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February 27, 2017
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Church by the Glades

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  • - Hi, and welcome to Church By The Glades.
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  • We're so excited you're here today.
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  • In the next few moments
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  • we're going to hear from Pastor David Hughes
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  • as he shares about how we can live life to the fullest.
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  • So stick around it's going to be a ton of fun
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  • and you're definitely going to be encouraged
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  • - At Church By The Glades we like to say
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  • no perfect people allowed
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  • which means that no matter where you are in life
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  • you will be welcomed when you visit.
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  • So in case you haven't checked us out yet
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  • here's a sneak peek at some of what you can expect
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  • at Church By The Glades.
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  • (upbeat rock music)
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  • I got a firm foundation
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  • Our rock the only solid ground
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  • As nations rise and fall
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  • Kingdoms once strong now shaken
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  • But we trust forever in your name
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  • The name of Jesus
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  • We trust the name of Jesus
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  • You are the only king forever
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  • Almighty God you live in my head
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  • You are the only king forever
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  • Forever more
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  • You are victorious
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  • You are the only king forever
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  • Almighty God we live higher
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  • You are the only king forever
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  • Forever more you are victorious
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  • Yes you are
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  • We lift our banner higher
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  • We lift the name of Jesus
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  • From age to age you reign
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  • Your kingdom has no way
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  • We lift our hands high
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  • We lift the name of Jesus
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  • From age to age you reign
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  • Your kingdom has the way
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  • You are the only
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  • - All right guys it's time to go ahead
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  • and get into the teaching so if you got a
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  • Bible nearby go ahead and grab it
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  • or pull it up on your mobile device.
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  • You might also wanna take some notes too.
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  • We really believe that the next few moments
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  • can make a big impact in your life.
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  • Let's watch together.
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  • - Church By The Glades,
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  • give yourself a hand, give yourself a hand.
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  • And if you are new hey welcome I'm David
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  • one of the pastors here so glad to have you with us
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  • and your time is extraordinary,
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  • we launch a new series entitled Fearless Family
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  • and I think relationships
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  • are the most exciting and intriguing part of life.
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  • You know relationships you should have
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  • the we're not animals.
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  • You should have an animal passion
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  • and a biblical precision
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  • as you orchestrate your relationships.
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  • So here is the goal over the next three weeks.
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  • I wanna help you navigate successfully and safely
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  • one of the most dangerous ecosystems in the world,
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  • your family.
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  • My family, 'cause let's just be honest right?
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  • My family, is your family like my family?
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  • The people in your family are both at the same time
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  • wonderful and weird.
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  • Yes?
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  • Put your hands together if you do
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  • lot of people who are wonderful and weird.
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  • 'Cause they're clapping about you right now yeah.
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  • Families are awesome and so I wanna have
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  • a three week study with you on relationships
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  • and family in particular now if you're a single
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  • don't check out on me.
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  • If you're a single saying well I'll come back in a month
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  • please don't do that because the Bible's
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  • principles on relationships
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  • are not just powerful they are pervasive.
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  • They're not just brilliant they're broad,
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  • and they will apply to all of your valued
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  • interpersonal relationships.
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  • You'll find this very easy to integrate these ideas
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  • into your present relationships and for the future
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  • by the way, studies show stats show
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  • that most people who are single marry,
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  • so you'll probably get married and you'll probably have kids
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  • so God's downloading this information
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  • for your future and for your today.
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  • So let's jump into it because I think God
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  • wants your family to be fearless,
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  • he wants your relationships to roar.
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  • Well let's jump right into the study
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  • with you here a song Sample Road
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  • we're in Dayton County let's talk about
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  • family relationships family dynamic.
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  • Let me invite you into my family room
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  • this is my family room.
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  • Okay not really it's some furniture
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  • that kinda looks like a family room.
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  • I originally had the idea to use
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  • our real family room furniture,
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  • but some of you guys recall back during
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  • a series called The Table
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  • I did bring in my real kitchen table
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  • our family's kitchen table and the chairs
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  • and my family ate standing up for like a month
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  • so they said dad please
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  • let's use some other
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  • so this is a simulation
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  • of a family room.
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  • And I wanna talk about family
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  • and I'll use my family as an example
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  • 'cause my family is perfect.
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  • (laughing)
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  • Or far from it starting with the dad.
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  • But we're doing our best,
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  • we're sincere before the Lord
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  • we're trying to be a God centered family
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  • so I wanna take a moment and show off my family
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  • on the screen right now this is my family
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  • these are the nice people I do life and love with
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  • thank you very much I'm very proud of my family.
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  • You'll see behind me
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  • my lovely wife Lisa, we celebrate 17 years
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  • the 25th of this month.
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  • And I had married way over my head,
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  • guys have a theory that Christian men that love Jesus
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  • always marry way over their head
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  • and all the Christian gentlemen loudly said
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  • amen that wasn't loud enough guys
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  • but amen right Joey?
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  • Way over our heads, Lisa's a great great
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  • partner in life and I have a blast with Lisa Hughes.
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  • 25th we celebrate 17 years
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  • and then on top is my oldest
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  • that's my 15 year old boy Charlie
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  • he's a great kid Charlie's a natural leader,
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  • he loves the Lord,
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  • he has charisma he's athletic I love Charlie
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  • he's one of my best buddies in life.
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  • I'm very grateful to our youth ministry here The Wave.
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  • These young leaders
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  • have poured into my young leader my 15 year old
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  • and I just see him growing in his love for God
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  • because he hangs out with our student ministry.
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  • In fact I can't wake that boy up
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  • for anything in the morning.
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  • He's hard to get out of bed
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  • but he woke up at five AM last Sunday
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  • to join some other student leaders
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  • and he helped with the beach baptism.
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  • I was so proud of him that's Charlie
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  • helping to baptize on the
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  • your right-hand side right there then
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  • my daughter is Victoria she's both beautiful and bright.
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  • I am biased, that doesn't make me wrong.
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  • She works hard she studies hard
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  • man God has huge things planned
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  • for my beautiful baby girl she's that
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  • little person you know a big personality
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  • in a small package keeps me on my toes
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  • all the time my darling daughter.
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  • And then on this side
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  • the little punk in the plaid.
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  • That's associate pastor Zaine Michael Hughes.
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  • He just turned six,
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  • and Lisa said I could say this he was
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  • a God surprise for us.
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  • (laughing)
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  • Some things you plan some things God plans
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  • and God's plans are always better aren't they?
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  • He has been such a source of joy
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  • and we love him and he's fun and creative
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  • and he's all boy he's a sweet little boy.
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  • And they're actually on the stage up here
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  • Saturday night service
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  • and Zaine with great pride
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  • told the church big news that last month
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  • he asked Jesus Christ into his heart.
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  • He prayed with his mom yeah
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  • one of the greatest decisions
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  • some of you grown ups need to make that same decision.
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  • And the cool thing was again
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  • I just say thank you to our kids ministry here
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  • and Glades Christian Academy
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  • because they planted those seeds,
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  • they partner with us in the issue of parenting,
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  • and he came back from school one day
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  • and said hey I learned about disciples
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  • I wanna be a disciple of Jesus Christ
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  • I wanna be the 13th disciple is what he told us.
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  • He said how do I become a disciple
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  • we talked about asking Christ into your life
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  • and giving control of your life to Jesus
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  • and he prayed that remarkable prayer.
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  • So that's my family right there,
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  • that's my family right there and we do life
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  • you know our house is a comfortable house
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  • we're not a uptight family we're not a formal family
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  • we're a fun family we like to laugh
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  • we enjoy each other but we don't live
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  • in the living room.
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  • Anybody like that you got a living room
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  • that you hardly ever use.
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  • We seldom dine in the dining room,
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  • we do life in the family room,
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  • in the family room and I wanna use this
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  • family room as a motif as imagery
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  • as we talk through what a fearless family should endeavor
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  • to be like for instance
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  • in a family room you have what?
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  • Places to sit.
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  • We have chairs and a couch
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  • in my home we have chairs and a couch
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  • and we have enough for everyone
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  • because everyone has their place.
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  • I want my kids and surely my wife
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  • to know they are valued to be honored.
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  • I want them to feel secure.
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  • I intentionally work to build security
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  • into my marriage, into my parenting.
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  • We have fun, we joke
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  • but nobody is habitually the butt of the jokes.
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  • We try to be respectful of each other
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  • and I want my kids to know
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  • their parents love them
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  • believe in them, I believe it I preach
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  • that my young people are made by the master creator
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  • and they are masterpieces Ephesians 2:10
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  • and God is a master plan for their life.
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  • So I want my kids to be secure in that knowledge
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  • we value them and we value God's vision for their life so
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  • that's our family everyone has their place now
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  • as far as the particular rules of the family
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  • you can read Ephesians chapter five
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  • and chapter six, talks about the role of the husband,
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  • the role of the wife, the role of the parents,
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  • the role of the children very specific
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  • as to the place you have
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  • in your family relationships.
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  • Now one last detail before I leave the
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  • couches and the chairs,
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  • as far as comfort level
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  • the whole room is comfortable,
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  • whether you're sitting in a chair
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  • or the little guys are on the floor
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  • on the rug there but the most comfortable spots
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  • reserved for mom and dad.
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  • I'm just telling the truth about how Lisa and I
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  • have the best spots the most comfortable
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  • is on the couch, we sit this is our place,
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  • our place we sit here why?
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  • I want my kids to be comfortable
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  • but not too comfortable.
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  • (laughing)
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  • You see if I do parenting correctly
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  • my kids will feel loved,
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  • they will feel valued, they'll feel cherished,
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  • they'll be champion
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  • but someday when they grow up they will leave.
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  • If you do the parenting thing right the kids leave.
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  • Now the spouse, she stays.
  • 00:12:22.090 --> 00:12:24.140
  • The marriage is what?
  • 00:12:25.200 --> 00:12:27.080
  • It's till death do us part
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  • right as long as we both shall live
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  • so the spouse stays the kids hopefully at some point
  • 00:12:30.190 --> 00:12:34.130
  • they leave.
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  • I love my kids you put your hands together out there
  • 00:12:36.220 --> 00:12:39.000
  • kids need to leave.
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  • Nothing wrong with that
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  • it's the way God designed the whole thing
  • 00:12:42.210 --> 00:12:44.080
  • to raise them to be independent,
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  • to value God's unique vision for their life
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  • to know they have security
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  • if something falls apart one of my kid's lives
  • 00:12:49.270 --> 00:12:51.270
  • and they're adults they can come back
  • 00:12:51.270 --> 00:12:53.190
  • for a short time.
  • 00:12:53.190 --> 00:12:55.050
  • (laughing)
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  • And then leave.
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  • When they have families of their own
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  • I hope they'll come back and visit
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  • and bring the kids come for vacation
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  • and then leave again.
  • 00:13:04.190 --> 00:13:07.020
  • You with me so if you live at home
  • 00:13:07.020 --> 00:13:09.240
  • in your mama's basement and you're
  • 00:13:09.240 --> 00:13:11.160
  • a 47 year old guy without a job
  • 00:13:11.160 --> 00:13:14.030
  • probably need to get a job
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  • stop playing video games and in Jesus' name leave.
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  • Be independent, comfortable but not too comfortable.
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  • All right let's keep talking through the
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  • family room all right all right here's one,
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  • in my family room, we have a TV.
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  • We have a TV.
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  • Put your hands together if you have
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  • a TV somewhere in your house
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  • at least one TV that's almost everyone applauding.
  • 00:13:35.010 --> 00:13:37.180
  • (crowd clapping)
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  • Bruce and Campuses I know you guys
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  • like to watch TV in fact some of you ladies
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  • you watch Empire as they go into our services stop that.
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  • All right?
  • 00:13:44.190 --> 00:13:46.010
  • Church is way better than even Empire.
  • 00:13:46.010 --> 00:13:48.060
  • TV now listen I got a TV
  • 00:13:48.060 --> 00:13:50.090
  • we are a TV watching family
  • 00:13:50.090 --> 00:13:52.120
  • I'm somewhat embarrassed to admit that
  • 00:13:52.120 --> 00:13:53.250
  • but we dig a TV I know you
  • 00:13:53.250 --> 00:13:55.200
  • you don't have a TV
  • 00:13:55.200 --> 00:13:57.250
  • or you almost never watch the TV
  • 00:13:57.250 --> 00:13:59.090
  • 'cause you just pray and read the Bible with your family
  • 00:13:59.090 --> 00:14:01.140
  • 'cause you're really spiritual
  • 00:14:01.140 --> 00:14:02.190
  • I'm not that spiritual.
  • 00:14:02.190 --> 00:14:04.020
  • You should get a TV man TV's are awesome.
  • 00:14:04.020 --> 00:14:06.050
  • (laughing)
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  • Ever watch football on a good TV?
  • 00:14:07.160 --> 00:14:09.120
  • By the way by the way I went out and bought
  • 00:14:09.120 --> 00:14:12.010
  • the biggest best TV I could possibly afford
  • 00:14:12.010 --> 00:14:14.040
  • and not violate Dave Ramsey financial peace
  • 00:14:14.040 --> 00:14:16.100
  • university principles,
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  • get yourself a good TV,
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  • and enjoy that TV now, now,
  • 00:14:19.160 --> 00:14:22.020
  • as much as my family
  • 00:14:22.020 --> 00:14:23.170
  • we do watch TV I grew up in a family that watched TV,
  • 00:14:23.170 --> 00:14:26.130
  • there is one piece of technology in your family room
  • 00:14:26.130 --> 00:14:29.060
  • can become the most selfish piece of technology
  • 00:14:29.060 --> 00:14:31.140
  • in your entire house.
  • 00:14:31.140 --> 00:14:33.060
  • (laughing)
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  • The remote control.
  • 00:14:37.020 --> 00:14:39.120
  • Now I have proudly preached in the past
  • 00:14:39.120 --> 00:14:41.240
  • that I believe God created the remote control
  • 00:14:41.240 --> 00:14:44.200
  • to fit perfectly into the hand of the father.
  • 00:14:44.200 --> 00:14:47.240
  • (laughing)
  • 00:14:47.240 --> 00:14:49.060
  • Oh yes it just fits so nicely
  • 00:14:49.060 --> 00:14:51.140
  • in my hand and there's certain shows
  • 00:14:51.140 --> 00:14:54.000
  • on the TV I find preferable
  • 00:14:54.000 --> 00:14:56.000
  • they fit my taste, I enjoy they're my shows.
  • 00:14:56.000 --> 00:14:59.090
  • I like to watch certain shows
  • 00:14:59.090 --> 00:15:02.040
  • now here's the funny thing
  • 00:15:02.040 --> 00:15:03.070
  • Lisa and I married 17 years
  • 00:15:03.070 --> 00:15:04.190
  • and we have a one flesh relationship
  • 00:15:04.190 --> 00:15:06.200
  • she likes some different shows.
  • 00:15:06.200 --> 00:15:08.100
  • We're probably a relational anomaly
  • 00:15:08.100 --> 00:15:09.260
  • probably the only couple in the world
  • 00:15:09.260 --> 00:15:11.170
  • where she likes some shows
  • 00:15:11.170 --> 00:15:12.260
  • and I like other shows.
  • 00:15:12.260 --> 00:15:14.030
  • Any happily married people in the room
  • 00:15:14.030 --> 00:15:15.110
  • make some noise put your hands together
  • 00:15:15.110 --> 00:15:16.280
  • you're happily married, make some noise, all right.
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  • I'm sure you guys like to watch
  • 00:15:20.100 --> 00:15:21.230
  • all the exact same shows on TV.
  • 00:15:21.230 --> 00:15:24.200
  • No?
  • 00:15:24.200 --> 00:15:25.200
  • Oh okay shocking development here
  • 00:15:25.200 --> 00:15:27.180
  • Church By The Glades in fact
  • 00:15:27.180 --> 00:15:28.260
  • we have a very diverse room
  • 00:15:28.260 --> 00:15:30.100
  • all kinds of families in the room
  • 00:15:30.100 --> 00:15:31.160
  • when I say three all campuses
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  • will you shout out the name
  • 00:15:32.190 --> 00:15:34.180
  • of your favorite show,
  • 00:15:34.180 --> 00:15:35.290
  • pick one ready one, two three.
  • 00:15:35.290 --> 00:15:38.010
  • (crowd shouting)
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  • All these different shows.
  • 00:15:41.070 --> 00:15:43.120
  • Well who holds the remote?
  • 00:15:44.180 --> 00:15:46.230
  • Who has the power?
  • 00:15:48.240 --> 00:15:50.090
  • Here's what I've learned here's what I've learned.
  • 00:15:51.220 --> 00:15:54.090
  • I can be the man.
  • 00:15:54.090 --> 00:15:56.000
  • I could pull like hey I'm the man,
  • 00:15:56.000 --> 00:15:58.000
  • I'm the biblical leader in the family,
  • 00:15:58.000 --> 00:15:59.200
  • I work hard, I bring home the paycheck,
  • 00:15:59.200 --> 00:16:02.110
  • I bring home the bacon, I bought the TV.
  • 00:16:02.110 --> 00:16:05.030
  • My remote, I could pull that number
  • 00:16:05.030 --> 00:16:07.070
  • and I would watch TV in my family room
  • 00:16:07.070 --> 00:16:09.140
  • all by myself.
  • 00:16:09.140 --> 00:16:10.190
  • 'Cause we have some other TV's.
  • 00:16:12.020 --> 00:16:13.190
  • But I have found this,
  • 00:16:13.190 --> 00:16:15.100
  • the remote gives me a chance to be
  • 00:16:15.100 --> 00:16:17.240
  • unselfish to be unselfish see selfishness
  • 00:16:17.240 --> 00:16:20.290
  • is a relational deal breaker.
  • 00:16:20.290 --> 00:16:22.210
  • It's the antithesis of intimacy in a relationship
  • 00:16:22.210 --> 00:16:25.040
  • I gotta be unselfish
  • 00:16:25.040 --> 00:16:26.180
  • that's hard for me to be 'cause I tend to be selfish.
  • 00:16:26.180 --> 00:16:29.020
  • I think about me way too much.
  • 00:16:29.020 --> 00:16:30.270
  • Always thinking about my tastes,
  • 00:16:30.270 --> 00:16:32.170
  • my wants, my preferences, I think about you
  • 00:16:32.170 --> 00:16:35.120
  • but how you effect me.
  • 00:16:35.120 --> 00:16:37.020
  • Me me me me I'm always on my mind.
  • 00:16:37.020 --> 00:16:40.020
  • (laughing)
  • 00:16:40.020 --> 00:16:42.070
  • And, you know I got my shows
  • 00:16:42.070 --> 00:16:45.010
  • I like to watch but
  • 00:16:45.010 --> 00:16:46.160
  • I want intimacy with my family
  • 00:16:46.160 --> 00:16:48.050
  • so I found this,
  • 00:16:48.050 --> 00:16:49.080
  • can I discover as far as the TV
  • 00:16:49.080 --> 00:16:51.090
  • commonality?
  • 00:16:51.090 --> 00:16:52.260
  • Can I discover common ground?
  • 00:16:52.260 --> 00:16:54.260
  • Can I discover ways to ready here it is, compromise.
  • 00:16:54.260 --> 00:16:58.230
  • Compromise an amazing relational principle,
  • 00:16:58.230 --> 00:17:01.200
  • when I say three all campuses loudly say
  • 00:17:01.200 --> 00:17:03.170
  • the word, in fact you watching on TV at home
  • 00:17:03.170 --> 00:17:05.140
  • you can say it too, loudly say the word compromise
  • 00:17:05.140 --> 00:17:07.170
  • ready one two three.
  • 00:17:07.170 --> 00:17:08.120
  • - [Crowd] Compromise.
  • 00:17:08.120 --> 00:17:09.150
  • - Now never compromise your values
  • 00:17:09.150 --> 00:17:11.000
  • or your spiritual standards but compromise
  • 00:17:11.000 --> 00:17:13.120
  • is the key to relational harmony.
  • 00:17:13.120 --> 00:17:15.140
  • So here's what I do 'cause I love my family,
  • 00:17:15.140 --> 00:17:17.120
  • I love those kids, I've tried to find a show
  • 00:17:17.120 --> 00:17:20.040
  • I could enjoy with every member of my family.
  • 00:17:20.040 --> 00:17:23.030
  • Example my daughter now she likes some TV
  • 00:17:23.030 --> 00:17:26.070
  • I just don't like,
  • 00:17:26.070 --> 00:17:27.220
  • she likes the E Network she loves celebrity news.
  • 00:17:27.220 --> 00:17:30.230
  • On spring break she started binge watching Lost.
  • 00:17:30.230 --> 00:17:34.180
  • Remember Lost?
  • 00:17:34.180 --> 00:17:35.250
  • I don't like E News, I don't care about
  • 00:17:35.250 --> 00:17:37.280
  • celebrities that much,
  • 00:17:37.280 --> 00:17:39.050
  • Lost I get lost watching Lost.
  • 00:17:39.050 --> 00:17:41.280
  • But we found this show we both can enjoy together
  • 00:17:41.280 --> 00:17:44.270
  • it's called Once Upon A Time it's on ABC.
  • 00:17:44.270 --> 00:17:46.270
  • Yeah, family show fairy tales you know,
  • 00:17:46.270 --> 00:17:50.000
  • it's probably not the show I'd pick by myself
  • 00:17:50.000 --> 00:17:51.220
  • but she enjoys it so I join her in that
  • 00:17:51.220 --> 00:17:53.260
  • and she'll kinda sit on the couch really close
  • 00:17:53.260 --> 00:17:56.070
  • to her dad and we DVR we'll watch
  • 00:17:56.070 --> 00:17:58.100
  • Once Upon A Time man it's a great show now
  • 00:17:58.100 --> 00:18:01.060
  • little tougher with six year old
  • 00:18:01.060 --> 00:18:03.000
  • he likes six year old TV.
  • 00:18:03.000 --> 00:18:05.060
  • Now listen there's some kids program
  • 00:18:05.060 --> 00:18:06.180
  • that is torturous to parents.
  • 00:18:06.180 --> 00:18:09.010
  • Barney is a sin before the Lord.
  • 00:18:09.270 --> 00:18:12.160
  • A purple abomination, just kidding.
  • 00:18:13.180 --> 00:18:17.040
  • Man I can't do Barney.
  • 00:18:17.040 --> 00:18:19.040
  • I just can't do Barney man.
  • 00:18:19.040 --> 00:18:21.110
  • Oh woo, but,
  • 00:18:21.110 --> 00:18:22.110
  • Zaine and I watch a cartoon together
  • 00:18:23.170 --> 00:18:26.120
  • on Disney Channel called Gravity Falls.
  • 00:18:26.120 --> 00:18:29.040
  • Gravity Falls.
  • 00:18:29.040 --> 00:18:30.180
  • Now look I'm a full grown man watching a cartoon
  • 00:18:30.180 --> 00:18:33.100
  • but guess what, my six year old is a world class cuddler
  • 00:18:33.100 --> 00:18:36.210
  • man he'll crawl up to me on the couch get under my arm.
  • 00:18:36.210 --> 00:18:40.210
  • I'll take the remote turn on
  • 00:18:40.210 --> 00:18:41.290
  • Gravity Falls it's a little bit scary
  • 00:18:41.290 --> 00:18:44.050
  • oh by the way this summer
  • 00:18:44.050 --> 00:18:45.170
  • I have a series I wanna do
  • 00:18:45.170 --> 00:18:47.000
  • tentatively titled Villains Bad Guys and Minions.
  • 00:18:47.000 --> 00:18:50.150
  • One of the best bad guys on TV right now
  • 00:18:50.150 --> 00:18:52.080
  • is little Gideon on Gravity Falls.
  • 00:18:52.080 --> 00:18:54.150
  • But we watch that show he laughs,
  • 00:18:54.150 --> 00:18:56.110
  • I laugh at him laughing,
  • 00:18:56.110 --> 00:18:57.250
  • now Charlie, this one's not even really a sacrifice,
  • 00:18:57.250 --> 00:19:01.220
  • my and my 15 year old the show we share is
  • 00:19:01.220 --> 00:19:04.260
  • Parks and Recreation, Parks and Recreation,
  • 00:19:04.260 --> 00:19:07.210
  • we're a little late to the Parks and Recreation party.
  • 00:19:07.210 --> 00:19:10.120
  • We watch it on Netflix he'll finish his homework
  • 00:19:10.120 --> 00:19:12.220
  • he'll come and say dad
  • 00:19:12.220 --> 00:19:14.000
  • wanna watch Parks is awesome
  • 00:19:14.000 --> 00:19:15.070
  • I mean Andy Dwyer what a funny character.
  • 00:19:15.070 --> 00:19:18.050
  • And Ron Swanson
  • 00:19:18.050 --> 00:19:20.030
  • on my gosh anybody knows that actor
  • 00:19:20.030 --> 00:19:21.160
  • I want him here on Father's Day
  • 00:19:21.160 --> 00:19:22.280
  • the ultimate male Ron Swanson.
  • 00:19:22.280 --> 00:19:24.270
  • We watch Parks we literally L-O-L with that show
  • 00:19:24.270 --> 00:19:28.250
  • but the toughest one in my whole family is Lisa.
  • 00:19:28.250 --> 00:19:32.230
  • You see 17 and a half years ago we were dating.
  • 00:19:34.050 --> 00:19:37.210
  • She loved Monday Night Football.
  • 00:19:37.210 --> 00:19:39.230
  • (laughing)
  • 00:19:39.230 --> 00:19:42.000
  • Arnold Schwarzenegger movies.
  • 00:19:43.200 --> 00:19:46.160
  • The Rambo series she loved that
  • 00:19:46.160 --> 00:19:48.130
  • she would watch that we were dating
  • 00:19:48.130 --> 00:19:49.270
  • and she'd watch those movies gladly
  • 00:19:49.270 --> 00:19:51.150
  • she watched those
  • 00:19:51.150 --> 00:19:52.290
  • and here's a little something to help the single people
  • 00:19:52.290 --> 00:19:54.150
  • when you go from marriage to dating
  • 00:19:54.150 --> 00:19:57.240
  • a few small things change.
  • 00:19:57.240 --> 00:20:00.210
  • (laughing)
  • 00:20:00.210 --> 00:20:02.060
  • Like everything changes right everything changes
  • 00:20:02.060 --> 00:20:04.250
  • and a couple months in the marriage
  • 00:20:04.250 --> 00:20:06.170
  • she says David I don't really like football.
  • 00:20:06.170 --> 00:20:09.050
  • I don't really enjoy Arnold Schwarzenegger movies.
  • 00:20:09.050 --> 00:20:12.100
  • And we spent years a decade and a half
  • 00:20:12.100 --> 00:20:14.210
  • trying to find common ground and guys it's tough
  • 00:20:14.210 --> 00:20:16.230
  • she likes those Desperate Housewife shows,
  • 00:20:16.230 --> 00:20:19.180
  • no that's not what it's called
  • 00:20:19.180 --> 00:20:21.090
  • Real Housewives, she likes those Real Housewives
  • 00:20:21.090 --> 00:20:23.120
  • oh man I can't stand those shows.
  • 00:20:23.120 --> 00:20:25.050
  • She likes all those 48 hour murder mystery things.
  • 00:20:25.050 --> 00:20:29.020
  • Right?
  • 00:20:29.020 --> 00:20:30.030
  • She watches those a lot
  • 00:20:30.030 --> 00:20:31.090
  • by the way if I ever disappear
  • 00:20:31.090 --> 00:20:32.250
  • y'all check her out.
  • 00:20:32.250 --> 00:20:34.250
  • I pray she's just enjoying that not doing research
  • 00:20:34.250 --> 00:20:37.220
  • to bump me off successfully.
  • 00:20:37.220 --> 00:20:39.190
  • I don't enjoy that show,
  • 00:20:39.190 --> 00:20:41.020
  • and we really worked really really hard
  • 00:20:41.020 --> 00:20:43.050
  • to find something we can both watch together
  • 00:20:43.050 --> 00:20:44.170
  • and finally finally there's something
  • 00:20:44.170 --> 00:20:46.250
  • I've decided to join her with,
  • 00:20:46.250 --> 00:20:48.010
  • I would not choose this on my own
  • 00:20:48.010 --> 00:20:49.120
  • and guys I'm so embarrassed to admit this
  • 00:20:49.120 --> 00:20:51.250
  • to my brothers
  • 00:20:51.250 --> 00:20:53.090
  • but I will watch HGTV.
  • 00:20:53.090 --> 00:20:55.140
  • (crowd cheering)
  • 00:20:55.140 --> 00:20:57.280
  • I will surrender my man card after this service
  • 00:20:57.280 --> 00:21:00.280
  • and but it is too
  • 00:21:00.280 --> 00:21:02.110
  • I don't watch it like this.
  • 00:21:03.140 --> 00:21:05.190
  • We're watching your show,
  • 00:21:05.190 --> 00:21:07.260
  • I'm compromised and upset
  • 00:21:07.260 --> 00:21:09.090
  • no no I try to enter into the experience
  • 00:21:09.090 --> 00:21:11.010
  • with my wife and my kids and try to enjoy
  • 00:21:11.010 --> 00:21:12.220
  • you know try to engage try to
  • 00:21:12.220 --> 00:21:14.280
  • I've learned out I like some HGTV.
  • 00:21:14.280 --> 00:21:17.120
  • House Hunters International,
  • 00:21:17.120 --> 00:21:19.290
  • I wanna know what a condo looks like
  • 00:21:19.290 --> 00:21:21.120
  • in Bogata there you go you know?
  • 00:21:21.120 --> 00:21:23.240
  • What's that one it's the nice nice couple
  • 00:21:23.240 --> 00:21:26.110
  • from Waco, Texas went to Bailer, went to Bailer?
  • 00:21:26.110 --> 00:21:29.210
  • Fixer Upper.
  • 00:21:29.210 --> 00:21:30.190
  • Tammy, they spend like $19 on a shack
  • 00:21:31.270 --> 00:21:35.000
  • that looks like a mansion when they're done
  • 00:21:35.000 --> 00:21:36.180
  • oh that's interesting so I watch that show.
  • 00:21:36.180 --> 00:21:39.240
  • Now truth be told if I have the remote in the room
  • 00:21:39.240 --> 00:21:42.210
  • all by myself I'm not watching any of those shows.
  • 00:21:42.210 --> 00:21:46.200
  • If I'm just thinking about me and my preference
  • 00:21:46.200 --> 00:21:48.050
  • all by myself I'm watching fishing shows.
  • 00:21:48.050 --> 00:21:51.080
  • I'm watching ESPN.
  • 00:21:51.080 --> 00:21:53.100
  • I'm watching more fishing shows.
  • 00:21:53.100 --> 00:21:55.230
  • Little History Channel.
  • 00:21:55.230 --> 00:21:57.140
  • Fishing shows followed by more fishing shows
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  • and I could pull the number
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  • well I'm the man, I'm the leader,
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  • I bought the TV blah blah blah blah blah
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  • and sit in that room lonely by myself.
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  • But I learn in my Bible
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  • in First Corinthians chapter 13 verse five
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  • a bunch of things that love is not.
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  • I find out love isn't rude,
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  • it's not ill mannered, but I learned in the middle
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  • of the verse that love it is not self-seeking.
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  • If I'm selfish,
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  • I'll eradicate intimacy in my relationships.
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  • I gotta get over me.
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  • Compromise is a good thing
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  • compromise is a good thing all right
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  • I'm gonna give you guys a verse to turn to
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  • I didn't tell you the verse of the day.
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  • Let's take the theme verse let's find the theme verse
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  • here I'll be to it in like five minutes,
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  • find the theme verse it's Second Timothy chapter one.
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  • Second Timothy chapter one,
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  • hey let's say it together loudly all campuses ready?
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  • Second Timothy chapter.
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  • - [Crowd] One.
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  • - Come on one o'clock Second Timothy chapter.
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  • - [Crowd] One.
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  • - All right you turn there
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  • and I'll go to the next thing in my family room
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  • how about, oh back here back here,
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  • in my family room,
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  • look what our creative team came up with.
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  • There's a thermostat.
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  • Little thermostat, pretend thermostat on the wall all right?
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  • When I say three say the word thermostat
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  • one two three.
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  • - [Crowd] Thermostat.
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  • - Thermostat, thermostat,
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  • great piece of technology now notice I said
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  • thermostat did not say thermometer.
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  • Now not knocking the thermometer.
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  • It has its place, has its purpose,
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  • it's a relatively simple piece of technology
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  • with a very simplistic purpose.
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  • Stay with me.
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  • For somebody this is the most important part
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  • of the talk for you today.
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  • This'll be your take away.
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  • A thermometer
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  • simply reflects the temperature in an environment.
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  • It's reactionary by design that's all it does.
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  • A thermostat
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  • reads the present temperature in an environment
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  • but then is powerful and can change
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  • and alter that temperature
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  • to something more preferable.
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  • All right, your family room has
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  • an emotional temperature.
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  • Based on who's in the room,
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  • what's going on in their lives,
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  • what happened that day,
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  • the level of their stress or frustration
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  • there's an emotional temperature
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  • to your relationships to your
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  • family in your family room
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  • so don't answer this out loud
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  • but Christian person when it comes to the
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  • emotional tenure of your family
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  • are you a thermostat
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  • or are you a thermometer?
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  • Which are you?
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  • Well based on the Bible
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  • you should be a thermostat.
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  • See some of us just react emotionally.
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  • We just reflect the negative emotion in the environment.
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  • I don't think that's what God has
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  • equipped and called you to do.
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  • Let me show you here's the theme verse,
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  • it is Second Timothy chapter one,
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  • look at this verse seven
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  • this is a great great verse here
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  • this is what God has not given us
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  • and what God has provided for us.
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  • It says for God has not given us
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  • a spirit of fear, fear never comes from God.
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  • Over 300 times in the Bible God says fear not,
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  • fear not, fear not, fear not.
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  • God has not given us the spirit of fear
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  • but here's what he's given us
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  • but of power and of love and of self.
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  • - [Crowd] Control.
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  • - Self-control, so God has given me
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  • as a Christ follower self-control.
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  • Now to show you this is not just a one time thing
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  • in the Bible a biblical anomaly it's actually a theme
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  • in the New Testament, here's a very famous verse,
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  • it's Galicians five verse 22 23
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  • talks about the holy spirit.
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  • You see when you were saved.
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  • When you gained access to God,
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  • father God saves you by work of God the son
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  • and then God the son gives you God the spirit.
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  • And the spirit infuses your life with its power
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  • and his fruit byproducts of spiritual life
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  • look here's what they are
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  • but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy,
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  • peace, patience, kindness,
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  • goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self.
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  • - [Crowd] Control.
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  • - God has past tense already given you self-control.
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  • But sadly some Christians are others controlled,
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  • you are thermometer, you walk into a heated environment
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  • where people are frustrated and tense
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  • and you don't alter the situation
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  • you just reflect it.
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  • You reduce yourself to a victim,
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  • you surrender your emotional control to other people.
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  • You give over the title deed of your emotions
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  • to the negative people around you.
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  • You're a thermometer
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  • but God's equipped you in a power to be a thermostat.
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  • Just because of truth in your life right now.
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  • Well David how do I know if you're
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  • talking about me okay your language
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  • will perform a self-diagnostic.
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  • Whether you're a thermometer or
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  • a thermostat all right?
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  • Do you say things like this you say
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  • she made me so mad.
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  • He made me so frustrated.
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  • The traffic made me crazy.
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  • She made you so,
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  • she made, you're a Christian adult male?
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  • She made you?
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  • Read your Bible, my Bible says God made you.
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  • God the father made you
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  • and then God the son saved you and remade you
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  • then God the father and God the son
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  • gave you God the spirit
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  • and God the spirit gave you self-control.
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  • They made you know God gave you the ability
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  • to control your own emotions.
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  • Why would you surrender the title deed
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  • of your emotions to someone else?
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  • - Hey guys we're so honored that
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  • you would tune in today
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  • and we hope that this message
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  • will continue to be a source of inspiration
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  • and encouragement
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  • as you go forward into your week.
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  • (upbeat music)
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