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Letting Go of Others

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August 3, 2019
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Hour of Power with Bobby Schuller

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  • Now, let's join the worship service.
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  • Joyful, joyful, we adore you
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  • God of glory, Lord of love
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  • Hearts unfold like flow'rs before you
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  • op'ning to the sun above
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  • Melt the clouds of sin and sadness
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  • drive the dark of doubt away
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  • Giver of immortal gladness, fill us with the light of day
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  • Amen, Amen
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  • Amen!
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  • Bobby Schuller: This is the day the Lord has made.
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  • We will rejoice and be glad in it.
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  • Good morning.
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  • Hannah Schuller: And welcome, church family, and a special
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  • welcome to our first time visitors.
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  • We might not all have the same beliefs, but we all struggle
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  • with the same stuff.
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  • You have more in common with us than you might think, and we are
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  • so glad you took a risk and decided to join us today.
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  • Bobby: Amen, and I want to commend the ladies
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  • on the second row here, your hat game is amazing today.
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  • Ten out of ten. I don't know what's going on.
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  • Very solid, very solid.
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  • And we're just so glad you're here, by the way, we really are.
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  • And we hope that whatever you're looking for from the Lord,
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  • we pray that he's going to meet you in that place.
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  • We believe that one word from God can change a life forever.
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  • And so, we're going to ask that your prayers--a lot of us are
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  • coming in here smiling, we're acting joyful,
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  • and that's a nice thing to do.
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  • But inside, some of us are struggling or worried.
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  • And today we're just going to stop worrying.
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  • We're going to trust it to the Lord.
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  • So Father, we thank you, we love you.
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  • We thank you that you meet us right where we are,
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  • that we don't have to pretend around you.
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  • Thank you, God, that the people that we care about,
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  • who we're praying for, that you, Lord,
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  • are already acting in their life.
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  • Thank you, God, that you love us.
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  • We pray all these things in Jesus's name, amen.
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  • Hannah: Amen.
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  • Turn around and shake the hand of the person next to you
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  • and say, "God loves you, and so do I."
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  • Bobby: We all go through circumstances and seasons
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  • that are difficult.
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  • You might even feel like you're in the middle of one right now.
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  • If so, I really hope you receive this truth.
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  • God has made a way for you to experience
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  • peace in your life.
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  • He will get you to the other side of your storm.
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  • announcer: If you feel like you're experiencing
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  • a storm in your life, whether in your health,
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  • finances, or relationships, you can have hope today
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  • knowing that God sees what you're going through,
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  • and he wants to calm the storms of your life.
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  • and he will get you through it.
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  • God, I look to you
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  • I won't be overwhelmed
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  • Give me vision to see things like you do
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  • God, I look to you
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  • you're where my help comes from
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  • Give me wisdom, you know just what to do
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  • And I will love you, Lord, my strength
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  • I will love you, Lord, my shield
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  • I will love you, Lord, my rock forever
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  • All my days I will love you, God
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  • God, I look to you
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  • I won't be overwhelmed
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  • Give me vision to see things like you do
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  • God, I look to you
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  • you're where my help comes from
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  • Give me wisdom, you know just what to do
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  • And I will love you, Lord, my strength
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  • And I will love you, Lord, my shield
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  • I will love you, Lord, my rock forever
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  • All my days I will love you, God
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  • Hallelujah, our God reigns
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  • Hallelujah, our God reigns
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  • Hallelujah, our God reigns forever
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  • All my days, I will love you, God
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  • Hallelujah, our God reigns
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  • Hallelujah, our God reigns
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  • Hallelujah, our God reigns forever
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  • All my days I will love you, God
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  • [congregation applauding]
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  • Hannah: In preparation for the message,
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  • the words of Jesus written by Matthew in Matthew 7:3.
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  • "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye
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  • and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
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  • How can you say to your brother,
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  • 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,'
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  • when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
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  • You hypocrite!
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  • First take the plank out of your own eye,
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  • and then you will see clearly to remove the speck
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  • from your brother's eye.
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  • Do not give dogs what is sacred.
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  • Do not throw your pearls to the pigs.
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  • If you do, they may trample them under their feet,
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  • and turn and tear you to pieces."
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  • Church family, we are striving to be people who lead
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  • through influence, not control, amen?
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  • [congregation applauding]
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  • Bobby: Well, we're so excited to have husband and wife
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  • Zach and Rachel King with us today.
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  • They met at Biola University and have competed
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  • on "The Amazing Race."
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  • Zach creates sleight of hand magic videos for his social
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  • media followers and advertisements, and Rachel works
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  • with him, and they're both proud parents of two boys.
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  • They're passionate advocates of foster care and ending the
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  • current foster crisis.
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  • Please welcome with me Rachel and Zach King.
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  • Hi guys.
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  • Zach King: Hi. Rachel King: Hi.
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  • Bobby: So, I actually, I remember watching your--
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  • remember, I watch your videos all the time on YouTube,
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  • they're great, you have a huge following.
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  • One that's very funny because, you know, I'm a pastor and I
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  • think we should make fun of ourselves, is this one.
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  • Can we show it real quick?
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  • Zach: Is it a sin to sleep in church?
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  • Yeah.
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  • [congregation laughing]
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  • Bobby: You look really uncomfortable.
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  • Zach: If anyone--it's on you, you're going to get emails
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  • tomorrow from some people.
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  • Bobby: Most of your videos, they're like surreal sleight of
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  • hand videos, like you'll put Coke bottles on your feet
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  • and fly around.
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  • Zach: Yeah, digital illusions, magic.
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  • Bobby: Change it, it's really cool, you do a good job.
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  • And of course, I'm sure--you went to Biola, you probably grew
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  • up in church and have probably been to your share
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  • of boring church services.
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  • Zach: A couple. Not this one, this one's lively.
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  • You guys are--this choir and band is legit.
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  • Bobby: Awesome, thank you.
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  • Well, first, let me congratulate you guys, because I think it's
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  • great that you're using your pretty big social media platform
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  • to promote something that's hugely important to a lot of us,
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  • and that is the foster care issue.
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  • And you actually just competed your first adoption
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  • of your foster kid, right?
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  • Rachel: Yeah, we finalized our adoption
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  • in April of Mason, who's two.
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  • So, we've had him since he was seven weeks,
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  • and we just finalized that adoption.
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  • Bobby: Great. How did that go for you?
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  • I mean, you had wasn't it like--
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  • didn't you also have a son around the same time?
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  • Zach: Yeah, it's funny, when you start doing foster care,
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  • all of a sudden you get pregnant.
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  • And that's a common thing that happens.
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  • Rachel: Yeah, so we gave birth to Liam,
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  • or I gave birth to Liam last summer.
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  • So, he just turned one, and then Mason is a little over two.
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  • Bobby: So, they're two and one right now.
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  • Rachel: Yes.
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  • Bobby: So, you haven't slept in about two years.
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  • Rachel: Right, right. Zach: Prayers here, yeah.
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  • Bobby: That's awesome.
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  • Well, you know, we as a church, we're partnering with Zero
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  • by 2020, which is this, you know, thing to help get rid
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  • of the foster--not get rid of foster kids,
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  • that sounds terrible, but to help the foster program,
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  • you know, end the foster program and really bring--
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  • you know, find homes for everyone.
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  • But you know, there might be people here that are watching
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  • and they're like, "I can't-- I just can't adopt a kid
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  • or I can't foster a kid right now."
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  • What is something, you know, people at churches all over,
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  • people here, something that people can do individually
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  • to help with this real crisis?
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  • Zach: I think the first thing that's really practical is your
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  • church probably has foster families here already planted
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  • in this church.
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  • And it's coming around them and seeing the needs
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  • that they have just as a family.
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  • It's a hard system, you have to work with the government,
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  • and there's a lot of requirements,
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  • and it just takes a lot of time that, you know,
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  • already raising a biological kid is tough.
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  • But adding the whole government stuff with it,
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  • it makes it extremely difficult and time consuming.
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  • But we found that when we invite people into our lives and just,
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  • "Hey, can you watch our kids for us?"
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  • And they hear about the foster system that way,
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  • and it's a great way to kind of break down
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  • the wall of, like, mystery of what is the foster system.
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  • It sounds complicated, or scary, or daunting, or impossible.
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  • And people think, "Oh, you're saints for doing it."
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  • But it's really-- it's not too crazy.
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  • And so, we invite people into our lives, and that way they get
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  • to naturally kind of see if it's a good integration
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  • for their family.
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  • Bobby: Totally, yeah.
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  • Rachel: I mean, it's-- being a foster parent,
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  • you have added responsibilities.
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  • You have paperwork, you have social worker meeting
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  • sometimes weekly for a season.
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  • And so it is--you have more responsibility.
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  • So, like Zach was saying, just supporting those families
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  • and adoptive families is huge so that they can keep going
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  • through this journey.
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  • Bobby: It's such a good word really
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  • because so often we think the only way I can make
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  • a difference in the foster care program
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  • is to be a foster parent.
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  • But the truth is there are a lot of--I think it's something like
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  • if every church in America had just one foster family,
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  • that would solve the foster care problem.
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  • So, if you have a family in your church that's fostering,
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  • babysitting for them is a great way to help them keep their
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  • spirits alive, help their marriage thrive.
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  • Those are big challenges that we have to face.
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  • What about people that are thinking of fostering
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  • and they something--
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  • they say something like, "I'm just going to get
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  • too attached and I'm going to, you know, bond with this kid,
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  • and then they're going to go back into the system.
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  • I'll have to like--"
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  • What do you say to people like that?
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  • Rachel: We probably get that comment the most
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  • out of any other comment.
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  • And we would say you're the exact person to foster because
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  • you have to get attached, you have to be willing to take on
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  • that pain so the child can learn healthy attachment.
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  • And we always say, you know, we know God will give us the tools
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  • to heal, so we take that on so that the child can have
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  • a safe home for either a season or for life.
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  • Bobby: That's an awesome-- that's awesome that
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  • that's the question you get the most.
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  • I would think it would be, "I can't just get a kid."
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  • But people are saying,
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  • "I wouldn't be able to keep the kid."
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  • That's interesting.
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  • But it's a great response is that they're
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  • the perfect person to do it.
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  • That's kind of what I tell people about prayer,
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  • like you should pray with people.
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  • And if praying with people sounds awkward, then you're
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  • the right person to pray with them because you're going
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  • to understand, like, the social awkwardness.
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  • Like, you're going to be appropriate in your prayer,
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  • you know?
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  • And I think that's probably true for a lot of things that we feel
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  • scared about doing for God, especially when it comes
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  • to caring for foster kids.
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  • Well, that's awesome, we're so proud of you guys.
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  • And so, what do you say to people right now who are
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  • fostering or others who are feeling discouraged
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  • in that process?
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  • Do you have a word of encouragement
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  • for someone like that?
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  • Zach: You know, it's putting good people in your life to help
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  • support you in it is so crucial.
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  • And we've found her parents are local, we've got friends
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  • in the foster system as well that work with us.
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  • Having a great agency, so just trying to pad your life
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  • with people who can help encourage you.
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  • And maybe you do--we've had friends who have gone through
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  • hard seasons of foster and need to take a season off and, like,
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  • focus on their biological kids for a little bit,
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  • or figure out if it's the right timing.
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  • And so, there's a lot of little nuances with different families.
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  • Rachel: And I would say too just remember that even if you
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  • don't see any fruit this side of eternity, God is working.
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  • And however long a child may be in your home, or even however
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  • long a child may be in the home of somebody that you support
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  • and care for, that is impacting that child for the rest
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  • of their life.
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  • You get to pray for them.
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  • Even if they do go home, you get to pray for them for the rest
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  • of their life and your life, so that's huge.
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  • Bobby: And I think we have a lot of viewers too who are
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  • seeking, they may not have become Christians yet, or
  • 00:19:20.090 --> 00:19:22.050
  • they're thinking about it, they don't have a church.
  • 00:19:22.060 --> 00:19:24.010
  • But that's another great reason to get involved with a church
  • 00:19:24.020 --> 00:19:26.080
  • is if you're thinking about fostering, a lot of churches
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  • are going to be there for you to help you, like,
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  • take care of this kid.
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  • They're going to be there for you to--you know,
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  • to help you through the process, and they can help you pad,
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  • as you said, you know, your little village
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  • in that way, so.
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  • Well, this is awesome.
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  • Zach and Rachel King, thank you so much for all you're doing.
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  • We're going to try and do our part to make a small dent
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  • in a big problem.
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  • And you guys are making a big impact,
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  • and we're thankful for you.
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  • God bless you.
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  • Rachel: Thank you.
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  • [congregation applauding]
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  • Tim McCalmont: You know, coming up really soon at the end
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  • of the month is the Royal Family Kids Camp.
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  • This is an annual mission of our congregation where we help put
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  • on a camp for kids in the area that are in foster homes.
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  • And it's really an amazing event.
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  • And in line with that, we've recently held a drive to collect
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  • shoes, new shoes to give to these children.
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  • And we've collected over 70 pair of new shoes, and so we're going
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  • to send them along to the camp.
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  • And so, we want to remember that camp and remember those who go.
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  • This is a camp set up for kids who live a very traumatic,
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  • troubled life.
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  • And we give them a week when they can just be a kid,
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  • and when they can enjoy all kinds of things like birthdays
  • 00:20:46.290 --> 00:20:50.100
  • and gifts and meeting the Savior.
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  • And so, we want to pray for the kids and for the volunteers
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  • who go to staff that camp for that week.
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  • In that spirit, let's join together in a time of prayer.
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  • Lord, we're called to prayer as the psalmist sings,
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  • "Praise the Lord.
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  • Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good.
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  • His faithful love endures forever."
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  • And Lord, this day we lift up the Royal Family Kids Camp.
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  • We thank you for Curtis and those who have worked hard
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  • here to make that a reality over the years.
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  • And Lord, we pray for the children
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  • who will receive these shoes.
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  • May they have a sense when they slip them on that these are not
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  • just new shoes, but these come from the love of God,
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  • from the love you have for them and from the love we have
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  • for them as your church.
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  • Lord, we ask these prayers sincerely in the name of your
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  • Son, Jesus Christ, amen.
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  • Bobby: Hannah and I are so happy you've joined us
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  • in worship today.
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  • We hope that you have found incredible hope and inspiration
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  • from this program.
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  • We can all go through circumstances
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  • and seasons that are difficult.
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  • You might even feel like you're in the middle of one right now.
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  • If so, I really hope you receive this truth.
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  • God has made a way for you to experience his dynamic power
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  • and live in peace.
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  • The reason I can confidently share this
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  • is because God's Word confidently tells it.
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  • In fact, there's one specific story that comes to mind.
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  • In Luke chapter 8, Jesus and his disciples
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  • were crossing a lake when a storm suddenly arose.
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  • As you can imagine, the disciples freaked out
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  • and looked to Jesus for a solution
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  • only to discover he was sleeping.
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  • After they woke him up, Jesus simply spoke peace to the storm,
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  • and instantly it stopped.
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  • Just like the peace and deliverance Jesus
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  • brought to his disciples that day,
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  • I just know he wants to do the same
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  • for you in your life.
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  • Hannah: In John 16:33, Jesus gives us this amazing promise.
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  • "I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace.
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  • In this world, you will have trouble.
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  • But take heart, I have overcome the world."
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  • Yes, there are moments when you might feel alone,
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  • with no clear vision that things are ever going to change.
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  • But if you stand in faith, you can believe God is with you
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  • no matter what kind of storm you face.
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  • And you can trust that he will bring you through it.
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  • Bobby: This is something both Hannah and I
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  • actively do every single day.
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  • We remember and remind ourselves that those storms may happen,
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  • Jesus is in the boat with us.
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  • He's called us to the other side.
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  • He gives us peace in the storm while helping us to get through.
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  • And he's going to do the same for you.
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  • I walk with God from this day on
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  • His loving hand will lead me on
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  • Help me, Lord, come closer to me
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  • Why should I fear while he's on my side?
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  • His love will stay forever
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  • and he'll forsake me never
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  • He will not fail me
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  • I'm weak, but my Lord is strong
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  • He watches over me all day long
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  • I walk with God, he takes my hand
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  • I talk to God, he understands
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  • Hears every word I say to him
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  • and he knows what's in my heart
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  • while I pray
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  • Lord, guide my steps and lead me on
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  • and I'll never walk alone
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  • since I walk with God
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  • from this day on
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  • [congregation applauding]
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  • Bobby: Friends, will you hold your hands out like this as
  • 00:27:50.090 --> 00:27:52.140
  • a way of receiving and let's say this creed together?
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  • I'm not what I do.
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  • I'm not what I have.
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  • I'm not what people say about me.
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  • I am the beloved of God. It's who I am.
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  • No one can take it from me. I don't have to worry.
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  • I don't have to hurry.
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  • I can trust my friend Jesus and share his love with the world.
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  • Thanks, you can be seated.
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  • Today, we're on a series on serenity.
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  • And today, I want to talk specifically about how
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  • we find serenity in leadership.
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  • So many of us, we don't view ourselves as leaders,
  • 00:28:33.280 --> 00:28:37.200
  • but we are, because a leader is anyone who has influence.
  • 00:28:37.210 --> 00:28:42.210
  • So, anytime you influence someone with your ideas,
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  • anytime you try to motivate somebody to go
  • 00:28:45.160 --> 00:28:47.090
  • in a particular direction,
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  • anytime you give somebody advice,
  • 00:28:48.200 --> 00:28:50.070
  • if they take that advice, you are leading them.
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  • So, leading is influence.
  • 00:28:52.210 --> 00:28:55.280
  • And very often we find ourselves in these leadership
  • 00:28:55.290 --> 00:28:59.020
  • roles, whether it's at your church or place of business,
  • 00:28:59.030 --> 00:29:02.270
  • leading your kids, leading your spouse, husband or wife.
  • 00:29:02.280 --> 00:29:07.050
  • Sometimes we lead our parents, sometimes we lead our enemies.
  • 00:29:07.060 --> 00:29:10.040
  • And very often as we're leading, influencing our kids, your
  • 00:29:10.050 --> 00:29:13.290
  • boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever, your near dweller,
  • 00:29:14.000 --> 00:29:17.260
  • we can become worried that,
  • 00:29:17.270 --> 00:29:20.130
  • "Hey, they're making the wrong decisions."
  • 00:29:20.140 --> 00:29:22.100
  • Or "Hey, they're going to go down the wrong path."
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  • And our anxiety goes way up.
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  • And instead of turning to God or praying about it, we're doing
  • 00:29:27.020 --> 00:29:30.130
  • the best we can to influence them, we tighten our control.
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  • We have this need to control others.
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  • And today, we're going to address that, that I believe
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  • the most effective way to influence people
  • 00:29:39.110 --> 00:29:41.290
  • is not to control them, but to obviously lead by example,
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  • and to pray for them and believe that, by faith,
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  • the Holy Spirit will fill in the gaps.
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  • I don't know about you, but I believe the Holy Spirit
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  • is better at leading than I am, what do you think?
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  • Amen.
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  • So, I will never forget years ago when we were pastoring
  • 00:29:58.190 --> 00:30:02.030
  • a church in Old Towne Orange at an American Legion hall.
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  • We were--we turned a dance hall into a church
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  • by bringing in chairs.
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  • Just below us was a bar.
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  • Sometimes you know, those guys would start celebrating even on
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  • a Sunday morning, and you could hear them below
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  • drinking, clanking, and playing music and--
  • 00:30:18.160 --> 00:30:21.270
  • but it actually made a great environment.
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  • And I remember at the time when that church
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  • really started to grow.
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  • It really culminated--it really started at one point
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  • when a guy named Dallas Willard,
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  • who was a friend of mine and mentor,
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  • and I think one of the most important authors in the last--
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  • maybe of the 20th century for Christianity,
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  • he came and he spoke at our church.
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  • And I think one reason why he had such an impact
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  • on so many people was not just his writing, but his--
  • 00:30:44.050 --> 00:30:48.090
  • he had like just a way of carrying himself
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  • that was so alluring.
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  • For example, on the day when he was preaching and we were--
  • 00:30:53.260 --> 00:30:56.170
  • we were actually interviewing him,
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  • in our church on the wooden floors, there was these--
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  • there were these signs that we had made out of plywood.
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  • And some gust of wind came or something,
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  • and you can actually see on the video
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  • the sign falls down and it smacks the wood so hard
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  • that it actually sounds like a gunshot.
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  • And the whole church, like everybody goes, "Whoa!"
  • 00:31:14.110 --> 00:31:16.050
  • like this, jumps up.
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  • There's several people standing up,
  • 00:31:17.240 --> 00:31:19.110
  • looking around to see what it was.
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  • And on the video, you could see the--
  • 00:31:21.130 --> 00:31:23.060
  • we three pastors who were interviewing Dallas,
  • 00:31:23.070 --> 00:31:25.080
  • we all shot up out of our chairs and got scared.
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  • And he was just like just Yoda, man.
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  • He was like just not even-- just so relaxed and chill.
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  • And that was not because he had a hearing problem, he didn't,
  • 00:31:36.210 --> 00:31:40.270
  • that's because--it's because he had this indwelling
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  • of the Spirit, this daily walk and trust with God.
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  • In other words, for Dallas, the proof was in the pudding.
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  • People who knew him wanted to read his books
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  • because of the kind of person he was.
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  • And that is the best way we can influence people.
  • 00:31:56.140 --> 00:31:59.060
  • Speaking of Dallas, it was that day when he was speaking
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  • effectively on leadership.
  • 00:32:02.030 --> 00:32:03.260
  • And when so many people tell us what to do as leaders
  • 00:32:03.270 --> 00:32:06.160
  • or as Christians, he was telling leaders what not to do.
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  • And he said, "Here's the three things
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  • you should not do when you're leading."
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  • He said, "Don't presume, don't pretend, and don't push."
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  • Don't presume, don't pretend, and don't push.
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  • Remember those three things.
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  • If you want to influence your kids, your grandkids,
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  • your neighbor, your spouse, your enemy, don't presume,
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  • don't pretend, and don't push.
  • 00:32:35.080 --> 00:32:38.030
  • It was interesting because years later, I was reading Sermon on
  • 00:32:38.040 --> 00:32:42.230
  • the Mount, studying it, and I found that in Matthew chapter 7
  • 00:32:42.240 --> 00:32:47.230
  • that actually these three things appeared in Matthew chapter 7.
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  • If you want to open your Bibles, Matthew chapter 7, verse 1.
  • 00:32:51.240 --> 00:32:55.130
  • This is the passage on do not judge or you too will be judged.
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  • But I actually believe that this is actually a passage
  • 00:32:58.230 --> 00:33:01.060
  • about influence and leadership, not as much about sin
  • 00:33:01.070 --> 00:33:04.210
  • and shame and all that stuff.
  • 00:33:04.220 --> 00:33:07.150
  • So, the first part, Jesus says,
  • 00:33:07.160 --> 00:33:08.250
  • "Do not judge or you too will be judged.
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  • For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged.
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  • And with the same measure you use,
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  • it will be measured against you."
  • 00:33:18.260 --> 00:33:20.270
  • I think traditionally many of us,
  • 00:33:20.280 --> 00:33:22.090
  • when we read this passage, we think,
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  • "If I judge my neighbor,
  • 00:33:23.250 --> 00:33:25.060
  • God is going to judge me," right?
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  • If I'm really harsh on my neighbor,
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  • God's really going to be harsh with me.
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  • That might be the case,
  • 00:33:31.200 --> 00:33:33.130
  • but I actually think what this passage is saying,
  • 00:33:33.140 --> 00:33:36.110
  • it's actually-- it's actually wisdom.
  • 00:33:36.120 --> 00:33:38.060
  • Don't you find that in the body of Jewish knowledge, when Jesus
  • 00:33:38.070 --> 00:33:41.220
  • is preaching, many rabbis would say this type of thing.
  • 00:33:41.230 --> 00:33:44.260
  • And the intent was not to say that if you judge other people,
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  • God will judge you.
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  • It's that if you judge your neighbor,
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  • your neighbor's going to judge you back.
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  • If you let loose on your neighbor,
  • 00:33:53.240 --> 00:33:55.190
  • your neighbor's going to let loose on you.
  • 00:33:55.200 --> 00:33:58.110
  • And we see that happening today in politics and religion
  • 00:33:58.120 --> 00:34:01.190
  • and every other place where debates are happening.
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  • When people lash out at one another,
  • 00:34:04.170 --> 00:34:06.050
  • when they judge, what happens?
  • 00:34:06.060 --> 00:34:08.110
  • Is the--does the person go, "You know what?
  • 00:34:08.120 --> 00:34:09.210
  • You're right.
  • 00:34:09.220 --> 00:34:11.020
  • You're right, I am a bad person, sorry.
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  • How can I be better?"
  • 00:34:13.110 --> 00:34:14.200
  • No, people, they go, "No, you're a bad person," right?
  • 00:34:14.210 --> 00:34:17.280
  • And this is almost every I think spousal fights sounds like this.
  • 00:34:17.290 --> 00:34:22.070
  • You did this. Well, you did that.
  • 00:34:22.080 --> 00:34:24.170
  • Well, you did this. Well, you did that.
  • 00:34:24.180 --> 00:34:27.020
  • And it goes up and up and up, and apparently nobody's
  • 00:34:27.030 --> 00:34:29.240
  • ever fought with their spouse here.
  • 00:34:29.250 --> 00:34:32.250
  • I guess, Hannah, it's just us.
  • 00:34:32.260 --> 00:34:36.170
  • Oh well. Anyway.
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  • And I think this is essentially presumption.
  • 00:34:41.190 --> 00:34:43.100
  • This is the first P, do not presume.
  • 00:34:43.110 --> 00:34:45.060
  • Jesus is saying, "Don't be--"
  • 00:34:45.070 --> 00:34:46.160
  • 'Cause judging someone is effectively making an assessment
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  • about them without caring about their story,
  • 00:34:50.260 --> 00:34:53.230
  • where they came from, why they did what they did,
  • 00:34:53.240 --> 00:34:56.130
  • how they hope to rectify it.
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  • Judgement is essentially just casting a label on someone,
  • 00:34:57.240 --> 00:35:01.220
  • presuming you know why they did it,
  • 00:35:01.230 --> 00:35:03.220
  • you know how they did it, you know all the details.
  • 00:35:03.230 --> 00:35:06.190
  • And so, judgment comes from a place of ego
  • 00:35:06.200 --> 00:35:08.200
  • and a place of pride.
  • 00:35:08.210 --> 00:35:10.000
  • And when you're the one being judged, it's incredibly
  • 00:35:10.010 --> 00:35:11.270
  • frustrating when you feel like this person casting this verdict
  • 00:35:11.280 --> 00:35:17.070
  • doesn't care about your story, doesn't care about you
  • 00:35:17.080 --> 00:35:19.050
  • personally, doesn't care about where you've been,
  • 00:35:19.060 --> 00:35:21.070
  • and doesn't care about how hard you've been trying.
  • 00:35:21.080 --> 00:35:23.000
  • All they care is you messed up.
  • 00:35:23.010 --> 00:35:24.100
  • And so, Jesus just tells us plainly don't do this because
  • 00:35:24.110 --> 00:35:27.160
  • what will happen is if you see the faults in other people,
  • 00:35:27.170 --> 00:35:30.170
  • people are going to do their best to see the faults in you.
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  • And buddy, let me tell you, they're going to find them.
  • 00:35:32.240 --> 00:35:36.140
  • So this is why this is an issue on leadership
  • 00:35:36.150 --> 00:35:38.010
  • is when we get frustrated with people we're trying to lead.
  • 00:35:38.020 --> 00:35:40.110
  • Very often we presume things about why they did
  • 00:35:40.120 --> 00:35:42.150
  • what they did, and we judge them.
  • 00:35:42.160 --> 00:35:44.180
  • And if you want to lead people well, you need to stop judging,
  • 00:35:44.190 --> 00:35:47.230
  • stop presuming.
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  • He carries on, he says, "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust
  • 00:35:50.010 --> 00:35:53.240
  • in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank
  • 00:35:53.250 --> 00:35:56.100
  • in your own eye?
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  • How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck
  • 00:35:58.000 --> 00:36:00.220
  • out of your eye,' when all the thing there is a plank
  • 00:36:00.230 --> 00:36:03.200
  • in your own eye?"
  • 00:36:03.210 --> 00:36:05.000
  • So, this is Jesus being funny.
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  • If you're hearing this in Aramaic in his day,
  • 00:36:06.110 --> 00:36:08.180
  • he's painting this hilarious image of a guy having
  • 00:36:08.190 --> 00:36:11.150
  • just a giant log jutting out of his eye socket, going like,
  • 00:36:11.160 --> 00:36:15.130
  • "Let me fix your speck here.
  • 00:36:15.140 --> 00:36:17.050
  • Let me--let me see."
  • 00:36:17.060 --> 00:36:19.080
  • And so, it was hilarious.
  • 00:36:19.090 --> 00:36:20.180
  • It's probably not as funny now 'cause it's in the Bible,
  • 00:36:20.190 --> 00:36:22.110
  • but that's just how things are, you know?
  • 00:36:22.120 --> 00:36:25.020
  • And Jesus is saying, you know, you need--
  • 00:36:25.030 --> 00:36:27.190
  • you have this giant thing.
  • 00:36:27.200 --> 00:36:29.140
  • You need to take it out of your eye before you can go around
  • 00:36:29.150 --> 00:36:32.140
  • telling people about the specks in their own eye.
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  • What is that? That's pretending, right?
  • 00:36:34.070 --> 00:36:35.160
  • That's the second P: don't pretend.
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  • Don't pretend.
  • 00:36:37.280 --> 00:36:39.150
  • Don't pretend like you're perfect,
  • 00:36:39.160 --> 00:36:40.250
  • don't pretend like you've got it all together.
  • 00:36:40.260 --> 00:36:42.150
  • Rather, when you remove the speck from your own eye,
  • 00:36:42.160 --> 00:36:44.250
  • you can say stuff like, "I've had stuff in my eyes before.
  • 00:36:44.260 --> 00:36:48.080
  • I know what it's like.
  • 00:36:48.090 --> 00:36:49.180
  • You think your speck is bad, I used to have this log
  • 00:36:49.190 --> 00:36:50.280
  • jutting out of my eye socket, nearly killed me."
  • 00:36:50.290 --> 00:36:53.290
  • Anyway, so don't pretend, right?
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  • Don't be a hypocrite. And why do we do that?
  • 00:36:55.190 --> 00:36:59.020
  • Why do we do that?
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  • So that we can see clearly to help our neighbor.
  • 00:37:00.150 --> 00:37:03.060
  • So, the point of all of this is actually so you can lead,
  • 00:37:03.070 --> 00:37:06.220
  • actually so you can speak, actually so you can
  • 00:37:06.230 --> 00:37:09.010
  • influence people, that's why.
  • 00:37:09.020 --> 00:37:10.180
  • It's not just don't be a hypocrite, it's don't be
  • 00:37:10.190 --> 00:37:13.040
  • a hypocrite so that your message is coming from a humble place,
  • 00:37:13.050 --> 00:37:16.260
  • so that your message is believable.
  • 00:37:16.270 --> 00:37:18.190
  • So, for me, I don't think I struggle with judging people
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  • that much, honestly.
  • 00:37:22.170 --> 00:37:23.260
  • I don't think I'm too much of a hypocrite.
  • 00:37:23.270 --> 00:37:26.100
  • I'm looking at Hannah, I'm not sure.
  • 00:37:26.110 --> 00:37:27.200
  • Am I good? We're good there.
  • 00:37:27.210 --> 00:37:29.130
  • So, so we're good with presume, we're good with pretend.
  • 00:37:29.140 --> 00:37:33.020
  • It's this third one, it's push, don't push.
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  • This is the one that I struggle with a lot.
  • 00:37:36.140 --> 00:37:38.110
  • When I think I am right about something, I'm like--
  • 00:37:38.120 --> 00:37:41.010
  • especially if I love the person.
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  • The more I love you, the more I'm going to push.
  • 00:37:42.130 --> 00:37:44.130
  • This is my personality.
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  • You don't understand, this is going to help you.
  • 00:37:45.240 --> 00:37:48.030
  • Why aren't you hearing me? Why won't you listen?
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  • No!
  • 00:37:50.130 --> 00:37:51.220
  • And maybe you're not that way. This is how I am a lot.
  • 00:37:51.230 --> 00:37:54.070
  • And this is-- Jesus continues, he says,
  • 00:37:54.080 --> 00:37:56.070
  • "Do not give to dogs what is sacred.
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  • Do not throw your pearls to pigs.
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  • If you do, they may trample them under their feet,
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  • and turn and tear you to pieces."
  • 00:38:03.140 --> 00:38:05.170
  • If you have teenagers that sometimes act like swine,
  • 00:38:05.180 --> 00:38:10.120
  • you know what Jesus is talking about here.
  • 00:38:10.130 --> 00:38:16.050
  • I don't have teenagers, but I have been a teenager.
  • 00:38:16.060 --> 00:38:18.220
  • I have been the pig, it's like, "No, mom!"
  • 00:38:18.230 --> 00:38:20.230
  • You know?
  • 00:38:20.240 --> 00:38:22.120
  • And this is--this is the thing.
  • 00:38:22.130 --> 00:38:24.210
  • First of all, the pearl is-- when Jesus is talking,
  • 00:38:24.220 --> 00:38:27.140
  • the pearl is a symbol for the kingdom of God.
  • 00:38:27.150 --> 00:38:30.130
  • It's throughout the Old Testament and the New.
  • 00:38:30.140 --> 00:38:32.170
  • You probably think instantly of the pearly gates.
  • 00:38:32.180 --> 00:38:35.210
  • That's from a reference from Revelation 21:21.
  • 00:38:35.220 --> 00:38:39.240
  • Usually, people think it's Revelation 21:21 is about
  • 00:38:39.250 --> 00:38:44.080
  • heaven, it's actually not, it's about the kingdom of God,
  • 00:38:44.090 --> 00:38:46.200
  • the bride of Christ, and that the way we become a part
  • 00:38:46.210 --> 00:38:50.140
  • of this new city or this new bride is by entering through
  • 00:38:50.150 --> 00:38:54.100
  • these gates of pearls.
  • 00:38:54.110 --> 00:38:55.200
  • So, the pearl is a symbol of the kingdom of God,
  • 00:38:55.210 --> 00:38:57.270
  • which means the reign of God.
  • 00:38:57.280 --> 00:38:59.090
  • It's a short way of saying the way you become a part of this
  • 00:38:59.100 --> 00:39:02.070
  • thing is by becoming a student of Jesus, by obeying God.
  • 00:39:02.080 --> 00:39:06.010
  • So, there you see it's a symbol for the kingdom of God.
  • 00:39:06.020 --> 00:39:11.060
  • Another place that's very famous is Matthew chapter 13,
  • 00:39:11.070 --> 00:39:15.180
  • when Jesus says there was this guy and he saw this pearl
  • 00:39:15.190 --> 00:39:19.050
  • of incredible value, and he--
  • 00:39:19.060 --> 00:39:21.260
  • and he went and sold everything he had,
  • 00:39:21.270 --> 00:39:24.220
  • every bit of land, all of his belongings so he can get ahold
  • 00:39:24.230 --> 00:39:28.090
  • of this one pearl.
  • 00:39:28.100 --> 00:39:31.060
  • So, there it is, and he said, "This is the kingdom of God.
  • 00:39:31.070 --> 00:39:33.050
  • This is what it's like attaining the kingdom of God."
  • 00:39:33.060 --> 00:39:35.160
  • So, when Jesus is talking about throwing your pearls before
  • 00:39:35.170 --> 00:39:37.160
  • swine, he's talking about--he's talking about your faith,
  • 00:39:37.170 --> 00:39:40.020
  • your wisdom, your walk with God.
  • 00:39:40.030 --> 00:39:42.140
  • By the way, the pearl was--this would've made so much sense
  • 00:39:42.150 --> 00:39:45.110
  • to Jesus's audience.
  • 00:39:45.120 --> 00:39:46.210
  • The pearl, that we don't have a legendary treasure today the way
  • 00:39:46.220 --> 00:39:51.290
  • the pearl was in Jesus's day.
  • 00:39:52.000 --> 00:39:54.120
  • The most exciting thing about the history of the pearl is that
  • 00:39:54.130 --> 00:39:57.060
  • the Latin Roman word for pearl, and yes this is true,
  • 00:39:57.070 --> 00:40:00.130
  • was margarita.
  • 00:40:00.140 --> 00:40:02.200
  • [congregation laughing]
  • 00:40:02.210 --> 00:40:04.280
  • So, a margarita was a pearl.
  • 00:40:04.290 --> 00:40:06.290
  • And the person who sold those margaritas was not called
  • 00:40:07.000 --> 00:40:09.160
  • a bartender, he was called the margaritari.
  • 00:40:09.170 --> 00:40:13.030
  • Margaritari.
  • 00:40:13.040 --> 00:40:16.160
  • And the reason--any jeweler was actually called a margaritari.
  • 00:40:16.170 --> 00:40:21.020
  • Margaritari, you almost have to say it once you do it,
  • 00:40:21.030 --> 00:40:23.020
  • you can't go back.
  • 00:40:23.030 --> 00:40:24.260
  • You--the reason it's called the margaritari is because if he
  • 00:40:24.270 --> 00:40:27.090
  • sells pearls, he's going to sell gold and diamonds
  • 00:40:27.100 --> 00:40:30.100
  • and all that other stuff.
  • 00:40:30.110 --> 00:40:32.010
  • A pearl was vastly more valuable than even diamonds or gold
  • 00:40:32.020 --> 00:40:35.130
  • or anything else.
  • 00:40:35.140 --> 00:40:37.060
  • And most people wouldn't even see a pearl in their whole life.
  • 00:40:37.070 --> 00:40:41.020
  • To give you an example of how valuable a pearl was in
  • 00:40:41.030 --> 00:40:43.290
  • the first century Roman Empire, there was a famous Roman
  • 00:40:44.000 --> 00:40:46.190
  • general, I think he was briefly even Caesar for like a day
  • 00:40:46.200 --> 00:40:49.100
  • or something, but he was a Roman general.
  • 00:40:49.110 --> 00:40:51.250
  • And he paid for his entire Roman conquest with one
  • 00:40:51.260 --> 00:40:56.240
  • of his mother's pearl earrings.
  • 00:40:56.250 --> 00:41:00.080
  • That's pretty valuable.
  • 00:41:00.090 --> 00:41:02.040
  • It's hard to measure these things, but would that be
  • 00:41:02.050 --> 00:41:03.180
  • hundreds of millions of dollars, maybe billions?
  • 00:41:03.190 --> 00:41:07.150
  • Another very famous story is about Cleopatra when she was
  • 00:41:07.160 --> 00:41:11.280
  • hosting Mark Antony, and she wanted to express to him how
  • 00:41:11.290 --> 00:41:15.180
  • wealthy and illustrious Egypt was that she said,
  • 00:41:15.190 --> 00:41:19.290
  • "I will throw you the most expensive banquet
  • 00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:22.260
  • that has ever been known."
  • 00:41:22.270 --> 00:41:24.200
  • And what she did was she took a pearl,
  • 00:41:24.210 --> 00:41:27.050
  • dissolved it in vinegar, and drank it.
  • 00:41:27.060 --> 00:41:30.020
  • And actually, for centuries this possessed people like that
  • 00:41:30.030 --> 00:41:33.260
  • some--this truly did happen, that Cleopatra had so much
  • 00:41:33.270 --> 00:41:38.060
  • wealth, she could drink a pearl.
  • 00:41:38.070 --> 00:41:40.170
  • Like, people couldn't fathom how amazing that was.
  • 00:41:40.180 --> 00:41:43.160
  • In fact, this is a famous painting from Tiepolo.
  • 00:41:43.170 --> 00:41:46.100
  • And he--there's so many paintings of this story because
  • 00:41:46.110 --> 00:41:50.050
  • it's so romantic, but here's a famous one.
  • 00:41:50.060 --> 00:41:52.110
  • If you zoom in and you look at Cleopatra's hand,
  • 00:41:52.120 --> 00:41:56.020
  • I know Cleopatra looks like a white English woman there,
  • 00:41:56.030 --> 00:42:00.050
  • not an Egyptian, but actually Cleopatra was Greek,
  • 00:42:00.060 --> 00:42:03.090
  • not Egyptian, but I digress.
  • 00:42:03.100 --> 00:42:06.010
  • Here she is, you can see in her hand there holding a pearl.
  • 00:42:06.020 --> 00:42:09.090
  • She's about to put it, but this is--
  • 00:42:09.100 --> 00:42:10.200
  • the whole painting is about that pearl.
  • 00:42:10.210 --> 00:42:12.170
  • The whole thing is about this is a very amazing way of just
  • 00:42:12.180 --> 00:42:17.130
  • saying this is how incredibly wealthy she was,
  • 00:42:17.140 --> 00:42:20.140
  • she could just throw a pearl-- she could just eat a pearl.
  • 00:42:20.150 --> 00:42:24.150
  • Okay, so, you get it, right?
  • 00:42:24.160 --> 00:42:25.250
  • Pearls are very valuable.
  • 00:42:25.260 --> 00:42:27.050
  • They're incredibly valuable.
  • 00:42:27.060 --> 00:42:28.150
  • And that--and that the kingdom of God, that having the gospel,
  • 00:42:28.160 --> 00:42:32.190
  • knowing the Lord, that it's like holding this great pearl
  • 00:42:32.200 --> 00:42:36.060
  • in your hand.
  • 00:42:36.070 --> 00:42:37.160
  • It's this incredibly valuable thing to you, right?
  • 00:42:37.170 --> 00:42:39.210
  • It's the most precious thing in your--
  • 00:42:39.220 --> 00:42:41.130
  • it's something you would die for.
  • 00:42:41.140 --> 00:42:44.020
  • Now, another interesting thing about pearls is that pearls
  • 00:42:44.030 --> 00:42:46.070
  • are actually made through struggle and suffering.
  • 00:42:46.080 --> 00:42:49.050
  • So, even though there's all this myth, they believe that maybe
  • 00:42:49.060 --> 00:42:51.150
  • lightning would strike an oyster and then it would do this,
  • 00:42:51.160 --> 00:42:54.010
  • and some believe it had something to do with Poseidon,
  • 00:42:54.020 --> 00:42:56.260
  • they just didn't know.
  • 00:42:56.270 --> 00:42:58.060
  • But we know now that the way a pearl is made is actually
  • 00:42:58.070 --> 00:43:03.010
  • through an irritant, or a splinter, or an infection.
  • 00:43:03.020 --> 00:43:06.050
  • If a grain of sand or some other carbon,
  • 00:43:06.060 --> 00:43:10.050
  • piece of carbon gets inside an oyster's shell,
  • 00:43:10.060 --> 00:43:13.270
  • it's always trying to get it out.
  • 00:43:13.280 --> 00:43:15.210
  • And it can't get this thing out of its mouth,
  • 00:43:15.220 --> 00:43:17.050
  • and it's painful for the oyster.
  • 00:43:17.060 --> 00:43:18.190
  • It hurts, it's like having a splinter
  • 00:43:18.200 --> 00:43:20.240
  • and you can't get it out with your tweezers.
  • 00:43:20.250 --> 00:43:22.200
  • And then finally, what the oyster does in order to protect
  • 00:43:22.210 --> 00:43:25.080
  • itself from the irritant, it creates this resin
  • 00:43:25.090 --> 00:43:28.200
  • around it over time.
  • 00:43:28.210 --> 00:43:30.100
  • So, over time through suffering,
  • 00:43:30.110 --> 00:43:32.080
  • this incredible treasure is formed.
  • 00:43:32.090 --> 00:43:35.030
  • And I think that's how many of us are with our wisdom,
  • 00:43:35.040 --> 00:43:37.120
  • with our knowledge, and with our walk with God.
  • 00:43:37.130 --> 00:43:39.130
  • We can say to our kids and our neighbors, "You don't--
  • 00:43:39.140 --> 00:43:42.030
  • you haven't been what I've been through.
  • 00:43:42.040 --> 00:43:43.170
  • You don't--you haven't seen what I've seen.
  • 00:43:43.180 --> 00:43:45.010
  • You don't know what I know."
  • 00:43:45.020 --> 00:43:46.150
  • And we have this treasure in our hands that we gained through
  • 00:43:46.160 --> 00:43:50.000
  • suffering, that we gained through struggle,
  • 00:43:50.010 --> 00:43:52.160
  • that we adapted to.
  • 00:43:52.170 --> 00:43:53.280
  • We allowed it to change us for the better,
  • 00:43:53.290 --> 00:43:56.030
  • that out of the suffering came this incredible treasure.
  • 00:43:56.040 --> 00:43:59.130
  • And we're like, "Take this, take this.
  • 00:43:59.140 --> 00:44:01.240
  • I don't want you to go through what I've gone through.
  • 00:44:01.250 --> 00:44:03.230
  • I want you to know the Lord. I want you to change.
  • 00:44:03.240 --> 00:44:05.260
  • I don't want you to struggle."
  • 00:44:05.270 --> 00:44:07.090
  • And so, in our desire and to influence people,
  • 00:44:07.100 --> 00:44:09.260
  • we truly have the right answer, we truly have the knowledge.
  • 00:44:09.270 --> 00:44:13.110
  • And yet what happens?
  • 00:44:13.120 --> 00:44:15.180
  • Those teenagers, man, I tell you.
  • 00:44:15.190 --> 00:44:18.030
  • Or whoever.
  • 00:44:18.040 --> 00:44:19.240
  • Very often, if they feel that we are taking our pearls and trying
  • 00:44:19.250 --> 00:44:23.070
  • to shove it down their throat, they will not want them.
  • 00:44:23.080 --> 00:44:25.260
  • They will turn and tear us to pieces.
  • 00:44:25.270 --> 00:44:28.230
  • If you hand a pearl to a pig, it's going to think it's food.
  • 00:44:28.240 --> 00:44:31.160
  • And when it tries to eat it,
  • 00:44:31.170 --> 00:44:32.290
  • it's not going to taste very good.
  • 00:44:33.000 --> 00:44:34.190
  • And he'll be very upset with you.
  • 00:44:34.200 --> 00:44:36.120
  • And I think this is how so many people are receiving our
  • 00:44:36.130 --> 00:44:40.060
  • well-intentioned advice, our well-intentioned leadership.
  • 00:44:40.070 --> 00:44:43.260
  • They turn and they tear us to pieces.
  • 00:44:43.270 --> 00:44:45.150
  • And yet, it's like not only did we lose our pearl,
  • 00:44:45.160 --> 00:44:50.180
  • we made things worse.
  • 00:44:50.190 --> 00:44:52.190
  • I see this so often with leaders who do have the right answer,
  • 00:44:52.200 --> 00:44:55.110
  • who do have the right path, who do know the right way,
  • 00:44:55.120 --> 00:44:57.280
  • that in their communicating of those ideas,
  • 00:44:57.290 --> 00:45:01.000
  • they end up entrenching their opponent even deeper
  • 00:45:01.010 --> 00:45:03.240
  • into the wrong ideas, even deeper into the path.
  • 00:45:03.250 --> 00:45:07.250
  • And this is because this is just human nature.
  • 00:45:07.260 --> 00:45:10.220
  • People freak out if they fear you are controlling them.
  • 00:45:10.230 --> 00:45:14.270
  • Your spouse will freak out if she or he thinks
  • 00:45:14.280 --> 00:45:17.190
  • you're controlling him or her.
  • 00:45:17.200 --> 00:45:19.010
  • Your kids will freak out,
  • 00:45:19.020 --> 00:45:20.150
  • especially if they're teenagers or adults.
  • 00:45:20.160 --> 00:45:22.200
  • I have seen so--there have been so many families I've been
  • 00:45:22.210 --> 00:45:25.140
  • friends with that have amazing parents and amazing kids,
  • 00:45:25.150 --> 00:45:29.160
  • and the parents and the kids could not resolve the fact
  • 00:45:29.170 --> 00:45:33.060
  • that the kids are not kids anymore, they're adults.
  • 00:45:33.070 --> 00:45:36.080
  • And the parents have the right answer and the best advice,
  • 00:45:36.090 --> 00:45:40.120
  • and yet the kids can't take it because now they're
  • 00:45:40.130 --> 00:45:42.220
  • in their 20s or 30s or 40s and they're feeling controlled,
  • 00:45:42.230 --> 00:45:46.050
  • they're feeling smothered.
  • 00:45:46.060 --> 00:45:49.060
  • You can't spell smother without mother.
  • 00:45:49.070 --> 00:45:51.260
  • [congregation laughing]
  • 00:45:51.270 --> 00:45:56.090
  • Right?
  • 00:45:56.100 --> 00:45:57.190
  • It's hard when you're a parent-- when you're a parent,
  • 00:45:57.200 --> 00:46:01.220
  • it's hard to hold your kids loosely, to trust that you've
  • 00:46:01.230 --> 00:46:07.020
  • said your peace and to allow your kids to mess up.
  • 00:46:07.030 --> 00:46:10.290
  • And that's the irony is that--is that the best way to influence
  • 00:46:11.000 --> 00:46:14.140
  • people is through inspiration, not through manipulating.
  • 00:46:14.150 --> 00:46:17.270
  • And this is the hardest thing for people like me
  • 00:46:17.280 --> 00:46:20.070
  • who are always wanting to push people in the right direction.
  • 00:46:20.080 --> 00:46:23.170
  • You can't push people, you have to show them.
  • 00:46:23.180 --> 00:46:25.190
  • And you have to hold it loosely and allow the Holy Spirit
  • 00:46:25.200 --> 00:46:28.180
  • to do what the Holy Spirit is going to do.
  • 00:46:28.190 --> 00:46:31.020
  • So, but we're called to lead, right?
  • 00:46:31.030 --> 00:46:34.210
  • I mean, Jesus does tell us, "See clearly so you can help
  • 00:46:34.220 --> 00:46:37.260
  • the speck in your brother's eye," right?
  • 00:46:37.270 --> 00:46:39.080
  • I mean, Jesus wants us to influence people,
  • 00:46:39.090 --> 00:46:41.070
  • he wants us to help people.
  • 00:46:41.080 --> 00:46:42.170
  • And so, I just want to finish my brief sermon today by just
  • 00:46:42.180 --> 00:46:46.090
  • giving you some things that I think are very useful
  • 00:46:46.100 --> 00:46:49.190
  • in influencing the people you love
  • 00:46:49.200 --> 00:46:51.170
  • and the people you don't love, right?
  • 00:46:51.180 --> 00:46:53.240
  • Or struggle to love. And here's some things.
  • 00:46:53.250 --> 00:46:57.030
  • First of all, I really like the way
  • 00:46:57.040 --> 00:47:00.020
  • that Simon Sinek views leadership.
  • 00:47:00.030 --> 00:47:03.250
  • And he says that every form of leadership takes
  • 00:47:03.260 --> 00:47:07.000
  • one of two forms.
  • 00:47:07.010 --> 00:47:08.130
  • You're either manipulating people,
  • 00:47:08.140 --> 00:47:09.260
  • or you're inspiring people.
  • 00:47:09.270 --> 00:47:12.060
  • Now, before you just say,
  • 00:47:12.070 --> 00:47:13.270
  • "Well, always inspire and never manipulate,"
  • 00:47:13.280 --> 00:47:16.060
  • he would actually say that sometimes, even though
  • 00:47:16.070 --> 00:47:18.190
  • the term "manipulate" sounds very negative,
  • 00:47:18.200 --> 00:47:20.130
  • pejorative, the term "manipulate,"
  • 00:47:20.140 --> 00:47:22.260
  • sometimes that's exactly what you have to do, right?
  • 00:47:22.270 --> 00:47:25.050
  • If you hire a guy to mow your lawn and you pay him 50 bucks,
  • 00:47:25.060 --> 00:47:29.190
  • that's a type of manipulation.
  • 00:47:29.200 --> 00:47:31.100
  • I'll pay--it's a deal.
  • 00:47:31.110 --> 00:47:32.220
  • I'll pay you 50 bucks, you mow my lawn.
  • 00:47:32.230 --> 00:47:34.020
  • You're not going to go out there and, you know,
  • 00:47:34.030 --> 00:47:35.260
  • make a YouTube video about great it is to mow lawns
  • 00:47:35.270 --> 00:47:38.290
  • and hope that someone hears your--right?
  • 00:47:39.000 --> 00:47:43.010
  • Coaches do this, coaches discipline their team.
  • 00:47:43.020 --> 00:47:45.060
  • Parents discipline their kids.
  • 00:47:45.070 --> 00:47:46.270
  • These are forms of manipulative leadership.
  • 00:47:46.280 --> 00:47:50.000
  • When you--if your two-year-old is running into the street,
  • 00:47:50.010 --> 00:47:52.260
  • they're not going to listen to your inspiring speech
  • 00:47:52.270 --> 00:47:54.210
  • about how cars kill children.
  • 00:47:54.220 --> 00:47:56.290
  • You just have to grab them, right?
  • 00:47:57.000 --> 00:47:58.200
  • That's manipulating.
  • 00:47:58.210 --> 00:48:00.040
  • And so, there are times in which, especially maybe in
  • 00:48:00.050 --> 00:48:03.150
  • a workplace or something like that, there are times when
  • 00:48:03.160 --> 00:48:05.170
  • you have to do this, but that's the worst thing to do.
  • 00:48:05.180 --> 00:48:08.080
  • The ideal would be to inspire people to do the right thing.
  • 00:48:08.090 --> 00:48:12.270
  • So, for your friends or for dating, if you're dating someone
  • 00:48:12.280 --> 00:48:17.240
  • or whatever, or a spouse maybe that you want to come to faith,
  • 00:48:17.250 --> 00:48:21.000
  • the first thing I would say is just make sure that you live it.
  • 00:48:21.010 --> 00:48:25.070
  • Do your best to live it and don't pretend.
  • 00:48:25.080 --> 00:48:28.240
  • Like be honest about your shortcomings and your feelings
  • 00:48:28.250 --> 00:48:31.130
  • and what you're struggling with, but also be honest about how
  • 00:48:31.140 --> 00:48:34.230
  • important your walk with God or whatever it is you're trying
  • 00:48:34.240 --> 00:48:37.140
  • to communicate to your neighbor,
  • 00:48:37.150 --> 00:48:39.080
  • how big of an impact it's taken in your life.
  • 00:48:39.090 --> 00:48:41.100
  • So, make sure that all people know this.
  • 00:48:41.110 --> 00:48:44.130
  • The proof is in the pudding.
  • 00:48:44.140 --> 00:48:46.010
  • Doesn't mean you have to be perfect, but it does mean that
  • 00:48:46.020 --> 00:48:49.000
  • people need to notice some kind of visible change in your life.
  • 00:48:49.010 --> 00:48:53.150
  • Then the change you're trying to enact will be alluring.
  • 00:48:53.160 --> 00:48:57.110
  • As a leader, you're going to create other leaders like you.
  • 00:48:57.120 --> 00:49:01.200
  • As a parent, we have to remember that for our kids,
  • 00:49:01.210 --> 00:49:05.290
  • our first task is to keep our children safe,
  • 00:49:06.000 --> 00:49:08.210
  • but the second task we have is to make them strong.
  • 00:49:08.220 --> 00:49:11.250
  • And sometimes, those things are working against each other.
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  • It's one of the hardest things to be a parent is to allow your
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  • kids to go in environments that are not as safe as they used
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  • to be in order that they can become stronger.
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  • And every day as a parent as your kids get older, we have to
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  • do the discipline of allowing our kids to do things
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  • that are not quite as safe as they used to be in order
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  • that they can be stronger.
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  • In other words, we have to stop hovering over them
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  • as they get older.
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  • We have to allow them to make mistakes and inspire them
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  • the best way we can.
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  • If you have kids that are under, you know, 15, 14,
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  • I think one of the most important things you can do
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  • is make sure they have good friends.
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  • I think too many parents don't pay attention to the kind
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  • of friends that their kids keep.
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  • And I think this is one of the best ways that you can help
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  • your kids grow is to have them surrounded by friends who
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  • are encouraging and nice, and to make sure, you know,
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  • that they're around that kind of--kind of good kid.
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  • So, there's lots of things we can do to inspire and help
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  • our neighbor, but what about our enemies?
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  • What about people that really hate us?
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  • What about people that really dislike you?
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  • How do we have an impact on their lives?
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  • Jesus teaches us in the Sermon on the Mount that we're called
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  • to love our enemies.
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  • Actually, it's really interesting, allow me to cite
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  • a leftist atheist in church, Bill Maher was interviewing--
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  • I found this real interesting, a few days ago was interviewing
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  • a panel of his guests.
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  • And they were talking about this guy on a bus, I forget which
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  • city it was in, who had a swastika on his arm.
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  • He was a neo-Nazi, and he was sitting on a bus reading
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  • or he was on his phone, and somebody filmed themselves
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  • punching this guy, right?
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  • Like sucker punching this Nazi, right?
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  • 'Cause he was a Nazi, you so punch him.
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  • And Bill asked the question, "Can we punch Nazis?"
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  • And Bill's answer is, "No, we can't punch Nazis
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  • just because they're Nazis.
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  • The First--the First Amendment protects the freedom of speech.
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  • Yeah, everybody in America universally hates Nazis,
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  • and Nazis are evil, and their ideology is evil,
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  • but you can't just punch them."
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  • And every single person on that panel disagreed.
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  • One person said, "We need to change the First Amendment
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  • to not include Nazis."
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  • One guy said, "Absolutely, you punch that guy in the face.
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  • My grandfather didn't go and fight Nazis in World War II
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  • to allow them to show their swastikas on a bus.
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  • And so, I see a Nazi, I'm punching him."
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  • You know what my immediate thought was?
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  • American soldiers who took Nazis captive, they kept them clean,
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  • they fed them, they cared for them,
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  • they gave them all the rights that were due an enemy,
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  • even though they were horrible and evil.
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  • They didn't sucker punch their captors when they were sitting.
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  • And this is what I'm getting at is that the world is becoming
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  • so, so entrenched in judgment, entrenched in presuming,
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  • pretending, and pushing.
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  • If you get on Twitter, you're going to see
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  • a lot of people presuming, a lot of people pretending,
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  • and a lot of people pushing.
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  • And it's not Jesus's way to lead or to influence.
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  • Let's finish with this last story.
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  • On that note of Nazis and clan members and all this stuff,
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  • there's this amazing movie that was put out by PBS
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  • not super long ago about a man named Daryl Davis,
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  • an African-American man who was a blues piano player
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  • and rhythm and blues guy.
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  • Very involved in, you know, civil rights in the '60s,
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  • grew up in the '60s.
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  • Tells this heartbreaking story about being
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  • the only black kid in a boy scouts troop.
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  • And he's carrying an American flag,
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  • and people are throwing things at him,
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  • and he's like nine years old and just trying
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  • to sort of find his place.
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  • And he tells a story about how one day, you know, as an adult
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  • playing in a rhythm and blues band, he was asked by a friend
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  • to play in a country band.
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  • And so, he went to this country bar and they played all this
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  • music, and afterwards there was this gentleman who came up
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  • to him and he said, he said, "I've never heard a black man
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  • play like Jerry Lee Lewis."
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  • And he said, "Where do you think Jerry Lee Lewis
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  • learned to play piano?"
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  • You know, this guy's like--
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  • and so they had this conversation.
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  • And he ends up sitting down and talking with this guy
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  • for a long time.
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  • And eventually, his friends tell this guy, "Tell Daryl."
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  • And he's like, "What do you mean tell Daryl?"
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  • "Tell him."
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  • He's like, "Well, I'm a member of the Knights
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  • of the Ku Klux Klan."
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  • This was back in the '70s or '80s or something.
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  • Eventually Daryl--
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  • and I think this is why they call it accidental courtesy--
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  • Daryl becomes friends with this guy
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  • and ends up leading him out of the Ku Klux Klan.
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  • And in fact, over the years, he continues to be a professional
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  • musician, but like his hobby is walking into Klan meetings
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  • and neo-Nazi meetings and talking to people.
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  • He will actually befriend these people, hang out with them,
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  • talk with them, listen to them, challenge them.
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  • And over, you know, the last so many years, he's been a part of
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  • seeing 200 people leave either the Ku Klux Klan or neo-Nazis
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  • and apologize for their racism and the violence
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  • and all that stuff.
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  • And to me, it's just an incredible story,
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  • it's like just incredible how-- first how brave he is.
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  • I would be terrified if I was a black man to walk
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  • into a klan meeting and to keep doing it.
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  • But it also shows the effectiveness.
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  • You see a lot of the backstories of these men, how many of them
  • 00:54:58.150 --> 00:55:01.210
  • are abused, hurt, and so they take it out on their neighbor.
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  • And this is a very brave and very good man, Daryl Davis.
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  • I actually hope he can come and speak some time at this church.
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  • But this is a great lesson to us because if Daryl Davis can walk
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  • into a klan meeting and befriend klan members and forgive them
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  • and lead them out of the Ku Klux Klan,
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  • you can forgive your co-worker
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  • Jan for stealing your stapler, okay?
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  • You could forgive your next door neighbor who keeps
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  • leaving his trashcans out.
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  • You can forgive whoever it is in this church that rubs
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  • you the wrong way.
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  • You can forgive your competitors and pray for them.
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  • And you can trust that the best way to lead
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  • is to understand and to know people.
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  • To not pretend, to not presume, and not push, but to listen
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  • and to love people, even people that are evil.
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  • And though there are always going to be times where we do
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  • have to push and we do have to act and we do have to take
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  • action, the first response of a Christian is mercy,
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  • forgiveness, listening.
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  • That's what makes us so obviously believers
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  • is to act like Jesus.
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  • So, if we want serenity, we have to hold the people
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  • we're leading and influencing loosely,
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  • pray for them, and trust that if we do our best,
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  • the Holy Spirit will do the rest.
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  • Let's pray.
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  • Father, we love you, we thank you, and we ask in Jesus's name
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  • for the people that we love, that we want to change,
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  • that we want to take a new path, that we want to be different
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  • in some way.
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  • I pray, Father, that your Holy Spirit would work
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  • in the only way that you can, it's the best way.
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  • And pray, Father, that you would help us with our kids,
  • 00:56:45.130 --> 00:56:47.260
  • our spouse, our grandkids, our neighbors, our enemies.
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  • Help us to influence them for your kingdom.
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  • Lord, we love you.
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  • It's in Jesus's name we pray, amen.
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  • Well, before we go, we want to take just a moment to recognize
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  • a long time member of this congregation, Doris Carlton.
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  • Doris, you're here.
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  • Are you able to stand so we can recognize you?
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  • We just want to say hello.
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  • Just a few things about Doris, Doris is one of the last
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  • 125 charter members of the Garden Grove Community Church.
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  • She actually helped my grandpa translate his book
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  • "Tough Times Never Last, Tough People Do"
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  • into brail, which is amazing.
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  • And she is moving to Arizona with her son.
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  • And so, she's been so important to so many people
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  • in this church, we just wanted to recognize her,
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  • tell her that we love her, and how much she means to us.
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  • Doris, we love you.
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  • And now the Lord bless you and keep you.
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  • The Lord make his face to shine upon you
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  • and be gracious unto you.
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  • The Lord lift his countenance upon you and give you his peace.
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  • In the name of the Father, and of the Son,
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  • and of the Holy Spirit, amen.
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