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June 8, 2019
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Hour of Power with Bobby Schuller

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  • and viewers like you.
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  • Joyful, joyful, we adore You
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  • God of glory, Lord of love
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  • Hearts unfold like flow'rs before You
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  • Op'ning to the sun above
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  • Melt the clouds of sin and sadness
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  • Drive the dark of doubt away
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  • Giver of immortal gladness, Fill us with the light of day
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  • Amen, Amen
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  • Amen
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  • Bobby Schuller: This is the day the Lord has made.
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  • We will rejoice and be glad in it.
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  • Good morning.
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  • Hannah Schuller: And welcome, church family and visitors.
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  • Today, remember that God did not make a mistake
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  • when he made you exactly the way you are right now.
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  • You are called just as you are,
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  • and you are loved just as you are.
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  • And we love you too.
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  • Bobby: We do, and we're so glad you're here.
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  • It's so important that we believe that
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  • in our discipleship.
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  • It makes all the difference in the world.
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  • We're going to be talking about that later today,
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  • but let's begin with a word of prayer, shall we?
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  • Father, we thank you so, so much that you love us.
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  • A lot of us are coming here today or watching on television,
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  • beating ourselves up, feeling like we'll never
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  • beat this addiction, we'll never be happy,
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  • we're always going to be depressed or anxious,
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  • we're never going to do well in our relationships,
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  • and there's all these things going on in our minds,
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  • and so Father, I pray that you just--
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  • just like breaking--
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  • as the sun breaks through the clouds, Lord, that you break
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  • through that bad thinking and reveal to us, God,
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  • that we're loved, that we're worthy of love and belonging,
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  • that we're saved by grace, not by our works.
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  • Thank you, God, that we can celebrate today and enjoy
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  • your good company, your favor, your life, and your love for us,
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  • and we love you.
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  • It's in Jesus's name we pray, amen.
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  • Hannah: Amen, turn around and shake the hand of the person
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  • next to you and say, "God loves you and so do I."
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  • announcer: Do you feel stuck in a rut
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  • and ready for change?
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  • The solution for real transformation may be easier
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  • than you think.
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  • Today, with your generous gift of any size,
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  • you can request Pastor Bobby's new book,
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  • "Change your Thoughts, Change Your World,"
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  • plus the exclusive audio CD
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  • "Prayers & Promises for a Renewed Mind."
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  • In this special companion CD, you'll hear prayers
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  • in the Scriptures read by Bobby and Hannah.
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  • Call or go online today, and for your generous gift of any size,
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  • we'll send you Bobby's brand-new book
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  • plus the exclusive audio disk,
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  • "Prayers & Promises for a Renewed Mind,"
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  • designed to help you change your life
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  • by changing your thoughts.
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  • Request these encouraging resources today and learn that
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  • by changing your thoughts, you can change your world.
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  • Bobby: Changing how you think is critical
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  • to changing your life.
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  • I know this is easier said than done,
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  • but that's why I've written a book about it.
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  • It's a personal and practical approach to understanding
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  • biblical keys that will not only transform the way you think,
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  • but the way you live.
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  • Hannah: You may be seated.
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  • The words of Paul in Romans 8:38:
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  • "For I am convinced that neither death nor life,
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  • neither angels nor demons, neither the present
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  • nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth,
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  • nor anything else in all creation, will be able
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  • to separate us from the love of God
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  • that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
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  • Friend, God's love can never, ever be taken from you, amen.
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  • When I walk through deep waters
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  • I know that you will be with me
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  • When I'm standing in the fire
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  • I will not be overcome
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  • Through the valley of the shadow
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  • I will not fear
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  • I am not alone
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  • I am not alone
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  • You will go before me
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  • You will never leave me
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  • I am not alone
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  • I am not alone
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  • You will go before me
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  • You will never leave me
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  • In the midst of deep sorrow
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  • I see your light is breaking through
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  • The dark of night will not overtake me
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  • I am pressing into you
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  • Lord, you fight my every battle
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  • and I will not fear
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  • I am not alone
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  • I am not alone
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  • You will go before me
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  • You will never leave me
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  • I am not alone
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  • I am not alone
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  • You will go before me
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  • You will never leave me
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  • You amaze me, redeem me
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  • you call me as your own
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  • You amaze me, redeem me
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  • you call me as your own
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  • You amaze me, redeem me
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  • you call me as your own
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  • You amaze me, redeem me
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  • you call me as your own
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  • I am not alone
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  • I am not alone
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  • You will go before me
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  • You will never leave me
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  • I am not alone
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  • I am not alone
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  • You will go before me
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  • You will never leave me
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  • I am not alone
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  • I am not alone
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  • You will go before me
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  • You will never leave me
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  • [congregation applauding]
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  • Bobby: Well, our guest today is Dr. Willie Jolley.
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  • He is an incredible speaker, an author.
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  • He's a long-time friend of this ministry,
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  • and he's helped numerous companies
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  • with his inspirational speeches
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  • and people all over the world through his books.
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  • He truly embodies a joyous and encouraging spirit,
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  • and we are just absolutely thrilled to have him here today.
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  • Would you please welcome with me Dr. Willie Jolley?
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  • Hello, sir!
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  • Willie Jolley: Thank you, Bobby. Bobby: Great to see you.
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  • Willie: Good to be back to my southern California home.
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  • Bobby: Amen to that.
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  • Willie: Well, I have only just a minute,
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  • only 60 seconds in it.
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  • Forced upon me, can't refuse it.
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  • Didn't seek it, didn't choose it, but it's up to me to use it.
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  • I must suffer if I lose it, give account if I abuse it.
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  • Just a tiny little minute but an eternity is in it.
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  • Good morning to the "Hour of Power."
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  • Bobby: That's good, man.
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  • It's like a minute-- it's a minute of power.
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  • Willie: Yeah, a minute of power, right.
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  • Bobby: That's it, that's good.
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  • Well, we're so glad to have you here and last time you were
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  • here, you actually preached, and I was away and you--
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  • I remember when I was here and you preached.
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  • You spoke on "your set-up is a set-up for a comeback."
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  • Willie: "A Setback is a Set-up for a Comeback."
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  • And that book, because of that program,
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  • all the people around the world saw it.
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  • That book became a global bestseller, and so I'm very just
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  • excited about the opportunity to be back here and just come--
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  • last time I was here, as you said, was to speak,
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  • and I have been here a number of times to speak.
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  • I've been here three or four times to speak
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  • when you weren't here.
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  • But then today was the first time to be able
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  • to be an interview guest, so I'm able to be here.
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  • I would come and speak and sing 'cause a lot of folks said,
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  • "Are you singing?"
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  • I said, "Next time, but I'm here to talk about how to have
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  • the best life ever right now."
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  • Bobby: That's good, man. Well, good.
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  • So one of the things, I mean, your name is perfect.
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  • Your name is Willie Jolley.
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  • You're one of the most jolley people I've ever known.
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  • How is it--how is it that you can stay so upbeat
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  • and encouraged and positive all the time?
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  • Willie: Well, I'm grateful.
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  • Yeah, I wake up every day with the attitude of gratitude.
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  • I wake up--every day I wake up without a chalk outline
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  • around my body, I say, "It's a good day."
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  • So I'm so grateful.
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  • You know, I'm-- I was here with
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  • the "Setback Set-up for a Comeback" book
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  • the last time, which you helped to make it a global bestseller.
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  • Now I'm here because I've got two new books.
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  • One is my marriage book.
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  • My wife and I have been married for 34 years,
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  • haven't had an argument in over 30 years.
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  • Now, someone asked on a radio or television show, a reporter
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  • on a television show, said, "You've never had an argument?"
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  • I said, "I didn't say that.
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  • I said I haven't had an argument in 30 years.
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  • Those first couple of years were like World War III."
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  • But we learned some principles from some wise mentors.
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  • The book is called, "Make Love, Make Money, Make It Last,"
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  • and people can go to jolleymarriage.com
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  • and get a free chapter.
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  • But the new book is about what you talked about,
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  • an attitude of excellence and comebacks.
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  • In 2006 I got a call to work with a company
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  • that had a setback, Ford Motor Company.
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  • They said, "We need a comeback."
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  • I worked with Ford in 2006, 2007, 2008.
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  • In 2009, Ford was the only one of the big three automakers
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  • to be able to reject a government bailout.
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  • They went from losing a million dollars to building a--
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  • making a billion dollars.
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  • And so "The Detroit Free Press" wrote about Ford's comeback
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  • and put my name in it as one of their tools
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  • to help them come back.
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  • Well, then General Motors called and Walmart and Prudential
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  • and Verizon and Johnson & Johnson.
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  • They said, "We want what Ford got,"
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  • so I'm grateful.
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  • So the new book is "Attitude of Excellence."
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  • The principles I learned from working with Ford that we share
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  • now with companies and organizations as well as people
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  • that make it possible for them to have a comeback spirit
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  • and a great attitude.
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  • Attitude is mind-set.
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  • Excellence is skill set.
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  • When you put 'em both together, incredible things happen.
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  • Bobby: I love it, Dr. Jolley.
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  • One of the things that I think, you know, we always sort of feel
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  • is how do I have attitude of gratitude or how do I have an
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  • attitude of excellence, as your new book is, when things are
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  • just going so bad and they've been going so bad for so long.
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  • You know, a lot of people, health problems, divorce,
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  • relational issues, things with the kids.
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  • Willie: Well, that's what is exciting.
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  • You know, last time I was here it was just Willie Jolley.
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  • After that message in 2012 I went back and got my doctorate
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  • and in 2013 I got my doctorate of ministry from the California
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  • Graduate School of Theology in Faith-Driven Achievement
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  • and now we're launching--
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  • this is the launch of jolleygoodnews.org.
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  • It's a ministry to give people good news because we can wake up
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  • in the morning with bad news, fake news, terrible news,
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  • and it depresses you.
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  • But the Bible says in Proverbs 15 and 30 that good news
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  • is good for your bones.
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  • It puts you as fit as a fiddle or as my Angela would say,
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  • "Good bones gives you starch for your spine."
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  • And so I'm encouraging people to go to jolleygoodnews.org,
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  • jolleygoodnews.org.
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  • Become part of our community.
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  • We're going to be putting up some of the message
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  • from the former messages.
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  • And let me tell you the impact good news can have.
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  • When I was starting as a speaker,
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  • I was struggling to keep my business afloat.
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  • I got a opportunity to go give a speech in Orlando, Florida.
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  • I went to Orlando, gave the speech.
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  • They gave me a standing ovation, then they gave me my check.
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  • I was ecstatic.
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  • Well, I'm going to the airport, get on a plane,
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  • and I'm feeling good.
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  • I pulled the check out the second time, and I got depressed
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  • 'cause I realized the money was already allocated.
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  • An older gentleman across the aisle as we were flying said,
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  • "How you doing?"
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  • I said, "Aghh."
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  • He said--we talked for a few minutes.
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  • He told me he was a minister.
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  • He lectured about health and wealth.
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  • I said, "Do you speak every day?"
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  • He said, "Yes."
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  • I said, "You fly every day?" He said, "Yes."
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  • And then he changed my life with a good word.
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  • He said, "Young man, how old do you think I am?"
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  • I said, "I think you're about 60."
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  • He said, "Young man, I'm 88 years old,
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  • and my best is yet to come."
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  • In that moment everything shifted,
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  • and I went home with a new attitude.
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  • And in the 25 years that have gone by, I've been inducted in
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  • the Speaker Hall of Fame, named one of the top five speakers
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  • in the world, had bestselling books, television, radio.
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  • It's just the tip of the iceberg, and I came here today
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  • to say to you without a question in my mind,
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  • "Your best is yet to come.
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  • Your best is yet to come.
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  • Your best is yet to come."
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  • Bobby: Amen, thank you, Dr. Jolley.
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  • Appreciate you.
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  • Willie: Bobby, man, the best is yet to come.
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  • Your best is yet to come.
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  • Bobby: Yeah, okay.
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  • Preston Parker: Good morning, family.
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  • Whenever you feel your relationship with God growing
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  • weary, sing this song aloud, amen?
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  • 00:17:14.230 --> 00:17:20.240
  • Let my life be an offering
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  • totally devoted to proclaim your greatness
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  • and the power of your name
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  • Your faithfulness has never changed
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  • And now I live to say in all I do
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  • I want to honor you
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  • Let the words of my mouth be acceptable
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  • Let it be acceptable to you
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  • And may the songs
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  • that I sing be pleasing, Lord
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  • I want to be pleasing to you
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  • Be pleasing, Lord
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  • Pleasing, Lord
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  • Your faithfulness has never changed
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  • and now I live to say in all I do
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  • I want to honor you
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  • Honor you
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  • Let the words from my mouth
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  • be acceptable to you
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  • And the songs, the songs that I sing
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  • let it be pleasing to you
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  • All my heart I give
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  • 'cause I want to live pleasing to you
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  • Be pleasing, Lord, to you
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  • Be pleasing, Lord, to you
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  • Be pleasing, Lord, to you
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  • I want to be pleasing
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  • I want to be worthy, Lord
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  • and proud of the world
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  • Forgive me of my sins, God
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  • I want to be clean for you
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  • I want to do your work, God
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  • I want to be pleasing, Lord
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  • [congregation applauding]
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  • Chad Blake: Amen, would you join me in prayer this morning?
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  • Father, that is our prayer, that everything that we do
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  • be pleasing unto you.
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  • Lord, we love you.
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  • We are so thankful for the opportunity we have to be in
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  • this place to gather and proclaim your goodness,
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  • to declare it to all the world, what you are doing here
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  • and what you are doing all around the world.
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  • Lord, we know that our best is yet to come because you are on
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  • our side, so we can conquer all things with you,
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  • and that Scripture tells us that the same power that raised Jesus
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  • from the dead is available and in us.
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  • Lord, thank you.
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  • And because of that, Lord, I pray every chain be broken
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  • in this room, that the spirit of bondage is not here,
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  • that there is freedom in you.
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  • Freedom from addiction, freedom from health issues.
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  • Freedom of the mind.
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  • Lord, let us see the beauty that is around us
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  • and what you are doing in the world all around us.
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  • We get caught up in the day to day
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  • and the stresses that life throws our way.
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  • Lord, I pray for open eyes to see the beauty of the hills and
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  • of the ocean and that as water cleanses the land let your
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  • Spirit fall and cleanse our bodies and minds and our hearts.
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  • Let us worship you in all that we do.
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  • Lord, we pray for this offering which we are about to give.
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  • May it be used beyond what we could ever imagine, multiplied
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  • ten, a hundredfold, for your kingdom work, bringing your
  • 00:22:13.000 --> 00:22:17.210
  • message of hope, your message of salvation, and your message
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  • that your best is yet to come into the world around us.
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  • In Jesus's name, amen, amen.
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  • I've been thinking about that myself this whole week.
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  • That I think it's easy to get caught up in, you know,
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  • what could a few bucks do here and there?
  • 00:22:36.190 --> 00:22:38.150
  • Like, when we give to kingdom causes,
  • 00:22:38.160 --> 00:22:40.190
  • when we give to the church, when we give back
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  • to what God is doing, that what we might think
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  • is a little bit, God can multiply and use
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  • to do miraculous things all around the world.
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  • So with that in mind, I'd like to invite the ushers forward as
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  • we prepare to receive this morning's tithes and offerings.
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  • Bobby: As a pastor, husband, father, and friend,
  • 00:22:59.220 --> 00:23:02.160
  • I know that we can find ourselves in places
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  • of frustration and discouragement,
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  • wanting to see change
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  • but not knowing how to make it happen.
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  • Today I wanna show you the path to transformation
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  • and receiving the best God has for your life.
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  • You see, the solution isn't to make more money,
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  • find a new spouse, get a new job,
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  • buy new stuff, or anything like that.
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  • The solution is to change the way you think,
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  • because when you change your thoughts,
  • 00:23:28.030 --> 00:23:29.260
  • you will change your life, and ultimately,
  • 00:23:29.270 --> 00:23:32.080
  • change the whole world around you.
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  • Hannah: Proverbs 23:7 shows us:
  • 00:23:34.240 --> 00:23:37.060
  • "As he thinketh in his heart, so is he."
  • 00:23:37.070 --> 00:23:40.220
  • In other words, you become what you think about.
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  • If you're hearing this today and realize
  • 00:23:44.170 --> 00:23:46.190
  • that you are limiting yourself and God
  • 00:23:46.200 --> 00:23:49.110
  • through the way you think, we want to encourage you
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  • that there's no better time than today
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  • for you to make a change.
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  • Right here and now, you can take an important step
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  • towards the amazing future God has for you
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  • by changing the way you think.
  • 00:24:02.170 --> 00:24:05.270
  • announcer: Do you feel stuck in a rut and ready for change?
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  • The solution for real transformation may be easier
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  • than you think.
  • 00:24:11.170 --> 00:24:12.280
  • Today, with your generous gift of any size,
  • 00:24:12.290 --> 00:24:15.000
  • you can request Pastor Bobby's new book,
  • 00:24:15.010 --> 00:24:17.100
  • "Change your Thoughts, Change Your World,"
  • 00:24:17.110 --> 00:24:19.230
  • plus the exclusive audio CD
  • 00:24:19.240 --> 00:24:22.020
  • "Prayers & Promises for a Renewed Mind."
  • 00:24:22.030 --> 00:24:25.070
  • In this special companion CD, you'll hear prayers
  • 00:24:25.080 --> 00:24:28.030
  • in the Scriptures read by Bobby and Hannah.
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  • Call or go online today,
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  • and for your generous gift of any size,
  • 00:24:32.190 --> 00:24:35.030
  • we'll send you Bobby's brand-new book
  • 00:24:35.040 --> 00:24:37.020
  • plus the exclusive audio disk,
  • 00:24:37.030 --> 00:24:39.030
  • "Prayers & Promises for a Renewed Mind,"
  • 00:24:39.040 --> 00:24:41.200
  • designed to help you change your life by changing your thoughts.
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  • Request these encouraging resources today
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  • and learn that by changing your thoughts,
  • 00:24:47.280 --> 00:24:50.040
  • you can change your world.
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  • Bobby: Hannah and I have personally experienced
  • 00:24:52.100 --> 00:24:54.050
  • the power of changing our thoughts
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  • in order to change our lives.
  • 00:24:56.010 --> 00:24:57.230
  • We know this is easier said that done,
  • 00:24:57.240 --> 00:24:59.190
  • but that's why I've written a book about it.
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  • It's a personal and practical approach
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  • to understanding biblical keys that will
  • 00:25:03.210 --> 00:25:06.010
  • not only transform the way you think,
  • 00:25:06.020 --> 00:25:07.270
  • but the way you live.
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  • Request your copy
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  • of "Change Your Thoughts, Change Your World."
  • 00:25:10.190 --> 00:25:12.170
  • In fact, consider requesting multiple copies to give
  • 00:25:12.180 --> 00:25:15.020
  • to those you know and love who need this message.
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  • Thank you for all you do for "Hour of Power."
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  • We can't share the good news of Jesus without your help,
  • 00:25:21.000 --> 00:25:23.270
  • and we're honored to be serving God with you.
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  • Remember, as always, God loves you and so do we.
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  • [congregation applauding]
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  • Bobby: Thank you for joining us.
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  • Wherever you are, we want you to know we love you, and if you're
  • 00:28:50.150 --> 00:28:52.290
  • ever here in Irvine, please come down and worship with us.
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  • We would love to have you come just as you are.
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  • We'd love to meet your kids, your family, your friends or
  • 00:28:58.010 --> 00:29:00.210
  • just you, however you-- whoever you are,
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  • we'd love to just give you a big hug and welcome you.
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  • Friends, would you hold your hands out like this
  • 00:29:04.290 --> 00:29:06.210
  • as a way of receiving?
  • 00:29:06.220 --> 00:29:08.010
  • Let's say this creed together: "I'm not what I do.
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  • I'm not what I have.
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  • I'm not what people say about me.
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  • I am the beloved of God. It's who I am.
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  • No one can take it from me. I don't have to worry.
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  • I don't have to hurry.
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  • I can trust my friend Jesus and share his love with the world."
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  • Thanks, you can be seated.
  • 00:29:33.140 --> 00:29:36.030
  • Well, today, we are continuing a series on my new book,
  • 00:29:36.040 --> 00:29:39.230
  • "Change Your Thoughts, Change Your World."
  • 00:29:39.240 --> 00:29:42.240
  • Really hopeful that you get a copy, but we're talking
  • 00:29:42.250 --> 00:29:47.210
  • about the power of thinking and how it basically creates
  • 00:29:47.220 --> 00:29:50.150
  • our whole reality.
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  • So everything that we think and that we dwell on
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  • bears fruit eventually.
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  • The longer we think about a certain thing,
  • 00:29:57.070 --> 00:29:59.210
  • the greater the fruit will be.
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  • And that fruit can be negative or positive.
  • 00:30:01.140 --> 00:30:03.270
  • Whatever we dwell on, whatever we're always thinking about
  • 00:30:03.280 --> 00:30:06.240
  • eventually will work its way out into our circumstances.
  • 00:30:06.250 --> 00:30:10.120
  • And so very often we want our circumstances to change,
  • 00:30:10.130 --> 00:30:13.200
  • but we want to keep the kind of thinking that got us there.
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  • Your thinking cannot remain secret.
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  • I know I say this every single week but every--
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  • whatever you dwell on every day, every moment,
  • 00:30:21.290 --> 00:30:24.090
  • the things that you dwell on, they will eventually come out.
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  • If you're embittered towards your neighbor, it's going to
  • 00:30:28.050 --> 00:30:30.110
  • show in your body language, in your words, in what you do,
  • 00:30:30.120 --> 00:30:35.050
  • the way you spend your money.
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  • If you are excited and positive and joyful and loving,
  • 00:30:37.030 --> 00:30:41.080
  • that stuff is also hard to hide, isn't it?
  • 00:30:41.090 --> 00:30:43.090
  • That's hard to keep secret.
  • 00:30:43.100 --> 00:30:45.020
  • So no matter what, what we think about, what we dwell on day in
  • 00:30:45.030 --> 00:30:48.130
  • and day out, eventually will become our circumstances.
  • 00:30:48.140 --> 00:30:52.080
  • And so what we want to do is take some time over the next few
  • 00:30:52.090 --> 00:30:54.190
  • weeks to continue to think about what we think about,
  • 00:30:54.200 --> 00:30:57.130
  • to pay attention to not only our thoughts, but our emotions,
  • 00:30:57.140 --> 00:31:00.290
  • and how we react to those things, what are we thinking
  • 00:31:01.000 --> 00:31:03.120
  • about when we're alone.
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  • And today is one that is very near and dear to my heart.
  • 00:31:05.080 --> 00:31:07.270
  • Today we're going to be talking about self-talk,
  • 00:31:07.280 --> 00:31:11.050
  • the stuff we say to ourselves, particularly about shame,
  • 00:31:11.060 --> 00:31:14.260
  • and how so much of our--
  • 00:31:14.270 --> 00:31:17.000
  • the stuff that we don't like about ourselves is driven
  • 00:31:17.010 --> 00:31:19.080
  • by shame and how we can change our thinking.
  • 00:31:19.090 --> 00:31:23.110
  • You know, it's interesting because today the type
  • 00:31:23.120 --> 00:31:25.120
  • of thinking we're talking about is the thinking in the heart.
  • 00:31:25.130 --> 00:31:28.250
  • It's interesting because when you read in the Hebrew Bible,
  • 00:31:28.260 --> 00:31:31.090
  • there is no Hebrew word for "mind."
  • 00:31:31.100 --> 00:31:34.180
  • Isn't that interesting?
  • 00:31:34.190 --> 00:31:36.140
  • All the thinking is done in the heart as that's why Proverbs
  • 00:31:36.150 --> 00:31:39.240
  • says: "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he."
  • 00:31:39.250 --> 00:31:45.030
  • So today we're going to talk about that, the will and some
  • 00:31:45.040 --> 00:31:47.270
  • of the emotional stuff that we think about and its relation
  • 00:31:47.280 --> 00:31:51.050
  • in particular to the science of addiction.
  • 00:31:51.060 --> 00:31:53.230
  • Don't raise your hand, but how many of you
  • 00:31:53.240 --> 00:31:55.120
  • are addicted to something?
  • 00:31:55.130 --> 00:31:58.060
  • Statistically, if everybody were honest, and had to raise their
  • 00:31:58.070 --> 00:32:01.170
  • hand if they were addicted, almost every hand
  • 00:32:01.180 --> 00:32:03.220
  • in this room would go up.
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  • That you have some kind of compulsive behavior in life.
  • 00:32:05.180 --> 00:32:07.260
  • There's something in your life that you have little
  • 00:32:07.270 --> 00:32:10.240
  • or no control over, that you don't like,
  • 00:32:10.250 --> 00:32:12.180
  • that you wish you didn't do anymore.
  • 00:32:12.190 --> 00:32:15.000
  • And I want to talk today about the upside-down answer to that
  • 00:32:15.010 --> 00:32:21.190
  • problem, that the problem is not to beat ourselves up,
  • 00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:25.080
  • it's not even to try harder.
  • 00:32:25.090 --> 00:32:27.190
  • The answer is actually to be loved as you are with your
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  • addiction and to be known that you have it
  • 00:32:31.080 --> 00:32:33.120
  • and to be loved just with whatever it is that you have.
  • 00:32:33.130 --> 00:32:36.060
  • So today we want to talk about that and as well as other things
  • 00:32:36.070 --> 00:32:38.260
  • similar to that, like anxiety, depression.
  • 00:32:38.270 --> 00:32:41.010
  • But the answer is this, that you are worthy of love
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  • and belonging.
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  • You are chosen, you are alive, you are God's creature,
  • 00:32:46.110 --> 00:32:49.130
  • you are a created being.
  • 00:32:49.140 --> 00:32:51.020
  • In his eyes, you are one of the most rare, beautiful,
  • 00:32:51.030 --> 00:32:53.250
  • amazing, wonderful things.
  • 00:32:53.260 --> 00:32:56.030
  • God is so proud of you.
  • 00:32:56.040 --> 00:32:58.000
  • He is so on your side.
  • 00:32:58.010 --> 00:32:59.220
  • Everything God is doing in your life is good and only good.
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  • The Bible says that God is only good.
  • 00:33:03.110 --> 00:33:05.270
  • The Bible says God is love.
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  • It doesn't say he's loving.
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  • It says he is love.
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  • His whole posture towards you is compassionate, it's encouraging.
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  • He's on your side, he's for you, he's not against you.
  • 00:33:16.180 --> 00:33:20.140
  • It is preachers that are against you.
  • 00:33:20.150 --> 00:33:22.260
  • God is for you, okay?
  • 00:33:22.270 --> 00:33:25.140
  • God is on your side, and it is Satan who wants you
  • 00:33:25.150 --> 00:33:30.100
  • to feel discouraged.
  • 00:33:30.110 --> 00:33:32.010
  • It is Satan who is called the Accuser.
  • 00:33:32.020 --> 00:33:33.210
  • It is the Holy Spirit who is called the Comforter.
  • 00:33:33.220 --> 00:33:36.090
  • It is Satan who is called the Divider.
  • 00:33:36.100 --> 00:33:38.200
  • It is Satan who is called the Accuser of the Brethren.
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  • When you look in the mirror and you accuse yourself and shame
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  • yourself and blame yourself, you are not agreeing with God.
  • 00:33:47.240 --> 00:33:52.030
  • If you were to look in the mirror and say,
  • 00:33:52.040 --> 00:33:54.090
  • "That person is loved, is called.
  • 00:33:54.100 --> 00:33:56.220
  • God is on her or his side," you're agreeing with God.
  • 00:33:56.230 --> 00:33:59.170
  • You're agreeing with God's Word when you say those things.
  • 00:33:59.180 --> 00:34:02.030
  • So I want you to know more than anything that God loves you.
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  • God loves you despite your sin, despite your failings,
  • 00:34:05.190 --> 00:34:08.140
  • despite your mistakes.
  • 00:34:08.150 --> 00:34:10.060
  • He's on your side.
  • 00:34:10.070 --> 00:34:11.230
  • And in fact, the only way your behavior, I guess, is going to
  • 00:34:11.240 --> 00:34:15.010
  • improve the way you want it to improve is ironically when you
  • 00:34:15.020 --> 00:34:17.260
  • let go of finding your identity in what you do, finding your
  • 00:34:17.270 --> 00:34:21.220
  • identity in your morality or finding your identity
  • 00:34:21.230 --> 00:34:23.230
  • in those things.
  • 00:34:23.240 --> 00:34:25.110
  • That is the bizarre irony is as much as you want to do better,
  • 00:34:25.120 --> 00:34:28.110
  • be better, you have to actually let go of it.
  • 00:34:28.120 --> 00:34:32.090
  • It's the weird thing about Christianity.
  • 00:34:32.100 --> 00:34:34.260
  • This is what makes Christianity utterly unique
  • 00:34:34.270 --> 00:34:37.030
  • from every other religion.
  • 00:34:37.040 --> 00:34:38.190
  • Every other religion says
  • 00:34:38.200 --> 00:34:40.010
  • do everything right and then you'll get to heaven.
  • 00:34:40.020 --> 00:34:41.200
  • Do everything right and then you'll get the religious reward.
  • 00:34:41.210 --> 00:34:44.180
  • But Christianity says you can't do anything right
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  • until you go to heaven.
  • 00:34:47.280 --> 00:34:49.280
  • And what we mean by heaven is the presence of the kingdom
  • 00:34:49.290 --> 00:34:52.230
  • of God with us.
  • 00:34:52.240 --> 00:34:54.230
  • So you can't do things right until you're in God's love.
  • 00:34:54.240 --> 00:34:57.120
  • So it's backwards.
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  • First, God loves you, then you do the right things.
  • 00:34:59.020 --> 00:35:01.090
  • But every other-- everything else says
  • 00:35:01.100 --> 00:35:02.270
  • do the right things and then, you know, God'll--
  • 00:35:02.280 --> 00:35:04.270
  • you know, when the scales are balanced,
  • 00:35:04.280 --> 00:35:06.170
  • if it tips towards good, then you'll be okay.
  • 00:35:06.180 --> 00:35:09.040
  • [laughing] Ain't that amazing?
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  • Even when we were enemies of God, he loved us.
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  • Even when we cursed his name, when we rejected him,
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  • when we say he didn't exist, even when we did evil,
  • 00:35:18.140 --> 00:35:21.120
  • he still loved us.
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  • And he's on our side.
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  • When I say he's on our side, is even when he corrects us
  • 00:35:25.160 --> 00:35:28.090
  • and points us in the right direction,
  • 00:35:28.100 --> 00:35:30.060
  • even though God hates evil, he loves you.
  • 00:35:30.070 --> 00:35:33.080
  • So we're going to talk about this.
  • 00:35:33.090 --> 00:35:35.060
  • One of my favorite passages is from Romans chapter 8,
  • 00:35:35.070 --> 00:35:40.100
  • and Hannah read it earlier.
  • 00:35:40.110 --> 00:35:42.010
  • And it's the end of the probably most famous chapter of the most
  • 00:35:42.020 --> 00:35:45.110
  • famous Epistle written by the apostle Paul.
  • 00:35:45.120 --> 00:35:48.090
  • And he finishes with this great--
  • 00:35:48.100 --> 00:35:50.070
  • it's really a doxology.
  • 00:35:50.080 --> 00:35:52.210
  • And he says, "For I am convinced."
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  • Are you convinced?
  • 00:35:56.040 --> 00:35:58.000
  • We need this conviction.
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  • "I am convinced that neither death nor life,
  • 00:35:59.190 --> 00:36:04.070
  • neither angels nor demons,
  • 00:36:04.080 --> 00:36:08.090
  • neither the present nor the future,
  • 00:36:08.100 --> 00:36:12.160
  • nor any powers, neither height nor depth,
  • 00:36:12.170 --> 00:36:17.180
  • nor anything else in all of creation,
  • 00:36:17.190 --> 00:36:23.110
  • will be able to separate us from the love of God
  • 00:36:23.120 --> 00:36:27.240
  • that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
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  • Let's believe the Word today, shall we?
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  • Let's believe that there is nothing that can happen to you,
  • 00:36:32.240 --> 00:36:37.000
  • there is nothing that can be done to you, there's nothing you
  • 00:36:37.010 --> 00:36:39.160
  • can do, there's nothing in the whole universe
  • 00:36:39.170 --> 00:36:42.110
  • that can separate you from God's love.
  • 00:36:42.120 --> 00:36:45.040
  • He loves you.
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  • He's on your side and Satan hates you
  • 00:36:46.250 --> 00:36:49.120
  • because he knows the only way he
  • 00:36:49.130 --> 00:36:51.030
  • can harm God is by getting to you.
  • 00:36:51.040 --> 00:36:53.280
  • And you want to know something?
  • 00:36:53.290 --> 00:36:55.190
  • The main way that Satan attacks God's people
  • 00:36:55.200 --> 00:36:58.270
  • is by isolating them.
  • 00:36:58.280 --> 00:37:01.220
  • We always think the first thing Satan does is come at us
  • 00:37:01.230 --> 00:37:04.120
  • with temptation, you know?
  • 00:37:04.130 --> 00:37:06.160
  • You know, steal that thing or you know, whatever.
  • 00:37:06.170 --> 00:37:08.230
  • He comes at us to tempt us to do something evil
  • 00:37:08.240 --> 00:37:11.190
  • but before he tempts us, the first thing he does
  • 00:37:11.200 --> 00:37:14.000
  • is he tries to isolate us.
  • 00:37:14.010 --> 00:37:16.230
  • He tries to convince us that God is against us or God doesn't
  • 00:37:16.240 --> 00:37:19.150
  • exist or God hates us or that our neighbors don't love us
  • 00:37:19.160 --> 00:37:23.110
  • or that, you know, we're always going to be a victim
  • 00:37:23.120 --> 00:37:26.070
  • or you know, always going to be taken advantage of,
  • 00:37:26.080 --> 00:37:28.070
  • to always be embittered.
  • 00:37:28.080 --> 00:37:30.040
  • So Satan's primary goal is to isolate you.
  • 00:37:30.050 --> 00:37:33.090
  • That is what he always wants to do.
  • 00:37:33.100 --> 00:37:35.050
  • And that is why one of our primary goals as disciples of
  • 00:37:35.060 --> 00:37:38.040
  • Jesus should to not be isolated, to reach up to God
  • 00:37:38.050 --> 00:37:42.270
  • and to reach out to our neighbor.
  • 00:37:42.280 --> 00:37:44.250
  • Just like a tree, reaching up to the Lord,
  • 00:37:44.260 --> 00:37:46.280
  • reaching out to our neighbor.
  • 00:37:46.290 --> 00:37:48.210
  • And as we do this, we stretch, and we grow as people.
  • 00:37:48.220 --> 00:37:52.040
  • And it takes time, but the more we do this, reaching up to God,
  • 00:37:52.050 --> 00:37:55.030
  • reaching out to our neighbor, the better we will be.
  • 00:37:55.040 --> 00:37:59.160
  • I love John chapter 15.
  • 00:37:59.170 --> 00:38:01.240
  • Again, another thing, and John chapter 15
  • 00:38:01.250 --> 00:38:04.160
  • has this reoccurring theme.
  • 00:38:04.170 --> 00:38:06.070
  • It just says it over and over:
  • 00:38:06.080 --> 00:38:07.240
  • "Abide in my love and you will bear fruit."
  • 00:38:07.250 --> 00:38:10.010
  • Now, John 15 is this long--
  • 00:38:10.020 --> 00:38:12.140
  • it's part of what's called the departure sermon.
  • 00:38:12.150 --> 00:38:14.230
  • It's one of the most important sermons Jesus ever gives,
  • 00:38:14.240 --> 00:38:16.240
  • and he basically says this thing over and over:
  • 00:38:16.250 --> 00:38:18.270
  • "I am the vine; you are the branches.
  • 00:38:18.280 --> 00:38:21.250
  • Abide in me and you will bear fruit.
  • 00:38:21.260 --> 00:38:24.290
  • Abide in me and you will bear fruit."
  • 00:38:25.180 --> 00:38:27.210
  • And he just keeps saying it.
  • 00:38:27.220 --> 00:38:29.020
  • "Abide in my love and you will bear fruit."
  • 00:38:29.030 --> 00:38:30.270
  • How many Christians think, "If I bear enough fruit,
  • 00:38:30.280 --> 00:38:33.170
  • then I'll be in God's love," right?
  • 00:38:33.180 --> 00:38:35.240
  • "If I just, on my own, a broken branch, unattached to the vine,
  • 00:38:35.250 --> 00:38:40.040
  • will some grapes out of me, then God will love me."
  • 00:38:40.050 --> 00:38:44.070
  • But God says, "No, abide in my love and you will bear fruit."
  • 00:38:44.080 --> 00:38:48.190
  • This is so, so key.
  • 00:38:48.200 --> 00:38:50.280
  • Very often we think, "If I bear fruit,
  • 00:38:50.290 --> 00:38:53.100
  • then I'll be in God's love," but it's the other way around.
  • 00:38:53.110 --> 00:38:56.150
  • And so what we need to learn is in our times of stress,
  • 00:38:56.160 --> 00:38:59.050
  • our times of loneliness or times of anxiety, depression,
  • 00:38:59.060 --> 00:39:02.090
  • or temptation, that we ought to not be isolated.
  • 00:39:02.100 --> 00:39:05.100
  • That we ought to run to God and run to our neighbor.
  • 00:39:05.110 --> 00:39:09.030
  • Run to God when you're stressed. Run to God when you're lonely.
  • 00:39:09.040 --> 00:39:12.070
  • Watch him welcome you with loving arms.
  • 00:39:12.080 --> 00:39:15.090
  • I think it's so funny that even that, you know,
  • 00:39:15.100 --> 00:39:17.170
  • we sometimes feel shame about, you know,
  • 00:39:17.180 --> 00:39:20.110
  • not spending enough time with God.
  • 00:39:20.120 --> 00:39:22.030
  • Let's not do that either.
  • 00:39:22.040 --> 00:39:23.240
  • You ever feel that way?
  • 00:39:23.250 --> 00:39:25.050
  • You're, like, "I need to--
  • 00:39:25.060 --> 00:39:26.130
  • I haven't had a devotion or a quiet time
  • 00:39:26.140 --> 00:39:28.020
  • or a day of solitude in a long, long time.
  • 00:39:28.030 --> 00:39:30.150
  • I should--you know, God's upset at me,
  • 00:39:30.160 --> 00:39:32.240
  • or I feel ashamed about that."
  • 00:39:32.250 --> 00:39:34.230
  • I remember Hannah's dad was talking about this.
  • 00:39:34.240 --> 00:39:37.150
  • Hannah's dad is also a grandpa.
  • 00:39:37.160 --> 00:39:39.180
  • What does he have, 13 kids and--
  • 00:39:39.190 --> 00:39:41.250
  • 13 kids and 3 on the way.
  • 00:39:41.260 --> 00:39:43.290
  • I have three sisters-in-law who are all pregnant.
  • 00:39:44.000 --> 00:39:46.160
  • There's something in the water in Oklahoma, I'm telling you.
  • 00:39:46.170 --> 00:39:49.270
  • But I guess they're not even in--
  • 00:39:49.280 --> 00:39:52.020
  • yeah, yeah, anyway.
  • 00:39:52.030 --> 00:39:54.060
  • So Hannah's dad, Doc, everybody calls him,
  • 00:39:54.070 --> 00:39:57.220
  • just loves his grandkids.
  • 00:39:57.230 --> 00:39:59.050
  • He has six kids and they're kind of all over the country.
  • 00:39:59.060 --> 00:40:00.230
  • When we get together, he says,
  • 00:40:00.240 --> 00:40:02.150
  • "You know, when I haven't seen my grandkids in a while
  • 00:40:02.160 --> 00:40:05.040
  • and they haven't called me in a while and they haven't
  • 00:40:05.050 --> 00:40:07.100
  • written me a letter in a while, and then we get together,
  • 00:40:07.110 --> 00:40:11.000
  • and I see them in the distance and they're running
  • 00:40:11.010 --> 00:40:13.010
  • at me saying, 'Grandpa, Grandpa, Grandpa,
  • 00:40:13.020 --> 00:40:15.200
  • it's so good to see you,'
  • 00:40:15.210 --> 00:40:17.140
  • I don't stand there with my arms crossed and say,
  • 00:40:17.150 --> 00:40:20.100
  • 'How come you haven't called me?
  • 00:40:20.110 --> 00:40:23.110
  • How come you haven't visited me in weeks,' you know?"
  • 00:40:23.120 --> 00:40:27.010
  • We think very often that if we run to God and it's been a while
  • 00:40:27.020 --> 00:40:30.100
  • that maybe he'll cross his arms and look down his nose at us
  • 00:40:30.110 --> 00:40:33.100
  • and say how disappointed he is that we've taken so long
  • 00:40:33.110 --> 00:40:37.050
  • to come into his presence.
  • 00:40:37.060 --> 00:40:39.080
  • I just don't think that happens.
  • 00:40:39.090 --> 00:40:41.000
  • Anyway, a year for God's like a second, right?
  • 00:40:41.010 --> 00:40:43.050
  • I mean, that's not very long.
  • 00:40:43.060 --> 00:40:44.260
  • It's a long time for us but--we ought to just think of God's
  • 00:40:44.270 --> 00:40:47.200
  • presence and God's love in our life as nothing but a gift.
  • 00:40:47.210 --> 00:40:50.230
  • There's no shame in it.
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  • It's always available to us.
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  • There's no shame in a thirsty man wanting to drink some water.
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  • There is no shame in you running to the fountain of life.
  • 00:40:58.250 --> 00:41:02.020
  • If you're thirsty, run to him.
  • 00:41:02.030 --> 00:41:04.070
  • Drink from his goodness and watch the good
  • 00:41:04.080 --> 00:41:06.220
  • that can come from that.
  • 00:41:06.230 --> 00:41:08.160
  • The reason I just--
  • 00:41:08.170 --> 00:41:10.010
  • I just continue to harp on the fact that God loves us
  • 00:41:10.020 --> 00:41:12.100
  • just as we are, right where we are,
  • 00:41:12.110 --> 00:41:14.140
  • with all of our problems and our doubts
  • 00:41:14.150 --> 00:41:16.040
  • and everything we're facing,
  • 00:41:16.050 --> 00:41:17.230
  • is I believe the answer to becoming truly Jesus
  • 00:41:17.240 --> 00:41:20.200
  • kind of people is first to begin with grace.
  • 00:41:20.210 --> 00:41:23.130
  • Or in other words, to begin with I am worthy of love
  • 00:41:23.140 --> 00:41:26.100
  • and belonging, that God loves me right now.
  • 00:41:26.110 --> 00:41:29.290
  • He sees everything. He just loves me.
  • 00:41:30.000 --> 00:41:33.070
  • He loves you. He loves you.
  • 00:41:33.080 --> 00:41:35.030
  • He loves you.
  • 00:41:35.040 --> 00:41:36.200
  • And also, it doesn't always feel this way but there are people
  • 00:41:36.210 --> 00:41:39.180
  • in your life who love you so, so much.
  • 00:41:39.190 --> 00:41:42.170
  • There are people in your life who love you so, so much,
  • 00:41:42.180 --> 00:41:45.110
  • and many of those people are in this room right now.
  • 00:41:45.120 --> 00:41:48.110
  • And this gets me to the thing about addiction
  • 00:41:48.120 --> 00:41:50.200
  • I want to talk about.
  • 00:41:50.210 --> 00:41:52.080
  • Don't raise your hand, but how many of you are addicted?
  • 00:41:52.090 --> 00:41:55.090
  • So, again, almost every hand would go up in this room if
  • 00:41:55.100 --> 00:41:59.060
  • truth were told, that compulsive behavior that is the--
  • 00:41:59.070 --> 00:42:02.220
  • that you do something you don't want to do,
  • 00:42:02.230 --> 00:42:05.210
  • you literally don't have any control.
  • 00:42:05.220 --> 00:42:08.050
  • It's a part of a cycle, and I learned this in a counseling
  • 00:42:08.060 --> 00:42:12.040
  • course I took in seminary, and I think it's so useful
  • 00:42:12.050 --> 00:42:15.140
  • to all of us.
  • 00:42:15.150 --> 00:42:17.010
  • So there's this thing called the addiction cycle,
  • 00:42:17.020 --> 00:42:20.020
  • and addiction is rooted in shame.
  • 00:42:20.030 --> 00:42:22.030
  • So can we have that slide and just leave it up for a minute?
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  • The addiction cycle begins with shame,
  • 00:42:25.210 --> 00:42:29.030
  • and the shame creates what's called emotional triggers.
  • 00:42:29.040 --> 00:42:33.180
  • Those emotional triggers create a craving for the thing it is
  • 00:42:33.190 --> 00:42:36.150
  • that we want, and then that craving causes us
  • 00:42:36.160 --> 00:42:40.000
  • to go into the ritual.
  • 00:42:40.010 --> 00:42:41.200
  • It's the same thing.
  • 00:42:41.210 --> 00:42:43.010
  • It's when we, like, get close to the edge,
  • 00:42:43.020 --> 00:42:44.110
  • but we don't jump in.
  • 00:42:44.120 --> 00:42:45.220
  • And then using is eventually what happens and then that using
  • 00:42:45.230 --> 00:42:48.260
  • creates shame which is the basis for the whole thing.
  • 00:42:48.270 --> 00:42:51.280
  • So let's use the obvious example of a alcoholic.
  • 00:42:51.290 --> 00:42:56.240
  • We're going to say the guy's name is Joe.
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  • Sorry if your name's Joe.
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  • Joe the alcoholic.
  • 00:43:04.240 --> 00:43:06.100
  • So Joe is in many ways a good man, but he drinks way too much
  • 00:43:06.110 --> 00:43:12.140
  • and one day he's had too much to drink and his kids just do
  • 00:43:12.150 --> 00:43:16.060
  • something annoying, and he screams at them
  • 00:43:16.070 --> 00:43:18.050
  • and yells at them and says some horrible things he regrets,
  • 00:43:18.060 --> 00:43:21.020
  • uses some language.
  • 00:43:21.030 --> 00:43:23.040
  • And then he goes into his room and stomps and slams the door
  • 00:43:23.050 --> 00:43:27.060
  • and after a couple of hours he sobers up enough to realize
  • 00:43:27.070 --> 00:43:29.250
  • that what he did was not only unfair but maybe abusive.
  • 00:43:29.260 --> 00:43:34.060
  • And that this is the first time he's done this and may not be
  • 00:43:34.070 --> 00:43:36.180
  • the last and gosh, he's really not a very good dad
  • 00:43:36.190 --> 00:43:39.060
  • because of all this drinking.
  • 00:43:39.070 --> 00:43:40.270
  • And he just finally says, "You know what?
  • 00:43:40.280 --> 00:43:42.090
  • I'm going to stop drinking. I'm done.
  • 00:43:42.100 --> 00:43:44.050
  • I've done drinking.
  • 00:43:44.060 --> 00:43:45.170
  • I'm going to sober up, and I'm going to get better."
  • 00:43:45.180 --> 00:43:49.070
  • And so it actually goes pretty good.
  • 00:43:49.080 --> 00:43:50.180
  • You know, he goes about two weeks,
  • 00:43:50.190 --> 00:43:52.100
  • and he doesn't have a drink, and he's sober,
  • 00:43:52.110 --> 00:43:54.260
  • and he's being nicer to his kids and to his wife,
  • 00:43:54.270 --> 00:43:57.230
  • even though they're not sure, they're not reciprocating.
  • 00:43:57.240 --> 00:44:00.240
  • But he gets this idea.
  • 00:44:00.250 --> 00:44:02.050
  • He's like, "You know what?
  • 00:44:02.060 --> 00:44:03.150
  • My wife and I, we need a vacation.
  • 00:44:03.160 --> 00:44:04.230
  • I'm going to take her to New York City
  • 00:44:04.240 --> 00:44:06.030
  • where we went on our anniversary,
  • 00:44:06.040 --> 00:44:07.210
  • and we're going to rekindle things,
  • 00:44:07.220 --> 00:44:09.050
  • and it's going to be great."
  • 00:44:09.060 --> 00:44:10.200
  • And so he begins to save up money for this vacation
  • 00:44:10.210 --> 00:44:12.140
  • to New York.
  • 00:44:12.150 --> 00:44:14.130
  • Well, eventually what happens--
  • 00:44:14.140 --> 00:44:15.290
  • can we leave that slide up, by the way?
  • 00:44:16.000 --> 00:44:17.070
  • Is that all right?
  • 00:44:17.080 --> 00:44:18.160
  • Just so people can follow this.
  • 00:44:18.170 --> 00:44:19.240
  • So that shame then leads to-- so he's, like,
  • 00:44:19.250 --> 00:44:21.200
  • "Okay, I am not worthy of love and belonging as an alcoholic.
  • 00:44:21.210 --> 00:44:25.230
  • Therefore, I need to stop being an alcoholic and begin to,
  • 00:44:25.240 --> 00:44:28.250
  • you know, re-earn the love back."
  • 00:44:28.260 --> 00:44:30.230
  • So one day he decides to work late because he's, like,
  • 00:44:30.240 --> 00:44:34.090
  • "If I do that I'll earn a little extra money for this trip
  • 00:44:34.100 --> 00:44:36.120
  • to New York."
  • 00:44:36.130 --> 00:44:37.290
  • And he comes home a little bit late,
  • 00:44:38.000 --> 00:44:39.260
  • and when he comes to the door
  • 00:44:39.270 --> 00:44:41.040
  • his wife begins yelling at him: "Where have you been?
  • 00:44:41.050 --> 00:44:43.120
  • I've texted you, I've called you,
  • 00:44:43.130 --> 00:44:45.010
  • you haven't answered the phone.
  • 00:44:45.020 --> 00:44:46.160
  • You always do this."
  • 00:44:46.170 --> 00:44:48.090
  • He realizes his phone has been on airplane mode
  • 00:44:48.100 --> 00:44:50.170
  • because he wanted to really focus on his work,
  • 00:44:50.180 --> 00:44:52.280
  • and so when he turns his phone back on regular
  • 00:44:52.290 --> 00:44:55.020
  • he realizes he missed all this and never called his wife back.
  • 00:44:55.030 --> 00:44:57.140
  • So they have this big fight, and they're yelling,
  • 00:44:57.150 --> 00:44:59.230
  • "You don't understand me," et cetera,
  • 00:44:59.240 --> 00:45:01.100
  • and they just end up going to bed angry.
  • 00:45:01.110 --> 00:45:04.100
  • Well, the next day he wakes up, and he's wanted a drink
  • 00:45:04.110 --> 00:45:06.290
  • every single day, but this morning it is bad.
  • 00:45:07.000 --> 00:45:09.280
  • It is like in his body.
  • 00:45:09.290 --> 00:45:11.150
  • He really, really feels like he needs a drink.
  • 00:45:11.160 --> 00:45:15.070
  • He's starting to wonder if he should even go to New York.
  • 00:45:15.080 --> 00:45:17.170
  • Does his wife--is his wife done with their marriage?
  • 00:45:17.180 --> 00:45:19.220
  • Are they still into it?
  • 00:45:19.230 --> 00:45:21.130
  • So this functions as an emotional trigger, this fight,
  • 00:45:21.140 --> 00:45:24.090
  • that creates this craving.
  • 00:45:24.100 --> 00:45:26.040
  • So the craving which is normal, like, now is this huge,
  • 00:45:26.050 --> 00:45:29.010
  • huge craving and all day he's struggling with it.
  • 00:45:29.020 --> 00:45:32.000
  • So on his way home, he does this thing called the ritual
  • 00:45:32.010 --> 00:45:35.050
  • where he's going to drive by the bar.
  • 00:45:35.060 --> 00:45:37.200
  • He's going to go by, you know, the Lily Tavern,
  • 00:45:37.210 --> 00:45:40.160
  • and he's not going to get a drink.
  • 00:45:40.170 --> 00:45:42.080
  • He just wants to go by and see how--
  • 00:45:42.090 --> 00:45:44.010
  • see how the old place is holding up, you know?
  • 00:45:44.020 --> 00:45:46.090
  • And he goes by, and he sees one of his friends, Bill,
  • 00:45:46.100 --> 00:45:48.240
  • and as Bill is out there smoking a cigarette, and he says, "Joe,
  • 00:45:48.250 --> 00:45:51.270
  • it's so good to see you.
  • 00:45:51.280 --> 00:45:53.150
  • How have you been? You should come in."
  • 00:45:53.160 --> 00:45:54.290
  • He says, "No, no, no, I'm done drinking.
  • 00:45:55.000 --> 00:45:56.170
  • I'm quitting.
  • 00:45:56.180 --> 00:45:58.040
  • I need to, you know, get my life together.
  • 00:45:58.050 --> 00:46:00.020
  • I'm trying to be healthy."
  • 00:46:00.030 --> 00:46:01.190
  • And he says, "Well, just come on in.
  • 00:46:01.200 --> 00:46:03.030
  • You don't have to have a drink.
  • 00:46:03.040 --> 00:46:04.140
  • Why don't you come on and say hi to the guys?"
  • 00:46:04.150 --> 00:46:06.110
  • So he says, "Okay, I'll go in."
  • 00:46:06.120 --> 00:46:07.260
  • So he goes into the bar and says hello to his friends, and he
  • 00:46:07.270 --> 00:46:09.250
  • sits down at the bar and immediately the bartender
  • 00:46:09.260 --> 00:46:12.000
  • puts his favorite beer down and says, "This one's on the house.
  • 00:46:12.010 --> 00:46:15.150
  • Haven't seen you in a while, Joe."
  • 00:46:15.160 --> 00:46:17.190
  • And now it's really bad.
  • 00:46:17.200 --> 00:46:19.030
  • I mean, it's the moment of truth.
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  • Does he take a drink of this beer?
  • 00:46:20.160 --> 00:46:22.040
  • He says, "No, no, I've quit."
  • 00:46:22.050 --> 00:46:23.230
  • And his friends, of course, say, "You can have one beer.
  • 00:46:23.240 --> 00:46:26.080
  • One beer won't get you drunk.
  • 00:46:26.090 --> 00:46:27.220
  • It won't even get you tipsy. Just enjoy a beer.
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  • Just be with your friends. Have one."
  • 00:46:29.270 --> 00:46:32.030
  • And before you know it, one leads to two,
  • 00:46:32.040 --> 00:46:33.290
  • and two leads to four, and four leads to eight,
  • 00:46:34.000 --> 00:46:36.140
  • and eventually he's on this bender,
  • 00:46:36.150 --> 00:46:38.200
  • and he comes home so slobbering drunk.
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  • He walks home.
  • 00:46:41.230 --> 00:46:43.120
  • His wife doesn't even say anything.
  • 00:46:43.130 --> 00:46:45.000
  • She's just ice-cold.
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  • They both go to bed.
  • 00:46:46.240 --> 00:46:48.160
  • And now he wakes up with this tremendous amount of shame.
  • 00:46:48.170 --> 00:46:51.220
  • And it just reinforces it.
  • 00:46:51.230 --> 00:46:53.270
  • "I'll never be sober.
  • 00:46:53.280 --> 00:46:55.260
  • I'll never get my life together."
  • 00:46:55.270 --> 00:46:58.100
  • And what addiction science actually shows us
  • 00:46:58.110 --> 00:47:00.150
  • and what the Scriptures show us is that the biggest problem
  • 00:47:00.160 --> 00:47:04.080
  • is that Joe believes he is not worthy of love
  • 00:47:04.090 --> 00:47:07.070
  • and belonging as an alcoholic, that the only time he'll truly
  • 00:47:07.080 --> 00:47:10.270
  • be worthy of love and belonging is when he's sober,
  • 00:47:10.280 --> 00:47:14.280
  • when he's got his life together,
  • 00:47:14.290 --> 00:47:16.140
  • when he's figured everything out.
  • 00:47:16.150 --> 00:47:18.010
  • When that happens, then he'll be worthy of love and belonging.
  • 00:47:18.020 --> 00:47:20.280
  • And so what he feels like he has to do is white-knuckle
  • 00:47:20.290 --> 00:47:23.240
  • his way into sobriety.
  • 00:47:23.250 --> 00:47:25.220
  • White-knuckle his way into worthiness, all alone.
  • 00:47:25.230 --> 00:47:29.190
  • And that's the worst thing he can do.
  • 00:47:29.200 --> 00:47:31.110
  • And this is true of any addiction,
  • 00:47:31.120 --> 00:47:33.040
  • any substance addiction, eating disorders, shopping,
  • 00:47:33.050 --> 00:47:37.120
  • sexual addiction, which is through the roof.
  • 00:47:37.130 --> 00:47:40.190
  • Pornography use is incredibly high in the US now,
  • 00:47:40.200 --> 00:47:43.130
  • gambling addiction, cutting, exercise.
  • 00:47:43.140 --> 00:47:46.230
  • Some people are addicted to exercise.
  • 00:47:46.240 --> 00:47:48.190
  • I wish I had that addiction.
  • 00:47:48.200 --> 00:47:50.070
  • If I had to pick one, that wouldn't be so bad to me,
  • 00:47:50.080 --> 00:47:51.280
  • but if that's your addiction--
  • 00:47:51.290 --> 00:47:55.250
  • there is this thing that reinforces--
  • 00:47:55.260 --> 00:47:58.070
  • so anything that we have that I am only worthy of love
  • 00:47:58.080 --> 00:48:01.270
  • and belonging when I beat this thing.
  • 00:48:01.280 --> 00:48:05.010
  • And what Joe could have done, maybe, was instead of saying,
  • 00:48:05.020 --> 00:48:07.230
  • "I'm going to get better, I'm going to white-knuckle
  • 00:48:07.240 --> 00:48:09.190
  • my way through," what his wife probably needed was for him
  • 00:48:09.200 --> 00:48:12.200
  • to say, "I am an alcoholic.
  • 00:48:12.210 --> 00:48:16.140
  • I don't have any control. I hate this thing about myself.
  • 00:48:16.150 --> 00:48:21.090
  • I need you to help me.
  • 00:48:21.100 --> 00:48:23.130
  • I need you to be on my side, and I need the support
  • 00:48:23.140 --> 00:48:27.040
  • to get through this because I can't do it alone."
  • 00:48:27.050 --> 00:48:30.060
  • See, there, he would have realized from his wife,
  • 00:48:30.070 --> 00:48:32.240
  • that would have been, one, so meaningful to her,
  • 00:48:32.250 --> 00:48:36.120
  • but more than that he would have experienced
  • 00:48:36.130 --> 00:48:38.120
  • more than likely some love from her
  • 00:48:38.130 --> 00:48:41.120
  • towards him as an imperfect man.
  • 00:48:41.130 --> 00:48:44.260
  • And this is what we all need.
  • 00:48:44.270 --> 00:48:46.150
  • This is why, you know, Alcoholics Anonymous
  • 00:48:46.160 --> 00:48:48.120
  • isn't perfect, but one of the most important things they do
  • 00:48:48.130 --> 00:48:51.040
  • is when you walk into an AA meeting,
  • 00:48:51.050 --> 00:48:54.010
  • they love you as an alcoholic.
  • 00:48:54.020 --> 00:48:56.060
  • So if Joe goes to an AA meeting, and he walks in, and he says,
  • 00:48:56.070 --> 00:48:59.170
  • "Hi, my name is Joe. I am an alcoholic,"
  • 00:48:59.180 --> 00:49:02.220
  • they don't say, "Here's how we're going to fix you.
  • 00:49:02.230 --> 00:49:04.190
  • Here's what you gotta do."
  • 00:49:04.200 --> 00:49:06.050
  • I mean, that stuff does come, but it's later.
  • 00:49:06.060 --> 00:49:07.240
  • That's not the first thing they say.
  • 00:49:07.250 --> 00:49:09.120
  • When Joe walks in and says, "I am an alcoholic,"
  • 00:49:09.130 --> 00:49:11.200
  • what does everybody say?
  • 00:49:11.210 --> 00:49:13.120
  • "Hi, Joe," right?
  • 00:49:13.130 --> 00:49:15.100
  • It's a way of totally accepting Joe right where he is
  • 00:49:15.110 --> 00:49:19.050
  • on his journey, just as he is with all of his flaws.
  • 00:49:19.060 --> 00:49:23.040
  • What happens when people come into a church
  • 00:49:23.050 --> 00:49:24.290
  • and they say, "Hi, I'm Joe. I'm an alcoholic"?
  • 00:49:25.000 --> 00:49:27.060
  • What do we say to them?
  • 00:49:27.070 --> 00:49:28.280
  • We say, "Let us fix you. We can fix you."
  • 00:49:28.290 --> 00:49:32.160
  • And what we're unconsciously saying to that person is,
  • 00:49:32.170 --> 00:49:35.150
  • "You'll belong in this church when you're fixed."
  • 00:49:35.160 --> 00:49:40.070
  • You see the difference between you belong when you're fixed
  • 00:49:40.080 --> 00:49:42.180
  • and you belong just as you are?
  • 00:49:42.190 --> 00:49:44.200
  • And that's why so much of the vision--
  • 00:49:44.210 --> 00:49:46.120
  • our vision for this church is to love people right where
  • 00:49:46.130 --> 00:49:49.200
  • they are, just as they are.
  • 00:49:49.210 --> 00:49:53.030
  • Whether or not they're ready to get better
  • 00:49:53.040 --> 00:49:55.110
  • or to get whole or to get sober,
  • 00:49:55.120 --> 00:49:57.050
  • to get clean or to do any of those things.
  • 00:49:57.060 --> 00:49:59.180
  • That they always know that when they're at their worst,
  • 00:49:59.190 --> 00:50:02.000
  • when they're drunk, addicted, high, broken,
  • 00:50:02.010 --> 00:50:06.170
  • divorced, hurting, depressed, anxious,
  • 00:50:06.180 --> 00:50:09.270
  • that at a place like Shepherd's Grove,
  • 00:50:09.280 --> 00:50:11.200
  • they will always have a home.
  • 00:50:11.210 --> 00:50:13.140
  • They will always have a community of people who are--
  • 00:50:13.150 --> 00:50:16.130
  • who just love on them because God did that for us
  • 00:50:16.140 --> 00:50:20.070
  • when we were hurting, and we were broken.
  • 00:50:20.080 --> 00:50:22.020
  • And quite frankly, there's a lot of broken people already
  • 00:50:22.030 --> 00:50:23.250
  • in the church and so we need each other, amen?
  • 00:50:23.260 --> 00:50:26.210
  • And that's the vision. That is the vision.
  • 00:50:26.220 --> 00:50:28.080
  • The idea that God healed us through grace.
  • 00:50:28.090 --> 00:50:33.190
  • See, human beings are not machines.
  • 00:50:33.200 --> 00:50:35.190
  • They don't need fixing, they need healing.
  • 00:50:35.200 --> 00:50:38.240
  • Healing-- living things need healing,
  • 00:50:38.250 --> 00:50:40.290
  • and healing comes through being loved even when you're sick,
  • 00:50:41.000 --> 00:50:47.060
  • and so that's what we're trying to do.
  • 00:50:47.070 --> 00:50:49.080
  • Speaking of sick, this is the medicine: bonding.
  • 00:50:49.090 --> 00:50:53.270
  • Bonding is medicine.
  • 00:50:53.280 --> 00:50:57.130
  • To bond with someone means that someone sees you deeply
  • 00:50:57.140 --> 00:51:00.290
  • and loves you just as you are.
  • 00:51:01.000 --> 00:51:03.250
  • People, we need this.
  • 00:51:03.260 --> 00:51:05.120
  • We need this from-- we can't get it
  • 00:51:05.130 --> 00:51:06.290
  • from everybody, but we need it with our closest friends,
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  • with our family members, and especially with the Lord.
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  • We need to bond with God and with our neighbor.
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  • One story that kind of spells this out: I remember hearing
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  • a story about a young girl.
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  • She bounced around the foster care system and you know,
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  • her whole life she would, like, go to a home,
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  • and she'd misbehave and then you know,
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  • she would do something bad enough that finally
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  • the family would kick her out and say, you know,
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  • "You gotta take her back.
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  • We can't handle this girl anymore."
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  • And this kept happening over and over, you know?
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  • She'd misbehave, and then she'd have to leave her home,
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  • and one day this family came and they said, "Little girl,
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  • we're adopting you even though you have some
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  • behavioral traits that need some work.
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  • We're going to just take you into our family
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  • just as you are."
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  • And they even rolled out a contract.
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  • They changed her last name to their last name.
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  • Everybody signed the contract.
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  • They framed it and they put it on the wall so that every day
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  • she could see it and they could see it,
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  • and guess what happened to her behavior?
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  • It got worse than ever, right?
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  • It was the worst.
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  • All of a--worse than any other family.
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  • She was getting in fights at school,
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  • she was cussing and stealing
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  • and doing all this horrible stuff.
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  • Why did her behavior get worse and not better?
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  • What do you think?
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  • Anyone who has ever struggled with the idea that someone
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  • can know me and love me even when I'm out of line
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  • knows why she did this.
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  • It's 'cause she didn't have faith in it.
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  • She didn't believe it.
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  • She didn't believe that there wasn't a line
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  • she could cross, and so she's, like,
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  • "I'm just going to speed this process up."
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  • And what she found out was that those parents of hers,
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  • no matter how bad she got, they continued to love her.
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  • They made boundaries, they disciplined her,
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  • they said no, but they never shamed her.
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  • They were never condescending.
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  • They were never mean.
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  • They just continued to love her and guide her
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  • and eventually she healed, and she got better
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  • because doing that long enough led her to believe
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  • that these parents are for real, that they really do love me.
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  • And so as an adult she tells the story, you know,
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  • that I needed to believe that I was a family member,
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  • not a well-behaved guest.
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  • You are a family member of God.
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  • You are not one of his well-behaved guests.
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  • He is on your side.
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  • He is for you.
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  • He is with you.
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  • Everything he does in your life is good and only good,
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  • and we can trust that.
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  • That's his favor in your life.
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  • That's what grace means.
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  • It means favor, like Haven's jog-a-thon
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  • I talked about last week.
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  • You know, he's just rooting for you and cheering for you,
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  • and he is on your side.
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  • I think that when we think God is against us, we get really
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  • mean, and it becomes really hard to bond with our neighbor.
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  • This one last story, this one's a little dark,
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  • but I remember there's a pastor who's very well known
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  • and very judgmental.
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  • He's actually a really good Bible teacher in many ways,
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  • but I remember talking to one of his colleagues,
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  • and I said, "Why is--"
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  • He's this old guy, you know.
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  • "Why is this guy so mean all the time?
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  • He's always mean to everybody: "You're worthless,
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  • you're worthless, you're worthless,
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  • you're worthless."
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  • And he said, "Bobby, let me tell you a story.
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  • When this guy was a little boy, he was, like,
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  • nine years old or something and one day he did something
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  • really bad and his dad was pretty strict
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  • and his dad was so upset he took him out
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  • of the back of the house, dragged him across the lawn,
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  • and chained him to a tree,
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  • and put a sign around his neck that said 'Worthless'
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  • and left him out there overnight."
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  • And then he said, "And I begin to think, you know,
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  • imagine what that would have been like as a child
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  • to have your father do that.
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  • You know, boys, they want to earn their dad's love
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  • and respect and then to be just treated with such contempt.
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  • Imagine at 2, 3 in the morning, it's cold,
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  • and you hear animal sounds.
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  • Where was his mother?
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  • You know, all these feelings and emotions."
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  • And it helped me to see this old preacher in a new way,
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  • this guy who's in his 80s now.
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  • When I see him preaching and saying,
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  • "You're worthless and you're going to hell
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  • and you're horrible,"
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  • I'm like, "Man, this guy is saying it to himself."
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  • But you know, God loves that old preacher,
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  • and I think it's going to be amazing that someday
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  • when he comes to the Judgment Seat,
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  • God will say, "Why didn't you believe I loved you?"
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  • Maybe he'll say, "'Cause my dad abused me."
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  • I don't know.
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  • Let's have grace for mean people, huh?
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  • We never know when people have been hurt or wounded
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  • by the people they needed love from the most in their life.
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  • And let's learn that this kind of thing that we do to people,
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  • judgment, proclamations of "You're worthless,"
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  • that it doesn't make people better,
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  • that we need to bond deeply with others,
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  • with our neighbor, in order to heal
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  • and to become more like Jesus.
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  • That is the gospel.
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  • And that is the kind of thinking we need to have.
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  • Stop beating yourself up.
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  • Don't be so hard on yourself.
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  • Believe in what the Scripture says about you,
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  • that there is no condemnation, that you are loved by God.
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  • So, Father, we just believe in that.
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  • And we agree with that, Lord, that you love us.
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  • And we're going to run into your arms
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  • just as we would towards a loving grandfather
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  • or parent who is on our side.
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  • We're just--we want to be happy and overjoyed to see you.
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  • We thank you, Lord, that you love us
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  • just as we are and not as we should be.
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  • It's in Christ's name we pray, amen.
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  • God of our fathers, whose almighty hand
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  • leads forth in beauty all the starry band
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  • of shining worlds in splendor through the skies
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  • our grateful songs before thy throne arise
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  • Amen
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  • Bobby: And now the Lord bless you and keep you.
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  • The Lord make his face to shine upon you
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  • and be gracious unto you.
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  • The Lord lift his countenance upon you and give you his peace.
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  • In the name of the Father and of the Son
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  • and of the Holy Spirit, amen.
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