 --> 00:40:23.230
  • PRETTY SPECIFIC.
  • 00:40:23.230 --> 00:40:24.100
  • - LESLIE: RIGHT, SO THEY'RE
  • 00:40:24.100 --> 00:40:25.070
  • REALLY UNIQUE.
  • 00:40:25.070 --> 00:40:25.240
  • IT'S NOT JUST A SIMPLE MODEL.
  • 00:40:25.240 --> 00:40:26.230
  • IT'S COMPLEX.
  • 00:40:26.230 --> 00:40:27.210
  • - LES: THIS WAS INTERESTING.
  • 00:40:27.210 --> 00:40:29.140
  • I WAS LOOKIN' AT THIS ON YOUR
  • 00:40:29.140 --> 00:40:30.090
  • REPORT.
  • 00:40:30.090 --> 00:40:30.290
  • - MATT: UH-HUH.
  • 00:40:30.290 --> 00:40:32.110
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:40:32.280 --> 00:40:35.280
  • WHAT WERE YOU LOOKING AT, YEAH?
  • 00:40:35.280 --> 00:40:36.280
  • - LES: SO WHEN IT COMES TO
  • 00:40:36.280 --> 00:40:38.270
  • SOLVING PROBLEMS-- AND ABOUT 25%
  • 00:40:38.270 --> 00:40:41.060
  • OF OUR CONVERSATIONS IN MARRIAGE
  • 00:40:41.060 --> 00:40:42.240
  • ARE DEVOTED TO PROBLEM-SOLVING,
  • 00:40:42.240 --> 00:40:44.070
  • SO YOU REALLY LIKE TO TAKE YOUR
  • 00:40:44.070 --> 00:40:46.220
  • TIME IN SOLVING A PROBLEM,
  • 00:40:46.220 --> 00:40:48.130
  • ACCORDING TO THIS.
  • 00:40:48.130 --> 00:40:49.110
  • YOU'RE LIKE, "LET'S REFLECT ON
  • 00:40:49.110 --> 00:40:50.120
  • THIS.
  • 00:40:50.120 --> 00:40:51.220
  • LET'S NOT DO ANYTHING RASH."
  • 00:40:51.220 --> 00:40:52.250
  • YOU'RE KIND OF IN THE MID-RANGE.
  • 00:40:52.250 --> 00:40:54.060
  • IT'S NOT LIKE YOU'RE AN
  • 00:40:54.060 --> 00:40:55.080
  • AGGRESSIVE PROBLEM-SOLVER, BUT
  • 00:40:55.080 --> 00:40:56.260
  • RELATIVE TO HER, YOU MIGHT BE
  • 00:40:56.260 --> 00:40:58.120
  • SOMETIMES IMPATIENT AND
  • 00:40:58.120 --> 00:41:00.190
  • SOMETIMES, "HEY, LET'S GET ON
  • 00:41:00.190 --> 00:41:02.140
  • WITH THIS.
  • 00:41:02.140 --> 00:41:02.290
  • IT'S TIME TO--"
  • 00:41:02.290 --> 00:41:03.210
  • - LAURIE: HE ALWAYS WANTS TO
  • 00:41:03.210 --> 00:41:04.210
  • FIX MY PROBLEMS PRETTY FAST.
  • 00:41:04.210 --> 00:41:05.190
  • - LES: YEAH, BUT MOST GUYS DO,
  • 00:41:05.190 --> 00:41:06.170
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:41:06.170 --> 00:41:07.140
  • NOT JUST YOURS, BUT YOU'RE A
  • 00:41:07.140 --> 00:41:08.090
  • WOMAN.
  • 00:41:08.090 --> 00:41:08.240
  • - MATT: THANK YOU.
  • 00:41:08.240 --> 00:41:09.100
  • THANK YOU, DOCTOR.
  • 00:41:09.100 --> 00:41:09.270
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:41:09.270 --> 00:41:10.290
  • THANK YOU, DOCTOR.
  • 00:41:10.290 --> 00:41:12.280
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:41:13.030 --> 00:41:16.030
  • - LES: I CAME HOME NOT TOO LONG
  • 00:41:16.030 --> 00:41:17.140
  • AGO FROM A LATE-NIGHT LECTURE,
  • 00:41:17.140 --> 00:41:19.290
  • AND I WALKED IN THE FRONT DOOR.
  • 00:41:19.290 --> 00:41:20.210
  • LESLIE GIVES ME A LITTLE
  • 00:41:20.210 --> 00:41:21.190
  • GREETING.
  • 00:41:21.190 --> 00:41:22.170
  • HAVEN'T SEEN EACH OTHER ALL DAY,
  • 00:41:22.170 --> 00:41:23.280
  • AND SHE SAID, "HEY, THE KITCHEN
  • 00:41:23.280 --> 00:41:24.290
  • SINK IS BACKED UP."
  • 00:41:24.290 --> 00:41:26.090
  • AND I SAID, "IT IS?"
  • 00:41:26.090 --> 00:41:27.260
  • - LAURIE: YOU DIDN'T FIX IT?
  • 00:41:27.260 --> 00:41:29.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:41:29.170 --> 00:41:30.010
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, AND HE SAID TO
  • 00:41:30.010 --> 00:41:31.150
  • ME, "WELL, HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN
  • 00:41:31.150 --> 00:41:32.180
  • LIKE THAT?"
  • 00:41:32.180 --> 00:41:33.130
  • AND I SAID, "ALL DAY."
  • 00:41:33.130 --> 00:41:34.210
  • - LES: AND I SAID, "WHAT HAVE
  • 00:41:34.210 --> 00:41:35.120
  • YOU BEEN DOING?"
  • 00:41:35.120 --> 00:41:36.120
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:41:36.180 --> 00:41:39.180
  • - MATT: THAT'S WHAT I WOULD'VE
  • 00:41:39.180 --> 00:41:41.020
  • SAID.
  • 00:41:41.020 --> 00:41:42.290
  • - LES: AND SHE SAID, "WAITIN'
  • 00:41:42.290 --> 00:41:44.000
  • FOR YOU TO GET HOME."
  • 00:41:44.000 --> 00:41:45.030
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:41:45.030 --> 00:41:47.000
  • AND SO I IMMEDIATELY-- IT'S,
  • 00:41:47.000 --> 00:41:48.150
  • LIKE, 10 O'CLOCK AT NIGHT.
  • 00:41:48.150 --> 00:41:49.180
  • I IMMEDIATELY PICK UP MY PHONE
  • 00:41:49.180 --> 00:41:51.010
  • AND CALL MY FRIEND GEORGE, WHO'S
  • 00:41:51.010 --> 00:41:51.230
  • A PLUMBER NEARBY IN OUR
  • 00:41:51.230 --> 00:41:52.220
  • NEIGHBORHOOD, AND SHE SAYS, "OH,
  • 00:41:52.220 --> 00:41:54.230
  • NO, DON'T CALL GEORGE NOW.
  • 00:41:54.230 --> 00:41:55.220
  • IT'S TOO LATE TO CALL HIM."
  • 00:41:55.220 --> 00:41:56.200
  • I SAID, "ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
  • 00:41:56.200 --> 00:41:57.210
  • HE'S GONNA LOVE IT.
  • 00:41:57.210 --> 00:41:58.080
  • HE'LL BE OVER HERE IN TEN
  • 00:41:58.080 --> 00:41:58.270
  • MINUTES."
  • 00:41:58.270 --> 00:41:59.240
  • SHE SAID, "NO, NO, NO."
  • 00:41:59.240 --> 00:42:00.170
  • SHE SAID, "LET'S GO TO BED.
  • 00:42:00.170 --> 00:42:01.160
  • LET'S SEE HOW THE SINK IS DOING
  • 00:42:01.160 --> 00:42:02.180
  • IN THE MORNING."
  • 00:42:02.180 --> 00:42:03.070
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:42:03.070 --> 00:42:05.050
  • I SAID, "DO YOU THINK LITTLE
  • 00:42:05.050 --> 00:42:05.260
  • FAIRIES ARE GONNA COME IN HERE
  • 00:42:05.260 --> 00:42:06.190
  • AND WORK ON OUR SINK?"
  • 00:42:06.190 --> 00:42:07.200
  • YOU KNOW, SO SHE'S A REFLECTIVE
  • 00:42:07.200 --> 00:42:09.090
  • PROBLEM-SOLVER LIKE YOU ARE.
  • 00:42:09.090 --> 00:42:10.250
  • I'M A PRETTY-- OH, MY GOODNESS.
  • 00:42:11.020 --> 00:42:14.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:42:14.020 --> 00:42:15.070
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:42:15.070 --> 00:42:18.030
  • - LESLIE: WE GOT A SUPPORT
  • 00:42:18.030 --> 00:42:18.250
  • GROUP GOIN'.
  • 00:42:18.250 --> 00:42:19.120
  • - MATT: OH, MY GOD.
  • 00:42:19.120 --> 00:42:20.090
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:42:20.090 --> 00:42:22.150
  • - LES: ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:42:22.150 --> 00:42:23.010
  • - MATT: MOVE ON, YEAH.
  • 00:42:23.010 --> 00:42:23.220
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:42:23.220 --> 00:42:25.290
  • - LAURIE: SO HOW'S THE SINK?
  • 00:42:25.290 --> 00:42:27.190
  • - LES: THE SINK IS BETTER,
  • 00:42:27.190 --> 00:42:28.180
  • YEAH, THANK YOU.
  • 00:42:28.180 --> 00:42:29.110
  • - LAURIE: OKAY.
  • 00:42:29.110 --> 00:42:30.290
  • IT'S OKAY, ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:42:30.290 --> 00:42:31.160
  • - LES: ACTUALLY, WE HAD A
  • 00:42:31.160 --> 00:42:32.050
  • PLUMBER THERE YESTERDAY.
  • 00:42:32.050 --> 00:42:32.230
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, WE DID,
  • 00:42:32.230 --> 00:42:33.110
  • ACTUALLY.
  • 00:42:33.110 --> 00:42:34.150
  • - LES: LET'S TALK ABOUT
  • 00:42:34.150 --> 00:42:35.070
  • TALKING, COMMUNICATION.
  • 00:42:35.070 --> 00:42:35.250
  • IT'S THE LIFEBLOOD OF A
  • 00:42:35.250 --> 00:42:36.200
  • RELATIONSHIP AND-- MAKE SOME
  • 00:42:36.200 --> 00:42:38.020
  • SENSE OUT OF THIS.
  • 00:42:38.250 --> 00:42:41.250
  • I CAN'T TELL ANYTHING ABOUT
  • 00:42:41.250 --> 00:42:42.150
  • WHAT'S GOING ON THERE.
  • 00:42:42.150 --> 00:42:43.190
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:42:43.190 --> 00:42:44.020
  • - MATT: WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING?
  • 00:42:44.020 --> 00:42:45.020
  • - LESLIE: WELL, HERE, ONE OF
  • 00:42:45.020 --> 00:42:46.200
  • THE THINGS WE KNOW IS THAT, EVEN
  • 00:42:46.200 --> 00:42:48.080
  • THOUGH WE FEEL MOST CONNECTED BY
  • 00:42:48.080 --> 00:42:49.200
  • CONVERSATION, WE DON'T
  • 00:42:49.200 --> 00:42:50.120
  • NECESSARILY LEAN INTO IT THE
  • 00:42:50.120 --> 00:42:52.030
  • SAME WAY.
  • 00:42:52.030 --> 00:42:52.290
  • I MEAN, ONE OF THE INTERESTING
  • 00:42:52.290 --> 00:42:54.200
  • THINGS IS THERE ARE EVEN SOME
  • 00:42:54.200 --> 00:42:56.070
  • PRETTY SIGNIFICANT BRAIN
  • 00:42:56.070 --> 00:42:57.180
  • DIFFERENCES WHEN IT COMES TO
  • 00:42:57.180 --> 00:42:58.250
  • WHAT A GUY WANTS IN A
  • 00:42:58.250 --> 00:42:59.210
  • CONVERSATION, WHAT A WOMAN
  • 00:42:59.210 --> 00:43:00.270
  • WANTS, SO WHEN YOU BLEND THAT
  • 00:43:00.270 --> 00:43:02.230
  • WITH YOUR OWN PERSONALITY, YOU
  • 00:43:02.230 --> 00:43:05.110
  • REALLY START TO FIGURE OUT "WHY
  • 00:43:05.250 --> 00:43:08.250
  • DO WE HAVE MELTDOWNS?"
  • 00:43:08.250 --> 00:43:09.220
  • BECAUSE WE'RE NOT WORKING FOR
  • 00:43:09.220 --> 00:43:11.030
  • THE SAME GOAL.
  • 00:43:11.030 --> 00:43:11.280
  • - LES: YEAH, RESEARCHERS CALL
  • 00:43:11.280 --> 00:43:12.190
  • IT FOR GUYS, "REPORT TALK."
  • 00:43:12.190 --> 00:43:13.090
  • WE LIKE THE REPORT,
  • 00:43:13.090 --> 00:43:14.220
  • AND THIS IS IMPORTANT
  • 00:43:14.220 --> 00:43:15.290
  • FOR WOMEN TO UNDERSTAND:
  • 00:43:15.290 --> 00:43:17.080
  • WE WANNA BE IN THE KNOW.
  • 00:43:17.080 --> 00:43:18.130
  • WE WANT THE INFORMATION.
  • 00:43:18.130 --> 00:43:19.210
  • IT'S JUST THAT WE DON'T NEED ALL
  • 00:43:19.210 --> 00:43:20.290
  • THE FLUFF.
  • 00:43:20.290 --> 00:43:22.150
  • WE DON'T NEED ALL THE BUNNY
  • 00:43:22.150 --> 00:43:24.000
  • TRAILS, AND WE WANT THE REPORT.
  • 00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:26.060
  • YOU EVER HEARD YOUR MAN SAY, YOU
  • 00:43:26.060 --> 00:43:27.260
  • KNOW, "GET TO THE BOTTOM LINE,"
  • 00:43:27.260 --> 00:43:29.060
  • "DOES THIS STORY HAVE AN END,"
  • 00:43:29.060 --> 00:43:30.200
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:43:30.200 --> 00:43:31.090
  • IT'S THAT KIND OF STUFF.
  • 00:43:31.090 --> 00:43:32.120
  • - MATT: THANK YOU, DOCTOR.
  • 00:43:32.120 --> 00:43:33.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:43:33.020 --> 00:43:35.140
  • - LES: AND IT'S NOT THAT WAY
  • 00:43:35.140 --> 00:43:36.290
  • FOR WOMEN.
  • 00:43:36.290 --> 00:43:38.010
  • - LESLIE: NO, I MEAN, FOR US,
  • 00:43:38.010 --> 00:43:39.050
  • CONVERSATION IS CONNECTION.
  • 00:43:39.050 --> 00:43:41.140
  • THAT'S WHY WE'VE HUGGED THREE
  • 00:43:41.140 --> 00:43:43.210
  • TIMES ALREADY BECAUSE WE'RE
  • 00:43:43.210 --> 00:43:44.110
  • BONDING.
  • 00:43:44.110 --> 00:43:44.250
  • AND SO IT'S NOT AN EXCHANGE OF
  • 00:43:44.250 --> 00:43:46.080
  • INFORMATION.
  • 00:43:46.080 --> 00:43:48.040
  • IT'S, LITERALLY, WE'RE TRYING TO
  • 00:43:48.040 --> 00:43:50.050
  • OPEN A WINDOW OF CONNECTION
  • 00:43:50.050 --> 00:43:52.030
  • BETWEEN US.
  • 00:43:52.030 --> 00:43:53.120
  • - LES: YEAH, SO IT'S NOT
  • 00:43:53.120 --> 00:43:54.010
  • "REPORT TALK."
  • 00:43:54.010 --> 00:43:54.190
  • IT'S WHAT RESEARCHERS
  • 00:43:54.190 --> 00:43:55.060
  • CALL "RAPPORT,"
  • 00:43:55.060 --> 00:43:56.050
  • "BUILDING RAPPORT."
  • 00:43:56.050 --> 00:43:57.000
  • AND LESLIE POINTED OUT
  • 00:43:57.000 --> 00:43:58.210
  • SOMETHING SO FASCINATING
  • 00:43:58.210 --> 00:43:59.150
  • AT OUR OWN CHURCH--
  • 00:43:59.150 --> 00:44:00.220
  • AND I'VE NOTICED IT IN OTHER
  • 00:44:00.220 --> 00:44:01.240
  • CHURCHES WHERE WE SPEAK AROUND
  • 00:44:01.240 --> 00:44:03.000
  • THE COUNTRY-- THAT YOU WILL SEE
  • 00:44:03.000 --> 00:44:04.080
  • WOMEN IN THE CHURCH FOYER THAT
  • 00:44:04.080 --> 00:44:06.010
  • LEAN IN AND HOLD HANDS WHILE
  • 00:44:06.010 --> 00:44:07.200
  • THEY'RE TALKING, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:44:07.200 --> 00:44:10.030
  • - LESLIE: OH, YEAH, WELL, WE'RE
  • 00:44:10.030 --> 00:44:11.000
  • SHARING.
  • 00:44:11.000 --> 00:44:11.150
  • WE'RE NOT TALKING.
  • 00:44:11.150 --> 00:44:12.200
  • WE'RE SHARING.
  • 00:44:12.200 --> 00:44:14.130
  • - LES: OH, I'M SORRY.
  • 00:44:14.130 --> 00:44:15.010
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:44:15.010 --> 00:44:16.070
  • SORRY I MISSED THAT.
  • 00:44:16.070 --> 00:44:16.230
  • BUT, YOU KNOW, YOU DON'T SEE
  • 00:44:16.230 --> 00:44:19.220
  • GUYS LEANING IN, "HEY, HOW ABOUT
  • 00:44:19.220 --> 00:44:20.160
  • THAT GAME?"
  • 00:44:20.160 --> 00:44:21.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:44:21.060 --> 00:44:21.230
  • AND I'VE NOTICED THIS.
  • 00:44:24.010 --> 00:44:27.010
  • I'VE MADE THIS, LIKE, A STUDY
  • 00:44:27.010 --> 00:44:28.120
  • OUT OF IT.
  • 00:44:28.120 --> 00:44:29.100
  • IF YOU WILL PAY ATTENTION AFTER
  • 00:44:29.100 --> 00:44:31.220
  • THE SERVICE AT YOUR CHURCH,
  • 00:44:31.220 --> 00:44:33.200
  • YOU'LL SEE WOMEN THAT ARE JUST
  • 00:44:33.200 --> 00:44:35.190
  • HOLDING HANDS, AND IF YOU GO BY
  • 00:44:35.190 --> 00:44:36.110
  • AND LISTEN, THEY'RE TALKING
  • 00:44:36.110 --> 00:44:37.070
  • ABOUT STUPID STUFF AND--
  • 00:44:37.080 --> 00:44:40.080
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:44:40.240 --> 00:44:43.240
  • FROM A GUY'S PERSPECTIVE, IT'S
  • 00:44:43.240 --> 00:44:44.150
  • LIKE, "REALLY?
  • 00:44:44.150 --> 00:44:46.050
  • YOU'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT THAT
  • 00:44:46.050 --> 00:44:46.250
  • HERE?"
  • 00:44:46.250 --> 00:44:47.060
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, 'CAUSE WE'RE
  • 00:44:47.060 --> 00:44:48.070
  • OPENING UP OUR HEARTS 'CAUSE OUR
  • 00:44:48.070 --> 00:44:48.290
  • GOAL IS CONNECTION.
  • 00:44:48.290 --> 00:44:50.090
  • SO WE DON'T NEED TO, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:44:50.090 --> 00:44:52.200
  • SHARE INFORMATION.
  • 00:44:52.200 --> 00:44:54.090
  • WE NEED TO HAVE OUR FEELINGS
  • 00:44:54.090 --> 00:44:55.170
  • EXPRESSED.
  • 00:44:57.280 --> 00:45:01.000
  • - LES: SO WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR
  • 00:45:01.000 --> 00:45:01.220
  • REPORT, WHAT IT'S GONNA DO IS
  • 00:45:01.220 --> 00:45:02.140
  • HELP YOU SEE HOW GOD DESIGNED
  • 00:45:02.140 --> 00:45:03.050
  • IT'LL HELP YOU CRACK THE CODE OF
  • 00:45:05.110 --> 00:45:06.030
  • YOUR PERSONAL TALK STYLES.
  • 00:45:06.030 --> 00:45:07.020
  • NOW, ONE OF THE THINGS IT'LL DO
  • 00:45:07.020 --> 00:45:07.240
  • IS HIGHLIGHT WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL
  • 00:45:07.240 --> 00:45:09.020
  • EMOTIONALLY SAFE IN A
  • 00:45:09.020 --> 00:45:10.000
  • CONVERSATION.
  • 00:45:10.000 --> 00:45:11.100
  • I DON'T LIKE MY TIME TO BE
  • 00:45:14.130 --> 00:45:15.070
  • WASTED, SO IF I FEEL LIKE A
  • 00:45:15.070 --> 00:45:16.190
  • CONVERSATION IS WASTING MY TIME,
  • 00:45:16.190 --> 00:45:18.260
  • I'M LIKE, "LET'S GET ON WITH
  • 00:45:18.260 --> 00:45:19.180
  • THIS."
  • 00:45:19.180 --> 00:45:20.000
  • - LESLIE: AND, FOR ME, IT'S ALL
  • 00:45:20.000 --> 00:45:21.200
  • ABOUT WORDS OF AFFIRMATION.
  • 00:45:21.200 --> 00:45:24.060
  • I NEED TO FEEL LIKE I'VE GOT THE
  • 00:45:24.060 --> 00:45:25.050
  • APPROVAL AND THE BLESSING, AND
  • 00:45:25.050 --> 00:45:26.200
  • IF YOU DO ANYTHING THAT
  • 00:45:26.200 --> 00:45:28.180
  • COMMUNICATES TO ME, EVEN WITH MY
  • 00:45:29.100 --> 00:45:32.100
  • INTUITION, THAT'S NOT THERE, I
  • 00:45:32.100 --> 00:45:33.170
  • SHUT DOWN.
  • 00:45:33.170 --> 00:45:34.020
  • - LES: YEAH, AND I CAN TELL
  • 00:45:34.020 --> 00:45:35.090
  • YOU, ONE OF THE THINGS THAT'S
  • 00:45:35.090 --> 00:45:36.250
  • IMPORTANT FOR YOU IS GOING TO BE
  • 00:45:36.250 --> 00:45:39.190
  • LOYALTY.
  • 00:45:40.020 --> 00:45:43.020
  • LIKE, IF YOU FEEL LIKE HE'S NOT
  • 00:45:43.020 --> 00:45:43.240
  • WITH YOU, ON YOUR TEAM, AND
  • 00:45:43.240 --> 00:45:45.130
  • BEING SUPPORTIVE IN THAT, THAT'S
  • 00:45:45.130 --> 00:45:47.160
  • WHEN YOU'RE GONNA HAVE NOT VERY
  • 00:45:47.160 --> 00:45:48.130
  • GOOD CONVERSATIONS.
  • 00:45:48.130 --> 00:45:49.010
  • - LAURIE: MM-HMM.
  • 00:45:49.010 --> 00:45:50.070
  • - LES: YOU GOTTA FEEL THAT HE'S
  • 00:45:50.070 --> 00:45:50.290
  • WITH YOU ON THAT.
  • 00:45:50.290 --> 00:45:51.140
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:45:52.260 --> 00:45:55.260
  • LITTLE RAW NERVE?
  • 00:45:55.260 --> 00:45:56.190
  • - LAURIE: THAT WAS GREAT.
  • 00:45:56.190 --> 00:45:57.250
  • - LES: YEAH, ALL RIGHT SO--
  • 00:45:57.250 --> 00:45:58.270
  • - MATT: LET'S GO TO A
  • 00:45:58.270 --> 00:45:59.200
  • COMMERCIAL.
  • 00:45:59.200 --> 00:46:00.210
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:46:00.210 --> 00:46:02.140
  • THE BETTER LOVE ASSESSMENT IS
  • 00:46:02.140 --> 00:46:05.020
  • WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT, AND
  • 00:46:05.020 --> 00:46:06.180
  • LET ME JUST SAY THIS: THERE'S
  • 00:46:06.180 --> 00:46:08.180
  • BEEN A COUPLE OF TIMES THAT
  • 00:46:08.180 --> 00:46:09.080
  • WE'VE DONE THESE, THAT LAURIE
  • 00:46:09.080 --> 00:46:11.010
  • WE'VE JUST COMPLETED THIS ONE--
  • 00:46:13.260 --> 00:46:14.180
  • THAT'S WHAT WE'RE TALKIN' ABOUT
  • 00:46:14.180 --> 00:46:15.100
  • TONIGHT-- BUT THAT I ACTUALLY
  • 00:46:15.100 --> 00:46:16.010
  • LEARNED THINGS THAT I DID NOT
  • 00:46:16.010 --> 00:46:18.100
  • KNOW.
  • 00:46:18.100 --> 00:46:19.060
  • - LAURIE: IT'S ALL SO GOOD.
  • 00:46:19.060 --> 00:46:20.070
  • - MATT: IT WAS AMAZING.
  • 00:46:20.070 --> 00:46:21.120
  • THE BETTER LOVE ASSESSMENT--
  • 00:46:21.120 --> 00:46:23.240
  • - ANNOUNCER: DO YOU WANT THE
  • 00:46:26.140 --> 00:46:27.050
  • VERY BEST FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
  • 00:46:27.050 --> 00:46:28.170
  • DO YOU WANNA GO BENEATH THE
  • 00:46:28.170 --> 00:46:29.280
  • THEN JOIN
  • 00:46:32.140 --> 00:46:32.270
  • DRS. LES AND LESLIE PARROTT,
  • 00:46:32.270 --> 00:46:33.290
  • RENOWNED PSYCHOLOGIST,
  • 00:46:33.290 --> 00:46:35.150
  • MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPIST,
  • 00:46:35.150 --> 00:46:36.120
  • AND NUMBER ONE "NEW YORK TIMES"
  • 00:46:36.120 --> 00:46:37.260
  • BEST-SELLING AUTHORS
  • 00:46:37.260 --> 00:46:39.140
  • IT ALL BEGINS WHEN YOU ANSWER
  • 00:46:46.110 --> 00:46:47.020
  • JUST A FEW QUESTIONS WITH THE
  • 00:46:47.020 --> 00:46:47.230
  • BETTER LOVE ASSESSMENT.
  • 00:46:47.230 --> 00:46:48.150
  • IT'S EASIER THAN YOU THINK, AND
  • 00:46:48.150 --> 00:46:49.150
  • DID WE MENTION IT'S FUN?
  • 00:46:49.150 --> 00:46:50.030
  • WE'LL GIVE YOU A PERSONALIZED
  • 00:46:50.030 --> 00:46:51.250
  • ACTION PLAN CUSTOMIZED FOR THE
  • 00:46:51.250 --> 00:46:53.140
  • TWO OF YOU.
  • 00:46:53.140 --> 00:46:54.140
  • YOU'VE NEVER EXPERIENCED
  • 00:46:54.140 --> 00:46:56.040
  • ANYTHING QUITE LIKE THIS BEFORE.
  • 00:46:56.040 --> 00:46:57.110
  • ENJOY BETTER CONVERSATIONS,
  • 00:46:57.110 --> 00:46:59.050
  • BETTER INTIMACY, AND BETTER
  • 00:46:59.050 --> 00:47:01.050
  • PASSION, STARTING TODAY.
  • 00:47:01.120 --> 00:47:04.120
  • IT ALL BEGINS WHEN YOU TAKE THE
  • 00:47:04.120 --> 00:47:05.060
  • BETTER LOVE ASSESSMENT.
  • 00:47:05.060 --> 00:47:06.150
  • WITH YOU BY MY SIDE,
  • 00:47:06.150 --> 00:47:07.280
  • THERE'S NO PLACE
  • 00:47:07.280 --> 00:47:09.110
  • THAT WE CAN'T GO
  • 00:47:11.160 --> 00:47:14.160
  • THIS IS THE START OF SOMETHIG
  • 00:47:14.160 --> 00:47:17.150
  • BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:47:19.190 --> 00:47:22.190
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:47:22.190 --> 00:47:25.130
  • ALL THE INFORMATION ABOUT THE
  • 00:47:27.140 --> 00:47:28.050
  • BETTER LOVE ASSESSMENT IS ON THE
  • 00:47:28.050 --> 00:47:30.150
  • SCREEN.
  • 00:47:30.150 --> 00:47:32.000
  • WE'VE GOT A WHOLE KIND OF THING
  • 00:47:32.000 --> 00:47:33.220
  • SET UP FOR YOU.
  • 00:47:33.220 --> 00:47:36.150
  • ALL THE INFORMATION ON THE
  • 00:47:36.150 --> 00:47:37.190
  • SCREEN, GO TO IT RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:47:37.190 --> 00:47:38.260
  • WE'VE GOT A DISCOUNT BUILT IN
  • 00:47:38.260 --> 00:47:41.190
  • THAT IS FOR YOU RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:47:44.080 --> 00:47:45.190
  • DO IT.
  • 00:47:45.190 --> 00:47:46.100
  • GET THIS DONE.
  • 00:47:46.100 --> 00:47:49.000
  • - LAURIE: THIS BOOK IS AMAZING.
  • 00:47:49.000 --> 00:47:49.250
  • - MATT: YEAH, AND, BY THE WAY,
  • 00:47:49.250 --> 00:47:51.210
  • "LOVE LIKE THAT," I'VE BEEN
  • 00:47:51.210 --> 00:47:53.040
  • READING THIS BOOK OVER JUST THE
  • 00:47:53.040 --> 00:47:54.270
  • LAST FEW DAYS, AND, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:47:54.270 --> 00:47:56.080
  • NOT ONLY IS DR. LES A NUMBER ONE
  • 00:47:56.110 --> 00:47:59.110
  • "NEW YORK TIMES" BEST-SELLING
  • 00:47:59.130 --> 00:48:02.150
  • AUTHOR, BUT THESE "5
  • 00:48:02.150 --> 00:48:04.140
  • RELATIONSHIP SECRETS FROM
  • 00:48:04.140 --> 00:48:05.140
  • JESUS," "LOVE LIKE THAT," ISN'T
  • 00:48:05.140 --> 00:48:06.200
  • ABOUT JUST YOUR SPOUSE.
  • 00:48:08.090 --> 00:48:11.090
  • IT'S ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS WITH
  • 00:48:11.090 --> 00:48:12.000
  • ANYBODY IN GENERAL.
  • 00:48:12.020 --> 00:48:15.020
  • THIS IS AN AMAZING BOOK.
  • 00:48:15.020 --> 00:48:17.070
  • IN FACT, YOU EXPLAIN A COUPLE OF
  • 00:48:17.070 --> 00:48:19.190
  • THE PARABLES THAT JESUS TOLD IN
  • 00:48:20.150 --> 00:48:23.150
  • CONTEXT AND ALL THAT.
  • 00:48:23.150 --> 00:48:25.040
  • THAT WAS JUST SO BEAUTIFUL, LES.
  • 00:48:25.040 --> 00:48:25.290
  • I MEAN, HONESTLY, THIS IS ONE OF
  • 00:48:25.290 --> 00:48:26.270
  • THE BEST BOOKS I HAVE EVER READ.
  • 00:48:27.030 --> 00:48:30.030
  • - LES: WHOA, WHOA, WHOA, SAY
  • 00:48:30.030 --> 00:48:30.240
  • THAT AGAIN?
  • 00:48:30.240 --> 00:48:31.060
  • - MATT: OKAY, LISTEN--
  • 00:48:31.060 --> 00:48:32.010
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:48:32.010 --> 00:48:32.140
  • I SAID IT.
  • 00:48:32.140 --> 00:48:34.220
  • I SAID IT.
  • 00:48:34.220 --> 00:48:35.080
  • - LAURIE: AND I HOPE HE'S
  • 00:48:35.080 --> 00:48:36.040
  • GETTIN' SOMETHIN' OUT OF IT.
  • 00:48:36.040 --> 00:48:36.240
  • - MATT: I'VE SAID IT SEVERAL
  • 00:48:36.240 --> 00:48:37.150
  • TIMES.
  • 00:48:37.150 --> 00:48:38.230
  • WE DON'T EVEN HAVE THIS BOOK FOR
  • 00:48:38.230 --> 00:48:40.170
  • OFFER OR ANYTHING, BUT IT'S
  • 00:48:40.170 --> 00:48:42.070
  • JUST--
  • 00:48:42.070 --> 00:48:43.000
  • - LAURIE: NO, IT'S AMAZING.
  • 00:48:43.000 --> 00:48:43.200
  • - MATT: GET THIS BOOK.
  • 00:48:43.200 --> 00:48:44.110
  • IT'S ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS I'VE
  • 00:48:44.110 --> 00:48:45.090
  • EVER READ, SERIOUSLY.
  • 00:48:45.090 --> 00:48:47.280
  • - LES: THEY CAN FIND IT AT OUR
  • 00:48:47.280 --> 00:48:48.200
  • - MATT: YEAH, ON THE WEBSITE OR
  • 00:48:50.270 --> 00:48:52.240
  • GO TO AMAZON.
  • 00:48:52.240 --> 00:48:53.100
  • - LES: CAN I TELL YOU SOMETHING
  • 00:48:53.100 --> 00:48:54.020
  • REAL QUICK ABOUT THAT?
  • 00:48:54.020 --> 00:48:54.200
  • THAT IS THE RESULT OF A PERSONAL
  • 00:48:54.200 --> 00:48:55.120
  • QUEST THAT I HAVE HAD FOR YEARS
  • 00:48:55.120 --> 00:48:57.020
  • TO UNDERSTAND LOVE AT THE
  • 00:48:57.020 --> 00:48:58.100
  • HIGHEST LEVEL, LIKE YOU SAID,
  • 00:48:58.100 --> 00:49:00.050
  • NOT JUST IN A MARRIAGE
  • 00:49:00.050 --> 00:49:01.090
  • RELATIONSHIP, BUT HOW DO YOU
  • 00:49:01.090 --> 00:49:02.170
  • AND I REMEMBERED, SPECIFICALLY,
  • 00:49:04.240 --> 00:49:06.110
  • I WAS ON AN AIRPLANE, AND I WAS
  • 00:49:06.110 --> 00:49:07.100
  • READING EPHESIANS, AND I CAME TO
  • 00:49:07.100 --> 00:49:08.130
  • THAT PASSAGE IN EPHESIANS
  • 00:49:08.130 --> 00:49:09.260
  • CHAPTER 5, WHERE PAUL IS TALKING
  • 00:49:09.280 --> 00:49:12.280
  • ABOUT "THIS IS HOW JESUS LOVES."
  • 00:49:12.280 --> 00:49:14.130
  • AND THEN AT THE END OF THIS
  • 00:49:14.130 --> 00:49:15.230
  • PARAGRAPH WHERE HE DESCRIBES HOW
  • 00:49:15.230 --> 00:49:16.240
  • JESUS LOVES, THOSE THREE WORDS,
  • 00:49:16.240 --> 00:49:17.160
  • "LOVE LIKE THAT."
  • 00:49:17.160 --> 00:49:19.210
  • AND I REMEMBER PUTTING
  • 00:49:19.210 --> 00:49:21.030
  • MY BIBLE DOWN AND JUST
  • 00:49:21.030 --> 00:49:22.160
  • GOING, "ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
  • 00:49:22.160 --> 00:49:24.190
  • HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO DO THAT?
  • 00:49:24.190 --> 00:49:25.100
  • LIKE, IS THAT EVEN REALISTIC?
  • 00:49:25.100 --> 00:49:26.100
  • HOW CAN I POSSIBLY--" WELL, OF
  • 00:49:26.100 --> 00:49:28.000
  • COURSE, IT'S WHAT THE HOLY
  • 00:49:28.000 --> 00:49:30.030
  • SPIRIT HELPS US DO.
  • 00:49:30.030 --> 00:49:31.140
  • IT'S DOABLE, BUT I WANTED TO
  • 00:49:31.140 --> 00:49:32.260
  • KNOW FROM, REALLY, A
  • 00:49:32.260 --> 00:49:34.180
  • PRACTITIONER'S PERSPECTIVE, A
  • 00:49:34.180 --> 00:49:36.050
  • PSYCHOLOGIST'S PERSPECTIVE, HOW
  • 00:49:36.050 --> 00:49:37.180
  • DO YOU LOVE LIKE JESUS?
  • 00:49:37.180 --> 00:49:39.030
  • AND SO I STUDIED THE PARABLES,
  • 00:49:39.030 --> 00:49:41.030
  • JESUS' TEACHING, AS WELL AS
  • 00:49:41.030 --> 00:49:42.240
  • SALIENT LIFE EXAMPLES THAT, YOU
  • 00:49:42.240 --> 00:49:45.070
  • KNOW, WE KNOW FROM THE GOSPELS,
  • 00:49:45.070 --> 00:49:46.260
  • AND WHERE THOSE KIND OF
  • 00:49:46.260 --> 00:49:49.050
  • CRISSCROSS, I FOUND FIVE THINGS,
  • 00:49:49.050 --> 00:49:51.180
  • PRACTICAL THINGS, THAT YOU CAN
  • 00:49:51.180 --> 00:49:53.050
  • DO TO LOVE LIKE JESUS, AND SO
  • 00:49:53.050 --> 00:49:54.280
  • THAT'S REALLY WHAT THAT BOOK IS
  • 00:49:54.280 --> 00:49:55.220
  • ABOUT.
  • 00:49:55.220 --> 00:49:56.100
  • - LAURIE: YEAH, I LOVE IT.
  • 00:49:56.100 --> 00:49:57.000
  • "MINDFUL, APPROACHABLE,
  • 00:49:57.000 --> 00:49:58.000
  • GRACEFUL, BOLD, AND
  • 00:49:58.000 --> 00:49:59.160
  • SELF-GIVING."
  • 00:49:59.160 --> 00:50:01.090
  • SO BEAUTIFUL.
  • 00:50:01.090 --> 00:50:01.220
  • - MATT: THE SELF-GIVING CHAPTER
  • 00:50:01.220 --> 00:50:03.230
  • THAT I WAS FLIPPING TO, THE
  • 00:50:04.120 --> 00:50:07.120
  • SELF-GIVING, YOU START THAT
  • 00:50:07.120 --> 00:50:08.210
  • CHAPTER BY SAYING, "THIS IS THE
  • 00:50:08.210 --> 00:50:10.110
  • ONE THAT I DIDN'T WANNA WRITE."
  • 00:50:12.280 --> 00:50:15.280
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:50:15.280 --> 00:50:16.130
  • - LES: YEAH, I KEPT PUTTING IT
  • 00:50:16.130 --> 00:50:17.050
  • OFF.
  • 00:50:17.050 --> 00:50:17.130
  • - MATT: "I KEPT PUTTING IT OFF.
  • 00:50:17.130 --> 00:50:18.050
  • I KEPT DOING ALL THAT."
  • 00:50:18.050 --> 00:50:18.230
  • AND, SERIOUSLY,
  • 00:50:18.230 --> 00:50:19.190
  • IT'S ONE OF THE MOST
  • 00:50:19.190 --> 00:50:20.270
  • AMAZING BOOKS I'VE EVER READ,
  • 00:50:20.270 --> 00:50:22.090
  • AND I, YOU KNOW--
  • 00:50:23.200 --> 00:50:26.200
  • - LAURIE: YEAH, IT'S TRUE.
  • 00:50:26.200 --> 00:50:27.110
  • - MATT: LOOK, GET IT, OKAY.
  • 00:50:27.110 --> 00:50:28.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:50:28.020 --> 00:50:28.140
  • - LES: THANK YOU.
  • 00:50:28.140 --> 00:50:29.010
  • - MATT: OKAY, WE GOT A COUPLE
  • 00:50:29.010 --> 00:50:29.220
  • OF MINUTES LEFT.
  • 00:50:29.220 --> 00:50:30.080
  • WHAT ELSE DID YOU LEARN THAT
  • 00:50:30.080 --> 00:50:31.100
  • WILL FIX LAURIE?
  • 00:50:32.070 --> 00:50:35.070
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:50:37.070 --> 00:50:40.070
  • - LES: NOT A THING.
  • 00:50:40.070 --> 00:50:40.250
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:50:40.250 --> 00:50:41.240
  • - LAURIE: HOPELESS.
  • 00:50:42.150 --> 00:50:45.150
  • - LES: BUT HERE'S SOMETHING
  • 00:50:45.150 --> 00:50:46.070
  • INTERESTING.
  • 00:50:46.070 --> 00:50:47.060
  • ONE OF THE PAGES IN THE BETTER
  • 00:50:47.060 --> 00:50:48.130
  • LOVE ASSESSMENT IS DEVOTED TO
  • 00:50:48.130 --> 00:50:49.210
  • TIME, AND TIME IS THE SECOND
  • 00:50:49.210 --> 00:50:52.040
  • BIGGEST COMPLAINT THAT COUPLES
  • 00:50:52.040 --> 00:50:54.110
  • HAVE IN A RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:50:54.110 --> 00:50:56.150
  • THE FIRST IS COMMUNICATION-- WE
  • 00:50:56.150 --> 00:50:57.070
  • JUST DON'T TALK THE WAY WE WANT
  • 00:50:57.070 --> 00:50:58.050
  • TO-- AND THE SECOND IS TIME.
  • 00:50:58.050 --> 00:50:59.060
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, IT'S ALL ABOUT,
  • 00:50:59.060 --> 00:51:00.120
  • YOU KNOW, "I FEEL LIKE WE JUST
  • 00:51:00.120 --> 00:51:01.140
  • DON'T GET ENOUGH TIME TOGETHER,"
  • 00:51:01.140 --> 00:51:03.010
  • AND SO WE REALLY WANTED TO
  • 00:51:03.010 --> 00:51:04.130
  • HELP-- WANTED TO UNDERSTAND IT
  • 00:51:04.130 --> 00:51:06.100
  • OURSELVES 'CAUSE, HONESTLY,
  • 00:51:06.100 --> 00:51:08.040
  • THAT'S A BIG ISSUE FOR US-- AND
  • 00:51:08.040 --> 00:51:09.060
  • HELP COUPLES UNDERSTAND HOW CAN
  • 00:51:09.060 --> 00:51:10.240
  • THEY RECAPTURE, YOU KNOW, THE
  • 00:51:10.240 --> 00:51:13.030
  • MOMENTS THEY'RE MISSING OUT ON
  • 00:51:13.030 --> 00:51:13.290
  • TOGETHER.
  • 00:51:13.290 --> 00:51:14.230
  • A HUGE PART OF THAT IS
  • 00:51:14.230 --> 00:51:16.090
  • UNDERSTANDING HOW WE'RE
  • 00:51:16.090 --> 00:51:17.290
  • HARDWIRED TO EXPERIENCE TIME
  • 00:51:17.290 --> 00:51:19.230
  • BECAUSE WE ALL HAVE A DIFFERENT
  • 00:51:19.230 --> 00:51:21.170
  • STYLE OF EVEN RELATING TO TIME.
  • 00:51:21.170 --> 00:51:23.180
  • - LES: YEAH, AND GOD DESIGNED
  • 00:51:23.180 --> 00:51:25.170
  • EACH OF US UNIQUELY, JUST LIKE
  • 00:51:25.170 --> 00:51:27.100
  • HE DID FOR COMMUNICATION AND
  • 00:51:27.100 --> 00:51:28.090
  • CONFLICT, ALSO TO EXPERIENCE
  • 00:51:28.090 --> 00:51:29.110
  • TIME.
  • 00:51:29.110 --> 00:51:30.080
  • SO ARE YOU PRESENT-ORIENTED OR
  • 00:51:30.080 --> 00:51:32.000
  • FUTURE-ORIENTED?
  • 00:51:32.000 --> 00:51:33.150
  • NOW, I KNOW FROM THIS, YOU'RE
  • 00:51:33.150 --> 00:51:34.190
  • ALL ABOUT THE FUTURE, JUST LIKE
  • 00:51:34.190 --> 00:51:36.100
  • I AM.
  • 00:51:36.100 --> 00:51:37.050
  • LESLIE SAYS I'M A VISITOR FROM
  • 00:51:37.050 --> 00:51:38.140
  • THE FUTURE.
  • 00:51:38.140 --> 00:51:39.030
  • I LOVE THE FUTURE.
  • 00:51:39.030 --> 00:51:40.050
  • I LOVE PLANNING ALL THAT.
  • 00:51:40.050 --> 00:51:41.030
  • - LESLIE: YOU TWO AREN'T EVEN
  • 00:51:41.030 --> 00:51:42.270
  • HERE RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:51:42.270 --> 00:51:43.130
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:51:43.130 --> 00:51:43.260
  • - MATT: THAT'S INTERESTING THAT
  • 00:51:43.260 --> 00:51:45.150
  • I WAS SOMEWHERE ELSE.
  • 00:51:45.150 --> 00:51:47.280
  • GO AHEAD.
  • 00:51:47.280 --> 00:51:48.140
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:51:48.140 --> 00:51:49.120
  • - LES: WHERE AM I?
  • 00:51:49.120 --> 00:51:51.170
  • AND, BY THE WAY, BOTH OF YOU ARE
  • 00:51:51.170 --> 00:51:53.070
  • PRESENT-ORIENTED.
  • 00:51:53.070 --> 00:51:54.070
  • - LESLIE & LAURIE: YEAH, YES.
  • 00:51:54.070 --> 00:51:56.220
  • - LESLIE: I'M ALL ABOUT THE
  • 00:51:56.220 --> 00:51:57.130
  • HERE AND NOW.
  • 00:51:57.130 --> 00:51:58.090
  • I GET ALL MY ENERGY FROM BEING
  • 00:51:58.090 --> 00:52:01.060
  • FULLY PRESENT.
  • 00:52:01.060 --> 00:52:01.200
  • I'M WITH WHO I'M WITH, AND
  • 00:52:01.200 --> 00:52:03.290
  • THAT'S ALL I'M THINKING ABOUT.
  • 00:52:03.290 --> 00:52:04.200
  • I'M NOT THINKING ABOUT TOMORROW
  • 00:52:04.200 --> 00:52:05.150
  • OR FIVE YEARS FROM NOW, AND,
  • 00:52:05.150 --> 00:52:06.050
  • YEAH.
  • 00:52:06.050 --> 00:52:07.210
  • - LES: AND YOU'RE NOT SCHEDULED
  • 00:52:07.210 --> 00:52:08.130
  • EITHER.
  • 00:52:08.130 --> 00:52:08.230
  • I'M SCHEDULED, AND YOU'RE
  • 00:52:08.230 --> 00:52:09.260
  • UNSCHEDULED.
  • 00:52:09.260 --> 00:52:11.080
  • AND YOU'RE SCHEDULED.
  • 00:52:11.080 --> 00:52:12.170
  • YOU'RE WHAT WE CALL A
  • 00:52:12.170 --> 00:52:15.140
  • "PROCESSOR," 41%.
  • 00:52:15.140 --> 00:52:16.240
  • THERE'S THIS LITTLE GRID.
  • 00:52:16.240 --> 00:52:17.190
  • GIVES YOU SOME PARAGRAPHS DOWN
  • 00:52:17.190 --> 00:52:18.100
  • HERE, BUT YOU'RE 41% A
  • 00:52:18.100 --> 00:52:20.140
  • PROCESSOR.
  • 00:52:20.140 --> 00:52:21.180
  • AND, BY THE WAY, THERE'S NOT A
  • 00:52:21.180 --> 00:52:23.000
  • BAD ONE OR A GOOD ONE.
  • 00:52:23.000 --> 00:52:24.110
  • THEY'RE ALL JUST UNIQUE.
  • 00:52:24.110 --> 00:52:25.240
  • THAT'S HOW GOD MADE US, RIGHT?
  • 00:52:25.240 --> 00:52:26.150
  • SO LESLIE IS AN "ACCOMMODATOR."
  • 00:52:26.150 --> 00:52:29.090
  • I'M A "PLANNER."
  • 00:52:29.090 --> 00:52:29.290
  • YOU'RE A "DREAMER."
  • 00:52:29.290 --> 00:52:32.080
  • - LESLIE: AND YOU'RE A
  • 00:52:32.080 --> 00:52:32.260
  • "PROCESSOR."
  • 00:52:32.260 --> 00:52:33.080
  • WE GOT IT ALL COVERED.
  • 00:52:33.080 --> 00:52:34.000
  • - LAURIE: YEAH, WE GOT IT
  • 00:52:34.000 --> 00:52:34.190
  • COVERED, POWER TEAM.
  • 00:52:34.190 --> 00:52:35.150
  • - LES: BUT I'LL GIVE YOU A
  • 00:52:35.150 --> 00:52:36.050
  • QUICK EXAMPLE.
  • 00:52:36.050 --> 00:52:36.270
  • LESLIE SAID, AS A PERSON THAT IS
  • 00:52:36.270 --> 00:52:39.160
  • SUBJECTIVE WITH HER TIME, NOT
  • 00:52:39.160 --> 00:52:40.270
  • SCHEDULED, SHE SAID JUST A
  • 00:52:40.270 --> 00:52:42.200
  • LITTLE WHILE AGO-- DO YOU
  • 00:52:42.200 --> 00:52:43.170
  • REMEMBER THIS?
  • 00:52:43.170 --> 00:52:44.020
  • -- SHE SAID, "LET'S GO TO
  • 00:52:44.020 --> 00:52:44.210
  • STARBUCKS.
  • 00:52:44.210 --> 00:52:45.080
  • I'LL GO GET A, YOU KNOW, CUP OF
  • 00:52:45.080 --> 00:52:46.040
  • COFFEE."
  • 00:52:46.040 --> 00:52:47.000
  • AND, BY THE WAY,
  • 00:52:47.000 --> 00:52:47.290
  • I DON'T DRINK COFFEE.
  • 00:52:47.290 --> 00:52:49.170
  • SHE DRINKS ENOUGH FOR BOTH OF
  • 00:52:49.170 --> 00:52:50.080
  • US, BUT I WILL GO WITH HER TO
  • 00:52:50.080 --> 00:52:51.060
  • STARBUCKS AND GET SOMETHIN' ELSE
  • 00:52:51.060 --> 00:52:52.020
  • AND--
  • 00:52:52.020 --> 00:52:54.100
  • - LESLIE: STEAMED MILK.
  • 00:52:54.100 --> 00:52:54.290
  • - LES: YES, THAT'S WHAT I GET.
  • 00:52:54.290 --> 00:52:55.220
  • AND SO I SAID, "WE DON'T HAVE
  • 00:52:55.220 --> 00:52:56.270
  • TIME TO GO DOWN THERE," AND SHE
  • 00:52:56.270 --> 00:52:58.080
  • SAID, "WHAT DO YOU MEAN?
  • 00:52:58.080 --> 00:52:59.100
  • IT'S LIKE FIVE MINUTES FROM
  • 00:52:59.100 --> 00:53:00.060
  • HERE."
  • 00:53:00.060 --> 00:53:00.240
  • I SAID, "NO, IT'S LIKE
  • 00:53:00.240 --> 00:53:01.240
  • 25 MINUTES FROM HERE."
  • 00:53:01.240 --> 00:53:03.000
  • AND SHE'LL SAY,
  • 00:53:03.000 --> 00:53:04.030
  • "WELL, IT FEELS LIKE
  • 00:53:04.030 --> 00:53:05.000
  • FIVE MINUTES."
  • 00:53:05.000 --> 00:53:05.130
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:53:05.130 --> 00:53:07.270
  • I DON'T CARE WHAT IT FEELS LIKE.
  • 00:53:07.270 --> 00:53:08.190
  • IT'S 25 MINUTES, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:53:08.190 --> 00:53:09.140
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:53:09.140 --> 00:53:10.120
  • AND SO BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT-- IF
  • 00:53:10.120 --> 00:53:12.180
  • YOU'RE SUBJECTIVE WITH YOUR
  • 00:53:12.180 --> 00:53:13.250
  • TIME-- AND SHE'S A BUSY WOMAN.
  • 00:53:13.250 --> 00:53:15.220
  • HER PLATE IS FULL, BUT IF YOU
  • 00:53:15.220 --> 00:53:17.110
  • ASK HER FOR, "HEY, CAN WE MEET
  • 00:53:17.110 --> 00:53:19.100
  • NEXT THURSDAY AT 3 O'CLOCK?"
  • 00:53:19.100 --> 00:53:20.220
  • SHE DOESN'T LOOK AT A CALENDAR.
  • 00:53:20.220 --> 00:53:22.040
  • SHE KIND OF LOOKS UP INTO THE
  • 00:53:22.040 --> 00:53:24.000
  • HEAVENS FOR A MINUTE AND GOES,
  • 00:53:24.000 --> 00:53:24.210
  • "YEAH, THAT FEELS GOOD."
  • 00:53:24.210 --> 00:53:26.260
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:53:26.260 --> 00:53:27.100
  • "OKAY, WE CAN DO THAT," RIGHT?
  • 00:53:27.100 --> 00:53:28.170
  • YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?
  • 00:53:28.170 --> 00:53:29.090
  • SHE'S SUBJECTIVE.
  • 00:53:29.090 --> 00:53:29.250
  • - LESLIE: WELL, IT'S CALLED
  • 00:53:29.250 --> 00:53:30.230
  • "ACCOMMODATOR" BECAUSE I'M ALL
  • 00:53:30.230 --> 00:53:31.280
  • ABOUT THE PRESENT, AND I'M
  • 00:53:31.280 --> 00:53:33.060
  • SUBJECTIVE, UNSCHEDULED, BECAUSE
  • 00:53:33.060 --> 00:53:35.140
  • I WANNA BE ABLE TO MAKE SPACE
  • 00:53:35.140 --> 00:53:37.010
  • RIGHT NOW FOR WHATEVER IS FUN IN
  • 00:53:37.010 --> 00:53:38.150
  • THE MOMENT.
  • 00:53:38.150 --> 00:53:39.190
  • I DON'T WANNA BE HEMMED IN BY A
  • 00:53:39.190 --> 00:53:40.220
  • SCHEDULED.
  • 00:53:40.220 --> 00:53:42.250
  • - LES: THIS IS A GOOD EXAMPLE
  • 00:53:42.250 --> 00:53:43.170
  • OF AWARENESS.
  • 00:53:43.170 --> 00:53:44.030
  • WE STARTED AT THE TOP OF THE
  • 00:53:44.030 --> 00:53:44.250
  • SHOW, TALKING ABOUT AWARENESS.
  • 00:53:44.250 --> 00:53:45.230
  • - MATT: KNOWING WHAT SETS OFF
  • 00:53:45.230 --> 00:53:47.250
  • SOMEBODY OR THE WAY THEY ARE
  • 00:53:47.250 --> 00:53:50.150
  • NATURALLY AND ALL OF THAT COMES
  • 00:53:50.150 --> 00:53:53.090
  • TO LIGHT.
  • 00:53:53.090 --> 00:53:53.260
  • - LES: AND SO NOW, ONCE YOU
  • 00:53:53.260 --> 00:53:54.170
  • BECOME AWARE OF YOUR TIME-STYLES
  • 00:53:54.170 --> 00:53:55.120
  • TOGETHER THROUGH THIS BETTER
  • 00:53:55.120 --> 00:53:56.130
  • LOVE ASSESSMENT, YOU NOW CAN
  • 00:53:56.130 --> 00:53:58.270
  • LEVERAGE THAT SO THAT YOU'RE
  • 00:53:58.270 --> 00:54:00.190
  • RECLAIMING THE MOMENTS YOU'VE
  • 00:54:00.190 --> 00:54:01.290
  • BEEN MISSING TOGETHER AS A
  • 00:54:01.290 --> 00:54:03.090
  • COUPLE.
  • 00:54:03.090 --> 00:54:03.280
  • - LESLIE: IT'S SO POWERFUL.
  • 00:54:03.280 --> 00:54:04.260
  • - MATT: I LEARNED AT ONE POINT
  • 00:54:04.260 --> 00:54:06.130
  • THAT, IF WE'RE IN A BIG GROUP,
  • 00:54:06.130 --> 00:54:09.060
  • LAURIE MIGHT BE FOUND, KIND OF,
  • 00:54:09.060 --> 00:54:11.200
  • OFF IN A SMALLER GROUP-- SO THAT
  • 00:54:12.020 --> 00:54:15.020
  • I'M MORE PEOPLE-ENERGIZED.
  • 00:54:15.020 --> 00:54:16.240
  • I LIKE BEING IN AND AMONGST, BUT
  • 00:54:16.240 --> 00:54:18.270
  • IT IS-- I'M, IN ESSENCE,
  • 00:54:18.270 --> 00:54:21.160
  • PEOPLE-ENERGIZED.
  • 00:54:21.160 --> 00:54:22.050
  • SHE'S MORE PEOPLE-DRAINED, OR
  • 00:54:22.050 --> 00:54:24.090
  • THAT DRAINS HER ENERGY, AND SO
  • 00:54:24.090 --> 00:54:26.070
  • BUT THEN WHAT I FOUND OUT
  • 00:54:29.100 --> 00:54:30.150
  • THROUGH THIS ASSESSMENT IS THAT
  • 00:54:31.280 --> 00:54:34.280
  • SHE WOULD LIKELY BE ABLE TO
  • 00:54:34.280 --> 00:54:36.180
  • CAPTURE A MORE DEPTH OF A
  • 00:54:36.180 --> 00:54:39.090
  • RELATIONSHIP IN A SMALLER GROUP,
  • 00:54:39.090 --> 00:54:41.220
  • AND THAT'S WHAT SHE'S MORE
  • 00:54:41.220 --> 00:54:42.200
  • ABOUT.
  • 00:54:42.200 --> 00:54:44.060
  • - LES: AND YOUR AWARENESS OF
  • 00:54:44.060 --> 00:54:45.070
  • THAT GIVES YOU AN ON-RAMP FOR
  • 00:54:45.070 --> 00:54:47.040
  • BETTER EMPATHY FOR LAURIE, AND
  • 00:54:47.040 --> 00:54:48.060
  • THAT'S WHAT THIS--
  • 00:54:48.060 --> 00:54:50.160
  • - MATT: TO AT LEAST UNDERSTAND
  • 00:54:50.160 --> 00:54:51.080
  • THAT SHE'S NOT DISINTERESTED,
  • 00:54:51.080 --> 00:54:53.010
  • SO THAT SHE DOESN'T GET THE
  • 00:54:53.010 --> 00:54:55.000
  • SARCASTIC CLAP ON THE
  • 00:54:55.000 --> 00:54:55.170
  • WAY OUT, YOU KNOW.
  • 00:54:55.170 --> 00:54:57.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:54:57.050 --> 00:54:58.050
  • - LESLIE: SHE'S ACTUALLY BEING
  • 00:54:58.050 --> 00:54:58.270
  • DRAWN TO WHAT FITS WHO GOD
  • 00:54:58.270 --> 00:55:00.170
  • CREATED HER TO BE AND USING
  • 00:55:00.170 --> 00:55:02.000
  • THAT.
  • 00:55:02.000 --> 00:55:03.220
  • - LES: THAT'S A PRIME EXAMPLE
  • 00:55:03.220 --> 00:55:04.250
  • OF HOW AWARENESS LEADS TO DEEPER
  • 00:55:04.250 --> 00:55:05.270
  • EMPATHY, AND THAT'S WHAT I WISH
  • 00:55:05.270 --> 00:55:07.240
  • WE COULD GIVE TO EVERYBODY
  • 00:55:07.240 --> 00:55:09.020
  • THAT'S TUNED IN RIGHT NOW IS
  • 00:55:09.020 --> 00:55:11.060
  • THAT GIFT OF BETTER LOVE TO
  • 00:55:11.060 --> 00:55:12.080
  • EXPERIENCE THAT IN THEIR
  • 00:55:12.080 --> 00:55:13.070
  • WHETHER THEY'RE MOVING FROM BAD
  • 00:55:16.280 --> 00:55:17.200
  • TO BETTER, OR GOOD TO GREAT.
  • 00:55:17.200 --> 00:55:18.100
  • DO YOU KNOW WHAT A "BHAG" IS?
  • 00:55:18.100 --> 00:55:19.110
  • I'M SURE YOU DO: "A BIG HAIRY
  • 00:55:19.110 --> 00:55:20.190
  • AUDACIOUS GOAL," RIGHT?
  • 00:55:20.190 --> 00:55:23.110
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:55:23.110 --> 00:55:23.260
  • HERE'S OURS: WE WANNA SEE THE
  • 00:55:23.260 --> 00:55:25.090
  • DIVORCE RATE REDUCED IN LOCAL
  • 00:55:25.090 --> 00:55:27.190
  • CHURCHES BY A THIRD IN OUR
  • 00:55:27.190 --> 00:55:29.100
  • LIFETIME.
  • 00:55:29.100 --> 00:55:31.290
  • - MATT: BEAUTIFUL.
  • 00:55:31.290 --> 00:55:32.150
  • - LES: NOW, CAN YOU IMAGINE
  • 00:55:32.150 --> 00:55:33.110
  • WHAT WOULD HAPPEN?
  • 00:55:33.110 --> 00:55:33.260
  • DO YOU KNOW THAT, FOR EVERY
  • 00:55:33.260 --> 00:55:34.160
  • SINGLE PERCENTAGE POINT THAT WE
  • 00:55:34.160 --> 00:55:35.190
  • DROP THE DIVORCE RATE, THE LIVES
  • 00:55:35.190 --> 00:55:37.020
  • OF MORE THAN A MILLION CHILDREN
  • 00:55:37.020 --> 00:55:38.070
  • ARE POSITIVELY IMPACTED?
  • 00:55:38.070 --> 00:55:40.010
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:55:40.010 --> 00:55:41.120
  • - MATT: OH, MY GOODNESS.
  • 00:55:41.120 --> 00:55:42.020
  • - LES: THINK ABOUT THAT, YEAH.
  • 00:55:42.020 --> 00:55:43.070
  • SO THINK ABOUT THE RIPPLE EFFECT
  • 00:55:44.090 --> 00:55:47.090
  • THAT WOULD HAVE IN THE CHURCH
  • 00:55:47.090 --> 00:55:49.150
  • 'CAUSE, RIGHT NOW, WE'RE NOT
  • 00:55:49.150 --> 00:55:50.200
  • DOIN' ANY BETTER THAN ANYBODY
  • 00:55:50.200 --> 00:55:51.260
  • ELSE, REALLY, OUT THERE, WHEN IT
  • 00:55:51.260 --> 00:55:53.020
  • COMES TO MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE,
  • 00:55:53.020 --> 00:55:54.080
  • AND SO, IF WE COULD DO THAT, IT
  • 00:55:54.080 --> 00:55:56.270
  • WOULD HAVE A RIPPLE EFFECT FOR
  • 00:55:56.270 --> 00:55:57.280
  • GENERATIONS.
  • 00:55:57.280 --> 00:55:58.280
  • I THINK IT WOULD BE ONE OF THE
  • 00:55:58.280 --> 00:56:00.050
  • GREATEST SOCIAL REVOLUTIONS THE
  • 00:56:00.050 --> 00:56:01.220
  • CHURCH HAS EVER SEEN, CERTAINLY,
  • 00:56:01.220 --> 00:56:03.130
  • IN MODERN TIMES, AND SO THAT'S
  • 00:56:03.130 --> 00:56:04.180
  • WHAT DRIVES US.
  • 00:56:04.180 --> 00:56:06.050
  • THAT'S OUR PASSION.
  • 00:56:06.050 --> 00:56:07.100
  • THAT'S WHY WE ARE OBSESSED WITH
  • 00:56:07.100 --> 00:56:08.200
  • BETTER LOVE.
  • 00:56:08.200 --> 00:56:09.120
  • - LAURIE: WE'RE IN WITH THAT.
  • 00:56:09.120 --> 00:56:10.280
  • - MATT: ABSOLUTELY.
  • 00:56:10.280 --> 00:56:11.240
  • JUST DO ME A FAVOR.
  • 00:56:11.240 --> 00:56:13.040
  • BOTH YOU GUYS, WE GOT A MINUTE
  • 00:56:13.040 --> 00:56:15.070
  • OR SO.
  • 00:56:15.070 --> 00:56:15.240
  • JUST, THERE'S THE CAMERA RIGHT
  • 00:56:15.240 --> 00:56:17.040
  • OVER THERE, WHICHEVER ONE THEY
  • 00:56:17.040 --> 00:56:18.040
  • POINT.
  • 00:56:18.040 --> 00:56:18.210
  • JUST, TELL THE PEOPLE TO GET THE
  • 00:56:18.210 --> 00:56:19.270
  • ASSESSMENT, AND WHY.
  • 00:56:19.270 --> 00:56:21.230
  • I MEAN, JUST GET IT.
  • 00:56:21.230 --> 00:56:23.090
  • - LES: YEAH, SO IF YOU'RE
  • 00:56:23.090 --> 00:56:24.200
  • THINKIN', "WELL, I DON'T KNOW IF
  • 00:56:24.200 --> 00:56:26.080
  • I WANNA INVEST IN THIS," LET ME
  • 00:56:26.080 --> 00:56:27.190
  • JUST TELL YOU SOMETHIN'.
  • 00:56:27.190 --> 00:56:28.070
  • THE COST IS PRETTY MINISCULE.
  • 00:56:30.200 --> 00:56:31.110
  • IT'S BASICALLY THE PRICE OF A
  • 00:56:31.110 --> 00:56:32.080
  • MEAL, AND IT'S AN INVESTMENT OF
  • 00:56:32.080 --> 00:56:34.190
  • MAYBE 15 MINUTES OF YOUR TIME.
  • 00:56:34.190 --> 00:56:36.140
  • HOW MUCH IS THAT INVESTMENT
  • 00:56:36.150 --> 00:56:39.150
  • WORTH?
  • 00:56:39.150 --> 00:56:41.000
  • A LIFETIME OF BETTER LOVE.
  • 00:56:41.000 --> 00:56:43.210
  • WHY WOULDN'T YOU WANNA DO THAT?
  • 00:56:43.210 --> 00:56:44.210
  • SO THAT'S WHY WE'RE PASSIONATE
  • 00:56:44.210 --> 00:56:46.010
  • ABOUT THIS.
  • 00:56:46.010 --> 00:56:46.280
  • WE WANT YOU TO ENJOY LOVE AT THE
  • 00:56:46.280 --> 00:56:48.290
  • HIGHEST LEVELS.
  • 00:56:48.290 --> 00:56:50.250
  • WE WANT YOU TO ENJOY THAT KIND
  • 00:56:50.250 --> 00:56:52.070
  • OF INTIMACY AND CONNECTION
  • 00:56:52.070 --> 00:56:54.150
  • BECAUSE, LIKE I SAID EARLIER,
  • 00:56:54.150 --> 00:56:55.290
  • LIFE DOESN'T GET MUCH SWEETER
  • 00:56:55.290 --> 00:56:57.180
  • WHEN YOU HAVE THAT WITH ANOTHER
  • 00:56:57.180 --> 00:56:58.130
  • PERSON.
  • 00:56:58.130 --> 00:56:58.270
  • - LESLIE: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:56:58.270 --> 00:56:59.210
  • - LAURIE: GOOD.
  • 00:56:59.210 --> 00:57:00.140
  • WHAT DO YOU SAY TO COUPLES THAT
  • 00:57:00.140 --> 00:57:01.220
  • ARE GETTING MARRIED?
  • 00:57:01.220 --> 00:57:03.020
  • "YOU SPEND SO MUCH ON YOUR
  • 00:57:06.060 --> 00:57:06.260
  • WEDDING, BUT YOU DON'T PUT THE
  • 00:57:06.260 --> 00:57:07.210
  • TIME AND ENERGY INTO IT BEFORE
  • 00:57:07.210 --> 00:57:08.120
  • YOU GET MARRIED."
  • 00:57:08.120 --> 00:57:10.030
  • - LES: YEAH, SO SAVING YOUR
  • 00:57:10.030 --> 00:57:11.000
  • MARRIAGE BEFORE IT STARTS,
  • 00:57:11.000 --> 00:57:11.200
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:57:11.200 --> 00:57:12.240
  • - LESLIE: YEAH, IT'S ALL ABOUT
  • 00:57:12.240 --> 00:57:13.160
  • THAT BECAUSE WE REALIZE THAT WE
  • 00:57:13.160 --> 00:57:14.080
  • WERE WORKING WITH SO MANY YOUNG
  • 00:57:14.080 --> 00:57:15.080
  • COUPLES WHO WERE PLANNING FOR
  • 00:57:15.080 --> 00:57:17.290
  • THE WEDDING DAY AND NOT PLANNING
  • 00:57:17.290 --> 00:57:20.130
  • FOR THE LIFELONG RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:57:20.130 --> 00:57:23.080
  • THAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT.
  • 00:57:23.080 --> 00:57:24.070
  • - LES: AND SO IT'S NOT JUST
  • 00:57:24.070 --> 00:57:25.000
  • ABOUT THE MATCH.
  • 00:57:25.000 --> 00:57:25.230
  • IT'S ABOUT THE SKILLS THAT YOU
  • 00:57:25.230 --> 00:57:26.200
  • CULTIVATE, AND WE CALL THEM
  • 00:57:26.200 --> 00:57:28.020
  • "HONEYMOON HABITS," THE THINGS
  • 00:57:28.020 --> 00:57:29.110
  • YOU DO IN THE FIRST YEAR OF THAT
  • 00:57:29.110 --> 00:57:31.140
  • MARRIAGE TOGETHER, THEY'LL LAST
  • 00:57:31.140 --> 00:57:32.190
  • FOR DECADES, SO YOU WANNA-- YOU
  • 00:57:32.190 --> 00:57:34.110
  • KNOW, IF WE'RE EVER TALKING TO A
  • 00:57:34.110 --> 00:57:36.190
  • GROUP OF ENGAGED COUPLES OR
  • 00:57:36.190 --> 00:57:37.200
  • NEWLYWEDS, WE TELL 'EM, "CHOOSE
  • 00:57:37.200 --> 00:57:39.040
  • YOUR RUTS CAREFULLY 'CAUSE
  • 00:57:39.040 --> 00:57:40.220
  • YOU'RE GONNA BE IN 'EM FOR A
  • 00:57:40.220 --> 00:57:41.200
  • LONG TIME," RIGHT?
  • 00:57:41.200 --> 00:57:43.020
  • AND SO WE WANNA HELP THEM CARVE
  • 00:57:43.020 --> 00:57:43.240
  • GROOVES INTO THAT RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:57:43.240 --> 00:57:46.190
  • THAT ARE PRODUCTIVE AND POSITIVE
  • 00:57:46.190 --> 00:57:47.120
  • AND GOD-HONORING.
  • 00:57:48.050 --> 00:57:51.050
  • - LAURIE: BEAUTIFUL.
  • 00:57:51.050 --> 00:57:51.220
  • - LESLIE: TO PREVENT THE PAIN
  • 00:57:51.220 --> 00:57:52.140
  • AND MAXIMIZE THE JOY.
  • 00:57:52.140 --> 00:57:53.010
  • - MATT: I LOVE THAT BECAUSE,
  • 00:57:53.010 --> 00:57:53.270
  • YOU KNOW, AT SOME POINT, WHAT
  • 00:57:53.280 --> 00:57:56.280
  • WE'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT THIS
  • 00:57:56.280 --> 00:57:57.270
  • ENTIRE BROADCAST IS JUST WHAT
  • 00:57:57.270 --> 00:57:59.220
  • MAKES YOUR RELATIONSHIPS BETTER,
  • 00:58:00.190 --> 00:58:03.190
  • WHAT MAKES THE RELATIONSHIP WITH
  • 00:58:03.190 --> 00:58:05.180
  • YOUR SPOUSE OR WHAT MAKES YOUR
  • 00:58:05.180 --> 00:58:07.270
  • RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR KIDS OR
  • 00:58:07.270 --> 00:58:09.090
  • YOUR COWORKERS OR YOUR FAMILY
  • 00:58:09.090 --> 00:58:10.200
  • MEMBERS, OR ALL THAT KIND OF
  • 00:58:10.200 --> 00:58:11.250
  • STUFF-- THAT'S WHAT WE'RE
  • 00:58:11.250 --> 00:58:12.230
  • TALKIN' ABOUT.
  • 00:58:12.230 --> 00:58:13.140
  • ALL OF THESE ASSESSMENTS, ALL
  • 00:58:13.140 --> 00:58:14.280
  • THE INFORMATION ABOUT THEM IS ON
  • 00:58:14.280 --> 00:58:16.040
  • WE WANT YOU TO GET 'EM.
  • 00:58:18.230 --> 00:58:19.110
  • WE WANNA SEE THIS DIVORCE RATE--
  • 00:58:19.110 --> 00:58:20.030
  • IT STARTS WITH FIGURING OUT HOW
  • 00:58:20.070 --> 00:58:23.070
  • TO FIX YOUR GUYS' RELATIONSHIP--
  • 00:58:23.070 --> 00:58:25.000
  • MADGE, GERRY, JIM.
  • 00:58:25.160 --> 00:58:28.160
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:58:28.160 --> 00:58:29.180
  • GO GET THE ASSESSMENT TEST, AND
  • 00:58:32.240 --> 00:58:33.160
  • YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:58:33.160 --> 00:58:34.100
  • I JUST WANNA SAY THANK YOU TO
  • 00:58:34.100 --> 00:58:36.010
  • AND YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:58:39.270 --> 00:58:41.020
  • GET THE ASSESSMENT TEST.
  • 00:58:41.020 --> 00:58:42.060
  • ALL THE INFORMATION IS ON THE
  • 00:58:42.060 --> 00:58:42.270
  • SCREEN.
  • 00:58:42.270 --> 00:58:43.100
  • WE'LL SEE YA NEXT TIME.
  • 00:58:43.100 --> 00:58:44.020
  • - LAURIE: LOVE YOU.
  • 00:58:44.020 --> 00:58:44.290
  • - MATT: BYE-BYE.
  • 00:58:44.290 --> 00:58:46.010