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August 15, 2016
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  • Tristin: Good morning and welcome to Church by the Glades
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  • with Pastor David Hughes.
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  • My name is Tristin and we are absolutely thrilled
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  • that you're here.
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  • Today, we've got an empowering message that we know will bring
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  • hope and encouragement to the start of your week so stick
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  • around 'cause it's gonna be great.
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  • female: At Church by the Glades,
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  • we like to say no perfect people allowed,
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  • which means that no matter where you are in life,
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  • you'll be welcomed when you visit.
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  • So in case you haven't visited yet,
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  • here's a sneak peak of some of the amazing things that happen
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  • at Church by the Glades every week.
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  • Check it out.
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  • In the midst of the darkness,
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  • you're the light that guides me through.
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  • Our eyes are on you.
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  • You are near to the broken.
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  • The weak find their strength in you.
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  • Our eyes are on you.
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  • When I'm lost in the madness,
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  • you're the peace that calms my soul.
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  • Our eyes are on you.
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  • You bring hope to the hopeless.
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  • You're the love that won't let go.
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  • Our eyes are on you.
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  • We lift our eyes to you, where our help comes from.
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  • Our hope is found in you.
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  • Jesus, Lord of all, we lift our eyes to you,
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  • exalted one, exalted one.
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  • Your promises--
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  • female: Just a heads-up, guys, today we're continuing
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  • a teaching we started last week so to catch up
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  • on the entire message, go to www.cbglades.com
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  • and click on the media link.
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  • Now, go ahead and grab your Bible and something to take
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  • notes with and let's dive into today's teaching.
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  • David Hughes: Let me circle back around 'cause someone's
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  • going, like, "Uh, David, it's too late for me.
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  • My relationships, my mistakes, my regrets,
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  • so profound that if I heard this 20 years ago I wouldn't have
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  • made these mistakes but my relationships are so
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  • dysfunctional it's too late for me."
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  • Okay, you're the reason why God put Rahab's name in the Bible.
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  • You think you were messy and you made mistakes? Rahab?
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  • Man, it's amazing that Rahab shows up in the most prestigious
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  • family tree, a family tree.
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  • She is a descendant--an ancestor of King David,
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  • an ancestor of Messiah his self, she's the great-grandmother of
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  • Jesus 28 times over, and the great-grandmother of the
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  • greatest king except for Jesus.
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  • And the fact she shows up in here is remarkable.
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  • Now, if you have your Bible open,
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  • you can stay in Matthew chapter 1.
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  • I'm gonna quickly bounce to Rahab's story.
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  • It's in the Old Testament. It's in Joshua chapter 2.
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  • If you can--turn there if you like but I'm gonna read it to
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  • you here really quickly.
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  • And here's the cool thing.
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  • Rahab who shows up in this family context,
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  • this long list of these weird names,
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  • she's in the most famous spy story in the Bible.
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  • Yeah, Ian Fleming did not begin the spy genre
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  • in literature in the '50s.
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  • No, no, no. No, goes all the way back to the Bible.
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  • There's a couple of really cool spy stories.
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  • This is probably the most famous.
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  • There's a couple ones but this one is really cool.
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  • It's the story of Rahab, what happens in her life.
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  • So let's begin. Here's what it says.
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  • Verse 1, Joshua chapter 2.
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  • Joshua was the commander-in-chief
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  • of Israel after Moses.
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  • They're about to go in and take the Promised Land.
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  • "Then Joshua son of Nun," there it is, son of Nun.
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  • Doesn't say Joshua Jones.
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  • Doesn't say Joshua, you know, was it-- "Joshua son of Nun
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  • secretly sent two spies."
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  • We got spies in the Bible right here. Spies in the Bible.
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  • In fact, this is kind of funny.
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  • "Joshua son of Nun secretly sent two spies from Shittim."
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  • Yeah, you can kind of get away with almost cussing,
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  • reading your Bible sometimes.
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  • So the people of God, they're not in the Promised Land yet.
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  • They've not embraced the promise.
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  • They're not where God want them yet so,
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  • listen, if you're not where God wants you, you're in Shittim.
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  • Some of y'all are in deep Shittim right now 'cause you're
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  • not where God wants you to be.
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  • I'm just teaching. I'm just teaching.
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  • Larry, I'm just teaching the Bible.
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  • I'm just teaching the Bible. All right, so here we go.
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  • Here we go. What was I saying?
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  • All right, and there's two spies and so,
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  • "Go and--go check out the land," he said, "'especially Jericho.'
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  • So they went and entered the house of a woman named
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  • Rahab and they stayed there."
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  • They stayed in Rahab's house.
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  • So the two spies are Hebrews.
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  • They're in Rahab's--she lives in Jericho.
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  • Now, "The king of Jericho was told,
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  • 'Look, some Israelites have come here tonight to spy out the
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  • land,' so the king of Jericho sent this message to Rahab,
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  • 'Bring out the men who came to you and entered your house,
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  • because they have come to spy out the whole land.'
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  • But the woman," Rahab, "had taken the two men
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  • and hidden them.
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  • And then she said," to the soldiers or army guys or these
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  • policemen, 'Yes, yes, the men came to me,
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  • but I did not know where they had come from.
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  • At dusk, when it was time to close the city gates,
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  • the men left.
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  • I don't know which way they went. But go.
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  • Go after them quickly that you may catch them.'"
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  • All right, all right, here's Rahab.
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  • Did you catch the details in the story?
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  • Rahab's--all the good guys are Hebrews.
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  • Joshua's a Hebrew.
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  • The spies are Hebrews. The children of God are Hebrews.
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  • But she's not a Hebrew. She lives in Jericho.
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  • She's a Canaanite.
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  • She's--okay, she's--her background, pagan.
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  • She grew up worshiping idols.
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  • We know from history the Canaanites,
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  • the people in Jericho, were horrific people.
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  • They were cruel, they were violent, they were racist.
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  • Sexually, wow!
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  • Wheels off, crazy, immoral, really weird,
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  • weird, weird relationship stuff.
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  • So there she is, but notice in the story she harbors the two
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  • spies and she's a co-conspirator with the spies.
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  • And then when the police show up, she has this great story.
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  • So listen, she's a spy too.
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  • Rahab is a Canaanite spy who's assisting
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  • the Hebrew heroes in the story.
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  • So as I would argue, she's the first Bond girl in history.
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  • She's leading the authorities astray,
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  • she's protecting these two men of God.
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  • Later on, you find why. You can read that for homework.
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  • Read the rest of chapter 2, what God does.
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  • But Rahab is crazy.
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  • She's in the lineage of Jesus, she's a great-grandma of the
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  • greatest king, David, and she's not even a Hebrew.
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  • She's a pagan, she's a Canaanite,
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  • she's been an idol-worshipper her whole life,
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  • and she's a spy.
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  • She's a spy. She's a Bond girl.
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  • She is a Bond girl. So God uses someone like this.
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  • So if you're thinking, "Man, I'm too far gone,"
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  • you just need to embrace your assignment.
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  • In fact, I want you to be an agent.
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  • She was a Canaanite working for the Hebrews.
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  • She was a double agent.
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  • I want you to accept a mission.
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  • Be an agent of relational transformation.
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  • And I wanna spend the few moments we have left giving you
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  • three objectives in your mission today.
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  • Write these things down. Write these notes down.
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  • If someone tries to get them, destroy them, all right?
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  • Very important, secret mission you're on,
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  • to be an agent of relational transformation,
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  • in your marriage, in your home, in your friendships,
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  • in your dating.
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  • Three ideas. Number one, words.
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  • Your words have a license to kill.
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  • Words are so powerful.
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  • There's somebody here, you have toxic relationships 'cause you
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  • continually speak toxic words.
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  • Don't answer out loud. Don't answer out loud.
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  • Turn to your neighbor and say, "Don't answer out loud.
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  • You normally do."
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  • Go ahead. That's great. David loves that response
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  • but right now, okay, don't answer out loud.
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  • Are you loud?
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  • Are you obnoxious with people you love the most?
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  • Are you rude? Are you impolite?
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  • Are you constantly nagging?
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  • Are you always negative? Are you critical?
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  • Do you speak harsh words?
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  • Man, your words can do so much damage.
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  • In fact, some of you guys, you are so impolite and so rude with
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  • the people you love the most.
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  • Now, you step into other environments,
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  • you can turn on, can't you?
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  • You go to work or the campus or the office,
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  • oh my gosh, you are so cordial, you are so kind,
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  • you are so encouraging.
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  • "Hey, hey, Ed, have you lost weight?
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  • You're looking great there, my brother.
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  • Betty, I love the new hair. It's working for you.
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  • I heard you landed that client. I'm so proud of you.
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  • It's great to have you on the team."
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  • And then you go home and you're a big grump to your wife and
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  • your kids.
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  • Kids, you're all funny and cool and encouraging
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  • with your buddies.
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  • You get home and you mouth off and you're rude and
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  • disrespectful to your parents.
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  • Man!
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  • "Well, it's just the way I'm wired, yeah?
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  • I'm just kind of a loud person. I'm a critical thinker.
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  • It's just the way I, you know, I'm impulsive.
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  • I just say what I think. I'm just keeping it real."
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  • You're just keeping everybody really miserable,
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  • is what you're doing 'cause your words matter.
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  • Your words carry so much weight.
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  • They can be an instrument that God uses to encourage and build
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  • and to give hope and life to other people or they can be a
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  • deadly weapon and your mouth has a license to kill.
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  • I'm gonna show you a verse in the Old Testament,
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  • very profound, and God brought someone here just to intersect
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  • your life and your harsh words with this verse.
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  • In Proverbs 18:21, it says, "Death and life are in the
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  • power," not of the sword or the spear.
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  • "Power of the tongue."
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  • Let me see your tongue.
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  • Do this. I feel weird doing it by myself.
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  • Come on, everybody.
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  • Weapon!
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  • Or instrument.
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  • You can tear people down, destroy people,
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  • be so critical and so mean and harsh with your words,
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  • just destroy ambition, destroy hope,
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  • destroy self-confidence or you can build.
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  • Ephesians 4:29 says, "Let no unwholesome word even come from
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  • your mouth but only speak words of edification,
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  • giving grace according to the need of the moment."
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  • Listen, so based on this verse, Proverbs 18:21,
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  • life and death, life and death are in the power of the tongue.
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  • You can speak words of death or you can speak words of life.
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  • Guess what?
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  • Do you know how much it costs to speak words of life into those
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  • you love the most?
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  • Nothing. Speak words of life.
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  • Be encouraging.
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  • Mind your words.
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  • First mission objective is I wanna understand
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  • the power of my language.
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  • Number next, be consistent.
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  • Be consistent.
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  • The Bible celebrates faithfulness.
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  • What is faithfulness?
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  • It's just trusting God over the duration of time.
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  • It's someone that's getting--they're not perfect but
  • 00:12:29.140 --> 00:12:31.180
  • they're consistent.
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  • This is so vital that we are consistent in our interpersonal
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  • relationships, especially parents to kids.
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  • A lot of kids are frustrated.
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  • It's not because you've established the wrong rules.
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  • You just fail to be consistent in enforcing those rules.
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  • And you're thinking, "Well, my kids are uptight because maybe I
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  • drew the boundaries in the wrong place."
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  • I think your kids are desperate for you to be consistent.
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  • If you're consistent, if you set the bar and then you guard the
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  • bar, you know, get loud and yell and scream but they violate one
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  • of the family boundaries.
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  • Boundaries, by the way, kids, are not bad.
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  • Boundaries are biblical, blessed,
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  • and beautiful.
  • 00:13:06.280 --> 00:13:08.070
  • So if you step across a boundary,
  • 00:13:08.080 --> 00:13:10.060
  • if you parent with consistency, you say,
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  • "Wow, man, you made this choice to violate one of our family
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  • relationship rules so you made this choice and you have brought
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  • this consequence on yourself.
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  • I'm not the consequence.
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  • Your choice, your choice has brought this--"
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  • But to be consistent.
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  • Here's the problem.
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  • Sometimes we enforce it, sometimes you're just too tired.
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  • "You go deal with those kids. I'm too tired.
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  • Did you see what your son did? I'm so tired," right?
  • 00:13:32.250 --> 00:13:36.030
  • And they know.
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  • When you establish that rule, they know when to test you.
  • 00:13:37.260 --> 00:13:39.260
  • Yeah, they're smart. Kids are so smart.
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  • Even little punk kids. Little punk--like 3-year-old.
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  • The 3-year-old knows the rule but he sees Dad there on the
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  • couch, looking all tired.
  • 00:13:47.000 --> 00:13:48.080
  • He's thinking, "You know, Dad looks tired.
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  • I think I can get away with it this time.
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  • I'm gonna try and then will he get up and deal
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  • with me this time?"
  • 00:13:52.260 --> 00:13:54.050
  • And consistency is so vital.
  • 00:13:54.060 --> 00:13:58.040
  • And I would argue that frustration is
  • 00:13:58.050 --> 00:14:00.020
  • not the rule, typically.
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  • It's the fact that we're inconsistent in
  • 00:14:01.200 --> 00:14:03.260
  • enforcing the rule.
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  • Don't believe me. They're not looking convinced here at all.
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  • All right, let's pick on Mom and Dad.
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  • When you get frustrated, how--all right, all right.
  • 00:14:09.270 --> 00:14:12.100
  • You get pulled over by one of Coral Springs' finest and you
  • 00:14:12.110 --> 00:14:16.150
  • get a ticket for speeding 'cause you were speeding, all right?
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  • What happens in that encounter?
  • 00:14:20.150 --> 00:14:22.060
  • Well, because you mind your words,
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  • you say, "Oh, Officer, thank you so much.
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  • I'm so glad you caught me doing this because,
  • 00:14:25.150 --> 00:14:28.020
  • you know, I could hurt someone or myself.
  • 00:14:28.030 --> 00:14:29.220
  • I was not being really aware.
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  • And I thank you for instilling this discipline in my life
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  • and I thank you.
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  • This is a consequence to my bad--" Is that what you do?
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  • No, be polite, by the way. Whatever you do.
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  • Even if you disagree, be polite.
  • 00:14:40.030 --> 00:14:42.120
  • But what--even if you're not, just like,
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  • "Okay, give me the ticket. Give me the ticket.
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  • All right, whatever. Give me the ticket."
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  • You open the window, like, "Thank you, Officer."
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  • "Stupid cop.
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  • Can't believe cops, man. Cops.
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  • Cops have authority issues.
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  • Cops. Cops are power tripping, man.
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  • Cop gave me a ticket, gave--" You know why you're frustrated
  • 00:14:57.210 --> 00:14:59.280
  • at the cop?
  • 00:14:59.290 --> 00:15:01.100
  • Because cops just logistically, pragmatically, can't
  • 00:15:01.110 --> 00:15:03.260
  • consistently enforce the speed limits all the time, right?
  • 00:15:03.270 --> 00:15:09.070
  • I mean, they can't be there every single time that you speed
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  • and every single time you speed a cop pulls you over
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  • and gives you a ticket.
  • 00:15:13.000 --> 00:15:14.080
  • That happened every single time, you wouldn't be
  • 00:15:14.090 --> 00:15:16.060
  • frustrated at the cop.
  • 00:15:16.070 --> 00:15:17.210
  • You'd be mad at yourself.
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  • Oh, you're not feelin' me, all right, all right.
  • 00:15:19.230 --> 00:15:21.220
  • All right, pretend we don't need cops anymore,
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  • at least for traffic issues because every single car has a
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  • device installed in the dashboard and the moment you go,
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  • I dunno, 5 miles over the speed limit,
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  • the car kicks into autopilot mode,
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  • pulls off to a safe place, and then the engine shuts completely
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  • down.
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  • And it won't start up again until you take out your debit
  • 00:15:38.090 --> 00:15:40.220
  • card and you put it inside a slot and it withdraws $150,
  • 00:15:40.230 --> 00:15:45.010
  • then it contacts your insurance company and they raise your rate
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  • for the next year and a half.
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  • If you--if that happened to you, who are you mad at?
  • 00:15:54.230 --> 00:15:58.180
  • In fact, what happens long-term?
  • 00:15:58.190 --> 00:16:00.040
  • You stop speeding 'cause every single time the boundary is
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  • enforced.
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  • Parents, we gotta be--and it's so hard because they're so smart
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  • or they're so cute.
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  • We gotta be consistent.
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  • God, the heavenly Father, is the only perfect parent but
  • 00:16:15.210 --> 00:16:19.100
  • he is perfectly consistent.
  • 00:16:19.110 --> 00:16:20.290
  • He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
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  • All right, all right, you got it?
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  • Your words, your words, man, your words are powerful.
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  • Mind your words. They have a license to kill.
  • 00:16:29.060 --> 00:16:31.080
  • Then number two is your second objective.
  • 00:16:31.090 --> 00:16:32.290
  • Be consistent in your friendship.
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  • You have a friendship.
  • 00:16:35.150 --> 00:16:36.240
  • That friend is there for you one time and then not around when
  • 00:16:36.250 --> 00:16:38.030
  • you need 'em later on?
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  • Be a consistent friend.
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  • Be consistent with your values as you date.
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  • Here's the last one.
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  • This is especially for marriage and parenting.
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  • Work hard. You gotta work hard.
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  • This mission assignment won't be easy.
  • 00:16:49.220 --> 00:16:54.290
  • You see, I think part of the cultural mythology on romance
  • 00:16:55.000 --> 00:16:57.140
  • and relationships is relationships should
  • 00:16:57.150 --> 00:16:59.120
  • come kind of easy.
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  • Come kind of easy. Now, I've said this before.
  • 00:17:01.010 --> 00:17:02.210
  • Dating should be pretty easy.
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  • If your dating life has all kinds of drama with that person.
  • 00:17:05.180 --> 00:17:08.070
  • You fight, you battle, you argue,
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  • you break up, you get back together,
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  • you break up, you get back together.
  • 00:17:12.170 --> 00:17:14.060
  • Guess what? Dating should not be that hard.
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  • Move on.
  • 00:17:16.150 --> 00:17:18.270
  • Because it's not gonna get easier when you get married.
  • 00:17:18.280 --> 00:17:22.000
  • But marriage, I mean, real relationships in the real world,
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  • parenting, work.
  • 00:17:27.190 --> 00:17:28.240
  • See my beautiful family up here?
  • 00:17:28.250 --> 00:17:30.290
  • It took more drama to get those kids dressed and Victoria was a
  • 00:17:31.000 --> 00:17:34.190
  • little nervous about being up here
  • 00:17:34.200 --> 00:17:36.090
  • and Zane couldn't wait to be up here.
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  • And getting everybody here on time,
  • 00:17:37.200 --> 00:17:39.140
  • and I do life with amazing people.
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  • I'm married to the perfect girl for me.
  • 00:17:42.000 --> 00:17:44.000
  • But a good marriage, good marriage takes work.
  • 00:17:44.010 --> 00:17:47.280
  • See, here's the cultural myth.
  • 00:17:47.290 --> 00:17:49.140
  • That if you have a good romance or a good marriage,
  • 00:17:49.150 --> 00:17:51.200
  • it doesn't take work. It doesn't take work.
  • 00:17:51.210 --> 00:17:53.180
  • It's all compatibility, it's all chemistry,
  • 00:17:53.190 --> 00:17:56.110
  • it's all organic.
  • 00:17:56.120 --> 00:17:57.250
  • Now, we recognize--recognize that every other vital area of
  • 00:17:57.260 --> 00:18:01.280
  • life, if you wanna know success, you gotta work hard.
  • 00:18:01.290 --> 00:18:04.210
  • The Bible values a biblical work ethic but you gotta work hard.
  • 00:18:04.220 --> 00:18:08.040
  • So if I wanna succeed
  • 00:18:08.050 --> 00:18:09.140
  • professionally, I've gotta work hard.
  • 00:18:09.150 --> 00:18:10.240
  • If I wanna succeed academically, I gotta work hard.
  • 00:18:10.250 --> 00:18:14.000
  • If I wanna succeed athletically, I gotta work hard.
  • 00:18:14.010 --> 00:18:16.210
  • If I wanna succeed financially, I gotta make good decisions,
  • 00:18:16.220 --> 00:18:20.060
  • be disciplined, and go to financial peace university and
  • 00:18:20.070 --> 00:18:24.030
  • work hard and God will bless it.
  • 00:18:24.040 --> 00:18:26.220
  • Well, if it's that way athletically and professionally
  • 00:18:26.230 --> 00:18:29.200
  • and financially and what have you,
  • 00:18:29.210 --> 00:18:31.030
  • why do we think it's different relationally,
  • 00:18:31.040 --> 00:18:33.250
  • romantically?
  • 00:18:33.260 --> 00:18:35.190
  • It takes work. See, here's the problem.
  • 00:18:35.200 --> 00:18:37.170
  • I think the movies have messed us up.
  • 00:18:37.180 --> 00:18:40.000
  • Not the Bond flicks, I mean the cute little boy meets girl
  • 00:18:40.010 --> 00:18:43.060
  • movies, right?
  • 00:18:43.070 --> 00:18:44.160
  • I think those books and stuff and those sitcoms,
  • 00:18:44.170 --> 00:18:46.250
  • they mess us up 'cause how they work,
  • 00:18:46.260 --> 00:18:48.080
  • they're all cute.
  • 00:18:48.090 --> 00:18:49.290
  • They're all cute, right?
  • 00:18:50.000 --> 00:18:51.170
  • Cute girl meets cute boy.
  • 00:18:51.180 --> 00:18:53.190
  • They have a cute dating relationship.
  • 00:18:53.200 --> 00:18:56.100
  • Oh, they got a couple of bumps in the road but they have such
  • 00:18:56.110 --> 00:18:58.260
  • rapport and such chemistry and such passion.
  • 00:18:58.270 --> 00:19:01.100
  • They work through that and the cute boy and the cute girl
  • 00:19:01.110 --> 00:19:04.070
  • become this cute couple.
  • 00:19:04.080 --> 00:19:05.140
  • And they have a cute wedding at a cute church.
  • 00:19:05.150 --> 00:19:08.270
  • Have cute kids, end up with a cute life,
  • 00:19:08.280 --> 00:19:11.050
  • right?
  • 00:19:11.060 --> 00:19:12.150
  • I would argue that valued, true, growing,
  • 00:19:12.160 --> 00:19:15.150
  • progressing relationships like marriage are not so much about
  • 00:19:15.160 --> 00:19:18.230
  • cute as they are commitment.
  • 00:19:18.240 --> 00:19:21.060
  • Commitment.
  • 00:19:21.070 --> 00:19:23.020
  • Commitment when it's not cute.
  • 00:19:23.030 --> 00:19:26.070
  • Let me give you the secret sauce for a marriage
  • 00:19:26.080 --> 00:19:28.120
  • that goes the distance.
  • 00:19:28.130 --> 00:19:29.220
  • It's not sexy at all. Here it is.
  • 00:19:29.230 --> 00:19:31.080
  • Here's the secret phrase.
  • 00:19:31.090 --> 00:19:32.240
  • Here it is. "I'm not going anywhere."
  • 00:19:32.250 --> 00:19:41.130
  • Here's my ultimatum. I'm never leaving.
  • 00:19:41.140 --> 00:19:45.180
  • I'm in this thing for life so we better figure it out.
  • 00:19:45.190 --> 00:19:49.220
  • You're not going anywhere, I'm not going anywhere.
  • 00:19:49.230 --> 00:19:51.270
  • We better work on this.
  • 00:19:51.280 --> 00:19:53.210
  • I'm not leaving 'til death do us part.
  • 00:19:53.220 --> 00:19:58.260
  • And I'm pretty healthy right now so let's figure this out.
  • 00:19:58.270 --> 00:20:06.250
  • It's not about cute. It's about commitment.
  • 00:20:06.260 --> 00:20:10.220
  • It's about doing the work, dealing with the stuff,
  • 00:20:10.230 --> 00:20:13.210
  • working through the frustration, being unselfish,
  • 00:20:13.220 --> 00:20:17.060
  • which is so hard to do.
  • 00:20:17.070 --> 00:20:19.230
  • Cute!
  • 00:20:19.240 --> 00:20:21.030
  • I'll give you an example on this.
  • 00:20:21.040 --> 00:20:22.160
  • Any dog people, dog people?
  • 00:20:22.170 --> 00:20:24.170
  • All right.
  • 00:20:24.180 --> 00:20:26.200
  • There are dog people and there are people that have dogs.
  • 00:20:26.210 --> 00:20:30.030
  • Let me show you my family Christmas picture.
  • 00:20:30.040 --> 00:20:31.180
  • I'm gonna share my family Christmas picture.
  • 00:20:31.190 --> 00:20:32.290
  • Here shows you how messy my family is.
  • 00:20:33.000 --> 00:20:34.210
  • This is my family Christmas card.
  • 00:20:34.220 --> 00:20:36.120
  • Did you get it? Did you get my family Christmas card?
  • 00:20:36.130 --> 00:20:38.050
  • No, we've not sent it yet. This is long after Christmas.
  • 00:20:38.060 --> 00:20:43.090
  • But it's the only time that Rev the wonder dog has made the
  • 00:20:43.100 --> 00:20:46.150
  • family Christmas pic and that only happened because we shot it
  • 00:20:46.160 --> 00:20:49.230
  • at home, Mark and Tiffany came over,
  • 00:20:49.240 --> 00:20:51.220
  • we threw a couch in the back yard and mosquitoes were buzzing
  • 00:20:51.230 --> 00:20:54.150
  • and we took this quick family--there's my family bond
  • 00:20:54.160 --> 00:20:57.260
  • right there but the only time Rev has made the family pic.
  • 00:20:57.270 --> 00:21:01.220
  • And some of you guys, you put your puppy in the pic all the
  • 00:21:01.230 --> 00:21:04.020
  • time 'cause you're, like, a dog person.
  • 00:21:04.030 --> 00:21:06.090
  • See, I'm not a dog person. I'm a person that has a dog.
  • 00:21:06.100 --> 00:21:09.280
  • Big difference. He's a great dog, an awesome dog.
  • 00:21:09.290 --> 00:21:12.120
  • Some of you all know us, man, we, you know--Michael,
  • 00:21:12.130 --> 00:21:14.190
  • you're a dog person.
  • 00:21:14.200 --> 00:21:16.010
  • I'm a person that has a dog.
  • 00:21:16.020 --> 00:21:18.020
  • And Rev's this great dog.
  • 00:21:18.030 --> 00:21:20.170
  • Now dog people, like Heather Palacios, Heather?
  • 00:21:20.180 --> 00:21:23.110
  • You follow Heather? You can follow her on Instagram.
  • 00:21:23.120 --> 00:21:25.240
  • You should. She's a dog person.
  • 00:21:25.250 --> 00:21:28.240
  • She loves her dogs, all about her dogs.
  • 00:21:28.250 --> 00:21:30.270
  • Now, listen. I'm not a dog person.
  • 00:21:30.280 --> 00:21:32.280
  • I would argue--I would argue no one in my family is really a dog
  • 00:21:32.290 --> 00:21:36.020
  • person.
  • 00:21:36.030 --> 00:21:37.080
  • We like the dog. He's a nice dog.
  • 00:21:37.090 --> 00:21:38.260
  • He is--he's a great dog but no one's really
  • 00:21:38.270 --> 00:21:41.260
  • that hardcore dog person.
  • 00:21:41.270 --> 00:21:43.060
  • Yet, still, about at least, what,
  • 00:21:43.070 --> 00:21:44.230
  • about every 3 months, the kids, and even you,
  • 00:21:44.240 --> 00:21:47.280
  • will be, like, "Oh, we need a puppy.
  • 00:21:47.290 --> 00:21:49.250
  • We need another puppy. We need another dog."
  • 00:21:49.260 --> 00:21:52.020
  • We have these friends, the Geigers,
  • 00:21:52.030 --> 00:21:53.240
  • and their Labradors think they're rabbits and they have
  • 00:21:53.250 --> 00:21:56.000
  • new litters all the time.
  • 00:21:56.010 --> 00:21:57.110
  • And Labradors are such cute--they're
  • 00:21:57.120 --> 00:21:59.060
  • just cute, aren't they?
  • 00:21:59.070 --> 00:22:00.130
  • They're the cutest dogs ever.
  • 00:22:00.140 --> 00:22:01.260
  • And they're, like, "Oh, what do you--a puppy.
  • 00:22:01.270 --> 00:22:03.160
  • Can we get a puppy?
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  • Or someone, they have, like, a little shih tzu puppy and
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  • they're gonna give it to us.
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  • We need a puppy. We need a puppy."
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  • And it's my role, my role, as the man of the house,
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  • to go, "No. No."
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  • My kids, my kids, are awesome. My kids, I love my kids.
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  • I love to say, "Yes," to my kids but they say,
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  • "Oh, Daddy, can we have another dog?"
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  • I'm, like, "No.
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  • We got a dog."
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  • Lisa will say, "Well, the dog is bored.
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  • If the dog had a friend to play with."
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  • I'm, like, "I'm not buying my pet a pet. No."
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  • 'Cause, you know, know what they're in love with,
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  • what they like, is the concept--the concept of a puppy
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  • 'cause puppy, they're cute.
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  • The concept is cute.
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  • But the reality is a puppy is commitment.
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  • I mean, puppies pee and poop nonstop.
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  • They shed, they get fleas.
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  • You dog people, those vet bills.
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  • Rev has an allergy.
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  • I take my dog to a dog dermatologist.
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  • I didn't know.
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  • I can't believe I'm spending some of my hard-earned money on
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  • 'cause my dog has pimples or something.
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  • I--really?
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  • The dog food, the expense.
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  • And the kids are, like, "Oh, we'll pay for the dog."
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  • Guess what? That's just the beginning.
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  • They should give you the dog for free 'cause it
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  • will cost you so much.
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  • Then, and so here's the reason why my kids cannot
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  • have another dog.
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  • I want, when the dog we have, when he steals food from the
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  • kitchen and he doesn't do well with people food and he throws
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  • up in the living room, I want just once for my kids to go,
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  • "Oh, hey, that's my dog. I'll get that."
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  • Once! Once.
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  • If that would happen just once, they clean up the dog barf and
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  • not me, I'd think about a second dog.
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  • But they've never said that in 6 years.
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  • I can't get them to feed the dog, put water, oh my.
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  • See, they like the concept of a dog.
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  • The concept is cute.
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  • But what a dog really is, is commitment and mess.
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  • Some of you singles you wanna get married, man.
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  • God bless you.
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  • Marriage is a great, beautiful, committed thing in the Scripture
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  • but guess what? Marriage isn't cute.
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  • Do you have the commitment to work through
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  • the mess of a real marriage?
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  • Parenting. Oh, kids are great.
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  • You think the dog was trouble? Kids.
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  • You gotta work. You gotta work. You gotta dig.
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  • In every area of your life you wanna succeed, you gotta work.
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  • Even the Bible says in James chapter 2 that faith is what
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  • saves us.
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  • Faith is how we're reckoned righteous before God but faith
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  • always translates into work, into effort,
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  • into life change, into decision, into energy,
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  • every single time.
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  • So there's somebody here and you're thinking,
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  • "I'm out this month 'cause my relationships are so messy."
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  • Guess what? You're the reason why
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  • in this long list of weird names,
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  • Matthew chapter 1, that the Holy Spirit inspired Matthew to put
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  • the name of Rahab 'cause Rahab was what?
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  • She was a pagan, idol-worshiper, Canaanite,
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  • helped out the spies.
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  • She's like a double agent, she's like a Bond girl.
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  • But actually, if you did not turn to Joshua chapter 2,
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  • you don't know I jacked you.
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  • I messed with you.
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  • I on purpose altered one word in that verse describing Rahab.
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  • Let me put the real text.
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  • I won't do it to you and not give you the real text.
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  • Here's what the text really says about Rahab.
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  • You think you're messy?
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  • Here's one detail about Rahab who's in the most prestigious
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  • family line in human history.
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  • She's a relative of the Messiah.
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  • "Joshua son of Nun secretly sent two spies into Shittim.
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  • 'Go, look over the land,' he said, 'especially Jericho.'
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  • So they went and entered the house of a
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  • prostitute named Rahab."
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  • She was a working girl.
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  • A work--you talk about relationship mess-up.
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  • You talk about sexual regrets.
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  • She was a prostitute.
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  • That 's why the spies hid at her house.
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  • All kinds of shady dudes creeping in
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  • and out of her house.
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  • All kinds of weird people going in and out of her house.
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  • This person, relationally and sexually,
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  • was a huge mistake-maker, yet God changes her.
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  • God redreams her dream and her life.
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  • You know, as a little girl, she didn't dream
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  • about being a prostitute.
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  • But God gave her back that dream of her childhood and used her in
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  • ways you cannot fathom or imagine.
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  • You're not too far gone.
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  • She's a pagan.
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  • She's a Canaanite.
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  • She's a spy. She's a spy.
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  • She's a prostitute.
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  • She--she's Double Ho' Seven, is who she is.
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  • Double Ho' Seven.
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  • I've been waiting all night to say that one.
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  • I've been waiting all night to say that.
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  • So God could bless and choose and use and redeem relationally.
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  • She ends up married to a good man,
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  • becomes part of a great family.
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  • If God can change the circumstances for Double Ho'
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  • Seven, he can change your life too.
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  • Tristin: Thank you, guys, so much for checking out the show
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  • this morning.
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  • We are really honored that you would tune in today and we hope
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  • that today's message will continue to be a source of
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  • inspiration and encouragement as you go forward into your week.
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  • female: Well, that's it for today's show.
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  • Thanks again for being here and we look forward to seeing you
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  • next time on Church by the Glades.
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