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Colour Conference: Main Stage

November 22, 2016

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Manhood Panel

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- Bobbie Houston: The story of
- - Bobbie Houston: The story of
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- our Sisterhood is the story
- our Sisterhood is the story
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- of us.
- of us.
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- It is this gorgeous tapestry
- It is this gorgeous tapestry
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- of lives interwoven
- of lives interwoven
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- as followers of Jesus Christ.
- as followers of Jesus Christ.
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- You have permission to rise up
- You have permission to rise up
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- and be who God has called you
- and be who God has called you
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- to be.
- to be.
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- The beauty of the gospel
- The beauty of the gospel
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- is the mystery.
- is the mystery.
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- God the Father chose
- God the Father chose
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- not to abandon us.
- not to abandon us.
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- People are lost in the fields.
- People are lost in the fields.
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- And right now, girls,
- And right now, girls,
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- the fields are calling us.
- the fields are calling us.
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- - Bobbie: So without doubt,
- - Bobbie: So without doubt,
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- God is calling the entire planet
- God is calling the entire planet
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- homeward, men and women,
- homeward, men and women,
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- young people, children,
- young people, children,
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- everyone together, amen?
- everyone together, amen?
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- And you know what?
- And you know what?
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- I really felt, I felt God prompt
- I really felt, I felt God prompt
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- me.
- me.
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- He prompted me about the sons.
- He prompted me about the sons.
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- He prompted me about the men.
- He prompted me about the men.
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- And he dropped, he said,
- And he dropped, he said,
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- "I want you to do this session,"
- "I want you to do this session,"
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- that we, as women,
- that we, as women,
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- can live with greater insight
- can live with greater insight
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- into the hearts and the lives,
- into the hearts and the lives,
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- and sometimes the complexities,
- and sometimes the complexities,
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- and the challenges,
- and the challenges,
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- and the wonder of the men
- and the wonder of the men
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- - Brian Houston: I do wanna
- - Brian Houston: I do wanna
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- talk to you about men.
- talk to you about men.
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- There are a lot of women here
- There are a lot of women here
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- who, perhaps, do have a man in
- who, perhaps, do have a man in
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- your life, or had, at some point
- your life, or had, at some point
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- had a man in your life,
- had a man in your life,
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- or are believing one day
- or are believing one day
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- to have a man in your life,
- to have a man in your life,
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- or will never, ever allow
- or will never, ever allow
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- another man in your life again.
- another man in your life again.
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- But I wanna talk in particular
- But I wanna talk in particular
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- about men's happiness.
- about men's happiness.
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- The Apostle Paul said,
- The Apostle Paul said,
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- Acts 26, verse 2:
- Acts 26, verse 2:
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- "I think myself happy."
- "I think myself happy."
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- I'm sure that men,
- I'm sure that men,
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- women as well,
- women as well,
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- can think themselves happy,
- can think themselves happy,
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- or can think themselves unhappy.
- or can think themselves unhappy.
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- But I do know that
- But I do know that
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- fundamentally, a lot of men
- fundamentally, a lot of men
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- are just not happy.
- are just not happy.
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- Now, that's obviously
- Now, that's obviously
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- not all men.
- not all men.
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- Many men are happy too,
- Many men are happy too,
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- and contented.
- and contented.
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- But there may be men
- But there may be men
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- in people's lives here
- in people's lives here
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- who are just not happy.
- who are just not happy.
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- And of course, as a wife,
- And of course, as a wife,
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- or somebody who loves a guy,
- or somebody who loves a guy,
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- that's hard for you to carry
- that's hard for you to carry
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- because you can feel helpless.
- because you can feel helpless.
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- You can feel like there's
- You can feel like there's
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- not a whole lot you can do
- not a whole lot you can do
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- about it.
- about it.
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- Then there's what Job said.
- Then there's what Job said.
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- It's Job chapter 7, verse 7,
- It's Job chapter 7, verse 7,
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- Job said: "'O God,
- Job said: "'O God,
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- remember that my life
- remember that my life
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- is but a breath.
- is but a breath.
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- And I will never again feel
- And I will never again feel
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- happiness.'"
- happiness.'"
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- In Job chapter 9, verse 25
- In Job chapter 9, verse 25
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- Job said: "'My life passes
- Job said: "'My life passes
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- away more swiftly than a runner.
- away more swiftly than a runner.
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- It flees away without a glimpse
- It flees away without a glimpse
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- of happiness.'"
- of happiness.'"
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- Job got to the point where
- Job got to the point where
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- he believed he could never
- he believed he could never
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- be happy again.
- be happy again.
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- I don't think a lot of people
- I don't think a lot of people
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- understand just how many men
- understand just how many men
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- are not completely fulfilled,
- are not completely fulfilled,
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- are empty, or just not happy.
- are empty, or just not happy.
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- Because men, for a start,
- Because men, for a start,
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- can be emotional closed books.
- can be emotional closed books.
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- And then secondly,
- And then secondly,
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- can try to portray
- can try to portray
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- an outward persona of
- an outward persona of
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- bein' a happy-go-lucky guy.
- bein' a happy-go-lucky guy.
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- But I've learned over the years,
- But I've learned over the years,
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- as someone who's basically
- as someone who's basically
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- worked close to people
- worked close to people
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- for a long, long time, that,
- for a long, long time, that,
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- in fact, many men,
- in fact, many men,
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- including Christian men,
- including Christian men,
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- deal with that sense
- deal with that sense
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- of emptiness and unhappiness
- of emptiness and unhappiness
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- on the inside.
- on the inside.
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- We've had the opportunity over
- We've had the opportunity over
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- the years to work closely
- the years to work closely
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- to a lot of people
- to a lot of people
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- in very prominent positions,
- in very prominent positions,
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- specifically, sports people,
- specifically, sports people,
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- and people in other walks
- and people in other walks
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- of life.
- of life.
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- And here in Australia I think
- And here in Australia I think
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- it's only becoming obvious
- it's only becoming obvious
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- that many of those sports stars
- that many of those sports stars
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- are empty, are unhappy
- are empty, are unhappy
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- on the inside.
- on the inside.
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- Depression is such a real thing
- Depression is such a real thing
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- to people who seem like
- to people who seem like
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- they've got everything,
- they've got everything,
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- and yet on the inside feel
- and yet on the inside feel
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- so vacant, feel so empty.
- so vacant, feel so empty.
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- They call it, "Black dog,"
- They call it, "Black dog,"
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- I think it is, depression.
- I think it is, depression.
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- And many sports stars,
- And many sports stars,
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- football stars, can have
- football stars, can have
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- this outward world which people
- this outward world which people
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- would envy, especially men
- would envy, especially men
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- would envy, and yet are
- would envy, and yet are
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- suicidal and depressed,
- suicidal and depressed,
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- have this emptiness
- have this emptiness
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- on the inside.
- on the inside.
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- So I've learned never
- So I've learned never
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- to underestimate the potential
- to underestimate the potential
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- for men to be unhappy.
- for men to be unhappy.
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- And well, in Australia,
- And well, in Australia,
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- I know there's people here from
- I know there's people here from
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- other parts of the world,
- other parts of the world,
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- there's a lot of pressure
- there's a lot of pressure
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- on men.
- on men.
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- I'm sure, in fact, there
- I'm sure, in fact, there
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- is in every part of the world.
- is in every part of the world.
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- And I'll say it one more time,
- And I'll say it one more time,
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- not exclusively, just men.
- not exclusively, just men.
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- But the idea that you
- But the idea that you
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- can't show any weakness,
- can't show any weakness,
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- you have to be tough.
- you have to be tough.
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- The idea that men aren't
- The idea that men aren't
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- vulnerable or transparent.
- vulnerable or transparent.
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- They do become a closed
- They do become a closed
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- book emotionally.
- book emotionally.
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- The idea that real men
- The idea that real men
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- don't cry.
- don't cry.
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- I fail on that because anytime
- I fail on that because anytime
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- anything happy happens on TV
- anything happy happens on TV
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- or in a movie, I mean,
- or in a movie, I mean,
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- if I were to take my grandkids
- if I were to take my grandkids
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- to watch "Frozen,"
- to watch "Frozen,"
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- I'd be [sobbing]
- I'd be [sobbing]
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- So I fail on the not crying.
- So I fail on the not crying.
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- I remember when my son Joel
- I remember when my son Joel
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- who's here, he was a little boy,
- who's here, he was a little boy,
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- and we, he and I were on the
- and we, he and I were on the
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- lounge one Saturday, watching
- lounge one Saturday, watching
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- "Kimba the White Lion."
- "Kimba the White Lion."
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- And I looked down at Joel,
- And I looked down at Joel,
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- and Joel is just [sniffling]
- and Joel is just [sniffling]
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- sobbing like this.
- sobbing like this.
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- But the only thing is,
- But the only thing is,
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- I was a grown man,
- I was a grown man,
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- and [sniffling] I was sobbing
- and [sniffling] I was sobbing
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- nearly as hard as he was
- nearly as hard as he was
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- at poor little
- at poor little
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- "Kimba the White Lion."
- "Kimba the White Lion."
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- So I kind of failed on that.
- So I kind of failed on that.
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- But then there's
- But then there's
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- a pressure for men to succeed,
- a pressure for men to succeed,
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- not to be a failure.
- not to be a failure.
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- And with that can come
- And with that can come
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- so much disappointment.
- so much disappointment.
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- The gap, perhaps,
- The gap, perhaps,
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- for a man between where
- for a man between where
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- he thought he would be
- he thought he would be
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- at in terms of success,
- at in terms of success,
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- no matter how you wanna measure
- no matter how you wanna measure
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- success, and his real world,
- success, and his real world,
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- it can leave something of a void
- it can leave something of a void
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- on the inside for people.
- on the inside for people.
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- There's the pressure,
- There's the pressure,
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- "You've gotta be in control.
- "You've gotta be in control.
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- You've gotta be in charge."
- You've gotta be in charge."
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- Which, rightly or wrongly,
- Which, rightly or wrongly,
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- sometimes men can feel.
- sometimes men can feel.
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- There's the pressure
- There's the pressure
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- in Australia abiding by the code
- in Australia abiding by the code
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- of mateship.
- of mateship.
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- One of the great things about
- One of the great things about
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- Australia is the idea
- Australia is the idea
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- of mates and mateship.
- of mates and mateship.
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- It's cool.
- It's cool.
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- But there are a weird set
- But there are a weird set
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- of rules around mateship.
- of rules around mateship.
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- First one's called
- First one's called
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- when you love your mates.
- when you love your mates.
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- Second one is you never
- Second one is you never
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- squeal on your mates.
- squeal on your mates.
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- In other words,
- In other words,
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- you never tell stories
- you never tell stories
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- about your mates.
- about your mates.
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- Third one is you'll fight
- Third one is you'll fight
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- for your mates.
- for your mates.
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- You might lose your life, but
- You might lose your life, but
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- you'll stand up for your mates.
- you'll stand up for your mates.
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- And the fourth one's perhaps the
- And the fourth one's perhaps the
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- oddest of all, you never sleep
- oddest of all, you never sleep
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- with your best mate's wife.
- with your best mate's wife.
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- Which is a little weird because,
- Which is a little weird because,
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- by inference it could sound like
- by inference it could sound like
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- you can sleep with anyone else's
- you can sleep with anyone else's
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- wife, as long as it's not
- wife, as long as it's not
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- your best mate's wife.
- your best mate's wife.
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- A little odd.
- A little odd.
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- But the other thing, of course,
- But the other thing, of course,
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- is men put a lot of pressure
- is men put a lot of pressure
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- on themselves.
- on themselves.
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- They have that high expectation
- They have that high expectation
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- to succeed, that responsibility
- to succeed, that responsibility
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- to protect and provide for those
- to protect and provide for those
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- who love, and to love their
- who love, and to love their
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- wives and love their children.
- wives and love their children.
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- That responsibility that
- That responsibility that
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- you do have to be tough,
- you do have to be tough,
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- and be a man's man.
- and be a man's man.
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- You can't show any glitches.
- You can't show any glitches.
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- There's the pressure to be
- There's the pressure to be
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- a man of God for Christian men,
- a man of God for Christian men,
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- and to live as a man of God
- and to live as a man of God
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- in a world where,
- in a world where,
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- perhaps for a lot of people,
- perhaps for a lot of people,
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- that's a foreign concept.
- that's a foreign concept.
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- So there's just pressures that
- So there's just pressures that
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- go with every season of life.
- go with every season of life.
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- Man gets into his 40s,
- Man gets into his 40s,
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- and suddenly, now,
- and suddenly, now,
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- he's at the point where perhaps
- he's at the point where perhaps
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- he is comparing where he
- he is comparing where he
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- is at versus where
- is at versus where
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- he hoped he would be at,
- he hoped he would be at,
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- and the emptiness that may come
- and the emptiness that may come
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- with not being as successful
- with not being as successful
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- as you thought, and
- as you thought, and
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- feeling like you're a failure.
- feeling like you're a failure.
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- Or perhaps, being successful
- Or perhaps, being successful
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- but finding that success,
- but finding that success,
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- no matter how you would term it,
- no matter how you would term it,
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- doesn't fill the void
- doesn't fill the void
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- that's on the inside.
- that's on the inside.
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- You're still you.
- You're still you.
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- It doesn't do anything to change
- It doesn't do anything to change
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- how you fundamentally feel.
- how you fundamentally feel.
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- So a man can get into his 50s,
- So a man can get into his 50s,
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- and his family are growing up,
- and his family are growing up,
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- and seasons change.
- and seasons change.
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- And now, perhaps you find
- And now, perhaps you find
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- yourselves empty nesters.
- yourselves empty nesters.
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- And just all of the things
- And just all of the things
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- that can go on.
- that can go on.
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- Again, I do think that midlife
- Again, I do think that midlife
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- crises isn't just something
- crises isn't just something
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- that relates to women.
- that relates to women.
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- It clearly can relate to men.
- It clearly can relate to men.
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- So if I look at my own life,
- So if I look at my own life,
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- I was the kinda guy when I grew
- I was the kinda guy when I grew
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- up where I was full of vision,
- up where I was full of vision,
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- full of life.
- full of life.
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- I thought that things like
- I thought that things like
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- burnout were for other people.
- burnout were for other people.
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- It certainly wasn't my world,
- It certainly wasn't my world,
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- not something that I thought
- not something that I thought
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- would ever happen to me,
- would ever happen to me,
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- or could ever happen to me.
- or could ever happen to me.
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- I just believed that life was
- I just believed that life was
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- kind of a breeze in many ways.
- kind of a breeze in many ways.
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- That's where I was at.
- That's where I was at.
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- And then, it's well documented,
- And then, it's well documented,
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- it's clearly known,
- it's clearly known,
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- that in some ways my life
- that in some ways my life
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- changed in 1999 when I first
- changed in 1999 when I first
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- found out that my father,
- found out that my father,
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- many years before, had abused
- many years before, had abused
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- young people, children,
- young people, children,
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- was basically a pedophile.
- was basically a pedophile.
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- And obviously, that
- And obviously, that
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- was the worst day of my life
- was the worst day of my life
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- when I found that out.
- when I found that out.
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- But it kinda, obviously,
- But it kinda, obviously,
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- for people who were abused, and
- for people who were abused, and
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- who are victims or survivors,
- who are victims or survivors,
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- a whole lot worse for them
- a whole lot worse for them
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- than for me.
- than for me.
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- But it did have a fallout
- But it did have a fallout
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- for me.
- for me.
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- And at a time when my own world
- And at a time when my own world
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- was exploding externally,
- was exploding externally,
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- 00:09:26.100 --> 00:09:29.100
- I think I started to implode
- I think I started to implode
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- 00:09:29.100 --> 00:09:31.230
- internally at the time.
- internally at the time.
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- 00:09:31.230 --> 00:09:33.240
- Not only was I leading
- Not only was I leading
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- 00:09:33.240 --> 00:09:34.190
- a denomination that I was pastor
- a denomination that I was pastor
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- 00:09:34.190 --> 00:09:35.280
- of a church, and a well-known
- of a church, and a well-known
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- 00:09:35.280 --> 00:09:38.120
- prominent church, and as part of
- prominent church, and as part of
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- 00:09:38.120 --> 00:09:40.100
- that church in our City Campus,
- that church in our City Campus,
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- 00:09:40.100 --> 00:09:41.240
- that was our City Campus
- that was our City Campus
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- 00:09:42.140 --> 00:09:45.140
- where my father himself
- where my father himself
- 00:09:45.140 --> 00:09:46.200
- 00:09:45.140 --> 00:09:46.200
- was pastor for 22 years.
- was pastor for 22 years.
- 00:09:46.200 --> 00:09:48.270
- 00:09:46.200 --> 00:09:48.270
- So having to lead people
- So having to lead people
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- 00:09:48.270 --> 00:09:50.150
- through all of this.
- through all of this.
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- 00:09:50.150 --> 00:09:51.240
- And I'll never forget when
- And I'll never forget when
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- 00:09:51.240 --> 00:09:53.010
- I talked to my kids.
- I talked to my kids.
- 00:09:53.010 --> 00:09:53.290
- 00:09:53.010 --> 00:09:53.290
- I've told this story so many
- I've told this story so many
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- 00:09:53.290 --> 00:09:54.250
- times.
- times.
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- 00:09:54.250 --> 00:09:55.150
- But I'll never forget talking
- But I'll never forget talking
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- 00:09:55.150 --> 00:09:56.180
- to Ben 'cause I remember saying
- to Ben 'cause I remember saying
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- 00:09:56.180 --> 00:09:57.270
- to Ben, "Ben, I hope
- to Ben, "Ben, I hope
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- 00:09:57.270 --> 00:09:59.100
- this doesn't affect your faith."
- this doesn't affect your faith."
- 00:09:59.100 --> 00:10:01.120
- 00:09:59.100 --> 00:10:01.120
- He said,
- He said,
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- 00:10:01.120 --> 00:10:02.100
- "Dad, that's not gonna happen.
- "Dad, that's not gonna happen.
- 00:10:02.100 --> 00:10:03.110
- 00:10:02.100 --> 00:10:03.110
- I've had my own revelation
- I've had my own revelation
- 00:10:03.110 --> 00:10:04.060
- 00:10:03.110 --> 00:10:04.060
- of Jesus."
- of Jesus."
- 00:10:04.060 --> 00:10:05.250
- 00:10:04.060 --> 00:10:05.250
- As a father, those were
- As a father, those were
- 00:10:05.250 --> 00:10:06.250
- 00:10:05.250 --> 00:10:06.250
- unbelievable words,
- unbelievable words,
- 00:10:06.250 --> 00:10:08.060
- 00:10:06.250 --> 00:10:08.060
- incredible words to hear.
- incredible words to hear.
- 00:10:10.040 --> 00:10:13.040
- 00:10:10.040 --> 00:10:13.040
- So like I say, I think I dealt
- So like I say, I think I dealt
- 00:10:13.040 --> 00:10:14.090
- 00:10:13.040 --> 00:10:14.090
- with it on a whole lot
- with it on a whole lot
- 00:10:14.090 --> 00:10:15.130
- 00:10:14.090 --> 00:10:15.130
- of levels, and I went into
- of levels, and I went into
- 00:10:15.130 --> 00:10:17.040
- 00:10:15.130 --> 00:10:17.040
- leadership mode when it came
- leadership mode when it came
- 00:10:17.040 --> 00:10:18.120
- 00:10:17.040 --> 00:10:18.120
- to other people.
- to other people.
- 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:21.080
- 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:21.080
- So what I found was,
- So what I found was,
- 00:10:21.080 --> 00:10:22.170
- 00:10:21.080 --> 00:10:22.170
- on the inside, my life was
- on the inside, my life was
- 00:10:22.170 --> 00:10:24.250
- 00:10:22.170 --> 00:10:24.250
- just starting to implode.
- just starting to implode.
- 00:10:24.250 --> 00:10:27.130
- 00:10:24.250 --> 00:10:27.130
- I was traveling a lot.
- I was traveling a lot.
- 00:10:27.130 --> 00:10:29.170
- 00:10:27.130 --> 00:10:29.170
- As a result of that,
- As a result of that,
- 00:10:29.170 --> 00:10:30.240
- 00:10:29.170 --> 00:10:30.240
- I started taking a sleeping
- I started taking a sleeping
- 00:10:30.240 --> 00:10:32.020
- 00:10:30.240 --> 00:10:32.020
- tablet on the airplane
- tablet on the airplane
- 00:10:32.020 --> 00:10:33.090
- 00:10:32.020 --> 00:10:33.090
- to help me sleep,
- to help me sleep,
- 00:10:33.090 --> 00:10:34.090
- 00:10:33.090 --> 00:10:34.090
- get over jet lag.
- get over jet lag.
- 00:10:34.090 --> 00:10:35.250
- 00:10:34.090 --> 00:10:35.250
- That part was fine.
- That part was fine.
- 00:10:35.250 --> 00:10:37.200
- 00:10:35.250 --> 00:10:37.200
- But soon it wasn't long before
- But soon it wasn't long before
- 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:39.080
- 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:39.080
- 1 sleeping tablet maybe on
- 1 sleeping tablet maybe on
- 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:41.130
- 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:41.130
- a plane would give me 2 hours,
- a plane would give me 2 hours,
- 00:10:41.130 --> 00:10:42.230
- 00:10:41.130 --> 00:10:42.230
- 3 hours sleep.
- 3 hours sleep.
- 00:10:42.230 --> 00:10:43.190
- 00:10:42.230 --> 00:10:43.190
- Other people, it was giving
- Other people, it was giving
- 00:10:43.190 --> 00:10:44.180
- 00:10:43.190 --> 00:10:44.180
- like 9 hours sleep.
- like 9 hours sleep.
- 00:10:44.180 --> 00:10:45.210
- 00:10:44.180 --> 00:10:45.210
- So going on long flights
- So going on long flights
- 00:10:45.210 --> 00:10:47.040
- 00:10:45.210 --> 00:10:47.040
- I started taking
- I started taking
- 00:10:47.040 --> 00:10:48.210
- 00:10:47.040 --> 00:10:48.210
- two sleeping tablets.
- two sleeping tablets.
- 00:10:48.210 --> 00:10:50.200
- 00:10:48.210 --> 00:10:50.200
- Then I got to the point where
- Then I got to the point where
- 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:52.250
- 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:52.250
- not only could I not sleep in
- not only could I not sleep in
- 00:10:52.250 --> 00:10:53.290
- 00:10:52.250 --> 00:10:53.290
- my bed, I actually got diagnosed
- my bed, I actually got diagnosed
- 00:10:53.290 --> 00:10:56.210
- 00:10:53.290 --> 00:10:56.210
- as having, like,
- as having, like,
- 00:10:56.210 --> 00:10:57.200
- 00:10:56.210 --> 00:10:57.200
- a permanent jet lag.
- a permanent jet lag.
- 00:10:57.200 --> 00:10:59.130
- 00:10:57.200 --> 00:10:59.130
- But again, my happiness
- But again, my happiness
- 00:10:59.130 --> 00:11:01.110
- 00:10:59.130 --> 00:11:01.110
- was being eroded.
- was being eroded.
- 00:11:01.110 --> 00:11:03.050
- 00:11:01.110 --> 00:11:03.050
- Life, for so many other people,
- Life, for so many other people,
- 00:11:03.050 --> 00:11:04.220
- 00:11:03.050 --> 00:11:04.220
- would look for
- would look for
- 00:11:04.220 --> 00:11:05.170
- 00:11:04.220 --> 00:11:05.170
- Bobbie and I like our world
- Bobbie and I like our world
- 00:11:05.170 --> 00:11:08.050
- 00:11:05.170 --> 00:11:08.050
- was this perfect little world.
- was this perfect little world.
- 00:11:08.100 --> 00:11:11.100
- 00:11:08.100 --> 00:11:11.100
- But Bobbie had the pain
- But Bobbie had the pain
- 00:11:11.100 --> 00:11:12.080
- 00:11:11.100 --> 00:11:12.080
- of dealing with a husband
- of dealing with a husband
- 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:13.080
- 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:13.080
- who she knew on the inside
- who she knew on the inside
- 00:11:13.080 --> 00:11:14.150
- 00:11:13.080 --> 00:11:14.150
- wasn't doing well at all,
- wasn't doing well at all,
- 00:11:14.150 --> 00:11:16.280
- 00:11:14.150 --> 00:11:16.280
- trying to carry that while
- trying to carry that while
- 00:11:16.280 --> 00:11:17.280
- 00:11:16.280 --> 00:11:17.280
- she was carrying so much else.
- she was carrying so much else.
- 00:11:17.280 --> 00:11:19.290
- 00:11:17.280 --> 00:11:19.290
- And the woman's a freak.
- And the woman's a freak.
- 00:11:19.290 --> 00:11:21.020
- 00:11:19.290 --> 00:11:21.020
- She's incredible.
- She's incredible.
- 00:11:21.050 --> 00:11:24.050
- 00:11:21.050 --> 00:11:24.050
- - Brian: Nobody escapes
- - Brian: Nobody escapes
- 00:11:30.010 --> 00:11:31.290
- 00:11:30.010 --> 00:11:31.290
- the realities of sometimes
- the realities of sometimes
- 00:11:31.290 --> 00:11:33.050
- 00:11:31.290 --> 00:11:33.050
- having to address things on
- having to address things on
- 00:11:33.050 --> 00:11:34.160
- 00:11:33.050 --> 00:11:34.160
- the inside and living our lives
- the inside and living our lives
- 00:11:34.160 --> 00:11:36.130
- 00:11:34.160 --> 00:11:36.130
- in a way where we'd address
- in a way where we'd address
- 00:11:36.130 --> 00:11:38.040
- 00:11:36.130 --> 00:11:38.040
- what's really going on.
- what's really going on.
- 00:11:38.040 --> 00:11:40.180
- 00:11:38.040 --> 00:11:40.180
- Sometimes we're,
- Sometimes we're,
- 00:11:40.180 --> 00:11:43.040
- 00:11:40.180 --> 00:11:43.040
- we can mask it to a level
- we can mask it to a level
- 00:11:43.040 --> 00:11:44.120
- 00:11:43.040 --> 00:11:44.120
- at some point, but everything
- at some point, but everything
- 00:11:44.120 --> 00:11:46.030
- 00:11:44.120 --> 00:11:46.030
- suffered during that time.
- suffered during that time.
- 00:11:46.030 --> 00:11:48.020
- 00:11:46.030 --> 00:11:48.020
- Bobbie was carrying me,
- Bobbie was carrying me,
- 00:11:48.020 --> 00:11:49.050
- 00:11:48.020 --> 00:11:49.050
- so it had to have an impact
- so it had to have an impact
- 00:11:49.050 --> 00:11:50.130
- 00:11:49.050 --> 00:11:50.130
- on our marriage.
- on our marriage.
- 00:11:50.130 --> 00:11:51.290
- 00:11:50.130 --> 00:11:51.290
- My kids, they knew things
- My kids, they knew things
- 00:11:51.290 --> 00:11:53.040
- 00:11:51.290 --> 00:11:53.040
- weren't well, so it had to have
- weren't well, so it had to have
- 00:11:53.040 --> 00:11:54.130
- 00:11:53.040 --> 00:11:54.130
- - Bobbie: I felt God prompt me.
- - Bobbie: I felt God prompt me.
- 00:12:02.030 --> 00:12:04.150
- 00:12:02.030 --> 00:12:04.150
- He prompted me about the sons.
- He prompted me about the sons.
- 00:12:04.150 --> 00:12:06.130
- 00:12:04.150 --> 00:12:06.130
- He prompted me about the men.
- He prompted me about the men.
- 00:12:06.130 --> 00:12:08.020
- 00:12:06.130 --> 00:12:08.020
- And he dropped, he said,
- And he dropped, he said,
- 00:12:08.020 --> 00:12:09.040
- 00:12:08.020 --> 00:12:09.040
- "I want you to do this session,"
- "I want you to do this session,"
- 00:12:09.040 --> 00:12:10.240
- 00:12:09.040 --> 00:12:10.240
- that we, as women,
- that we, as women,
- 00:12:10.240 --> 00:12:11.290
- 00:12:10.240 --> 00:12:11.290
- can live with greater insight
- can live with greater insight
- 00:12:12.110 --> 00:12:15.110
- 00:12:12.110 --> 00:12:15.110
- into the hearts and the lives
- into the hearts and the lives
- 00:12:15.110 --> 00:12:17.030
- 00:12:15.110 --> 00:12:17.030
- of the men who are in our world.
- of the men who are in our world.
- 00:12:17.130 --> 00:12:20.130
- 00:12:17.130 --> 00:12:20.130
- - Brian: My happiness was being
- - Brian: My happiness was being
- 00:12:20.130 --> 00:12:21.100
- 00:12:20.130 --> 00:12:21.100
- eroded.
- eroded.
- 00:12:21.100 --> 00:12:23.020
- 00:12:21.100 --> 00:12:23.020
- Life, for so many other people,
- Life, for so many other people,
- 00:12:23.020 --> 00:12:24.240
- 00:12:23.020 --> 00:12:24.240
- would look for Bobbie and I
- would look for Bobbie and I
- 00:12:24.240 --> 00:12:25.210
- 00:12:24.240 --> 00:12:25.210
- like our world was this perfect
- like our world was this perfect
- 00:12:25.210 --> 00:12:27.280
- 00:12:25.210 --> 00:12:27.280
- little world.
- little world.
- 00:12:27.280 --> 00:12:29.110
- 00:12:27.280 --> 00:12:29.110
- But Bobbie had the pain of
- But Bobbie had the pain of
- 00:12:29.110 --> 00:12:30.130
- 00:12:29.110 --> 00:12:30.130
- dealing with a husband who she
- dealing with a husband who she
- 00:12:30.130 --> 00:12:31.200
- 00:12:30.130 --> 00:12:31.200
- knew on the inside wasn't doing
- knew on the inside wasn't doing
- 00:12:31.200 --> 00:12:32.230
- 00:12:31.200 --> 00:12:32.230
- well at all, trying to carry
- well at all, trying to carry
- 00:12:32.230 --> 00:12:34.270
- 00:12:32.230 --> 00:12:34.270
- that while she was carrying
- that while she was carrying
- 00:12:34.270 --> 00:12:35.220
- 00:12:34.270 --> 00:12:35.220
- - Brian: So I'd gotten
- - Brian: So I'd gotten
- 00:12:40.260 --> 00:12:42.000
- 00:12:40.260 --> 00:12:42.000
- to the point where I was
- to the point where I was
- 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:42.270
- 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:42.270
- taking a sleeping tablet
- taking a sleeping tablet
- 00:12:42.270 --> 00:12:44.090
- 00:12:42.270 --> 00:12:44.090
- every night of my life.
- every night of my life.
- 00:12:44.090 --> 00:12:46.100
- 00:12:44.090 --> 00:12:46.100
- And basically, became dependent
- And basically, became dependent
- 00:12:46.100 --> 00:12:48.160
- 00:12:46.100 --> 00:12:48.160
- on sleeping tablets.
- on sleeping tablets.
- 00:12:48.160 --> 00:12:51.100
- 00:12:48.160 --> 00:12:51.100
- And it was all something that,
- And it was all something that,
- 00:12:51.100 --> 00:12:53.180
- 00:12:51.100 --> 00:12:53.180
- again, you would never imagine
- again, you would never imagine
- 00:12:53.180 --> 00:12:54.250
- 00:12:53.180 --> 00:12:54.250
- would happen to you.
- would happen to you.
- 00:12:54.250 --> 00:12:55.270
- 00:12:54.250 --> 00:12:55.270
- That was for other people.
- That was for other people.
- 00:12:56.010 --> 00:12:59.010
- 00:12:56.010 --> 00:12:59.010
- Well, maybe 3, 4 years ago,
- Well, maybe 3, 4 years ago,
- 00:12:59.010 --> 00:13:00.240
- 00:12:59.010 --> 00:13:00.240
- some of you maybe remember that
- some of you maybe remember that
- 00:13:00.240 --> 00:13:02.150
- 00:13:00.240 --> 00:13:02.150
- we had these Hillsong One Days.
- we had these Hillsong One Days.
- 00:13:02.150 --> 00:13:05.010
- 00:13:02.150 --> 00:13:05.010
- So in those Hillsong One Days,
- So in those Hillsong One Days,
- 00:13:05.010 --> 00:13:06.100
- 00:13:05.010 --> 00:13:06.100
- it was 25 years
- it was 25 years
- 00:13:06.100 --> 00:13:07.070
- 00:13:06.100 --> 00:13:07.070
- of Hillsong Conference
- of Hillsong Conference
- 00:13:07.070 --> 00:13:08.050
- 00:13:07.070 --> 00:13:08.050
- that we went to the bigger,
- that we went to the bigger,
- 00:13:08.050 --> 00:13:09.240
- 00:13:08.050 --> 00:13:09.240
- major cities in Australia
- major cities in Australia
- 00:13:09.240 --> 00:13:11.120
- 00:13:09.240 --> 00:13:11.120
- and held
- and held
- 00:13:11.120 --> 00:13:12.030
- 00:13:11.120 --> 00:13:12.030
- 2-night One Day Conferences.
- 2-night One Day Conferences.
- 00:13:12.030 --> 00:13:13.270
- 00:13:12.030 --> 00:13:13.270
- Well, by that stage,
- Well, by that stage,
- 00:13:13.270 --> 00:13:15.080
- 00:13:13.270 --> 00:13:15.080
- I had reached crisis point.
- I had reached crisis point.
- 00:13:15.080 --> 00:13:17.100
- 00:13:15.080 --> 00:13:17.100
- I remember coming into
- I remember coming into
- 00:13:17.100 --> 00:13:18.120
- 00:13:17.100 --> 00:13:18.120
- those nights and tryin' to
- those nights and tryin' to
- 00:13:18.120 --> 00:13:20.220
- 00:13:18.120 --> 00:13:20.220
- lead the conference,
- lead the conference,
- 00:13:20.220 --> 00:13:22.050
- 00:13:20.220 --> 00:13:22.050
- the little One Day Conferences.
- the little One Day Conferences.
- 00:13:22.050 --> 00:13:24.060
- 00:13:22.050 --> 00:13:24.060
- My mind had become so scattered,
- My mind had become so scattered,
- 00:13:24.060 --> 00:13:25.240
- 00:13:24.060 --> 00:13:25.240
- I was in such a mess internally,
- I was in such a mess internally,
- 00:13:26.010 --> 00:13:29.010
- 00:13:26.010 --> 00:13:29.010
- that I literally was having
- that I literally was having
- 00:13:29.010 --> 00:13:30.180
- 00:13:29.010 --> 00:13:30.180
- to ask people every 2 seconds,
- to ask people every 2 seconds,
- 00:13:30.180 --> 00:13:31.230
- 00:13:30.180 --> 00:13:31.230
- "What do we do next?
- "What do we do next?
- 00:13:31.230 --> 00:13:32.200
- 00:13:31.230 --> 00:13:32.200
- What do we do next?
- What do we do next?
- 00:13:32.200 --> 00:13:33.130
- 00:13:32.200 --> 00:13:33.130
- What's the thing that's coming
- What's the thing that's coming
- 00:13:33.130 --> 00:13:34.130
- 00:13:33.130 --> 00:13:34.130
- next?"
- next?"
- 00:13:34.130 --> 00:13:35.160
- 00:13:34.130 --> 00:13:35.160
- And I'm certain a lot of people
- And I'm certain a lot of people
- 00:13:35.160 --> 00:13:36.180
- 00:13:35.160 --> 00:13:36.180
- could see what was going on,
- could see what was going on,
- 00:13:36.180 --> 00:13:38.170
- 00:13:36.180 --> 00:13:38.170
- though the people around me
- though the people around me
- 00:13:38.170 --> 00:13:39.270
- 00:13:38.170 --> 00:13:39.270
- tried to assure me that
- tried to assure me that
- 00:13:39.270 --> 00:13:40.270
- 00:13:39.270 --> 00:13:40.270
- they couldn't.
- they couldn't.
- 00:13:40.270 --> 00:13:42.020
- 00:13:40.270 --> 00:13:42.020
- I remember going for dinner
- I remember going for dinner
- 00:13:42.020 --> 00:13:43.040
- 00:13:42.020 --> 00:13:43.040
- one night after the night
- one night after the night
- 00:13:43.040 --> 00:13:45.000
- 00:13:43.040 --> 00:13:45.000
- of Brisbane, and I was with
- of Brisbane, and I was with
- 00:13:45.000 --> 00:13:46.220
- 00:13:45.000 --> 00:13:46.220
- a group of people.
- a group of people.
- 00:13:46.220 --> 00:13:47.200
- 00:13:46.220 --> 00:13:47.200
- And we were out for dinner, and
- And we were out for dinner, and
- 00:13:47.200 --> 00:13:48.190
- 00:13:47.200 --> 00:13:48.190
- I was so fidgety, I literally
- I was so fidgety, I literally
- 00:13:48.190 --> 00:13:49.240
- 00:13:48.190 --> 00:13:49.240
- sat on my hands the whole night
- sat on my hands the whole night
- 00:13:49.240 --> 00:13:52.150
- 00:13:49.240 --> 00:13:52.150
- because I knew if I didn't,
- because I knew if I didn't,
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- 00:13:52.150 --> 00:13:53.190
- my hands would be just,
- my hands would be just,
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- 00:13:53.190 --> 00:13:55.060
- I would've been just constantly
- I would've been just constantly
- 00:13:55.060 --> 00:13:56.220
- 00:13:55.060 --> 00:13:56.220
- fidgeting.
- fidgeting.
- 00:13:56.220 --> 00:13:57.220
- 00:13:56.220 --> 00:13:57.220
- I had reached that kind of
- I had reached that kind of
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- 00:13:57.220 --> 00:13:58.270
- point.
- point.
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- 00:13:58.270 --> 00:13:59.270
- And somehow,
- And somehow,
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- 00:13:59.270 --> 00:14:00.230
- with incredible people like
- with incredible people like
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- 00:14:00.230 --> 00:14:02.000
- Joel and Julia A'Bell,
- Joel and Julia A'Bell,
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- 00:14:02.000 --> 00:14:03.090
- and obviously, Bobbie,
- and obviously, Bobbie,
- 00:14:03.090 --> 00:14:04.210
- 00:14:03.090 --> 00:14:04.210
- and others helping me through
- and others helping me through
- 00:14:04.210 --> 00:14:06.020
- 00:14:04.210 --> 00:14:06.020
- it, only a few knew
- it, only a few knew
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- 00:14:06.020 --> 00:14:07.040
- what was really going on,
- what was really going on,
- 00:14:07.040 --> 00:14:08.210
- 00:14:07.040 --> 00:14:08.210
- we got through those nights.
- we got through those nights.
- 00:14:08.210 --> 00:14:09.230
- 00:14:08.210 --> 00:14:09.230
- And straight after I was up in
- And straight after I was up in
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- 00:14:09.230 --> 00:14:11.180
- Noosa, where I was going to be
- Noosa, where I was going to be
- 00:14:11.180 --> 00:14:14.160
- 00:14:11.180 --> 00:14:14.160
- speaking at our Sunday night
- speaking at our Sunday night
- 00:14:14.160 --> 00:14:16.130
- 00:14:14.160 --> 00:14:16.130
- service in Noosa.
- service in Noosa.
- 00:14:16.130 --> 00:14:17.180
- 00:14:16.130 --> 00:14:17.180
- Now, Noosa, for us,
- Now, Noosa, for us,
- 00:14:17.180 --> 00:14:18.210
- 00:14:17.180 --> 00:14:18.210
- it's one of our smaller
- it's one of our smaller
- 00:14:18.210 --> 00:14:19.250
- 00:14:18.210 --> 00:14:19.250
- campuses.
- campuses.
- 00:14:19.250 --> 00:14:20.220
- 00:14:19.250 --> 00:14:20.220
- Noosa's a small city,
- Noosa's a small city,
- 00:14:20.220 --> 00:14:21.240
- 00:14:20.220 --> 00:14:21.240
- 40.000 people.
- 40.000 people.
- 00:14:21.240 --> 00:14:23.070
- 00:14:21.240 --> 00:14:23.070
- So naturally speaking,
- So naturally speaking,
- 00:14:23.070 --> 00:14:24.180
- 00:14:23.070 --> 00:14:24.180
- it should've been a breeze.
- it should've been a breeze.
- 00:14:24.180 --> 00:14:25.220
- 00:14:24.180 --> 00:14:25.220
- And I was prepared.
- And I was prepared.
- 00:14:25.220 --> 00:14:26.210
- 00:14:25.220 --> 00:14:26.210
- I was totally prepared.
- I was totally prepared.
- 00:14:26.210 --> 00:14:27.180
- 00:14:26.210 --> 00:14:27.180
- But I knew I was in trouble
- But I knew I was in trouble
- 00:14:27.180 --> 00:14:28.160
- 00:14:27.180 --> 00:14:28.160
- because when I went to walk up
- because when I went to walk up
- 00:14:28.160 --> 00:14:29.290
- 00:14:28.160 --> 00:14:29.290
- onto the platform,
- onto the platform,
- 00:14:29.290 --> 00:14:31.020
- 00:14:29.290 --> 00:14:31.020
- I literally almost collapsed
- I literally almost collapsed
- 00:14:31.020 --> 00:14:33.030
- 00:14:31.020 --> 00:14:33.030
- just getting up on the platform.
- just getting up on the platform.
- 00:14:33.030 --> 00:14:35.140
- 00:14:33.030 --> 00:14:35.140
- And it was the worst feeling
- And it was the worst feeling
- 00:14:35.140 --> 00:14:36.090
- 00:14:35.140 --> 00:14:36.090
- because, like I say,
- because, like I say,
- 00:14:36.090 --> 00:14:37.040
- 00:14:36.090 --> 00:14:37.040
- I had prepared, but I've never
- I had prepared, but I've never
- 00:14:37.040 --> 00:14:38.030
- 00:14:37.040 --> 00:14:38.030
- felt more unprepared.
- felt more unprepared.
- 00:14:38.030 --> 00:14:40.120
- 00:14:38.030 --> 00:14:40.120
- I felt like a Sunday school
- I felt like a Sunday school
- 00:14:40.120 --> 00:14:42.250
- 00:14:40.120 --> 00:14:42.250
- lesson.
- lesson.
- 00:14:42.250 --> 00:14:45.140
- 00:14:42.250 --> 00:14:45.140
- In fact, I felt more like
- In fact, I felt more like
- 00:14:45.140 --> 00:14:46.150
- 00:14:45.140 --> 00:14:46.150
- one of the children tryin' to
- one of the children tryin' to
- 00:14:46.150 --> 00:14:48.070
- 00:14:46.150 --> 00:14:48.070
- concentrate, or tryin' to speak,
- concentrate, or tryin' to speak,
- 00:14:48.070 --> 00:14:50.140
- 00:14:48.070 --> 00:14:50.140
- than--to the point where,
- than--to the point where,
- 00:14:50.140 --> 00:14:51.250
- 00:14:50.140 --> 00:14:51.250
- at the end,
- at the end,
- 00:14:51.250 --> 00:14:52.280
- 00:14:51.250 --> 00:14:52.280
- I did what I've done so many
- I did what I've done so many
- 00:14:52.280 --> 00:14:53.270
- 00:14:52.280 --> 00:14:53.270
- times over 40 years plus,
- times over 40 years plus,
- 00:14:53.270 --> 00:14:55.060
- 00:14:53.270 --> 00:14:55.060
- and that is invite people
- and that is invite people
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- 00:14:55.060 --> 00:14:56.160
- to come to Jesus.
- to come to Jesus.
- 00:14:56.160 --> 00:14:58.100
- 00:14:56.160 --> 00:14:58.100
- And it was like I was
- And it was like I was
- 00:14:58.100 --> 00:14:59.150
- 00:14:58.100 --> 00:14:59.150
- talking like a baby.
- talking like a baby.
- 00:14:59.150 --> 00:15:01.060
- 00:14:59.150 --> 00:15:01.060
- I couldn't even do
- I couldn't even do
- 00:15:01.060 --> 00:15:01.280
- 00:15:01.060 --> 00:15:01.280
- a simple altar call.
- a simple altar call.
- 00:15:01.280 --> 00:15:03.230
- 00:15:01.280 --> 00:15:03.230
- So later that night I literally
- So later that night I literally
- 00:15:03.230 --> 00:15:05.140
- 00:15:03.230 --> 00:15:05.140
- had a full-blown panic attack.
- had a full-blown panic attack.
- 00:15:06.030 --> 00:15:09.030
- 00:15:06.030 --> 00:15:09.030
- I didn't know what
- I didn't know what
- 00:15:09.030 --> 00:15:09.280
- 00:15:09.030 --> 00:15:09.280
- was happening.
- was happening.
- 00:15:09.280 --> 00:15:10.220
- 00:15:09.280 --> 00:15:10.220
- I literally thought I was dying.
- I literally thought I was dying.
- 00:15:10.220 --> 00:15:12.120
- 00:15:10.220 --> 00:15:12.120
- I couldn't breathe.
- I couldn't breathe.
- 00:15:12.120 --> 00:15:13.080
- 00:15:12.120 --> 00:15:13.080
- I'm going to Bobbie,
- I'm going to Bobbie,
- 00:15:13.080 --> 00:15:14.040
- 00:15:13.080 --> 00:15:14.040
- "I can't breathe.
- "I can't breathe.
- 00:15:14.040 --> 00:15:15.000
- 00:15:14.040 --> 00:15:15.000
- I can't breathe.
- I can't breathe.
- 00:15:15.000 --> 00:15:15.250
- 00:15:15.000 --> 00:15:15.250
- Call an ambulance.
- Call an ambulance.
- 00:15:15.250 --> 00:15:16.160
- 00:15:15.250 --> 00:15:16.160
- I can't breathe."
- I can't breathe."
- 00:15:16.160 --> 00:15:17.200
- 00:15:16.160 --> 00:15:17.200
- She knew what it was.
- She knew what it was.
- 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:19.140
- 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:19.140
- We tried to contact my doctor,
- We tried to contact my doctor,
- 00:15:19.140 --> 00:15:20.230
- 00:15:19.140 --> 00:15:20.230
- and we managed to get through
- and we managed to get through
- 00:15:20.230 --> 00:15:22.140
- 00:15:20.230 --> 00:15:22.140
- to Joe at midnight, and he
- to Joe at midnight, and he
- 00:15:22.140 --> 00:15:24.220
- 00:15:22.140 --> 00:15:24.220
- was able to talk me through it.
- was able to talk me through it.
- 00:15:24.220 --> 00:15:25.230
- 00:15:24.220 --> 00:15:25.230
- So as a result of that,
- So as a result of that,
- 00:15:25.230 --> 00:15:28.230
- 00:15:25.230 --> 00:15:28.230
- not Dr. Joe talkin' to us,
- not Dr. Joe talkin' to us,
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- 00:15:28.230 --> 00:15:30.110
- but other doctors told me
- but other doctors told me
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- 00:15:30.110 --> 00:15:31.150
- I would probably have
- I would probably have
- 00:15:31.150 --> 00:15:32.160
- 00:15:31.150 --> 00:15:32.160
- panic attacks for the rest
- panic attacks for the rest
- 00:15:32.160 --> 00:15:33.180
- 00:15:32.160 --> 00:15:33.180
- of my life.
- of my life.
- 00:15:33.180 --> 00:15:35.080
- 00:15:33.180 --> 00:15:35.080
- And you know, I had one slight
- And you know, I had one slight
- 00:15:35.080 --> 00:15:36.190
- 00:15:35.080 --> 00:15:36.190
- incident around that same time
- incident around that same time
- 00:15:36.190 --> 00:15:38.180
- 00:15:36.190 --> 00:15:38.180
- in New York that was a little
- in New York that was a little
- 00:15:38.180 --> 00:15:40.140
- 00:15:38.180 --> 00:15:40.140
- bit of the same thing,
- bit of the same thing,
- 00:15:40.140 --> 00:15:41.190
- 00:15:40.140 --> 00:15:41.190
- but I've never, ever had another
- but I've never, ever had another
- 00:15:41.190 --> 00:15:42.220
- 00:15:41.190 --> 00:15:42.220
- panic attack in my life.
- panic attack in my life.
- 00:15:42.220 --> 00:15:44.180
- 00:15:42.220 --> 00:15:44.180
- And I'm believing I never will
- And I'm believing I never will
- 00:15:44.180 --> 00:15:45.170
- 00:15:44.180 --> 00:15:45.170
- have another panic attack
- have another panic attack
- 00:15:45.170 --> 00:15:46.260
- 00:15:45.170 --> 00:15:46.260
- in my life.
- in my life.
- 00:15:49.200 --> 00:15:52.200
- 00:15:49.200 --> 00:15:52.200
- Once was enough in terms
- Once was enough in terms
- 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:53.200
- 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:53.200
- of how that felt.
- of how that felt.
- 00:15:53.200 --> 00:15:55.080
- 00:15:53.200 --> 00:15:55.080
- And as you can imagine,
- And as you can imagine,
- 00:15:55.080 --> 00:15:56.190
- 00:15:55.080 --> 00:15:56.190
- I was more or less
- I was more or less
- 00:15:56.190 --> 00:15:57.150
- 00:15:56.190 --> 00:15:57.150
- told I was gonna have to take
- told I was gonna have to take
- 00:15:57.150 --> 00:15:58.120
- 00:15:57.150 --> 00:15:58.120
- 12 months off.
- 12 months off.
- 00:15:58.120 --> 00:15:59.070
- 00:15:58.120 --> 00:15:59.070
- "And otherwise,
- "And otherwise,
- 00:15:59.070 --> 00:16:00.040
- 00:15:59.070 --> 00:16:00.040
- this is just gonna stay.
- this is just gonna stay.
- 00:16:00.040 --> 00:16:00.270
- 00:16:00.040 --> 00:16:00.270
- This will be your future."
- This will be your future."
- 00:16:00.270 --> 00:16:01.220
- 00:16:00.270 --> 00:16:01.220
- Well, made some adjustments
- Well, made some adjustments
- 00:16:01.220 --> 00:16:02.250
- 00:16:01.220 --> 00:16:02.250
- in my life.
- in my life.
- 00:16:02.250 --> 00:16:04.020
- 00:16:02.250 --> 00:16:04.020
- Started doing some things
- Started doing some things
- 00:16:04.020 --> 00:16:05.030
- 00:16:04.020 --> 00:16:05.030
- differently.
- differently.
- 00:16:05.030 --> 00:16:06.060
- 00:16:05.030 --> 00:16:06.060
- Changed, in some ways,
- Changed, in some ways,
- 00:16:06.060 --> 00:16:07.190
- 00:16:06.060 --> 00:16:07.190
- the way that I do life in terms
- the way that I do life in terms
- 00:16:07.190 --> 00:16:09.050
- 00:16:07.190 --> 00:16:09.050
- of travel, and allowed other
- of travel, and allowed other
- 00:16:09.050 --> 00:16:11.160
- 00:16:09.050 --> 00:16:11.160
- people to carry more of what
- people to carry more of what
- 00:16:11.160 --> 00:16:13.060
- 00:16:11.160 --> 00:16:13.060
- Bobbie and I were carrying.
- Bobbie and I were carrying.
- 00:16:13.060 --> 00:16:14.180
- 00:16:13.060 --> 00:16:14.180
- And I can tell you honestly,
- And I can tell you honestly,
- 00:16:14.180 --> 00:16:15.280
- 00:16:14.180 --> 00:16:15.280
- 4 years on,
- 4 years on,
- 00:16:15.280 --> 00:16:17.170
- 00:16:15.280 --> 00:16:17.170
- that I'm whole, and I'm healed,
- that I'm whole, and I'm healed,
- 00:16:17.170 --> 00:16:18.260
- 00:16:17.170 --> 00:16:18.260
- and on the inside I feel strong.
- and on the inside I feel strong.
- 00:16:18.260 --> 00:16:20.220
- 00:16:18.260 --> 00:16:20.220
- And it was the craziest thing
- And it was the craziest thing
- 00:16:21.000 --> 00:16:24.000
- 00:16:21.000 --> 00:16:24.000
- because I mentioned sleeping
- because I mentioned sleeping
- 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:26.090
- 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:26.090
- tablets, and the other good news
- tablets, and the other good news
- 00:16:26.090 --> 00:16:28.170
- 00:16:26.090 --> 00:16:28.170
- is that over, well over 2 years,
- is that over, well over 2 years,
- 00:16:28.170 --> 00:16:30.170
- 00:16:28.170 --> 00:16:30.170
- 2 and 1/2 years,
- 2 and 1/2 years,
- 00:16:30.170 --> 00:16:31.140
- 00:16:30.170 --> 00:16:31.140
- I've never taken even
- I've never taken even
- 00:16:31.140 --> 00:16:32.060
- 00:16:31.140 --> 00:16:32.060
- 1 single sleeping tablet,
- 1 single sleeping tablet,
- 00:16:32.060 --> 00:16:34.080
- 00:16:32.060 --> 00:16:34.080
- and have been sleeping
- and have been sleeping
- 00:16:34.080 --> 00:16:35.210
- 00:16:34.080 --> 00:16:35.210
- like a baby.
- like a baby.
- 00:16:35.210 --> 00:16:38.040
- 00:16:35.210 --> 00:16:38.040
- So I've told you all of that not
- So I've told you all of that not
- 00:16:38.040 --> 00:16:40.180
- 00:16:38.040 --> 00:16:40.180
- just because I could have you
- just because I could have you
- 00:16:40.180 --> 00:16:41.240
- 00:16:40.180 --> 00:16:41.240
- think, "Poor me," but because
- think, "Poor me," but because
- 00:16:41.240 --> 00:16:44.160
- 00:16:41.240 --> 00:16:44.160
- I want you to know that nobody
- I want you to know that nobody
- 00:16:44.160 --> 00:16:46.090
- 00:16:44.160 --> 00:16:46.090
- escapes the realities
- escapes the realities
- 00:16:46.090 --> 00:16:48.120
- 00:16:46.090 --> 00:16:48.120
- of sometimes having
- of sometimes having
- 00:16:48.120 --> 00:16:49.090
- 00:16:48.120 --> 00:16:49.090
- to address things on the inside,
- to address things on the inside,
- 00:16:49.090 --> 00:16:51.020
- 00:16:49.090 --> 00:16:51.020
- and living our lives
- and living our lives
- 00:16:51.020 --> 00:16:52.070
- 00:16:51.020 --> 00:16:52.070
- in a way where we address
- in a way where we address
- 00:16:52.070 --> 00:16:53.280
- 00:16:52.070 --> 00:16:53.280
- what's really going on.
- what's really going on.
- 00:16:53.280 --> 00:16:56.270
- 00:16:53.280 --> 00:16:56.270
- Sometimes we're, we can mask it
- Sometimes we're, we can mask it
- 00:16:56.270 --> 00:16:59.110
- 00:16:56.270 --> 00:16:59.110
- to a level at some point,
- to a level at some point,
- 00:16:59.110 --> 00:17:00.250
- 00:16:59.110 --> 00:17:00.250
- but everything suffered during
- but everything suffered during
- 00:17:00.250 --> 00:17:02.100
- 00:17:00.250 --> 00:17:02.100
- that time.
- that time.
- 00:17:02.100 --> 00:17:03.250
- 00:17:02.100 --> 00:17:03.250
- Bobbie was carrying me,
- Bobbie was carrying me,
- 00:17:03.250 --> 00:17:04.270
- 00:17:03.250 --> 00:17:04.270
- so it had to have an impact
- so it had to have an impact
- 00:17:04.270 --> 00:17:06.100
- 00:17:04.270 --> 00:17:06.100
- on our marriage.
- on our marriage.
- 00:17:06.100 --> 00:17:08.010
- 00:17:06.100 --> 00:17:08.010
- My kids, they knew things
- My kids, they knew things
- 00:17:08.010 --> 00:17:08.290
- 00:17:08.010 --> 00:17:08.290
- weren't well, so it had to have
- weren't well, so it had to have
- 00:17:08.290 --> 00:17:10.010
- 00:17:08.290 --> 00:17:10.010
- an impact on them.
- an impact on them.
- 00:17:10.010 --> 00:17:12.010
- 00:17:10.010 --> 00:17:12.010
- Children, fundamentally,
- Children, fundamentally,
- 00:17:12.010 --> 00:17:14.070
- 00:17:12.010 --> 00:17:14.070
- love their parents.
- love their parents.
- 00:17:14.070 --> 00:17:14.290
- 00:17:14.070 --> 00:17:14.290
- And if their parents
- And if their parents
- 00:17:14.290 --> 00:17:16.150
- 00:17:14.290 --> 00:17:16.150
- are struggling, they're gonna be
- are struggling, they're gonna be
- 00:17:16.150 --> 00:17:17.270
- 00:17:16.150 --> 00:17:17.270
- struggling as well.
- struggling as well.
- 00:17:17.270 --> 00:17:20.090
- 00:17:17.270 --> 00:17:20.090
- I think living with an unhappy
- I think living with an unhappy
- 00:17:20.090 --> 00:17:21.060
- 00:17:20.090 --> 00:17:21.060
- person, you can feel
- person, you can feel
- 00:17:21.060 --> 00:17:22.070
- 00:17:21.060 --> 00:17:22.070
- so helpless.
- so helpless.
- 00:17:22.070 --> 00:17:24.000
- 00:17:22.070 --> 00:17:24.000
- We've got the greatest
- We've got the greatest
- 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:24.240
- 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:24.240
- of all power in prayer.
- of all power in prayer.
- 00:17:24.240 --> 00:17:26.290
- 00:17:24.240 --> 00:17:26.290
- I know that much of the reason
- I know that much of the reason
- 00:17:26.290 --> 00:17:28.140
- 00:17:26.290 --> 00:17:28.140
- that today I feel stronger than
- that today I feel stronger than
- 00:17:28.140 --> 00:17:29.290
- 00:17:28.140 --> 00:17:29.290
- probably I've felt for a long,
- probably I've felt for a long,
- 00:17:29.290 --> 00:17:31.120
- 00:17:29.290 --> 00:17:31.120
- long time is because
- long time is because
- 00:17:31.120 --> 00:17:33.080
- 00:17:31.120 --> 00:17:33.080
- of Bobbie and people who
- of Bobbie and people who
- 00:17:33.080 --> 00:17:34.160
- 00:17:33.080 --> 00:17:34.160
- loved me's prayer.
- loved me's prayer.
- 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:36.150
- 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:36.150
- But you can wonder, really,
- But you can wonder, really,
- 00:17:36.150 --> 00:17:37.170
- 00:17:36.150 --> 00:17:37.170
- what to do.
- what to do.
- 00:17:37.170 --> 00:17:39.040
- 00:17:37.170 --> 00:17:39.040
- So the advice I give men
- So the advice I give men
- 00:17:39.040 --> 00:17:41.080
- 00:17:39.040 --> 00:17:41.080
- when it comes to happiness
- when it comes to happiness
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- is number one, live outwardly,
- is number one, live outwardly,
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- living outwardly.
- living outwardly.
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- Live from the inside out
- Live from the inside out
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- rather from the outside in.
- rather from the outside in.
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- 'Cause I think a lot of men,
- 'Cause I think a lot of men,
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- because of some of those
- because of some of those
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- pressures I've mentioned,
- pressures I've mentioned,
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- they live from the outside in.
- they live from the outside in.
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- In other words,
- In other words,
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- the pressures of their work,
- the pressures of their work,
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- or things that are going
- or things that are going
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- 00:17:59.130 --> 00:18:00.100
- on there, or some of the things
- on there, or some of the things
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- 00:18:00.100 --> 00:18:01.130
- around and about them,
- around and about them,
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- or what comes from the outside,
- or what comes from the outside,
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- it starts affecting them
- it starts affecting them
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- on the inside.
- on the inside.
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- Living outwardly,
- Living outwardly,
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- it means living generously.
- it means living generously.
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- It's so easy for us
- It's so easy for us
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- to start living our lives,
- to start living our lives,
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- 00:18:15.280 --> 00:18:17.140
- "What about me?"
- "What about me?"
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- If inside a marriage,
- If inside a marriage,
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- if inside any part of life,
- if inside any part of life,
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- our starting point is,
- our starting point is,
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- "What about me?"
- "What about me?"
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- there is gonna be tension
- there is gonna be tension
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- in the home.
- in the home.
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- There is gonna be unhappiness
- There is gonna be unhappiness
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- in the home.
- in the home.
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- When you live from the inside
- When you live from the inside
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- out, you don't let somebody else
- out, you don't let somebody else
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- frame your happiness,
- frame your happiness,
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- necessarily.
- necessarily.
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- You learn to build solidly
- You learn to build solidly
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- on the inside.
- on the inside.
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- God's Word is the perfect help
- God's Word is the perfect help
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- for us to do that.
- for us to do that.
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- It's incredible, though,
- It's incredible, though,
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- how you can preach
- how you can preach
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- the Word of God to others
- the Word of God to others
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- and help other people for
- and help other people for
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- decades, but stop listening to
- decades, but stop listening to
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- your own preaching when it comes
- your own preaching when it comes
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- to what's going on inside your
- to what's going on inside your
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- own heart, and what's going on
- own heart, and what's going on
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- inside your own soul.
- inside your own soul.
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- Living from the outside in,
- Living from the outside in,
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- remember Rick Warren's book
- remember Rick Warren's book
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- 00:19:00.250 --> 00:19:03.030
- "The Purpose-Driven Life"?
- "The Purpose-Driven Life"?
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- Such an incredibly, incredibly,
- Such an incredibly, incredibly,
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- 00:19:05.010 --> 00:19:08.000
- fruitful, successful book
- fruitful, successful book
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- 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:09.150
- in terms of how many hands it's
- in terms of how many hands it's
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- got into, multiply millions
- got into, multiply millions
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- of people.
- of people.
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- And the line that stand out
- And the line that stand out
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- to me, in fact, I'd probably
- to me, in fact, I'd probably
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- struggle to tell you much else
- struggle to tell you much else
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- 00:19:17.050 --> 00:19:18.160
- about what's in that book except
- about what's in that book except
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- for the first words:
- for the first words:
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- "It's not about you."
- "It's not about you."
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- If our starting point--
- If our starting point--
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- 'course, everyone needs loving.
- 'course, everyone needs loving.
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- Everyone needs support.
- Everyone needs support.
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- Everyone needs input.
- Everyone needs input.
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- 00:19:27.140 --> 00:19:30.070
- But if we're starting point is,
- But if we're starting point is,
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- "What about me?"
- "What about me?"
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- there will be unhappiness
- there will be unhappiness
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- in your life.
- in your life.
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- There will be unhappiness
- There will be unhappiness
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- in your world.
- in your world.
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- Living our lives generously,
- Living our lives generously,
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- it affects our words.
- it affects our words.
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- It affects our outlook.
- It affects our outlook.
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- It affects everything
- It affects everything
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- when you start living from
- when you start living from
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- the inside out.
- the inside out.
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- To me, generosity has no strings
- To me, generosity has no strings
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- attached 'cause it's not about
- attached 'cause it's not about
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- me.
- me.
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- To me, generosity is others
- To me, generosity is others
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- focused.
- focused.
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- And when someone lives
- And when someone lives
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- their life not generous,
- their life not generous,
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- including when it comes
- including when it comes
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- to our outlook toward money,
- to our outlook toward money,
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- if we live tight, you know,
- if we live tight, you know,
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- what Proverbs says,
- what Proverbs says,
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- The Message puts it this way,
- The Message puts it this way,
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- Proverbs 11: "The world of the
- Proverbs 11: "The world of the
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- generous gets larger and larger.
- generous gets larger and larger.
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- The world of the stingy
- The world of the stingy
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- gets smaller and smaller."
- gets smaller and smaller."
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- I would put that right down
- I would put that right down
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- to someone's emotional world.
- to someone's emotional world.
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- If we live generously, we start
- If we live generously, we start
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- living enlarged, we live larger.
- living enlarged, we live larger.
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- If we live stingily,
- If we live stingily,
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- if a man is stingy when
- if a man is stingy when
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- it comes to his encouragement,
- it comes to his encouragement,
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- if a man is stingy
- if a man is stingy
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- when it comes to the input he's
- when it comes to the input he's
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- putting into his own children,
- putting into his own children,
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- if a man becomes stingy
- if a man becomes stingy
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- in his ability to simply say,
- in his ability to simply say,
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- "I love you," then it's gonna
- "I love you," then it's gonna
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- have an effect on his own life.
- have an effect on his own life.
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- Unhappy people treat people
- Unhappy people treat people
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- badly.
- badly.
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- If you live with someone
- If you live with someone
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- who is not treating you well,
- who is not treating you well,
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- it may be at least a little
- it may be at least a little
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- help for you to know that
- help for you to know that
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- it's not about you.
- it's not about you.
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- It's not about you.
- It's not about you.
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- Unhappy people are mean
- Unhappy people are mean
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- to people.
- to people.
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- But it's about them.
- But it's about them.
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- - Brian: There is something
- - Brian: There is something
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- about a man who knows how to
- about a man who knows how to
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- lead his family as a worshiper,
- lead his family as a worshiper,
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- who knows how to truly, again,
- who knows how to truly, again,
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- live from the inside out
- live from the inside out
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- by honoring God and putting
- by honoring God and putting
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- the glory where the glory needs
- the glory where the glory needs
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- to be.
- to be.
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- - Bobbie: I felt God prompt me.
- - Bobbie: I felt God prompt me.
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- He prompted me about the sons.
- He prompted me about the sons.
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- He prompted me about the men.
- He prompted me about the men.
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- And he dropped, he said,
- And he dropped, he said,
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- "I want you to do this session,"
- "I want you to do this session,"
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- that we, as women,
- that we, as women,
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- can live with greater insight
- can live with greater insight
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- into the hearts and the lives
- into the hearts and the lives
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- of the men who are in our world.
- of the men who are in our world.
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- 00:21:51.100 --> 00:21:54.100
- - Brian: So the advice I give
- - Brian: So the advice I give
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- men when it comes to happiness
- men when it comes to happiness
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- is number one, live outwardly,
- is number one, live outwardly,
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- living outwardly.
- living outwardly.
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- Live from the inside out rather
- Live from the inside out rather
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- - Brian: Listen to this
- - Brian: Listen to this
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- Scripture, talking about
- Scripture, talking about
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- generosity.
- generosity.
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- It's Ecclesiastes chapter 5,
- It's Ecclesiastes chapter 5,
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- verse 10 and 11.
- verse 10 and 11.
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- It says: "Those who love money
- It says: "Those who love money
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- will never have enough.
- will never have enough.
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- How meaningless to think that
- How meaningless to think that
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- wealth brings true happiness!
- wealth brings true happiness!
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- The more you have," this is my
- The more you have," this is my
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- favorite part, "the more people
- favorite part, "the more people
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- come to help you spend it.
- come to help you spend it.
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- So what good is wealth--except
- So what good is wealth--except
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- perhaps to watch it slip
- perhaps to watch it slip
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- 00:22:37.090 --> 00:22:39.110
- through your fingers!"
- through your fingers!"
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- 1 Timothy chapter 6, verse 17:
- 1 Timothy chapter 6, verse 17:
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- 00:22:43.240 --> 00:22:46.240
- "Command those who are rich
- "Command those who are rich
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- 00:22:46.240 --> 00:22:48.050
- in this present age not
- in this present age not
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- 00:22:48.050 --> 00:22:49.250
- to be haughty nor to trust
- to be haughty nor to trust
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- 00:22:49.250 --> 00:22:52.030
- in uncertain riches,
- in uncertain riches,
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- but in the living God
- but in the living God
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- 00:22:54.060 --> 00:22:55.150
- who gives us richly all things
- who gives us richly all things
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- 00:22:55.150 --> 00:22:57.220
- to enjoy."
- to enjoy."
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- 00:22:57.220 --> 00:22:58.230
- What's "all things" mean?
- What's "all things" mean?
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- 00:22:58.230 --> 00:22:59.220
- "All things" means "all things."
- "All things" means "all things."
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- God gives us all things,
- God gives us all things,
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- spiritual things,
- spiritual things,
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- physical things,
- physical things,
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- all things to enjoy.
- all things to enjoy.
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- 00:23:06.030 --> 00:23:08.230
- Sometimes it's not the man's
- Sometimes it's not the man's
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- 00:23:08.230 --> 00:23:10.180
- riches that are a problem,
- riches that are a problem,
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- 00:23:10.180 --> 00:23:12.020
- it's the man's pursuits.
- it's the man's pursuits.
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- 00:23:12.020 --> 00:23:14.120
- And if we make our lives,
- And if we make our lives,
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- if we make our marriage
- if we make our marriage
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- 00:23:15.220 --> 00:23:17.080
- about the pursuit of money,
- about the pursuit of money,
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- it will lead to unhappiness.
- it will lead to unhappiness.
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- 00:23:19.050 --> 00:23:21.000
- It will never lead to happiness.
- It will never lead to happiness.
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- 00:23:22.130 --> 00:23:25.130
- I love when I see people
- I love when I see people
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- who God is blessing,
- who God is blessing,
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- 00:23:27.210 --> 00:23:28.250
- and blessing them abundantly.
- and blessing them abundantly.
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- 00:23:28.250 --> 00:23:30.150
- But it's not about them.
- But it's not about them.
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- 00:23:30.150 --> 00:23:32.150
- They're blessed.
- They're blessed.
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- They live blessed.
- They live blessed.
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- But they're outward focused.
- But they're outward focused.
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- They live their life
- They live their life
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- in a generous way.
- in a generous way.
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- 00:23:38.150 --> 00:23:40.120
- Their body language is not that.
- Their body language is not that.
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- 00:23:40.120 --> 00:23:42.240
- It's much more like this.
- It's much more like this.
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- 00:23:42.240 --> 00:23:45.160
- They're generous.
- They're generous.
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- 00:23:45.160 --> 00:23:47.080
- And again, I think it's a funny
- And again, I think it's a funny
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- 00:23:47.080 --> 00:23:49.050
- line when it says, "The more you
- line when it says, "The more you
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- 00:23:49.050 --> 00:23:50.180
- have, the more people will come
- have, the more people will come
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- 00:23:50.180 --> 00:23:51.230
- to help you spend it."
- to help you spend it."
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- 00:23:52.070 --> 00:23:55.070
- I did have lunch, or dinner
- I did have lunch, or dinner
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- actually, with some really,
- actually, with some really,
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- really, really prominent,
- really, really prominent,
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- 00:23:59.080 --> 00:24:02.000
- famous sports stars.
- famous sports stars.
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- 00:24:02.000 --> 00:24:03.290
- And it was kinda funny
- And it was kinda funny
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- 00:24:03.290 --> 00:24:05.010
- because I was sitting in the
- because I was sitting in the
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- 00:24:05.010 --> 00:24:06.050
- middle, and the conversation
- middle, and the conversation
- 00:24:06.050 --> 00:24:07.080
- 00:24:06.050 --> 00:24:07.080
- going on was about that
- going on was about that
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- 00:24:07.080 --> 00:24:09.040
- exact subject.
- exact subject.
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- 00:24:09.040 --> 00:24:11.180
- It was about the fact that
- It was about the fact that
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- 00:24:11.180 --> 00:24:12.290
- so many people would try
- so many people would try
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- 00:24:12.290 --> 00:24:14.210
- to hang on, and so many people
- to hang on, and so many people
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- 00:24:14.210 --> 00:24:16.020
- want something.
- want something.
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- 00:24:16.020 --> 00:24:17.270
- And living generously,
- And living generously,
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- 00:24:18.250 --> 00:24:21.250
- it does mean that we live
- it does mean that we live
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- 00:24:21.250 --> 00:24:23.000
- thinking about other people
- thinking about other people
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- 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:25.070
- before ourselves.
- before ourselves.
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- 00:24:25.070 --> 00:24:26.280
- Someone once asked
- Someone once asked
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- 00:24:26.280 --> 00:24:27.280
- a psychologist,
- a psychologist,
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- 00:24:27.280 --> 00:24:29.010
- famous psychologist,
- famous psychologist,
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- 00:24:29.010 --> 00:24:30.140
- or a famous, perhaps,
- or a famous, perhaps,
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- 00:24:30.140 --> 00:24:31.170
- psychiatrist, but he was
- psychiatrist, but he was
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- 00:24:31.170 --> 00:24:32.250
- in a lecturing situation
- in a lecturing situation
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- 00:24:32.250 --> 00:24:33.280
- and answering questions.
- and answering questions.
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- 00:24:33.280 --> 00:24:36.060
- And someone asked him,
- And someone asked him,
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- 00:24:36.060 --> 00:24:37.220
- "What was the first piece
- "What was the first piece
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- 00:24:37.220 --> 00:24:39.140
- of advice you would give
- of advice you would give
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- 00:24:39.140 --> 00:24:41.270
- to a person struggling with
- to a person struggling with
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- 00:24:41.270 --> 00:24:43.200
- depression?"
- depression?"
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- 00:24:43.200 --> 00:24:45.200
- He said, "I'd tell them this."
- He said, "I'd tell them this."
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- 00:24:45.200 --> 00:24:47.250
- I guess they were expecting
- I guess they were expecting
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- 00:24:47.250 --> 00:24:48.260
- some incredible clinical answer.
- some incredible clinical answer.
- 00:24:49.010 --> 00:24:52.010
- 00:24:49.010 --> 00:24:52.010
- But his answer was,
- But his answer was,
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- 00:24:52.010 --> 00:24:54.120
- "Get up off the lounge.
- "Get up off the lounge.
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- 00:24:54.120 --> 00:24:56.170
- Get out of the house.
- Get out of the house.
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- 00:24:56.170 --> 00:24:58.170
- Cross the tracks.
- Cross the tracks.
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- 00:24:58.170 --> 00:25:00.210
- Find somebody worse off than
- Find somebody worse off than
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- 00:25:00.210 --> 00:25:01.230
- you, and start to help them."
- you, and start to help them."
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- 00:25:02.280 --> 00:25:05.280
- That's living your life
- That's living your life
- 00:25:05.280 --> 00:25:06.280
- 00:25:05.280 --> 00:25:06.280
- outwardly.
- outwardly.
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- 00:25:08.130 --> 00:25:11.130
- I was talking to Joyce Meyer
- I was talking to Joyce Meyer
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- 00:25:11.130 --> 00:25:12.120
- once.
- once.
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- 00:25:12.120 --> 00:25:13.200
- Joyce Meyer, for anyone who's
- Joyce Meyer, for anyone who's
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- 00:25:13.200 --> 00:25:14.210
- never had the opportunity
- never had the opportunity
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- 00:25:14.210 --> 00:25:15.270
- to talk to her personally,
- to talk to her personally,
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- 00:25:15.270 --> 00:25:18.060
- one on one,
- one on one,
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- 00:25:18.060 --> 00:25:19.010
- she's exactly the same,
- she's exactly the same,
- 00:25:19.010 --> 00:25:20.020
- 00:25:19.010 --> 00:25:20.020
- basically, one on one as she
- basically, one on one as she
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- 00:25:20.020 --> 00:25:21.210
- is when she speaks to thousands.
- is when she speaks to thousands.
- 00:25:21.210 --> 00:25:24.150
- 00:25:21.210 --> 00:25:24.150
- Kinda scary in the most amazing,
- Kinda scary in the most amazing,
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- 00:25:26.270 --> 00:25:29.270
- beautiful way.
- beautiful way.
- 00:25:29.270 --> 00:25:31.200
- 00:25:29.270 --> 00:25:31.200
- So I thought I was asking
- So I thought I was asking
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- 00:25:31.200 --> 00:25:32.130
- her the best possible question.
- her the best possible question.
- 00:25:32.130 --> 00:25:34.040
- 00:25:32.130 --> 00:25:34.040
- I said, "Joyce, do you ever
- I said, "Joyce, do you ever
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- 00:25:34.040 --> 00:25:36.170
- get nervous when you speak
- get nervous when you speak
- 00:25:36.170 --> 00:25:38.020
- 00:25:36.170 --> 00:25:38.020
- to big crowds?"
- to big crowds?"
- 00:25:38.020 --> 00:25:39.210
- 00:25:38.020 --> 00:25:39.210
- And she just looked at me like
- And she just looked at me like
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- 00:25:39.210 --> 00:25:40.220
- it was the most stupid question
- it was the most stupid question
- 00:25:40.220 --> 00:25:42.050
- 00:25:40.220 --> 00:25:42.050
- anyone has ever asked her,
- anyone has ever asked her,
- 00:25:42.050 --> 00:25:44.050
- 00:25:42.050 --> 00:25:44.050
- and she said, "No, I don't think
- and she said, "No, I don't think
- 00:25:44.270 --> 00:25:47.270
- 00:25:44.270 --> 00:25:47.270
- about myself when I preach.
- about myself when I preach.
- 00:25:47.270 --> 00:25:50.100
- 00:25:47.270 --> 00:25:50.100
- I just try to help people."
- I just try to help people."
- 00:25:50.100 --> 00:25:52.210
- 00:25:50.100 --> 00:25:52.210
- And I thought,
- And I thought,
- 00:25:52.210 --> 00:25:53.160
- 00:25:52.210 --> 00:25:53.160
- "What an amazing answer."
- "What an amazing answer."
- 00:25:53.160 --> 00:25:55.070
- 00:25:53.160 --> 00:25:55.070
- That's living your life
- That's living your life
- 00:25:55.070 --> 00:25:56.020
- 00:25:55.070 --> 00:25:56.020
- from the inside out.
- from the inside out.
- 00:25:56.020 --> 00:25:57.030
- 00:25:56.020 --> 00:25:57.030
- "I don't think about myself
- "I don't think about myself
- 00:25:57.030 --> 00:25:58.030
- 00:25:57.030 --> 00:25:58.030
- when I preach.
- when I preach.
- 00:25:58.030 --> 00:26:00.030
- 00:25:58.030 --> 00:26:00.030
- I just try to help people."
- I just try to help people."
- 00:26:00.030 --> 00:26:02.040
- 00:26:00.030 --> 00:26:02.040
- And I think for every one of us,
- And I think for every one of us,
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- 00:26:02.040 --> 00:26:03.080
- in life, and in marriages,
- in life, and in marriages,
- 00:26:03.080 --> 00:26:05.050
- 00:26:03.080 --> 00:26:05.050
- and in relationships,
- and in relationships,
- 00:26:05.050 --> 00:26:06.030
- 00:26:05.050 --> 00:26:06.030
- and younger people who
- and younger people who
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- 00:26:06.030 --> 00:26:07.040
- are not yet married
- are not yet married
- 00:26:07.040 --> 00:26:08.120
- 00:26:07.040 --> 00:26:08.120
- but hope to be and plan to be,
- but hope to be and plan to be,
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- 00:26:08.120 --> 00:26:11.050
- if we build relationships
- if we build relationships
- 00:26:11.050 --> 00:26:12.080
- 00:26:11.050 --> 00:26:12.080
- about ourselves,
- about ourselves,
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- 00:26:12.080 --> 00:26:13.180
- there will be unhappiness
- there will be unhappiness
- 00:26:13.180 --> 00:26:14.190
- 00:26:13.180 --> 00:26:14.190
- in that relationship.
- in that relationship.
- 00:26:14.190 --> 00:26:16.040
- 00:26:14.190 --> 00:26:16.040
- If we live our lives outwardly,
- If we live our lives outwardly,
- 00:26:16.040 --> 00:26:17.190
- 00:26:16.040 --> 00:26:17.190
- we know how to live our lives
- we know how to live our lives
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- 00:26:17.190 --> 00:26:19.100
- generously, then I believe
- generously, then I believe
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- 00:26:19.100 --> 00:26:21.110
- it will make all the difference.
- it will make all the difference.
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- 00:26:21.110 --> 00:26:23.180
- And I think everyone
- And I think everyone
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- 00:26:23.180 --> 00:26:24.190
- here's mature enough,
- here's mature enough,
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- 00:26:24.190 --> 00:26:25.170
- well, possibly not,
- well, possibly not,
- 00:26:25.170 --> 00:26:27.100
- 00:26:25.170 --> 00:26:27.100
- to know that just becoming
- to know that just becoming
- 00:26:27.100 --> 00:26:29.060
- 00:26:27.100 --> 00:26:29.060
- a Christian doesn't make
- a Christian doesn't make
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- 00:26:29.060 --> 00:26:30.110
- unhappiness go away.
- unhappiness go away.
- 00:26:30.230 --> 00:26:33.230
- 00:26:30.230 --> 00:26:33.230
- We wish it could.
- We wish it could.
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- 00:26:33.230 --> 00:26:35.260
- The Word of God can redeem
- The Word of God can redeem
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- 00:26:35.260 --> 00:26:37.250
- people.
- people.
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- 00:26:37.250 --> 00:26:38.210
- And over a period of time,
- And over a period of time,
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- 00:26:38.210 --> 00:26:39.200
- I believe God's Word working
- I believe God's Word working
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- 00:26:39.200 --> 00:26:41.020
- in people's lives gives you
- in people's lives gives you
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- 00:26:41.020 --> 00:26:42.030
- a foundation so that the footing
- a foundation so that the footing
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- 00:26:42.030 --> 00:26:43.280
- and foundation for your life
- and foundation for your life
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- 00:26:43.280 --> 00:26:45.040
- is totally transformed.
- is totally transformed.
- 00:26:45.040 --> 00:26:46.270
- 00:26:45.040 --> 00:26:46.270
- And certainly, you're coming
- And certainly, you're coming
- 00:26:46.270 --> 00:26:47.270
- 00:26:46.270 --> 00:26:47.270
- from the right foundation to
- from the right foundation to
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- 00:26:47.270 --> 00:26:49.140
- build happiness into your life.
- build happiness into your life.
- 00:26:49.140 --> 00:26:52.000
- 00:26:49.140 --> 00:26:52.000
- So there's no doubt
- So there's no doubt
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- 00:26:52.000 --> 00:26:52.230
- about the redeeming quality
- about the redeeming quality
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- 00:26:52.230 --> 00:26:53.270
- and the power of God's Word,
- and the power of God's Word,
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- 00:26:53.270 --> 00:26:55.150
- and God can bring deliverance,
- and God can bring deliverance,
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- 00:26:55.150 --> 00:26:57.090
- and that God can lift depression
- and that God can lift depression
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- 00:26:57.090 --> 00:26:59.180
- off people, and lift unhappiness
- off people, and lift unhappiness
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- 00:26:59.180 --> 00:27:01.260
- off people.
- off people.
- 00:27:01.260 --> 00:27:02.270
- 00:27:01.260 --> 00:27:02.270
- But inside our relationships,
- But inside our relationships,
- 00:27:02.270 --> 00:27:04.050
- 00:27:02.270 --> 00:27:04.050
- let's just learn to live
- let's just learn to live
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- 00:27:04.050 --> 00:27:05.070
- outwardly.
- outwardly.
- 00:27:05.070 --> 00:27:07.000
- 00:27:05.070 --> 00:27:07.000
- Not only would I tell him
- Not only would I tell him
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- to live his life outwardly, but
- to live his life outwardly, but
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- I'd tell him to live his life
- I'd tell him to live his life
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- worshipfully.
- worshipfully.
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- Let me confess somethin'
- Let me confess somethin'
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- to you as a man.
- to you as a man.
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- 00:27:14.280 --> 00:27:16.180
- Maybe I'm an Aussie bloke.
- Maybe I'm an Aussie bloke.
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- I know this is not right,
- I know this is not right,
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- 00:27:18.190 --> 00:27:19.240
- by the way.
- by the way.
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- 00:27:19.240 --> 00:27:21.050
- It's just a confession time, so.
- It's just a confession time, so.
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- It always to me like praise,
- It always to me like praise,
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- that's a man's thing.
- that's a man's thing.
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- 00:27:25.160 --> 00:27:26.160
- We praise God.
- We praise God.
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- 00:27:26.160 --> 00:27:27.190
- Ooh, we praise.
- Ooh, we praise.
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- 00:27:27.190 --> 00:27:29.180
- Whereas worship, it's
- Whereas worship, it's
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- 00:27:29.180 --> 00:27:30.250
- kind of a bit more feminine.
- kind of a bit more feminine.
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- We worship.
- We worship.
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- 00:27:32.050 --> 00:27:33.010
- And it's kinda, to me,
- And it's kinda, to me,
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- 00:27:33.270 --> 00:27:36.270
- it's a little more feminine.
- it's a little more feminine.
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- 00:27:36.270 --> 00:27:39.240
- Having said that,
- Having said that,
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- there is something about
- there is something about
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- a man who knows how to lead
- a man who knows how to lead
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- 00:27:43.020 --> 00:27:45.170
- his family as a worshiper,
- his family as a worshiper,
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- 00:27:45.220 --> 00:27:48.220
- who knows how to truly, again,
- who knows how to truly, again,
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- live from the inside out
- live from the inside out
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- 00:27:50.200 --> 00:27:53.160
- by honoring God and putting
- by honoring God and putting
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- the glory where the glory needs
- the glory where the glory needs
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- 00:27:54.260 --> 00:27:56.150
- to be.
- to be.
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- And even when we feel like hell,
- And even when we feel like hell,
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- 00:27:57.100 --> 00:27:58.230
- knowing how to lift up holy
- knowing how to lift up holy
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- hands and worship God, even when
- hands and worship God, even when
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- 00:28:00.250 --> 00:28:02.270
- the fig tree's not blossoming,
- the fig tree's not blossoming,
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- 00:28:02.270 --> 00:28:04.150
- and there is no fruit on the
- and there is no fruit on the
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- 00:28:04.150 --> 00:28:06.160
- vine, and the produce of the
- vine, and the produce of the
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- 00:28:06.160 --> 00:28:08.170
- olive fails, Psalm 89, verse 15:
- olive fails, Psalm 89, verse 15:
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- 00:28:09.220 --> 00:28:12.220
- "Happy are those who hear
- "Happy are those who hear
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- 00:28:12.220 --> 00:28:14.280
- the joyful call to worship.
- the joyful call to worship.
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- For they will walk in the light
- For they will walk in the light
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- 00:28:18.030 --> 00:28:19.240
- of your presence, Lord."
- of your presence, Lord."
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- I would encourage you
- I would encourage you
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- 00:28:22.120 --> 00:28:23.170
- to believe, if you are not
- to believe, if you are not
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- 00:28:23.170 --> 00:28:25.000
- in a situation where have
- in a situation where have
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- the honor and the privilege
- the honor and the privilege
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- 00:28:26.100 --> 00:28:28.100
- of standing beside your man
- of standing beside your man
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- 00:28:28.100 --> 00:28:30.040
- in God's house and together
- in God's house and together
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- worship God, and his hands
- worship God, and his hands
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- are up higher than almost anyone
- are up higher than almost anyone
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- else in the room as he honors
- else in the room as he honors
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- 00:28:35.190 --> 00:28:37.000
- King Jesus, let's believe God
- King Jesus, let's believe God
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- with you for that.
- with you for that.
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- 00:28:38.280 --> 00:28:40.010
- Let's pray for that.
- Let's pray for that.
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- Let's have an expectation that
- Let's have an expectation that
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- 00:28:41.050 --> 00:28:43.110
- that day is coming because there
- that day is coming because there
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- 00:28:43.110 --> 00:28:44.260
- is something about worship that
- is something about worship that
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- 00:28:44.260 --> 00:28:46.200
- has a release on the inside.
- has a release on the inside.
- 00:28:46.200 --> 00:28:48.210
- 00:28:46.200 --> 00:28:48.210
- It's getting the focus off
- It's getting the focus off
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- 00:28:48.210 --> 00:28:49.210
- ourselves.
- ourselves.
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- 00:28:49.210 --> 00:28:50.270
- We talk about magnifying
- We talk about magnifying
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- 00:28:50.270 --> 00:28:51.280
- the Lord.
- the Lord.
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- 00:28:51.280 --> 00:28:52.220
- The Bible teaches us to magnify
- The Bible teaches us to magnify
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- 00:28:52.220 --> 00:28:53.260
- the Lord.
- the Lord.
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- 00:28:53.260 --> 00:28:54.270
- Magnifying him isn't just
- Magnifying him isn't just
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- 00:28:54.270 --> 00:28:56.180
- about God being on an ego trip.
- about God being on an ego trip.
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- 00:28:56.180 --> 00:28:58.230
- It's about God
- It's about God
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- 00:28:58.230 --> 00:28:59.210
- becoming bigger in our world,
- becoming bigger in our world,
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- 00:28:59.210 --> 00:29:01.130
- becoming bigger in our thinking,
- becoming bigger in our thinking,
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- 00:29:01.130 --> 00:29:02.290
- becoming bigger in our souls
- becoming bigger in our souls
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- 00:29:02.290 --> 00:29:04.050
- and our hearts.
- and our hearts.
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- 00:29:04.050 --> 00:29:05.100
- And as he is magnified,
- And as he is magnified,
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- 00:29:05.100 --> 00:29:06.200
- he is enlarged, then the things
- he is enlarged, then the things
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- 00:29:06.200 --> 00:29:08.160
- of this earth grow strangely dim
- of this earth grow strangely dim
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- in the light of his glory
- in the light of his glory
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- 00:29:10.230 --> 00:29:12.000
- and grace.
- and grace.
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- 00:29:12.000 --> 00:29:12.240
- And suddenly,
- And suddenly,
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- 00:29:12.240 --> 00:29:13.190
- the things that seemed
- the things that seemed
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- 00:29:13.190 --> 00:29:14.120
- to matter don't matter anymore.
- to matter don't matter anymore.
- 00:29:14.120 --> 00:29:15.250
- 00:29:14.120 --> 00:29:15.250
- So I'm believing with you that
- So I'm believing with you that
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- that day will come when your man
- that day will come when your man
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- 00:29:17.160 --> 00:29:19.150
- knows how to lead your family
- knows how to lead your family
- 00:29:19.150 --> 00:29:21.080
- 00:29:19.150 --> 00:29:21.080
- as a worshiper of King Jesus.
- as a worshiper of King Jesus.
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- 00:29:21.080 --> 00:29:23.270
- And not only, not only because
- And not only, not only because
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- 00:29:23.270 --> 00:29:25.250
- of the power that there is in it
- of the power that there is in it
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- 00:29:25.250 --> 00:29:27.200
- for other people and for you,
- for other people and for you,
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- 00:29:27.200 --> 00:29:29.090
- but for the power that it has
- but for the power that it has
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- 00:29:29.090 --> 00:29:30.120
- - Brian: Roots of bitterness
- - Brian: Roots of bitterness
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- 00:29:36.000 --> 00:29:37.290
- often start because we never
- often start because we never
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- 00:29:37.290 --> 00:29:40.140
- learned the power of pursuing
- learned the power of pursuing
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- 00:29:40.140 --> 00:29:41.260
- peace, and the power of keeping
- peace, and the power of keeping
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- tension out of our home.
- tension out of our home.
- 00:29:44.070 --> 00:29:47.070
- 00:29:44.070 --> 00:29:47.070
- I don't want to be overdramatic,
- I don't want to be overdramatic,
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- but children's eternity can
- but children's eternity can
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- 00:29:48.260 --> 00:29:51.010
- depend on keeping bitterness out
- depend on keeping bitterness out
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- of the fundamentals in your
- of the fundamentals in your
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- marriage, in your relationship,
- marriage, in your relationship,
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- 00:29:55.040 --> 00:29:56.260
- in your home.
- in your home.
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- 00:30:00.230 --> 00:30:03.230
- - Bobbie: That we, as women,
- - Bobbie: That we, as women,
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- can live with greater insight
- can live with greater insight
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- into the hearts and the lives
- into the hearts and the lives
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- 00:30:08.100 --> 00:30:10.070
- of the men who are in our world.
- of the men who are in our world.
- 00:30:10.070 --> 00:30:13.010
- 00:30:10.070 --> 00:30:13.010
- - Brian: 'Cause I think a lot
- - Brian: 'Cause I think a lot
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- 00:30:13.010 --> 00:30:14.000
- of men, because of some of those
- of men, because of some of those
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- 00:30:14.000 --> 00:30:15.030
- pressures I've mentioned,
- pressures I've mentioned,
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- 00:30:15.030 --> 00:30:16.030
- they live from the outside in.
- they live from the outside in.
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- 00:30:16.030 --> 00:30:17.200
- In other words, what comes from
- In other words, what comes from
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- 00:30:17.200 --> 00:30:18.240
- the outside, it starts affecting
- the outside, it starts affecting
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- 00:30:18.240 --> 00:30:20.140
- them on the inside.
- them on the inside.
- 00:30:20.140 --> 00:30:22.030
- 00:30:20.140 --> 00:30:22.030
- We can mask it to a level
- We can mask it to a level
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- 00:30:22.030 --> 00:30:23.080
- at some point, but everything
- at some point, but everything
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- 00:30:23.080 --> 00:30:24.220
- suffered during that time.
- suffered during that time.
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- 00:30:24.220 --> 00:30:26.130
- So the advice I give men
- So the advice I give men
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- 00:30:26.130 --> 00:30:28.090
- is number one, live outwardly.
- is number one, live outwardly.
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- Not only would I tell him
- Not only would I tell him
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- 00:30:31.150 --> 00:30:32.080
- to live his life outwardly, but
- to live his life outwardly, but
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- 00:30:32.080 --> 00:30:34.150
- I'd tell him to live his life
- I'd tell him to live his life
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- 00:30:34.150 --> 00:30:35.270
- - Brian: Live outwardly.
- - Brian: Live outwardly.
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- Live worshipfully.
- Live worshipfully.
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- 00:30:42.290 --> 00:30:44.050
- Live peaceably.
- Live peaceably.
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- 00:30:44.050 --> 00:30:46.120
- Some people are always
- Some people are always
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- 00:30:46.120 --> 00:30:47.090
- in a fight.
- in a fight.
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- 00:30:47.090 --> 00:30:49.050
- And if it's not on level,
- And if it's not on level,
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- 00:30:49.050 --> 00:30:50.140
- it's on another level.
- it's on another level.
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- 00:30:50.140 --> 00:30:52.160
- Sometimes people are fighting
- Sometimes people are fighting
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- 00:30:52.160 --> 00:30:53.200
- their neighbors about the most
- their neighbors about the most
- 00:30:53.200 --> 00:30:56.190
- 00:30:53.200 --> 00:30:56.190
- obscure things, the fence.
- obscure things, the fence.
- 00:30:56.190 --> 00:30:59.020
- 00:30:56.190 --> 00:30:59.020
- And maybe we all understand
- And maybe we all understand
- 00:30:59.020 --> 00:31:01.060
- 00:30:59.020 --> 00:31:01.060
- it's your neighbor's fault.
- it's your neighbor's fault.
- 00:31:01.060 --> 00:31:02.140
- 00:31:01.060 --> 00:31:02.140
- It's not your fault.
- It's not your fault.
- 00:31:02.140 --> 00:31:04.040
- 00:31:02.140 --> 00:31:04.040
- It's not my fault if my neighbor
- It's not my fault if my neighbor
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- 00:31:04.040 --> 00:31:05.070
- doesn't like my trees.
- doesn't like my trees.
- 00:31:05.070 --> 00:31:07.120
- 00:31:05.070 --> 00:31:07.120
- They're my trees.
- They're my trees.
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- 00:31:07.120 --> 00:31:08.100
- They're on my property.
- They're on my property.
- 00:31:08.100 --> 00:31:09.040
- 00:31:08.100 --> 00:31:09.040
- I mean, is that my fault?
- I mean, is that my fault?
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- 00:31:10.250 --> 00:31:13.250
- I just prayed, and they moved.
- I just prayed, and they moved.
- 00:31:13.250 --> 00:31:15.090
- 00:31:13.250 --> 00:31:15.090
- It was awesome.
- It was awesome.
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- 00:31:15.090 --> 00:31:16.210
- [laughing]
- [laughing]
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- 00:31:18.240 --> 00:31:21.240
- Just havin' some fun.
- Just havin' some fun.
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- 00:31:21.250 --> 00:31:24.250
- I don't wanna spend my life
- I don't wanna spend my life
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- 00:31:24.250 --> 00:31:26.030
- fighting the neighbors,
- fighting the neighbors,
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- 00:31:26.030 --> 00:31:28.000
- fighting my partners at work.
- fighting my partners at work.
- 00:31:28.000 --> 00:31:30.240
- 00:31:28.000 --> 00:31:30.240
- Do you know something?
- Do you know something?
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- 00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:33.040
- Too many homes are just filled
- Too many homes are just filled
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- with tension.
- with tension.
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- As partners, and we want
- As partners, and we want
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- 00:31:36.230 --> 00:31:37.220
- the best for our marriage.
- the best for our marriage.
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- 00:31:37.220 --> 00:31:38.240
- We want the best
- We want the best
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- 00:31:38.240 --> 00:31:39.180
- for our children.
- for our children.
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- 00:31:39.180 --> 00:31:40.110
- Children feel that tension
- Children feel that tension
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- 00:31:40.110 --> 00:31:41.090
- the home more than, perhaps, we
- the home more than, perhaps, we
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- 00:31:41.090 --> 00:31:43.010
- ever know and we ever realize.
- ever know and we ever realize.
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- 00:31:43.010 --> 00:31:45.280
- And when, again,
- And when, again,
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- 00:31:45.280 --> 00:31:46.200
- we bring it back to ourselves,
- we bring it back to ourselves,
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- and there's always fighting
- and there's always fighting
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- 00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:49.020
- and tension in our homes,
- and tension in our homes,
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- there's gonna be fundamental
- there's gonna be fundamental
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- unhappiness in the home.
- unhappiness in the home.
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- 00:31:52.050 --> 00:31:54.120
- And let us, God,
- And let us, God,
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- have the grace to live our lives
- have the grace to live our lives
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- 00:31:55.120 --> 00:31:57.010
- where it's not about me.
- where it's not about me.
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- 00:31:57.140 --> 00:32:00.160
- It's not about me.
- It's not about me.
- 00:32:00.160 --> 00:32:02.090
- 00:32:00.160 --> 00:32:02.090
- And it's incredible how the
- And it's incredible how the
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- things that you so desperately
- things that you so desperately
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- 00:32:04.020 --> 00:32:05.080
- need filling in your own soul,
- need filling in your own soul,
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- you start seeing those things,
- you start seeing those things,
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- that fulfillment,
- that fulfillment,
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- come when you learn
- come when you learn
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- how to live in a releasing way.
- how to live in a releasing way.
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- 00:32:14.050 --> 00:32:17.050
- Bobbie and I have been able
- Bobbie and I have been able
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- to do what we do in
- to do what we do in
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- life, number one, because our
- life, number one, because our
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- children have always been so
- children have always been so
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- releasing, and number two,
- releasing, and number two,
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- our church has also been
- our church has also been
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- so releasing.
- so releasing.
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- 00:32:24.180 --> 00:32:25.160
- The people of our church
- The people of our church
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- 00:32:25.160 --> 00:32:26.160
- are so generous when it comes
- are so generous when it comes
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- to time with their pastors
- to time with their pastors
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- and their leaders.
- and their leaders.
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- And it's one of the significant
- And it's one of the significant
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- 00:32:31.080 --> 00:32:32.100
- reasons why Hillsong Church
- reasons why Hillsong Church
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- 00:32:32.100 --> 00:32:33.190
- has always been blessed.
- has always been blessed.
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- It's not because of our worship,
- It's not because of our worship,
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- 00:32:35.190 --> 00:32:37.110
- necessarily, or our preaching
- necessarily, or our preaching
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- 00:32:37.110 --> 00:32:39.000
- and teaching.
- and teaching.
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- It's about the generosity
- It's about the generosity
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- of the people in the pews
- of the people in the pews
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- who are so outward in their
- who are so outward in their
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- approach to the way we are able
- approach to the way we are able
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- to pastor and lead a church,
- to pastor and lead a church,
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- knowing the greater calling
- knowing the greater calling
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- that's on our house.
- that's on our house.
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- 00:32:52.220 --> 00:32:55.220
- Let's live our lives peaceably.
- Let's live our lives peaceably.
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- 00:32:55.220 --> 00:32:58.190
- 1 Peter 3, verse 10 and 11:
- 1 Peter 3, verse 10 and 11:
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- "For the Scripture says,
- "For the Scripture says,
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- 'If you want to enjoy life
- 'If you want to enjoy life
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- and see many happy days,
- and see many happy days,
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- keep your tongue from speaking
- keep your tongue from speaking
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- evil and your lips
- evil and your lips
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- 00:33:05.180 --> 00:33:06.210
- from telling lies.
- from telling lies.
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- Turn away from evil and do good.
- Turn away from evil and do good.
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- Search for peace,
- Search for peace,
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- and work to maintain it.'"
- and work to maintain it.'"
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- So to me, in life,
- So to me, in life,
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- and in leadership,
- and in leadership,
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- but in particular, in our home,
- but in particular, in our home,
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- seek the peace.
- seek the peace.
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- The way it's put
- The way it's put
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- 00:33:21.010 --> 00:33:21.260
- in Hebrews chapter 12,
- in Hebrews chapter 12,
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- verse 14, verse 15:
- verse 14, verse 15:
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- "Pursue peace with all people,
- "Pursue peace with all people,
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- 00:33:26.130 --> 00:33:28.280
- and holiness,
- and holiness,
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- without which no one will see
- without which no one will see
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- the Lord: looking carefully
- the Lord: looking carefully
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- lest anyone fall short
- lest anyone fall short
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- of the grace of God;
- of the grace of God;
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- lest any root of bitterness
- lest any root of bitterness
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- 00:33:38.180 --> 00:33:39.290
- springing up cause trouble, and
- springing up cause trouble, and
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- 00:33:39.290 --> 00:33:42.110
- by this many become defiled."
- by this many become defiled."
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- Roots of bitterness often start
- Roots of bitterness often start
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- 00:33:45.090 --> 00:33:48.010
- because we never learned
- because we never learned
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- 00:33:48.010 --> 00:33:49.260
- the power of pursuing peace,
- the power of pursuing peace,
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- 00:33:49.260 --> 00:33:52.110
- and the power of keeping tension
- and the power of keeping tension
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- 00:33:52.110 --> 00:33:54.090
- out of our home.
- out of our home.
- 00:33:54.090 --> 00:33:56.120
- 00:33:54.090 --> 00:33:56.120
- I'm never, ever judgmental
- I'm never, ever judgmental
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- of anyone else when it comes
- of anyone else when it comes
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- to whether or not their children
- to whether or not their children
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- 00:33:59.120 --> 00:34:01.100
- grow up serving God,
- grow up serving God,
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- or whether they go
- or whether they go
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- their own way, because,
- their own way, because,
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- 00:34:04.040 --> 00:34:05.230
- I mean, I grew up in the same
- I mean, I grew up in the same
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- bedroom as my brother.
- bedroom as my brother.
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- 00:34:07.020 --> 00:34:08.200
- And when we were 14, we
- And when we were 14, we
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- 00:34:08.200 --> 00:34:09.230
- made different choices in life.
- made different choices in life.
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- 00:34:09.230 --> 00:34:12.080
- And I don't think there's
- And I don't think there's
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- anything different at all about
- anything different at all about
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- 00:34:13.100 --> 00:34:15.020
- the way my parents parented
- the way my parents parented
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- either of us.
- either of us.
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- 00:34:17.010 --> 00:34:19.120
- So I never, ever judge anyone,
- So I never, ever judge anyone,
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- but I do know this.
- but I do know this.
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- 00:34:21.150 --> 00:34:23.160
- I do know that if we live our
- I do know that if we live our
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- 00:34:23.160 --> 00:34:25.070
- lives where just, even church
- lives where just, even church
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- life, for those that are heavily
- life, for those that are heavily
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- 00:34:28.240 --> 00:34:30.210
- involved in church, and some of
- involved in church, and some of
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- 00:34:30.210 --> 00:34:32.200
- the politicking that goes with
- the politicking that goes with
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- that, and some of the fights
- that, and some of the fights
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- 00:34:34.020 --> 00:34:35.050
- that can be happening
- that can be happening
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- 00:34:35.050 --> 00:34:36.170
- behind closed doors,
- behind closed doors,
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- 00:34:36.170 --> 00:34:37.190
- or some of the stuff,
- or some of the stuff,
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- 00:34:37.190 --> 00:34:38.120
- if you let that infiltrate
- if you let that infiltrate
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- your home, then those who
- your home, then those who
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- 00:34:39.260 --> 00:34:42.260
- love you more than you ever,
- love you more than you ever,
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- 00:34:42.260 --> 00:34:44.080
- you never wanna build
- you never wanna build
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- 00:34:44.080 --> 00:34:44.290
- a scenario, ever,
- a scenario, ever,
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- 00:34:44.290 --> 00:34:46.280
- where you talk about church time
- where you talk about church time
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- 00:34:46.280 --> 00:34:49.060
- and family time,
- and family time,
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- 00:34:49.060 --> 00:34:51.100
- and make the two almost enemies.
- and make the two almost enemies.
- 00:34:51.100 --> 00:34:53.250
- 00:34:51.100 --> 00:34:53.250
- Love God's house.
- Love God's house.
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- 00:34:53.250 --> 00:34:54.280
- Love the people in your world.
- Love the people in your world.
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- 00:34:54.280 --> 00:34:56.160
- Just keep loving them.
- Just keep loving them.
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- 00:34:56.160 --> 00:34:58.080
- But whatever you do, avoid
- But whatever you do, avoid
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- 00:34:58.080 --> 00:34:59.150
- allowing a root of bitterness by
- allowing a root of bitterness by
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- 00:34:59.150 --> 00:35:02.070
- not pursuing peace to come into
- not pursuing peace to come into
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- 00:35:02.070 --> 00:35:04.160
- your family and into your home.
- your family and into your home.
- 00:35:04.230 --> 00:35:07.230
- 00:35:04.230 --> 00:35:07.230
- Because children's eternity
- Because children's eternity
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- 00:35:07.230 --> 00:35:10.180
- can depend on it.
- can depend on it.
- 00:35:10.180 --> 00:35:12.100
- 00:35:10.180 --> 00:35:12.100
- I don't want to be overdramatic,
- I don't want to be overdramatic,
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- 00:35:12.100 --> 00:35:13.110
- but children's eternity can
- but children's eternity can
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- 00:35:13.110 --> 00:35:16.070
- depend on keeping bitterness out
- depend on keeping bitterness out
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- 00:35:16.070 --> 00:35:18.220
- of the fundamentals in your
- of the fundamentals in your
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- 00:35:18.220 --> 00:35:20.080
- marriage, in your relationship,
- marriage, in your relationship,
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- in your home.
- in your home.
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- 00:35:21.230 --> 00:35:22.220
- And your relationship
- And your relationship
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- 00:35:22.220 --> 00:35:23.200
- with pastors, and churches, and
- with pastors, and churches, and
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- 00:35:23.200 --> 00:35:25.100
- churches that you used to be
- churches that you used to be
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- 00:35:25.100 --> 00:35:26.190
- a part of, or anything else,
- a part of, or anything else,
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- 00:35:26.190 --> 00:35:28.200
- an offense or hurt, gets inside,
- an offense or hurt, gets inside,
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- 00:35:28.200 --> 00:35:31.010
- that root of bitterness,
- that root of bitterness,
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- 00:35:31.010 --> 00:35:32.110
- the Bible tells us
- the Bible tells us
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- 00:35:32.110 --> 00:35:33.080
- it's going to happen.
- it's going to happen.
- 00:35:33.080 --> 00:35:34.110
- 00:35:33.080 --> 00:35:34.110
- Like any root, it can take some
- Like any root, it can take some
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- 00:35:34.110 --> 00:35:35.110
- time, but when it springs up,
- time, but when it springs up,
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- 00:35:35.110 --> 00:35:36.190
- it will cause trouble
- it will cause trouble
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- 00:35:36.190 --> 00:35:37.250
- and it will trouble to marriages
- and it will trouble to marriages
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- 00:35:37.250 --> 00:35:39.070
- and trouble to home.
- and trouble to home.
- 00:35:39.070 --> 00:35:40.240
- 00:35:39.070 --> 00:35:40.240
- And many people, they,
- And many people, they,
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- 00:35:40.240 --> 00:35:42.010
- out of a root of bitterness,
- out of a root of bitterness,
- 00:35:42.010 --> 00:35:43.140
- 00:35:42.010 --> 00:35:43.140
- have made decisions they thought
- have made decisions they thought
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- 00:35:43.140 --> 00:35:44.250
- was gonna hurt a pastor,
- was gonna hurt a pastor,
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- 00:35:44.250 --> 00:35:46.080
- or hurt somebody who hurt them,
- or hurt somebody who hurt them,
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- 00:35:46.080 --> 00:35:47.270
- but it ends up hurting their own
- but it ends up hurting their own
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- 00:35:47.270 --> 00:35:49.260
- life, and their own family.
- life, and their own family.
- 00:35:49.260 --> 00:35:51.080
- 00:35:49.260 --> 00:35:51.080
- And ultimately, it ends up
- And ultimately, it ends up
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- 00:35:51.080 --> 00:35:52.100
- hurting their own children, and
- hurting their own children, and
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- 00:35:52.100 --> 00:35:54.020
- sometimes their own marriage,
- sometimes their own marriage,
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- 00:35:54.020 --> 00:35:56.080
- because that thing
- because that thing
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- 00:35:56.080 --> 00:35:57.180
- became a root which bore fruit.
- became a root which bore fruit.
- 00:35:58.010 --> 00:36:01.030
- 00:35:58.010 --> 00:36:01.030
- I'd love everyone to stand right
- I'd love everyone to stand right
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- 00:36:01.030 --> 00:36:02.130
- now for one moment.
- now for one moment.
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- I do pray for happiness
- I do pray for happiness
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- in your own soul.
- in your own soul.
- 00:36:05.090 --> 00:36:06.170
- 00:36:05.090 --> 00:36:06.170
- So, Lord, I just pray for every
- So, Lord, I just pray for every
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- one of these women.
- one of these women.
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- 00:36:08.030 --> 00:36:09.110
- I don't know anything about the
- I don't know anything about the
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- 00:36:09.110 --> 00:36:10.250
- huge majority of them's family,
- huge majority of them's family,
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- 00:36:10.250 --> 00:36:13.200
- relational world, their homes,
- relational world, their homes,
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- perhaps past divorce,
- perhaps past divorce,
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- and living now on their own.
- and living now on their own.
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- 00:36:17.180 --> 00:36:18.270
- Or perhaps, Lord,
- Or perhaps, Lord,
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- a marriage that's in huge
- a marriage that's in huge
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- trouble right now.
- trouble right now.
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- Perhaps they live with
- Perhaps they live with
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- a very happy, fulfilled man.
- a very happy, fulfilled man.
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- Lord, wherever they're
- Lord, wherever they're
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- at, I just pray
- at, I just pray
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- 00:36:27.100 --> 00:36:28.090
- that you'll give them grace.
- that you'll give them grace.
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- I pray that you'll give them
- I pray that you'll give them
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- strength.
- strength.
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- 00:36:30.270 --> 00:36:32.060
- I pray you'll give them little
- I pray you'll give them little
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- keys to unlock the happiness
- keys to unlock the happiness
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- 00:36:33.080 --> 00:36:34.240
- in the people around
- in the people around
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- 00:36:34.240 --> 00:36:36.270
- and about them.
- and about them.
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- Lord, I pray that each and every
- Lord, I pray that each and every
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- 00:36:38.180 --> 00:36:40.140
- one of us can live our lives
- one of us can live our lives
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- from the inside out, Lord,
- from the inside out, Lord,
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- rather than allowing
- rather than allowing
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- the outside, people's attitudes,
- the outside, people's attitudes,
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- 00:36:46.190 --> 00:36:47.250
- and people's thinking,
- and people's thinking,
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- 00:36:47.250 --> 00:36:49.060
- and people's meanness
- and people's meanness
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- to frame our inside.
- to frame our inside.
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- 00:36:50.040 --> 00:36:52.040
- Lord, I just ask right now
- Lord, I just ask right now
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- 00:36:52.040 --> 00:36:53.050
- for happiness to settle
- for happiness to settle
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- 00:36:53.050 --> 00:36:54.180
- into marriages.
- into marriages.
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- 00:36:54.180 --> 00:36:55.260
- I pray there will be miracles
- I pray there will be miracles
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- 00:36:55.260 --> 00:36:57.050
- and testimonies
- and testimonies
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- 00:36:57.050 --> 00:36:58.030
- in relationships.
- in relationships.
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- 00:36:58.030 --> 00:36:59.120
- I pray for the miracle inside
- I pray for the miracle inside
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- 00:36:59.120 --> 00:37:00.220
- the hearts and souls of men,
- the hearts and souls of men,
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- that you will bring them
- that you will bring them
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- to a point of great happiness,
- to a point of great happiness,
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- Father, where they truly can
- Father, where they truly can
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- worship you in spirit and truth,
- worship you in spirit and truth,
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- where they do know how to live
- where they do know how to live
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- their lives peaceably,
- their lives peaceably,
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- where they do become men of God
- where they do become men of God
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- and men of prayer.
- and men of prayer.
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- 00:37:13.070 --> 00:37:14.290
- Father, help us to support
- Father, help us to support
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- the men in our world, I pray.
- the men in our world, I pray.
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- 00:37:16.130 --> 00:37:18.200
- And as a fruit of that, I pray,
- And as a fruit of that, I pray,
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- Father, that every woman here,
- Father, that every woman here,
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- that they will see you
- that they will see you
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- fulfilling their own inner need,
- fulfilling their own inner need,
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- 00:37:23.090 --> 00:37:24.290
- and their own inner emptiness
- and their own inner emptiness
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- 00:37:24.290 --> 00:37:26.200
- and void.
- and void.
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- Lord, I thank you
- Lord, I thank you
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- 00:37:27.220 --> 00:37:28.180
- you're a Healer.
- you're a Healer.
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- 00:37:28.180 --> 00:37:29.150
- You're not a destroyer.
- You're not a destroyer.
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- Lord, I thank you that you
- Lord, I thank you that you
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- 00:37:31.000 --> 00:37:32.090
- save the world.
- save the world.
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- 00:37:32.090 --> 00:37:33.150
- You didn't come to condemn
- You didn't come to condemn
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- the world.
- the world.
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- If you wanted to condemn
- If you wanted to condemn
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- 00:37:35.140 --> 00:37:36.090
- the world, you would've sent
- the world, you would've sent
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- 00:37:36.090 --> 00:37:37.130
- a condemner.
- a condemner.
- 00:37:37.130 --> 00:37:38.110
- 00:37:37.130 --> 00:37:38.110
- But you didn't you wanted
- But you didn't you wanted
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- 00:37:38.110 --> 00:37:39.070
- to save the world so that, Lord,
- to save the world so that, Lord,
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- 00:37:39.070 --> 00:37:41.210
- you sent a Savior.
- you sent a Savior.
- 00:37:41.210 --> 00:37:42.260
- 00:37:41.210 --> 00:37:42.260
- But, Lord, I pray that only,
- But, Lord, I pray that only,
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- not only our souls,
- not only our souls,
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- 00:37:44.050 --> 00:37:45.100
- but our marriages,
- but our marriages,
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- 00:37:45.100 --> 00:37:46.110
- and our relationships,
- and our relationships,
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- 00:37:46.110 --> 00:37:47.120
- and our homes,
- and our homes,
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- 00:37:47.120 --> 00:37:48.140
- I pray for the power
- I pray for the power
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- 00:37:48.140 --> 00:37:49.170
- of the Savior, Lord,
- of the Savior, Lord,
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- to save disasters,
- to save disasters,
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- to save things that
- to save things that
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- will bring division and strife,
- will bring division and strife,
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- 00:37:54.080 --> 00:37:56.050
- and to bring the promise
- and to bring the promise
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- and the power of God.
- and the power of God.
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- 00:37:57.260 --> 00:37:59.070
- We give you the praise.
- We give you the praise.
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- We give you the glory.
- We give you the glory.
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- We thank you for it,
- We thank you for it,
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- 00:38:01.040 --> 00:38:02.070
- - Bobbie: I'm gonna invite,
- - Bobbie: I'm gonna invite,
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- Brian is gonna come back up
- Brian is gonna come back up
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- here with some of the brothers,
- here with some of the brothers,
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- some of the men and sons in the
- some of the men and sons in the
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- house, and he's gonna lead us
- house, and he's gonna lead us
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- in a conversation.
- in a conversation.
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- 00:38:16.060 --> 00:38:18.040
- - Brian: For me to be doing
- - Brian: For me to be doing
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- what I do because of the
- what I do because of the
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- 00:38:19.090 --> 00:38:21.030
- encouragement of Bobbie.
- encouragement of Bobbie.
- 00:38:21.030 --> 00:38:23.120
- 00:38:21.030 --> 00:38:23.120
- - Carl Lentz: Guys are tryin'.
- - Carl Lentz: Guys are tryin'.
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- 00:38:23.120 --> 00:38:24.090
- I think sometimes guys
- I think sometimes guys
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- 00:38:24.090 --> 00:38:25.130
- are the hardest on themselves.
- are the hardest on themselves.
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- 00:38:25.130 --> 00:38:26.290
- - Ben Houston: And we're good
- - Ben Houston: And we're good
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- at acting like we're,
- at acting like we're,
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- we are those superheroes.
- we are those superheroes.
- 00:38:29.110 --> 00:38:31.020
- 00:38:29.110 --> 00:38:31.020
- And then you married a man, and
- And then you married a man, and
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- 00:38:31.020 --> 00:38:32.060
- then we become that lazy slob.
- then we become that lazy slob.
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- 00:38:32.060 --> 00:38:34.080
- You can lose, kinda, belief.
- You can lose, kinda, belief.
- 00:38:39.210 --> 00:38:42.210
- 00:38:39.210 --> 00:38:42.210
- - Bobbie: Proverbs 31 says:
- - Bobbie: Proverbs 31 says:
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- 00:38:42.210 --> 00:38:44.040
- "A capable, intelligent,
- "A capable, intelligent,
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- 00:38:44.040 --> 00:38:45.130
- and virtuous woman,
- and virtuous woman,
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- 00:38:45.130 --> 00:38:47.000
- who is he who can find her?"
- who is he who can find her?"
- 00:38:47.260 --> 00:38:50.260
- 00:38:47.260 --> 00:38:50.260
- So you know what?
- So you know what?
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- 00:38:50.260 --> 00:38:52.000
- I honor this one here
- I honor this one here
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- 00:38:52.000 --> 00:38:54.010
- because he's one of those hes.
- because he's one of those hes.
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- 00:38:54.010 --> 00:38:56.100
- He has found me.
- He has found me.
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- 00:38:56.100 --> 00:38:58.280
- He has found, he has found us.
- He has found, he has found us.
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- 00:39:00.290 --> 00:39:03.290
- You know, he's the kind of man
- You know, he's the kind of man
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- 00:39:03.290 --> 00:39:05.030
- and leader, and apostolic,
- and leader, and apostolic,
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- 00:39:05.030 --> 00:39:07.080
- actually, voice, who has made
- actually, voice, who has made
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- a way.
- a way.
- 00:39:09.170 --> 00:39:10.150
- 00:39:09.170 --> 00:39:10.150
- I love that.
- I love that.
- 00:39:10.150 --> 00:39:11.090
- 00:39:10.150 --> 00:39:11.090
- "Who is he who can find her?"
- "Who is he who can find her?"
- 00:39:11.090 --> 00:39:12.240
- 00:39:11.090 --> 00:39:12.240
- But we can't happen on our own.
- But we can't happen on our own.
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- 00:39:12.240 --> 00:39:15.130
- We're in partnership together,
- We're in partnership together,
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- 00:39:15.130 --> 00:39:16.190
- right?
- right?
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- 00:39:16.190 --> 00:39:18.080
- I wanna flick the verse,
- I wanna flick the verse,
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- 00:39:18.080 --> 00:39:19.240
- and I wanna suggest today,
- and I wanna suggest today,
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- 00:39:19.240 --> 00:39:21.160
- "A capable, intelligent,
- "A capable, intelligent,
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- 00:39:21.160 --> 00:39:22.190
- and virtuous man,
- and virtuous man,
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- 00:39:22.190 --> 00:39:24.180
- who is she who can find him?"
- who is she who can find him?"
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- 00:39:24.190 --> 00:39:27.190
- All right?
- All right?
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- 00:39:27.190 --> 00:39:29.220
- And we all have men
- And we all have men
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- 00:39:29.220 --> 00:39:30.190
- in our lives, different ways,
- in our lives, different ways,
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- 00:39:30.200 --> 00:39:33.200
- and so I think it's inherent,
- and so I think it's inherent,
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- I think the Father would love
- I think the Father would love
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- us to be insightful,
- us to be insightful,
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- 00:39:36.060 --> 00:39:37.160
- and to approach it
- and to approach it
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- 00:39:37.160 --> 00:39:39.130
- with different eyes, amen?
- with different eyes, amen?
- 00:39:39.130 --> 00:39:41.040
- 00:39:39.130 --> 00:39:41.040
- Beautiful.
- Beautiful.
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- 00:39:41.040 --> 00:39:42.110
- - Brian: All right, well,
- - Brian: All right, well,
- 00:39:45.220 --> 00:39:46.190
- 00:39:45.220 --> 00:39:46.190
- so we do have a great, fine,
- so we do have a great, fine,
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- 00:39:46.190 --> 00:39:47.200
- bunch of men,
- bunch of men,
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- 00:39:47.200 --> 00:39:48.200
- all different age groups,
- all different age groups,
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- 00:39:48.200 --> 00:39:51.020
- all within some form
- all within some form
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- 00:39:51.020 --> 00:39:52.050
- of leadership here.
- of leadership here.
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- 00:39:52.050 --> 00:39:53.110
- In fact, all pastors, leading
- In fact, all pastors, leading
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- 00:39:53.110 --> 00:39:56.010
- and pastoring somewhere in life.
- and pastoring somewhere in life.
- 00:39:56.010 --> 00:39:59.000
- 00:39:56.010 --> 00:39:59.000
- I think if I was to be very
- I think if I was to be very
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- 00:39:59.000 --> 00:40:00.060
- quick, most know
- quick, most know
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- 00:40:00.060 --> 00:40:01.020
- Robert Fergusson.
- Robert Fergusson.
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- 00:40:01.020 --> 00:40:02.020
- He's the teaching pastor in
- He's the teaching pastor in
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- our church along with his wife,
- our church along with his wife,
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- 00:40:03.020 --> 00:40:05.150
- Amanda.
- Amanda.
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- 00:40:05.150 --> 00:40:07.190
- Teaching means not only is he
- Teaching means not only is he
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- 00:40:07.190 --> 00:40:08.240
- a brilliant teacher, but he also
- a brilliant teacher, but he also
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- 00:40:08.240 --> 00:40:10.140
- really helps the younger pastors
- really helps the younger pastors
- 00:40:10.140 --> 00:40:12.040
- 00:40:10.140 --> 00:40:12.040
- in our team and staff in terms
- in our team and staff in terms
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- 00:40:12.140 --> 00:40:15.140
- of their communication
- of their communication
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- 00:40:15.140 --> 00:40:16.220
- and their teaching,
- and their teaching,
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- 00:40:16.220 --> 00:40:17.180
- and gives them incredible keys
- and gives them incredible keys
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- 00:40:17.180 --> 00:40:19.280
- to being even better
- to being even better
- 00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:21.030
- 00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:21.030
- at what they do.
- at what they do.
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- 00:40:21.030 --> 00:40:22.070
- That's only a part of what
- That's only a part of what
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- 00:40:22.070 --> 00:40:23.110
- Robert does.
- Robert does.
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- He also just basically walks
- He also just basically walks
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- around the place being
- around the place being
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- 00:40:25.060 --> 00:40:26.070
- a good guy.
- a good guy.
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- 00:40:26.070 --> 00:40:28.160
- Very loved in our church.
- Very loved in our church.
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- 00:40:28.160 --> 00:40:31.000
- Very respected, highly honored,
- Very respected, highly honored,
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- 00:40:31.000 --> 00:40:32.200
- highly loved in our church.
- highly loved in our church.
- 00:40:35.250 --> 00:40:38.250
- 00:40:35.250 --> 00:40:38.250
- And then, of course,
- And then, of course,
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- 00:40:38.250 --> 00:40:39.160
- Joel A'Bell.
- Joel A'Bell.
- 00:40:39.160 --> 00:40:40.160
- 00:40:39.160 --> 00:40:40.160
- Joel is my right hand.
- Joel is my right hand.
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- 00:40:40.160 --> 00:40:42.100
- He is lead pastor
- He is lead pastor
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- 00:40:42.100 --> 00:40:43.130
- of Hillsong in Australia,
- of Hillsong in Australia,
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- and as such, carries so much.
- and as such, carries so much.
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- 00:40:45.050 --> 00:40:47.100
- He's the person I was talking
- He's the person I was talking
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- 00:40:47.100 --> 00:40:48.190
- about who really carries so much
- about who really carries so much
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- 00:40:48.190 --> 00:40:50.030
- of what I used to have to do.
- of what I used to have to do.
- 00:40:50.030 --> 00:40:52.000
- 00:40:50.030 --> 00:40:52.000
- And one day, not so long ago,
- And one day, not so long ago,
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- 00:40:52.000 --> 00:40:53.060
- I turned to Bobbie,
- I turned to Bobbie,
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- 00:40:53.060 --> 00:40:54.070
- driving to church
- driving to church
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- 00:40:54.070 --> 00:40:55.090
- on a Sunday night and said,
- on a Sunday night and said,
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- 00:40:55.090 --> 00:40:56.130
- "Look at all that Joel
- "Look at all that Joel
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- and Julia do, and all that
- and Julia do, and all that
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- 00:40:57.150 --> 00:40:58.170
- we're still doing."
- we're still doing."
- 00:40:58.170 --> 00:41:00.230
- 00:40:58.170 --> 00:41:00.230
- And the fact that even,
- And the fact that even,
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- 00:41:00.230 --> 00:41:01.200
- in those days, I used to lead
- in those days, I used to lead
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- 00:41:01.200 --> 00:41:02.220
- our denomination as well.
- our denomination as well.
- 00:41:02.220 --> 00:41:03.280
- 00:41:02.220 --> 00:41:03.280
- I said, "I just don't know how
- I said, "I just don't know how
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- 00:41:03.280 --> 00:41:05.230
- we were doing all that stuff."
- we were doing all that stuff."
- 00:41:05.230 --> 00:41:07.230
- 00:41:05.230 --> 00:41:07.230
- Well, I guess tonight, this
- Well, I guess tonight, this
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- afternoon, people found out,
- afternoon, people found out,
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- not very well.
- not very well.
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- 00:41:12.260 --> 00:41:15.260
- Gary Clarke, my best friend,
- Gary Clarke, my best friend,
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- 00:41:16.070 --> 00:41:19.070
- second best friend.
- second best friend.
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- 00:41:19.070 --> 00:41:20.080
- This is my best friend.
- This is my best friend.
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- 00:41:20.080 --> 00:41:21.050
- That's my second best friend.
- That's my second best friend.
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- 00:41:22.090 --> 00:41:25.090
- Has lived with me through
- Has lived with me through
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- 00:41:25.090 --> 00:41:26.140
- some of the emotional things
- some of the emotional things
- 00:41:26.140 --> 00:41:28.070
- 00:41:26.140 --> 00:41:28.070
- I talked about today.
- I talked about today.
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- 00:41:28.070 --> 00:41:29.140
- And also, is like a rock,
- And also, is like a rock,
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- 00:41:29.140 --> 00:41:30.160
- helping me.
- helping me.
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- 00:41:30.160 --> 00:41:31.270
- But he's an incredible
- But he's an incredible
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- 00:41:31.270 --> 00:41:32.170
- lead pastor.
- lead pastor.
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- 00:41:32.170 --> 00:41:33.230
- He and his wife, Cathy, are,
- He and his wife, Cathy, are,
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- 00:41:33.230 --> 00:41:35.280
- in our lives they're like gold.
- in our lives they're like gold.
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- 00:41:35.280 --> 00:41:38.010
- We're so grateful to them.
- We're so grateful to them.
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- 00:41:38.010 --> 00:41:39.010
- He's a wise man.
- He's a wise man.
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- 00:41:39.010 --> 00:41:40.250
- Ben Houston, Lead Pastor
- Ben Houston, Lead Pastor
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- Hillsong Los Angeles,
- Hillsong Los Angeles,
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- got his father's good looks,
- got his father's good looks,
- 00:41:50.270 --> 00:41:53.270
- 00:41:50.270 --> 00:41:53.270
- though he does look strangely
- though he does look strangely
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- 00:41:53.270 --> 00:41:54.280
- like his mum, I think,
- like his mum, I think,
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- 00:41:54.280 --> 00:41:56.190
- with that Polynesian skin.
- with that Polynesian skin.
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- 00:41:56.190 --> 00:41:58.180
- No, he's a great guy.
- No, he's a great guy.
- 00:41:58.180 --> 00:41:59.280
- 00:41:58.180 --> 00:41:59.280
- And he's a man of God.
- And he's a man of God.
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- 00:41:59.280 --> 00:42:00.290
- He's always had a soft heart.
- He's always had a soft heart.
- 00:42:00.290 --> 00:42:02.090
- 00:42:00.290 --> 00:42:02.090
- He's always been a people lover,
- He's always been a people lover,
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- 00:42:02.210 --> 00:42:05.210
- even as a high school boy.
- even as a high school boy.
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- 00:42:05.210 --> 00:42:06.210
- Even when he wasn't
- Even when he wasn't
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- 00:42:06.210 --> 00:42:07.160
- doin' so well himself with his
- doin' so well himself with his
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- 00:42:07.160 --> 00:42:08.290
- relationship with God he cared
- relationship with God he cared
- 00:42:08.290 --> 00:42:10.090
- 00:42:08.290 --> 00:42:10.090
- about the eternity of his
- about the eternity of his
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- 00:42:10.090 --> 00:42:11.280
- friends, always had a passion
- friends, always had a passion
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- 00:42:11.280 --> 00:42:14.060
- to see people saved.
- to see people saved.
- 00:42:14.060 --> 00:42:15.100
- 00:42:14.060 --> 00:42:15.100
- And now we're seein'
- And now we're seein'
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- the fruit of that in LA.
- the fruit of that in LA.
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- 00:42:16.060 --> 00:42:17.040
- Carl Lentz.
- Carl Lentz.
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- 00:42:20.050 --> 00:42:23.050
- My prayer life has increased
- My prayer life has increased
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- 00:42:23.050 --> 00:42:24.110
- greatly because of Carl.
- greatly because of Carl.
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- 00:42:24.220 --> 00:42:27.220
- What God's put on his life,
- What God's put on his life,
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- 00:42:27.220 --> 00:42:28.290
- the way God has graced him to,
- the way God has graced him to,
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- 00:42:29.020 --> 00:42:32.020
- basically, whether it is the
- basically, whether it is the
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- 00:42:32.020 --> 00:42:34.250
- famous or the faceless,
- famous or the faceless,
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- 00:42:34.250 --> 00:42:36.290
- to be able to connect
- to be able to connect
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- with people in a way where
- with people in a way where
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- they respond to him,
- they respond to him,
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- 00:42:39.130 --> 00:42:40.250
- it's not natural.
- it's not natural.
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- 00:42:40.250 --> 00:42:42.230
- It's supernatural.
- It's supernatural.
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- 00:42:42.230 --> 00:42:43.280
- God's put a grace on his life.
- God's put a grace on his life.
- 00:42:43.280 --> 00:42:45.090
- 00:42:43.280 --> 00:42:45.090
- And again, his heart
- And again, his heart
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- 00:42:45.090 --> 00:42:47.110
- and his passion for people
- and his passion for people
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- 00:42:47.110 --> 00:42:49.020
- is his greatest gift.
- is his greatest gift.
- 00:42:49.020 --> 00:42:51.030
- 00:42:49.020 --> 00:42:51.030
- He's a brilliant communicator at
- He's a brilliant communicator at
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- 00:42:51.030 --> 00:42:52.180
- every level, from individually
- every level, from individually
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- 00:42:52.180 --> 00:42:55.090
- to a big stage like this stage.
- to a big stage like this stage.
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- 00:42:55.090 --> 00:42:57.120
- And I'm actually super grateful
- And I'm actually super grateful
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- 00:42:57.120 --> 00:42:59.140
- we've got those guys
- we've got those guys
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- 00:42:59.140 --> 00:42:59.290
- in the world.
- in the world.
- 00:42:59.290 --> 00:43:00.200
- 00:42:59.290 --> 00:43:00.200
- Joel Houston, Joel is not only
- Joel Houston, Joel is not only
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- 00:43:04.140 --> 00:43:07.140
- our son, our eldest son,
- our son, our eldest son,
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- 00:43:09.000 --> 00:43:12.000
- he's a wise man.
- he's a wise man.
- 00:43:12.000 --> 00:43:14.000
- 00:43:12.000 --> 00:43:14.000
- And a lot of people maybe don't
- And a lot of people maybe don't
- 00:43:14.000 --> 00:43:15.050
- 00:43:14.000 --> 00:43:15.050
- get the opportunity to see the
- get the opportunity to see the
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- 00:43:15.050 --> 00:43:16.210
- wisdom that flows out of Joel.
- wisdom that flows out of Joel.
- 00:43:16.280 --> 00:43:19.280
- 00:43:16.280 --> 00:43:19.280
- And it's been great, like
- And it's been great, like
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- 00:43:19.280 --> 00:43:21.030
- everyone, to see him blossom and
- everyone, to see him blossom and
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- 00:43:21.030 --> 00:43:23.150
- emerge, and even in the last
- emerge, and even in the last
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- 00:43:23.150 --> 00:43:24.210
- 3 or 4 years to see
- 3 or 4 years to see
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- 00:43:24.210 --> 00:43:26.020
- what God's been doing
- what God's been doing
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- 00:43:26.020 --> 00:43:27.100
- in Joel's life.
- in Joel's life.
- 00:43:27.100 --> 00:43:28.080
- 00:43:27.100 --> 00:43:28.080
- But I'm immensely proud of Joel.
- But I'm immensely proud of Joel.
- 00:43:28.080 --> 00:43:30.030
- 00:43:28.080 --> 00:43:30.030
- Okay, we're gonna talk about
- Okay, we're gonna talk about
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- 00:43:30.030 --> 00:43:31.000
- men.
- men.
- 00:43:31.000 --> 00:43:31.280
- 00:43:31.000 --> 00:43:31.280
- So here goes the conversation.
- So here goes the conversation.
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- 00:43:31.280 --> 00:43:33.180
- Carl, let me start with you.
- Carl, let me start with you.
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- 00:43:33.180 --> 00:43:34.160
- I talked about Aussie men and
- I talked about Aussie men and
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- 00:43:34.160 --> 00:43:35.290
- mateship, Aussie mateship, which
- mateship, Aussie mateship, which
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- 00:43:35.290 --> 00:43:38.140
- I think's one of the strong
- I think's one of the strong
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- 00:43:38.140 --> 00:43:39.110
- things about our culture,
- things about our culture,
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- 00:43:39.110 --> 00:43:41.070
- but it does have a funny code
- but it does have a funny code
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- to it.
- to it.
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- 00:43:42.180 --> 00:43:43.100
- You love your mates.
- You love your mates.
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- That part would be true
- That part would be true
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- 00:43:44.050 --> 00:43:45.160
- probably, hopefully,
- probably, hopefully,
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- 00:43:45.160 --> 00:43:46.150
- internationally.
- internationally.
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- 00:43:46.150 --> 00:43:47.130
- You love your buddies.
- You love your buddies.
- 00:43:47.130 --> 00:43:48.110
- 00:43:47.130 --> 00:43:48.110
- "Mates" is such a better word
- "Mates" is such a better word
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- 00:43:48.110 --> 00:43:49.120
- than "buddies."
- than "buddies."
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- 00:43:49.120 --> 00:43:52.120
- And then you never
- And then you never
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- 00:43:52.120 --> 00:43:53.250
- rat on your mates.
- rat on your mates.
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- 00:43:53.250 --> 00:43:55.020
- You never squeal on your mate.
- You never squeal on your mate.
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- 00:43:55.020 --> 00:43:56.090
- You never tell on a mate.
- You never tell on a mate.
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- 00:43:56.090 --> 00:43:57.100
- Number three, you'll always
- Number three, you'll always
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- 00:43:57.100 --> 00:43:59.190
- stand up for your mate.
- stand up for your mate.
- 00:43:59.190 --> 00:44:01.150
- 00:43:59.190 --> 00:44:01.150
- You would go to war for him,
- You would go to war for him,
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- 00:44:01.220 --> 00:44:04.220
- even though that would cost you
- even though that would cost you
- 00:44:04.220 --> 00:44:06.040
- 00:44:04.220 --> 00:44:06.040
- your life.
- your life.
- 00:44:06.040 --> 00:44:07.000
- 00:44:06.040 --> 00:44:07.000
- And the weirdest one
- And the weirdest one
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- 00:44:07.000 --> 00:44:07.290
- is you never sleep
- is you never sleep
- 00:44:07.290 --> 00:44:08.250
- 00:44:07.290 --> 00:44:08.250
- with your best mate's wife.
- with your best mate's wife.
- 00:44:08.280 --> 00:44:11.280
- 00:44:08.280 --> 00:44:11.280
- - Carl: Tryin' to just figure
- - Carl: Tryin' to just figure
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- 00:44:14.280 --> 00:44:15.260
- out where you're goin'
- out where you're goin'
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- 00:44:15.260 --> 00:44:17.010
- with this.
- with this.
- 00:44:17.260 --> 00:44:20.260
- 00:44:17.260 --> 00:44:20.260
- I think what's awesome about
- I think what's awesome about
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- 00:44:20.260 --> 00:44:22.090
- Australia, there's a lot of
- Australia, there's a lot of
- 00:44:22.090 --> 00:44:24.100
- 00:44:22.090 --> 00:44:24.100
- things, Laura Lentz.
- things, Laura Lentz.
- 00:44:25.190 --> 00:44:28.190
- 00:44:25.190 --> 00:44:28.190
- I think Australian guys, they
- I think Australian guys, they
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- 00:44:29.060 --> 00:44:32.060
- really know how to have fun.
- really know how to have fun.
- 00:44:32.060 --> 00:44:34.270
- 00:44:32.060 --> 00:44:34.270
- They really know how to,
- They really know how to,
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- 00:44:34.270 --> 00:44:36.000
- you know, get the best
- you know, get the best
- 00:44:36.000 --> 00:44:36.270
- 00:44:36.000 --> 00:44:36.270
- out of life.
- out of life.
- 00:44:36.270 --> 00:44:37.230
- 00:44:36.270 --> 00:44:37.230
- And I think sometimes my culture
- And I think sometimes my culture
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- 00:44:37.230 --> 00:44:38.290
- is more closed.
- is more closed.
- 00:44:38.290 --> 00:44:41.010
- 00:44:38.290 --> 00:44:41.010
- So one of the cool things
- So one of the cool things
- 00:44:41.010 --> 00:44:42.010
- 00:44:41.010 --> 00:44:42.010
- I've enjoyed seein',
- I've enjoyed seein',
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- 00:44:42.010 --> 00:44:43.000
- you know, in I guess the way
- you know, in I guess the way
- 00:44:43.000 --> 00:44:44.110
- 00:44:43.000 --> 00:44:44.110
- that Australian guys
- that Australian guys
- 00:44:44.110 --> 00:44:45.200
- 00:44:44.110 --> 00:44:45.200
- have attacked life
- have attacked life
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- 00:44:45.200 --> 00:44:47.010
- and their relationship
- and their relationship
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- 00:44:47.010 --> 00:44:47.280
- with Jesus is that they are
- with Jesus is that they are
- 00:44:47.280 --> 00:44:49.100
- 00:44:47.280 --> 00:44:49.100
- open, and they're more fun.
- open, and they're more fun.
- 00:44:49.100 --> 00:44:50.100
- 00:44:49.100 --> 00:44:50.100
- I think us Americans can be
- I think us Americans can be
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- 00:44:50.100 --> 00:44:52.100
- a little bit serious sometimes.
- a little bit serious sometimes.
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- 00:44:52.250 --> 00:44:55.250
- Am I your mate?
- Am I your mate?
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- 00:44:55.250 --> 00:44:57.000
- - Brian: Of course you are.
- - Brian: Of course you are.
- 00:44:57.000 --> 00:44:58.010
- 00:44:57.000 --> 00:44:58.010
- - Carl: All right.
- - Carl: All right.
- 00:44:58.010 --> 00:44:59.110
- 00:44:58.010 --> 00:44:59.110
- - Brian: Of course you are.
- - Brian: Of course you are.
- 00:44:59.110 --> 00:45:00.120
- 00:44:59.110 --> 00:45:00.120
- But I'm your boss first.
- But I'm your boss first.
- 00:45:03.270 --> 00:45:06.270
- 00:45:03.270 --> 00:45:06.270
- He told me right before we came
- He told me right before we came
- 00:45:06.270 --> 00:45:08.060
- 00:45:06.270 --> 00:45:08.060
- up here that I was the second,
- up here that I was the second,
- 00:45:08.060 --> 00:45:09.110
- 00:45:08.060 --> 00:45:09.110
- what'd you say?
- what'd you say?
- 00:45:09.110 --> 00:45:10.160
- 00:45:09.110 --> 00:45:10.160
- Second--
- Second--
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- 00:45:10.160 --> 00:45:11.140
- - Carl: Second-best dad
- - Carl: Second-best dad
- 00:45:11.140 --> 00:45:12.150
- 00:45:11.140 --> 00:45:12.150
- I've ever known.
- I've ever known.
- 00:45:12.150 --> 00:45:13.080
- 00:45:12.150 --> 00:45:13.080
- - Brian: Second-best dad
- - Brian: Second-best dad
- 00:45:13.080 --> 00:45:14.150
- 00:45:13.080 --> 00:45:14.150
- he's ever known,
- he's ever known,
- 00:45:14.150 --> 00:45:15.130
- 00:45:14.150 --> 00:45:15.130
- which obviously if high honor
- which obviously if high honor
- 00:45:15.130 --> 00:45:16.270
- 00:45:15.130 --> 00:45:16.270
- because I know his dad.
- because I know his dad.
- 00:45:16.270 --> 00:45:18.010
- 00:45:16.270 --> 00:45:18.010
- And his dad is close to God.
- And his dad is close to God.
- 00:45:18.090 --> 00:45:21.090
- 00:45:18.090 --> 00:45:21.090
- So I said, "The only thing
- So I said, "The only thing
- 00:45:21.090 --> 00:45:22.150
- 00:45:21.090 --> 00:45:22.150
- your father's got over me
- your father's got over me
- 00:45:22.150 --> 00:45:24.230
- 00:45:22.150 --> 00:45:24.230
- is he's a really nice guy."
- is he's a really nice guy."
- 00:45:24.270 --> 00:45:27.270
- 00:45:24.270 --> 00:45:27.270
- - Carl: You're a pretty nice
- - Carl: You're a pretty nice
- 00:45:27.270 --> 00:45:28.240
- 00:45:27.270 --> 00:45:28.240
- guy.
- guy.
- 00:45:28.240 --> 00:45:29.220
- 00:45:28.240 --> 00:45:29.220
- - Brian: I wanna open it up
- - Brian: I wanna open it up
- 00:45:29.220 --> 00:45:30.180
- 00:45:29.220 --> 00:45:30.180
- seriously.
- seriously.
- 00:45:30.180 --> 00:45:31.140
- 00:45:30.180 --> 00:45:31.140
- So for all of you guys,
- So for all of you guys,
- 00:45:31.140 --> 00:45:32.150
- 00:45:31.140 --> 00:45:32.150
- and let's treat this like
- and let's treat this like
- 00:45:32.150 --> 00:45:33.120
- 00:45:32.150 --> 00:45:33.120
- an open discussion.
- an open discussion.
- 00:45:33.120 --> 00:45:34.110
- 00:45:33.120 --> 00:45:34.110
- So take the gap.
- So take the gap.
- 00:45:34.110 --> 00:45:37.010
- 00:45:34.110 --> 00:45:37.010
- Throw yourself
- Throw yourself
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- 00:45:37.010 --> 00:45:37.240
- into the conversation.
- into the conversation.
- 00:45:37.240 --> 00:45:38.210
- 00:45:37.240 --> 00:45:38.210
- If the person next to you
- If the person next to you
- 00:45:38.210 --> 00:45:39.190
- 00:45:38.210 --> 00:45:39.190
- is dominating,
- is dominating,
- 00:45:39.190 --> 00:45:40.150
- 00:45:39.190 --> 00:45:40.150
- talk over the top of them.
- talk over the top of them.
- 00:45:40.150 --> 00:45:41.130
- 00:45:40.150 --> 00:45:41.130
- And we can have
- And we can have
- 00:45:41.130 --> 00:45:43.200
- 00:45:41.130 --> 00:45:43.200
- a good conversation.
- a good conversation.
- 00:45:43.200 --> 00:45:44.170
- 00:45:43.200 --> 00:45:44.170
- But I wanna ask you
- But I wanna ask you
- 00:45:44.170 --> 00:45:45.130
- 00:45:44.170 --> 00:45:45.130
- What do you think,
- What do you think,
- 00:45:47.020 --> 00:45:49.040
- 00:45:47.020 --> 00:45:49.040
- all being people who have
- all being people who have
- 00:45:49.040 --> 00:45:50.080
- 00:45:49.040 --> 00:45:50.080
- dealt with people
- dealt with people
- 00:45:50.080 --> 00:45:51.240
- 00:45:50.080 --> 00:45:51.240
- for a long, long time,
- for a long, long time,
- 00:45:51.240 --> 00:45:52.230
- 00:45:51.240 --> 00:45:52.230
- what do you think
- what do you think
- 00:45:52.230 --> 00:45:53.170
- 00:45:52.230 --> 00:45:53.170
- is the greatest heart cry
- is the greatest heart cry
- 00:45:53.170 --> 00:45:55.220
- 00:45:53.170 --> 00:45:55.220
- inside of a man?
- inside of a man?
- 00:45:55.220 --> 00:45:58.150
- 00:45:55.220 --> 00:45:58.150
- It's two questions.
- It's two questions.
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- 00:45:58.150 --> 00:45:59.140
- One, what is the thing
- One, what is the thing
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- 00:45:59.140 --> 00:46:01.160
- that means the most to men?
- that means the most to men?
- 00:46:01.160 --> 00:46:03.060
- 00:46:01.160 --> 00:46:03.060
- And perhaps secondly,
- And perhaps secondly,
- 00:46:03.060 --> 00:46:04.080
- 00:46:03.060 --> 00:46:04.080
- what should it be?
- what should it be?
- 00:46:06.070 --> 00:46:09.070
- 00:46:06.070 --> 00:46:09.070
- It's a big question.
- It's a big question.
- 00:46:09.290 --> 00:46:12.290
- 00:46:09.290 --> 00:46:12.290
- - Gary Clarke: Robert.
- - Gary Clarke: Robert.
- 00:46:12.290 --> 00:46:14.050
- 00:46:12.290 --> 00:46:14.050
- - Joel A'Bell: C'mon, Robert.
- - Joel A'Bell: C'mon, Robert.
- 00:46:14.100 --> 00:46:17.100
- 00:46:14.100 --> 00:46:17.100
- - Robert Fergusson: That is
- - Robert Fergusson: That is
- 00:46:17.100 --> 00:46:18.130
- 00:46:17.100 --> 00:46:18.130
- a huge question right up.
- a huge question right up.
- 00:46:18.130 --> 00:46:20.210
- 00:46:18.130 --> 00:46:20.210
- I thought we were gonna be a
- I thought we were gonna be a
- 00:46:20.210 --> 00:46:22.060
- 00:46:20.210 --> 00:46:22.060
- little light, and then get into
- little light, and then get into
- 00:46:22.060 --> 00:46:23.210
- 00:46:22.060 --> 00:46:23.210
- the heady stuff as we went
- the heady stuff as we went
- 00:46:23.210 --> 00:46:25.030
- 00:46:23.210 --> 00:46:25.030
- along.
- along.
- 00:46:25.030 --> 00:46:26.130
- 00:46:25.030 --> 00:46:26.130
- I think the heart of humans,
- I think the heart of humans,
- 00:46:26.130 --> 00:46:28.100
- 00:46:26.130 --> 00:46:28.100
- not just men, is a desperate
- not just men, is a desperate
- 00:46:28.100 --> 00:46:30.210
- 00:46:28.100 --> 00:46:30.210
- need and desire for love.
- need and desire for love.
- 00:46:31.060 --> 00:46:34.060
- 00:46:31.060 --> 00:46:34.060
- And so I don't think that is any
- And so I don't think that is any
- 00:46:35.130 --> 00:46:38.130
- 00:46:35.130 --> 00:46:38.130
- different for men than it is
- different for men than it is
- 00:46:38.130 --> 00:46:39.230
- 00:46:38.130 --> 00:46:39.230
- for women.
- for women.
- 00:46:39.230 --> 00:46:41.020
- 00:46:39.230 --> 00:46:41.020
- We want to be loved,
- We want to be loved,
- 00:46:41.020 --> 00:46:43.140
- 00:46:41.020 --> 00:46:43.140
- and we need to be loved.
- and we need to be loved.
- 00:46:43.140 --> 00:46:45.180
- 00:46:43.140 --> 00:46:45.180
- And tragically,
- And tragically,
- 00:46:45.180 --> 00:46:46.290
- 00:46:45.180 --> 00:46:46.290
- we live in a fatherless society,
- we live in a fatherless society,
- 00:46:47.110 --> 00:46:50.110
- 00:46:47.110 --> 00:46:50.110
- so we often don't receive love
- so we often don't receive love
- 00:46:50.130 --> 00:46:53.130
- 00:46:50.130 --> 00:46:53.130
- from our own father.
- from our own father.
- 00:46:53.130 --> 00:46:54.240
- 00:46:53.130 --> 00:46:54.240
- We live in a godless society,
- We live in a godless society,
- 00:46:54.240 --> 00:46:56.130
- 00:46:54.240 --> 00:46:56.130
- so we don't understand
- so we don't understand
- 00:46:56.130 --> 00:46:57.250
- 00:46:56.130 --> 00:46:57.250
- how much he loves us.
- how much he loves us.
- 00:46:57.250 --> 00:46:59.240
- 00:46:57.250 --> 00:46:59.240
- And then, that burden of love
- And then, that burden of love
- 00:46:59.240 --> 00:47:01.250
- 00:46:59.240 --> 00:47:01.250
- is placed on us to bring
- is placed on us to bring
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- 00:47:01.250 --> 00:47:04.110
- to our family.
- to our family.
- 00:47:04.110 --> 00:47:06.030
- 00:47:04.110 --> 00:47:06.030
- Which, having been brought up in
- Which, having been brought up in
- 00:47:06.030 --> 00:47:08.090
- 00:47:06.030 --> 00:47:08.090
- a loveless way, is a nightmare
- a loveless way, is a nightmare
- 00:47:08.090 --> 00:47:10.150
- 00:47:08.090 --> 00:47:10.150
- because we're required to love
- because we're required to love
- 00:47:10.150 --> 00:47:11.230
- 00:47:10.150 --> 00:47:11.230
- our families.
- our families.
- 00:47:11.230 --> 00:47:12.260
- 00:47:11.230 --> 00:47:12.260
- And it's a huge vacuum
- And it's a huge vacuum
- 00:47:13.010 --> 00:47:16.010
- 00:47:13.010 --> 00:47:16.010
- in our society.
- in our society.
- 00:47:16.010 --> 00:47:17.090
- 00:47:16.010 --> 00:47:17.090
- If we could have a revelation
- If we could have a revelation
- 00:47:17.090 --> 00:47:18.100
- 00:47:17.090 --> 00:47:18.100
- of God's love, which we are
- of God's love, which we are
- 00:47:18.100 --> 00:47:19.230
- 00:47:18.100 --> 00:47:19.230
- enjoying and understanding here,
- enjoying and understanding here,
- 00:47:21.030 --> 00:47:24.030
- 00:47:21.030 --> 00:47:24.030
- that would make a world
- that would make a world
- 00:47:24.030 --> 00:47:25.210
- 00:47:24.030 --> 00:47:25.210
- of difference in our families.
- of difference in our families.
- 00:47:25.210 --> 00:47:27.260
- 00:47:25.210 --> 00:47:27.260
- - Brian: Well, I think
- - Brian: Well, I think
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- 00:47:27.260 --> 00:47:28.240
- your answer's profound.
- your answer's profound.
- 00:47:28.240 --> 00:47:30.010
- 00:47:28.240 --> 00:47:30.010
- And I was thinking,
- And I was thinking,
- 00:47:31.270 --> 00:47:34.270
- 00:47:31.270 --> 00:47:34.270
- I was actually thinking
- I was actually thinking
- 00:47:34.270 --> 00:47:35.220
- 00:47:34.270 --> 00:47:35.220
- after I got down from speaking,
- after I got down from speaking,
- 00:47:35.220 --> 00:47:37.190
- 00:47:35.220 --> 00:47:37.190
- 'cause sometimes you think,
- 'cause sometimes you think,
- 00:47:37.190 --> 00:47:38.140
- 00:47:37.190 --> 00:47:38.140
- "I wish I could put more tools
- "I wish I could put more tools
- 00:47:38.140 --> 00:47:39.190
- 00:47:38.140 --> 00:47:39.190
- in people's hands to help them
- in people's hands to help them
- 00:47:39.190 --> 00:47:41.030
- 00:47:39.190 --> 00:47:41.030
- to help their men."
- to help their men."
- 00:47:41.030 --> 00:47:42.140
- 00:47:41.030 --> 00:47:42.140
- But love never fails.
- But love never fails.
- 00:47:42.140 --> 00:47:44.050
- 00:47:42.140 --> 00:47:44.050
- And I think sometimes we can
- And I think sometimes we can
- 00:47:44.050 --> 00:47:46.030
- 00:47:44.050 --> 00:47:46.030
- feel so feeble, praying for
- feel so feeble, praying for
- 00:47:46.030 --> 00:47:48.050
- 00:47:46.030 --> 00:47:48.050
- someone and just loving someone.
- someone and just loving someone.
- 00:47:48.050 --> 00:47:50.060
- 00:47:48.050 --> 00:47:50.060
- But love never fails.
- But love never fails.
- 00:47:50.110 --> 00:47:53.110
- 00:47:50.110 --> 00:47:53.110
- Would you add anything, Gary,
- Would you add anything, Gary,
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- 00:47:53.110 --> 00:47:55.120
- when it comes to the heart,
- when it comes to the heart,
- 00:47:55.120 --> 00:47:56.100
- 00:47:55.120 --> 00:47:56.100
- the deep heart cry of men?
- the deep heart cry of men?
- 00:47:56.100 --> 00:47:57.290
- 00:47:56.100 --> 00:47:57.290
- - Gary: I think everyone wants
- - Gary: I think everyone wants
- 00:47:57.290 --> 00:47:58.280
- 00:47:57.290 --> 00:47:58.280
- that sense of unconditional
- that sense of unconditional
- 00:47:58.280 --> 00:48:00.080
- 00:47:58.280 --> 00:48:00.080
- acceptance.
- acceptance.
- 00:48:00.080 --> 00:48:02.020
- 00:48:00.080 --> 00:48:02.020
- And you touched on it when
- And you touched on it when
- 00:48:02.020 --> 00:48:03.120
- 00:48:02.020 --> 00:48:03.120
- you were speaking, just how much
- you were speaking, just how much
- 00:48:03.120 --> 00:48:05.190
- 00:48:03.120 --> 00:48:05.190
- pressure that guys, whether
- pressure that guys, whether
- 00:48:05.190 --> 00:48:08.060
- 00:48:05.190 --> 00:48:08.060
- they put onto themselves,
- they put onto themselves,
- 00:48:08.060 --> 00:48:09.260
- 00:48:08.060 --> 00:48:09.260
- society puts on men, whatever,
- society puts on men, whatever,
- 00:48:09.260 --> 00:48:11.100
- 00:48:09.260 --> 00:48:11.100
- and it's all based on a
- and it's all based on a
- 00:48:11.100 --> 00:48:13.130
- 00:48:11.100 --> 00:48:13.130
- performance acceptance.
- performance acceptance.
- 00:48:13.130 --> 00:48:16.070
- 00:48:13.130 --> 00:48:16.070
- And I think, at base level,
- And I think, at base level,
- 00:48:16.070 --> 00:48:17.290
- 00:48:16.070 --> 00:48:17.290
- everybody just wants to
- everybody just wants to
- 00:48:17.290 --> 00:48:19.020
- 00:48:17.290 --> 00:48:19.020
- be unconditionally loved.
- be unconditionally loved.
- 00:48:19.020 --> 00:48:20.210
- 00:48:19.020 --> 00:48:20.210
- - Brian: That's true.
- - Brian: That's true.
- 00:48:20.210 --> 00:48:22.100
- 00:48:20.210 --> 00:48:22.100
- - Joel Houston: The exact same
- - Joel Houston: The exact same
- 00:48:22.100 --> 00:48:23.070
- 00:48:22.100 --> 00:48:23.070
- thing, I think, is just,
- thing, I think, is just,
- 00:48:23.070 --> 00:48:24.080
- 00:48:23.070 --> 00:48:24.080
- I think about the word "value."
- I think about the word "value."
- 00:48:24.080 --> 00:48:25.110
- 00:48:24.080 --> 00:48:25.110
- I don't know.
- I don't know.
- 00:48:25.110 --> 00:48:27.080
- 00:48:25.110 --> 00:48:27.080
- And just understanding
- And just understanding
- 00:48:27.080 --> 00:48:28.170
- 00:48:27.080 --> 00:48:28.170
- what feeling valued, like,
- what feeling valued, like,
- 00:48:28.270 --> 00:48:31.270
- 00:48:28.270 --> 00:48:31.270
- I am just sayin' as a, like,
- I am just sayin' as a, like,
- 00:48:31.270 --> 00:48:33.020
- 00:48:31.270 --> 00:48:33.020
- I've never had too much--when
- I've never had too much--when
- 00:48:33.040 --> 00:48:36.040
- 00:48:33.040 --> 00:48:36.040
- I was a kid, I was super, super
- I was a kid, I was super, super
- 00:48:36.040 --> 00:48:37.150
- 00:48:36.040 --> 00:48:37.150
- insecure.
- insecure.
- 00:48:37.150 --> 00:48:38.170
- 00:48:37.150 --> 00:48:38.170
- Of course, there's been
- Of course, there's been
- 00:48:38.170 --> 00:48:39.100
- 00:48:38.170 --> 00:48:39.100
- insecurities my whole life.
- insecurities my whole life.
- 00:48:39.100 --> 00:48:40.120
- 00:48:39.100 --> 00:48:40.120
- But the one thing that I've
- But the one thing that I've
- 00:48:40.120 --> 00:48:41.200
- 00:48:40.120 --> 00:48:41.200
- learnt in the last few years of
- learnt in the last few years of
- 00:48:41.200 --> 00:48:43.010
- 00:48:41.200 --> 00:48:43.010
- just being married is I didn't
- just being married is I didn't
- 00:48:44.110 --> 00:48:47.110
- 00:48:44.110 --> 00:48:47.110
- realize how much I needed value
- realize how much I needed value
- 00:48:47.110 --> 00:48:48.260
- 00:48:47.110 --> 00:48:48.260
- from a partner, a wife,
- from a partner, a wife,
- 00:48:49.100 --> 00:48:52.100
- 00:48:49.100 --> 00:48:52.100
- you know?
- you know?
- 00:48:52.100 --> 00:48:53.180
- 00:48:52.100 --> 00:48:53.180
- And so I think that's something
- And so I think that's something
- 00:48:53.180 --> 00:48:54.150
- 00:48:53.180 --> 00:48:54.150
- that, it's love,
- that, it's love,
- 00:48:54.150 --> 00:48:55.230
- 00:48:54.150 --> 00:48:55.230
- it's acceptance,
- it's acceptance,
- 00:48:55.230 --> 00:48:57.020
- 00:48:55.230 --> 00:48:57.020
- it's all of those things.
- it's all of those things.
- 00:48:57.020 --> 00:48:58.000
- 00:48:57.020 --> 00:48:58.000
- But I think everybody searches
- But I think everybody searches
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- 00:48:58.000 --> 00:48:59.150
- for value, and then they need to
- for value, and then they need to
- 00:48:59.150 --> 00:49:01.020
- 00:48:59.150 --> 00:49:01.020
- - Carl: Encouragement never
- - Carl: Encouragement never
- 00:49:12.180 --> 00:49:13.120
- 00:49:12.180 --> 00:49:13.120
- goes out of style.
- goes out of style.
- 00:49:13.120 --> 00:49:14.140
- 00:49:13.120 --> 00:49:14.140
- You gotta go home and maybe
- You gotta go home and maybe
- 00:49:14.140 --> 00:49:15.160
- 00:49:14.140 --> 00:49:15.160
- find just something to find
- find just something to find
- 00:49:15.160 --> 00:49:18.080
- 00:49:15.160 --> 00:49:18.080
- in your husband or your man
- in your husband or your man
- 00:49:18.080 --> 00:49:19.190
- 00:49:18.080 --> 00:49:19.190
- that you wanna encourage.
- that you wanna encourage.
- 00:49:19.190 --> 00:49:20.240
- 00:49:19.190 --> 00:49:20.240
- Because nothing is like
- Because nothing is like
- 00:49:20.240 --> 00:49:21.250
- 00:49:20.240 --> 00:49:21.250
- the encouragement of the ones
- the encouragement of the ones
- 00:49:21.250 --> 00:49:22.290
- 00:49:21.250 --> 00:49:22.290
- you love the most.
- you love the most.
- 00:49:22.290 --> 00:49:24.070
- 00:49:22.290 --> 00:49:24.070
- I've never sat in a marriage
- I've never sat in a marriage
- 00:49:24.070 --> 00:49:25.060
- 00:49:24.070 --> 00:49:25.060
- counseling meeting and seen
- counseling meeting and seen
- 00:49:25.060 --> 00:49:26.240
- 00:49:25.060 --> 00:49:26.240
- couples yell, like,
- couples yell, like,
- 00:49:26.240 --> 00:49:27.250
- 00:49:26.240 --> 00:49:27.250
- "He's too encouraging,"
- "He's too encouraging,"
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- 00:49:27.250 --> 00:49:28.280
- you know?
- you know?
- 00:49:28.280 --> 00:49:29.230
- 00:49:28.280 --> 00:49:29.230
- "I can't stand him."
- "I can't stand him."
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- - Brian: No one knows more
- - Brian: No one knows more
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- 00:49:38.020 --> 00:49:39.020
- the potential that's in a guy,
- the potential that's in a guy,
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- 00:49:39.020 --> 00:49:40.260
- often, than the person
- often, than the person
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- 00:49:40.260 --> 00:49:41.280
- who lives life closest to them.
- who lives life closest to them.
- 00:49:41.280 --> 00:49:44.120
- 00:49:41.280 --> 00:49:44.120
- But again, can feel so helpless,
- But again, can feel so helpless,
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- helping that guy to see who
- helping that guy to see who
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- he could be and what he could
- he could be and what he could
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- be doing.
- be doing.
- 00:49:49.220 --> 00:49:51.010
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- Again, anyone who's got any
- Again, anyone who's got any
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- form of answer on that,
- form of answer on that,
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- it would be great to hear.
- it would be great to hear.
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- 00:49:53.110 --> 00:49:56.080
- - Gary: Observation, of course,
- - Gary: Observation, of course,
- 00:49:56.080 --> 00:49:59.070
- 00:49:56.080 --> 00:49:59.070
- I've got a friend who--when we
- I've got a friend who--when we
- 00:50:03.140 --> 00:50:06.140
- 00:50:03.140 --> 00:50:06.140
- talk about tough subjects,
- talk about tough subjects,
- 00:50:06.140 --> 00:50:07.190
- 00:50:06.140 --> 00:50:07.190
- it's always,
- it's always,
- 00:50:07.190 --> 00:50:08.190
- 00:50:07.190 --> 00:50:08.190
- "We have a friend who's--"
- "We have a friend who's--"
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- 00:50:08.190 --> 00:50:09.290
- - Brian: Exactly.
- - Brian: Exactly.
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- 00:50:09.290 --> 00:50:11.100
- - Gary: So, but I think, you
- - Gary: So, but I think, you
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- know, and this is observational,
- know, and this is observational,
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- 00:50:14.010 --> 00:50:15.200
- and I guess it's,
- and I guess it's,
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- 00:50:15.200 --> 00:50:16.200
- and I think I'm really blessed.
- and I think I'm really blessed.
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- I've got a wife who does
- I've got a wife who does
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- do this.
- do this.
- 00:50:21.130 --> 00:50:22.270
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- Is, you know, a lot of women
- Is, you know, a lot of women
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- 00:50:22.270 --> 00:50:25.160
- fall in love with
- fall in love with
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- 00:50:25.160 --> 00:50:28.090
- the hero inside the man.
- the hero inside the man.
- 00:50:29.060 --> 00:50:32.060
- 00:50:29.060 --> 00:50:32.060
- And that hero needs
- And that hero needs
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- a lot of encouragement.
- a lot of encouragement.
- 00:50:36.150 --> 00:50:38.230
- 00:50:36.150 --> 00:50:38.230
- And sometimes, when,
- And sometimes, when,
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- 00:50:38.230 --> 00:50:40.050
- I've just watched when things
- I've just watched when things
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- 00:50:40.120 --> 00:50:43.120
- just can go a little bit
- just can go a little bit
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- 00:50:43.120 --> 00:50:44.220
- pear shaped.
- pear shaped.
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- You see it, where they,
- You see it, where they,
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- a lot of girls,
- a lot of girls,
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- 00:50:47.080 --> 00:50:48.060
- they fall in love with this man
- they fall in love with this man
- 00:50:48.060 --> 00:50:49.170
- 00:50:48.060 --> 00:50:49.170
- that's gonna change the world,
- that's gonna change the world,
- 00:50:49.170 --> 00:50:51.230
- 00:50:49.170 --> 00:50:51.230
- until he goes out and tries
- until he goes out and tries
- 00:50:51.230 --> 00:50:52.220
- 00:50:51.230 --> 00:50:52.220
- to do it, and it's like,
- to do it, and it's like,
- 00:50:52.220 --> 00:50:54.080
- 00:50:52.220 --> 00:50:54.080
- "But he's my man now."
- "But he's my man now."
- 00:50:54.080 --> 00:50:56.210
- 00:50:54.080 --> 00:50:56.210
- And I would just think,
- And I would just think,
- 00:50:56.210 --> 00:50:57.180
- 00:50:56.210 --> 00:50:57.180
- I'd just say, just,
- I'd just say, just,
- 00:50:57.180 --> 00:50:58.130
- 00:50:57.180 --> 00:50:58.130
- "C'mon, just keep, that's who
- "C'mon, just keep, that's who
- 00:50:58.130 --> 00:51:00.040
- 00:50:58.130 --> 00:51:00.040
- you fell in love with.
- you fell in love with.
- 00:51:00.040 --> 00:51:01.130
- 00:51:00.040 --> 00:51:01.130
- That's what Mum instilled
- That's what Mum instilled
- 00:51:01.130 --> 00:51:02.140
- 00:51:01.130 --> 00:51:02.140
- in him."
- in him."
- 00:51:02.140 --> 00:51:03.220
- 00:51:02.140 --> 00:51:03.220
- And I just, it's keep drawing
- And I just, it's keep drawing
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- 00:51:03.220 --> 00:51:06.150
- on, and keep building on that.
- on, and keep building on that.
- 00:51:07.060 --> 00:51:10.060
- 00:51:07.060 --> 00:51:10.060
- - Bobbie: You know, as a woman,
- - Bobbie: You know, as a woman,
- 00:51:10.060 --> 00:51:13.010
- 00:51:10.060 --> 00:51:13.010
- I think we have to remember
- I think we have to remember
- 00:51:13.100 --> 00:51:16.100
- 00:51:13.100 --> 00:51:16.100
- right back in Genesis where God
- right back in Genesis where God
- 00:51:16.100 --> 00:51:18.060
- 00:51:16.100 --> 00:51:18.060
- created us together, and equal,
- created us together, and equal,
- 00:51:19.060 --> 00:51:22.060
- 00:51:19.060 --> 00:51:22.060
- and with the intent that we rule
- and with the intent that we rule
- 00:51:22.060 --> 00:51:23.290
- 00:51:22.060 --> 00:51:23.290
- and reign in life.
- and reign in life.
- 00:51:23.290 --> 00:51:25.160
- 00:51:23.290 --> 00:51:25.160
- And you know, he created us
- And you know, he created us
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- 00:51:25.160 --> 00:51:27.250
- as women as helper.
- as women as helper.
- 00:51:27.270 --> 00:51:30.270
- 00:51:27.270 --> 00:51:30.270
- And the definition of "helper"
- And the definition of "helper"
- 00:51:30.270 --> 00:51:32.030
- 00:51:30.270 --> 00:51:32.030
- is "one who comes alongside
- is "one who comes alongside
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- 00:51:32.030 --> 00:51:33.250
- who helps, who stands in the gap
- who helps, who stands in the gap
- 00:51:34.030 --> 00:51:37.030
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- when there's a gap,
- when there's a gap,
- 00:51:37.030 --> 00:51:38.280
- 00:51:37.030 --> 00:51:38.280
- and seeks to be a blessing."
- and seeks to be a blessing."
- 00:51:38.280 --> 00:51:40.030
- 00:51:38.280 --> 00:51:40.030
- It's not, he didn't create us
- It's not, he didn't create us
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- 00:51:40.030 --> 00:51:41.270
- to compete or to control.
- to compete or to control.
- 00:51:41.270 --> 00:51:43.100
- 00:51:41.270 --> 00:51:43.100
- And I think a lot of women
- And I think a lot of women
- 00:51:43.100 --> 00:51:44.120
- 00:51:43.100 --> 00:51:44.120
- actually do try to control.
- actually do try to control.
- 00:51:44.120 --> 00:51:46.210
- 00:51:44.120 --> 00:51:46.210
- So you can't control, I mean,
- So you can't control, I mean,
- 00:51:46.210 --> 00:51:49.020
- 00:51:46.210 --> 00:51:49.020
- there's deficits in all our
- there's deficits in all our
- 00:51:49.020 --> 00:51:50.070
- 00:51:49.020 --> 00:51:50.070
- lives, and weaknesses in all our
- lives, and weaknesses in all our
- 00:51:50.070 --> 00:51:51.090
- 00:51:50.070 --> 00:51:51.090
- live, but we've got to learn how
- live, but we've got to learn how
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- 00:51:51.090 --> 00:51:52.270
- to complement the strengths,
- to complement the strengths,
- 00:51:55.040 --> 00:51:58.040
- 00:51:55.040 --> 00:51:58.040
- and complement the weaknesses,
- and complement the weaknesses,
- 00:51:58.040 --> 00:52:00.270
- 00:51:58.040 --> 00:52:00.270
- and come at it with a spirit
- and come at it with a spirit
- 00:52:00.270 --> 00:52:01.230
- 00:52:00.270 --> 00:52:01.230
- of grace.
- of grace.
- 00:52:01.230 --> 00:52:02.240
- 00:52:01.230 --> 00:52:02.240
- And that's definitely a learned
- And that's definitely a learned
- 00:52:02.240 --> 00:52:04.100
- 00:52:02.240 --> 00:52:04.100
- art, and none of us get it right
- art, and none of us get it right
- 00:52:04.100 --> 00:52:06.130
- 00:52:04.100 --> 00:52:06.130
- at the beginning.
- at the beginning.
- 00:52:06.130 --> 00:52:07.090
- 00:52:06.130 --> 00:52:07.090
- But you know what?
- But you know what?
- 00:52:07.090 --> 00:52:08.090
- 00:52:07.090 --> 00:52:08.090
- When we marry someone,
- When we marry someone,
- 00:52:08.090 --> 00:52:09.280
- 00:52:08.090 --> 00:52:09.280
- and we're taking about marriage,
- and we're taking about marriage,
- 00:52:09.280 --> 00:52:11.040
- 00:52:09.280 --> 00:52:11.040
- it's for life.
- it's for life.
- 00:52:11.040 --> 00:52:11.280
- 00:52:11.040 --> 00:52:11.280
- So we've got our whole lives
- So we've got our whole lives
- 00:52:11.280 --> 00:52:12.250
- 00:52:11.280 --> 00:52:12.250
- to work this out, you know?
- to work this out, you know?
- 00:52:12.250 --> 00:52:14.180
- 00:52:12.250 --> 00:52:14.180
- So I just think a lot of girls
- So I just think a lot of girls
- 00:52:14.180 --> 00:52:16.060
- 00:52:14.180 --> 00:52:16.060
- do try and control the
- do try and control the
- 00:52:16.060 --> 00:52:19.030
- 00:52:16.060 --> 00:52:19.030
- situation, and it's gonna bite
- situation, and it's gonna bite
- 00:52:19.030 --> 00:52:20.290
- 00:52:19.030 --> 00:52:20.290
- you in the butt, girls.
- you in the butt, girls.
- 00:52:20.290 --> 00:52:22.150
- 00:52:20.290 --> 00:52:22.150
- - Ben: If I can,
- - Ben: If I can,
- 00:52:34.160 --> 00:52:36.050
- 00:52:34.160 --> 00:52:36.050
- I'd like to add--
- I'd like to add--
- 00:52:36.050 --> 00:52:37.050
- 00:52:36.050 --> 00:52:37.050
- - Gary: This is like marriage
- - Gary: This is like marriage
- 00:52:37.050 --> 00:52:37.270
- 00:52:37.050 --> 00:52:37.270
- counseling, isn't it?
- counseling, isn't it?
- 00:52:37.270 --> 00:52:38.260
- 00:52:37.270 --> 00:52:38.260
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
- 00:52:38.260 --> 00:52:39.210
- 00:52:38.260 --> 00:52:39.210
- - Ben: It's just weird 'cause
- - Ben: It's just weird 'cause
- 00:52:39.210 --> 00:52:40.180
- 00:52:39.210 --> 00:52:40.180
- it's my parents talking.
- it's my parents talking.
- 00:52:40.180 --> 00:52:42.020
- 00:52:40.180 --> 00:52:42.020
- - Gary: [laughing]
- - Gary: [laughing]
- 00:52:42.020 --> 00:52:43.010
- 00:52:42.020 --> 00:52:43.010
- - Bobbie: [laughing]
- - Bobbie: [laughing]
- 00:52:43.160 --> 00:52:46.160
- 00:52:43.160 --> 00:52:46.160
- - Ben: If I could add
- - Ben: If I could add
- 00:52:46.160 --> 00:52:47.090
- 00:52:46.160 --> 00:52:47.090
- two things to that.
- two things to that.
- 00:52:47.090 --> 00:52:49.160
- 00:52:47.090 --> 00:52:49.160
- You know, things that, like your
- You know, things that, like your
- 00:52:49.160 --> 00:52:50.230
- 00:52:49.160 --> 00:52:50.230
- question, unlock the potential
- question, unlock the potential
- 00:52:50.230 --> 00:52:52.040
- 00:52:50.230 --> 00:52:52.040
- in a man.
- in a man.
- 00:52:52.040 --> 00:52:53.240
- 00:52:52.040 --> 00:52:53.240
- I would say belief and trust,
- I would say belief and trust,
- 00:52:53.240 --> 00:52:55.150
- 00:52:53.240 --> 00:52:55.150
- belief and trust.
- belief and trust.
- 00:52:55.150 --> 00:52:57.100
- 00:52:55.150 --> 00:52:57.100
- And I think they're two things
- And I think they're two things
- 00:52:57.100 --> 00:52:58.050
- 00:52:57.100 --> 00:52:58.050
- that men can often break easily.
- that men can often break easily.
- 00:52:58.050 --> 00:52:59.150
- 00:52:58.050 --> 00:52:59.150
- We are good at breaking trust,
- We are good at breaking trust,
- 00:52:59.150 --> 00:53:02.150
- 00:52:59.150 --> 00:53:02.150
- and we're good at acting like
- and we're good at acting like
- 00:53:02.150 --> 00:53:04.190
- 00:53:02.150 --> 00:53:04.190
- we're, we are those superheroes.
- we're, we are those superheroes.
- 00:53:04.190 --> 00:53:07.020
- 00:53:04.190 --> 00:53:07.020
- And then you married a man, and
- And then you married a man, and
- 00:53:07.020 --> 00:53:08.090
- 00:53:07.020 --> 00:53:08.090
- then we become that lazy slob.
- then we become that lazy slob.
- 00:53:08.090 --> 00:53:10.230
- 00:53:08.090 --> 00:53:10.230
- You can lose, kinda, belief.
- You can lose, kinda, belief.
- 00:53:10.230 --> 00:53:13.000
- 00:53:10.230 --> 00:53:13.000
- But I think if we're to speak
- But I think if we're to speak
- 00:53:13.000 --> 00:53:14.260
- 00:53:13.000 --> 00:53:14.260
- to the incredible women that are
- to the incredible women that are
- 00:53:14.260 --> 00:53:17.030
- 00:53:14.260 --> 00:53:17.030
- here today, and talking about
- here today, and talking about
- 00:53:17.030 --> 00:53:18.190
- 00:53:17.030 --> 00:53:18.190
- unlocking that potential that's
- unlocking that potential that's
- 00:53:18.190 --> 00:53:20.100
- 00:53:18.190 --> 00:53:20.100
- in a man, it's to do those
- in a man, it's to do those
- 00:53:20.110 --> 00:53:23.110
- 00:53:20.110 --> 00:53:23.110
- two things, you know,
- two things, you know,
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- 00:53:23.110 --> 00:53:24.150
- believe in your man,
- believe in your man,
- 00:53:24.150 --> 00:53:25.160
- 00:53:24.150 --> 00:53:25.160
- and to learn to trust your man.
- and to learn to trust your man.
- 00:53:25.160 --> 00:53:27.000
- 00:53:25.160 --> 00:53:27.000
- I think they're two pretty
- I think they're two pretty
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- 00:53:27.000 --> 00:53:29.160
- powerful things.
- powerful things.
- 00:53:29.160 --> 00:53:31.080
- 00:53:29.160 --> 00:53:31.080
- - Carl: I would add, I think,
- - Carl: I would add, I think,
- 00:53:31.080 --> 00:53:34.020
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- encouragement.
- encouragement.
- 00:53:34.020 --> 00:53:35.210
- 00:53:34.020 --> 00:53:35.210
- Encouragement never goes
- Encouragement never goes
- 00:53:35.210 --> 00:53:36.190
- 00:53:35.210 --> 00:53:36.190
- out of style.
- out of style.
- 00:53:36.190 --> 00:53:37.180
- 00:53:36.190 --> 00:53:37.180
- And I think that when you
- And I think that when you
- 00:53:37.180 --> 00:53:38.120
- 00:53:37.180 --> 00:53:38.120
- first are married, you know,
- first are married, you know,
- 00:53:38.120 --> 00:53:39.200
- 00:53:38.120 --> 00:53:39.200
- you often see in church,
- you often see in church,
- 00:53:39.200 --> 00:53:40.270
- 00:53:39.200 --> 00:53:40.270
- it's super encouraging.
- it's super encouraging.
- 00:53:40.270 --> 00:53:42.020
- 00:53:40.270 --> 00:53:42.020
- And then I think there's a gap
- And then I think there's a gap
- 00:53:42.020 --> 00:53:43.230
- 00:53:42.020 --> 00:53:43.230
- between who you want your
- between who you want your
- 00:53:43.230 --> 00:53:44.250
- 00:53:43.230 --> 00:53:44.250
- husband to be and who he is.
- husband to be and who he is.
- 00:53:44.250 --> 00:53:46.260
- 00:53:44.250 --> 00:53:46.260
- And I think you leave a
- And I think you leave a
- 00:53:46.260 --> 00:53:47.240
- 00:53:46.260 --> 00:53:47.240
- conference like this
- conference like this
- 00:53:47.240 --> 00:53:48.190
- 00:53:47.240 --> 00:53:48.190
- and you gotta go home
- and you gotta go home
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- 00:53:48.190 --> 00:53:49.230
- and maybe find just something
- and maybe find just something
- 00:53:49.230 --> 00:53:51.010
- 00:53:49.230 --> 00:53:51.010
- to find in your husband
- to find in your husband
- 00:53:51.010 --> 00:53:53.230
- 00:53:51.010 --> 00:53:53.230
- or your man that you wanna
- or your man that you wanna
- 00:53:53.230 --> 00:53:54.230
- 00:53:53.230 --> 00:53:54.230
- encourage.
- encourage.
- 00:53:54.230 --> 00:53:55.220
- 00:53:54.230 --> 00:53:55.220
- Because nothing is like
- Because nothing is like
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- 00:53:55.220 --> 00:53:56.180
- the encouragement of the ones
- the encouragement of the ones
- 00:53:56.180 --> 00:53:57.110
- 00:53:56.180 --> 00:53:57.110
- you love the most.
- you love the most.
- 00:53:57.110 --> 00:53:58.270
- 00:53:57.110 --> 00:53:58.270
- I've never sat in a marriage
- I've never sat in a marriage
- 00:53:58.270 --> 00:54:00.030
- 00:53:58.270 --> 00:54:00.030
- counseling meeting
- counseling meeting
- 00:54:00.030 --> 00:54:00.260
- 00:54:00.030 --> 00:54:00.260
- and seen couples yell,
- and seen couples yell,
- 00:54:00.260 --> 00:54:01.280
- 00:54:00.260 --> 00:54:01.280
- like, "He's too encouraging,"
- like, "He's too encouraging,"
- 00:54:01.280 --> 00:54:03.130
- 00:54:01.280 --> 00:54:03.130
- you know?
- you know?
- 00:54:03.130 --> 00:54:04.080
- 00:54:03.130 --> 00:54:04.080
- "I can't stand him."
- "I can't stand him."
- 00:54:04.080 --> 00:54:05.100
- 00:54:04.080 --> 00:54:05.100
- And I think there's a,
- And I think there's a,
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- 00:54:05.100 --> 00:54:07.000
- if you can even start small,
- if you can even start small,
- 00:54:07.060 --> 00:54:10.060
- 00:54:07.060 --> 00:54:10.060
- just to find something.
- just to find something.
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- The encouragement of the one
- The encouragement of the one
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- 00:54:11.120 --> 00:54:12.150
- you love the most, 'cause guys
- you love the most, 'cause guys
- 00:54:12.150 --> 00:54:14.090
- 00:54:12.150 --> 00:54:14.090
- are tryin'.
- are tryin'.
- 00:54:14.090 --> 00:54:15.160
- 00:54:14.090 --> 00:54:15.160
- I think sometimes guys
- I think sometimes guys
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- 00:54:15.160 --> 00:54:16.190
- are the hardest on themselves.
- are the hardest on themselves.
- 00:54:16.190 --> 00:54:18.030
- 00:54:16.190 --> 00:54:18.030
- And the longer you're married,
- And the longer you're married,
- 00:54:18.030 --> 00:54:19.200
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- the more you start seein'
- the more you start seein'
- 00:54:19.200 --> 00:54:20.290
- 00:54:19.200 --> 00:54:20.290
- the cracks rather than celebrate
- the cracks rather than celebrate
- 00:54:20.290 --> 00:54:22.270
- 00:54:20.290 --> 00:54:22.270
- even the small wins.
- even the small wins.
- 00:54:22.270 --> 00:54:24.140
- 00:54:22.270 --> 00:54:24.140
- And I think if you,
- And I think if you,
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- 00:54:24.140 --> 00:54:25.100
- especially if your husband isn't
- especially if your husband isn't
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- 00:54:25.100 --> 00:54:26.120
- a Christian, or doesn't know
- a Christian, or doesn't know
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- 00:54:26.120 --> 00:54:27.200
- Jesus, just to find the little
- Jesus, just to find the little
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- bit of sun there might be,
- bit of sun there might be,
- 00:54:30.160 --> 00:54:32.000
- 00:54:30.160 --> 00:54:32.000
- little bit of rays of light goes
- little bit of rays of light goes
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- 00:54:32.000 --> 00:54:33.030
- a long way.
- a long way.
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- 00:54:33.030 --> 00:54:34.160
- - Brian: Cool.
- - Brian: Cool.
- 00:54:37.250 --> 00:54:40.250
- 00:54:37.250 --> 00:54:40.250
- - Robert: Can I just pick up
- - Robert: Can I just pick up
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- on something that Ben said?
- on something that Ben said?
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- 00:54:41.220 --> 00:54:43.190
- Obviously, men are desperate
- Obviously, men are desperate
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- 00:54:43.190 --> 00:54:45.130
- to be affirmed.
- to be affirmed.
- 00:54:45.130 --> 00:54:46.230
- 00:54:45.130 --> 00:54:46.230
- They're desperate
- They're desperate
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- 00:54:46.230 --> 00:54:48.020
- to be encouraged.
- to be encouraged.
- 00:54:48.020 --> 00:54:49.010
- 00:54:48.020 --> 00:54:49.010
- They're desperate
- They're desperate
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- 00:54:49.010 --> 00:54:50.010
- to be respected.
- to be respected.
- 00:54:50.010 --> 00:54:51.010
- 00:54:50.010 --> 00:54:51.010
- But "trust" is a really
- But "trust" is a really
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- 00:54:51.010 --> 00:54:52.110
- interesting word because
- interesting word because
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- 00:54:52.110 --> 00:54:54.100
- a lot of people will say,
- a lot of people will say,
- 00:54:54.100 --> 00:54:55.070
- 00:54:54.100 --> 00:54:55.070
- "Well, I can't trust my husband.
- "Well, I can't trust my husband.
- 00:54:55.070 --> 00:54:56.200
- 00:54:55.070 --> 00:54:56.200
- He's untrustworthy."
- He's untrustworthy."
- 00:54:56.200 --> 00:54:57.280
- 00:54:56.200 --> 00:54:57.280
- Or, "He's proved himself
- Or, "He's proved himself
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- 00:54:57.280 --> 00:54:59.070
- untrustworthy."
- untrustworthy."
- 00:54:59.070 --> 00:55:00.040
- 00:54:59.070 --> 00:55:00.040
- Or, "I can't honor my parents.
- Or, "I can't honor my parents.
- 00:55:00.040 --> 00:55:01.160
- 00:55:00.040 --> 00:55:01.160
- They've proved themselves
- They've proved themselves
- 00:55:01.160 --> 00:55:02.200
- 00:55:01.160 --> 00:55:02.200
- to be dishonorable."
- to be dishonorable."
- 00:55:02.200 --> 00:55:04.000
- 00:55:02.200 --> 00:55:04.000
- But if you look
- But if you look
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- 00:55:04.000 --> 00:55:06.040
- in 1 Corinthians,
- in 1 Corinthians,
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- 00:55:06.040 --> 00:55:07.030
- it says: "Love trusts."
- it says: "Love trusts."
- 00:55:07.030 --> 00:55:09.070
- 00:55:07.030 --> 00:55:09.070
- And if you look in the Greek,
- And if you look in the Greek,
- 00:55:09.070 --> 00:55:11.070
- 00:55:09.070 --> 00:55:11.070
- the word means "trust."
- the word means "trust."
- 00:55:11.070 --> 00:55:13.270
- 00:55:11.070 --> 00:55:13.270
- That's what it means.
- That's what it means.
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- 00:55:13.270 --> 00:55:16.200
- It's a choice.
- It's a choice.
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- 00:55:16.200 --> 00:55:18.140
- You choose to trust.
- You choose to trust.
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- 00:55:18.140 --> 00:55:19.130
- Now, I know we need to earn
- Now, I know we need to earn
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- 00:55:19.130 --> 00:55:20.140
- trust in aspects of our life.
- trust in aspects of our life.
- 00:55:20.140 --> 00:55:22.280
- 00:55:20.140 --> 00:55:22.280
- But there is an aspect that
- But there is an aspect that
- 00:55:22.280 --> 00:55:25.030
- 00:55:22.280 --> 00:55:25.030
- we just choose to do it because
- we just choose to do it because
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- 00:55:25.030 --> 00:55:27.130
- it's the right thing to do.
- it's the right thing to do.
- 00:55:27.130 --> 00:55:29.130
- 00:55:27.130 --> 00:55:29.130
- And I think of Peter who,
- And I think of Peter who,
- 00:55:29.130 --> 00:55:31.250
- 00:55:29.130 --> 00:55:31.250
- for me, was one of the most
- for me, was one of the most
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- 00:55:31.250 --> 00:55:32.280
- untrustworthy people on the face
- untrustworthy people on the face
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- of the planet.
- of the planet.
- 00:55:34.100 --> 00:55:35.250
- 00:55:34.100 --> 00:55:35.250
- And just after he failed Jesus
- And just after he failed Jesus
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- 00:55:35.250 --> 00:55:37.100
- dismally, Jesus trusted him
- dismally, Jesus trusted him
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- with the most precious thing
- with the most precious thing
- 00:55:41.060 --> 00:55:43.110
- 00:55:41.060 --> 00:55:43.110
- in his life, his lambs.
- in his life, his lambs.
- 00:55:43.110 --> 00:55:46.050
- 00:55:43.110 --> 00:55:46.050
- And I just, I would just
- And I just, I would just
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- 00:55:46.050 --> 00:55:47.180
- encourage people in this room.
- encourage people in this room.
- 00:55:47.180 --> 00:55:49.010
- 00:55:47.180 --> 00:55:49.010
- If you have a slightly
- If you have a slightly
- 00:55:49.010 --> 00:55:50.130
- 00:55:49.010 --> 00:55:50.130
- untrustworthy person in your
- untrustworthy person in your
- 00:55:50.290 --> 00:55:53.290
- 00:55:50.290 --> 00:55:53.290
- world, just be brave,
- world, just be brave,
- 00:55:53.290 --> 00:55:55.280
- 00:55:53.290 --> 00:55:55.280
- and just trust them a little.
- and just trust them a little.
- 00:55:55.280 --> 00:55:57.240
- 00:55:55.280 --> 00:55:57.240
- Because it will release them
- Because it will release them
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- 00:55:57.240 --> 00:55:59.160
- to be someone different.
- to be someone different.
- 00:56:05.240 --> 00:56:08.240
- 00:56:05.240 --> 00:56:08.240
- - Brian: Just takin' it back
- - Brian: Just takin' it back
- 00:56:08.240 --> 00:56:09.200
- 00:56:08.240 --> 00:56:09.200
- to encouragement for a second,
- to encouragement for a second,
- 00:56:09.200 --> 00:56:11.160
- 00:56:09.200 --> 00:56:11.160
- I need a lot of encouragement.
- I need a lot of encouragement.
- 00:56:11.160 --> 00:56:12.280
- 00:56:11.160 --> 00:56:12.280
- Everyone needs encouragement.
- Everyone needs encouragement.
- 00:56:12.280 --> 00:56:14.240
- 00:56:12.280 --> 00:56:14.240
- And you can assume no one,
- And you can assume no one,
- 00:56:14.240 --> 00:56:16.020
- 00:56:14.240 --> 00:56:16.020
- you can assume that some people
- you can assume that some people
- 00:56:16.020 --> 00:56:17.130
- 00:56:16.020 --> 00:56:17.130
- don't, you know,
- don't, you know,
- 00:56:17.130 --> 00:56:19.090
- 00:56:17.130 --> 00:56:19.090
- you can assume two things.
- you can assume two things.
- 00:56:19.090 --> 00:56:20.120
- 00:56:19.090 --> 00:56:20.120
- One, you can assume that some
- One, you can assume that some
- 00:56:20.120 --> 00:56:21.210
- 00:56:20.120 --> 00:56:21.210
- people, they wouldn't need
- people, they wouldn't need
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- 00:56:21.210 --> 00:56:22.270
- encouragement
- encouragement
- 00:56:22.270 --> 00:56:23.200
- 00:56:22.270 --> 00:56:23.200
- 'cause they're so confident.
- 'cause they're so confident.
- 00:56:23.200 --> 00:56:24.270
- 00:56:23.200 --> 00:56:24.270
- And second thing is,
- And second thing is,
- 00:56:24.270 --> 00:56:25.240
- 00:56:24.270 --> 00:56:25.240
- you can assume they get
- you can assume they get
- 00:56:25.240 --> 00:56:26.230
- 00:56:25.240 --> 00:56:26.230
- a lot of encouragement.
- a lot of encouragement.
- 00:56:26.230 --> 00:56:28.200
- 00:56:26.230 --> 00:56:28.200
- 'Cause sometimes they don't.
- 'Cause sometimes they don't.
- 00:56:28.200 --> 00:56:30.150
- 00:56:28.200 --> 00:56:30.150
- And so I'm big on encouragement.
- And so I'm big on encouragement.
- 00:56:30.150 --> 00:56:32.290
- 00:56:30.150 --> 00:56:32.290
- I can think of one friend that
- I can think of one friend that
- 00:56:32.290 --> 00:56:34.230
- 00:56:32.290 --> 00:56:34.230
- I've had over the years
- I've had over the years
- 00:56:34.230 --> 00:56:36.150
- 00:56:34.230 --> 00:56:36.150
- who's a pastor,
- who's a pastor,
- 00:56:36.150 --> 00:56:37.140
- 00:56:36.150 --> 00:56:37.140
- and gets up from preaching.
- and gets up from preaching.
- 00:56:37.140 --> 00:56:38.190
- 00:56:37.140 --> 00:56:38.190
- And when he gets down,
- And when he gets down,
- 00:56:38.190 --> 00:56:39.190
- 00:56:38.190 --> 00:56:39.190
- his wife assassinates him
- his wife assassinates him
- 00:56:39.190 --> 00:56:40.200
- 00:56:39.190 --> 00:56:40.200
- over what he said.
- over what he said.
- 00:56:40.200 --> 00:56:43.000
- 00:56:40.200 --> 00:56:43.000
- Like, literally,
- Like, literally,
- 00:56:43.000 --> 00:56:44.000
- 00:56:43.000 --> 00:56:44.000
- it's her job to--
- it's her job to--
- 00:56:44.000 --> 00:56:45.220
- 00:56:44.000 --> 00:56:45.220
- - Gary: And he's still
- - Gary: And he's still
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- 00:56:45.220 --> 00:56:46.190
- a pastor?
- a pastor?
- 00:56:46.190 --> 00:56:47.130
- 00:56:46.190 --> 00:56:47.130
- - Brian: Yeah, he is.
- - Brian: Yeah, he is.
- 00:56:47.130 --> 00:56:48.090
- 00:56:47.130 --> 00:56:48.090
- And he's in your country.
- And he's in your country.
- 00:56:48.090 --> 00:56:49.160
- 00:56:48.090 --> 00:56:49.160
- So [laughing]
- So [laughing]
- 00:56:50.140 --> 00:56:53.140
- 00:56:50.140 --> 00:56:53.140
- So, literally, his wife,
- So, literally, his wife,
- 00:56:53.140 --> 00:56:55.270
- 00:56:53.140 --> 00:56:55.270
- in front of people,
- in front of people,
- 00:56:55.270 --> 00:56:57.160
- 00:56:55.270 --> 00:56:57.160
- will tell him exactly what
- will tell him exactly what
- 00:56:57.160 --> 00:56:58.130
- 00:56:57.160 --> 00:56:58.130
- he did wrong, and what
- he did wrong, and what
- 00:56:58.130 --> 00:56:59.170
- 00:56:58.130 --> 00:56:59.170
- he should've done better.
- he should've done better.
- 00:56:59.170 --> 00:57:00.210
- 00:56:59.170 --> 00:57:00.210
- And of course, we have known
- And of course, we have known
- 00:57:00.210 --> 00:57:02.030
- 00:57:00.210 --> 00:57:02.030
- others who, literally, the wife
- others who, literally, the wife
- 00:57:02.030 --> 00:57:03.020
- 00:57:02.030 --> 00:57:03.020
- sits on the front row,
- sits on the front row,
- 00:57:03.020 --> 00:57:04.260
- 00:57:03.020 --> 00:57:04.260
- and tells him what he's doing
- and tells him what he's doing
- 00:57:04.260 --> 00:57:05.280
- 00:57:04.260 --> 00:57:05.280
- wrong from the front row,
- wrong from the front row,
- 00:57:05.280 --> 00:57:07.050
- 00:57:05.280 --> 00:57:07.050
- shouts it out to him while
- shouts it out to him while
- 00:57:07.050 --> 00:57:08.160
- 00:57:07.050 --> 00:57:08.160
- he's preaching.
- he's preaching.
- 00:57:08.160 --> 00:57:09.270
- 00:57:08.160 --> 00:57:09.270
- Well, I couldn't even tell you
- Well, I couldn't even tell you
- 00:57:09.270 --> 00:57:10.270
- 00:57:09.270 --> 00:57:10.270
- how, for me to be doing what I
- how, for me to be doing what I
- 00:57:10.270 --> 00:57:13.130
- 00:57:10.270 --> 00:57:13.130
- do, because of the encouragement
- do, because of the encouragement
- 00:57:13.130 --> 00:57:15.230
- 00:57:13.130 --> 00:57:15.230
- of Bobbie, and the constant
- of Bobbie, and the constant
- 00:57:15.230 --> 00:57:17.240
- 00:57:15.230 --> 00:57:17.240
- encouragement.
- encouragement.
- 00:57:17.240 --> 00:57:18.190
- 00:57:17.240 --> 00:57:18.190
- I know that when I get down,
- I know that when I get down,
- 00:57:18.190 --> 00:57:20.120
- 00:57:18.190 --> 00:57:20.120
- if she can't encourage me about
- if she can't encourage me about
- 00:57:20.120 --> 00:57:21.270
- 00:57:20.120 --> 00:57:21.270
- all of these things, she'll find
- all of these things, she'll find
- 00:57:21.270 --> 00:57:22.270
- 00:57:21.270 --> 00:57:22.270
- somethin' she can encourage
- somethin' she can encourage
- 00:57:22.270 --> 00:57:24.040
- 00:57:22.270 --> 00:57:24.040
- me with.
- me with.
- 00:57:24.040 --> 00:57:25.060
- 00:57:24.040 --> 00:57:25.060
- And so encouragement
- And so encouragement
- 00:57:25.060 --> 00:57:27.030
- 00:57:25.060 --> 00:57:27.030
- is a massive thing.
- is a massive thing.
- 00:57:27.030 --> 00:57:28.250
- 00:57:27.030 --> 00:57:28.250
- And never assume that, no,
- And never assume that, no,
- 00:57:28.250 --> 00:57:30.040
- 00:57:28.250 --> 00:57:30.040
- that anyone in your family
- that anyone in your family
- 00:57:30.040 --> 00:57:31.230
- 00:57:30.040 --> 00:57:31.230
- doesn't need encouragement,
- doesn't need encouragement,
- 00:57:31.230 --> 00:57:33.290
- 00:57:31.230 --> 00:57:33.290
- - Joel Houston: I've seen
- - Joel Houston: I've seen
- 00:57:39.050 --> 00:57:40.030
- 00:57:39.050 --> 00:57:40.030
- so many friends do it over
- so many friends do it over
- 00:57:40.030 --> 00:57:41.060
- 00:57:40.030 --> 00:57:41.060
- the years, men and women,
- the years, men and women,
- 00:57:41.060 --> 00:57:43.030
- 00:57:41.060 --> 00:57:43.030
- step off their rock
- step off their rock
- 00:57:43.030 --> 00:57:44.260
- 00:57:43.030 --> 00:57:44.260
- and end up sinking in the sand
- and end up sinking in the sand
- 00:57:44.260 --> 00:57:47.040
- 00:57:44.260 --> 00:57:47.040
- with their partner,
- with their partner,
- 00:57:47.040 --> 00:57:48.050
- 00:57:47.040 --> 00:57:48.050
- or in their relationship.
- or in their relationship.
- 00:57:48.050 --> 00:57:49.170
- 00:57:48.050 --> 00:57:49.170
- And if you know what your rock
- And if you know what your rock
- 00:57:49.170 --> 00:57:50.220
- 00:57:49.170 --> 00:57:50.220
- is, and you trust it, and you
- is, and you trust it, and you
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- 00:57:50.220 --> 00:57:52.040
- understand that it's a firm
- understand that it's a firm
- 00:57:52.040 --> 00:57:53.070
- 00:57:52.040 --> 00:57:53.070
- foundation, sooner or later, and
- foundation, sooner or later, and
- 00:57:53.070 --> 00:57:54.260
- 00:57:53.070 --> 00:57:54.260
- it might take many, many years,
- it might take many, many years,
- 00:57:54.260 --> 00:57:56.190
- 00:57:54.260 --> 00:57:56.190
- that person is gonna be sinking
- that person is gonna be sinking
- 00:57:56.190 --> 00:57:57.260
- 00:57:56.190 --> 00:57:57.260
- in sand, and then they'll see
- in sand, and then they'll see
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- 00:57:57.260 --> 00:57:59.080
- that you're solid,
- that you're solid,
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- 00:57:59.080 --> 00:58:00.100
- and they're gonna figure it out
- and they're gonna figure it out
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- 00:58:00.100 --> 00:58:01.120
- sooner or later.
- sooner or later.
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- 00:58:04.290 --> 00:58:07.290
- - Brian: What about the girl
- - Brian: What about the girl
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