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 Overcoming Distractions | Better Together

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June 7, 2019
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 Overcoming Distractions | Better Together

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  • - Today, we are identifying the distractions in our lives
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  • and kicking them to the curb.
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  • Come on, join our conversation and get ready to overcome.
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  • (uplifting music)
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  • - [Christine] A few weeks ago, I was recording
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  • here at TBN for my show on Equip & Empower,
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  • and as I'm on camera, I'm recording,
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  • what I didn't know was someone had hacked my phone
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  • and my accounts and everything
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  • and sent out social media posts
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  • that were not authorized by me.
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  • So you can imagine,
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  • while I'm recording, talking about the love of God
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  • and the grace of God (laughs)
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  • so I've got to record 19 shows in two days
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  • and I come out at the halfway mark,
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  • and I've got my team here and everyone's like,
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  • "Christine, this has happened."
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  • Let me just say, if something is gonna distract you,
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  • while you're trying to film 19 shows.
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  • It was this happening,
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  • and you know, people posing as you
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  • and posting things that are not you,
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  • and you have to take it down
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  • and make an apology.
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  • It just seems over the last
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  • maybe year of my life,
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  • there have been things like that
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  • where you're just totally blind-sided.
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  • Because as we all know,
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  • I'm like Miss I'm focused.
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  • Christine, you're running and you're late.
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  • In fact, the older I get, the more focused I become.
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  • And as post-50 it seems like my blinkers are on
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  • like a race horse.
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  • I'm running for the prize
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  • because I'm thinking more about finishing
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  • at this point than,
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  • because I've got less time ahead of me
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  • than I've got behind me.
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  • And so it really brought to my attention again.
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  • I remember one night, sitting with Nick,
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  • after a couple of big things happened.
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  • And I said,
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  • "it's like the enemy really wants to distract me."
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  • I'm so focused.
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  • And if you can't distract me,
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  • because my kids are easily distracted,
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  • I'm like, "go up and do your homework."
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  • And then I go in
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  • and it is amazing one is on FaceTime
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  • 'cause she's miss social butterfly talking to everyone.
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  • The other one's playing these games with.
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  • And I'm like, "this awesome, when is your homework
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  • gonna get done?"
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  • Apparently that's not the priority.
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  • Of which I'm the opposite.
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  • I'm like we've got everything done
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  • then we might play a game.
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  • It's almost like if he can't distract you that way,
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  • in my case, it will be like whether it's a hack,
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  • or something else will happen that will blow up
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  • that I've got no control over.
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  • I remember saying to Nick, "it's like people want me to
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  • come down, either respond to something,
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  • answer this thing, answer this call,
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  • answer this accusation,"
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  • be whatever it is.
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  • But Nehemiah said to Sanballat, to Tobiah,
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  • he said now why should I come down off the wall?
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  • Just because you want to have a little chit-chat with me
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  • or just because
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  • you want to accuse me of things.
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  • So in the early parts of the book of Nehemiah,
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  • they were accusing him of his motives
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  • and 'your motives are wrong' and 'you just want to do this.'
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  • And he says, "I'm not coming down off the wall."
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  • Then later on in Nehemiah, they're trying to woo him.
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  • "Come down and have dinner with us."
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  • "Come down and go out with us."
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  • And whichever way the enemy will try to do it,
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  • is if there's an assignment to build a wall.
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  • He's gonna try to get you off.
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  • Either by knocking you off.
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  • By accusation.
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  • By criticism.
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  • Or even by wooing.
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  • And I'm thinking, many of my friends,
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  • it's not that they're gonna be distracted
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  • by some great big sin.
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  • Come and commit adultery.
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  • Come and do.
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  • It's actually going to be distracted by a good thing
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  • more than a God thing for this season.
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  • - [Lisa] Right, right that's good.
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  • - You know, I think that
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  • there's no one on the planet
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  • that is not susceptible to being distracted.
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  • Now, I'm in the middle of grad school,
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  • I'm writing a new book,
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  • I'm a mom, I'm a wife,
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  • and I lead A21 and Propel.
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  • And so I've lot going on.
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  • And I had a couple of friends
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  • that called me the other night.
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  • They're like, "Chris, let's go out and watch a movie."
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  • Now, the fact that is, I love these people.
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  • I knew that we would go out, we would have dinner,
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  • we would watch a movie.
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  • It would be absolutely awesome.
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  • I could even justify it, "I need a break, I worked so hard,
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  • I don't get to see my friends that much.
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  • But here's the deal.
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  • There were some priorities
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  • that I had to get done.
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  • There was a paper that I had to finish for school.
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  • Whether I wanted to or not.
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  • Now, I could have said "yes" to my friend.
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  • But that would have meant
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  • that I would've been out way late,
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  • then I would've stayed up even later finishing the paper,
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  • which then would've kicked in to the next day
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  • that would've affected the mood I was in when I got up,
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  • how I operated the next day.
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  • So to avoid all the cumulative effect,
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  • of one distraction,
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  • that could've been good,
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  • could've even been justified,
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  • it would've been a heck of a lot of fun.
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  • But by saying "no" to that one distraction.
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  • beause really, it wasn't the main priority for that night,
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  • really I believe that I salvaged my whole week.
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  • Sometimes it can be a small thing like that
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  • and now I'm saying,
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  • there are other times where maybe it's okay to do that.
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  • But I have such little margin in my life
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  • over the next three weeks
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  • and I'm so aware of that.
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  • That one small tweak would have a cumulative affect
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  • over the next week, for sure.
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  • I think we have to be careful
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  • not to underestimate the power of a distraction,
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  • to not only to take something away from that moment,
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  • but actually to have a cumulative effect
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  • over the next week or so.
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  • - It's the little foxes that destroy the vine.
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  • - I think without shed of a doubt.
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  • - [Lisa] Yeah.
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  • It's interesting, 'cause to me,
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  • it really is a seasonal thing.
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  • Because your kids are older,
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  • I feel like because Missy's nine and I'm a single parent,
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  • my life is a distraction.
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  • - That's how I feel, same way.
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  • - Every single day it's
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  • when I'm writing, when I'm studying, it is,
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  • "mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy,"
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  • and of course, I prayed for so many decades
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  • that I would actually hear that word describe to me.
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  • To get to have this gift from the Lord,
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  • I will choose to leave my study of the parables
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  • in the synoptic gospels. - Yeah.
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  • To go fix her macaroni and cheese
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  • because for this season of my life,
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  • Jesus is first and Missy is second.
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  • She is primary to me.
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  • So for me, it's even understanding what distractions are
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  • are actually just part of the seasonal part of life.
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  • You know, Buechner says, "life itself is grace."
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  • And so I'm trying to learn,
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  • what do I put on the back burner?
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  • And go, "I'll come back for you later.
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  • I'm not completely given up on you,
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  • you are actually a calling.
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  • You are just not today's calling.
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  • - And it's not that Missy's a distraction in this case,
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  • it's that that's the priority.
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  • And you're a bit social, so I know we'll get on the phone,
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  • and I'm like, "Lisa, you cannot invite this.
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  • You have gotta let go of this, for you,
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  • those other things that once were priorities."
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  • - You're my focus coach.
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  • - I am.
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  • I'm your focus coach.
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  • (laughs)
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  • Those things have now become distractions.
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  • And so to continue
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  • to keep something as a main priority that was.
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  • There's nothing wrong with it.
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  • In that season, it absolutely was a priority,
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  • but now that Missy has come,
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  • that thing is not a priority anymore.
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  • Some of those people may not understand that.
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  • But the fact is for you,
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  • I think we could get really messed up
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  • when we make distractions priorities
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  • and priorities distraction
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  • because we don't discern the seasons, really.
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  • - There are times I just...
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  • I'm so grateful
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  • that God wove Chris Caine into my life,
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  • but sometimes I want to punch her in the throat.
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  • Because she tells the truth.
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  • I mean, she just straight tells the truth.
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  • I called her not too long ago.
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  • I was on this crazy trip, just driving all over the place,
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  • and flying all over the place
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  • going from one event to the next.
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  • And she literally yelled at me over FaceTime.
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  • And she said, "God did not tell you to do this."
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  • I was like, "I know but I really like these people."
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  • (chuckles) I'm just so motivated, often times by guilt,
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  • and God never ever asks us to do something out of guilt.
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  • It's always my signature at the bottom of contracts
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  • of over commitment.
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  • And that's what Chris reminds me of.
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  • Usually in a very straight-forward way.
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  • "Lisa, if God didn't tell you to do this,
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  • then you're not helping anybody by over-committing.
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  • You're damaging your own heart
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  • and you're gonna negatively affect Missy.
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  • And actually you weren't the right person
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  • to go teach at this event.
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  • It's kind of like, I used to go to work when I was younger,
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  • really, I'm embarrassed to say it,
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  • up until about 10 years ago.
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  • I would go to work sick.
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  • And I thought I was being a hero.
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  • 'Cause I'm like, "I feel terrible, I've got a fever,
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  • but I'm gonna buck up and go to work!"
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  • Now it wasn't until a coworker said,
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  • "why do you come to work with a flu?
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  • I don't want you to give me the flu!
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  • That is so disrespectful!"
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  • And I was like, "Huh!"
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  • I thought I was being a hero.
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  • When in reality, I was just making it all about me.
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  • Motivated by guilt, wanting to be a martyr.
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  • And so that's really what I'm learning,
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  • in the process of learning,
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  • is if I'm doing this to make other people happy,
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  • instead of doing it because God says,
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  • "this is what I called you to."
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  • That's not ministry.
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  • That actually is idolatry.
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  • - Well, talk about good and God.
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  • Chris you mentioned "it's a good thing and a God thing."
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  • - I think the more we go on with God,
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  • the more good things we have to keep letting go of
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  • in order to embrace the God thing.
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  • You know, to my knowledge, at this moment in my life,
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  • there's not a gaping anti-Christ thing in my life
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  • that I have to let go of (chuckles)
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  • Pretty much everything is good.
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  • And really good.
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  • Things that I would never have dreamt
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  • that I would have the opportunity to do so.
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  • Everything I have to let go of to do the next God thing
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  • is a really good thing.
  • 00:10:03.040 --> 00:10:04.190
  • And often, I have to let go of really big good things
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  • to do a smaller God thing for this next season
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  • that's gonna take me to the next big thing.
  • 00:10:10.240 --> 00:10:12.270
  • So that's really learning to discern the voice of God.
  • 00:10:12.270 --> 00:10:16.200
  • - So what do we when we just wake up
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  • and the first thing that we do is just grab our phones?
  • 00:10:19.040 --> 00:10:21.030
  • - That is called stupidity.
  • 00:10:21.030 --> 00:10:22.150
  • - Distraction to your day,
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  • or your time with the Lord,
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  • or your time with your husband,
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  • and you know that you should be doing something else,
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  • but just those little distractions in your life.
  • 00:10:32.120 --> 00:10:35.150
  • - It comes down to what you're saying about the priorities.
  • 00:10:35.150 --> 00:10:37.160
  • Because the distractions vary on a scale.
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  • From phone to your kids,
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  • and sometimes you're having trouble sorting through.
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  • What do I do at this moment,
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  • where, I don't know about you guys,
  • 00:10:44.290 --> 00:10:46.030
  • but especially in parenting,
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  • my mom did it all just like you are doing.
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  • You don't get a break.
  • 00:10:50.030 --> 00:10:51.050
  • So you wanna treasure these moments,
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  • when my son comes up and wants me to read a book,
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  • you wanna treasure those moments.
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  • And I can't treasure every single moment.
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  • 'Cause we've got to do some things
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  • and go some places and live our lives.
  • 00:10:59.160 --> 00:11:02.030
  • You're always kind of in this back and forth balance.
  • 00:11:02.030 --> 00:11:05.060
  • But I feel like, one of the things I've noticed with my time
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  • is the phone, specifically, is like a black hole.
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  • Where you pick it up to do one thing
  • 00:11:11.290 --> 00:11:13.080
  • and 30 minutes goes by.
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  • And what's amazing is
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  • if we talk about time in our culture.
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  • We all have the same amount of time.
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  • We all have 24-hours in a day.
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  • It's amazing how I think a lot of women
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  • feel like we don't have any time.
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  • "I don't have any time."
  • 00:11:24.180 --> 00:11:25.260
  • "I don't have any time for myself."
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  • "I don't have any time to workout."
  • 00:11:27.040 --> 00:11:28.110
  • "I don't have any time for my values,
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  • or hobbies, or marriage."
  • 00:11:29.090 --> 00:11:30.230
  • "I don't have time to go on a date with my husband."
  • 00:11:30.230 --> 00:11:31.250
  • And those type of things.
  • 00:11:31.250 --> 00:11:33.050
  • But research shows the average American
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  • spends 3-5 hours a day watching T.V.
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  • And checks their phone 150 times a day.
  • 00:11:37.080 --> 00:11:39.140
  • - It's unbelievable. So this is what I said
  • 00:11:39.140 --> 00:11:40.130
  • in Propel,
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  • "we don't have a time problem, we have a priority problem."
  • 00:11:41.280 --> 00:11:43.080
  • So if you know what your priorities are,
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  • I think all of us would agree Facebook is not a priority.
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  • Social media is not a priority.
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  • Then you can see those things that are most important.
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  • The mac and cheese with your daughter.
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  • To spend some times with my boys.
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  • I don't know what's going,
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  • I don't know who got the rose.
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  • I don't know what's going on those most that type of thing,
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  • And I don't hate T.V.
  • 00:12:01.220 --> 00:12:02.280
  • My husband and I have all our shows.
  • 00:12:02.280 --> 00:12:04.000
  • But when you have limited time,
  • 00:12:04.000 --> 00:12:05.270
  • then it helps you think about what is a distraction
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  • and what is my focus.
  • 00:12:08.020 --> 00:12:09.090
  • It goes back to what you said earlier,
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  • what is the number one goal?
  • 00:12:10.140 --> 00:12:11.220
  • What's the number one focus?
  • 00:12:11.220 --> 00:12:13.040
  • - Distraction is pervasive.
  • 00:12:14.020 --> 00:12:17.030
  • It is everywhere all the time.
  • 00:12:17.030 --> 00:12:19.070
  • And you will be as distracted as you allow yourself to be
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  • because distractions are non-stop.
  • 00:12:23.280 --> 00:12:27.060
  • We can and will be distracted
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  • by the things we're interested in.
  • 00:12:29.000 --> 00:12:31.020
  • And even by the things we're not interested in.
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  • We can be distracted by the things
  • 00:12:33.210 --> 00:12:35.230
  • that fight for our attention.
  • 00:12:38.270 --> 00:12:40.270
  • Or we can be distracted by the things that just happen to be
  • 00:12:40.270 --> 00:12:44.210
  • in our way on a particular day.
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  • Hollywood is distracting us
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  • with movies and T.V. and entertainment.
  • 00:12:51.110 --> 00:12:54.000
  • The internet is distracting us
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  • by everything we wanna know under the sun.
  • 00:12:55.110 --> 00:12:57.130
  • The tap of a few keys in a Google search bar.
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  • Fifth Avenue is distracting us with products.
  • 00:13:02.000 --> 00:13:04.250
  • "This new nail color polish!"
  • 00:13:04.250 --> 00:13:06.080
  • "This new hair style."
  • 00:13:06.080 --> 00:13:07.180
  • I mean, we're distracted by good things.
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  • I'm distracted when my kids have 5 millions request from me
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  • between a 30-minute time span.
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  • And I love my kids!
  • 00:13:17.170 --> 00:13:19.020
  • I'm distracted all the time by all the things.
  • 00:13:19.020 --> 00:13:22.000
  • So distraction is a problem because it's everywhere.
  • 00:13:23.120 --> 00:13:26.090
  • And if you don't have a battle plan for being focused,
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  • you will live distracted.
  • 00:13:29.280 --> 00:13:31.070
  • And the sad thing is,
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  • it doesn't matter what you're distracted by.
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  • Good or bad.
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  • What matters is that when you succumb to distraction
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  • you're losing time.
  • 00:13:40.220 --> 00:13:42.200
  • - Social media, if you look at it,
  • 00:13:42.200 --> 00:13:44.110
  • in a good light gives us access to help millions of people.
  • 00:13:44.110 --> 00:13:47.280
  • So it's this unbelievable opportunity to reach people
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  • with God's Word, to be a voice of truth in life
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  • and in that space.
  • 00:13:52.210 --> 00:13:54.260
  • But it also can be a distraction.
  • 00:13:54.260 --> 00:13:56.210
  • It can be something, we talked about this earlier,
  • 00:13:56.210 --> 00:13:58.220
  • it's kind of like a black hole.
  • 00:13:58.220 --> 00:13:59.270
  • "Oh I just have to check my text messages."
  • 00:13:59.270 --> 00:14:02.040
  • And then you're on Instagram and then 30-minutes has passed.
  • 00:14:02.040 --> 00:14:03.280
  • Then you're like, "what happened to me?
  • 00:14:03.280 --> 00:14:04.260
  • I'm scrolling cat memes!"
  • 00:14:04.260 --> 00:14:06.070
  • (laughs)
  • 00:14:06.070 --> 00:14:08.140
  • - So I think it's about the nature of the medium.
  • 00:14:08.140 --> 00:14:10.010
  • It can distract us and it becomes a slippery slope.
  • 00:14:10.010 --> 00:14:13.090
  • You can watch Better Together episodes on demand.
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  • Go to bettertogether.tv to stream
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  • all of our latest conversations.
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  • - [Christine] There was a time
  • 00:14:24.130 --> 00:14:25.240
  • you would know, you put it in your calendar,
  • 00:14:25.240 --> 00:14:28.110
  • it's when we've got either a family reunion
  • 00:14:28.110 --> 00:14:30.150
  • or we've got a school reunion
  • 00:14:30.150 --> 00:14:32.010
  • or we've got our friends are gonna get together here.
  • 00:14:32.010 --> 00:14:34.280
  • But I think if we don't control it,
  • 00:14:34.280 --> 00:14:38.130
  • just because there is Facebook or Instagram or Twitter
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  • I wasn't gonna have a friend reunion everyday.
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  • Ever, before.
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  • Let alone 150 chicks about a day.
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  • That wasn't happening.
  • 00:14:47.000 --> 00:14:48.180
  • And so people would say,
  • 00:14:48.180 --> 00:14:50.040
  • "well, how did you get into grad school into your life?"
  • 00:14:50.040 --> 00:14:52.060
  • well because I'm not living on social media everyday
  • 00:14:52.060 --> 00:14:56.100
  • because I didn't before.
  • 00:14:56.100 --> 00:14:58.060
  • As in, even before that medium existed.
  • 00:14:58.060 --> 00:15:00.260
  • I think just because some things become available to us,
  • 00:15:00.260 --> 00:15:03.160
  • the minute you stop using something as a tool
  • 00:15:03.160 --> 00:15:06.150
  • to help enhance your primary priority,
  • 00:15:06.150 --> 00:15:09.050
  • and then you become a slave to it.
  • 00:15:09.050 --> 00:15:11.150
  • Idols will always rub you if put aside destiny.
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  • And I think we have to be careful.
  • 00:15:14.110 --> 00:15:15.270
  • Often distractions can be another word for an "idol"
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  • in a different way.
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  • Something that is taking you out from your primary purpose.
  • 00:15:23.000 --> 00:15:24.230
  • I'm not talking about sitting on a rock
  • 00:15:24.230 --> 00:15:26.000
  • thinking about Jesus everyday.
  • 00:15:26.000 --> 00:15:27.150
  • But I'm saying, we actually do have all the time to do
  • 00:15:27.150 --> 00:15:31.020
  • what God's called us to do.
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  • If we are willing to say, "this thing is a distraction."
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  • "And I'm gonna labor to enter into a place of rest."
  • 00:15:39.060 --> 00:15:40.220
  • "And from that place of rest,
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  • I could do everything God's called me to do,
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  • which means I've gotta get rid of distractions
  • 00:15:44.010 --> 00:15:45.220
  • that are exhausting me, spiritually speaking.
  • 00:15:45.220 --> 00:15:48.090
  • - There's always things saying,
  • 00:15:48.090 --> 00:15:49.160
  • "look at me, look at me, look at me."
  • 00:15:49.160 --> 00:15:51.020
  • So if that's always there
  • 00:15:51.020 --> 00:15:52.080
  • and we have a major case of F.O.M.O.
  • 00:15:52.080 --> 00:15:53.270
  • which we do, Fear Of Missing Out,
  • 00:15:53.270 --> 00:15:56.040
  • then we always fill pulled in all this other directions,
  • 00:15:56.040 --> 00:16:00.110
  • and we're missing our everyday life.
  • 00:16:00.110 --> 00:16:02.260
  • And I'll tell you, I speak on life balance a lot of times,
  • 00:16:02.260 --> 00:16:05.250
  • and I think people get
  • 00:16:05.250 --> 00:16:07.010
  • a really mixed up idea of life balance.
  • 00:16:07.010 --> 00:16:09.100
  • "Oh, it's 50% of the time at work and 50% time at home."
  • 00:16:09.100 --> 00:16:12.200
  • And I don't think that's it at all.
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  • I think it's about being 100% present wherever you are.
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  • Realizing that if I'm here with you,
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  • I'm here with you.
  • 00:16:19.190 --> 00:16:20.240
  • And there's no where I'd rather be.
  • 00:16:20.240 --> 00:16:22.170
  • I'm not thinking about Facebook.
  • 00:16:22.170 --> 00:16:24.040
  • I'm not thinking about a T.V. show.
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  • And I'm not even thinking about my kids.
  • 00:16:25.210 --> 00:16:27.200
  • Because you know what, I know they're taken care of.
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  • I'm here with you.
  • 00:16:30.060 --> 00:16:31.040
  • Fully present in this moment.
  • 00:16:31.040 --> 00:16:33.170
  • What a gift it is to be able to give people,
  • 00:16:33.170 --> 00:16:35.210
  • that you get to hang out with,
  • 00:16:35.210 --> 00:16:37.010
  • your attention.
  • 00:16:37.010 --> 00:16:38.070
  • Where you don't look at your phone.
  • 00:16:38.070 --> 00:16:39.210
  • And you're not thinking about what else is going on,
  • 00:16:39.210 --> 00:16:41.070
  • who else is walking in the room.
  • 00:16:41.070 --> 00:16:43.250
  • But when I'm home, you know what I'm gonna do?
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  • I'm gonna be with my kids.
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  • And I'm not gonna be thinking about you.
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  • I love you, but I'm not gonna be thinking about you.
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  • I'm gonna be present with my kids.
  • 00:16:51.150 --> 00:16:53.040
  • So wherever you are, be there.
  • 00:16:53.040 --> 00:16:55.100
  • - I was just gonna say, that good verses got it.
  • 00:16:55.100 --> 00:16:58.180
  • We've all heard the illustration of the jar
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  • and the big rocks.
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  • If you put the big rocks in,
  • 00:17:01.130 --> 00:17:03.080
  • it's not that there aren't room for little rocks,
  • 00:17:03.080 --> 00:17:04.290
  • it's just not as much room as for the little rocks.
  • 00:17:04.290 --> 00:17:08.020
  • As if you start with the little rocks.
  • 00:17:08.020 --> 00:17:09.270
  • So when we talk about priorities,
  • 00:17:09.270 --> 00:17:11.140
  • what are the things, that are God things,
  • 00:17:11.140 --> 00:17:13.230
  • that are the most important things for you to do?
  • 00:17:13.230 --> 00:17:15.190
  • And then it's very clear to see,
  • 00:17:15.190 --> 00:17:17.190
  • even with all the good things,
  • 00:17:17.190 --> 00:17:19.100
  • what there's actually room for.
  • 00:17:19.100 --> 00:17:21.020
  • And there's just not as much room
  • 00:17:21.020 --> 00:17:22.260
  • for all the little good things that we have.
  • 00:17:22.260 --> 00:17:25.020
  • And we're talking about specifics with just the big rocks.
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  • I know that I need to have
  • 00:17:29.270 --> 00:17:32.050
  • so much time everyday to get work done.
  • 00:17:32.050 --> 00:17:33.270
  • And my kids are at home.
  • 00:17:33.270 --> 00:17:35.070
  • We're still home schooling.
  • 00:17:35.070 --> 00:17:36.260
  • We have the time with them that I have to put in.
  • 00:17:36.260 --> 00:17:41.120
  • But I have given those things 'big rock' spots.
  • 00:17:41.120 --> 00:17:45.260
  • And even with my children,
  • 00:17:45.260 --> 00:17:47.080
  • as much as I don't wanna disappoint,
  • 00:17:47.080 --> 00:17:48.210
  • as much as I wanna be available,
  • 00:17:48.210 --> 00:17:50.040
  • as much as I wanna be a "good mom" what ever that is,
  • 00:17:50.040 --> 00:17:54.000
  • that means sometimes I tell them,
  • 00:17:54.000 --> 00:17:55.160
  • "I would love to do that, can't do that right now."
  • 00:17:55.160 --> 00:17:57.180
  • Because in order for me to honor the God-given priorities
  • 00:17:57.180 --> 00:18:00.030
  • in my life, and there are long lists of those,
  • 00:18:00.030 --> 00:18:02.060
  • that means I don't have room for every little thing
  • 00:18:02.060 --> 00:18:04.130
  • that you want me to see
  • 00:18:04.130 --> 00:18:06.050
  • or that you want me to be a part of or do,
  • 00:18:06.050 --> 00:18:07.030
  • doesn't mean I'm not here
  • 00:18:07.030 --> 00:18:08.080
  • It doesn't mean you're not a priority,
  • 00:18:08.080 --> 00:18:09.160
  • it just means there's so many little good things,
  • 00:18:09.160 --> 00:18:12.090
  • that could steal away from the God big things.
  • 00:18:12.090 --> 00:18:15.010
  • And they all have to fit in the time that's given me.
  • 00:18:15.010 --> 00:18:18.230
  • And we have to trust that He's given us enough time.
  • 00:18:18.230 --> 00:18:22.020
  • - And I think if you know that you can control something
  • 00:18:22.020 --> 00:18:24.200
  • that's gonna be distraction,
  • 00:18:24.200 --> 00:18:26.040
  • leave it in the other room.
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  • And forget about it.
  • 00:18:27.290 --> 00:18:29.150
  • And if I have my family around,
  • 00:18:29.150 --> 00:18:30.270
  • I don't necessarily need my phone on me.
  • 00:18:30.270 --> 00:18:33.070
  • And I can leave that upstairs.
  • 00:18:33.070 --> 00:18:35.030
  • Or just little things like that.
  • 00:18:35.030 --> 00:18:36.090
  • If you can control any of that,
  • 00:18:36.090 --> 00:18:39.000
  • that's probably what we need to get better at.
  • 00:18:39.000 --> 00:18:41.080
  • - I have personally had to overcome distractions.
  • 00:18:41.080 --> 00:18:44.250
  • I feel like all the things we talked about today,
  • 00:18:44.250 --> 00:18:46.230
  • I've either had to overcome or still working on overcoming,
  • 00:18:46.230 --> 00:18:49.130
  • to be honest.
  • 00:18:49.130 --> 00:18:50.160
  • But overcoming distractions right now,
  • 00:18:50.160 --> 00:18:51.280
  • the world is full of them.
  • 00:18:51.280 --> 00:18:53.060
  • My phone is full of them.
  • 00:18:53.060 --> 00:18:54.170
  • The T.V. is full of them.
  • 00:18:54.170 --> 00:18:56.030
  • There are plenty of other things I'd rather do often
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  • just around the house, that provide welcome distractions
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  • from the most important thing.
  • 00:19:02.010 --> 00:19:03.160
  • But it's a muscle that you build
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  • to just say "no" to what you want to do right now
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  • because of the "yes" that you wanna be able to give later.
  • 00:19:06.210 --> 00:19:09.010
  • It is a muscle to build to put the phone down
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  • to be committed to spending time with the Lord
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  • before you do other things.
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  • It's a muscle.
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  • But distraction will steal.
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  • It will steal away
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  • the most important things that you do with your time.
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  • So it is so important to overcome it.
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  • And I've overcome it a lot,
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  • but I'm still working on it.
  • 00:19:27.040 --> 00:19:28.150
  • - [Lisa] I love that you brought up calendar.
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  • Because, Chris and I, both in grad school,
  • 00:19:42.020 --> 00:19:44.190
  • I went back and started my doctorate.
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  • And had some close friends go,
  • 00:19:46.120 --> 00:19:48.040
  • "what in the world are you thinking?"
  • 00:19:48.040 --> 00:19:51.150
  • Well, what I'm thinking is, I'm a Bible teacher.
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  • And this is life giving.
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  • And I wanna study God's Word.
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  • And so I'm gonna look at my calendar and go,
  • 00:19:57.190 --> 00:19:59.290
  • "let me find what is life giving."
  • 00:19:59.290 --> 00:20:02.100
  • And I'm just making a turn.
  • 00:20:02.100 --> 00:20:04.040
  • So I'm wildly over committed this season,
  • 00:20:04.040 --> 00:20:06.180
  • but I have made very intentional changes
  • 00:20:06.180 --> 00:20:08.290
  • going into the next year
  • 00:20:08.290 --> 00:20:10.120
  • where things are coming off.
  • 00:20:10.120 --> 00:20:12.270
  • But for this season when I don't have enough bandwidth,
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  • when I get on a plane tomorrow,
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  • I don't watch Netflix on the plane.
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  • I work on my paper that's due for my doctorate.
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  • I think sometimes we go,
  • 00:20:22.270 --> 00:20:25.120
  • "okay, this is a really tough season."
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  • Yep, and you put your head down.
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  • Because really there's nowhere in Scripture that it says
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  • go to the coffee shop and spend 15 hours
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  • talking to somebody about the Enneagram.
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  • (laughs) Nothing wrong with that.
  • 00:20:36.170 --> 00:20:37.290
  • But there's seasons that literally have lots of
  • 00:20:37.290 --> 00:20:40.150
  • of extra margins. - What are your priorities?
  • 00:20:40.150 --> 00:20:42.050
  • And there are seasons you go,
  • 00:20:42.050 --> 00:20:43.210
  • "if I don't make the most of every hour time slot,
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  • I'm not gonna get what God has called me to have done."
  • 00:20:47.280 --> 00:20:50.180
  • And I think it's important for us
  • 00:20:50.180 --> 00:20:51.280
  • to talk about some distractions
  • 00:20:51.280 --> 00:20:53.280
  • you could cut out immediately.
  • 00:20:53.280 --> 00:20:55.200
  • And some are transition.
  • 00:20:55.200 --> 00:20:57.110
  • It's gonna take a while.
  • 00:20:57.110 --> 00:20:58.230
  • Turning of the titanic,
  • 00:20:58.230 --> 00:21:00.100
  • you don't want to lose everybody that's on deck.
  • 00:21:00.100 --> 00:21:02.000
  • Just a few distractions.
  • 00:21:02.000 --> 00:21:03.130
  • - But if God says in this season
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  • it's time for you to leave a job.
  • 00:21:04.200 --> 00:21:05.180
  • Well, maybe you quit today.
  • 00:21:05.180 --> 00:21:07.040
  • But in a lot of cases, no, you have an exit stretch.
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  • You know what I mean?
  • 00:21:10.090 --> 00:21:11.170
  • I'm thinking about practical applications.
  • 00:21:11.170 --> 00:21:13.090
  • Like all the women who are like, "I want you to mentor me."
  • 00:21:13.090 --> 00:21:15.250
  • Well, what you think is mentoring is the coffee shop thing.
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  • I can't do that with you.
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  • I don't have time for that.
  • 00:21:20.010 --> 00:21:21.030
  • Here's what I do have time for:
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  • if God has told me we're supposed to have a connection,
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  • come to my house. - Right.
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  • Do you wanna sit here and talk to me
  • 00:21:26.070 --> 00:21:27.050
  • and slowly chop up dinner?
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  • That's what it looks like.
  • 00:21:30.100 --> 00:21:31.080
  • So sometimes it's a turning.
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  • Sometimes it's a rearranging.
  • 00:21:32.170 --> 00:21:34.100
  • Sometimes it is an immediate cut.
  • 00:21:34.100 --> 00:21:36.080
  • And again it goes back to discerning the voice of God.
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  • How He wants you to do that.
  • 00:21:38.280 --> 00:21:40.170
  • But the "fitting of it all in"
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  • because it's good is the problem.
  • 00:21:42.190 --> 00:21:44.070
  • It being good is not the defining of the decision.
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  • It being God is the defining of the decision.
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  • And everything else either fits or it doesn't.
  • 00:21:51.130 --> 00:21:53.220
  • - I think a lot of the other
  • 00:21:53.220 --> 00:21:56.040
  • busy activities that we just add into our day,
  • 00:21:56.040 --> 00:21:59.220
  • that are actually not fruitful,
  • 00:21:59.220 --> 00:22:02.070
  • are the things that can take us out.
  • 00:22:02.070 --> 00:22:04.040
  • I think when it all comes down it,
  • 00:22:04.040 --> 00:22:05.050
  • when it comes to distractions,
  • 00:22:05.050 --> 00:22:06.180
  • when it comes to busyness,
  • 00:22:06.180 --> 00:22:08.030
  • you have to sit down and evaluate.
  • 00:22:08.030 --> 00:22:10.080
  • We're gonna be measured on our fruitfulness.
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  • When we come into heaven,
  • 00:22:12.150 --> 00:22:14.260
  • the Lord's gonna say,
  • 00:22:14.260 --> 00:22:16.030
  • "well done, good and faithful servant"
  • 00:22:16.030 --> 00:22:16.290
  • and were you fruitful?
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  • Matthew 25.
  • 00:22:17.230 --> 00:22:19.090
  • There was the master gave his three servants
  • 00:22:19.090 --> 00:22:21.290
  • To one he gave five talents, to one he gave two talents,
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  • to one he gave one talent.
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  • And then he saw what they did with what he gave them.
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  • The one that had five
  • 00:22:29.110 --> 00:22:30.180
  • made it eleven by the end of the parable.
  • 00:22:30.180 --> 00:22:32.220
  • The one that had two made it four.
  • 00:22:32.220 --> 00:22:34.150
  • The one that had one made it none.
  • 00:22:34.150 --> 00:22:36.000
  • So you could be busy doing nothing and going backwards.
  • 00:22:36.000 --> 00:22:39.260
  • Or you can be fruitful, appearing to do less,
  • 00:22:39.260 --> 00:22:43.050
  • but what you're doing is more focused and important
  • 00:22:43.050 --> 00:22:45.290
  • so it's more fruitful.
  • 00:22:45.290 --> 00:22:47.010
  • And the fruit that you yield
  • 00:22:47.010 --> 00:22:48.230
  • has a much greater impact
  • 00:22:49.220 --> 00:22:52.050
  • than someone that's just busy and exhausted
  • 00:22:52.050 --> 00:22:55.110
  • and not fruitful.
  • 00:22:55.110 --> 00:22:56.290
  • - I don't think that more where you are of yourself
  • 00:22:56.290 --> 00:22:59.160
  • you could pass it.
  • 00:22:59.160 --> 00:23:00.130
  • And in some cases,
  • 00:23:00.130 --> 00:23:01.280
  • you have to increase your personal capacity.
  • 00:23:01.280 --> 00:23:05.020
  • Some of us are...
  • 00:23:05.020 --> 00:23:06.050
  • - How do you do that?
  • 00:23:06.050 --> 00:23:07.180
  • - Well, you're doing really good job of it now.
  • 00:23:07.180 --> 00:23:08.240
  • I'm watching you do it in real time.
  • 00:23:08.240 --> 00:23:10.070
  • I'm watching your insta stories.
  • 00:23:10.070 --> 00:23:11.150
  • I'm going, "this is awesome."
  • 00:23:11.150 --> 00:23:13.040
  • Because there's a lot of rearranging.
  • 00:23:13.040 --> 00:23:15.190
  • But you know,
  • 00:23:15.190 --> 00:23:16.260
  • Isaiah 54 says, "enlarge the place of my tent."
  • 00:23:16.260 --> 00:23:18.020
  • Stretch, lengthen, strengthen it.
  • 00:23:18.020 --> 00:23:19.160
  • And I'm always asking God as I'm getting older,
  • 00:23:19.160 --> 00:23:21.280
  • I'm saying "to the ability that I'm able to do this,
  • 00:23:21.280 --> 00:23:25.240
  • I want You to enlarge my capacity."
  • 00:23:25.240 --> 00:23:28.210
  • And so I'll do all my bit.
  • 00:23:28.210 --> 00:23:30.140
  • And then I want God to do His bit as well.
  • 00:23:30.140 --> 00:23:32.100
  • And I think sometimes,
  • 00:23:32.100 --> 00:23:33.180
  • God wants to fit more in,
  • 00:23:34.150 --> 00:23:36.130
  • but He's saying, "I don't have enough room
  • 00:23:36.130 --> 00:23:38.190
  • in who you are today to put all that on you.
  • 00:23:38.190 --> 00:23:41.110
  • So come on, let's stretch, let's lengthen, let's strengthen"
  • 00:23:41.110 --> 00:23:44.080
  • and so that's painful.
  • 00:23:44.080 --> 00:23:45.260
  • Going to the gym, building your muscle is painful.
  • 00:23:45.260 --> 00:23:48.050
  • And so a lot of us are just lazy.
  • 00:23:48.050 --> 00:23:50.160
  • Of course, I'm gonna say, "I'm an 8."
  • 00:23:50.160 --> 00:23:52.130
  • (laughs)
  • 00:23:52.130 --> 00:23:54.150
  • You go, "I want what you've got"
  • 00:23:56.230 --> 00:23:58.090
  • But you're not willing to lift the weight that I'm lifting.
  • 00:23:58.090 --> 00:24:01.150
  • To get to that place,
  • 00:24:01.150 --> 00:24:02.230
  • to have that kind of capacity to do that.
  • 00:24:02.230 --> 00:24:04.120
  • - I think the distractions for me
  • 00:24:04.120 --> 00:24:06.180
  • can be such a source of guilt.
  • 00:24:06.180 --> 00:24:08.220
  • Because for me...
  • 00:24:09.170 --> 00:24:11.140
  • The phone is a great example.
  • 00:24:11.140 --> 00:24:12.270
  • But I'm always focused on where I'm not.
  • 00:24:12.270 --> 00:24:14.250
  • So I live my life perpetually looking
  • 00:24:14.250 --> 00:24:17.060
  • through a rear-view mirror
  • 00:24:17.060 --> 00:24:18.270
  • instead of the front windshield.
  • 00:24:18.270 --> 00:24:20.160
  • So it's like, I'm here with you all,
  • 00:24:20.160 --> 00:24:21.140
  • and I could be sitting thinking,
  • 00:24:21.140 --> 00:24:22.290
  • "oh what about Carter and Conley, are they okay?"
  • 00:24:22.290 --> 00:24:24.230
  • "Are they sick?"
  • 00:24:24.230 --> 00:24:25.180
  • "Do they need me?"
  • 00:24:25.180 --> 00:24:26.160
  • And then I'm home, I'm like,
  • 00:24:26.160 --> 00:24:28.010
  • "oh gosh, I wish I would've spent more time with them.
  • 00:24:28.010 --> 00:24:29.060
  • At work, we feel guilty for missing home.
  • 00:24:29.060 --> 00:24:30.220
  • Or at home, we feel guilty for not keeping up with work.
  • 00:24:30.220 --> 00:24:33.170
  • You're fixing mac and cheese,
  • 00:24:33.170 --> 00:24:35.030
  • but you're not thinking about your doctorate and vice versa.
  • 00:24:35.030 --> 00:24:36.290
  • There's such a gift in choosing to be present.
  • 00:24:36.290 --> 00:24:39.000
  • - Yes. - 100 percent.
  • 00:24:39.000 --> 00:24:41.060
  • I'm not gonna look at the phone.
  • 00:24:41.060 --> 00:24:42.120
  • I'm not gonna think about Carter and Conley.
  • 00:24:42.120 --> 00:24:43.240
  • I'm here with you guys, there's no where I'd rather be.
  • 00:24:43.240 --> 00:24:45.210
  • - I think if we're present, we actually have more energy.
  • 00:24:45.210 --> 00:24:47.280
  • - Yes!
  • 00:24:47.280 --> 00:24:48.230
  • Remember when Dr. Cloud said, he said,
  • 00:24:50.280 --> 00:24:53.140
  • Dr. Henry Clouds, so wise.
  • 00:24:53.140 --> 00:24:55.150
  • He said he doesn't like the metaphor of juggling balls.
  • 00:24:55.150 --> 00:24:59.040
  • Because in juggling you're always in the art of throwing.
  • 00:24:59.040 --> 00:25:02.220
  • You're not hanging on to anything.
  • 00:25:02.220 --> 00:25:05.110
  • But there are times
  • 00:25:05.110 --> 00:25:06.180
  • when we could hang on to more than we realize.
  • 00:25:06.180 --> 00:25:08.120
  • Like, Chris, as simple as this is, Chris said,
  • 00:25:08.120 --> 00:25:10.280
  • "why are you not doing Audibles
  • 00:25:10.280 --> 00:25:12.090
  • while you're on the elliptical?
  • 00:25:12.090 --> 00:25:13.250
  • I was like, "I hadn't really thought about it until now."
  • 00:25:13.250 --> 00:25:16.090
  • The books you tell me you wanna read,
  • 00:25:16.090 --> 00:25:18.130
  • just while you're in the elliptical do the Audible."
  • 00:25:18.130 --> 00:25:21.110
  • That's not hard, that's not throwing balls.
  • 00:25:21.110 --> 00:25:23.180
  • That's, "oh, well, I'm right here.
  • 00:25:23.180 --> 00:25:25.110
  • I'm kinda stuck trying to burn off these carbs.
  • 00:25:25.110 --> 00:25:27.090
  • As they're willingly consumed.
  • 00:25:27.090 --> 00:25:29.090
  • I can actually listen to this book.
  • 00:25:29.090 --> 00:25:31.210
  • But it's making the most out of the time He has given us.
  • 00:25:31.210 --> 00:25:35.110
  • And He has given us enough time.
  • 00:25:35.110 --> 00:25:37.060
  • - Some of you, you've been distracted.
  • 00:25:37.060 --> 00:25:39.020
  • It's time for you to enroll in that course.
  • 00:25:39.020 --> 00:25:41.060
  • For some of you it's time to start serving in church.
  • 00:25:41.060 --> 00:25:44.080
  • For some of you it's time to enroll in that Bible school.
  • 00:25:44.080 --> 00:25:46.270
  • It's just time to say,
  • 00:25:46.270 --> 00:25:48.050
  • "I'm going to stop saying 'no' to the thing
  • 00:25:48.050 --> 00:25:50.170
  • that God has called me to do."
  • 00:25:50.170 --> 00:25:52.030
  • And I'm gonna get about the Father's business.
  • 00:25:52.030 --> 00:25:54.270
  • I'm going to fix my eyes on Jesus.
  • 00:25:54.270 --> 00:25:57.110
  • He's the Author.
  • 00:25:57.110 --> 00:25:58.140
  • He's the Finisher.
  • 00:25:58.140 --> 00:25:59.290
  • He is faithful to complete the work that He started in me.
  • 00:25:59.290 --> 00:26:03.000
  • I don't have to be distracted
  • 00:26:03.000 --> 00:26:04.140
  • by trying to market myself, trying to open doors for myself,
  • 00:26:04.140 --> 00:26:07.160
  • trying to make a way for myself.
  • 00:26:07.160 --> 00:26:08.250
  • I'm gonna trust that God is who He says He is.
  • 00:26:08.250 --> 00:26:11.030
  • And that God will do what He says He will do.
  • 00:26:11.030 --> 00:26:13.170
  • I'm fixing my eyes on Jesus
  • 00:26:13.170 --> 00:26:15.040
  • and I'm trusting Jesus with my future, and my purpose,
  • 00:26:15.040 --> 00:26:18.210
  • and my destiny.
  • 00:26:18.210 --> 00:26:19.270
  • So let me pray for you, wherever you are.
  • 00:26:19.270 --> 00:26:20.270
  • Father, I thank you.
  • 00:26:20.270 --> 00:26:22.120
  • Thank you for every person on the other side this screen.
  • 00:26:22.120 --> 00:26:24.290
  • Father, my prayer today,
  • 00:26:24.290 --> 00:26:26.060
  • for my brothers and sisters in Christ,
  • 00:26:26.060 --> 00:26:28.030
  • is Lord that You would help them
  • 00:26:28.030 --> 00:26:30.020
  • to stay focused on the God-given dream
  • 00:26:30.020 --> 00:26:32.220
  • and the God-given purpose
  • 00:26:32.220 --> 00:26:34.020
  • that You've put on the inside of them.
  • 00:26:34.020 --> 00:26:35.250
  • Father, help each and everyone of us,
  • 00:26:35.250 --> 00:26:37.230
  • to fix our eyes on You.
  • 00:26:37.230 --> 00:26:40.050
  • To cut off those things that would distract us from You,
  • 00:26:40.050 --> 00:26:43.110
  • from Your purpose, and from Your calling.
  • 00:26:43.110 --> 00:26:45.210
  • Father, we don't just want to finish.
  • 00:26:45.210 --> 00:26:47.050
  • We want to finish well.
  • 00:26:47.050 --> 00:26:48.220
  • We wanna run our race and finish our course.
  • 00:26:48.220 --> 00:26:51.230
  • So I pray, that every single person,
  • 00:26:51.230 --> 00:26:54.150
  • on the other side of the screen.
  • 00:26:54.150 --> 00:26:56.080
  • Father, that they will run their race,
  • 00:26:56.080 --> 00:26:58.080
  • they will finish their course,
  • 00:26:58.080 --> 00:26:59.270
  • and they will bear much fruit in their lifetime
  • 00:26:59.270 --> 00:27:04.030
  • for Your glory.
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  • In Jesus' name.
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  • - [Announcer] Call the number on the screen
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  • - [Announcer] Call the number on the screen
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  • to talk to a prayer partner.
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  • We're here for you 24-hours a day, 7-days a week.
  • 00:27:11.000 --> 00:27:14.060
  • We love you.
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  • And most importantly, God loves you.
  • 00:27:15.100 --> 00:27:16.180
  • - My favorite part about today is all the laughter.
  • 00:27:18.030 --> 00:27:19.140
  • I just love being with women.
  • 00:27:19.140 --> 00:27:21.180
  • Especially those, even though they are brilliant,
  • 00:27:21.180 --> 00:27:23.260
  • like the women I've been surrounded by today,
  • 00:27:23.260 --> 00:27:26.010
  • they're also silly and funny and weird and real people.
  • 00:27:26.010 --> 00:27:29.290
  • And I hope that you guys see that as well.
  • 00:27:29.290 --> 00:27:32.190
  • Because it makes them human and relatable.
  • 00:27:32.190 --> 00:27:35.080
  • Yes, they know the Bible
  • 00:27:36.130 --> 00:27:37.160
  • Yes, they love Jesus
  • 00:27:37.160 --> 00:27:38.240
  • But got sort of also a whole lot of fun.
  • 00:27:38.240 --> 00:27:40.120
  • So I love the laughter and the silliness
  • 00:27:40.120 --> 00:27:42.270
  • and I think there's just a gift of letting loose.
  • 00:27:42.270 --> 00:27:45.170
  • Especially the pressures of life,
  • 00:27:45.170 --> 00:27:46.270
  • and all the responsibilities we have,
  • 00:27:46.270 --> 00:27:48.170
  • to just play.
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  • - [Laurie] Here's what's happening
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